He is damn right. I fought with my parents, tried to change them, please them, every time I ended feeling worse. If there's little bit of goodness in them , they will never treat their children badly. They are toxic, so stay away from them
@WilhelmMwengi
Жыл бұрын
yes, i agree
@colours4469
Жыл бұрын
yes mine do the same
@rosinixavier192
Жыл бұрын
In my case they are good and do things for me , but all things i have to do for satisfying them
@Noworkk
Жыл бұрын
Same feeling..
@dark81019
Жыл бұрын
Me too and however the l try to avoid them they'll be there and compare me with the millionaire and a perfect kid that doesn't exist and they even try to force me to do things l don't want to and it'll always happens almost every single day.
@Nate_M_PCMR
7 ай бұрын
What's worse is that they're acting like angels when with total strangers but when they're with you they act as to make your life a living hell
@jamesmondsexperience
5 ай бұрын
Soooooo true
@derekmaullo2865
4 ай бұрын
@jamesmondsexperience I learned a hard lesson, in this world we are basically on our own, not with our parents. Parents are hell
@Kirsnkinder
4 ай бұрын
Quite the opposite, please somebody help me
@Makai_Lifless
3 ай бұрын
Sometimes they do that too u when there with strangers to make you look bad in front of them
@hidden-designer
3 ай бұрын
Thats how narcisit parents behave so usually your relative and friends think you the child are the problem
@thorfinn518
Жыл бұрын
Even if you were faithful/loyal to them, they will never return that.
@rebs114
10 ай бұрын
Unfortunately
@derekmaullo2865
8 ай бұрын
@@rebs114Like my stupid parents
@abbyb764
5 ай бұрын
Yup they are so unloyal … and talk about. You behind your back and manipulate your partner in you are in a relationship
@Verena101
Ай бұрын
@@abbyb764yes I had experienced that in the past too. That's weird.
@dxsyncc
18 күн бұрын
Mine are extremely strict and toxic. I even thought about un-aliving them once.
@srijanimukherjee7551
Жыл бұрын
My mother in all terms. I sometimes wonder why can't I have a mother who just understands me and laughs with me ?why cant I have normal conversation with her, without having the fear of getting judged. I miss having a mother as the world say mothers are.
@mishzofficial
10 ай бұрын
SAME here 😢😢😢
@poojaaggarwal7485
8 ай бұрын
Me too
@Minnu4889
7 ай бұрын
Same here💔🩹
@roseellis6074
7 ай бұрын
This is exactly how I feel.. its hard isn't it?
@Samriddhi.saikia
6 ай бұрын
When i see all these comments I realise there’s a lot of us who are facing this issue and i think there’s no way you can change them what’s best is find a good opportunity for yourself and get out of the house
@nathalieduverna6963
Жыл бұрын
#3 is extremely important. My mother used anything/everything I said against me. No matter what it was
@prabha1460
Жыл бұрын
Yes , same with me
@anjalijha5014
Жыл бұрын
Same! I have to deal with it every day
@DrAngelKins
Жыл бұрын
Same with my mother
@CoinsEarth
Жыл бұрын
Same 😢
@SnowFoxParty
Жыл бұрын
Mine did the same to me too. It was awful
@zionmoses1839
Жыл бұрын
It's heartbreaking to see so many PPL looked up for such a video 😢
@ashshiva9961
Жыл бұрын
Oh yeah Every home is not like yours You are lucky, feel grateful
@monikasaini2974
Жыл бұрын
Yes😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
@YouReadMyCommentt
Жыл бұрын
exactly 😭😭
@nelineli6627
Жыл бұрын
Man my dad always telling me bad things and he's also telling me I'm not your father ouch that hurts cuz I wanna have a dad...
@nutanonlinestudy
Жыл бұрын
😭😭😭😭 m crying
@MayaHendsenmayajs19442
Жыл бұрын
Parents are supposed to take care of you, love and guide you not emotionally damage you 💔
@Seatonni
Жыл бұрын
That part
@FunnyPlug
Жыл бұрын
Right 😢
@ev5468
11 ай бұрын
😢
@Thewifipassword
11 ай бұрын
That part hit me
@an_t_dot
11 ай бұрын
I'm going through This Shit.......I have No Idea How To Even Cry....
@roselavigne7140
Жыл бұрын
My father is so pathetic, he shows off how supportive he is, but he uses so many hurtful words , to make me feel down. He thinks himself as Google, and everything and everyone are wrong. He doesn't support and care for me. He forced me to pursue something else instead of following my dreams. Because of him I have been facing PTSD since last 5 years. I did all the mistakes that you said because I was so stupid to believe him. I hate him most in the whole world.
@bankai0333
6 ай бұрын
Same here 😢 so sad Also My parent never talk with me properly
@bandimounika6413
4 ай бұрын
Same here. My father is the worst😢
@nitashasinging5690
Ай бұрын
But for now how can u deal with them 😢
@michaelkariuki5350
23 күн бұрын
Accept what happened to you, ditch the victim mentality and defy the odds!
@trytri4937
11 ай бұрын
He is absolutely right, I can never satisfy my mother no matter what I do, she treats me worst than her servant.
@TheI3etterMan
Жыл бұрын
This sentence crushed me : they will never change. I'm 14 and I just want some good parents and I thought they could change but ur right bro
@R_N0123
11 ай бұрын
same, i genuinely feel like they hate me
@laujimmy9282
9 ай бұрын
I am glad you figured it out early. ❤ Hopefully the road ahead can be less bumpy for you.
@TaesBlackSeven
9 ай бұрын
Am also 14 n guess what Am battling the same shit!.... We are gonna be happy in the future
@yasminele7745
9 ай бұрын
The only thing that you can do, is to heal yourself, love yourself and support yourself, be independent so you can grow, and be that good parent yourself.
@makymouse492
8 ай бұрын
Think of it this way, only 4 more years until you’re 18 and you are an adult. In the meantime if you are finding ways to stay away maybe try to join an after school club or sport or read books to keep your mind off of things going on at home and tutoring is another way to be able to stay away from home.(if your school allows it) in the meantime just know there are others out there going through the same and you are destined for greatness in the future. You’ve got it and keep going even when it’s hard.
@chocopocky7243
Жыл бұрын
Told my mum she’s hurt me a lot. Thought it would help if I let her know. I got yelled at and called ungrateful and given the silent treatment until I apologised
@samuelanderson5362
Жыл бұрын
i totally resonate with this. i feel like im never gonna be able to communicate with my mom properly. i also get yelled at and get called ungrateful and it hurts. im always the one that's to blame and its honestly really frustrating and it always tears me down~ but this is to say that ur not alone and its hard but im here if you ever want to talk
@Eclipticali_
6 ай бұрын
very relatable.. I used to be close to my mother until the age of 11 when I may or may not have made a rift in our relationship. ever since then it has gotten worse. I'm glad I have my father though. My mom yelled at me today and said she didn't care about my feelings and that she would make my life hell... she also said I have no reason to be miserable, sad, or have such thoughts... She already makes my life miserable, I have so much anxiety when I'm around her I hide myself in my room. I don't hate her but don't exactly love her, there isn't a word to don't how I feel about her.only 3 more years until I'm finally free.
@abbyb764
5 ай бұрын
My mother says “what did she do .. she don’t remember “ smh then acts like nothing happened.. very dismissive
@vo1d364
5 ай бұрын
@@abbyb764This is like my mother but instead since I don't talk to her about my feelings much. She dismisses it like I never said anything in my whole entire life. :/
@arianamusa4276
5 ай бұрын
I'm in same situation but in my own case after apologizing my mum did still won't talk to me
@thruthemotions
Жыл бұрын
My way is get away from them. That's what I did. If you can't get away and go live somewhere else, then lower your expectations of them and don't tell em shit.
@matsucarried587
Жыл бұрын
Cant leave im a minor
@debjeetm4199
3 ай бұрын
True man.
@RedemptionInChrist.
Жыл бұрын
What hits you hard is when you finally realize how your parents have been. When you finally realize they have been toxic towards you all your life. Even if its in a subtle way. Its hard to want to believe your parents would be this way
@mml3888
Жыл бұрын
Facts!
@RedemptionInChrist.
Жыл бұрын
@@mml3888 its still something thats hard to overcome because our inner child just wants their approval. I know thats my case. Ive basically felt invisible most of my life. I felt unimportant or just there to help others. Ive been made to think I’m not good enough from basically when I was in 1st grade. Sadly I made a lot of life choices based on how I can make my parents proud of me. I wasn’t living for myself. My parents have their own issues that they never dealt with and I was the middle child. Sadly it hasn’t been just my parents that have been toxic towards me. I have had cousins and uncles as well. Hell even one of my brothers. Its been really hard to come to grips with. Looking back at my life and childhood. I was really saddened by it and borderline depressed. Realizing that my whole life ive never really had one person that really had my back or want whats best for me. Or even cheers me on. Ive never had it. But I realized that all this has turned me into this person that i am today. I love who I am. It was meant for me. It didn’t happen to me it got to happen. I know what true love really is because my whole life I have never seen it or had it.
@conversationswithadrianne
Жыл бұрын
@@RedemptionInChrist.yep. Especially so if their subtle sabotage ruined your life.
@theGODfather746
11 ай бұрын
@@RedemptionInChrist.hope you’re doing good bro!
@Bug_Hunt
10 ай бұрын
@@RedemptionInChrist. I also wish I had that 1 person whom I can trust... I'm also middle child and my siblings are just non existent.
@sahilsoni6148
Жыл бұрын
The most hurtful is that they're only toxic toward you not your siblings
@3deronault-bl7ij
11 ай бұрын
It happened to me and lots others, you're not alone. But try to study hard and then get job as early as possible. Then with one click, BOOM you're outta that fcking parents
@akshadhahanchinmani7736
9 ай бұрын
Being an elder this is what happens v me even after pleasing and trying to keep my parents happy.. Im just waiting for me to be financial independent and leave the home 😢
@yasminele7745
9 ай бұрын
In my case, my mother was always kind and and gentle with other kids and abusive with me and my brother and that hurt me so much.
@thoughtfullAI355
9 ай бұрын
): me too..
@chelsearatemo7849
8 ай бұрын
I'm glad am not alone😢
@hafsamohamed8824
Жыл бұрын
All I want is freedom and peace
@bankai0333
6 ай бұрын
Same 😢
@ConsciousERealist
5 ай бұрын
Same
@weristlauri
Жыл бұрын
I ran away 2 years ago and it was the best decision I could have done. Feeling now better than ever and I don‘t have to feel guilty for things I like and do :)
@mahekmahee5306
11 ай бұрын
How did you earn?
@3deronault-bl7ij
11 ай бұрын
Good on you. May god help you. I also ran away but got back due to some other stranger pleadings, with the involvement of outsiders, the abuse got lowered
@abhishek_Gaming5056
11 ай бұрын
Here in India people will make u feel baad for even leaving a toxic family saying you are supposed to take care of them .
@bobby3210
10 ай бұрын
Omg tell me how you did it? I can’t leave because of my sisters, cats, money, it’s all a mess. But I’ve been thinking of just getting on a greyhound bus and start somewhere. I’m so scared but I really hate it here
@DAVIDWilcock-vd8nu
9 ай бұрын
@@abhishek_Gaming5056How to deal then? Indian culture is very bad. And people defend it and hate western culture as if its the worst. Only people like us can relate.
@user-ob9qb3kb7n
Жыл бұрын
I hate my dad, he is so narcissistic self absorbed and so toxic, it's absolute hell living with a father especially who has been toxic to their daughters. Truly evil and disgusting
@Kale3.
Ай бұрын
What does he do to you?
@jessebrueshaber6915
Жыл бұрын
He speaks the truth. I've ALWAS failed to accept that I have an unpleasable parent. Truly negative humans will see their world through their own negative eyes & negative viewpoints. Can't change this. Time to limit exposure & reinforce boundaries.
@renu653
Жыл бұрын
Same here..its very very hard
@nikoflow_fm9541
Жыл бұрын
I cannot wait til I get to university and I can escape this hellplace called home
@syntaxerror7562
10 ай бұрын
Literally me right now
@get2billonviewsonboywithlu800
10 ай бұрын
Same here All the best for the new life after getting into a university and leaving that place
@cloudyism
10 ай бұрын
Same😢
@rebs114
10 ай бұрын
That’s me right now. I can’t wait until I get a permanent job, I’m moving out of this toxic household!!
@strugglingmedico2792
10 ай бұрын
same here dear friend😥😥😥
@Anonymissus
Ай бұрын
putting up boundaries for some people doesn't work because they don't respect your boundaries
@DhruvRao-eu7st
Жыл бұрын
Finally someone with a solution instead of trying to justify their behaviour.
@nancymanojthomas9140
Жыл бұрын
Thank youu so much U have no idea how badly I needed this .. All I have ever done in my life is love my parents but in return I got curses, hate , discouragement nothing else ...I am only 15 right now and I am dealing with really bad stress ...Well today I promised myself that I will never be like my parents NEVER !!!!!! If ever god blesses me with a child ,I will raise that child giving all my love , care and I will do anything for that child ....😞😞😞😞 I WILL NEVER GIVE THAT CHILD A PAINFUL CHILDHOOD LIKE I AM HAVING RIGHT NOW .. MY PARENTS DIDNT CARE ABOUT MY STRESS, THEY DIDNT CARE ABOUT ME WHEN I WAS IN DEPRESSION , THEY NEVER MOTIVATED ME FOR MY DEAMS ...BUT I DONT CARE ABOUT THEM ANYMORE ,I LOVE MYSELF HOWEVER I AM , WHATEVER I WILL BE IN FUTURE
@meditation22233
Жыл бұрын
ohhh sad bt you dnt wry dear be strong ohk. may god bles you raje
@meditation22233
Жыл бұрын
i can understand your situation
@Xpro-Productions
Жыл бұрын
Same here❤
@shilpa577
Жыл бұрын
Same here im alws dreaming for a girl child ....i wil treat her like i alws wanted to be ...i .will give her full freedom to choose her carrer,,,and will alws support her like guide
@matsucarried587
Жыл бұрын
I can def relate
@Patriarchokoye
11 ай бұрын
Never let your super toxic parents know how much you earn.If you do you'll regret it.
@valerivalen27
7 ай бұрын
I have a living environment that is not good for me. I'm just praying to god that one day, i'll free myself from my parents. As i work for independence, may god bless my days with patience until that day comes. For those who are going to the same as me, i wish all the best. We're not alone. We have each other. Let's work hard 💪🏽 ya'll
@nate_shaw
9 ай бұрын
The best way to not be manipulated by a narcissist is to not even to talk to them. Simply don’t give them an opportunity
@I.love.myself29
Жыл бұрын
Man all I want is a mom that loves me.
@ST4R__amirah-
Жыл бұрын
Same..
@aquaholixsd
Жыл бұрын
Me 2. I feel your heartbreak.
@kunal2464
Жыл бұрын
Forget it. It's not for us now. All the glorification, the world does about mom's, it does not apply to us. There're other better role models out there. As he said, don't try to change her. She will never change. My brother is 28 years old single. Our mom uses up almost 90% of his salary. He doesn't even have savings to buy a vehicle for him or for his marriage or well-being. Everyday we only have dinner nothing else. Dinner's at 10PM everyday and it's only rice everyday.
@abdulkabdo
Жыл бұрын
Ur making me cry 😭
@justsurfing1602
Жыл бұрын
@kunal2464 How do we live without it though? It's so hard. I have lost the will to even do basics for my survival.
@vsen7
Жыл бұрын
Mine keep jumping over the boundaries and ruin my mental peace.
@shilpa577
Жыл бұрын
Same ,,mine Ruined my mental peace tooo..since lockdown they made me feel worse,,they make me cry for 2 2 hrs
@MrWolff__
Жыл бұрын
yeah I'm stuck on boundaries too.
@gottagrind2shine607
Жыл бұрын
@@shilpa577😂😂😂
@shilpa577
Жыл бұрын
@@gottagrind2shine607 illterrate
@ilhambudi95
Жыл бұрын
If u always please them, they'll control u like a little child.
@LopyPlayzLOL
2 ай бұрын
“they will never change” that hit hard but its true thanks
@bagjaya8704
Ай бұрын
😢
@vaidehisrikumar6441
6 ай бұрын
The pain is killing me from inside it has mentally damaged me a lot. I am having panic attacks due to the trauma and the past that they remind me.
@sanskarsrivastava7700
Жыл бұрын
Idk why after knowing also it's useless to try to change them I try to change them thinking they are my parents they can understand my feelings. In result I only receive tears.
@khushirandhawa5608
Жыл бұрын
True
@anonymous-me2so
Жыл бұрын
Asian parents*
@blazingguyop
Жыл бұрын
exactly
@SportsTottho
Жыл бұрын
Same brother
@sufferedsumit
Жыл бұрын
Indian parents
@billusanda5568
Жыл бұрын
I'm currently going through this, an extremely narcissistic father who never respects me, always putting me down, he thinks giving me food and shelter is a luxury which I'm getting (I wasn't born out of thin air and other parents don't give their children hay straw to eat), he always belittles me, never satisfied with anything I do, doesn't accept his mistakes and if I talk back he threatens me with physical violence and to remove me from the house.
@samuelanderson5362
Жыл бұрын
this is so similar to what i'm going through too... i hate feeling trapped living with toxic parents because my mom says hurtful things to be all the time and never remembers the things she says or the impact it has. she constantly tells me that im ungrateful because she provides me with a roof and food and i never feel like im good enough and if i ever talk back she screams at me to leave the house and that everything is my fault
@rebs114
10 ай бұрын
That’s basically how my mum is with me 🤦🏽♀️
@summerwhadley
Ай бұрын
@@samuelanderson5362are we living in the same household??
@FahimaStanikzai-ft1hm
Ай бұрын
That’s how my dad is..
@phiaisabigback
Жыл бұрын
Damn I needed this, my parents always break promises and lie, they think it’s funny when I cry, they laugh at me for things I feel confident in, they embarrass me infront of friends and only when friends are over, I don’t feel comfortable with them or telling them anything cuz they say “no, your favorite color is pink and will always be pink” WHEN PINK IS MY LEAST FAVORITE 😭😭😭
@mml3888
Жыл бұрын
Escape them asap
@JosiahJeffers-ek5tk
Жыл бұрын
Bro my mom be getting mad for such small things like bro she asked me to help her find her charger I couldn’t find it and she called me stupid retarded and no good over a charger like come on and she try’s to act tough by making me look bad in-front of her friends or she smacks me cussed me out for a laugh out of her friends
@ThelegendA1.
9 ай бұрын
Not laughing for things you feel confident in wow
@angiem2375
7 ай бұрын
@@JosiahJeffers-ek5tkwow, I'm so sorry. Hope u can can escape soon
@daviddimalanta259
Жыл бұрын
"The best revenge is not to be your enemy." -Marcus Aurelius
@poramessianparapio9547
11 ай бұрын
It hurts when the one who should care us will destroy us
@josephgaray6933
Жыл бұрын
how to deal with toxic parents? Simply, you dont.
@flemutter7211
Жыл бұрын
Gang
@saipallavi753
Жыл бұрын
Yess
@saipallavi753
Жыл бұрын
S it is waste of time😔
@HarmlessTomato
Жыл бұрын
Fr. I plan on moving out in like the next 2 years. I want my mom to be miserable on her own
@Charmthyself
Жыл бұрын
@@HarmlessTomato But why on her own tho😩😆
@pikesk8er235
Жыл бұрын
"Have an exit plan" way ahead of you lol iv two tents and a sleeping bag on the ready..so close to just booking it out of here..my whole family is toxic
@ephemeral8997
Жыл бұрын
What did you do? I think I am having similar state.
@pikesk8er235
Жыл бұрын
@@ephemeral8997still here..I'm basically homeless..I spend most of my time skateboarding in the streets only really go home to sleep
@mrsolo5784
6 ай бұрын
In my case they used physical violence and emotionally abused me and they gifted me social anxiety My self esteem and self worth is shattered but I'm trying my best to heal myself Hope we all get a new peaceful life
@smfabrigar
Ай бұрын
All you have said sir is really true. I am experiencing this ever since until now. In reality, you can not deal with them, you will only hurt and break yourself. The best thing to do is escape and leave.
@WilhelmMwengi
15 күн бұрын
Unfortunately it is the only thing you can do. Life is never permanent
@hyunjiniii_
Жыл бұрын
I will never understand how ur own parents can be so so hurtful not thinking about what they have said.
@yasminele7745
9 ай бұрын
After so much pain that my parents caused me, everything starts to make sense now, I am in tears right now. Thank you.
@ngumsylvie7703
Жыл бұрын
they make me see no reasons to live,always make me feel like the bad one in every situation,they always treat me like am still a child and shouldn't have an opinion of my own or mind of my own,they always tell me am ungrateful.Worst of all mom uses all my secrets against me and they love misinterpreting every situation in my life,l always feel useless and unwanted.l get insulted always with the things they offer me,l feel like a big bounding to them.l pray God blesses me some day and take away this heavy pain in my heart
@jangchu376
Жыл бұрын
My parents always step over my boundaries
@tourmelion9221
Жыл бұрын
Then assert them, make it not worth their while to step on your boundaries, give them a reason not to, if you don't give in and maintain your reactions they'll leave you alone eventually
@out_of_earth2467
Жыл бұрын
@@tourmelion9221 The problems is finding them a reason for not to. Toxic parents simply do not care or respect you enough
@paigens0725
Жыл бұрын
@@tourmelion9221 or beat you more
@johnT2
Жыл бұрын
@@paigens0725 Then don't shout and cry the f out. Keep walking towards your goals. Let them feel everything worthless
@bubullibooooo9928
Жыл бұрын
I emotionally checked out and I don't surrender with my boundaries....that helped me feel better and was able to focus on my exit plan...
@sarkarinaukar9658
Жыл бұрын
the way my parents changed drastically the day i got married will be the mystery of this lifetime for me, home doesn't feel like home anymore, moving out seems to be the best option now for all our sakes
@nyldc4532
Жыл бұрын
Yeah moving out is the best option, i hope youre doing fine right now 👍
@sarkarinaukar9658
Жыл бұрын
@@nyldc4532 thanks for the good wish, hopefully will move out by the end of this month and things would get better..
@Ineedhealing7
6 ай бұрын
My mother gave a hellish life to a point of breaking me physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Poisoned me multiple of times, agitated and manipulated my emotions that leads me to become bedridden for years. I truly need your prayers right now.
@stephanimonster
Жыл бұрын
That's right! Several years ago when I was like 18 - 22 my parents could not believe that I was a young adult and I was growing up. So every time I would try to change them it would come back at me 10 times harder. So, what I did is not give a shit.
@bridget3163
Жыл бұрын
This!!
@BEAST_69
Жыл бұрын
Man you were an adult you could work hard to build your life rather than your parents building your life
@kunal2464
Жыл бұрын
@@BEAST_69 It sounds easy. But it's not impossible. I am 22. I wanted to move out and do job after highschool but my single mother insisted so hardly on me to complete a four year college degree. I had no other sensible adult to guide me through it. I got admission in a better college which was far from my home but mom said I cannot take your expenses. So you will only study in here local college. You see the trap?
@abigailasuquo7453
10 ай бұрын
@@kunal2464exactly the same thing my mum is doing to me. I plan to leave though. Infact, I will leave then I’ll send her a long nasty message then block her and travel to another state
@medlife01
9 ай бұрын
@@kunal2464same here I always thought to ran away from my home and stay in hostel but due to high hostel fees I am studying here in local clg and my degree is of 4.5 yrs I don't have any options rather to stay here I am 21
@vaishali_0286
10 ай бұрын
Yes, very true! Be mindful of what you share with them. They will use it in the most horrible way possible
@Beachsunshine9
6 ай бұрын
💯
@user-mt6km6ui6e
3 ай бұрын
In islam the bigger calamities or hardships you go through, the bigger reward is awaiting you. The more patient you are especially with your parents, the higher you are loved by God, the higher is your reward! Life on earth is temporary but the hereafter is forever. Make sure you think future and be good to your parents despite the hardships - u will be the winner.
@Ashtrixal
4 ай бұрын
My Father is a narcissistic sociopath and I've inherited anger issues from him.
@j.sleezy8099
Жыл бұрын
#3 keep fighting them. They'll hurt you, but you will also inflict some damage on them . Dont let them step over you
@tiffytoo
Жыл бұрын
This made me cry BECAUSE I know it's true but the thought of other people feeling like I do hurts. That said this man seems pretty healthy and that gives me hope. I'm so so hopeless rn. Life looks so bleek and bland and nothing brings me joy everyone I have ever loved has hurt me.
@renu653
Жыл бұрын
Yes dear , same situation here. Husband , in laws and my own parents everyone is taking turns to abuse and hurt me. No wonder I'm this sick and housebound. My life is hopeless and bleek too. Never ever felt this depressed in life.
@Ndbdbbdbdbh
Жыл бұрын
the 3rd point is so important. never expect or wait or hope for them to change. it's only going to hurt you more & more.
@abbyb764
5 ай бұрын
Someone needs to start teaching this in school for single parent abusive households to help kids who have no siblings going through this of generational toxic abusive manipulative cycles … taking it out on their innocent child who just want to love their parent but repeatedly abuses them and breaks them till they get older and reflect of how much they let slide from their parent. It’s very disappointing and hurtful .. I wish I stuck to my gut to just stay away and never go back when I was kicked out at 19. Having a heart and trying to forgive your parents over and over only destroys you. Just cause their family don’t mean they are good for you or safe to be around you. Smh stop feeling bad for single parent women too cause they can be the most cruel parent
@Yongboks_ramen_
7 ай бұрын
I know my parents are trying not to be toxic. I know my parents are trying to be good ones and give me the best future possible. But sometimes that’s just not how it works on me. What I need and want will not always be the same as what they want in me. I can never please them, and thay’s correct. Thanks for this video. Really helped out. The one sign I noticed from my mom is that she insults and roasts me for going through puberty, acting like she never did before, and that’s a sign of a toxic mom. I am done with her shenanigans. Tbh, I know she is trying hard to be the best parent as possible, but sometimes if she can’t, nothing can change it. So I just have to accept the reality and change myself to please her, but I don’t wanna do that. I want to enjoy life to be successful, there are ways, and I am going for it.
@ToxoplasmosisVsRodents
5 ай бұрын
Very accurate. Also, it's also important to have financial independence, without it, it's difficult to completely shield from their toxic behavior.
@ScpDrRisha
9 ай бұрын
"Parents aren't people who made you, parents are people who raise, love and cherish you!" - Random person
@mohammadamaanul9736
Жыл бұрын
My mom is an angel but my dad is a whole opposite thing God has gifted me
@childkillers_shouldve_NoState
Жыл бұрын
Same
@mohammadamaanul9736
Жыл бұрын
@@childkillers_shouldve_NoState sadd but don't worry, everything will be alright
@childkillers_shouldve_NoState
Жыл бұрын
@@frontier_001 I am facing the exact situation here
@MrWolff__
Жыл бұрын
at least you have 1 good parent. both never loved me and still resent me.
@childkillers_shouldve_NoState
Жыл бұрын
@@MrWolff__ sad
@wakuwaku__
Жыл бұрын
You are correct...I wanna move out when I grow up...also I'm the only child.. there's no one to look after them..I feel bad but at the same time I wanna heal..I don't know what to do
@wish-56
8 ай бұрын
Do you come up with an idea
@ShantanuMishra-gl9tx
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Sir I'm having immense pressure and mental breakdowns because of my mother. I often think she treats me like a product and not a human. It's a long time for the exit plan but once I exit I will never be har son
@arianekroko4456
Жыл бұрын
I can’t even fight with my parents I just walk away. Sometimes for weeks I don’t sleep at home because I don’t feel comfortable.
@shilpa577
Жыл бұрын
I wish i could do this...m girl frm india....i cant run away... u knw girls aint safe in this cruel world....i too want to walk away in another room she chases me there also..she keep fighying arguing telling me harsh words she makes me cry for 2 3 hrs eveyday...
@matsucarried587
Жыл бұрын
@shilpa577 yea and mine doesn't care when I cry🙁
@3deronault-bl7ij
11 ай бұрын
@@shilpa577 try to secretly get help from other close relatives. Don't run away in India, it's full of bad people. But better let your local leader or politician know your problem, they may send some family official to deal with your parents
@lizzienx
Жыл бұрын
My father relates to everything in this list. No. 9 and maybe 10 sums one such example, there were two slices of cake in the fridge ( I brought one cake for myself from starbucks and the other cake was a free cake from a hotpot restaurant that we ate at for my father's birthday ), my father ate my starbucks cake. When I told my father that he ate my cake, instead of just saying sorry, he proceeds to lecture me and gulit rid me by saying things like "I have to stop it with that mentality" and "I paid for the food, the rent etc." I know its just cake and I know this doesn't compare to the stories shared in this section but small things like this really frustrate me.
@zareenaaziz6320
Жыл бұрын
Ur right about that. Then when ever you want to leave. They find a way to get you back.
@shilpa577
Жыл бұрын
They to it purposly...she nvr let me nove away frm this house....she also dont let me live peacefully
@geniegalido8680
Жыл бұрын
My mom yelled at me to get the fck out of the house but when im trying to leave she was like "you aint going no where"
@hardyhawk8954
11 ай бұрын
@zareena Exactly I'm caught in same thing.A way to get u back...
@user-tx7dv6hp5x
25 күн бұрын
Every kid deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a kid
@WilhelmMwengi
15 күн бұрын
Profound !
@user-hn2wq6en5f
Жыл бұрын
My mother is exactly like this she keeps pressuring me sometimes i felt like im the black sheep of the family im no good for her. I don't have the support i needed when im struggling especially when i lost my job. 😢
@winshensdivine
Жыл бұрын
Toxic and manipulative
@FireBen31
Жыл бұрын
This is why I want to accomplish my exit plan. I can't deal wit my mean ass mom all the time.
@rebs114
10 ай бұрын
Same here! I already planned it out, I just need a stable-permanent job to make it happen.
@mngulangwa
10 ай бұрын
Yeah man im on ur side 🫡🫡🫡
@cristinacouplestherapy3819
Жыл бұрын
And five don't wait that they will apologize in front of you. They don't kill themselves guilty they think that you are guilty and they will never say sorry.
@salma-amlas
Жыл бұрын
This is so hard for me to accept 😢
@areeshanoor4118
Жыл бұрын
So should i go and say sorry even i am not wrong..
@drinaciofernandes
Жыл бұрын
I thought I was alone till I read this
@_JustJoe
Жыл бұрын
She said it to my face a few days ago. I just can't believe it.
@_JustJoe
Жыл бұрын
@@areeshanoor4118 Absolutely not. You did nothing wrong.
@kimberlycapers1983
10 ай бұрын
You're right, and I have a toxic older sister as well. I just wanted them to Always love me. I've been in a vulnerable state since I lost my first and only child, 5mths later I lost my father to covid, 1 month after that, I got injured at my job and lost my career. I was away from home for so long. I thought the loss would bring us together. It was all fake, when I spent my money on them instead of just leaving again. Ive realized my worst two enemies started at home. And I have this anger in me that I actually thought about murdering both of them, and rotting in prison or receiving the death penalty. Sad thing is, those thoughts brought me comfort. This is all wrong, I know and now im in a stuck situation. Yet I know I have to get away from these people and never look back. Its so much more, but hearing you say this is just reassuring me. That, I will never get love from them. And since I've destroyed relationships, im alone. So therapy is needed. Yes I believe in God, I know its because of the creator ive made it this far. Yet its so much you can take, and now I must make moves to distance myself before I do something that will destroy my life, and in the end. They still win😢
@j.kworld3925
19 күн бұрын
He is 💯 right , I'm sick of this and trying to change them , but they will never change and leave me in pain 😭
@WilhelmMwengi
19 күн бұрын
@@j.kworld3925 there is hope. As you get older you have opportunity to move out
@itsladycontessa8562
Жыл бұрын
12 years old had to admit to myself that my "Mother" didn't love me and that she was exactly like my narcissistic grandfather and that I would never have a loving mother or normal childhood and that wasn't my fault. I live everyday trying to not become like her or to become a victim to someone like her again.
@ParksRec
Жыл бұрын
You were a smart kid
@SnowFoxParty
Жыл бұрын
I just left both of them alone and I felt so much better. If that meant sleeping on a friend's couch or anything then so be it
@BizyBackend-lw1hs
Жыл бұрын
damm 😢
@Ikigai747
8 ай бұрын
Thank you, finding supportive people online was my first step into healing ❤
@selfendak.s.9109
8 ай бұрын
True, same with me. It being i not feel alone.
@Ikigai747
8 ай бұрын
@@selfendak.s.9109 happy 4 u !
@ignoredquotes
Жыл бұрын
So so true...i want to share something because it just feels overwhelming. My parents recently in about 6 to 7 months...always fight. Every day they will say something provoking to each other.. and also insult them in bad way...i as a child alone can't bear it anymore...i started reading wattpad because it was the only escape and it almost became a habit. I don't know what to do, what ever i do is less...these days, i get angry, sad so frequently...as an average student when i think i did much better then earlier, i get happy but my parents one sentence "so you made mistakes" and the face expression make me scared and sad at the same time...i feel like if i do one thing wrong then also they will be unhappy.... No peace and no one with whom i could share... Even my choices are changing...i no longer read fun books or anything but i don't know what is the condition of my hurt but i like to read abuse stories....because it makes me feel connected...
@ohmilah6723
Жыл бұрын
I block my mom to avoid all the hurtful messages and she reaching out to my husband insulting us now . He now blocks her too. It’s so sad, we never reply to her toxic messages. It angers her more
@reyr.7439
Жыл бұрын
@@shilpa577 Currently in the same situation, except there is a shortage of jobs in my location. I have been struggling financially and can’t afford to escape. It’s so stressful!
@bourbon369
Жыл бұрын
@@shilpa577 leave away from her house and rent a small room,get a job(that’s all)
@kunal2464
Жыл бұрын
@@reyr.7439 Even if there's shortage of jobs. You can very easily find at least a low-paying job which will cover your living and food expenses. That's what I will be doing right after my undergrad which will end in 10 days. I will move far away from my hometown.
@bourbon369
Жыл бұрын
@@kunal2464 where are you living???
@andilemaphanga2354
Жыл бұрын
@shilpa577 fight for your freedom, please don't give up, Pray and ask God for strenght to face your mom and to overcome her toxicity and build a better life for yourself. There's always hope even a small window of Hope, just believe and you see the way out. ❤
@SHIMMYshookmybone
Жыл бұрын
The having an escape plan. I wish I had it. I'm still stuck in this situation, trying to have said plan now but I feel so hopeless.
@makwenkwesaul1637
10 ай бұрын
I've recently realized how much my mother is toxic, I love her to bits. She raised by herself while my father was in jail and our bond was very strong. I was always a Mama's boy and people pleaser which I believe has lead me to all the issues I have now. I've stood up to her and tried to set my boundaries but I see she recents me for it now. My little sister is disrespectful towards me yet she sees no problem with that. I am going to work hard to get my life back together so that I can finally be free from her.
@realitycheck1975
2 күн бұрын
This also applies for a toxic grown child too! Not just or all parents that are toxic 😢 There are parents being mentally abused by their own grown children.
@WilhelmMwengi
2 күн бұрын
@@realitycheck1975 it could be. Good points
@gravesilk322
Жыл бұрын
Love my mum dearly but my dad is extremely narcissistic. When I move out I will try to convince her to leave this abuse
@jaz2093
Жыл бұрын
He’s right. The sooner in age , the better, or arrested development.
@zenova9926
Жыл бұрын
I oftenly overshared things that I'm experiencing to them, and as I'd expect they will use it as a backfire if i did some atomic mistake, When they do that I'm always so afraid for what the result of my plan might ended up, because in my religion parent will and pray is a very strong spell, I'm afraid that my plan will fail miserably, but I always remember some internet stranger have said to me it sounds like "The god is at an absolute higher position than your parent, so if you so sure about what you're up to, just give it all to god" and ever since then I almost never have any problem with my plan, even after I got some beef with my parent. Just rely on god for everything because he's the only one who's fair and in the end your parent is just human.
@aemiyoming2847
5 ай бұрын
I'm more sad when I see my classmates with their super cool parents😢.
@athiraa241
6 ай бұрын
An abuser is always someone who was abused.Its a cycle and not having kids or getting therapy is the only way out of it. -To every future parent
@hellishgrims251
Жыл бұрын
but how am i supposed to have an exit plan if im broke
@Lord_Submissive
Жыл бұрын
Bruh😭
@Aadhithiyanfromearth
Жыл бұрын
😭😭😭
@sabriennasabsab8753
Жыл бұрын
Escape from your comfort zone. You need to convince yourself that you have the necessary skills to do or accomplish something. This makes you motivated to look for opportunities to grow and exit toxic parents. Learn new skills and find a job.
@khushirandhawa5608
Жыл бұрын
Oh god earn somehow I'm trying too
@beingpallavi3272
Жыл бұрын
In my advice don't move when u are broke. Work on yourself first.
@AlwaysUsENT
Жыл бұрын
Can’t afford counseling these comments are all I got.. how as a man do you step back from your mother, knowing she needs me, but the relationship Is killing us both
@aquaholixsd
Жыл бұрын
This is the same reason I am here reading the comments & the same queztion I am trying to answer... Its a rough spot to be in.
@renu653
Жыл бұрын
These comments are actually better than counseling. Therapists haven't experienced this first hand . Your situations are really tough. May be support them from a distance or give only monetary help. Whatever take care of boundaries.
@princebelair8903
Жыл бұрын
I cut my biological father almost a year-and-a-half ago and never look forward to ever contacting him again he took advantage of me and he took advantage of many other people in the family and blackmail me and that's something you don't forget or forgive.
@nobody43815
3 ай бұрын
If I stop pleasing them, it's still a loss.
@user-hc2nx6tp6n
6 ай бұрын
imagine a child has to search this and take help for dealing with their narcissistic dad
@yungblade7
Жыл бұрын
I share too much , and im fighting to stop doing this.
@sonashende2389
Жыл бұрын
Yes brother, I also understood this in my whole life that there is no solution for such perents .
@Shivi-ok4qz
8 ай бұрын
Mental health is much harder to show up and much more harder to tolerate. Its easier to say my tooth is aching rather than saying my heart is broken. Toxicity in a surrounding we are witnessing daily can really tear up someone 🙃.
@markberry9401
7 күн бұрын
Thanks man, I really needed this, I’m tired of always being so unhappy :(
@WilhelmMwengi
6 күн бұрын
@@markberry9401 hang in there. Do your best to invest in yourself because life changes fast
@chigingsonia4434
2 ай бұрын
You're so right.. They'll never change & fight you harder & leave you in worse pain.😞
@meena1184
Жыл бұрын
I'm going to 11th grade , I want to get rid of them beating me everyday I'm tired of this.
@Kushboyloks13_
Жыл бұрын
Thanks 🙏 blessings to everyone here I needed this 31 yrs dealing with my mental health my parents are coke addicts and my dad abuses beer also they enjoy treating me bad I’m the black sheep even if I’m disabled from my feet I got myself in college and moving out soon on my own it’s true don’t try to change them it will never work We don’t choose our parents
@renu653
Жыл бұрын
I'm disabled too and it sucks more when parents are so toxic.
@ocyeanin_
Жыл бұрын
i was harrassed but my mom started blaming me for that and she didn't supported me and the most lovely thing here is she appreciates that guy
@ocyeanin_
Жыл бұрын
how can I distance away from them
@renu653
Жыл бұрын
@@ocyeanin_please get a job and move out. Or report that abuser.
@ocyeanin_
9 ай бұрын
@@renu653that's the great option I think 💜✨
@dposting2941
3 ай бұрын
Man is he right about this. I gave my 30s and 40s helping my mom, but now 50, realize I HAVE to go no contact. She pushed me into the arms of molesters as a kid so she could have her divorced-mom party time, and when I tried addressing it finally after therapy at 50, she gaslit me. So sad I will have to miss her last years, but I can't take the treating me like I'm crazy.
@bst7097
3 ай бұрын
All children deserve a parent but not all parents deserve a child - A wise man❤
@justlia3220
Жыл бұрын
It breaking me that people [me too] really need an exit Plan cuz of their family
@kimmaya8808
Жыл бұрын
This may look funny but this guy is practical, sometimes you cannot fix them.
@navyagusain2176
Жыл бұрын
Just want a dad who doesn't treat me,my sister and my mom like burden ,mistake and regret
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