It honestly feels scammy to pay thousands just to throw a huge party for people lol. Me and my fiance aren’t willing to pay, and we aren’t asking our parents to pay either because we care about them. No way. Seems so odd to me. Put that money into a house where you can live, and love each other for a lifetime ❤
@morenike41
Жыл бұрын
And invest the rest in real estate, gold, business and other things!!!
@evergreenerafilmphoto2962
10 ай бұрын
I like to leave it up to people to follow what they want for themselves - and therefore I 100% support you in doing what feels best for you! Put that money into a house and get married in a way that sounds fun and worthy!
@eddiexhey
8 ай бұрын
The concept of people getting mad because someone wants to get married privately is weird business.
@Daddywiseclussy
4 ай бұрын
Wanna talk to my in laws?
@michbenny1363
2 жыл бұрын
Our families wanted a large wedding and were willing to spend over $15,000. We reluctantly said yes and then declined when they started to become controlling about everything. It almost became about them. They were insistent and ended up spending almost $20,000 by the time it was said and done against our wishes. We just eloped 3 weeks before the wedding without anyone knowing and returned. There still harsh feelings due to not being at the wedding and the cost of everything lost, but then again sometimes eloping is the best decision. It really simplifies things.
@evergreenerafilmphoto2962
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so inspired that you were able to change your plans after realizing you weren't going to enjoy your wedding experience, allowing you to do what was best for you! I hope your story and this video inspire more people to start making those decisions even earlier so they can set expectations from the beginning with family members! Everyone deserves a wedding day they enjoy!
@noahquiles5791
Жыл бұрын
I’ve seen (second-hand) the kind of emotional damage that can happen when someone *else* is way more financially or emotionally invested in the wedding day than the actual couple. It’s tough to get over the emotional barrier that sets itself up in that case… don’t cave in to what even your “closest” family or friends think is best….. do what will keep you and your partner in the healthiest, happiest state together, and just remember that any kind of negative feedback is coming from someone who isn’t part of the couple.
@kristinbeazley6538
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video! I am the mother of a newly engaged daughter. She, too is an introvert, but is marrying an extrovert. Your video is a good support for her ideas which are difficult for her to express to others wanting her to have a traditional wedding ceremony. This video is much appreciated.
@Gsquared310
7 ай бұрын
What if you want to offend them?
@esteraciui9672
Ай бұрын
Hahaha
@Temperance_XVII
Ай бұрын
Then tell them they won’t be invited
@TammyMayCormier
Ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@ms.Waldorf
22 күн бұрын
this too!!!
@recentlives
19 сағат бұрын
Don't even tell them you're married
@kristinbeazley6538
Жыл бұрын
Thank uou. Separated family systems these days complicate weddings and my daughter is an introvert who will benefit knowing that other people more and more are looking for acceptable and meaningful new ways to create a wonderful wedding . New trafitions are definitely in irder for today's culture.
@evergreenerafilmphoto2962
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely! I just want more encouragement for people to do what is best for them
@spacecowgirl9587
Жыл бұрын
My husband and i eloped for personal reasons. The week or less before we did he told his parents and they didnt care they understood why we were and didnt bother us. But when i had my mom bring me my birth certificate and i told her she went through the 7 stages of greif before my eyes. She cryed, pleaded, tryed to negotiate for me to not do it. I was firm shot down her ideas. She left crying went home and told her husband. My life has been hell since and its almost been a year. I dont regret eloping i just regret telling her why. So if anyone can learn from my atory is only tell the ones you trust wont make it about them. Thats pretty much what they have been doing for an entire year.
@justcurious2267
Жыл бұрын
@Spacecowgirl. Please, please, please I need advice on how you handled this, you can write an essay long reply, but it must include how you dealt with your mom pre and post wedding, tips and things to look out for. I wish there was a self-help book on how to elope and dealing with your mother's expectations on this.
@spacecowgirl9587
Жыл бұрын
@just curious my advise is stay firm, No means just that No. It wasn't easy she, spent my whole life forcing me to do things I didn't want. After the elopement she acted like nothing happened, and was in full on wedding planner mode, all because my husband and I had said we were planning on having a small ceremony with friends and family. For that I would say keep her on an info diet, it's what I should have done. My mom would afton use the phrase are you trying to make me cry if I was firm on a decision. Stay firm on the decision you made tell her your word and hubby's is final. If she wants to act like a spoiled child cause oh no daughter dearest won't let me plan her wedding let her.
@justcurious2267
Жыл бұрын
@@spacecowgirl9587 Thank you so much you just described how I think my mother will act, should that moment come which is probably very soon. I needed a voice of reason here, because I fear being emotionally manipulated in to doing things I do not like, as well as guilt trap which does not make any sense. Why should I feel guilty for doing something that I want to do, that will not bring anyone harm. I would not mind if they were to point out red flags from the potential spouse, but if there is none then my opinion in what I want to do should be respected. Thank you so, so, so much, youtubers are not relating to my concerns.🤗🤗🤗😌
@spacecowgirl9587
Жыл бұрын
@just curious I'm sorry that you're going through this, I'm going to warn you it's not going to be easy. It's so hard to be firm and keep the boundaries you set, especially if they don't respect it I had my husband's support through out the whole thing. I hope you are looking to your partner for support.
@justcurious2267
Жыл бұрын
@@spacecowgirl9587 Hmm " partner not yet" but the conversation around the whole marriage thing have started slowly in the past 6 years. To slowly get my mother to be comfortable with the idea of me getting married. However, the talks about theeee day are getting serious and what I want in regard to this matter, and I can tell should tomorrow I find a potential proposal it is not going to be a good day for some people. Sadly, it is time now. no slow adulting.🤷 everything will eventually sort itself out thank you.
@UneakTershai
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I really have to be okay not letting their feelings effect my choice to elope. 💕✨
@evergreenerafilmphoto2962
10 ай бұрын
I know it's a difficult thing to allow other people to feel their feelings if they are not positive. But it's such a powerful life skill - you've got this and you deserve a wedding day of your dreams!
@klarickfy
Ай бұрын
Thank you for this! Other ideas to include them without their presence: Have the day to yourself and call your loved ones the next day. They will be glad they were the first to know. Honor those who cannot be in attendance by wearing, carrying, or bringing items that represent them (a locket, their army name badge, a photo, a poem, or quote). If you're telling them beforehand, perhaps they can help with making a veil, bouquet, boutonniere, a sign to hold up in photos, a ring box, a celebratory shot to drink after your I do's in a mini bottle, etc. Maybe have a wedding privately, but invite people to a picnic, restaurant, pub, beach day or something casual and announce it there. Be honest without being hurtful. "We've always dreamed of having a quiet intimate wedding just us in our favorite place on earth. We're so glad we have family and friends who support our dreams." "We got into the weeds on planning and just said screw it! Let's get married now! Lol." "We couldn't pass up an opportunity to honeymoon in Japan while tickets were cheap, and so we decided to get married ASAP" "We wanted to include everyone but didn't know how to do it without making it a big production. With our work schedules, it just didn't seem feasible." "It's our second marriage and weddings are expensive--we thought we should skip the big wedding and that money could get us a down payment on our forever home." In other words, make it about you--not about them.
@BabyMango
Ай бұрын
My fiance and I are eloping at a state park, then just having a backyard party with family and friends after! We are renting a bouncy house and ballpit with slide for the kids.. ordering catering. Thats it. Super inexpensive and easy.
@ksormon1
11 ай бұрын
If the family is not willing/able to help financially then how could they get offended?
@evergreenerafilmphoto2962
10 ай бұрын
People have lots of desires that aren't related to finances... which are still worthy of consideration and respect but also shouldn't define what you do!
@ksormon1
10 ай бұрын
@@evergreenerafilmphoto2962 well I meant how could they get offended if you can't afford a traditional wedding and they can't help you either? And at the same time family and relatives tend to nudge you to get married asap and if you decide to save money and wait a few years it's a problem too. And personally I would rather save money for a house or something of actual substance rather than an overpriced party. I'm not judging anyone who decides to have one, for some people it's very important, but to me it's crazy to sacrifice years worth of labor for one event.
@Vegginessa
Жыл бұрын
So helpful! Thank you a lot
@evergreenerafilmphoto2962
10 ай бұрын
I'm so happy it was helpful - my pleasure.
@juicycouturecollectionsam3473
4 ай бұрын
I'm dealing with no one being interested in celebrating us but they like to voice their opinions.
@evergreenerafilmphoto2962
4 ай бұрын
Shoot, I'm sure you're not alone in that! Hopefully you're able to just let those opinions slide right around you and keep focused on what you two want for your celebration. 🥰 You got this!
@TammyMayCormier
Ай бұрын
For me the mental load of planning a big wedding (and all the other extra events that go with it) made me not want to marry at all. Eloping sounds so cute and special.❤
@yardiegyal86
10 ай бұрын
My family doesn't even know I have a new guy. He wants us to get married next month 😮
@evergreenerafilmphoto2962
10 ай бұрын
Oh shoot! Do you want to get married next month?😆
@angelcarroll2926
7 ай бұрын
I want to wear a dress when I get married but neither of us like being the center of attention for any length of time and I really just want our son to be there no one else. But my grandma wants to be our officiant and I scared to break her heart
@GracieNadine
7 ай бұрын
We eloped and I am very close to my grandmother. I don’t regret it for a second. Our reception dinner with family is on Saturday. It’s still the best decision we ever made. The day is about you and your person, no one else.
@BabyMango
Ай бұрын
Maybe place another expectation onto your grandma! Like maybe she can give you a piece of jewelry to wear, or write a letter for you to read at your elopement spot! If she’s crafty, maybe she can sew something onto your dress or veil :)
@ultraintuitive8774
3 ай бұрын
It was about us therefore we kept the focus on us only. Today was the day that we cemented us against the world. This wasn't a gathering for other ppl. The new Mzs Wolf agrees. My true half, what's mine is hers, what's hers is mine. Today is a new day. No regrets. ❤❤❤❤❤
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