Yes "it was my love, my energy and effort that made him special. Without it he, he is so ordinary "
@vaibhavpandya5893
Жыл бұрын
So now you have to give your love energy and efforts and attention to that who really love and care you..who u ignore
@seaandstone1
8 ай бұрын
"How to narcissistically convince yourself that you are the only good thing about those around you" So self brainwashing, got it. Seems healthy.
@mayurkhabrai7892
4 ай бұрын
Most times, it's the craving, not love. Love is placing the wellbeing of another first. Craving is mostly a desire to fill with something/someone, the inner void we all feel to various degrees. Usually it's a case of sour grapes..
@xxxarimaxxx
11 күн бұрын
@@mayurkhabrai7892 Love can be defined in many ways, and I think although it's true that putting the other person's wellbeing first is a part of it, I still believe that there's much more to it. Including some sort of crave for reciprocity, because why else would we keep fantasising about things that might never happen? Why else do we feel so happy when talking to that certain person? Because some of us know love isn't complete unless they love you back. And some of us don't want them to love us back, because we're afraid of what might happen next. Basically what I'm trying to say is, there's many forms of love, and I do agree with your statement. Just thought I'd add this as a follow-up
@Phoenixguy357
8 ай бұрын
For those wondering. You lose attachment when you learn to love yourself and learn the unhealthy patterns you have. Therapy helps a lot. Same with journalling. Loving yourself just means treating yourself like you would a best friend or S.O. this is because your attachment only exists because you dont know how to give yourself what you think the other person is giving you. And so much more. Get yourself some flowers, buy your favorite dessert on the way home, take yourself out to a concert, a movie or a vacation. I promise its a lot more fun and a lot less awkward than you think it is.
@abbz23
8 ай бұрын
How long does that take tho
@Phoenixguy357
8 ай бұрын
@@abbz23 theres no way to guess how long. Maybe months maybe years. But the key is that you have to be consistent with yourself
@abbz23
7 ай бұрын
Therapy doesnt work
@mayurkhabrai7892
5 ай бұрын
@@abbz23It's easy actually. Simply create a KZitem channel, use the audience now as a surrogate for validation. Pose pretentiously for the camera flaunting your physique & let the noise flow, do some editing, express your self obsession masquerading as wisdom ..& it's done..😐
@mayurkhabrai7892
5 ай бұрын
@@Phoenixguy357You have it all figured out. So much so that you now are handing prescriptions for us mere mortals who are always wondering..Thank you!
@vaibhavpandya5893
Жыл бұрын
Yes nobody is so special... We give so much important and respect and love to someone who doesn't deserve our attention...
@juliend9495
Ай бұрын
We break our own hearts. Unfortunately
@kelvinhilton1567
7 ай бұрын
Yes she did explain how to detach, she took back her power and was able to see this person for exactly who and what and how they are and started to love herself again. No longer looking at that person through rose-colored glasses it was probably painful and took a long time but she's back to herself❤
@lmg4293
Ай бұрын
“The version of him that I created” - spot on 💯
@orangechicken3408
7 ай бұрын
Detach from everything and you will be forever free
@clip012
Ай бұрын
He hang me dry way too long. Now we are talking again, I might get to see him on a date this weekend. But I feel nothing, no more emotional connection. Exactly like you said.
@pooleszn5808
Жыл бұрын
"not with me at least" real
@annag3718
4 ай бұрын
It's important to accept things as they are... otherwise you're trying to put up more obstacles. Others lives are probably just as ordinary as yours, the attributes that you ascribed to a certain person were miraculously undone. Obviously he was a jerk to her and it was hard to move mountains, so to speak. But not impossible....what we resist persists....
@annag3718
4 ай бұрын
Obviously as he treats one person. No one knows what goes on in his head and how much people take out their anger even on themselves....
@ct7853
Жыл бұрын
U didn’t explain how to emotionally detach at all!
@mezlandia
Жыл бұрын
😂
@goochmane4552
Жыл бұрын
lounge on a track with ur leg tucked under you
@slowedvibes5348
Жыл бұрын
Stop seeing them for what they’re not.
@ct7853
Жыл бұрын
@@slowedvibes5348 yeah I get it…now. I started coming to the realization over time though. Seems like i recently watched this, but 8months is the stamp
@moonseed2002
11 ай бұрын
Yes she did. She stopped giving him her energy.
@Cvill502
7 ай бұрын
This is powerful , thank you . A person can’t change overnight. What he can do to one , he can do to many. We just have to learn to accept that not all that we like and want so bad , is good for us. We have to learn to walk away and we have to learn to let go of the obvious.
@oceansapphire1311
Жыл бұрын
An insecure narcissist's NIGHTMARE
@shalinidhiman6206
7 ай бұрын
Thank you gal...You suddenly made me realize that I am missing the version of him that I had created....
@kristineroethle5028
28 күн бұрын
Emotional manipulation destroys a loving relationship 💔
@420GirlForever
Ай бұрын
What’s hard is that they are those positive traits, sometimes. And bc you so desperately want someone who is those things you will lie to yourself and dismiss their bad traits for a while. But then you realize more and more that they aren’t good for you at all.
@rosyboo3404
Жыл бұрын
God it hurting please give me strength that i can move on
@wattakesselly6463
6 ай бұрын
❤
@user-mi2so7ux4o
2 ай бұрын
Same
@PixieRose7
24 күн бұрын
Positively projecting onto someone the Prince Charming in our heads never ends well. Always ends in disappointment because we always have to fill in the gaps between how he’s falling short and our idealized version we want him to be. All while he’s benefiting from our precious life force we should be outing into ourselves and our own purpose & passions. Just no.
@teti_99
Жыл бұрын
He was a boy. Not a man. You will find your king because he's out there looking for his queen. Keep fighting on sister ⬆️💯
@godsway8501
Жыл бұрын
✊🏾💙💯 Shotout to the Real Kings .
@xandria_magic777
9 ай бұрын
So true, all of us will find "the king" or queen 😍
@parisjej
7 ай бұрын
I’m happy for you boo. You deserve to be happy. You see your value now. Now manifest your dreams ❤❤❤
@pablocruzx3868
Жыл бұрын
WOW Man, so deep, AND real, thank you.
@essjota1145
Жыл бұрын
I feel this so hard
@qlonoutlaw
10 ай бұрын
Same.😔
@Clevelandsteamer324
6 ай бұрын
They mirror back what you want to see. When you look in the mirror you only see the reflection not the mirror itself.
@shenanikenz
Жыл бұрын
Can’t save shorts, so I’m commenting so I can still find this in my notifications
@TomikaKelly
9 ай бұрын
Hit the like button and itll appear under your Likes list.
@TenaeMichelle
8 ай бұрын
if you click the 3 dots on the top right you can save to a playlist🌻✨
@bibifatima3479
Жыл бұрын
She already said how to detach literally we are the one who make these people so special but they are more empty dark and stupid from inside out .. even the attention he or she gets is because people lime you and cuz of u they also like him .. If you consider that the people around you needs more help than you are more in depression ... literally ask me they are more depress then us nobody likes or loves them at all .. people aren't fool lime us they know who you are and know who is the one u like it or make it special they know truth about them..
@3a3ydee39th
7 ай бұрын
This brought tears to my eyes so it’s time to go….
@Esskay15
Жыл бұрын
Hit me like a tonne of bricks but I needed it 😊
@TracyWilliams-zf4fu
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this one Jenelsy. Very apropos. I’m recovering from a similar situation - a reminder that men that love deeply can also experience these same feelings.
@LoveThatBass921
2 ай бұрын
She was those things with me!! 😢 but she definitely had her flaws. This video hit the nail on the head I’m really impressed thank you 😮💨🪽
@thorpe1178
2 ай бұрын
i gotta save this video to remind myself everytime I'm thinking of her. Looking back I realized that it was me who made her so special when in reality she's below average in most aspects of life
@berrykoo812
6 ай бұрын
But he is all of those things... that's why it's so hard for me to let go 😔
@sneha_562
6 ай бұрын
same
@JamiisonG
2 ай бұрын
God I needed this
@513Marko
7 ай бұрын
Yo hearing this helped me realize some things with my ex and how I picture her. Thank you
@MariaPerez-ht4zh
Ай бұрын
Wow it's as to say people fall in love with the idea
@judymccoy3095
Ай бұрын
This spoke to me. I needed this today
@loveispatientloveiskind2205
Жыл бұрын
Yes. I've created him too distant, because previously I created 1 too near! But to create the RIGHT SITUATION? ??
@Ryan-Ellis
Жыл бұрын
a mans nightmare
@annag3718
4 ай бұрын
😂 timeless art of seduction
@420GirlForever
Ай бұрын
Like in my current relationship when we first started dating they were very loving and sweet but now I see them showing their true colors more as time goes by. It sucks when you meet someone who seems so perfect for you and connects with you and then one day you realize they aren’t that way at all anymore. They’ve become super distant and don’t seem to even want you around
@goforbrokepodcast8664
4 ай бұрын
man this shit is so real and hit home for me!
@DropsofPetrichor
Жыл бұрын
So touching 🥺😭
@DearMoonProject
3 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this ❤thank you
@LadyM251
3 ай бұрын
This happened to me, the infatuation completely disappeared and now I find them so annoying lol
@ramyahaidar1678
4 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this today
@Aleyah
8 ай бұрын
How to detach from someone who is kind, emotional and gentle?
@auroraazraelle
7 ай бұрын
Thank you love 💛💛
@Cvill502
7 ай бұрын
Please don’t say “ not at you at least “ . That’s not true. He can do the same thing to other women. Please accept that he’s not the one for you. The one destined for you will make you feel like a queen . Someone who’s simply happy bc youre happy . Someone who will do everything to make you happy.
@Pradeep0047
5 ай бұрын
People always fall for toxic people... I fell too
@rainingpatchouli4476
4 сағат бұрын
Yesss❤❤❤
@aujlafans2418
7 ай бұрын
Thanks miss ❤
@MadiSon-555
4 ай бұрын
This is so relevant.
@umaimanomani4188
9 ай бұрын
I can feel exactly.. but only thing is it took me 17 yrs to understand and completely detach..😢
@Infojunkie-lj1up
4 күн бұрын
Oh wow!
@jasminec7030
4 ай бұрын
Thank u!
@bryantburrell1483
7 ай бұрын
Just be realistic about the situation
@Jd19808
Жыл бұрын
Thats how i feel about my ex gf smfh felt this in my soul…
@navyashree411
10 ай бұрын
How to loose a emotional attachment first ?? I badly need that
@ma4ie36
Жыл бұрын
needed this
@MSDDDD9
6 ай бұрын
This one is Deep 😩😩
@khesliapaz9921
8 ай бұрын
❤
@bigbods5226
Жыл бұрын
Reported for terrorism
@waruniwanniarachchi3746
Жыл бұрын
It talks exactly about me 💔
@karlagarcia6420
2 ай бұрын
Thank u
@ct7853
5 ай бұрын
Now that I’m lookin at this video, and I see “The version of him that I had created, he was none of those things” and all I can see is how a lot of people in this comments thread, that I created, but not all of you, like the person that wants to detach from caring so much, about animals, children and loved ones. I get that, because you want to protect, the innocence, of their bliss and ignorance, about the dangers to come, or present. A few others as well are the exception. The rest of you are like this video, and you are kidding yourselves, and delusional. Man bombing is not the answer. You are the answer, stand up and hold yourselves accountable for the things that happen with you, and not against you. From pain, and suffering comes what ladies??? Gratitude, and appreciation. Humbleness, and eventually joy, and bliss because you have finally evolved to see you created your own demise and can now rejoice because you are still standing, and are here, and accounted for. Now you can set yourself up to. E in your own spotlight, and showcase to the world the glory of God, and how you have been brought through and out of the darkness. U can be the light, and shine it upon the world so that people that are lost, can be found again. Now let’s get to work ladies we have a job to be doin
@ironangel69
6 ай бұрын
This is so true
@Arcange93iam
3 ай бұрын
A man will be with a woman hoping she'll never change and a woman will be with a man hoping he will change. Who's at fault?
@Zell8158
8 ай бұрын
Well said
@Lee_bhusal
11 ай бұрын
You are so beautiful and kind
@Nerdvpnpro
2 ай бұрын
What about physical attachment? I lost all feelings for her, i thought about all the bs she made me go through, but her charm always makes me down bad.
@jayp1700
Жыл бұрын
True. But it’s very rare that only one person is at fault for a failed relationship.
@Sonic_sorceress
11 ай бұрын
Not rare
@jayp1700
11 ай бұрын
@@Sonic_sorceress it is.
@criminalsurveillance
10 ай бұрын
Inaccurate. But to play devils advocate, based off what you said it happens so I don't get the purpose of your post.
@jayp1700
10 ай бұрын
@@criminalsurveillance & I don’t get the purpose of your comment so we’re in the same boat.
@parisjej
7 ай бұрын
manexplaining for what? Your girlfriend don’t want yo ass no more huh 😂
@satishsingh1708
7 ай бұрын
This is not exactly detachment, this is you keep bringing focus to you, you and yourself, that is one of a narcissist trait.
@Arcange93iam
3 ай бұрын
🗣thank you for saying this
@vasantcroissant9596
2 ай бұрын
This is tuff
@CHANGISGOOD87
5 ай бұрын
Im kind gentle and loving
Ай бұрын
Going through that myself right now, but why does it hurt so much? 😢
@chantelle4580
10 ай бұрын
thank you
@HappygirlTX
Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤LOVE THIS
@sriram181
Ай бұрын
Woudnt that also create the possibility where youre actively making precious people seem ordinary by lacking in love, effort, energy ?
@ThriveWithLouise
7 күн бұрын
Yess.. because you took him off the pedestal and you put yourself on it, how it should be
@ishu02525
Жыл бұрын
He was toxic 😭😭💔💔
@user-py5ml5yy1p
29 күн бұрын
❤❤❤ 💯
@wiredtight
7 ай бұрын
That's a you problem home girl, you idealized him before getting to know him! 😂
@UniquelyHerz
7 ай бұрын
It’s nothing funny really
@vivekbhoopathy5092
7 ай бұрын
Bang on
@MEGGO4519
4 ай бұрын
#this #is #me 😢
@Caseycali
Жыл бұрын
😢💕
@planetkiller1034
6 ай бұрын
Tbh I think you got the wrong idea we don't wanna be nice kind gentle or even loving as men towards women who don't love us back we as men have been used enough
@somabose90
8 ай бұрын
❤❤
@shivendupandey7658
4 ай бұрын
*It's easier for girls*
@pineappleexpress3809
7 ай бұрын
wait your stretching in the middle of a track?
@sandrastump7884
9 ай бұрын
Omg this is me right now
@michaeljones3604
2 ай бұрын
Women take a lot of things from us they don't deserve.. I was that man who was hurt and hurt my ex emotionally in our relationship. I couldn't trust and needed counseling to help me with my anger, insecurity, and anxiety issues.. I'm not a bad man, just wasn't good enough for her.. I'll always regret not being the man she needed in her life.. Really lost a wonderful woman. 😔
@strawberry_lacroix
7 ай бұрын
“not with me at least” what does this mean?
@xaeaxii7777
Жыл бұрын
Kind gentle loving not with me at least except he was sometimes that's why it freaking sucks I gotta think about the bad things not the good things
@wattakesselly6463
6 ай бұрын
He wasn’t kind and gentle with her because he had to maintain control over her. Some men pretend that they are emotionally unavailable to lure women in. Women crave vulnerability and affection. A man will deprive them of it and the woman will stay thinking one day he will change for her if she love him beyond how he loves her.
@annag3718
4 ай бұрын
@@wattakesselly6463sociopathic tendencies
@Meow-rl1jt
26 күн бұрын
😢😢😢
@21stmula
3 ай бұрын
Why do we at times create what he ain't 😷😢
@Arcange93iam
3 ай бұрын
Men get with women hoping they won't change, Women Get with men hoping they will. That's Why
@vipulrathod510
11 ай бұрын
I need the guy side of story as well
@theneverending9319
4 ай бұрын
Lmao
@emranmohammed6255
6 ай бұрын
City Boys up 🗣️
@Cumer1
Жыл бұрын
That what happens when she goes for Chad and Tyrone🤷
@bigbods5226
Жыл бұрын
Real
@tiffanyyisrael7989
11 ай бұрын
You sound bitter. 😩Go cry someplace else. 🤣
@Sonic_sorceress
11 ай бұрын
True
@jordanwells5838
Ай бұрын
Untill you can accept your own floors and judge yourself for what you know you have done or how you have before acted in a similar You should create hate in your body for for someone else you effectively don’t even care for I would of took this video more seriously if the visual reflected the message
@jeremysimpson3255
11 ай бұрын
Ma’am why you on the inside lanes of the track making people go around you
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