0:02 Stating Today's Topic 1:55 What Does It Mean To Be Trauma Bonded? 4:18 How Can You Break The Trauma Bond? 9:18 You Have To Regularly Acknowledge How You Feel 15:29 You Have To Move Away From The Story 16:28 Why You Need To Heal Your CPTSD Part 1 21:14 Why You Need To Heal Your CPTSD Part 2 22:28 If You Do The Work, You'll Have Your Results 25:48 Wrapping Up
@amberscottcmt7400
4 жыл бұрын
How awesome that you posted times for the different segments, as links. Never noticed if you do this on your other videos, but it was great for me with this one, as I wanted to re-listen to parts of it.. Thank you for making it so easy.
@22Too
4 жыл бұрын
WHAT is the website to which u r referring?
@jadore712
4 жыл бұрын
So excited! Thank you!!!
@jadore712
4 жыл бұрын
Susan Washington yeah I didn’t catch the website either
@annileimcgregor7528
4 жыл бұрын
RICHARD GRANNON ...Thank you. I am ready. I watched this video (and many others) several years ago but wasn’t quite there. Despite your suggestion, I did not unsubscribe. This time round, I really heard you, it all made sense, I know I Am Ready. To Infinity and Beyond 🗽
@jannettb7930
5 жыл бұрын
What broke the bond for me was realizing that he could not change. He was physically and mentally unable to be any different than he was. We would never be able to grow, we couldn't move past it together, he would never change. He couldn't give me closure. He couldn't actually love. It just was what it was and I could go on like that forever or accept the way he was and walk away. Clean break.
@gabrielleaumont3971
2 жыл бұрын
Same here. He WAS the break. end of story. once we realize that we can save ourselves from endless misery and years of suffering. so, what then holds us back? that's something that needs to be examined. with brutal honesty.
@stefe3257
Жыл бұрын
Same!..... but didnt broke the bond yet 🥲
@RieHiramatsu
Жыл бұрын
Same here. For a second I thought you lived my experience and transcribed my thoughts. It was exactly at the moment I realised that he wasn’t going to step up, he wads t going to grow up, I left. That was then I realised I’ve wasted a decade of my life waiting around patiently.
@actionpls.
Жыл бұрын
Exactly.
@hollyfisher4688
Жыл бұрын
😢
@actionpls.
Жыл бұрын
I cant actually talk to anyone about how my relationship is with a narcissist. Because, they wouldn't understand or believe me. And if they did, I'd look like a fool for having stayed in it so long. So. I look at videos like yours to confirm my sanity. You have been an awesome help!!!!
@samanthajames2032
7 ай бұрын
People don't understand it , you look and sound like a lunatic
@tempestous-i3k
5 ай бұрын
Validation does help. Knowing you're not weak, you're not naive, the usual suspects we get IF anyone even listens. I gave up trying to get anyone to understand. They ain't been there they ain't gonna get it and they ain't gonna care. It's cost me friends but after what I've been through I don't much care. You're so not alone and vulnerable narcassists dont have much interest in those who are weak-willed or boring. It was tough and humbling to have to tell my family Hey, that amazing guy who thought I was so incredible and wanted to marry me, yadda yadda yadda? He was abusive. I'm done with him and oh, I'm badly damaged on top of it. The response has been basically, Huh, of course nobody that great would want you, get over it, and you can't possibly be that damaged. We are all we have. Ourselves and those others who have stepped in this minefield of pretty flowers. Be well, love yourself, let go of anyone ain't getting it. We've done the impossible and that makes us mighty!
@infiniteriver93
6 жыл бұрын
"The way you're living now, is the way you'll be living in one years time". Wow that hit me. I don't want to be half dead anymore, one year has turned into 10 for me, time to wake up. Thank you Richard for the truth and reality check. This has been revelatory.
@angelinapearson5560
5 жыл бұрын
One year has turned into 4 and although I’ve done some work “some” is not enough! Half-alive isn’t enough. so thank you, “Infiniteriver93” for sharing! You contributed to me personally🙏🏼
@ESumner
5 жыл бұрын
infiniteriver93 it’s incredibly true... 😖
@danielkeyser9698
4 жыл бұрын
one year turned to 14 as of 7/2020
@elq5317
4 жыл бұрын
PRO FOUND quote "The way you're living now..."
@carospereman3537
4 жыл бұрын
Right on! infiniteriver93. I feel half dead to and it's been going on TOO long. Been stuck here for 5 years WTF. Just this last winter, I knew I needed to to work on myself and get down to the nitty gritty, I just didn't know how, where, and when. This pandemic, ironically, has allowed me to delve into my mental health because of social distancing. I couldn't be more happy. On the other hand, this pandemic has ruined people's lives and I feel for them. Thank you for posting and much love and healing to you and all.
@DTA1313
Жыл бұрын
It’s infinitely harder to overcome the bond when you were the one discarded. Because you keep feeling the rejection more than the fact that the person was utterly immature and disrespectful. The way someone leaves you tells you everything about them.
@simpatico4004
6 ай бұрын
Honestly it feels like a grave injustice.
@DTA1313
6 ай бұрын
@@simpatico4004 yeah kinda sucks your soul dry. I lost the will to live for about a year.
@Oceansgreen
4 ай бұрын
Yes, I think being discarded is harder to get over than being the one that walked away… I agree, the the rejection is very hard to get over because it makes you feel like YOU were the one to blame for the break up but that’s what the narc wants you to feel!! They walk away as if they are innocent when in all reality they caused the argument/fight that ended in them discarding you. We, the discarded have to remember and keep telling ourselves that we did nothing wrong other than be a normal person, it’s the narcs that aren’t normal… they can’t take the slightest of criticism, and the idea of them being a failure in anything is horrific to them, they have to be admired, centre of attention, always right and they will hold a grudge for eternity, punish you for the slightest thing that they believe you’ve done wrong to them… silent treatment is a favourite or withholding things from you ie, if you share a car they won’t let you use it until they say you can. I spent 37 years married to a narcissist, suffered mental and physical abuse, the cruelty of these people is inhumane… but, it gives them great pleasure and power to see their partners/spouses suffering. These so called people deserve to rot in hell for the pain they inflict on others for pleasure, they have no feelings whatsoever, so, I have to keep reminding myself of all these terrible things when I start to doubt myself about who’s to blame for the discard. They don’t deserve to be happy, they actually don’t know how to be truth be told, they are never satisfied with what they’ve got. ESPECIALLY if they can’t control it. Sorry for the long comment, there’s a lot more I could write but I’ll stop now, anyone who has lived with or has had a relationship with a narcissist will relate 100% with this comment.
@GreyGhost-r4z
4 ай бұрын
@@Oceansgreenthank you for your comment ! I appreciate your strength. I’m 26 YEARS into this marriage and it’s disaster. Fml But I will get over it and love again.
@roaahossameldin2956
2 ай бұрын
@@Oceansgreen totally agree
@BluntForceTrauma666
6 жыл бұрын
For me, the most important thing to understand and accept is that when a PD person treats you badly, those are _calculated and deliberate_ actions (mostly). The concept of a person looking directly into your eyes, professing their "love", briefly doing VERY nice things only to later suddenly bury a knife in your back, _REPEATEDLY,_ was previously unimaginable to me. The FATAL flaw in my thinking was that it was all due to a "situational awareness" problem for her, that she behaved nasty at times and just didn't realize it or see it. With me as a "fixer" and always trying to be cool & understanding, my heartfelt discussions about how hurtful and cruel she could be at times served PURELY to further educate her on my underlying psyche and taught her precisely how to deepen the already gaping and infected wounds. The astounding disorientation and confusion that arose within me later on when she again was acting nasty, and like we had never spoken a single word about it, is nearly indescribable. Looking back, I now see that *THE KEY* to it all, the answer to all of my "why? why? WHY'S?" was that it was simply premeditation. The one-sidedness of "our" discussions, her lack of response to ANY of it (aside from her weaponization of any new knowledge) - every bit of it is explained away when I tell myself that it was all on purpose. She had been like a cat nudging a half dead mouse, trying to get it to run, the ENTIRE time we were together. Flat out worst experience of my life being married to her for 10 years, but that shit will happen to me NO MORE. EVER.
@dorotamankowski4968
5 жыл бұрын
BluntForceTrauma666 I totalny understand you. The same thing happened to me. I have been married to PD person for 33 years. It was just a relief to find all this material on you tube and educate myself.
@rajpillay4920
5 жыл бұрын
Dude you just explained my exact bewilderment..!! I was married to her for 5 years but the damage is serious! It's been 15months since the split but my lizard brain still finds it hard to accept that she was a dick...
@margaretpaine7292
5 жыл бұрын
I just became very confused with my narcissist. I believe he was psychotic too. It was like I was the mirror and he would say back what I was doing as advice or he would project his inner anger. It was the most terrible. There was no sense to it. I thought he was a normal guy until I had daily exchanges that were loopy. So bizarre but I couldn't extract myself not knowing fully what it was and me, Ms logical. I soon had to go cold turkey, no contact. This included religious and sexual abuse. He thought he was Gods gift and one time when drunk said he was the voice of God. But of course it was my fault for not being Ms obedient no talk woman. I got out of that pretty fast but it's my long term narcissists, sister and brother that emerged surprisingly as my narcissist abusers, Jekyll and Hyde trauma bonded abusers. I still think cold turkey is the way to go with them as they verbally abuse me with Hyde and my ptsd gets bad and then tell me it's my fault. I can't seem to let go of the hope. And memory of my brother before his mind split. I am scapegoat. Obsessing.
@laurasmithira
5 жыл бұрын
That explains where I was and how I feel today. Very awesome comment that describes my 14 year and prior 10year relationships. I thought the last one would kill me. It didn't, I has made me learn, first about me, I had developed Narc behaviors so, I was pretty sure I was flawed badly, Then I learned the level of abuse I had been through and exactly how it happened. How I made things worse for myself and now I am working on me. Forgiveness for myself has been important. My renewed relationship with God has been most important. I put these men , even before God.
@jamesgerboc
5 жыл бұрын
I worked in sales for many years. Thought I had met every type of person God created. And then I met her. She was everything. I was so vulnerable. What you describe is still SO gut-wrenching. No one is taught or trained or prepared for someone to love you and hate you at the same time. Life has to make sense. People have to make sense....and be authentic with all their gifts and flaws. To meet someone who is a truly a gift, who gets you, who offers an intimacy that is beyond the pale, who says beautiful things without saying anything, and then one day, changes. Her words became cold and without emotion. She disappeared without explanation. She seems distant. My world became dark. And there was no reason, no sense, no answer to the many why's. No explanation, no one to talk to about, and no way to overcome emotion even though it objectively makes no sense. I still cant believe what has happened, all because I cared and became very fond of someone who I believed needed to be loved.
@justinecelain77
4 жыл бұрын
If someone is scared of pain after breaking up I can tell you from my own experience, pain is enormous after you left but it is incomparably light to the one you were going through every day in that abusive relationship. Do it for yourself, I did and it is long time to my full recovery but I know I'm on the right path and with help of friends and Richard and whoever you think can support you, do it! Richard, you opened my eyes and kicked my ass to move on and thank you will never be enough! But...thank you so very much!
@ericaled
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, every victim of narcissistic abuse has to get to the point where the pain of staying outweighs the pain of leaving. Dealing with flashbacks and residual confusion is far easier than the daily verbal and emotional abuse, cheating, etc.
@tammyfitzgerald5336
Жыл бұрын
🎉❤🎉❤
@tammyfitzgerald5336
Жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏🏽
@LaLabutterfly
6 жыл бұрын
It’s been 2/3 months since I’ve completed the emotional literacy course and when there are times I fall back into old habits my subconscious is ready to whip me back into reality. I’m so fascinated looking at the comments and seeing the people from all walks of life and backgrounds attesting to the horrors of co-dependancy and coming through the other side. I’m so proud of the fact that I can feel my feelings without freaking out that they’re actually there, or freaking out in general, freezing and fawning. Everyday I’m in awe of the person I was a year ago compared to who I am today and I owe it all to you.
@amysteriouspotato4383
5 жыл бұрын
LaLabutterfly I'm still looking(ish) into psychology. I'm just glad to know what I'm feeling and why. Sometimes I feel certain ways and can't understand why. Now I can see "oh, that person said that which caused that which I interpreted as this etc." Now I can see it as its happening and defuse whatever situations before they happen. The only negative is the internet throws a broad net for narcissism so it's easy to get lost in that. Instead I just understand no one is perfect and "live and let live so of thing"
@rdnugent1
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for addressing the whole group/tribal toxicity that exists between many people who end up just bitching and enabling each other. I tried to join a few narcissist recovery forums and they were so terrible. It was a big glob of whining and nowhere dead-endedness. There is a time for empathy and compassion, but if all you're doing is sitting in a hole with a bunch of other people who are as damaged and lost as you are, it's silliness. So, thanks for addressing this, Richard.
@JK-ly6wu
6 жыл бұрын
Listen to him!!! The Power of your mind can Heal your Heart!!!!! Take your control back!!! When you’re ready you’ll do it!!!💪🏻Tough Luv it works.... Stop living in the past in pain and live in the present in happiness 🤗
@freespirit9806
4 жыл бұрын
It’s an addiction like any other addiction and can be treated the same way Step 1. We admitted we were powerless over other people . Our life had become unmanageable Step 2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity
@nickyalison5848
6 ай бұрын
Thanks for the 12 step remimder! This is the Only way! ❤
@castiron2932
2 ай бұрын
This worked for me. I'm in AA. If it wasn't for recovery and the fellowship I'd be a goner
@michaeladalton9278
6 жыл бұрын
You are so right. PTSD is real. The abuse made my brains scrambled eggs.
@leahjonze
5 жыл бұрын
Michaela Dalton that’s so crazy you said scrambled eggs because that’s exactly the words I use to describe it!!!!! Ugh!!
@princesscorvus2636
5 жыл бұрын
I feel you!! I hope you'll become better...
@nickieglazer33
5 жыл бұрын
Me too!! We’re all going mad together 🤪😭🤪😘
@user-ov6jx9qp7s
5 жыл бұрын
Same. Uplifting vibes to you from us who've known it
@kathleenstout5102
5 жыл бұрын
The quick inhalation and posture shooting upright as soon ss they " start" the pan goes from cool to scalding in a flash..complete mentsl scramble..impulse if you haven't figured this brain cooking out yet..and the adrenaline..oh the sauce really takes its toll on the adrenals, processing capabilities, mental state..all of it, no?
@LB-lt3pz
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Richard. You will never know me and know what this video has done for my life. I have been searching you tube every day watching videos on narcissism and nothing hit me like this. I was still looking for stuff to put on the map!!!!!! I get it now, it has NOTHING to do with the map. No one gave a shit about me growing up which led to me falling victim to these narcs over and over. Trying to erase what happened to me as a kid by filling these soulless narcs up with a never ending supply of love just to watch them keep flushing it down the shitter. When the answer ALL ALONG was to keep giving MYSELF!!!!!!! a never ending supply of love and kindness and to steer clear of anyone who didn’t treat me with that exact same love and kindness!!!!! Tables have turned people it is not egotistical or selfish or arrogant to love yourself when you are a kind, caring, empathetic, beautiful human being. Thanks again Richard!!
@JoRiver11
6 жыл бұрын
I was surprised by how comforting it was to hear that you ended up with a narcissist twice. I felt a lot of shame from being with one (and even taking him back once), thinking that I had learned, and then the next relationship was with another narcissist. They seemed like opposites in some ways, yet they were uncannily similar with regards to their reactions to things and ways of making me feel like less than I am. Thanks. While I still feel like I've "lost my muchness" in some ways, my shame feels like it has lightened considerably.
@crinishorela
5 жыл бұрын
Aw, hun. I took him back 3 times. There is no shame. Took me 8 years. It doesn't matter. Better to eventually understand it, than never :)
@SunShine-dm8gy
4 жыл бұрын
JoRiver11 Big hug! So hard to deal with them. But you are so big, you’re an empath! Never forget how big you are while you work thru this. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and you’ll find it’s you, always has been🙂
@vhayashi7369
4 жыл бұрын
JoRiver thank you for sharing! I too had the same experience I went from one Narcissist to an even worse one exactly like you described! It's mind blowing!
@jenniferguptel4143
4 жыл бұрын
I’m pretty sure my mom is a narc so all I can think is a toxic situation was normal for me. I got married to two narcs. I didn’t know what one was. I’m divorced now thank god. I’m just trying to heal now. It’s been quite a journey.
@leod6905
3 жыл бұрын
@@crinishorela yes....I am so embarrassed it went on for 20 years ....which she gets off on!
@wonderwomanx1268
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks Richard for being consistently rooted in reality and ownership. Can’t blame others for hurting us, more than blaming ourselves for NOT protecting one’s self.
@liljerseygirl249
4 жыл бұрын
I born and raised and live in the U.S. I'm english ethnicity, and I'm really enjoying listening to the english accent. In any event, that's not why I'm here listening to this, I'm here because I need to get over this recent narcissist relationship once and for all. This is not the only narcissist I've had the opportunity to experience a relationship with, but I want it to be the last! I only spent 8 months with him. I broke it off 6 weeks ago. I will not accept this type of relationship, I will not accept being treated with such disrespect. So far, I'm not doing too bad, because I'm working on me and doing my own thing. That said, I want to heal and move on. I know I've got to heal first, because I don't want to carry this into a new relationship. The issue is, I keep thinking about him, the relationship, what was good and what was bad. I hate him, I'm angry, then I'm not angry, and than I care at the same time. I don't want to hate anyone. I dont want to be angry like this. It's all so confusing. I trusted and was totally disillusioned by his deception, his cruel words, his anger, and on and on. I felt like I was on an emotional roller coaster. I don't understand how I can still care about this man? I gave enough time to this, I want it gone. I've got to get over this and get this out of my head. I know I'm a good person, I am worthy of a healthy, loving relationship. I just wanna get over this, I made a decision to leave the situation and I'm sticking with that decision, but I need to get over this, and I want to make sure I never get involved in anything like this again. I don't want to be afraid anymore. I'm gonna work with your program, because I want to be better and never go through this again. Wish me luck. Thank you so much for putting this out to help us who really want to be helped.
@initnotofit
6 жыл бұрын
"they cannot be saved Clarice" 😂 Fabulous vid. Thanks Richie!
@reallythere
5 жыл бұрын
That was pure genius
@sharonrockwell-ruffin3575
5 жыл бұрын
Best video out there... Thanks Richard
@reginajones3239
4 жыл бұрын
Omg yes. Exactly how he hooked me.
@victoriastanton4497
6 жыл бұрын
Feel the fear and do it anyway. Face the truth. Brutal honesty. Acknowledge the pain. Radical acceptable will lead to real lasting healing. Growing up is hard to do go for it or stay stuck.
@karifoto
5 жыл бұрын
This is the truth. I didn’t want to face the fear & do what I have to do because of my own shame & very real cptsd, but enough damage has motivated me now. Don’t wait for the damage to motivate. I am a serial truster & my hope dies hard. I was lucky to have a healthy romantic relationship for decades but fell right into the old patterns of getting trapped by covert narcissists as soon as I was single again. The crimes against me are so bad that my ptsd has kept me from seeking justice. I must stop him. These videos & comments help.
@stevenflores972
2 жыл бұрын
@@karifoto I'm going for it now. I had 4 cycles of abuse,,, that I allowed. I'm finally convinced I have to Stop this
@karifoto
2 жыл бұрын
@@stevenflores972 that’s good. I talked a good game 2 years ago but ended up going through more hell. Don’t be a me! ;) Best of luck to you
@Chronically_Misunderstood
2 жыл бұрын
This may be 2years old but I needed to see it. This course is going to be my soul mate!! I want to heal and be happy, happy with me. 9 months in this horribly abusive, sick, twisted man nearly took everything. I woke up and ran!! I’m ready❤️
@stacyjaye6350
2 жыл бұрын
Check out the crappy childhood fairy, Anna Runkle. Richard was one of the first to help me, though. I am back here after 5 years on my healing journey. I had a huge setback, which you can see in the comments. I really wish you all the best. As long as you're interested in doing the work, you can recover. Trust and believe. 😘 From Oklahoma
@stacyjaye6350
2 жыл бұрын
I recently met someone, with Rock solid boundaries. OMG, they were dating someone, really into the person, that person got drunk one night out at the bar, and gave my friend the slightest little shoulder shove. My friend turned around, walked out of the bar, totally went no contact. And you know that the offender tried to BEG forgiveness! Nope. Never spoke to them again. Point being, this crap doesn't happen to people with boundaries. And that very word is a cliche but, us people that had crappy childhoods? Yeah, we're vulnerable and yeah, it happens. How blessed are we, to have access to all this help? By the way, I think you're comment really got to me because, YOU LEFT!!👏💃🥳🎉 My hoovering narc had to dump me again 😭 You've got boundaries! It's weird how all of us are on this messed up road together, every age, every walk of life. All of us so different, all of us the same. I'm so, so proud of you! So you better be proud of yourself! Good luck and Godspeed honey.☮️👍🤩
@Chronically_Misunderstood
2 жыл бұрын
@@stacyjaye6350 I agree so much with that sentiment! We are all soooo different but have this similar story. I’m a huge nerd and think how incredible it is that the narcissist have the same stages, the love bomb, devaluation, hoover. If I hadn’t gone through it, I’d quit nursing and study it. He’s been torturing me lately… he can’t hoover so he immediately turns verbally abusive. I silenced unknown callers because he gets WiFi numbers. I listened to a couple messages 😳 they’re insane! He threatened to hurt me so I had to get some cameras and a ring. I’m happy you’re back at it and try to stay with it love!! I’m right here if you need to chat! ❤️❤️❤️
@Borinquena1973
6 жыл бұрын
Absolutely raw and brilliant. So tired of forums where people rant and complain about what has been DONE to them. Unsubbed to all of them. The work on self is where it’s at! You rock! We all need a wake up call and tough productive love.
@georget.6357
Жыл бұрын
I can only change myself, period. I can never, ever change anyone else and I fully accept that. By looking inside myself and processing what I discover, change will come about from within. With practice & effort I will strengthen healthy skills that will serve me and others through my example. It's an inside-moving-towards-the-outside effort, not the other way around. If I look towards the outside world, I will avoid my problems and create even bigger, messier, & more dramatic disasters.
@wildrose12.47
6 жыл бұрын
I respect your hard honesty about no more handholding, we do the work or go home. I have spent decades trying to heal my monstrous child abuse, and I am as sick of working for nothing as you are! I can't believe the number of therapists I have gone through and NOT ONE figured out even the basics of my childhood trauma. As a child I vowed to never be mistreated again, so my relationships have been short because I disengage at first sign of abuse. I've had a couple Narcs get me (because they come in different forms) but not for long. So my problem is getting worse because of severe loneliness because each man I attract shows his fangs and I'm outa there! I want to heal my trauma so I am no longer a "creep magnet". I don't know why I trip their radar, but I do. I'm great about turning them away, which is fortunate, but I have NEVER gotten a "good guy". What's weird is I have wonderful, healthy platonic friendships, some lifelong. I have great friends that are normal with non-toxic lives. But the minute a man likes me, I think "okay, what's wrong with this one." Damn I hate being right all the time. Richie, bring it hon, give me your worst. I will do any work you say, doing a headstand while dangling naked from the town clock while singing the national anthem and plucking feathers from a goose. Best client EVER!
@cindyfarmer1619
6 жыл бұрын
Wildrose12. Same here about narcs men that seems to know im an empath besides others so I just stay alone with my cats ,daughter and I rather that than be victim again was to too many I learned from experience from my so call insane family which most majority are so criminally insane
@Shines-On
6 жыл бұрын
Wildrose12. Lol
@stevenflores972
2 жыл бұрын
I feel the same. However, I'm a man. Now 59. I feel like a fool. Gave my whole heart. When will I learn
@kristinreich6226
5 жыл бұрын
YOU ARE TRULY F'ING AMAZING! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO!! you've given me strength. You've given me clarity. You've given me hope. Thank you, with all my heart and soul 🤗
@cherbeware7421
6 жыл бұрын
I don't want my golden bobbles anymore. Thanks Richard.
@orchidsrising7910
6 жыл бұрын
Richard brings the balls to healing. I always got helped the most by him because he is challenging. I dig it 💗💗💗
@rebeccahopwood6073
6 жыл бұрын
Can’t even tell you how much this helped me. I am in so much pain but carry on like a soldier pretending I am completely fine. Love the honesty. I have been watching you videos for a year now and like this one the best. Thank-you Richard!!
@flowerchild4151
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I’ve been watching your videos for awhile and somehow just now found this one. I’m on it! I honestly thought I had worked through this (although I didn’t know what the this was...like you just described it anyway). I broke up with my ex exactly a year ago. But it’s been a roller coaster. TONS of individual therapy sometimes 2x a week, hospitalization, multiple times in intensive outpatient programs, taking leave from work, setting boundaries, going no contact, educating myself non stop (still) - all within the last year. And I did have some major breakthroughs. The first was even the acknowledgement I was in an abusive relationship. Then the ability to leave after years of saying I wanted to but couldn’t. Then finally the ability to really see him for who he is. I really did! Or I guess I thought I did. Because now I’ve wrapped myself up in emotion again with him. I think maybe as an escape route, a coping strategy, to avoid other issues that are painful in my life currently. I found out yesterday that he had been arrested, again, several days ago and was still in jail and I sobbed uncontrollably because I couldn’t stand to think of him hurting! I literally felt his pain. Took it on like my own. That is absolutely insane with the amount of pain he has put me through that I’d feel pain for him. I can intellectually stand back and see that madness! But I have not done this work you are talking about. And I just connected to and really heard what you said about being caught up in the “story” or “map” you may have called it. That is such a revelation. Seems simple but it is profound at this moment to me. It’s actually something I’ve been doing my whole life, replaying everything and trying to figure “it” out. I will never figure “this” thing with him out! Ever! But if I don’t figure me out, I will be miserable forever. Thank you again. I will not let the last year of my life, the most painful year of my life, be in vain. I will do the continued work. I am so grateful to have found this today. ❤️
RICHARD GRANNON SPARTANLIFECOACH I've been researching NAS and complex CPST for about two years. I'm literally starting to cry because I'm so happy to find some common sense work that can be done. I use to be a nurse,of course 18 years married to cerebral narcopath just destroyed everything I worked so hard for. But no stories. Over him but he's still got financial crap I depend on now that narc abuse caused me so much mental anguish that I am now on social security. He got my kid two years ago because of my inability to be there for him emotionally. At the time my son left (suicidal and blames me, mothers worse than worst nightmare), in such despair asked a person whom was not working if he could sit w me. Five months later dating off and on two years. Malignant somatic covert dark tetrad. If that's even possible. = toxic shame, triangulation, blackouts, flashbacks, well, c-Ptsd worse than ever. Four years of simultaneous re victimization, tons of grief, police uneducated and victim shaming to the point of laughing at me as they walked away. Physical crap and the worst gaslighting ever, stolen iPhone x3 broken damage to properties. AND I AM STILL GOING BACK TO HIM.can't press charges I'm too gooey. 4of 5 trauma bonds. I am an hour just existing living a dreadful life. And I am elated and can give my poor worried mother a respit. The loneliness I think keeps me going back. I had to get rid of everyone in my life who was toxic. So all . And all family has abandoned me except for my mom who I haven't seen because anxiety agoraphobia and social anxiety rule my life. God bless yu Richard. Quick question. I have such avoidance behavior grief anger and self sabotage behaviors that I can see me screwing this up royally. I have literally no one! To even yell at me to get it done. I mean it's so bad I already know. So do u have anything I can do about that so I can get this shit done. I'm ready to live my life.
@NewSense333
6 жыл бұрын
YES, YES and FUCKING YES to ALL OF THAT! 💪🏼👊🏼
@gillymac9363
6 жыл бұрын
Dear Richard, Would you consider doing even a short vid on WHY you do what you do now? I came to know your work in trying to discover what I'd learn from you was a NPDisordered headf*ck. I purchased some of your work. However, I am BPD, you have nothing good to say about my kind (only the mercy to acknowledge it as merely an Emotional Response Dysregulation) yet ignorantly & incorrectly deem us ALL narcs. In truth, it seems to me you've been "butthurt" (phrase just current colloquialism, not intended to invalidate your experiences✌🏻) by-as you admit 2ex's- with, I anticipate BPD women, as you're keen enough to talk of Tudor, or work with Vaknin, self proclaimed narcs. Never however with other "Cluster B's" as you insist on calling them. You're a pretty narcissist man yourself, it's part of your magnetism. Maybe you're not so self aware though, don't you understand to completely reject something within the human condition is to reject it within yourself?, so are you prepared to do the work? Or are you just going to carry on charging high prices to vulnerable people based on the experiences of 2 bad relationships with girls who just so happened to be mentally ill? That's the Raven Paradox Richie; 'I went with 2girls who had personality disorder conditions, & it was a bad experience for me, therefore, ALL ppl with personality disorder conditions will be /are a bad experience.No! Just... NO! I have BPD, I don't have any of the other disorders under the Cluster B category; so quit telling everyone I'm a narc to be avoided-it's ignorant slander! I actually like you, been a loyal fan & customer for years but of course; I'm Cluster B so f me right? 😒 Making a profit on how to handle getting over a Cluster B ex, career catharsis huh, except you're not over it yourself, it's your day job, you're a witty, more grandiose Angie Atkinson. Guess your videos aren't for me no, most tell me I'm "cold blooded" & to be avoided. Who's the cold blooded 1 there? C'mon Richie, truth time...✌🏻😕.. With genuine curiosity, concern & love, Gilly🕊️
@karencopenhaver7755
6 жыл бұрын
Awesome... love your message! Are you single?
@Theresa_52
6 жыл бұрын
Thoroughly enjoyed in gratitude!
@alinaion2668
2 жыл бұрын
OMG! Minute 16:13 and on hit me hard with the pouring love, more love into them to soothe their childhood and how they play the hurt victim and not knowing what love is. That is my story!!! This video has been so eye opening for me, wow! Thank you so much because when we are in it, we don’t see it. I am watching it over and over again, and this is helping me towards healing. Thank you Richard for this video! 💕
@bridgettewarren3103
2 жыл бұрын
This made me cry it was so accurate. Reading and learning to STOP my emotional flashbacks
@eszterszczaurski7625
6 жыл бұрын
2:14 - MK Ultra is the ultimate trauma bonding. Psychiatrist use trauma bonding the most.
@happygolucky9004
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making this video. Your straightforward and honest "I can't save you from pain" really helped me find the courage to move forward and accept all my feelings. I'm definitely ready to process my grief and thank you for emphasizing that it's not a one time fix but something we must choose to do everyday.
@ImbriumDream
6 жыл бұрын
Science based.. YES! I was once sent to a religion based counseling center where I was basically told I should be happy because I am a human and humans are inherently special. Didn’t really help my self loathing and binge drinking that I was self medicating with.
@boostmobile9249
3 жыл бұрын
No more lies. I am enough! I deserve better people in my life! Thank you!
@alanasand44
6 жыл бұрын
Love your hard truths. I have felt I needed a good dose of “smack me upside the reality” lately. I am ready to heal and I’m coming along. 🌸
@lizzfromny
16 күн бұрын
Thank you for being so brutally honest, many of us needed to hear the naked truth. I’ll find your course, because I’ve had it after 36 years of this BS
@hockeymasktime1918
5 жыл бұрын
I know this video is old, but I just discovered this channel...it helped me so much...Got a new subscriber. Thank you!
@elinbirgis
5 жыл бұрын
Going no contact is what change my life. It took a few tries and Im not sure its forever yet, but I see it as an exponential development, but being on my own is key
@mason1923
Жыл бұрын
He's very organized and his video helped me understand a pathway to recovery from being in a relationship with a narcissist.
@d3finitelydiff3r3nt6
5 жыл бұрын
Being a targeted Individual I can't trust any counselor so this shall be my therapy...ty.
@chrisla6992
4 жыл бұрын
Absolute light bulb moment when you said if I rescue you then maybe I can rescue myself. I've listened to a lot of videos and read a lot on this topic but that one sentence nailed it for me. I understood what I was doing, but not the why. This answered the why for me. Next step is taking your courses. Thank you for your practical, no BS approach and advice.
@tarotempress1925
5 жыл бұрын
I thought I was over my narc I was 1 and half years no contact he died and I am still grieving he died 5 months ago when i was made aware he died I felt that trauma bond break. My world felt completely different.
@user-2911
5 жыл бұрын
Wow. Blessings to you.
@gitbuh12345qwerty
4 жыл бұрын
19:01 --- "I don't want to create yet another "my-ex boyfriend, my ex-wife is a narcissist" circle jerk forum, where people hold hands for 5/6/7/8/15 years at a time." -------- that was completely brilliant. Thank you.
@trudiatherton1633
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Richard, I stayed with you throughout this video, you were ‘speaking’ to me and I ‘heard’ you, I listened and I understood- several ah ha moments ! I looked for the free course the other day but will try again. Loved the presentation today ( because you are so passionate you go off on a tangent and loose me usually) Thank you for all your videos I really appreciate your work and the time you must put into them. X
@boostmobile9249
3 жыл бұрын
We experience daily whole body pains discomfort emotionally discuss of blockages heartaches. Breakout. Break the dependency!!!
@lartele9517
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you ever so much Richard for sharing your enormous knowledge and profound wisdom!! And thank you equally as much for your crystal clear no shit straight forwardness as well genuine compassion!! All the best!!
@juniperevergreen8320
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Richard. You reached a person right for the material. The break was 13 months ago. I have 60% peace of mind, and 40% disruptive and optimistically malignant state of mind. I can benefit from the program now. I'll write again in two months with update. Thank you, Juniper.
@phoebeknyx
4 жыл бұрын
11:50 goddamn it. 21:26 "diddly dee" YOU ARE SO PRECIOUS sofa king precious
@danielle4A1977
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your videos. I recently escaped a narcissistic mother daughter relationship, and this has helped me understand what has happened to me over the last 23 years. I left not knowing why I left, I was a complete mess and had been completely broken down. Now I am on a journey of figuring out what happened to me, and figuring out how to heal and relearn how to be a normal person. You have been one of people who has given me info that made my experiences made sense.
@ashleymarie2184
Жыл бұрын
My god ! My body is overcome with goosebumps! This is my closure! This is my way out ! Thank you !!
@corb5654
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Richard. You and Sam actually made me realise the web of betrayal I found myself in after 2 decades in a relationship with a covert narc, and I am using so much of what you're teaching to walk (run) away and heal.
@sophinx7
5 жыл бұрын
Outstanding. Thank you so very much for your video. I realize that I was being pulled into a somewhat emotional time loop by attracting narcissits because I hadn't taken the time to look at myself emotionally in the mirror and work on my own inner child 'blacksheep empath' trauma. I love the way you present this video, it's as if you are speaking directly to me and you genuinely do sincerely care for many of us codependencies. On a spiritual note, I also believe that these narcissists are on very low vibration and actually do have demonic entity attachments with the Love Bombing targeted at specific individuals especially those radiating at a high frequency to stall them from their spiritual journey. I also did look into some of Eve Lorgen 's videos about this and everything does relate- psychologically & spiritually. You have given me an absolute AHA moment and I am all set towards recovery and personal self discovery. You are absolutely right and that there is NO way to save any other person esp the covert NPD besides myself and I must get out of that self inflicted trauma bonding which is so intoxicating for me on every level. You are a beacon of Light and I truly believe you are a Saint for doing the work that you do. Much Love, peace and plentiful Hugs.💌
@VeronicaKaneti
6 жыл бұрын
My ex partner (Narcissist) and father to my 8 year old daughter is extremely unwell. Upon hearing this I burst into tears. I'm not ashamed of this because I'm an empathic individual. Nonetheless, I don't want it to effect my journey to move on and gain strength. I feel sorry for him, although his actions and behaviour have caused him ill health; and continues to blame me. I don't want my daughter to lose her father. Although she fears him somewhat, she still loves him. For her sake I don't want him to die. But how do I not fall into his trap of manipulation? How in God's name do I armour myself? I feel desperately sad for him. I wish I didn't.
@haltedieklappe1826
6 жыл бұрын
Its too easy for unmarried people to slip away from their children esp. men. fathers are very important despite culture that diminishes that bond. Let them spend time if possible. Loadsa love x
@waywardbeast4589
6 жыл бұрын
Veronica.. I also am an empath and wow... I have learned through this Narcassist girlfriend that I am codependent as I laid down like a lamb and sacrificed myself thinking it would help return my love... God bless you.. Please email me @ Christian minded1@gmail.com... as I do not subscribe to facebook... May God bless you ...
@ren810304
5 жыл бұрын
You cannot ..they will get avid af and if you try ignoring them you will be Running for your life down the street! Not worth the price these types cost any one.
@taoster3638
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Richard. I appreciate your directness and humor. I have made quite a bit of progress but I made the mistake of letting the narc back in after struggling to get over him completely for a couple of years. I was lonely and wanted to see if things would be different this time. I ended the romantic relationship a few times in the past. Hes like a bad drug. Anyway, he quickly discarded me this time ( I think) and I am grateful. This frees me from giving my time and love to someone pretending to recipricate for a while. Most likely he will circle back and I intend to be unavailable. Anyway, I know I need to extricate him from my life completely and I am doing this now. I was feeling pretty low and dumb for letting him back in and your video perked me up. Thank you so much and God bless you.
@brendacrossan8443
4 жыл бұрын
I love it no sugar coating. This is what I need. Keep up the good work. I will be here working through my pain instead of running from it like I always have then wonder how I got involved with another narcissist. This time I'm doing the work and feeling pain and working through it. Thank you so much. I'm glad I found you.
@crumpetclaire9690
5 жыл бұрын
Richard - you are bloody marvelous!
@matthewcoolidge4722
4 жыл бұрын
Everything you have talked about in this video have really help me understand what I have been trying to figure out for over a decade. I have been in a lot of these situations, and it started with my mother and the fact I was kept from my father and lied to for my whole childhood by my whole family. And What you said about relationships and the finding a person to end the emptiness, is exactly what I did, In that relationship we had children and unfortunately it has been forced onto my son. I have tried to keep things pleasant and have fought off 7 different protection orders (which have all been terminated due to lack of evidence) to keep me from my son, it's almost like I can understand what my father went through with me as a child, and I can rationalize it better now and it is mostly for my son so I can try and brake this cycle. and hopefully give him a better life. It almost seems like it is being pushed by society to have mothers restrict fathers in the home and to gain control of these types of situations. what do you feel about the topic, about courts and the destruction of the family unit?
@nebd6167
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks Richard for what you do! Now that I have escaped my oubliette, and my hair is coming back in, and my teeth are getting fixed, I can learn to love again; and, I really LOVE that watch! LOL! Best short to date ...Really like your StrengthOfMind stuff too. Keep up the great work. Peace.
@KostasCataclysm
3 жыл бұрын
Sir, you have no idea how much your content has helped me. Your work is outstanding. Thank you!!
@brotherofthesnake8833
6 жыл бұрын
Hi Richard : I cant believe those lunkheads try to feed you crap for whatever reason . Your youtube channel has most likely had the biggest impact in identifying the narcissistic abuse that had enslaved and tormented me for years and most likely help save my life. practically gone is the inner critic along with most of the Complex PTSD Response . To be free from all that crap is almost beyond belief but it can be done . thank you ever so much : bother of the snake
@elizabethmurphy468
4 жыл бұрын
Oh I’m crying your so right, so much trauma for so ,long yes competition 27 years I need this heard it’s good therapy there thanks richard💕
@reneekelly7724
4 жыл бұрын
Out of all the videos out there I absolutely love listening to you. I have learned so much and truly appreciate what you do for all of us ❤️❤️
@pinkmoon831
4 жыл бұрын
"You can't save the lambs Clarice..." Brilliant!
@vanessaracioppi1914
4 жыл бұрын
I have been going through this for 7 years. Trying to escape. Thank you for being real. Dealing with the core truth of how to get over it. I cannot wait to start the work.
@Juliecoleen
5 жыл бұрын
This is what I've been needing to hear ♥️
@angelahankins6838
Жыл бұрын
I am ready to move on from this insanity!
@outyonder33
4 жыл бұрын
This process has taken me almost 10 years for the last at least 7 years of it I've been a subscriber a lot of your videos have been a helpful guide to get me to where I am at this point where I can actually live my life
@arus2539
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Just what I needed to hear! I'm ready to move on, and now I have the tools to do so. Thank you so very much!!! I'm keeping hope alive 😌
@keelin6942
2 жыл бұрын
Every single thing you mentioned in the beginning, He did. I'm living with his mom bc I literally don't have anywhere else. Most painful experience I keep reliving.
@nikkic3961
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being straight up & honest! Just what I need.
@shaniom913
4 жыл бұрын
The nail on the head, sir. You are gifted, and I am grateful.
@mariamkinen8036
6 жыл бұрын
With whom to break the bonds if he has disappeared in thin air?? I think I am the lucky one.
@karenh9992
4 жыл бұрын
I love your straight forward approach!
@papaske3375
6 жыл бұрын
Preach it, Richard! Keep it simple. Keep on keeping on. I'm not special, neither was/is my situation.
@bronwyntanner4501
5 жыл бұрын
Oh oh oh you nailed it - my entire marriage of 14 years. Ended 2017. Recovery healing has been tough but worth it. Listening to you has made such a HUGE difference.
@nun.9902
2 жыл бұрын
I have watched quite a few of yiur videos now and you explain things very well. I'm currently in therapy and I'll be doing DBT and Emdr and she gives me homework each week. As its early days im go in and out of realising the work i need to do on my end instead of waiting for the therapy to just 'work'. It was recently she discussed she has noticed the way i talk about my trauma its like i am trying so hard to believe it didnt happen! And that i also do the looking at the map and going over and over the events and evidence of the narcissistic abuse etc. I didn't realise any of this happening until she mentioned it and this video ive taken alot of notes and will be doing the exercises im ready to process and fix the engine instead of finding ways to avoid that and obsessing! Trauma bonding is a wild thing and didnt realise how much of this ive been doing for so long with my cptsd.. thankyou for your help and guidance now its time for me to do the work.
@DjBrunoFiasco
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for all the help.
@Salamancametalcraft
5 жыл бұрын
Seriously, this is the best. I have been reading up doing the circle jerk, not finding out a way out of this. I know it’s about me that allowed the narcissist and the past ones in my life and didn’t want a sugar coat. Thank you!!!!
@eugeniabravo1945
3 жыл бұрын
I thank you for your video, I’m trapped there. I feel trapped into trying to help my husband, we’ve separated, presently going through the court system, he’s terrible with lies yet, I can’t move on, I’m not in love with him, but I can’t stop caring for him
@laura5061
5 жыл бұрын
Please keep up this tough talk. I love this style and it’s really needed. “Keep your toys”. Puts that right where it needs to be. I don’t know if this is even a style and I apologize but this is AMAZING!
@ashleygarden6906
6 жыл бұрын
So true. It's hard work and painful. I love the gym analogy. So funny.
@brookefinley27
4 жыл бұрын
I really really appreciate your honesty and what you said has affected me in a way I’ve never experienced before. I’ve been in a trauma bond for over a year and I’m still trying to break it. I’m really trying hard and this was tremendously helpful to get me on the right path. I’ve taken many steps and I will continue to move forward and feel the emotions and work through them to get this narcissistic man out of my life so I can live a happy life... a healthy life for myself and children. A 10 year marriage and 1 year out from him.
@mamacitasalsera
5 жыл бұрын
For me, this is one of your best videos ever. I realised only fairly recently that I was thinking about it and researching it all but it was all a distraction from feeling my emotions. I have a good counsellor to who keeps bringing me back to this. I am still focusing too much on the "map" but you have just given me a good metaphorical slap round the chops! Thank you ❤
@quinnlafleur6533
Жыл бұрын
I have listened to multiple presentations but I have NEVER understood much u til now. I get what you say and it’s like you are speaking directly to me. I’ve been listening to Mr Grannon for about a week and have already gotten more out of this than the last 2 yrs of counseling!!! I’m on board!
@quinnlafleur6533
Жыл бұрын
Additionally, I have struggled to heal because I still don’t know who I am anymore. It’s been over a year from divorce and I finally feel any sense of self and able to be a little bit more of myself without fear of being ridiculed or shut down. Huge step for me. Mr Grannon is what I need as it opens my eyes and I’ve come out of hiding and enjoyed one the best family Christmas days in a decade. I forced myself to go …. Thinking we would leave early but I was the last to leave. So grateful!
@missangel412
6 жыл бұрын
Wow! Powerful! Love your realness! Thank you!👍🏼
@N1S4444
2 жыл бұрын
Watched this 2 yrs ago & again now you are 100% correct and nothing changed. I was and am scared of the steps it will take to break away on my on. I tried early on and got a taste of the further manipulation and destruction of my reputation. I just want to divorce and not have my children taken from me but, I was showed the lengths he will go to keep me from simply leaving and living alone with my kids.
@JAYNEmM1962
6 жыл бұрын
Thats where im at, 43 yrs of him doing and saying horrible insensitive things,then when i say something he calls me names and then switches the subject to him, my being so young 13 he was 21 then i was so confused it killed me when he would say i wasnt doing xyz yet i was running in circles. so then after it happeneing over and over abuse breaking my nose choking me knocking me to the ground tackle style ifi tried to leave, then the silence like you dont matter. using his buddies as a shame tool. im just about to turn 56 and want out he wont ever be a real loving man, im stuck in a tiny town surrounded by his minions.no one knows the hell ive been through well my kids know some ,but he made me feel so guilty or shame me i was worried to even say anything . how do i get stronger in my mind to leave to not worry about what he will do.
@reallythere
5 жыл бұрын
I don't know but keep trying. Never give up. Love
@AngellaPrinz
5 жыл бұрын
JAYNEmM1962 If you fear for your physical safety, connect with friends, family, law enforcement, etc. Make a plan and be very careful who you tell. Only those who need to know and you trust implicitly. If he’s physically violent with either of you already, definitely contact law enforcement for a possible order of protection. Battered women’s groups are also a place you can contact for resources. Don’t let him know of your plans in advance. Good luck!
@keiheaherakiwi1611
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Richard all you said makes perfect sense .... go thru all the emotions work thru them disseminate it’s healthy be angry be sad be happy.... make changes get outta bed early shower exercise the mind body soul it helps...1 step at a time people 1 step at a time.... you will move on ..... don’t check anything social media, restrain yourself from doing it... it’s not simple it’s hard.....
@Lewieo
6 жыл бұрын
lmao i love the humor , but im still going to quantum physically leap out of my body into another , i dont want to feel my feelings 😞😞
@Ipdex
5 жыл бұрын
Richard, this is so powerful it has made me weep & I'm a 61 yr bloke. The hurt pours out of me. I sometimes see her locally, she's smiling, laughing, or when she see's me scowl with hatred. I left her 8 months ago because I couldn't take anymore spitefulness and abuse. How can I fix this hurt. The 'she' I talk about is the 3rd one in my life. I repeat the same mistakes every time, get roped in, try to sabe them with my manic Codependancy and they abuse me and take me for granted every time. Yet I'm scared to leave 'in case they change and love me for me'. Yes my mother was the one who rejected/disowned/resented me. She told me why just before she died 10 yrs ago yet even though I know why I can't seem to heal from it. My life is underpinned by misery & wistfulness every single day. You mention your emotional literacy course. How do I access it please?
@brittanykateevans
5 жыл бұрын
Ipdex ❤️❤️❤️
@patriciarauchman8082
4 жыл бұрын
I liked the video. Being responsible of my part in the mess is far better than being the boo-hooo victim. I started watching videos about narcissism in late November. I watched Dr. Ramani, Les Carter and Abdul Saad, and discovered you in January J. I am doing the Spartan thing, can’t remember the name of the exercise, tapping my fingers 5 times a day and reading my list “I am looking to renounce the mental health issue…”. I am on day 18. The first 2 days HUGE flashbacks, I thought I was going cuckoo until I realized it was part of it or a reaction to it. In any case, I let myself feel the crazy, feel super scared, knowing that I would be alright. More good news, I haven’t relapsed in contact with the narcissist in almost two months. I experience no guilt when I feel like reaching out, I just think of how good it is being apart and how bad it is when we are together. I am aware that she will reach out when she is good and ready, I am aware that she is playing the family against me, no loss there. I hope I am ok, and centered when it happens, and if I’m not I’m sure I’ll recover fast. I am sovereign. Thank you
@RxRec
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I’ll be sharing a link to this video on my channel because there a lot of people who think they have “twin flames” 🙄 and are in some “divine” connection when what they really are, is a victim of abuse. It’s a HUGE problem because this “community” is increasing and people are capitalizing on it. And I know what I’m talking about because I went through it.THANK YOU
@kwpk7915
5 жыл бұрын
I want this video to be a commercial to be shared with all the world!!!!
@natureiswild4975
7 күн бұрын
Six years ago.. your videos have changed so much🥰.. but I’m going old school today and watching this 🎉
@analyticshackercom
4 жыл бұрын
I literally will have to start watching this every day before sleep. Thank you . So happy to have come across your content
@KeenanGlass
3 жыл бұрын
This may be the best of the best video Richard has ever created.
@recindy7399
4 жыл бұрын
I am here by choice and SO GLAD I FOUND YOU!! I NEED THIS - THANK YOU!!
@LIZARDMAN101616
6 жыл бұрын
Great vid lad. 👍🏻
@tiffytoo
4 жыл бұрын
This is the most honest video I have ever seen. As bad as it hurts I have to help me.
@taniaspence4879
5 жыл бұрын
Hi Richard, I am a fan and always so good to listen and see your fresh, authentic and realistic approach to all that is healing and from the uk. Absolutely agree, such hard work to stay focused and honest. Narc victim abuse syndrome in itself has so many twists of confusion and worst of all not knowing if it’s a lie is biggest ever head fuck. Great video, thank you and from quantum healing aspect your soooo funny, however I actually think it’s helping me. For over a year I have been investing in self, everything that’s available and obviously still in process, I know it’s early days (23 years of marriage and mother who is toxic) but wanted to add that although I have absolutely no money, you’re completely right to get pissed off about people not finding out and simply taking the right route even if it’s tough (excruciating actually). I have been no contact for 6 months and have a councillor, peer group, abuse centre programmes, homeopathy,support workers and of course yourself, Kris Godinaz, Sam Vaknin another really great healer is Freedom from narcfree formula, please check her out Richard cause she just kills me with pain and laughter much like yourself. Please keep healing us, you’re an absolute gift. Would love to know what you think of her, I know you must be super busy but it’s fascinating watching her progress and process (like all of us) the toxic head fuckery that these fucked up assholes throw our way. Ooooops a bit of unprocessed bitterness fell out, will set to work on this immediately!!!!!!! Much love xx
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