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@cyrilvankeirsbelk7299
Ай бұрын
The appropriate response to a girl cheating on you and leaving you is to throw a party, then date her sister.
@tedadams1324
Ай бұрын
Reekay, this was one of the most useful, most helpful videos you've ever produced. As you were giving your very sage advice, I thought to myself "this is the kind of advice a good father would tell his children, particularly his sons". I gathered that you were an intelligent man but, I had no idea that you were so intellectual! Thank you for posting!
@Lifebeyondthesea
Ай бұрын
thanks! i do what i can. :)
@CLCIII
Ай бұрын
Once again, Reekay is the reasonable, responsible, voice of reason. Unfortunately, common sense isn't always common. As Always, May God Bless you and yours! 😇
@acedjgaming6779
Ай бұрын
The godfather strikes again! Great stuff reekay, esp the part where you talked about wasting time trying to fix someone vs just moving on to meet someone else. This really hit home for me .
@Jaguarist
Ай бұрын
I use "What If ...." thaught process and think my reaction and action for it. It helps me to be prepeared in almost every situtation in life.
@nows1567
Ай бұрын
The taoist reference is really good. In my youth I tried to force things, not in the romance department necessarily, but in the jobs I had and the result was often I had to work much harder with less support from collegues etc to "bring home the bacon". It also often happened that I got into conflicts with bosses/co-workers that just took up a lot of energy. Eventually I changed my approach and stopped reacting so hard on what I saw as bad behaviour from others. It turned out I got much more support from bosses and co-workers after that change, but also that ppl I saw as dysfunctional in the work place, well sooner or later they tended to get in real trouble, not by my doing, but their own. The problem implementing this in your love life is, I think, that your heart may get in the way. You meet someone that checks your boxes, or at least you think she does. You fall in love in your "idea" of her and when it turns out, she doesn't really match your idea of how she should be as a woman/partner, it's probably easy to deny it and then just kinda lose yourself, accepting unacceptable stuff or lose it and become vengeful. I guess what you're saying is that you should "check your heart at the entrance" and try to be rational about it: She is who she is, your idea of who she should be won't materialize unless she actually is that person to start with and ppl seldom are just the way you want them. Moreover, if you're not really compatible, stop fearing loneliness etc and move on. It probably is wise, but likely easier said then done if you meet someone, say the first in a long time, that checks your "look and femininity boxes". It is what it is, in my home country some stalinist feminists actually had a debate in the papers whether women fell in love at all, the way men does. And they were actually pretty reasonable about it, they concluded women don't, it's often a long ride for them to get any real feelings for a man at all. And if you don't have that, they likely can "play" someone" more effectively, since they'll see relationships with men from more practical perspectives, will he bring security, can I keep him or will other women be a threat, etc, etc. If a guy then is just emfatuated over some lady, well guess who has the upper hand. One thing I learned was kinda commen among ladies in my home country, was that they could go for guys that for different reasons would be a "hard sell" to other women. My ex for instance was crazy jealous during our marriage and no, she was not a filipina, she was from the west. Now, I knew myself I wasn't exactly a "wanted man" by other ladies there, exvept for in her deranged mind. Long after our divorce, where I had to live that reality down, I realized that she probably married me, at least partly, cos she figured other ladies wouldn't be very interested in me. Well, it's kinda funny what "tricks" life has up its sleeve. But I think your right, we guys need to not let our heart or our own ideas of what some woman is take control and be lots smarter about it. I wonder though, why it's so complicated nowadays. In the old days, women would just take you as you were back home too, if you had a job and didn't seem too crazy. Hence, you didn't have to think about this stuff so much. Now you have to be a philosopher, even to get a reasonable woman in SE Asia. It seems life is overly complicated nowadays, I guess it is what it is.
@NewAdventuresAhead
Ай бұрын
This is solid advice. I -try- to do this as much as possible. Feels good to have a plan for Murphy’s inevitable and many knocks. When it comes to situations like red flags and such, it’s especially important to have already told yourself what you will do. That’s in line with what you said before about writing down ahead of time the things you want in a Filipina. Anything I can do to circumvent a lack of willpower is a good thing! So far I’ve only gotten to know Filipinas online… in person will be much more challenging with pheromones and raw beauty right in front of me, lol. My plan is to meet quite a few in person so I’m not so tempted to latch onto one that isn’t fully what I want. Abundance = Easier to stick to my guns.
@Jon2.2.0
Ай бұрын
Taoism is a deep one. Most let it go right over their heads. But if you take some time with it and yourself, well let’s just say doors begin to open.
@Lifebeyondthesea
Ай бұрын
lao tzu knows his stuff.
@aschroer
Ай бұрын
The Tao really is a beautiful set a philosophies to follow. In Many ways it is hard to reconcile some of the principles with our American way of life. Always being a striver and a businessman, I struggle with some of the concepts. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
@JordanBarak
Ай бұрын
The Way We of Taoism sounds very close to the Kaballah teaching which preaches never to react to a situation, as then you are letting other people control you, but rather to actually assess your situation, decide what is most beneficial for you and act accordingly. Lead, don't be led!
@rlwings
Ай бұрын
Awesome content as usual. Thanks Reekay!
@theblackboxpodcastshow1791
Ай бұрын
Yes , you should apply stoic philosophies to your everyday life, this is what l use and stand by words from Marcus Aurelius . Yes that was from Elton John ( Get Back Honky cat)
@acedjgaming6779
Ай бұрын
Have you ever read the Tao of Pooh? Great book i read in my 20s and introduced me to taoism thru the winnie the pooh characters.
@Lifebeyondthesea
Ай бұрын
i flipped through it at a bookstore years ago, but not actually read the whole thing. seemed interesting.
@nexuscafedotcom
Ай бұрын
The Tao of Pooh and the Te of Piglet are really great books to get an understanding of Taoism. I read them in college and still apply the Taoist teachings to my everyday life. They are worth the read.
@noycambodia5518
Ай бұрын
Sounds much like Cognitive Behavioral Science
@johnwrayy-gm7pg
Ай бұрын
I wonder if Reekay is going to do a video on the " Gentle Woman" phenomena that is going on in the Philippines right now. I wonder if Vi has a" Gentle Woman "handbag or shirt?
@Lifebeyondthesea
Ай бұрын
she's not into fashion-fads. but does dress nicely. she only uploads to her channel maybe once every few months, it's not a focus of hers.. just for fun sometimes.
@Philibusting
Ай бұрын
Very interesting point Rikee. Personally I tend to react (or even over react) to situations only to regret my response immediately. Road rage is an issue for me but I been working on holding back, especially here. But here recently I have been facing some incompatibility issues with my GF which result in more frequent disagreements which lead to time apart in the house and sleeping in separate rooms. In short, my appetite is greater than hers and that creates friction. I’ve asked her to move back home a few times but she doesn’t want to leave. Told her I did not come here to be in a frustrating relationship or to be miserable. She apologizes in her own way and we’re good for a few days until we have another spat. She’s much younger than me but I feel like I could live without her and possibly find a replacement soon enough. I’m just not sure how to end it. Anyone?
@williamblaker2628
Ай бұрын
Sounds like you're not compatible with her. She knows this, as well, but her reluctance to leave may be due to her financial situation without you. So, since this would be an amicable split, give her a little financial security so that she's not out on the street. Provide enough to get her a place to live, and income to live on for 3 months so she can have a soft landing. By western income standards, that wouldn't take much money. Meanwhile, when she's out, you can pursue what you want.
@nows1567
Ай бұрын
If you still can speak with each other about your problems, maybe just talk to her about it. Sure, no point sticking around in a bad relationship, but it may also be some things she's unhappy with. In my experience, if you can actually get a woman to talk about how she wants things to be, it often isn't very big things that are the problems. And if you show her you care enough to get to know her that way, she'll be more loving further on. If she's not a scammer that is, that just throws out a lot of stuff that really isn't the issues, than you need to ask her to move out. You do need to help her with that though, so she has somewhere to go.
@squealer42
Ай бұрын
Groveling at a woman's feet doesn't win her back from her cheating ways?
@AdamM-u2i
Ай бұрын
What's your other channels name? Do you still have it?
@Lifebeyondthesea
Ай бұрын
www.youtube.com/@heavenandearth-reekay/videos
@thegrumchronicles3558
Ай бұрын
Reekay, I found a youtuber that is reposting your videos for views on his channel. I know how hard you work and I'd hate to see someone using that hard work to further their own channel. His channel is called Roni flip.
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