I blocked HER on everything i never want to speak to HER again she’s sick.
@jeskahaley9616
6 күн бұрын
Yea I blocked him on everything a couple days ago.
@aliciashort
8 күн бұрын
Thanks Ben. I needed this today. I keep going back and forth thinking maybe I should unblock him and tell him I’m done (for my closure) then I realize that this is my closure. I need to just stay focused on me and realize there is no real closure. I have to create it myself and heal. ❤
@therollingstone9701
8 күн бұрын
You can tell him, and get a very effective closure. Blocking is great buy saying goodbye before is closure for you. He will get the message.
@jeskahaley9616
6 күн бұрын
@@therollingstone9701unless he doesn’t…
@sonlightpsalm942
6 күн бұрын
You get the closure, when you close the book on them permanently, move on and become the best version of yourself, reaching your full potential as a human being in this lifetime. You know you've arrived! 😊❤😊
@patriziastella6564
7 күн бұрын
I dont believe in chasing someone that used & abused me. The last time he hoovered me was 6 mnths & i did not respond. I've come to realize that his not the right person for me i certainly deserve better. My self love & self worth is my priority now.
@sonlightpsalm942
6 күн бұрын
Excellent! 😊
@anissaholmes4495
7 күн бұрын
Exactly! Once you don’t give a care what happens and you mentally ‘let go’ of the relationship l. The narcissist is cooked. Stick a fork in him,he’s done. you don’t really care anymore. So 🤷🏼♀️.
@cashkonvirterz8696
7 күн бұрын
This... ma'am.. is what I REALLY needed to hear 👍💯👍 thank you
@kellyl1457
3 күн бұрын
The narc feels no guilt and they certainly do not care about you. Just get away and stay away!
@himadrimishra
6 күн бұрын
When you are trauma bonded.....it's really really difficult, may be next to impossible to detach from that person. But we have to .....have to.....have to......break that bond....
@RawMotivations
4 күн бұрын
That is what I specialize in Would love to help you on your healing journey. Check out this video to see if you connect: www.rawmotivations.com/breakthrough
@beverleysilcock9135
8 күн бұрын
Dont play the game
@therollingstone9701
8 күн бұрын
Right.
@RobNiser
7 күн бұрын
@@therollingstone9701 Never
@sonlightpsalm942
6 күн бұрын
Amen. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes! 😊
@teresadvorak6145
6 күн бұрын
I don't want to hurt the narc. I want to stop them,repel them & disconnect. Tryin to take care of the hurt the narc puts on me.♡♡♡♡
@1111spiritualone
7 күн бұрын
Ben, you’re speaking on the narcissist being discarded first. We all know that drives the narcissist crazy. However, when we are discarded first they no longer care what you do or if you go no contact because they feel in control. It’s a big difference when we are discarded.
@vikkibmspoetry
8 күн бұрын
I needed to hear this today!! Been fighting myself to set boundaries and learn how to parent with him without him having access to me.
@therollingstone9701
8 күн бұрын
Parenting someone without granting access is not parenting.
@vikkibmspoetry
8 күн бұрын
@@therollingstone9701 he doesn't need access to me to be a good father to his children.
@empressb444
7 күн бұрын
Firm parenting plan, specific drop off location, only communicate in parenting app or text only, limit to 1x a week- don’t speak at drop off
@therollingstone9701
7 күн бұрын
@@empressb444 Man, I had to write this down, I have learned a lot in 3 years of separation, but that comment is really what needs to be done. She stills tries to make drama at dropoff, but I stay calm and she slams the door eventually and then I go back to my car. I never raise my voice, she gets tired easily. What a nutjob experience.
@sonlightpsalm942
6 күн бұрын
Cool 😊❤😊 Grey rock all the way! You're amasing.
@therollingstone9701
8 күн бұрын
You are a good teacher bro. That helps.
@lynnschaeferle-zh4go
4 күн бұрын
I was lucky because the narcissist I dealt with was way to proud to care. He was so special he would never Hoover. After doing all the work and being treated poorly all I can say is he’s pathetically stuck at age three.
@oliver1224
5 күн бұрын
You can wound them but you have to be blunt with them.. This is how you hurt them. They may appear tough on the outside but they are fragile on the inside......
@dcikaruga
8 күн бұрын
It has crossed my mind though, they're already in pain anyway, that's part of the reason why they do what they do.
@RawMotivations
8 күн бұрын
We're here to support your healing journey. Come join us in this free masterclass to learn about the secret methods on breaking free from the toxic, break the bond and empower yourself once more. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass
@amiravdic7451
7 күн бұрын
Idk if that’s the reason buddy. Or if it is I’d like to know what pain. Cuz I myself was molested from 3-7. War started at 8 so watching nonstop beheadings killing n shit I can’t write here all while starving not knowing if I’m next to be offed. Came here with 0 English n a buncha bullies. Can’t imagine being a narcissist for the life of me. So I ain’t condescending I’m genuinely curious what this greater pain than mine is which causes that shit n didn’t cause it in me. I wanna have a lightbulb moment n go “AAAAAA HOW TF DID I THINK WHAT I WENT THROUGH IS ABUSE!!!!???? WHEN THE NARCISSIST IS THE MEANING OF WHAT GOING THROUGH SUFFERING N SHIT IS N BECOMING AN INHUMAN POS DUE TO IT!!!!” Whenever I read anyone write they end up that way due to neglect or poor/shitty upbringing my mind goes completely blank n calls bs on it cuz I already know it’s 💯 fact that 99.9999999999 of narcs didn’t have the misfortune to see what real shit is. I’m in several Chicago Tribune 1993 papers which I doubt any narcissists can relate to such inhumane experiences. What’s ironic is she hurt me more than any of those experiences cuz they were ordered to carry out massacres but she did it sneakily like a wolf in sheep’s clothing
@Virtualdell73
7 күн бұрын
Many people go through terrible hardship and abuse and trauma, even as children, and don’t choose to treat people the way narcissists do… Experiencing personal pain is zero excuse for inflicting pain on others.
@dcikaruga
7 күн бұрын
@@Virtualdell73 Agreed, there's enough pain and suffering in the world as it is, and we don't need anymore, but you try telling that to these morons.......
@RawMotivations
4 күн бұрын
@@Virtualdell73 I agree
@sherriprentice5892
6 күн бұрын
One day Karma will serve him everything he gave ten fold. And I will pray for the sob not 4 him but for me... May they all answer to the Boss when our lifetimes are done.
@sonlightpsalm942
5 күн бұрын
@sherriprentice5892 As you let go of the past and embrace your future, and heal from the trauma, to come, and become the victorious overcomer that you are....to embrace all that life is meant to be, with gratitude for the experiences, good and bad, along this journey called life, may you be filled with, and embrace the love that's meant to be yours. It's starts with unconditional love for yourself along this journey called life.
@miller5170
4 күн бұрын
I think they are their own karma already. They live in denial bc they do feel shame they feel awful about themselves and have to constantly malfunction bc of it they lose friends and family and love they lose it all people will usually figure them out they usually don’t have real friends that will be there for them over time they get old and less attractive they have nothing left to offer when it really matters
@joeg297
6 күн бұрын
Why would you want to stoop to a narcissist's level? Why would you want to purposely hurt someone?
@FranciscoQuinonez-tb7wv
5 күн бұрын
Can’t do it. One who spends their time fighting monsters needs to be careful they don’t become a monster themselves.
@Denzella2154
8 күн бұрын
Preach it Ben 👏👏👏👏👏❤ you ain’t dropping nothing but TRUTH 🎯
@anneroseweiler3869
8 күн бұрын
There's a lot of beauty in this conundrum. The saddest thing would be to get lost in an abyss of hatred and revenge. It's great when the meanest thing you can do to someone else is to take care of yourself and become free! 😊 it helps you refocus in your darkest moments and reminds you of who you really want to be.
@sonlightpsalm942
6 күн бұрын
Very simple and direct. When you can grow past the hatred and resentment of a past partner that is incapable of growing emotionally and spiritually because they're emotionally unable to cope and refuse to look inward because of their fragile ego, that they've protected at all cost their whole life. When you can do that, you know in your heart that you've arrived at another level in your growth process that they'll never achieve. 😊❤😊 When you can become thankful that you've gone through the very fires of emotional hell that they've put you through to help develop you into the human being that God intended you to become. Not needing anyone else's affirmations or validation......you know, you've begun the most beautiful and important step in your life. To grow into the best version of you! Be thankful. Your amasing! ❤
@beverleysilcock9135
8 күн бұрын
They always have to win
@therollingstone9701
8 күн бұрын
Or else they collapse. Stay away is best for you.
@sonlightpsalm942
6 күн бұрын
Unfortunately, they don't understand that what they think is winning, is them actually losing! lol 😊 They lost you. It's their karma.
@sharonb519
8 күн бұрын
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Thank you. 💕
@RawMotivations
8 күн бұрын
We're here to support your healing journey. Come join us in this free masterclass to learn about the secret methods on breaking free from the toxic, break the bond and empower yourself once more. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass
@turthgod1917
2 күн бұрын
You have great information! The only drawback is that I am a male victim so every time you say "He" or Him" I have to say "Her"
@kellyhall4589
6 күн бұрын
He was so abusive I fainted and hurt myself. Still recovering from surgery. I texted him I never fainted like that before and it almost happened again. He is one of the most toxic people I've known. I would never forgive him. Then I blocked his number.
@ronitgilboa8315
7 күн бұрын
One of ur best videos. So so true , I was and went through all the stages realizing that I that matter is me all I need to focus is on me , no time to spend on feeling pity or want revenge or closure, me me for the first time in my life loving and nurturing myself, not easy having kids and business together but I’m learning to play it right staying together giving no reaction, staying centered and keep working on my growth , thank u thank u Love ur passion we need one like u so helpful knowledge is power 😊💖👏🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻🌸
@m.o.s.h.1836
3 күн бұрын
don't hurt them because God will punish them.
@marciehamilton-graves5036
7 күн бұрын
You speak so much truth. It’s alllll about valuing yourself, healing, caring about yourself enough to turn away from such games playing and immaturity.
@Danny-pc8mw
3 күн бұрын
But what to do if you are married 😢
@sumairae1078
5 күн бұрын
This is good
@karmabender
6 күн бұрын
awesome
@msavandeventer690
8 күн бұрын
We crossed paths today driving passed each other. I was triggered, he was not bothered!
@NMTDelightfulMusic
6 күн бұрын
In time it will reverse, beleive me 😆😅🤣😅😆
@shamama1834
7 күн бұрын
The titled scared me to listen to it bcuz it’s not right to seek revenge, but I was relieved to hear you explain that we need to heal & this is what actually hurts a narcissist. Bazaar. Thank you for explaining it so well.
@jedwin4491
8 күн бұрын
I been discarded by a my ex he continues to breadcrumb me and has multiple supply’s now but I depend on him finically and continue to beg. What do you do when you need them still I’m scared if I stop pursuing him he will stop helping and forget about me. We have two kids 😢
@seameology
7 күн бұрын
Get out. He will eventually abandon you, anyway. You will still be struggling. But it's on your terms. If you wait until he discards you, then you won't be prepared, even mentally. 🙏 praying for you. I've been there.
@NMTDelightfulMusic
6 күн бұрын
Find cousins to help you, start looking for a job, plan exit. Listen to H.G.Tudor how to do that
@charlottestaley-yz9tu
5 күн бұрын
He will abandon you, get a plan together to make sure you you are ok when he drops you or plan and run , you are in discard stage as you are aware xxx
@emavanstek5442
7 күн бұрын
I think he is an silence narcissist I wan to break up An find a place for my own I’m a little bit nervous about his reaction Nobody knows it just a couple of friends It’s hard But I don’t feel a connection
@tammyfitzgerald5336
7 күн бұрын
🎤🎤🎤💯💯💯🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰
@mortischahicks5341
7 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing another wonderful video 🫶
@foxygayla
7 күн бұрын
If he really wanted to reach out to me, he could have mailed a letter. I made that mistake and mailed him a letter when he ghosted me. Unbelievable.
@JosephMercieca-l6m
7 күн бұрын
Hello Ben can hurt a narcissist even if she loose interest? Thanks
@miller5170
4 күн бұрын
Do good for yourself be the best happiest you ❤
@JosephMercieca-l6m
4 күн бұрын
@@miller5170 thanks
@JosephMercieca-l6m
4 күн бұрын
@@miller5170 thanks
@anons000
10 сағат бұрын
Stop saying HE. Many many many female narcissists too
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