I read the title, yesterday evening, and I was like "yeeah sure, this topic isn't really relevant to my experience. Whatever, I'll listen to it one day or another". Now I'm two minutes in, and this is like one of the KEY problems of my life. Self awareness is surely a curious business.
@swifty23
9 жыл бұрын
Me too! "Hmm maybe this will help me understand others who have this issue" *start watching video after a few minutes * "oh god this is helping me understand my SELF!" Hahaha
@dilemmablue2494
4 жыл бұрын
Saaame
@ckse7536
4 жыл бұрын
I noticed that when voicing my opinion I automatically feel ready to lose that person...
@Alpha_zone84
3 жыл бұрын
you too eh I know that feeling lol
@ally7030
3 жыл бұрын
same...because my mother raised me with the belief that it will happen
@anjalimujumdar8480
3 жыл бұрын
If you don't voice it, you lose yourself
@ezrakamari8123
3 жыл бұрын
dunno if anyone cares but if you guys are stoned like me atm then you can stream pretty much all the new series on instaflixxer. I've been watching with my gf during the lockdown =)
@raulcrew5116
3 жыл бұрын
@Ezra Kamari Yup, been using InstaFlixxer for since december myself :D
@Tripl3333
5 жыл бұрын
I became Passive Aggressive because of this avoiding....conflict thing...
@andreperry3301
4 жыл бұрын
It's nice to watch this video again. I remember when it first came out I was living in my car, and heavily avoiding conflict with my family. Over 4 years later, I'm in a much better living situation, but I've come up with even better coping strategies to avoid conflict and feel emotionally safe. I'd say I'm doing pretty good ^_^
@yvonneshanson1525
3 жыл бұрын
💪😘💖
@perijove
4 жыл бұрын
Again, amazing how Teal says "...in many families however, especially families where the parents seek to have their identity validated through the child, difference is not acceptable...and is treated with punishment..." almost as an aside...but this tiny clause encapsulates so many of my relationship struggles with my mother. It doesn't just explain that differences were punished, it explains WHY (they seek validation through their child), in a way that makes forgiving her for it and having compassion SO FREAKIN EASY. Thank you so much!
@ellssss_
5 жыл бұрын
I find it soo hard. I’m so scared to talk to people about how I feel that I just tell everyone but the person that I feel all the things about. I just want to be able to go up to them and be honest, but it scares me so much. I’m scared to start an argument or get in a fight. This was really helpful ❤️❤️❤️
@StephJ0seph
2 жыл бұрын
Damn Teal, you’re really out here saving the world by repairing relationships one person at a time. I admire that👏
@supercoolio120
9 жыл бұрын
Jesus, I took like 4 pages of notes and it is 2 am. I need to sleep. Thank you for this video. I was raised and conditioned through a broken family to avoid conflict, and what you said literally resonates with EVERYTHING that I experience with everyday life. I will continue to watch this in the morning, swell as watch your other 2 videos. Thank you very much Teal, take care!
@goldendots7626
4 жыл бұрын
@CJ Walters 😝
@adventurer1913
Жыл бұрын
That would have been imp for you that's why.
@aimee_san
Жыл бұрын
Lol i take notes too. I have a book for this. 200 pages square ruled for maximum resourcing
@thejetsonslol
9 жыл бұрын
The best part about Teal's videos: watching them again.
@earth_and_spice
3 жыл бұрын
And the inside joke that makes her laugh at the human condition - like it's a private joke - I feel like I understand and I'd also really like for her to share what makes her laugh in those moments :)
@hannahentrelesmailles
5 жыл бұрын
I'm starting to show up for myself and to get to know myself. One month ago, I asked myself: what are my feras? What am I afraid of? And I found no Answers to those questions. I was triggered, and about two weeks ago I remembered my inner child traumas. As far as I can remember, fear of conflict did not come from my parents, although they might have not prepared me to stand up for myself. I had a friend Who would always command me to do or not do sometjing, or else she would not be my friend anymore. Our relationship was based on power and fear. I would do anything to keep her as a friend. I know that my fear of conflict and my communication problems comes from this period of my life. And that I am constantly suffering from my lack of boundaries and my fear of conflict. You gave me Some really good advice Teal, thank you. My opinion is not unworthy compared to theirs. I have the right to express myself. If the other person is not okay with that, I must distance myself from them. Emotional sécurity is met when I can express myself without being dominated by others.
@DisguisedEnigma
4 жыл бұрын
Hannah Charpin I had a friend too growing up that I think now had a big part in affecting my shutting off behaviour and self esteem. We often think it's our family but friends can be as destructive, especially in those early years when we have no blueprint for being treated better, or how to cope or stand up for oneself. Friends (or family friends etc) outside the family home can accentuate the negative coping strategies we live by and then it's reinforced early on ..oh man I did not expect life to be so full of conflict when I came into this world 🐢 I was So Confused why everything felt so wrong. why everyone was acting out. hence the psychological spiritual interests seeking answers and yrs later still searching!... teals video on compassion is really good too, came to mind linked with this one..
@s.e.f8160
4 жыл бұрын
That’s beautiful!
@Binichmoses2
7 жыл бұрын
This is my major problem... i even escape conversation immediately cause i just dont wanna be in a conflict... thank you so much teal
@tubefile100
4 жыл бұрын
Teal, avoiding conflict doesn't automatically mean that your boundaries are weak. In some situations engaging in conflict could mean being kicked out of the house and having nowhere to go, no one to turn to or even being killed. In these situations it's not that the person has weak boundaries, it's just that they would be unable to cope with the consequences.
@dawnemile7499
3 жыл бұрын
Why would you have nowhere to go? There are no relatives, no school counsellors, no police, no community resources or just that you had not thought of or knew about their resources?
@barebeauty708
8 жыл бұрын
This woman is smart. Thank you so much for this video.
@gracegrace3288
3 жыл бұрын
I quit a internship I needed so bad just to avoid a conflict with a co-worker. I gave other excuses but I was literally I avoiding the conflict , no more now
@devinevisionary
3 жыл бұрын
I love her random bursts of laughter. Then they have to cut the camera and say come teal this is serious 😂 at least that’s what I picture.
@BeUnlimited-hu3iq
3 ай бұрын
How much information is just one Video of Teal is absolutely mind blowing
@RaulMartinez-py2mi
9 жыл бұрын
I find your videos extremely useful. Your delivery is very on-point, as is your message.Thank you.
@sephoraholic5439
3 жыл бұрын
Video by video, you are changing...and saving...my life. Thank you, Teal. From my heart and soul, thank you so, so much. 🦋✨💗
@waldBestMusics
2 ай бұрын
i get so over emotional when i watch your videos, thx teal, finally a great understanding loving person has a arrive to help us in our daily lives, thx again!
@JohnSmith-hi6op
9 жыл бұрын
I have an experience of overcoming fear to share. About two and a half weeks ago I was in the woods by myself in the middle of the night just trying to spread good energy and giving off kind thoughts. Then I got the idea to create a ball of light with my hands. I don't know where it came from but I became determined to do it. So I tried for hours and all I could do was get my hands to glow(which I was very proud of at the time). So I tried again the next night and had the same results. Then on the 17th I was there just after dark and I started doing my thing. After about an hour and a half all I could do was get my hands to glow, then it happened. A tiny ball of light appeared between my hands and went straight up. A huge rush went through me and two seconds later I made another one. It was about the size of a pinhead but very bright. It also went straight up into the sky. The excitement I felt was incredible! Just as I was about to create another, the nastiest most unearthly growl came from the darkness about six feet from me. My heart nearly exploded! I knew right away it wasn't an animal for no animal on this planet would ever make a noise anywhere close to that. My first thought was of gargoyles or something similar. I stood frozen for about ten seconds. From the time I was a child up until then, the fear I'd felt my whole life combined was not even close to what I felt at that moment. My heart was beating so hard that it hurt the next day. After about ten seconds I felt an unbelievable strength surge through me and I said NO! I AM NOT AFRAID OF YOU! THIS IS MY RIGHT AND MY FREE WILL! I'M STAYING TILL DAWN! So for the next four hours or so, I continued to create balls of light, a couple of which shot straight up into the sky growing in size, others shooting down the path lighting up the forest as they went, while dozens of these things made the nastiest noises at me and putting terrible thoughts into my head. But I would not be defeated! I had love to spread and nothing was going to stop me. I was prepared to die! Every time fear started to rise up(which happened quite frequently) I would spread my arms out, breath deeply and say "I'm right here" and I would continue to dig deep and find my courage. I was so deep into the energy field that I saw them several times. They walked on two legs, had a rounded like snout, were like black shadow and had a red outline like broken electricity. They were between five and seven feet tall and I could only see them when they moved. As dawn came, they slowly moved back into the woods, keeping in the darkness. When I left my life had changed forever. I felt so powerful that words cannot describe it. I have been out till dawn almost every night since and so much has happened that words cannot describe it. We are powerful my friends! Just recently my pineal gland opened up so much that it felt like a hundred pounds of pressure was right in the center of my forehead. This is so incredible! My whole life is now dedicated to spreading the most loving energy I possibly can. I feel so good! If anyone has had an experience like this please share. Blessings to you my friends.
@supercoolio120
9 жыл бұрын
+John Smith Please teach me how to create fireballs and open up my pineal gland. Thank you
@JohnSmith-hi6op
9 жыл бұрын
Well, I have never made a fireball in my life. I've made light balls. As for opening up your pineal gland, I believe that nature is key. You must spend a lot of time in the forest and actually feel as one with nature. Try to see the energy around you. The more you see, the more will open up to you. Once you see it you can play with it, move it around and start to gain a sense of control over it. Being in a loving state is crucial. If you are afraid or are worried or just thinking negatively at all, it won't work well for you. If you understand that you are a God having a physical experience with the goal of expanding the whole of everything, it will help you to have an open mind. There are no limitations! You can do anything you want if you believe you can! Try drawing energy from everything around you and concentrating it into one area. People have done amazing things throughout history because they believed in their power and would not let anyone tell them otherwise. You have the power my friend. Go and have some fun with it. Peace and love to all.
@supercoolio120
9 жыл бұрын
John Smith Unfortunately, I am unable to get into nature for the sole reason of being afraid of being on my own in nature. Fear holds me back. Also, I have no friends who like to be out in nature. But how do you light up your hands? Do you use Chi?
@JohnSmith-hi6op
9 жыл бұрын
Yes I believe it is Chi. I didn't understand or even delve into any of this before May of this year. I have much to learn. For lighting up my hands, it was basically just drawing energy into me from all life around me. I draw a lot of energy from the entities around me. It's because I know who they are and where they come from. This eliminates my fear of them no matter how big and loud they are, and allows me to love them which is key. They give me their essence because of this love.
@MontyRoyale
2 ай бұрын
Ok, this might actually be the most important piece of information I’ve ever come across about why I can’t seem to resolve the conflicts in my life. I think I’m going to watch this one 10 more times.
@lindsayobrien7950
4 жыл бұрын
It's true conflict in the right way does deepen the connection with others
@TheScaryGermanGuy
7 жыл бұрын
It's true. I can't remember a single time one of my parents actually apologized to the other one. Instead they kept blaming the other one for being upset and waited for dust to settle on its own.
@YukoYoshikane82
2 жыл бұрын
I love how much she gives me different perspectives and now I’m dealing with my fears instead of just avoiding them 🙏🏼❤️
@YukoYoshikane82
2 жыл бұрын
It’s crazy how much of perspective can do and change a human.
@kewkiex5328
4 жыл бұрын
Literally just starting watching her vids not for even a whole week. I've already made some changes and it helped me so much, I've always felt stuck for these past years and now I feel like I'm getting somewhere in life
@RoseMarieJamesJr
8 жыл бұрын
Teal, Can you make a video on how to deal with conflicting needs within yourself? Thank you
@hannakarlsson2902
7 жыл бұрын
She did! The healing trap
@MegJ326
7 жыл бұрын
Pure gold. I wonder how she keeps all these videos organized... there are literally thousands. Very impressive.
@BobPDXz
8 жыл бұрын
Another masterpiece from Teal.
@windandfire22
9 жыл бұрын
I'm all about self-improvement and spirituality but I also think that's a gorgeous sweater Teal is wearing.
@AXharoth
9 жыл бұрын
Mireille good good
@seaglass8084
3 жыл бұрын
wow. just wow. this explains so much of my life, especially the connection to early childhood + absence of guidance on how to deal with emotions
@poppydaisy4828
9 жыл бұрын
This is good timing, I have a conflict brewing and can't stop worrying about it Thanks!
@jaquelinevillegas8232
9 жыл бұрын
this video just solved one of the main issues i have with myself. thank you teal for all of your wisdom and energy.
@forfreedomssake4315
2 жыл бұрын
I'll need to rewatch this video... SO much good info. Thank you
@himanshu5948
3 жыл бұрын
I love you Teal swan. U r my daily dose of reality and power.
@MadManEtv
2 жыл бұрын
Theres nothing I want more than to face my conflict.. but I never felt a pain like the anxiety when i do.. it feels a million times worse. I only feel safe on my own.
@cainen6355
7 жыл бұрын
It's impressive how perfect these Pictures in Teals videos fit the Things she say.
@supercanuckster
9 жыл бұрын
Thanks Teal,not to be on the defensive in a conflict,invaluable! I used it.
@Poppinthepagne
2 жыл бұрын
1. Avoid conflict - is to misrepresent ourself, by creating shiny curtain, but when soon later shiny curtain falls, people get confused who you were… 2. Fear of conflict - boundaries issues, lack of them. 3. If there is going to be discomfort anyway, is avoiding the conflict worth it? 4. Conflict is opportunity, not a disaster. Perfect time to gain knowledge about yourself, authenticity 5. Ask fear - what would be so bad to upset someone? 6. Conflict - can deeper the connection with someone
@jenniferdonnelly6993
2 жыл бұрын
I was so anxious and afraid I became Agoraphobic. Thank You Teal Swan for giving me permission to Assert MYSELF despite the risks of losing contractual and conditional Love.
@wolfkai82
4 жыл бұрын
Yes! Exactly one of the questions I need answered along with how to speak up for yourself and learn to be assertive
@margaretcooper797
4 жыл бұрын
The things she says are deeply profound and valuable to know.Teal gives some excellent advice.
@shanazsingh5870
9 жыл бұрын
As a meditation teacher that has also worked in conflict resolution, I would feel that at the end of each mediation session, I just wanted to hand out my ‘learn to meditate’ card as soon as possible! This would address much that has to be worked through prior to reaching any agreement. It is the continual internal unresolved states that attracts conflict as well. I always recall that saying: 'Don’t attract it’. True, conflict is inevitable for us all to some degree, some immerse themselves all the time and others skim the surface of it. This work is done at both ends, quietly, with the felt sense and also by Allowing. A combination of allowing and our own self- mastery. Watching this video actually helps you be more comfortable with potential minor conflicts and would be great for anyone to view! Thank-you Teal-always enjoy your videos!
@theinterfaithshepherd9075
8 жыл бұрын
Teal Swan .... Great video! Very insightful, well thought out and communicated.
@missyv5704
4 жыл бұрын
I just found your channel a few days ago. I love you!! You're really amazing, thank you.
@hanankhalifa2589
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Just in time.
@infamousfanclub
9 жыл бұрын
Love your videos Teal. Thank you.
@LivingSimplyyAstrology
4 жыл бұрын
Everytime I see one of your videos Im like I dont have a problem with X subject but let me listen to her wisdom. And each time you prove me wrong. Alway receiving great value, insight and aha moments. Thank you for sharing with us. Bless this woman.
@bizarrepanic2701
7 жыл бұрын
What do you do when you are honest and very direct about who you are, but people find that offensive?
@mnikolaeva6562
9 жыл бұрын
As always, much love Teal
@richardaustin939
9 жыл бұрын
THanks Teal. PERFECT timing!
@MichelleDuckettDrumWhisperer
8 жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you! I'm going to start working on myself.
@mariabeckett6700
5 жыл бұрын
I love her chuckles 😻
@sherrienglish7613
9 жыл бұрын
Wow! Thank you for this video! I have learned through research that I totally fear conflict. I over analyze every outcome to "prepare" for conflict if I have to. I have been on a journey to find me, to know what my authentic truth is, realizing I have to find and heal my inner child. My only issue is that I don't know where I lost her. I have no memory before age 7, so I'm struggling to heal her-me. Why do we, usually after 40 years just start figuring this out?!
@danielm.4346
5 жыл бұрын
Thank You Teal. A very good exposition and good comments on some ideas and these topics You mentioned.
@sub-ss6mu
3 жыл бұрын
This helps me a lot to understand myself
@thoomm
3 жыл бұрын
This is SUPER enlightening to understand and get over a failed relationship. Much love, Thank You!!
@kvitali08
9 жыл бұрын
So amazing! Just what I've always truly wanted to hear without realizing it:') thank you Teal Swan
@dontsaymynameunlessyouknow8775
5 жыл бұрын
Hey you rap?
@thewayoflovepodcast
5 жыл бұрын
There is so much to learn and adjust...I've been doing personal development for 2 years now I still feel like I have a long way to go in order to get to the place of total self confidence and become emotional healthy
@HFTLMate
9 жыл бұрын
I'd really appreciate that video on how to communicate
@HFTLMate
9 жыл бұрын
HF TL And how it applies to an introverted personality?
@blackult1
8 жыл бұрын
introversion > extroversion
@art4Dppl
5 жыл бұрын
So on-point and incredibly helpful. Most of your videos are like that, but this one in particular just cut down like seven years worth of therapy. Thank you for offering so much value, it's deeply appreciated.
@lilravergrl420
5 жыл бұрын
Teal hits the nail on the head once again :) I have actually practiced facing conflict & loving detachment. It has helped my twin flame relationship so much. There has been more head butting in this relationship than any other one but I understand I needed it for growth & boy oh boy this man is fast-tracking my spiritual path like no other lololol
@shelleymason4054
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a full time caregiver living in a state of exhaustion all the time because I work 7am to 10pm and I'm always dealing with confrontation with clients
@maricelabodart494
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you universe for the perfect timing of this video.
@curiousasha
9 жыл бұрын
Thank you Teal! Youre amazing.
@humblewonder3260
5 жыл бұрын
I keep learning that all of my problems start from childhood. What a shame. I swear Im going to abandon my trash parents when I move out. I put that on God. I swear to God.
@kuhulikasharma2089
6 жыл бұрын
Everytime I watch any of her videos I end up feeling more damaged and bad about myself looking at what all is broken and how will I mend it alone.
@dr.shilpagowda4700
Ай бұрын
Thank you Teal
@arthurkawa7987
7 жыл бұрын
you hit the nail on the head avoid you will attract
@feliciamoreland2367
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Teal👍
@wolfbeam9169
4 жыл бұрын
.-. i really feel more alone in this than ive felt in anything in my life. this must be why ive struggled in all ways. my truest source of pain. i choose to face my fear of conflict. its okay if everyone doesnt like or understand me. ive had this false belief that people would murder me if they hated me strongly enough. im sensitive to sounds to the point of misery because they resemble someone screaming in my ear to force me to be obedient. if love isnt a choice, does it mean anything at all? it hurts so much that life is utterly meaningless to me. i was betrayed at such an incredibly young age that i dont know how to heal from it or if i ever will or even can. its why i cant trust myself. why i hate myself more than anyone could ever concieve of. it hits hard to listen to this. it feels like my whole life has been a lie. the consequences... im glad theres a video coming from a perspective i can relate to though.. it makes me feel more understood.
@yeseniaorozco3463
6 жыл бұрын
This woman is my hero
@monzaseals2039
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you Teal I have been dealing with this issue all my life now I totally understand why thank you so much for the help you give I will continue to watch more of your videos
@coimbralaw
3 жыл бұрын
Fascinating and very helpful analogies.
@FirreFisk
5 жыл бұрын
Just what i needed to hear! You are Best. You have helped me in so many ways. Love You ❤
@deshonfrombeyond4946
4 жыл бұрын
Could you please do a video on repairing relationships? I need to learn this more than anything else.
@apollofateh324
3 жыл бұрын
She's got a lot of other relationship videos to, but this one is for arguments kzitem.info/news/bejne/lKmGr46YfaRyg5g
@ecash30
9 жыл бұрын
Thank you Teal for sharing your perspective and your channel
@dawnfreshour8425
Жыл бұрын
Wow! Very informative. Thank you
@Martin12000
22 күн бұрын
Teal, thank you
@38alvita
2 жыл бұрын
So relateable
@itsmylife8164
2 жыл бұрын
This video is in perfect sync with the FOMO one...😨 fear of conflict and Fear of missing out 😓
@Tripl3333
5 жыл бұрын
again...i was not expecting that, really eye opening. thank you Teal.
@imaginaryemily
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Teal! Blessings and happy New Year :)
@stani.k
9 жыл бұрын
Very powerful , thank you so much for this video!
@kustomkure
6 жыл бұрын
This wass so on point that I need to watch it several times.
@NPalby
9 жыл бұрын
thank you, thank you, thank you Teal. Just the message I needed to hear.
@oHugoE
9 жыл бұрын
May you make a video on someone passing away or moving away that's close to you
@joymelaniecloke6222
2 жыл бұрын
My childhood with my mother in a nutshell! Things just got progressively worse I’m mid life now
@amymodeen722
9 жыл бұрын
I love this, thank you Teal, very enlightening. What would your advice be for someone trying to deal with existing conflicts with people who cannot or are not ready to deal with/face these conflicts? I'm in a few situations where I've been trying to make amends, I've been overcoming fears and leaving my comfort zone attempting to resolve these conflicts but the other parties are not willing to be real about the situations. Should I just move on completely? I don't want to run away...but staying is almost making it worse. I guess I should keep moving, but stay open to resolutions. I might've answered my own question haha but would still love to hear advice!! Thanks again
@deerinheadlights9784
3 жыл бұрын
I’m avoiding conflict in my own decisions.. Which then creates more conflict for myself and those around me. Indecision
@glitchard3685
9 жыл бұрын
This video couldnt of come at a more perfect time for me. Thank you Teal.
@possessedbabies
9 жыл бұрын
Nevermind about my last question. I just rewatched "Do Angels Exist? Angels and Demons (Part II of II)" and it pretty much explained why I've been seeing 11 everywhere. I still feel like more could be said on the subject of angels, spirit guides, archangels and specific differences between them however.
@lulubee2306
10 ай бұрын
Please Teal do that Video of how to communicate better
@afziashamsi
Жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much🥺
@DanniBby
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve faced allot of conflict and don’t feel any better about it lol. Saying the more you face conflict the better you will feel is not true, it’s only true if others are loving and compassionate and repair the relationship with you.
@evee9020
8 жыл бұрын
Shes so beautiful.
@Servant_of_1111
11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much! I didn’t even know I had this subconscious fear of conflict in me until I watched this video. Yes, as usual dysfunctional childhood upbringing has a lot to do with it. My sincere gratitude to you and for your teachings. 🪔🥰🙏
@jak9934
2 жыл бұрын
Such a great and insightful video- thank you Teal, it is very helpful. Personally I have not had enough positive experiences yet as a result of trying to attempt boundaries or repair relationships which can then be discouraging with withdrawal as a familiar fall back. This might be to do with language/communication so I would welcome such a video. If there has been no role modelling of these things in childhood and avoidance instead of repair is now a strategy, then unfortunately it is as basic as needing to know what words are beneficial in these situations.
@holly4real
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. It resonated so deeply with me.
@maria-gorettimillard6253
3 жыл бұрын
Given me a new, perspective on conflict. Internal-external. TYSMFS!😎 😁
@iamchannelll
3 жыл бұрын
I have no ego boundaries which I need to start understanding why and how ect and how to heal it
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