Going with the flow is probably the takeaway from all this. 🏆
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
Hahahaha yea
@Effy-324
3 ай бұрын
Sorry you're going through a breakup hope you're doing okay we are always here for you it does get easier in time. ❤
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
Yes yes it will get better
@michaelasaro2045
3 ай бұрын
James, you have a big heart and don't let anybody take advantage of you!
@GabesASMR439
3 ай бұрын
Me too bro I lost a girl I dated all throughout highschool because she said she couldn't love herself. She was tired of yelling and hurting me. I told her I loved her thoughout all the pain. She said she needs to find herself and be happy before she even think about relationships. I told her I'll always be there for her. That I would call her once a month. I'm going to see her before she leaves for college then I'll be on my own again. But alls good though I immediatly found a girl who makes me laugh. I know the girl I lost is gonna be happier because our relationship was toxic but yknow I loved her unconditionally. I knew when she started to hit me we weren't gonna make it. I truly loved her. I don't want to use the new girl as a rebound so I'm gonna wait 6 months to be emotionally ready for a relationship. If that girl is still with me I'll be with her because I'll know she'll be there for me. I wish the best of luck for you man. It hurts a lot but don't say stupid shit to your ex like I did. We're on good terms tho.
@SpookLarkiaVR
2 ай бұрын
aw
@anorman67
3 ай бұрын
I seriously doubt that we came here to hear relationship advice.. We came here because we care about you and want to see how you are doing.. I'm sorry to hear you broke up 😞 You said it in the beginning where you said feel what you feel!!! Later it sounds like you are trying to avoid feeling sadness, etc..Don't let yourself get depressed, but make sure you allow yourself to feel sad and grieve. And surround yourself with people whom love and care about you!!! Good move!!! And remember, if you start felling like you are headed into a dark place, make sure you reach out, tell someone, and ask for help!!!!!! Take care and keep us updated on how you're doing!!!!!
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
Yes you are very right and I appreciate you pointing this out for me
@anorman67
3 ай бұрын
@@Jwool.mp3 YOU GOT THIS!!!! Although breakups are always hard, you end up stronger and also learn more about yourself in the process of recovering from it.
@walthoward68
3 ай бұрын
Hey James, breakups happen bro. It’s easy to fall in Love, but a nightmare falling out. What were Essie’s best qualities? The one’s that made you click? Those would be your most serious vulnerabilities. The one you will marry will probably find YOU. spend more time asking questions rather than sharing solutions. Setting your goals higher is not the problem. I think it’s the disappointments of not reaching them when you want to. Periodic failures are an inevitability. You’re a deep thinker James, and undoubtedly an emotional person. Unfortunately, negative emotions can put you at a disadvantage for thinking clearly. You seem to be on the mend, so keep on trucking big guy.
@clintoncorriveau5515
3 ай бұрын
Hey man, last year in March of 2023, my ex-girlfriend broke up with me for no reason, and I’m upset, devastated, and depressed. Right now I feel a lot better without her. And I’m sorry for you man, hope you for the best.
@RiverMark
3 ай бұрын
You keep teaching me a lot. I feel like maybe I can be better too. Thanks, bro.
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
You can and you will. I believe in you
@aprilfool8329
3 ай бұрын
I am not sure if you already addressed the breakup on a previous video but this was the first I had heard about it. I am sorry about what you are going through but I like your positive attitude about it. Try to not put an overabundance of thought into getting back together. If it happens, it happens, but things happen for a reason and maybe it is best to find out now that it was not meant to be. You are going to meet tons of new people when you go to college and have lots of new experiences so spend your time getting ready for that. Not having a significant other when you start college will give you more time to devote to your school work and the "college life". And don't forget to keep working on your script and the video you are making with your friend this summer which we are all looking forward to. One final thought: don't be afraid to cry when you need to. It is a lot better for you to get it out than to hold it in. Take care and enjoy your summer!
@thelaughtrack4664
3 ай бұрын
For me it’s almost been 5 months since my breakup. Definitely have gotten better, but pain can definitely surface. It also hasn’t been a super linear experience. My faith and support system has definitely been the biggest help for me. I hope that this road of recovery goes as smoothly as possible!
@d.j.7069
3 ай бұрын
All of us have gone through the same sort of things that are hurting you ... not that it's good, but I/we can relate. We all want to be better, James. Keeping busy and trying to be productive every day helps everything. Absolutely, give yourself credit for the things you've done that better yourself as a person!
@michaelasaro2045
3 ай бұрын
Your channel is very real and down to earth
@QuantumVoid-ro3hi
3 ай бұрын
Breakups can be very difficult. I know this personally. My last one sent me spiraling into depression until eventually I decided I was done with relationships entirely. And I don't just mean romantic ones. I mean all close bonds that might leave me emotionally dependent on the fickle loyalties of another human being. Today, I direct all my focus and energy on sources of purpose and meaning that can only end when I choose them to end myself. You might think that sounds sad, but I've never been more content in my life.
@FaydsterTV
3 ай бұрын
I’m with you brother. Gf and I broke up over 2 months ago, and it’s been super hard on me and my mental health. Some days I find it hard to even want to try and do anything. I haven’t been eating regularly, haven’t been sleeping well, but I’m making small improvements every single day. Hell, the ex and I are actually on great terms, and she wants to work on herself moving forward. We’ve talked a few times and agreed to stay separated for a while so we can both go on our healing journeys and work on ourselves. I hope to report back here some months down the road and give a good update. Chin up!
@kierahinds9885
Ай бұрын
your voice is extremely comforting. i loved your previous videos about mental health. i’m glad you were brave enough to talk about it, and i’m glad i found your channel
@gatito450
3 ай бұрын
I found that it helped me to be outside more and talk to people. It was a nice reminder that I still have more people that care about me. Nice lesson today, I think there are some checkmarks I could be proud of myself for.
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
Totally agree. Being outside literally just helped me this morning. Woke up feeling down, spent an hour outside, I’m less down now :). And yes, be proud of those checkmarks
@michaelasaro2045
3 ай бұрын
You have a great head on your shoulders and you are a very very smart young man I learned a lot from you today and I am much older than you so congratulations you inspire me and you taught me things today and I'm going to apply them to my life thank you so much and I'm going to be praying for you God bless you my brother you are one great dude Mike
@zi0cat
3 ай бұрын
Especially cardio, that really lifts my mood. Transcendental Meditation is very powerful.
@andyacedo1947
3 ай бұрын
keeping your mind/body busy with positive things and the already checked boxes are great, also live in the moment. Of course after long term relationships, you will see something or find stuff that reminds you of the past is unavoidable. keep your chin up bro. take care of yourself
@TheRandomView
3 ай бұрын
You're amazing. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and experiences. Keep focusing on those checked boxes. It's important to remember not to shame ourselves when we feel we should have done something. The word should, implies you were wrong. Don't "Should" on yourself. ☮
@mvicenzi
3 ай бұрын
You are gonna get through this! Take care ❤
@celinapalfrey6001
Ай бұрын
You’re an intelligent guy, I’m 24 and currently going through the same thing Your videos really have helped!
@LaurenABeals
3 ай бұрын
I am a senior, rising college freshman in aswell, and I went through something similar at the beginning of the year, and I completely agree with everything you said!! You are doing all of the right things, and luckily you are no longer bound to the chains of high school, and college applications, so dealing with this event should be significantly easier for you on the get-go because you have more freedom, and opportunities in college. We wish you the best of luck, and I really admire your work ethic, and confidence shown in this video. I could never make a video about something as sensitive, and complicated as this 😅.
@ilovetotri23
3 ай бұрын
I never knew. I am so sorry to hear! I appreciate your honesty! Stay well. Your statement about taking care of yourself is the most important thing, is spot on.
@welayinthorns747
3 ай бұрын
Love your channel. Found you through the video about opening up to your parents/suicidal thoughts. I related to that video a lot, especially with current events. There were some great takeaways from* this video. I don’t see people being this real on the internet very much. It’s appreciated
@ShadowStrikePlays10108
2 ай бұрын
Same
@blairkinsman3477
3 ай бұрын
Good start J .. keep doing what you do .. Dale Carnegie is a classic .. transcript-walk into your high school office and tell them what you need to do, they will tell you how - they stay open a couple weeks after end of school for these reasons .. what’s wrong with accounting 😂 I do that .. def be proud of urself bro u just finished high school .. old saying “practice makes perfect” is a lie, practice makes me better is the truth
@garyjones3880
3 ай бұрын
Hang in there and take ìt day by day and pray, GOD is able. Excellent video, keep moving forward.
@radiumlyte
3 ай бұрын
I broke up with my ex a few months ago. It's been hard, so I feel your pain. but I feel like if you're feeling the pain, you're doing it right bc that's how you know you actually cared for her.
@murdock3829
3 ай бұрын
Damn bro, you have no idea how many guys you will help with this video. Stay strong dude
@Jredf68
3 ай бұрын
Hang in there, brother. It's hard, but you WILL get better from this situation and grow into a stronger person! 💪 It'll take time, but trust the process!
@tomthiesfeld5035
3 ай бұрын
You always teach me to be positive and productive. There are no others that give me that advice except you. You taught me a lot today . Hang in there bro.
@heavenvlogs06
3 ай бұрын
Sorry your going through a breakup man. I was dating someone for 1 and a half years and it hit me like a rock and it’s been 2 years since then and I still don’t feel like I can be loved or get into a relationship. Hope you heal faster though man!
@CaptainJeffMarchant
3 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear. Stay busy to keep mind off...go to gym, deep clean car, play music, go skate, hang with friends. You got this!
@adamstern2891
3 ай бұрын
Good video Jwool bro, keep busy & keep doing well. Breakups are tough & yea over time you'll be ok 💌😊
@АннаИерусалимова
3 ай бұрын
Hi, I am about the same age as you are and I have gone through a tough break up and I understand how that feels, so I admire your bravery of sharing, also in my opinion if you are not the one who initiated it there is actually less for you to deal with, as you are not bound by guilt and the weight of pushing someone away and the latter is actually harder, to sum up being able to forgive is the key to healthy life. Bless you
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
Hi there, this is an interesting take. I agree with it, and it just makes me think about her and what she must be dealing with yk?
@АннаИерусалимова
3 ай бұрын
@@Jwool.mp3 Of course that is just my perspective, however it is better not to strangle yourself with these assumptions. Eventually the truth will find its owner. And actually you can feel it deep down, where your heart is leading you, as long as you keep believing that, nothing can break you. Hold on, my friend, you are not alone
@michaelasaro2045
3 ай бұрын
James, you are going to be a very very successful young man I could see it now I love you bro Mike😂
@js.sc4rf4ce
Ай бұрын
I'm going through the same thing currently and it really sucks. ill be fine and then the memories will run back and just hit me like bricks. its been a month 1/2 since you posted this so i hope you're doing better since the breakup, im not doing so hot but i think im improving. you're one of the most relatable, chill, and honest youtubers ive seen after watching a few of your videos and i decided to subscribe. your mental healthy journey is admirable, you're so strong for pushing through everyday and finding the time to make these videos. i may be a bit younger but i bet we'd be friends if we knew each other lmao 😭 keep your head up and don't let life beat you man, who else would i watch on youtube 😪🤍
@edwardhaynes8857
3 ай бұрын
Hang in there, buddy... all good things take time and effort.
@carwashslayer4235
3 ай бұрын
Your intros give me life worth living. Love when people make me smile. “Whats up my lovely people” ❤
@LennartVanHirtum
3 ай бұрын
Honestly, don't avoid opening the letter. I think it's healthy to process each thing you loved about her one at a time. And yeah, it'll hurt, a lot, but it's how you process the past. It's the very first time you interact with something tied to them. When you move her mug from where they left it, or see her name on the calendar, or see those last messages. Every single one of those will hit like a train. But after that, those items become a lot less potent. They just revert to nice tokens of memory.
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
You’re right. You’re very right. I guess I was thinking of it as living in the past instead of moving forward. But it’s okay to look back here and there
@bluewheels3980
Ай бұрын
Breakups suck to this day in my first break up was the hardest. But maybe this will give you a chance to really explore your bisexuality with absolutely no guilt and total freedom I'm way too old for somebody your age but you are going to make some age appropriate young man incredibly happy. You're smart in touch with your emotions and conscientious
@MARK23048
2 ай бұрын
Dude, I am way older than you, but you are wiser beyond your years. The way you talk about emotions and how sensitive you are and how easily you cry, well I have always been like that myself. So I guess that helps me relate a little bit to the way you try to deal with Pain and emotions . It Helps me better understand your advice about trying to put things behind you and just keep on going. You are a lot smarter at your age with those issues than when I was at your age. My mother always used to tell me just take things in your stride. Don’t be so anxious. But I was one that worried about everything all the time. I mean every little thing. If I heard a beautiful song that related to me in a way with nature, or any type of relationship I would start to cry lot of times when I was sad I would cry. There were other times when I am watching a reality TV show for example American Idol, or America’s got talent, and a contestant comes up and does something truly amazing, that no one expected and I see how happy it makes him feel, I start to cry. So I am full of good emotions and bad emotions and always have been. But I did not have the ability to deal with them the way that you do. I couldn’t articulate them, as clearly as you do. You are a very intelligent, well spoken, hard-working very good looking young man. Some people may wonder why is such an older guy watching a younger person‘s videos like yours. It’s really quite simple. It is really a breath of fresh air to see somebody express their feelings and talk about things like you do, and wish that I had that ability when I was your age. It makes me think about things that maybe I should’ve done better, but it also makes me think about future things I am going to do so that I can make them better. I like listening to you. You are very relaxing, down to earth and genuine. And there are a rare few guys like yourself that are capable of actually doing that on KZitem. And for that I am thankful. I am so sorry about your break up also. I know when you think you have found someone that is part of you and they leave you for some reason they take part of you with them. And most often than not the part of you that they take is a piece of your heart. But you are a very nice guy and I think you have a very large heart With a lot of love to give someone. You also sound very sincere. I’m not going to say anything bad about who you had that broke up with you, because I don’t know the situation and it’s none of my business, but I will say it is their loss. When somebody does find you and they want you to be part of their life, they will be a very lucky person. Anyway, I don’t even know you and I feel like I would enjoy talking to you for hours, but I won’t make you read a novel, lol but you take care of yourself, keep doing what you are doing and hang in there. The world needs a lot more, fine young guys out there like you to make it a better place. You just made a new friend in me if you’d like bud. I’ll chat anytime. You take care
@swanman1984.
19 күн бұрын
There's nothing wrong with crying, you have a big heart!
@garyjones3880
3 ай бұрын
Jwool hang in there and know we all have some type of problem that we are dealing with in life, don’t be so hard on yourself. GOD love us inspite of our problems.
@natamanda
2 ай бұрын
seeing this late but i love how motivated you keep yourself. it’s so easy to allow yourself to cycle through really bad places of your mind and through your day, because after a breakup we feel like we can’t be content. thank you for showing us (or atleast me or also just went through a breakup) to make the most of our days instead of mopping around!
@michaelasaro2045
3 ай бұрын
Also James I just wanted to let you know that I learned a lot from your video today and I took a lot of your advice and applied it to my life and I'm older than you and a lot of things you said I'm going to apply to my life and I thank you for it that was really good advice and you know I take you any day as my little brother you're a great great young guy and and you are going to be something special believe me and don't worry I cry all the time you're more of a man when you cry so don't let people ever make fun of you or anything like that I think you're really cool and I wish you were my little brother so we could have talks together and I can help you but since you're somewhere else and you're not my little brother I can only tell you that you have your head on straight and you're doing a great job and you you going the right direction and you've got all the answers to the to the questions and and just keep moving forward One foot in front of the other you just doing a great job and James are going to be praying for you buddy you have a wonderful day James your bro Mike😂
@michaelasaro2045
3 ай бұрын
Lastly James I just want to say make sure you keep Jesus Christ in your life because he is number one in your life and he will always help you he will never leave nor forsake you brother amen amen
@michaelasaro2045
3 ай бұрын
I will continue to keep you in my prayers!!🙏
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
Thank you, I appreciate it
@timb2128
3 ай бұрын
Hey bro! So sorry to hear about your breakup. I was really shocked when I saw this. I admire your strength and amazing attitude during a very difficult time. I feel like I've come to know you through watching your videos, so just like I would with any other friend, my heart hurts for you. I wish that there was something that I could do to help. Continue to stay strong, my friend! I look forward to your next video!
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
Hey I needed this comment. Thank you. I’ve been home alone since the 31st and until the 8th. The breakup made me feel so much more alone. But your comment made me feel, not just that I have a few real life friends, but that I have tons on here that care. Sorry for the shock, I didn’t want to make a whole video centered around what happened. It wouldn’t be fair to her, so instead I made a post that expired, and then this one. But yeah, I appreciate this comment a lot :)
@timb2128
3 ай бұрын
@@Jwool.mp3 Wow! Your response made MY day! I was just talking from my heart and wasn't thinking that it would help you much! That is so cool! If we lived close by, I think that we would be really good friends. We have so much in common! Keep thinking positive, bro!
@roearchive6366
3 ай бұрын
Wow, dude, so much insight, I had no idea about, when I was your age. You've really got it going on, got your head together. You're gonna do well for yourself, just keep it up! (note: this is after having watched several vids of yours)
@jasonberkowitz4754
3 ай бұрын
Oh no! So sorry to hear. I thought y’all would go the distance.
@m4b31
2 ай бұрын
when my bf and I broke up I just tried to surround myself with my loved ones and friends I feel like that helped a lot with the development of it all
@welayinthorns747
3 ай бұрын
Also I feel like when you’re in a good relationship you’re comfortable so that’s why you don’t feel the need to go to the gym or read as much
@izzyveleaguez2079
3 ай бұрын
Sorry you’re going through a breakup hope you’re doin okay I am always here for your it does any easier in time
@visibility1o1.
3 ай бұрын
Get well soon bro
@DylanDurdle
3 ай бұрын
Going off to college is a real stress test for high school relationships. Better to have an amicable splitting then have someone cheating and breaking the heart of the other. I’ve seen many relationships go really sour in college.
@JeffRebornNow
3 ай бұрын
"Love goes toward love as school boys from their books, but love from love toward school with heavy looks."
@sts.crew.
3 ай бұрын
underrated as you tuber. also yes break ups fucking suck
@izzyveleaguez2079
3 ай бұрын
james you gotta a big heart and don’t not let’s anybody else’s takes advantage of your james
@zi0cat
3 ай бұрын
Oh Dale Carnegie is a classic! Use it to your advantage
@NickAustin123
3 ай бұрын
Hey! I jus saw ur suicide video don’t do it!! Trust me I know we all get there some times but yk all ur friends and family would be upset. One of my friends from school killed her self and we’re still not over it. Pls bro i don’t even know you and you belong here! If you need anything jus shoot me a message I’m very supportive and loyal!
@stephentran2001
3 ай бұрын
I am so sorry for you 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
@Pump3
3 ай бұрын
The best advice i can give you and since this is the most POWERFUL song about getting over a breakup is this song right here: Damn Yankees HIGH ENOUGH and it is emotional but damnit it got me over this guy i dated almost 3 years ago (yeah, i know I'm pathetic but yeah) and i do have trust issues with guys after the motherfucker just GHOSTED me. You know someone that i had a crush on when i met him, wanted to go out with me, said he was straight BUT MADE A MOVE ON ME!!! So yeah these days i always say when straight guys say they're straight but "so is spaghetti... UNTIL YOU HEAT IT UP!!!"
@izzyveleaguez2079
3 ай бұрын
stays strong dude
@xbox9390
2 ай бұрын
Obrigada por fazer esses vídeos, tenho passado meus dias como no fundo do poço mas agora vejo que posso melhorar, você me inspira aqui no Brasil!
@MrJeep75
3 ай бұрын
I read a saying a long time ago, if you love someone set it free if they return it was meant to be if the don't it wasn't meant to be, something like that probably messed it up
@johnconway4161
3 ай бұрын
Hi Jwool i hope you are Oaky i am always hear for you
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
Thank you I appreciate it, I’m doing okay today
@johnconway4161
3 ай бұрын
@@Jwool.mp3 you're welcome
@AstrokineticDragon
3 ай бұрын
Hope you get through this.
@ramona4699
3 ай бұрын
You have a kids poster? That’s super cool :)))
@izzyveleaguez2079
3 ай бұрын
that’s how’s your knows you actually cared for Her
@bobf.5538
3 ай бұрын
Did you kick the parents out ?
@jasonreese4573
2 ай бұрын
Hope your life is good.
@darrellmorrison5444
3 ай бұрын
Draw on the pain to write some music! 🇦🇺
@evan4192
3 ай бұрын
Me who has never been through a real relationship watching this
@robertdavidson7125
3 ай бұрын
Hey man-sorry, i probably sounded like a jerk - hope you have a better day today- keep your chin up
@Jwool.mp3
3 ай бұрын
It’s no worries man sometimes I need stuff like that to be kept in check
@izzyveleaguez2079
3 ай бұрын
breakups happen bro it’s any easy to fall in luv but a nightmare falling out
@robertdavidson7125
3 ай бұрын
What-if you don’t have any friends or family and nobody cares about you anymore.😢
@NOOTSMAZDAS
3 ай бұрын
That's like the perfect opportunity to buy a fast ass car or bike and become batman time to start the villain arch
@michaelasaro2045
3 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@MrJeep75
3 ай бұрын
Give it time it will pass
@MrJeep75
3 ай бұрын
Community College is alot better choice then a university
@Anji__1724
2 ай бұрын
I wish I could do videos and just talk to fans and viewers honestly.
@kandaskaba
2 ай бұрын
2:30 ok but the thing is how did she get in you car huh
@LucasTorgesen
2 ай бұрын
sheets always lit
@Island_Editing
3 ай бұрын
ILYSM
@paulfreed7071
3 ай бұрын
Hello jwool you are young and a lot going for you. like the old saying there a lot of fishes in the sea. the right one will come. have agreat week. love the . show from pa.
@masokolis3596
3 ай бұрын
hey cuite
@MrJeep75
3 ай бұрын
Sorry about this, but there will be others
@emeralds222
3 ай бұрын
GREAT BOOK! I truly hope that you finish reading it. Again, Do not look for a relationship to marry. Concentrate on fun instead. Sex is NOT a sin. It is human nature... others know this who are your age too. Church is based on proven myths. If you do not know this now... ask those who broke free from their religion! Seize the day and let go of relationship pressure. You are too young to know what a love of your life is.
@caathleticspolo
2 ай бұрын
Quit your job and go to parties (network)
@darrellmorrison5444
3 ай бұрын
Beware the rebound romance. 🍺
@stevemarks4724
3 ай бұрын
Give up on dating problem solved
@robertdavidson7125
3 ай бұрын
Brush your hair -
@darrellmorrison5444
3 ай бұрын
He’s a mad (good) creative type. Wild hair is part of the uniform! Or is that anti-uniform! @jwool
@MrJeep75
3 ай бұрын
Go play the piano
@robertdavidson7125
3 ай бұрын
Are you not gonna take a shower?
@robertdavidson7125
3 ай бұрын
Should you have a knife in your condition?
@andrewdisselkamp6997
3 ай бұрын
Shut up ❤
@robertdavidson7125
3 ай бұрын
You should probably eat more than a piece of toast
@sammmycrone
3 ай бұрын
nice honest vid. btw do u have a discord or gonna make one?
@VintageVaughnVehiclces
3 ай бұрын
The sooner you stop thinking about her and she has to continue thinking about you that means you win the game. So go ahead win the game, go write her name inside the toilet bowl and every time you think about her run in the bathroom and flush the toilet, and say I win, I don't want to be a cash cow to pay for a house to raise children near nice schools. End up divorced and drive past the house I can't live in but the judge orders me to support the house her and the children.
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