To everyone going through this abuse, hang in there. I'm in the thick of it right now.
@aena5995
Жыл бұрын
me too 😢 it's the other way around they ignore me they think they r in the majority ( GC sis and narc mom) non existent enabler sperm donor
@joshuaanzalone2060
Жыл бұрын
Susan your in my prayers. You hang in there as well. I'm surrounded by these weirdos daily. I'm not a prick and can't exactly ignore all of them because I work with them. But the ones that I don't have to be around,I ignore and cut them off. I refuse to tolerate abuse of any kind.
@rosemaryjohnson6308
Жыл бұрын
I'm stuck I work for an agency that takes care of people in this one client she's an old narc she's over half of my paycheck and I get abused on a 12-hour shift all the freaking time she doesn't let me take my lunch or breaks I'm jamming the food in as she's directing orders at me constantly she's mean evil and vicious and I'm stuck
@DJSHIREEN
Жыл бұрын
They will never change after 10 years I'm.saying this. They don't ever change , no matter how many boundaries u set or chances u give or how forgiving u r .
@DJSHIREEN
Жыл бұрын
Omg ! Feigning a heart attack..... yes ...something similar... was done . These people give Oscar winning performances.n the best liars n manipulators u will ever meet .
@WeR1bodyNChrist
Жыл бұрын
Dealing with a narcissist really gives our brains a workout. 🏋🏾♀️
@nabilc1667
Жыл бұрын
Which eventually will burn out, because they are such draining people.
@jagrutidurani7395
Жыл бұрын
This is really most practical.. 👌since many of us cannot go “ no contact “.. 😮staying in the situation allows us to do an inward journey and tap our inner resources, making us stronger every day. A narcissist is an equal and opposite part of our own personality- so all we need to do is do exactly the opposite of what they want us to do - Ofcourse, it is not that easy, to peel the onion , it’s bound to bring tears 😢, but this is the real beauty of how we can set ourselves free .
@sinceresong9907
Жыл бұрын
@@jagrutidurani7395 Love this reply. That evil man helped make me the best version of myself...the irony.
@ashl8804
Жыл бұрын
@@jagrutidurani7395 Not always …. ‘Prevention IS better than cure’. Some of them are dangerous and truly lethal …. !
@WeR1bodyNChrist
Жыл бұрын
@@ashl8804 I agree with you about that 💯
@betsysorrell1357
Жыл бұрын
They hate the word, "no"
@gloriarangott8803
Жыл бұрын
Correct Because NO resonates as rejection...which is intolerable to them
@salliegallegos918
Жыл бұрын
Saying, “Absolutely not!” stuns them. Lol
@cathykerenga9370
7 ай бұрын
My husband is a Mr YES, he'll hardly says No
@melanienaidoo775
Ай бұрын
It is as if they don't understand the word no
@Astral_Dusk
24 күн бұрын
How they handle the word "no" : kzitem.info/news/bejne/wIqPzGZ6pJmIqqgsi=Pk__nbWI0eUIBtzN&t=185
@m.k.q9736
Жыл бұрын
1) Set boundaries ( extreme), dig in the line. Dig in my space, no trespassing and no loops at all. 2) Set consequences, (no excess/ block all the access, clear boundaries) Be done! Make them feel the consequences. (Cut throat/ blatened) 3) Temper your emotions ( you can't fight a narcissist, if you are reactive/ your emotions are unmanageable) if you are angry and they will enter you to the battle field.They will intentionally trigger you in a way that you will react, you got to work on healing your wounds. Strategically repond. 4) Recognize the tactics, weaponize against them. The ways they attack you is crucial. 5) Ignore them for attention seeking behavior. Don't justify yourself when they create a pool. Process your. 6) challenge their narrative. Pointing out facts when others are involved otherwise it will go against it. 7) Strict: Take strict control of your life. Terrified of your presence, take control on your body language. Work enough to look confidence and just slay them. Work on your communication style. Don't explain don't defend, pretend the sane one!
@jennifers1040
8 ай бұрын
I am dealing with a narc mother in law and we are implementing all of these.
@Rose-o5y7t
4 ай бұрын
At such point, the same ones the same one or the violation of privacytjatgabe me this SUPERPOWER HAS TO RESPOND! FACE DE CONSEQUENCES TOO OF ANY SICKNESS AND OTHERS CRIMES!
@RamyaV-ms4bz
4 ай бұрын
Awesome 🙏🏻 neatly given
@mac01590
Жыл бұрын
These ppl are actually possessed by demons. Wolf in sheep's clothing, angry men. The devil comes to kill steal and destroy. These words describes them perfectly. Pray for strength to overcome them.
@IReader1790
Жыл бұрын
FACTS!!! Say it one more time for the people in the back!!!!
@RonilynCurtis
5 ай бұрын
You are so right thus is what I think to my husband that's why even how he abuse me I run away and I forgive him inside my heart and I dont judge him for what he did to me worse and worse because I know he doesn't know what his doing.. I know why he become a narcissists because it's God punishment for the person who reject God h8s savior and who disrespect God law.. I understand why my husband he all abuse all the person love him because the devil did it to him ..now I hide in far place but I pray him night and to God that I hope God will not harden his heart anymore God will save him What I learn is we don't need to hate the narcissists instead we pray them because they are possess by the demon.but I need to leave him and no contact because that the best way ..my son is with my husband 7 yrs old thats make me feel more hard but I'm thankful I have faith in God
@CordeliaWagner1999
5 ай бұрын
There are no supernatural entities
@anithag161
5 ай бұрын
Thank you very much Danish❤
@BrigidaScannavino
4 ай бұрын
Mom@@jandreith2621
@jesusrules9925
Жыл бұрын
“It’s not my circus” lol that was awesome. ❤
@miakamei1751
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! I don't associate with clowns xDD
@johnpoynton4193
Жыл бұрын
❤😂🎉
@JustShannaBE
Жыл бұрын
In my country Jamaica 🇯🇲 we say "not my monkey, not my circus" so this point will definitely stick with me
@audbaltzersenrameckers8832
4 ай бұрын
😂 I know I love how he is so spot on. And he makes me laugh in all of this narcissistic crazy mess. I am so lucky I can go no-contact with some of my family members ❤
@zorabujaroska3645
Жыл бұрын
I have been abused by a narcissist for 42 years and I could never be indifferent to his actions, words, bs.... He is so so mean. Finally I left him - I don't want to see him or meet him ever again. I don't have the strength for that because now I only see him as an abuser, manipulator, a person who gaslighted me, tortured, belittled, insulted me. The only solution is to leave the narcissist, nothing else!!!
@robbiewooden5067
10 ай бұрын
Yes , very mean. U get to a point u do not want to be around them.
@feebeediaries
9 ай бұрын
True
@user-q992
5 ай бұрын
You did the right thing. Good for you🎉 Wish I could have the same luck soon! 🙏
@manelweerakoon8245
3 ай бұрын
i am still stuck cos i am not economically independant.
@user-q992
3 ай бұрын
@@manelweerakoon8245 Can you not try to achieve some financial independence? Work as if your life depends on it. Actually it does! 🙁
@Linda-pd8en
Жыл бұрын
How many times have I said to my covert narc when he is sulking and pitying himself when I called him for something he did " You are Not the victim. III am the victim. Light bulb moment..I will NEVER identify my self as a victim again!!! I am a victor and will get my self-respect and strength back! Healing words. Thank you Danish
@nmHispana
Жыл бұрын
I've always operated with the facts and what I'm able to prove, not heresay, gossip or embellished lies and never identified as a victim nor a coward either. I'm not afraid to expose what needs exposing, but encountered that there are also a lot of them out there who are just like them and fear exposure, so you are basically fighting alone while enduring this kind of abuse. I knew at every moment what he was doing while he was also always telling on himself. The imp knew he was being audio and video recorded and when no contact was put into place, he was sending emails to harass and provoke reactions out of me and even said on video he didn't care what I have. He also continued violating my boundaries for which many where a federal crime and the only time law enforcement was called, but he played the victim and declared I was 911ing him whenever I couldn't get my way?
@KarenSanders-tj2hj
Жыл бұрын
@hj8501
Жыл бұрын
Iam a Warrior Woman❤
@marissareitz2009
11 ай бұрын
How many times I thought of taking my own life. My husband doesn't even speak to me anymore...6 months at a time. He also abused me fiscally ...I feel like living in a bubble. I decided to see a lawyer this week. Please pray for me
@radicasookhai5976
4 ай бұрын
Be strong sister and remember the teachings Danish has taught. Be strong and fight for your life.🙏🙏🙏❤️❣️
@divinelight2021
Жыл бұрын
Awareness is power . Ignore , do not get impacted, by their drama .
@Demebeso714
Жыл бұрын
DANISH BASHIR!!!!! OMG..YOU HAVE BEEN THE ONLY ONE EVER TO EVER MAKES SENSE OF THIS TOPIC AND GIVE A PERSON CONCRETE STEPS TO FOLLOW TO TAKE CONTROL AND TURN THE TABLES OF POWER TOWARDS SELF...THIS VIDEO EMPOWERS PEOPLE TO FACE TODAY WITH A NEW SENSE OF WHO THEY ARE AND WHAT THEY WILL NO LONGER ACCEPT FROM OTHERS..THERE IS FINALLY A LIGHT AT THE END OF SUCH A DARK JOURNEY.. THERE IS FINALLY A WAY TO BREAK FREE...THANK YOU FOREVER!
@asmathsabira8644
Жыл бұрын
Awesome you have given valuebel information.
@mauiskater
Жыл бұрын
Same here!! ❤
@indervirsidhu8549
Жыл бұрын
@@asmathsabira8644Very well said dear.
@zorabujaroska3645
Жыл бұрын
I have been abused by a narcissist for 42 years and I could never be indifferent to his actions, words, acting.... He is so so mean. Finally I left him - I don't want to see him or meet him ever again. I don't have the strength for that because now I only see him as an abuser, manipulator, a person who gaslightes me, tortures, belittles, insults me. The only solution is to leave the narcissist, nothing else!!!
@Anneeeeee821
10 ай бұрын
If i control myself and not react to a narcissist means they are treating like a door mat directly in front of me.
@lynnkliewer7201
Жыл бұрын
Always have someone with you they don’t want any witnesses 😊
@Earthoceanfire435
Жыл бұрын
My mother did this with her sister. She cut her off from her life for 10 years. Yes it worked beautifully in that scenario.
@Earthoceanfire435
Жыл бұрын
@Jack T it was in the 80’s before social media. Mum died and they had together.
@oraclehaveacookie9737
Жыл бұрын
All going trough this abuse, even if its very difficult, ask the Lord to help you. And be ready for change. God bless all.
@Miss__Chief
Жыл бұрын
Thank you...that hit home "And be ready for change." Wishing you all well ❤
@kristykanen9315
Жыл бұрын
BULLSHIT, THERE IS NO GOD, FACE REALITY
@EvaCFricke
6 ай бұрын
Every single thing goes wrong in narc life, they will blame you. So they're never wrong.
@flemutter7211
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely spot on. I have been able to effectively challenge and handle narc bosses and supervisors at my workplace. 4 years strong. Documenting everything by email paper trail has been very powerful. As showing you have no fear causes narcissistic mortification (it reflects to them that they are weak and powerless) My faith in Christ has the highest authority helped with that tremendously.
@mtc-j9i
Жыл бұрын
Amen! 🙏🏽❤️
@mymelody444-w6j
Жыл бұрын
🙌🙌🙌yeah!!
@dagoelius
Жыл бұрын
Definately dont be a doormat or try be the peacemaker, call them out. Unfortunately the narcissist rarely gets called a 'narcissist' to their face, and it rattles their game when you do it.
@awanereyiogret9557
Жыл бұрын
I'm at 0:44 seconds and already started crying... To even think people takes these seriously makes me emotional because I didn't even know people would care enough to even listen ..or think it's important
@Wings91
Жыл бұрын
You are important ❤
@johnpoynton4193
Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤
@TC-yx3bs
Жыл бұрын
yes it’s so hard to keep emotions in check because they know exactly what to do to hurt you the most!!!
@kristykanen9315
Жыл бұрын
Especially difficult for me as an Empath.
@joel9002
11 ай бұрын
@@kristykanen9315 No one gives a shit if you are a empath and every normal human has empathy
@Kay-bg8ti
Жыл бұрын
The more calm and non reactive I am the more violent he gets
@Carol-ch9tq
11 ай бұрын
48 years married to narcissist. Now he has dementia so it’s a double jeopardy for me emotionally. I’m grateful for techniques on how to protect my emotional well being. I’m 75 and the years ahead dealing with my boogeyman is dreadful. Even if there is no physical abuse warn your audience that on going emotional abuse will not only break down your body but also destroy your spirit to go the distance.
@Deborah-bb9sr
Жыл бұрын
This episode was so informative for me married 40 years to a narcissist. Our lives are so blended leaving doesn’t seem to be an option, but healing and standing in my God given truth is possible. Awareness is power🙏🏾🙏🏾Thank you
@ruchimathur2049
Жыл бұрын
So true even I m also in d same situation
@syedafarheen4148
11 ай бұрын
Even I am in the same situation but still going through the pain. Even my kids are going through. To be honest don't have the mental strength too. Have many health issues, depression, anxiety, other health issues. Can't leave him after 26 years of marriage.
@PriscillaLusanso-hc2uz
11 ай бұрын
I have left after 47 years of marriage.I have tried am 69 years and I am done.
@kerrycater2795
10 ай бұрын
I understand. 23 years and I love who I used to be with before she hit her head and this started. But I love what this video says about when to start presenting the fact machine: only when it has a positive outcome. I was initially told to be open and honest in relationship. Not with a narc. I now know better and can step back and ask myself if there’s going to be that result first. (It’s not Perfect. You can’t predict what a narc will do).
@kalintini
Жыл бұрын
Wish I knew this when I was younger with my mom . She wore me down and hurt me for years until she died . Didn’t know what I didn’t know .
@lizetbosch754
Жыл бұрын
Yes a narc wants your emotion not you.
@trumpeterswan4177
10 ай бұрын
Every day now, 5 years out from 32 year marriage, my first thought is thank you God for setting me free (from the Narc circus and monkeys).
@N.O.W.826
Жыл бұрын
Going no contact with narcissist was necessary for my physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health. 💜 Narcissistic Abuse Survivor 💜
@ayushijainwal6072
8 ай бұрын
Yes, me too and it was just crazy
@audbaltzersenrameckers8832
4 ай бұрын
Same here 💜💯
@lolknight4364
Жыл бұрын
Narcissists try to bring a false spotlight onto you, showing you from bad angles and lies. The good counter to this is to bring a true spotlight onto them, say very small sentences underlining how fake and weak they are, making the difference between true spotlight and false spotlight so visible to the eyes of others that it intimidates the narcissist and forces him to retreat. This strategy works without arguing (arguing would bring room to narcissist for lies and explanations), just shouting facts and descriptions without trying to justify anything not waiting for him to argue on them
@zafariqbal9480
11 ай бұрын
It feels like you know the story of every single person who's dealing with a narcissist, deeply explained everything 👏👏👏👏👏
@rudramohesh
Жыл бұрын
I'm a single parent now,to be precise it's night 2:40 here ,just now finished my work, morning have to wake up at 7 and prepare my son for his schedule, ps, my narc wife have acquired control of my landlord and I have to vacate my home in one month 👍🏾
@fit_gma5658
Жыл бұрын
I'm a grandma with a narcissist daughter. My granddaughter was living with me for 8 months because her parents were unable to care for her properly. One day, my daughter got mad at me and abruptly removed my granddaughter from my care. It's on now.
@joshuaanzalone2060
Жыл бұрын
Do not defend or explain yourself to any narcs. You do not owe anything to narcs and learn to control your emotions
@Waltazarbobaltazar
Жыл бұрын
Thanks
@kalintini
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely . Don’t surrender your control ; if you do,,, Stop right now !!!
@chrismc410
Жыл бұрын
A good 12 Gauge shotgun works for me
@Vicky-jh3ci
Жыл бұрын
@@chrismc410they're not worth going to jail over shooting them.Theyre not even worth talking to just look right thru them like they are useless,worthless ghosts.👻
@chrismc410
Жыл бұрын
@@Vicky-jh3ci they can be dangerous though
@PreetiSharma-yj8rb
Жыл бұрын
I am stuck in narc Father, Son and his wife. I started watching your videos after narc abuse in my relationship for 18 months but i didn't heal after 6 years.. And i got to know My Family is the one major issue
@suvarnajoy2879
Жыл бұрын
You are a great blessing for us as victims. You opened our eyes widely. ❤
@athenafarrell5127
5 ай бұрын
I walked away from it and I've never been happier. I didn't say it was easy but it's worth it. No one can love you better than you, once you have love for yourself , you then have a reference to compare their love to yours. Walk away i promise you, you will wish you had sooner. The mistreatment was the closure they were full aware at the time they were hurting you. Remember that when you ignore them. Even if you have family problems or need $5 in an emergency. Don't call. Block them asap! Don't feel guilty. Love and bravery.i wasn't even aware that my dad and every single ex were narcissistic till now. There was nothing wrong with me.
@helenlesleysmith7559
Жыл бұрын
My Narc stole my journal so I have no proof. He's gone now after he read it I feel alive & happy didn't believe it possible
@zakithiganyaza5525
Жыл бұрын
🤨 are u for real its like he read himself in the mirror I am sure .Stay safe
@DaRyteJuan
Жыл бұрын
Danish, you are helping heal the world … one narcissistically injured person at a time.
@oratorsforuminstitute2607
Жыл бұрын
Great advuce and guidance... S.T.R.I.C.T. technique S - Set Boundaries T - Temper your Emotions R - Recognize their Tactics I - Ignore Attention-seeking Behaviour C - Challenge their Narrative T - Take Absolute Control of your Life
@divyagupta3761
11 ай бұрын
every word in this video is so true, these people dont do anything by themselves , dont support no help, just keeps on questioning on whatever things you do , whatever decisions you take , the only objective of narcisist people is to take away your mental piece and they get a kind of momentiarly pleasure in this . once this pleasure subsides they make another point an issue . The only way to not get trapped in their gameplan is to stay away from them both physically , mentally and emotionally
@healthmintraa4320
Жыл бұрын
Extremely validating.....Healing
@Ctothe
Жыл бұрын
I’m not sure if there is any more difficult life situations than having to be a coparent with a borderline personality (cluster B, bi-polar, narcissistic, sociopathic, psychotic etc) Maybe having to have grown up with them as an actual parent perhaps. However, in my experience coparenting whilst in the midst of a divorce and trying to split custody and assets etc is so very difficult and videos like yours have been a blessing. Thank you for your work good sir 🙏
@GnosisDharma
Жыл бұрын
yeah I can imagine, I was supposed to take care of a dog for one week with a girl that I'm pretty sure has a wrong diagnosis, the dog was partly hers but she can't take care of the dog, she needed my help while her mother took a week of and it was hell, the dog was so sweet but the mother gave to much power to her daughter and I don't understand that since hmm they needed my help so I had to work around both the mother and daughter, I feelt the daughter used the dog against me like she was going to hurt him if I did not do what she wanted. I knew what I was dealing with from experience so I try to keep a low profile to protect the dog. I don't understand they did not even want the dog to be alloweed outside. Well not on my watch, dogs are not prisoners. Dealing with that nonsence for a week I noticed getting wrinkles, sadly I can't help the dog much more it's their dog but I did my best to hopefully improve his life. Very sweet dog but I never meet him again because after my week was finnished the dog returned to the mother and I brooke contact after I did the best I could do to protect the dog. I hope you will manage and the stress won't take over your life.
@ginalangston9428
Жыл бұрын
Going through so many problems with this exact problem. Unfourtuatly, the narcassist is a her, my husbands ex-wife and man have we been through it. It never ever ends. I just try and stay grounded for my step kids. They don't need any more stress . They have been through so much. She goes to them with all of her "problems", crying hysterically when she can't break a boundary set by my husband...basically she makes them feel responsible for her emotional state. No one ever wants to " upset Mom". The craziest part is , well, if I start I could go on forever. Ok, one heart wrenching example. She knows my son died when he was a baby. My only child and she is well aware but she's constantly leaving messages telling us that she doesn't want them referring to me as their stepmother because all i am is a wife because I don't have kids and wouldn't know the first thing about being a mom since "her kid died" It takes a real screwed woman to hit that far below the belt. And we have never instructed the kids to refer to me in any way. However they are comfortable based on how they feel. They refer to me as their stepmom, we have never directed them in any way I didn't just marry him, I made a commitment to them as well. He would have never married a woman only willing to be a wife when he's more than my husband. He's a wonderful Dad. I love those children but she finds no comfort in knowing i would do absolutely ANYTHING for them. And I would never try to take her place or even say anything negative about her to or around them. Unfortunately, she doesn't give me an ounce of respect. In case your wondering., I am absolutely not the " other woman " My husband and I didn't even start hanging out even as friends until they were legally separated and they didn't know about me until after the divorce was final What actually happened is when my husband Was deployed in Afghanistan for 12 years, and after he finally came home for good. She discarded him after telling him that she'd been having an affair for a very long time. And was madly in love with someone, that she had spent every bit of their savings. And he had absolutely no money to even get an apartment. I mean he was left flat flat broke. Then then he has an accountant good for their finances to discover that she was financially abusive and the most irresponsible person on the face of the Earth. To the point that she was actually getting evicted from places with the kids telling charlie she was moving for different reasons mostly because men were hitting on her, But the truth is is that she was actually paying for apartment for her boyfriend and gave him. Charlie's car so charlie didn't even have a car when he came home and the kids's school was all behind and they had to transfer into Public schools after growing up with their friends in one private school their entire lives until they got into middle school high school. Oh angie spent all the money out of all College funds. Charlie only ever came home once a year because he was told that they couldn't afford it but she was taking trips with her boyfriend too couples Retreats leaving the oldest in charge while she was gone out of town and by the way she never worked A-day in her life every bit of made by. Charlie so she could be a stay-at-home mom and they could have a good life but come to find out all of that sacrifice being a private Contractor went down the drain for a selfish partying lifestyl for her and her boyfriend . Yes and I forgot to mention. He signed a power of attorney for her while he was gone so she could take care of all this all of his taxes and all that stuff Just to find out that she never even filed any of his taxes so no use the IRS over $300000 that they had put a lean. On his check. And i'm barely even touching the surface of the thing she's done so I'll leave it at that. I hope anyone reading this understands. There's many of us out here going through the most insane things that Even saying them to someone who has never been through narcissistic abuse Would have a hard time even believing you. Cause it literally sounds like no one can actually be this bad. But the truth is they're actually first l o l. You have to survive it to understand it. I know exactly the feelings of Exhaustion, Frustration among many other things that they bring with anything associated with them. Everything and anything this around them is utter chaos and God said he's not the author of chaos. I know this is probably far right for some of you all. Yeah but I have honestly honestly come to believe in my heart that the bible speaks of the wheat and the tears.... Through my own experiences i'm not convinced any longer that everyone on the earth is made by the same creator. Wheats and tares. If you ever find yourself out loud or just in your head asking yourself what kind of person could even do that well maybe? They're not a person not like you and I so that's why we can't answer that question.
@ginalangston9428
Жыл бұрын
@J Brown thank you for the supportive words. It truly can only be understood by our community of survivors!
@secretivescorpio891
Жыл бұрын
@@GnosisDharmaSeriously??? You are comparing your experience of looking after a dog for a week with being married, having children with and going through a divorce with a narcissist. How disrespectful, you need to do some reflection
@GnosisDharma
Жыл бұрын
@@secretivescorpio891 no I don't compare and if you have read my comment you would have realised that. This is just one of my experiences. This is my worst week simply. Even if I was raised in a cult have been 4bu53d by my birthfamily, been bullied and 4bu53d at work. So yes I know the 4bu5iv3 type but not true intimate relationship but through relationships. So no but if that week top all of the other horror I have been through how terrible can it be to have a child in the mix you want to protect I would not like to be an such situation and I experienced wanting to protect a dog for a week if it was that horrible and it was because now it was not only about my own safety which it was earlier. So no I don't compare I rather realise I would not like to play chess about a child for any time at all. You judjing a person you don't know and interpete what they mean should wake you up to your own shortcomings.
@tarey05
Жыл бұрын
Danish, your advice here is deeply essential and life-saving for victims of narcissistic abuse, especially for those in the midst of divorce. Not sure if ur aware, but a popular political-comedic vlogger/podcaster in the US and Canada, Steven Crowder, is currently the hot topic in conservative social media as he is in the midst of divorce proceedings. Just recently, a 3-minute video clip from his home security camera from 2021 revealed Crowder (mask falling) verbally abusing his 8-month pregnant (with twins) wife, stating that he needed to use their one car for an errand, while she had to do the week's grocery shopping on her own via Uber. Of course this is small evidence; however, because of his celebrity status, it's being considered that her lawyer released the clip with her permission to expose Steven's pattern of narc abuse to his fans and family to diminish his own lying defense and avert the flying monkeys. Indeed, his wife would certainly value ur advice and counsel, as your words here are so healing to those who have no idea how to manage nor move forward from this kind of abuse. This "STRICT" strategy is the perfect tool! Many thanks to you, Danish: ur hard work is helping and offering practical solutions to tens of thousands!! ❤😊
@strangemagic4704
Жыл бұрын
I'd considered a camera quite some time ago but never did it. I wish I had but wasn't sure if it was legally something that could be used to prove the abuse?
@alishaluvsJesus
Жыл бұрын
I've been wanting to hide cameras throughout our house so I can have evidence. Recently, he slandered me so bad to many of our friends. I was so hurt that they believe him. I think I can sue him for defaming my character. He told me he did it because, I threatened to sue him for taking all the profits from our business and controls all the money. I'm 50% owner/partner. He obviously thinks he's above the law. I told him what he's doing in called embezzlement. So he went on a smearing campaign.
@ANISHMAMS97
Жыл бұрын
I have a narcissistic mother in law and she has affected our marriage so badly within 9 months of our marriage. She decides everything about her son, my husband. And found myself in very difficult situation to have a firm boundary with her. But after a point I am setting firm boundaries especially when she decides how I should dress, whether I should wear lipstick and all. She tries to decide when I should visit my parents and whether I should attend my friend’s wedding. Those interfering behaviour makes me so frustrated and whenever I try to convey it to my husband we will be in a fight. Now I am trying to have no conversation with her at all even though we live in the same house. Husband is very upset with that. Danish, thank you so much. ❤ You were an eye opener because there were times when I believed that I am the problem because of their manipulation and gaslight. I can’t thank you enough for these videos❤
@lorettaknox154
11 ай бұрын
Woman you need a divorce, not only is your mother -in-law a narcissist, she is guilty of emotional incest as well. Tell that freak when you need advice you will go to your own mother to get it. If you are working start looking for an apartment. Get out of that situation before it destroys your personality.
@ammushazz
11 ай бұрын
I'm In a similar situation 6yr old marriage with a kid.....I have a strained relationship with my husband due to my MIL....he stays with his mother....I moved out with my 1yr old baby ......it's like my husband is on a spell and I can't do anything about it now .....I am helpless....she wants her son to do the duties of providing for her.....when her own husband is alive.....she needs a luxious life...she keeps complaining that I don't provide for her.. citing other daughter in laws in her family....with fake stories... He wants me to go back to his house and take care of his mother....... I have lost my sanity waiting for him to realize that we are a family....I guess it will never happen
@NA-vt6mz
10 ай бұрын
Joint family system doesn’t work plz don’t have kids
@mudandglitter1609
Жыл бұрын
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD in my 40s. I also grew up with a narcissistic parent. The two points made for a volatile mix. I went no contact years ago, best decision I ever made for myself and my children. But, there are still family get togethers and such. Hearing you explain how thoroughly one needs to regulate their emotions around a narcissist hit me hard since ADHD sometimes involves an inability to regulate my emotions. I have had YEARS to navigate this "relationship," and am proud of the work I have done, but wanted to point out how difficult emotion regulation can be for some people. Sometimes, it is downright impossible. Personal therapy, meditation, and/or medication adressing neurodivergence the abused my be suffering from are the only things that can give victims a fighting chance many times. I hope that anyone in this difficult situation can love themselves enough to put themselves and their mental health in the top priority spot. ❤
@MattyNelson-rs3ik
Жыл бұрын
You are an Adhd person,because of that parent, It was hard to admit to myself ,I probably was a big factor contributing to my daughters Adhd read The Scattered Brain,Gabor Mate ,very insightful book on ADHD,and why,both my daughter and myself read that book together..
@rakshakulkarni2503
10 ай бұрын
I am being diagnosed with adhd.. probably there's a link with dealing with a narcissist...
@foxiefair123
Жыл бұрын
I went no contact with all of my toxic family members. For that I am receiving extreme backlash via a smear campaign from the flying monkeys. That is because flying monkeys are also obsessed with control, and they also get extremely incensed when things don’t go their way just like the narcissist.
@Linda-pd8en
Жыл бұрын
Boy is that the truth! If the narc slows down they pick it back up.
@tmrsfitz1967
Жыл бұрын
No contact my freedom to calm me ❤
@stephaniegeorge6444
10 ай бұрын
I love my parents so very much, from afar. Its been over a decade ....oh gosh maybe even 2 decades now. I try to honor the decision of no contact better now by having no more narcissistic partners. Life is better.
@joannadrozdz3848
Жыл бұрын
He's right.. .in everything he just said.
@seaweedeater3104
Жыл бұрын
Danish 🙏 Thankyou. You really say it how it is. So clear. You’re the boss narcissist slayer!!!
@newcivilisation
Жыл бұрын
My now deceased husband's ex, who used her children against him, is now using them against me. Same strategies that she used against him. Identical methods and words. She actively prevented him from seeing the children, made his life absolute hell, and now blames me for the children not seeing their father! But I see this as just a projection and a cover for the sheer insane campaign that she ran against him to break his bond with them and stop him from seeing them.
@lorettaknox154
11 ай бұрын
Tell psycho Mom that you have no ties with her and she should stop contacting you or there a court order coming to make her stop.
@dr.naseemabeautytree3100
Жыл бұрын
So helpful I always loose my temper and becoming over reactive and loose my point !!
@iAmiSaid
Жыл бұрын
My compliments to your videos, your sincerity, honesty, speaking directly to us via the camera, and simply expert advice, please know it's greatly appreciated.
@Linda-pd8en
Жыл бұрын
love your name....love the song! Neil Diamond?
@iAmiSaid
Жыл бұрын
@@Linda-pd8en yes!! Nice catch my friend! Xo
@Linda-pd8en
Жыл бұрын
@@iAmiSaid yeah so now I can't get it out of my head! lol great memories though, thanx
@iAmiSaid
Жыл бұрын
@@Linda-pd8en The song is much deeper than people realize... And watching his KZitem live versions, truly moving. I'm living the story right now. In any event, Neil diamond, love him!
@Linda-pd8en
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the confirmation Danish. I have been waiting for THIS video from someone! Out of exasparation I started doing some of these things ..really standing in his face up to him and the shocked look is priceless! the impact it had on ME was shocking. I am getting my self-respect back! Without even trying, it has caused me to do what you said.. to search the situation and seek the real issue at hand through all the fluff and pagentry, instead of simply reacting off the top of my head without giving the scenario any thought This video will help me to feel assured I am on the right track and fine tune my path. Just the huge way it has given me self respect back is my motivator. Thank you Danish. Your insight into narcissism is astounding! I hope you make lots more video's like this one that enourages us to not be afraid to be more powerful.
@murrayshomeforwaywardchick9182
Жыл бұрын
Luckily, I have the unfortunate pattern of being a magnet for narcissists because my mother is one, and although communication has been cut off for three years, she still manages through my children and family to cut me. Now that I've realized my current, (and past) relationships have been the same, I am able to recognize it. I was so afraid I'd have to move again, and start over like I've done in the past. I'm always forced to be the one to give everything up after working so hard to build it. I don't have to move. I own the house, too! Why is it always assumed that I'll leave everything behind and hand it all over to start the cycle again? Probably because that's what I've always done. I'm so afraid I'll get trashed for asking for what's rightfully mine that I placate them and wind up getting trashed anyway. I'm not giving up my home. I'm not afraid that I have to leave. I'm not going to be afraid of what others think. I'm going to stay. If he doesn't like it, he can move!!! The switch flipped and the light came on; I can see him, and very clearly now.
@cathbelle5096
Жыл бұрын
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@Susan-ds1th
Жыл бұрын
Aen, these others report that these strategies have worked for them. I pray and hope that I can be strong because I want out of this emotional, psychological mess!
@Linda-pd8en
Жыл бұрын
Amen Susan. We need to get our power and strength back!
@psychoholiday-ju1cp
Жыл бұрын
Recovery is oftentimes a "two steps forward, one step back" mechanism. You've got the knowledge and that's more than half the game that they sprung upon you. Be kind to yourself and don't beat yourself up. As is often said, "recovery is a process and not an event."
@Susan-ds1th
Ай бұрын
@@psychoholiday-ju1cp How are you doing? Hopefully very well. Thank you for your insightful and wise comments. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way today!
@Corinna_Schuett_GER
Жыл бұрын
I used the "C" especially recently when confronting my mother with her constant life lies. I am already living no contact for many years and now she's an elderly widow but clinging to her fake reality still. There's this silence now, eventually. 👍👍
@kalintini
Жыл бұрын
Shut them down ! It will feel so good !
@izawaniek2568
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for very helpful, clear and realistic advice. These steps are not easy but necessary to take in order to deal with a narcisist successfully.
@nemani3
Жыл бұрын
Wow. This is... Amazing, concise and entirely true! 🙏🏻
@mallikamisra4453
Жыл бұрын
My brain feels heavy n exhausted. Can’t go no contact due to the family pressure.
@Lailat854
4 ай бұрын
It is ok! Just please go to therapy, so you can heal. Detach emotionally and psychologically for real. I can not describe in words how this is life changing! I know because I have been through this. Although still married, I am free!!!!!
@nicolebrazzell
8 ай бұрын
You are a real gift from God, Danesh! Both of my sisters are narcissists and my mother and I have been trying to figure them out for 33 hrs! We have watched five or six videos, and we have gained so much insight and are now armored up thanks to you!🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉
@sukeshni995
Жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot Danish Sir...I was almost about to die because of my Narcissists partner but ur guidance have helped me to deal and come out of it..God bless u
@ecommerce9687
Жыл бұрын
May you be BLESSED BEYOND MEASURE for the awareness you bring to so MANY! For this, many lives will be recovered and saved! May God Bless you with abundance and complete healing! Thank you DANISH❤❤❤❤
@jacklimcortez7660
Жыл бұрын
Don't give up your strength will be in keeping calm and showing trust prayers 🙏🙏❤️
@amandagreen4763
7 ай бұрын
As a person that has both narcissistic parents myself also I found this very useful and this guy really knows what he's on about ❤
@AM-..
Жыл бұрын
This video is ABSOLUTELY EXCELLENT! These are the strict strategies & more that I applied 28 years ago. The ex was always angry w/the way I dealt w/him. I remember my lawyer saying “it’s a strategy” to deal w/now ex-husband at that time. Ex hated me then. & still does.
@rsdinmunir
Жыл бұрын
Restraining order, controlled communication, court orders, notices, warnings - they are sick!
@evarudmik2164
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so so much for your very direct and 100% recognition Sorry you had to ever suffer through it, the worst way to be treated , almost terrorized,,demeaning all the time And when you are delivering your message I can FEEL your emotional experiences you went thru,,, perhaps that’s why we can all relate so clearly. I Just discovered you, and I can’t stop listening to all your videos, very empowering and thank you so much. Not too lengthy, as you cut to the chase, direct with positive help. ❤👍🙏💛
@Emmitt_Summers_3
7 ай бұрын
Thank you. I especially appreciate validation on how I am approaching my "co-parenting" relationship with a covert narcissistic mother. I also appreciate you sharing your personal experiences. Much respect.
@Lilliofthevale
Жыл бұрын
You have paved ,a very important path for us ,with your own pain ❤
@morenat9058
9 ай бұрын
Today i discovered your chanel, i listen 3-4 videos till now. Your words changed my emotional state in a lighter one. God bless you!❤
@speciallife2900
Жыл бұрын
My favourite trick is that when narc try to contact me I force myself to think one step ahead.I ask a question in my mind what his needs ...why he is asking like that ....and I leave all the things up to him.. no more suggestions..no more supply ...no...more criticism
@laurasimon5369
Жыл бұрын
I have started these techniques, and I am feeling empowered again! I am secretly enjoying my sons expressions on his face as I stick to my guns!
@GnosisDharma
Жыл бұрын
So true, don't defend yourself. I'm pretty sure there is narcissitic traits in multiple people in my birthfamily, tragic since my family is so small, however it was a fight between my mothers and father side and one of my grandfathers had no right to defend himself, they called him selfrightosness, so considering being so young I did not really understand what was really happening, however I was treated about just the same by my other grandpa, I think it was just enough that I was related to my other grandfather. I was not alloweed to defend myself, I was told that I always say but? It was confusing for me I was still young, I thought aren't all people selfrightiosness, I mean if I did not think I was right would I not think in other way? then? So after some years I got to the point and realised that selfrightiosness is on a spectrum, and we all are to some degree and it's healthy but when you are to much selfrightiosness you start to see wrongs in other people all the time and have to accuse so I reliased the grandfather who accused us all for selfrightiosness was really the one that was really selfrightiosness, sorry if I spelled wrong I don't use that word to much but. It was the worst crime to be accused of, because how can you defend against something like that? If you defend you just proove their sick point if you defend yourseld that is what they want, because you went in to their trap and are like aha! I got you. So weird people what you say does not matter at all because they don't listen, they are the accuser and the judge and jury!
@K4katwc
7 ай бұрын
Thank you Danish! This was the most impactful episode of yours for me. I'm working on watching them all. This one hit home today. I'm what you call: Stuck with a Narcissist. It's been 8 years. I was approved for housing in July 2023. Just waiting for a unit to open up. He has no idea. But many is he gonna be pissed! I'm 54, disabled with no car & no support system. I had given up. Until I watched Danish one day. The entire world opened up for me that day! I've learned a lot from the privacy of my own home and so can you! You deserve love. You deserve self love. ❤
@zibam6687
Жыл бұрын
I wish i knew these things years ago unfortunately we didn't have access for this information before even i wasn't aware of why he is doing to me i didn't know what he wants from me 😢 thank you
@ronaldmcdonald3965
Жыл бұрын
I am at the recognition phase
@ras9875
Жыл бұрын
When they start with the crazy making it's time to go. Do this every time.
@Ssvalikala2023
Жыл бұрын
I wish I might have seen this 2years back..glad seen atleast now.
@HealYourSoulForever
Жыл бұрын
Hi Danish. It’s is a really useful video! A great help. Could you please make a video on parent alienation? My son has been turned against me, no matter how hard I try to bond with him, he rejects all my advances. He has become a little version of his father. Narcissist is in the process to brainwash my daughter as well but she sometimes sees through it and sometimes doesn’t.
@mdlind7478
10 ай бұрын
true. My brother also avoids talking to me and mother just like my father. And my father is a gaslighter who always mocks and criticizes rather than encourage or uplift
@Baconmissfit
6 ай бұрын
I've done a couple of these things just this week. I didn't react to the accusations, I responded with questions that presented facts that could not be refuted. It was so satisfying. I'm still chuckling. Also, he was hurt yesterday, mildly, a rug burn. Ya know, a light kiss for a young kid and off they play? He's shown it to me 4 times in the last 16 hours. I've just looked at it and said, "Yep. Looks painful." The first time. The last 3 times I said, "Yep. It's still there."
@Susan-ds1th
Жыл бұрын
It's really tough for me. But, I'm gonna try to do what he's prescribed on this video. If you read this, could send me a message if encouragement. I am feeling so isolated and ashamed of this ugly, sad relationship/bond that I'm in.
@patrickholland5478
Жыл бұрын
Hi Susan, I was absolutely terrorised my a narcissistic woman for over a year, two things I’d say: remember that ultimately you will have to go no contact, no matter what they say, they will never stop feeding on you; secondly, this will pass, you will be free again, and when that day comes it will be like being re-born. There is no joy like it.
@Cale-from-Wildwood
Жыл бұрын
You have guts to ask for help.
@Cale-from-Wildwood
Жыл бұрын
Susan, please listen to jbrown. Real recognize real...
@thrivingnow7395
Жыл бұрын
Susan, quietly plan your escape. It only gets worse as time goes on. I didn't think I would survive it. I have and I am going on three years no contact. Knowing what he is is a huge advantage. I didn't know until a year out. Your knowledge of the disorder is your power. Take nothing he says or does personally. It is his poison, not yours. Keep strong. All the best from Ireland.
@Susan-ds1th
Жыл бұрын
@@thrivingnow7395 Just awakened saw this. I am overcome with thankfulness that you and others that sent🙏🏼
@dandeliondream100
5 ай бұрын
This is the best and most realistic advice I got to defeat my narc father... thank you so much
@debbieramsaran910
11 ай бұрын
Sir respect to you educating victims of narcissism.....unles you're tied to them by marriage or member of family....i would suggest best advice is to try to get away and break free cut all ties and heal ....because theres no winning with a narcissist...and the time and energy you would put out to deal with them you are losing your health, time, life, peace of mind etc...which can be used for healing and building a new pure life for yourself....they are diabolic and never changes..and no human power or influence can imprint or impact them only the power of the lord and king and creator of the universe can stop them ...and god will do it...in due time...
@muskanpathan4129
11 ай бұрын
The email part is soo relatable… the best thing is not to respond their bullshit.. glad i left ✨
@tarapaudel5595
Жыл бұрын
Every day is a war leaving with narsists.
@joanramsey4002
11 ай бұрын
Watch out for FOG they dish out too. Fear, Obligation & Guilt. Loving the acronym's, a quick tool to work with.
@iskonwws
7 ай бұрын
I got tears...i faced...i think you uv also faced as u can explain so precisely ..God bleaa you dear.. You are doing divine purpose🙏
@marinaten6796
11 ай бұрын
Dear Danish, Thanks a lot for this video. It’s short, to the point and most importantly very useful for those who is going through divorce or have to deal with a narcissist at workplace. I myself divorced narcissist over 12 years ago and all these years he tortured me (as we have a child) to the point when I started doubt my sanity and was on the edge of complete breakdown. I wish I learned all this before to protect myself from all the mental and emotional harm or at least know the beast by it’s name. I hope this video will help other people to recognize they are dealing with the narcissist early and spare them years of their life. Thanks a lot for what you are doing.
@leafyveins4985
16 күн бұрын
Emotional control over onself is a matter of SURVIVAL. Videos like these will become your life raft. Stay alive. Stay strong. Stay calm. You will get out of this. They are not all-powerful, they've just convinced you of their illogical delusions. You WILL feel like yourself again some day. Learn yourself deeply and they can't even touch you. Once you're in total control of your own emotions, they disintegrate into the codependent cowards they truly are.
@kerrytaggart8206
Жыл бұрын
Also put up video surveillance and let them know about it
@sinceresong9907
Жыл бұрын
Should of kept that quiet
@mikeb5925
10 ай бұрын
Danish, you are one of the best on this subject! Thank you so much!
@LN-pm5yl
Жыл бұрын
Sharing kids with a narcissist is a living hell
@synapses1765
7 ай бұрын
Danish!! You are a King amongst men! Thank you for all of your insightful information!!
@ashtarsheran5918
Жыл бұрын
Falls jemand dich manipuliert (Narzisst) und du wütend wirst, komm runter und bleib selbstbewusst, weil das die nur erreichen wollen und konfrontiere sie mit der Wahrheit und trenne dich von innen. Meditation kann Klarheit verschaffen, deine innere Kraft zu stärken, um Grenzen zu setzen und das ganze besser durchstehen zu können
@boavibes
Жыл бұрын
Genau
@annekerotterdam7499
Жыл бұрын
Du redest aus deinem Arsch
@meiw8358
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Danish.
@mariahharrison9052
10 ай бұрын
Wow. This was EXCELLENT. I needed to hear every word. I was furiously scribbling notes. Thank you so very much Danish! You are helping soooo many people!
@Rose-o5y7t
4 ай бұрын
Remember the cashier with cuts in his hands in the beauty supply store! She is not forgotten!!
@butterfly79j
9 ай бұрын
only someone going through this can understand, what you are talking about. i wish i would hear it sooner, but dont think that i would be able to apply it in the middle of it. take so much time to get back to yourself.
@audbaltzersenrameckers8832
4 ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏. That word FACTmachine is so important 💜
@best9264
Жыл бұрын
I really want move out from my narcissistic parents make depressed and miserable and lonely and i can’t hangout with I don’t have job to move on + stuck in college
@zakithiganyaza5525
Жыл бұрын
Stay in college and apply for a job
@best9264
Жыл бұрын
@@zakithiganyaza5525 I will do it should I stay no contact or not ? My brother is covert narcissist They want me all my time to my narcissistic mother stuck up Enmshent My brother is breaking boundaries And he hate me but he want me They want you to settle things against you, like a dog, as you said
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