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@mundea
Жыл бұрын
Happy new years, Cole (:
@tfkdandsvkc
Жыл бұрын
Is that black girl your girlfriend
@diablodan1459
Жыл бұрын
Hey Cole! just ordered through Tiege with your code! i’m shocked by how affordable that stuff is hopefully i can have some fresher skin in the future!!! I got the Level 1 kit with the free gift for like $25 which is not bad! Thx again and have a safe new years!!!
@hyberkonawa272
Жыл бұрын
Happy 2023 Cole.
@nickolasdominguez3939
Жыл бұрын
Hey Cole, I regard myself as someone who's introveted like you. How do I lean-in to that similarly to what you were saying about have a laid-back stoic look?
@abishaicampbell2187
Жыл бұрын
I feel like having this ultimate “mission and purpose” is a new phenomenon. Men back then could just be a hard worker at their normal middle class job, find purpose at church maybe, and that would be enough. From there finding a woman and staring a family was just easy. Society used to deem those men valuable and worth something. Nowadays it seems like you have to go above and beyond, with the ambition to be in the top 1%, just to be deemed a person of worth by other women and even ourselves as men. It’s hard to just fabricate a sense of self worth when everything in society tells you you aren’t worth shit just because you can’t play along with this rat race, superficial, narcissistic culture.
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, I understand that. Things are getting more competitive and it seems like nothing you do is ever enough. I think what would help a lot is limiting social media use and then also finding the right people who don't judge you based on all of those things. Hard to find, but they are out there and can make you realize your inherent worth. Much love dude
@UserName-ts3sp
Жыл бұрын
the options are more open. social media and a connected world have made more options available, so mediocrity isn’t an option
@abishaicampbell2187
Жыл бұрын
@@ColeHastings Thanks Cole 🙏 I agree with you. Finding a community that shares your values and thus values you, is the foundation of having a sense of self value. That’s the hard part for me. Some people get lucky and find their community in school or college. I met a few good friends in college but we all moved to different states so we can’t hang out and things naturally fizzle out. Meetup is not great in my area and I’m 23 all the meetup groups are older people. So things can feel hopeless man. I’m complaining when i should be doing something about it but I’m just venting I guess. Your content helps.
@rookiej5587
Жыл бұрын
I agree. I absolutely cringe whenever I hear people throw around this word called "purpose". And the cringe just skyrockets when they give an example of the "men in the past". Men in the past were actually looking for survival. That was their "purpose" (or any other buzzword you wanna throw in there) because they had no freaking choice. This word doesn't even mean anything to me. The purpose of life is to live. That's it. Also, if you look most of this content comes from the America. Americans probably enjoyed their best period economically toward the last phase of 21st century and now since all of that is fading away you have a problem; And to find the reasons and solutions people love to come up with gibberish. All the preaching and all that stuff is what should be called the "mental masturbation". I agree with you on the point that unless you don't align with that stuff you aren't considered a person of worth by other men and women. Imo, it is all FOMO. Most people do not know themselves enough to find what they actually desire and end up suffering from FOMO which makes them chase someone else's desires.
@pulpmelt5702
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this man
@johnparadise3134
Жыл бұрын
2:26 “Let People Dislike You” Best advice I ever got!
@TheDoomerGoGetter
Жыл бұрын
KZitem & cold approaching help my social anxiety too, before I started making KZitem videos I couldn't talk to anyone and had no friends, then making videos help open me up, then I tried cold approaching for videos and that help my social anxiety so much, next things you know I get multiple dates, a girl who wants me to be her boyfriend, a relationship that taught me Im not ready for a relationship yet and need to keep working on myself, im so grateful for both KZitem and cold approaching
@iElia
Жыл бұрын
👏👏
@TheDoomerGoGetter
Жыл бұрын
@@iElia you the 🐐👑
@Gh0stGaminginc
Жыл бұрын
Elaborate on "cold approaching"?
@danielwaters7648
Жыл бұрын
@@Gh0stGaminginc it basically means walking up to a stranger and trying to create conversation out of nothing i think.
@Gh0stGaminginc
Жыл бұрын
@@danielwaters7648 That's weird, most people will tell you to go away.
@SirJoelsuf1
Жыл бұрын
Cole was spot on with 7:30 - 8:30 about the difference between being genuinely good and being a simp/stan.
@bloomitsch
Жыл бұрын
20% women want sigma, 70% alpha/chad, 10% simp. After they hit the wall, all want Simp, with chad by their side. Not really so difficult. Some women break out of this. Some.(whats a stan?)
@JDdr86
Жыл бұрын
@@bloomitsch 👈🏽🙄Found the Incel.
@AboutDatMoneyy
Жыл бұрын
@@JDdr86 bro your beta
@souvikmitra6161
Жыл бұрын
@@bloomitsch this is the issue with men like you. You make up your own statistics and then cry about it, instead of actually talking to real women in the real world.
@DataDrivenActualization
Жыл бұрын
The emphasis on kindness is definitely lacking in the traditional dating advice as well as more extreme communities like pick-up, red pill etc. For a woman to want to stay with you long term, she has to trust you, and that trust cannot be opened without you showing your soft, loving, compassionate side. Great video man. I like the new animation styles as well.
@acayette
Жыл бұрын
100% true! Being honest and open with your woman instead of playing mind games will definitely help to avoid a lot of problems in the relationship.
@Kunigunda897
Жыл бұрын
Well you also should respect yourself, don't do too much especially if s person doesn't show it if they didn't deserve it, doesn't resiprocate it. No need to waste your time. If someone truly likes you and are mature enough, they won't play games and will makes things easier.
@erubin100
Жыл бұрын
women don't want kidness and compassion, they just want trophy husbands to parade around.
@dorikin333
10 ай бұрын
@@acayetteNo. 1. The “mind games” work well and women respond well to them. And B. Being vulnerable is only good later on in the relationship (like probably a couple years in) after the man has demonstrated his value and has built a strong connection. But being vulnerable to soon is a bad idea.
@bibaolaitan5189
17 күн бұрын
@@dorikin333 who would go years in a relationship with you, when they dont trust you..
@monk4ever
Жыл бұрын
I'm a confident guy who always holds my head up high. Jealousy is something that many people feel, but few will admit. People may not dislike you for whatever reason. But if they are jealous of you, you already know you are doing something right.
@antonymartins8310
Жыл бұрын
I try to keep this in mind but man people are irritating sometimes
@marcos.a8814
Жыл бұрын
Man I'm so happy i discovered this channel it's awesome. It's really weird how some people view the "asshole" as someone who is just so evil and that instantly gets a girl, when in reality they start off as nice and then gradually show their true self. People are out here thinking women love guys that treat them like shit and slap em around. It's absurd. And people who are "nice" are doing nice things with the expectation of getting something in return, and it is so blatantly obvious that it never works out well for the "nice guy"
@imjustapotatoleavemealone
Жыл бұрын
Nice guy™
@pantherman8719
Жыл бұрын
The assholes aren't evil. They were either mistreated all of their lives or grew up in a tough environment. Sometimes both. When it comes to women, usually the women embarrassed those guys way more than other guys did. These are things I noticed growing up and still see today.
@marcos.a8814
Жыл бұрын
@@pantherman8719 alright Bro someone watched a little too much anime. People are assholes because they chose to be. Sure heartbreak sucks but using it as a crutch to excuse shitty behavior is weak as fuck
@NuurKal
Жыл бұрын
@@pantherman8719they’re still evil a murderer could grow up In a bad environment and home but is still evil😂😂
@gabeguzman9478
5 ай бұрын
@@pantherman8719💯
@Niborino9409
Жыл бұрын
I needed this today. Been single all my life and recently turned 28. Idk when the perpetually single spiral will end. I don't know where I am going wrong. I have a good job, I have a house, I have a car. All I'm missing is a relationship. It's all I can focus on nowadays ☹️ But I do think it's the social aspect I struggle with. I love your channel Cole 😊
@zsheikh1234
Жыл бұрын
you need some balls.
@mikehunt6948
Жыл бұрын
Do you work out?
@imjustapotatoleavemealone
Жыл бұрын
Have you tried to be a better person?
@Niborino9409
Жыл бұрын
@@mikehunt6948 Yup
@Niborino9409
Жыл бұрын
@@imjustapotatoleavemealone Trying to be. It seems to be a lack of determination towards setting up dates and showing what I want. 🤔
@adeadpoet4221
Жыл бұрын
I wear my weird with a badge...i wear it with swagger and i'm extremely proud of my differences. Matter of fact, i'm pretty certain it's part of the reason women like me.
@iCookCrystalMeth
Жыл бұрын
i think i’d call you quirky (even though i know that term’s been destroyed over the last few years). ‘Weird’ in the sense of this video implies more basement-dweller types, not simply quirky
@johnnybensonitis7853
8 ай бұрын
@@iCookCrystalMeth Lol your username is a bit, hmmmmmm, how do we say, on the nose? 😆 But yeah, I agree with your comment as well. I'd just add that I think this type of weird is the kind that typically comes from some level of social awkwardness combined with a degree of insecurity that usually go hand in hand. We someone is comfortable with themselves they often aren't getting in their own way when communicating with other people. Once someone with those kind of "weird" traits are able to manage/overcome them they often are very in tune with others becoming far more empathetic than the average person due to having heightened awareness/perception in that particular aspect of human behavior.
@CK-lt6jl
8 ай бұрын
It really depends on what you’re defining as weird. If “weird” is having passion in an obscure hobby like painting warhammer figurines but still having the social skills to make a girl laugh, your weirdness have nothing to do with it. But if “weird” means watching porn everyday, eating your boogers with a first date and not looking into anyone’s eyes even once while talking, then yeah, that’s not attractive. So you gotta explain what is weird about you first, before giving other genuinely weird guys wrong ideas
@highsol222
Жыл бұрын
That confidence bit really resonates with me 3 minutes in. Always sucked with girls but I was slightly better with them at a young age when I was in El Salvador. The awkwardness was there, but the occasional boldness I had to ask them out made a world of a difference. You have to be the man there right from the start, or the woman will be the dominant one or embarrass you in the way she rejects you. So you have no choice but to get in there (or cold approach as you guys call it here) unless you want the other guys to forever make fun of you for not being the man you're supposed to be. TLDR: It has nothing to do with this red pill "alpha male" BS, or being fully secure with yourself. Optimizing? Irrelevant. Talk? Irrelevant. We just do, and keep doing. Man I miss that environment.
@mario125ww
Жыл бұрын
Yeah I personally don't like the idea of being fully secure or happy with yourself. That's a long journey and tbh no one is that way before they get into a relationship. Most people learn to become that way after a break up or two. Also the only thing I agree with the red pill about is being confident, assertive, and dominate. Basically learning to be a man. The other stuff about how to make her submit or playing mind games to me promotes dark traid traits and I'm not like that
@imjustapotatoleavemealone
Жыл бұрын
@@mario125ww Relationship will not fix you. If you insecure, unhappy find a therapist. Relationship isn't a prize to be won, nor a journey to the "better life". Healthy relationships doesn't work that way as movies does. You are a whole on your own, i am a whole on my own, and we are together, because we want to. Love is something you build up on the way, affection is the thing you feel in the first 1-2 years. You can't build a relationship based on affection. Edit: You don't have to be dominant. The whole "dominant" and "alpha, beta" thing were based on a highly controversial research that were made on captive dogs (edit: wolf, sorry) with low sample size. That isn't parallel with the human world at all, we doesn't have that kind of hierarchy at all. In fact "Scott Barry Kaufman" concluded in the "The Myth of the Alpha Male" named article after their research: "It is neither the alpha nor the beta male that is most desired by women. Taken together, the research suggests that the ideal man (for a date or romantic partner) is one who is assertive, confident, easygoing, and sensitive, without being aggressive, demanding, dominant, quiet, shy, or submissive. In other words, a prestigious man, not a dominant man. In fact, it appears that the prestigious man who is high in both assertiveness and kindness is considered the most attractive to women for both short-term affairs and long-term relationships. This research should offer some assurance that the genuinely nice, passionate kid who learns a culturally valued skill can be immensely attractive."
@mario125ww
Жыл бұрын
@@imjustapotatoleavemealone We are saying the same things but you don't realize it. An alpha man is exactly what you described. Those are the qualities of an alpha. Being quiet, shy, and submissive is being beta ironically. The book that you mentioned, the myth is an alpha man doesn't understand what it means to be one. The term has been perverted by others. Alpha really means being a leader and showing dominance. Dominance doesn't mean being controlling. It means being able to make decision and influence outcomes in a group. That's it! So a prestigious man is an alpha. That's the part that I was alluding to in the red pill. Now in terms of being happy before you get into a relationship. It's a myth. You aren't ever going to be fully happy before you get into a relationship and that's ok! That's makes you human. It doesn't mean that you need to work on yourself. My viewpoint is highly conversial because it goes against what others were told as kids. We are social creatures so we feel better when we are in relationship. So you can't be too insecure but you can't be overly secure either. I don't know if you heard of being overly independent but that's a huge turn off. People want to feel needed by others and it's natural. That's what I meant. I learned this the hard way as I don't really need people. People avoid me as a result
@imjustapotatoleavemealone
Жыл бұрын
@@mario125ww Dominant is above others in the hierarchy. In a relationship as many studies showed being equal is attractive, dominant is not at all. In rare cases being dominant outside of the relationship is a positive trait, but only in rare cases and only when there are many positive trait already with little to no negative. That only means 2% of the 200 woman -who participated in that study- found dominance outside of the relationship, but 0% found dominance attractive inside of the relationship. Making decisions doesn't make you dominant, because that is not what that word means. Influence is some kind of dominance, but you can't be both dominant in the relationship and respecting her choices and opinions. Being happy outside of a relationship isn't a myth, and i'm really sorry four you and your group of peoples if you think that way. What you say that feeling IS natural... but you feel this way only in hard times, and it still isn't healthy at all. Being independent isn't a turnoff, because love isn't affection. Love is trust, love is "i'm here for you", love is "i wanna make your life better", love is putting her needs above yours. If you wanna just fk someone go ahead, it is natural really... but still not healthy. The healthy way is first building a relationship then living it. If you rush into a relationship it will be great in the first 90days, it might be good in the next 1-2 years, but the natural dopamine rush will stop, and you find yourself breaking up, because both of you rushed into it, and forgot to actually build it. There is a great book for you if you wanna find your "pair" no matter what. Called "How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk", recommended by many therapist, and have a high "success rate". Of course "Relationship will not fix you" is not exactly true, because connections like that can be healing... but you can't get into a relationship thinking "it will heal me up". Fixing you, healing you up is the job of the therapists.
@dmeads5663
Жыл бұрын
What’s weird about me is that whenever I’m approaching a person to talk or in a room with a bunch of people, my anxiety gets worse and I legitimately can’t think of what to say, how to express myself, and fear grabs me. But when I’m working in a coal mine where rocks can literally crush me to death, I have no ounce of fear, even if I’m standing there and the roof falls in beside me (of course I back up and get out of the way) but I genuinely don’t feel fear, anxiety, etc.
@berkaybayarstudent2978
Жыл бұрын
Great video. Finally someone who is not telling us to be in the 1% to be worthy. Thank you Cole!
@possibleproblem479
Жыл бұрын
i had a friend in middle school that did really well with the ladies, was friends with pretty much everyone in school, and ever teacher liked him despite being fairly unattractive (overweight, poor taste in clothes, and some past injuries that resulted in the loss of his fingers and skin on one arm.) he was really funny and charismatic and generally seemed like a sensitive and endearing person. he was super mature for his age. all of this to say: you dont have to be insanely attractive to be able to socialize well. dont make it about socializing, just be genuine. i dont mean to be the guys pushes the 'be yourself' narrative, but the less you're putting on a facade, the more you can actually grow as a person.
@NuurKal
Жыл бұрын
It’s easy for a guy to befriend a girl if the girls don’t get weird vibes from them
@possibleproblem479
Жыл бұрын
@@NuurKal It's hit or miss. I can usually tell when a gal is weirded out by me and it is what it is. some are just paranoid
@mateopetit1745
Жыл бұрын
the moment i've stopped chasing woman by founding peace though myself and what i do, things has started to slowly get better, from the low point i was with depression at the start of the year, to christmass where i've got into my first relationship, the best gift i ever got, none of this would be possible without the work i've would have put into it, thank you cole for having motivated alot of people like me in this year to get better, happy new year cole =) I really like the thing you've said on video games, most people who try to fully be in video games actually are founding girls with same interest.
@sophia-mt5sk
10 күн бұрын
as a woman, i can confirm this is what i look for in guys so so so accurate. assertive! kind! confident! ambition! passionate! like YES , THANK YOU !!
@intrusive-th0t
Жыл бұрын
7:00 psychologically healthy women do not want a “dominant” man. There is a difference between dominance and initiative. Not everything is a fight with a winner and a loser. Not every relationship is a power struggle. Frame it more like a dance where you lead and she follows. If you try to be “dominant” you’ll just end up with women with self-hating women with personality disorders
@Exposetheluciferianagenda
Жыл бұрын
Great video my friend. I’m 41 years old and I feel that all my life I never had a genuine interest for things making me not have a clear life goal or ambition or something to work towards in life, and even though I have always held my own and I’m responsible with my job and duties, I feel I’m living my boss’s dream and not mine by not knowing what it is that can make me happy and pursue it as a career goal. Time is passing by and I’m truly getting tired of 9-5 and not living my dream whatever that is. As much thought as I have put into this I have yet have a clear mind of what I want to do or where I want my life to be headed. I always envied the children that knew from an early age what they wanted to do in life. That was never me. 41 years later, I’m bartending for 21 years now and even though I’m great at it, I want to do something g more meaningful and I don’t want to do it any longer and I don’t know what else to do. This is one of the few things that I would like to have a resolution in my life so I can start enjoying it more. Thanks for all you do man, you truly are maturing and coming into your own at a very fast pace. Congratulations.
@aaronaustrie
Жыл бұрын
It's about time I stop letting ppl control what I do and make me feel bad. And also to stop trying to please ppl too.That's my goal for 2023!
@United_Wings
Жыл бұрын
You've helped a lot especially with social anxiety and happy new year 🎆
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Glad I could help, thanks for always leaving comments
@okayxden226
Жыл бұрын
Your social anxiety can’t be that bad if his videos help
@TimurMamatov
Жыл бұрын
Passion, hobbies, professional success, emotional maturity - I got it all wayyy before I started to get laid haha. And that happened after I lost a significant amount of extra weight. Looks is not just another building block of your attractiveness. Rather it's a filter. If you don't meet a certain criteria - other parts of you are never going to have a chance to truly shine. And if you don't get the external validation at least from time to time - it's going to be a lot harder to get it from the inside. But hey, actually, those are pretty useful pieces of advice, but everyone should treat them with a grain of salt, otherwise bluepill/redpill overdose is inevitable.
@MathewsNunes
Жыл бұрын
8:11 as a Brazilian, I don't know if I'm ashamed to see so much comments in Portuguese within those simps, or happy to see that this means less competition haha. And about the Lean In-Ness, this is one of the best advices. I also went through exactly what was said on 16:23. My advice: it's important to assess, with some introspection, if you really expose your personality fully with no fear of being rejected, or if you are using some sort of mask/defense mechanisms. One example that I can give is the difference between being shy and being introvert. Introverts are people that are "intro", focused into the internal. This is just part of one's personality. It is what it is. Shy on the other hand means literally something/someone that has fear, concern, insecurity. That's why for example, when the economy of a country gets just a little better, we can say that it was a "shy" growth.
@davidrobertson5894
Жыл бұрын
I’ve definitely been the nice guy a lot of the time. Trying to work towards the kindness part
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
I have as well. What’s good is that you know how to identify it and change it
@dflorez1982
Жыл бұрын
Happy new years Eve Cole Hastings keep on going with the advice you give to the world your doing great fam 🤙
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for all the support, I will!
@djhappy2_040
15 күн бұрын
I am doing these thing already but I can tell you he is not lying
@windstormstrike
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for consolidating all the dating advice from numerous videos into a more understandable info bracket. Much easier to understand. I think your next video should expand on how to talk to women as men today have high difficulty with that.
@Daria_Georgieva
Жыл бұрын
Cole you’re so right about the things you said. I am a woman and I don’t understand why some guys say that women like assh*les. Like… thats not true at all, obviously we will like someone who is kind and understands us. Thank you!
@Traumatised311
Жыл бұрын
Stupid American girl like fucbkoys they go after fuckboys n get pregnant They want to change them etc some logic
@Daria_Georgieva
Жыл бұрын
@@Traumatised311 im not even american but okay???
@Traumatised311
Жыл бұрын
@@Daria_Georgieva that's why u like nice guys
@Daria_Georgieva
Жыл бұрын
@@Traumatised311 obviously Im going to like nice guys, not toxic. I don’t know a single one of my friends who likes toxic ones?
@Traumatised311
Жыл бұрын
@@Daria_Georgieva American women like them
@zero_to_one0
6 ай бұрын
This is undoubtedly one of the best dating advice videos on KZitem
@element9387
Жыл бұрын
That “lean in-ness” really clicked for me. Thank you!
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching
@joshjacob1530
Жыл бұрын
I think the irony about me is everyone knows my true personality from observing me on social media and when I thought I was not being observed which leads to the awkwardness.
@rookiej5587
Жыл бұрын
I have had a few relationships and got some good and bad things out of them. Though, I don't actively do anything to attract or chase any woman now, which includes not approaching them for dates even if I like them at first (i know that feeling will just die down anyway if i don't act on it 😂🤣). I did not ever make a decision to be that way but things gradually lead to it. I wanted a person who I could share my life with. Always dated to marry but that kinda isn't the norm here. I live in most advanced city of my country. Life here isn't slow. People look for instant gratification. Nobody is thinking about building a life together. The most common way of dating here is through dating apps - Another thing I absolutely abhor. I do know there are plenty of people, men and women, who have similar views as me but we are just scattered all around the world lol.
@cookiegirl891
Жыл бұрын
Werd lol
@frappalina
16 күн бұрын
the explanation about the difference between assertiveness and a-holery was so good. it would be easier if we were all good communicators. another thing a man could say in that occasion would be "most people don't watch women's sports. which is a pity, because [insert female athlete names] are so talented". of course, just say it if you really think it. but it will definitely give you points with a lady!
@machio784
Жыл бұрын
Cole this is the video that I’ve been needing that I didn’t even know I needed. Thank you so much for what you do, keep up the awesome work!
@Noir_Nouveau
Жыл бұрын
Cole you doing actual good in the world with these lessons, continue to teach and challenge the fellas.
@mikedillan8101
3 ай бұрын
I think its very important to apply everything learnt in this video, and let attraction naturally come by itself, let it be a benefit, not a need or a goal
@yoihenbath
Жыл бұрын
Hey Cole I'm a guy from India and I had been suffering with social anxiety and you have helped me a lot and nowadays I feel so much better now all thanks to you 😍😀
@accordingtojonk7010
Жыл бұрын
I believe Cole is a competent person with lots of good advice and I can’t see why people seem to say negative things about him unless it’s their own insecurities. I admit my problem is that I don’t want to put in the work to change. I just say I don’t want to put in the work of approaching women, nor do I believe I’m owed anything from women. I just don’t want to relive failure and show nothing but respect for people have the motivation I don’t have to improve my situation.
@paytonsample
Жыл бұрын
my man cole sharing what he's picked up for us trying to improve ourselves. happy new years mans
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Happy new years fam
@rdln4313
Жыл бұрын
I am often fearful on your videos because I know they will spark deep introspective moments for me. Thank you for your work.
@pozoc9127
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely amazing advice, as always Thank you Cole
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Appreciate it!
@cristhianfernandezmkt
Жыл бұрын
Great Year for everyone!!!
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Great year indeed
@Shartox
Жыл бұрын
Hey Cole, I just wanted to let you know that your videos are really invaluable. It's so good to see and hear that I and so many other's are not alone with their problems in this world, where apparently everyone around you is living a full and happy life. Thank you for the insight into your problems and thank you especially for the solutions you offer at the same time. Bless you!
@dalitsobanda8295
Жыл бұрын
Been assertive means you're really listening and giving your response based on your view point i would say i am the assertive type of guy and really good listener but i feel like am still lacking in most areas, i feel like i still need to fill in a few gaps here and there thanks this video has helped me be aware of how I'll start this year guys keep grinding guys you archive something this year 2023 happy new year to you Cole and y'all guy's out there 🎉🎊
@WilliamZey
Жыл бұрын
Just in case you don't know, your videos are really helping me! Thanks so much brother, please keep up the good work!
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Glad I could help, thanks for watching them
@mygoodsir539
Жыл бұрын
cole your videos are so much better than the other dating advice on youtube
@baki484
Жыл бұрын
Great way to cap off the year thanks
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching
@baki484
Жыл бұрын
@@ColeHastings Happy new year in advance and thanks for the advice for the past 2 years. May you prosper and find greater success in 2023.
@mrnathanLL
5 ай бұрын
This video is goated especially the leaning into who you are part. Good shit Cole
@somber087
Жыл бұрын
Social media. Everyone looks "perfect"
@ThorenTravels
Жыл бұрын
It's not hard to find a woman who will make a great long-term partner. The challenge is wanting someone like that after decades of poor social conditioning. As Schopenhauer said, "A man can do what he wants, but not want what he wants".
@TibiConstantine
Жыл бұрын
I always choose ugly women. They are easier to manipulate.
@erubin100
Жыл бұрын
you must have lived quite a privileged life to believe this.
@betterhappensdaily
Жыл бұрын
I know this isnt discussion contributing but one of my favorite things to do now is to look for my name in the patreon list😂. Great video. Your hard work shows in what you put out. Thank you
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Haha thanks man
@calvincolton7165
Жыл бұрын
One of my favorite KZitem channels. Thank you.
@toxinthemaster5273
Жыл бұрын
Another great vid cole, your path with being introverted and stoic, but faking the extroverted alpha is the exact same story as me so thanks man you have helped a lot.
@ladybug3380
Жыл бұрын
These are the type of teachings fathers should be teaching their sons!!
@feezstories8440
Жыл бұрын
No matter what happens in this situation everyone will go about their day as if nothing happened and are only thinking about themselves
@finnconaty4036
Жыл бұрын
This video is great. Class nuanced advice. Brilliant Cole, keep it up.
@initiatorhater0688
Жыл бұрын
this is how i look at the world, nature, reality, from a different perspective, mindset, as guys, men, things are NOT given to us, however, its the opposite for women, what do you think? i think there is a lot of truth to that
@azhaanebrahim4887
Жыл бұрын
Looking forward to part two this interesting too me because most dating advice is most the time about picking up girls not having a long-lasting relationship more interesting in having solid relationship because red pill information is always more on picking up girls Happy New Year 2023 let's go😎👍🏼
@authenticmanstan797
Жыл бұрын
I dig the insight your experiences and research provide… These videos may help men open up and change their lives for the better, something I wish to do for 2023 🙏🌎❤️ Looking forward to creating my own content soon - be on the lookout as people like you are the inspiration- thanks and happy New Year 🤘
@delmerfry3689
Жыл бұрын
... just wanted to say, Thank you for making videos and putting them on KZitem! Hope you have a great new year!!
@Bella15230
Жыл бұрын
Amazing video, I wish every struggling man/ woman could see this video.
@redricblue8790
Жыл бұрын
happy new year friend, you made this year better for me.
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Happy new year. I’m glad I could be of help
@emanuelarriaza3710
Жыл бұрын
make the flow work for you find inner piece and it will come out
@Jooho-b5h
Жыл бұрын
Incredibly amazing video filled with so many useful and productive content that i definitely needed right now. Thank you so much Cole!!!!
@gravelAMDG
Жыл бұрын
Hey man, love your videos that I've seen so far. I think what might be special about your channel is that you seem to actually be in healthy, steady relationships. Many of the male improvement guys are encouraging a life a promiscuity that I am simply not interested in, and much of their advice has to be taken with a grain of salt because of that. Looking forward to watching more of your content.
@jbmgil
Жыл бұрын
That's it. Thank you.
@trackrunner6033
Жыл бұрын
Bruhhh...forget your ex is that simple...Focus on yourself. If we keep watching on how to attract women.. Bruhh just be and focus on YOURSELF. There are tons of women out there. If the world is full a different types of women...The same as men. If it goes wrong with one girl...Then date another one that values you for what you're made up. That is true confidence there.
@nofox777
Жыл бұрын
That makes me feel good, I'm just a regular guy but to some degree I've always had good luck in relationships . Most would describe me as kind,loyal, loving but don't start trouble with him . I'm average looking outside of being tall.
@Kunigunda897
Жыл бұрын
Or maybe you also just underestimate yourself.
@mrworldwide5811
Жыл бұрын
I feel like my biggest flaw is how I'm afraid of being disliked, the problem is it's all subconscious so it's hard to unlearn
@ravirangera4636
Жыл бұрын
It's a really helpful video I found it very valuable and I'm going to face my biggest fear tomorrow and I'm not going to care about whatever outcome I receive from there. It's very necessary to not be too preoccupied with your mind when you are in your social interaction. Cause at the end of the day nobody gonna remember you cause people to have much more important things to do in their life just give what you have and do not think about the consequences a lot at the end of the day people just think about themselves the most. Enjoy the reality that is given to you and just forget about the mind blubbering. Don't care about the negative people cause you will find them everywhere. Just be assertive and confident you know you are doing the right thing so what is the need to be afraid? Stand up for yourself whenever someone tries to insult you.
@cassandra6404
19 күн бұрын
The best dating advices video I have ever seen ❤
@oceanman6915
Жыл бұрын
once again you can't stop winning when you embrace yourself .
@ondreatorrence4322
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for vleeping out the cursing. I am a christian girl and i usually cant watch these types of videos because of the cursing and vulgarity. But i can watch your videos because of your consideration in this area. Thank you so much
@OnekamaProducts
Жыл бұрын
You the man Cole, thanks for what you do
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the support bro
@DarkManBeatzUrFace
Жыл бұрын
I have low self esteem low confidence I pretty much I hate who I am not to mention I'm not really good in social situations I have anxiety and I always feel like I'm not good enough to feel loved cause I have nothing Im broke unattractive so I don't blame women for finding me unattractive or not worthy not to mention I've always been a loner and socially inept so I stopped focused on women cause I know I don't have a chance so I just accepted my fate girls just don't like me tryna focus how to improve my confidence like being attractive having money would definitely boost my confidence I think confidence comes from knowing your worth and are happy with yourself I'm jealous of other people who are happy with themselves and confidence cause I know they value themselves unlike me who is socially inept cause I been bullied neglected by pretty much everyone not to mention I'm a shut in that's introverted that hates being around people cause I could never fit in
@peachaesthxtic23
Жыл бұрын
Bruh i feel you..😢we are so similiar
@eti-iniER
Жыл бұрын
I can't express how accurate this video is. The truth? Just be you, dude. Sure, you might not get the homecoming queen or anything, but honestly, you don't even want that. Find something you like to do. And make it your entire personality, an all-consuming flame blazing around you. Get really good at it, and the rest comes easy
@kriss5081
5 ай бұрын
But i want a homecoming queen
@BangMaster96
Жыл бұрын
Remember, it's good to be assertive and kind, but you also have to have a good sense of humor as a Man, and you can only develop humor by being more observant of the World, and coming up with your own perspectives on your observations. And, don't just be kind, assertive, and funny for any random Woman out there, after you've put in some work, if she doesn't reciprocate the same amount of interest in you, then move on.
@x0b34rd4
Жыл бұрын
Great stuff dude. Food for thought, and then some… Hope you and yours have a great new year’s eve, and an awesome 2023
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Happy new year, thanks for watching
@charlesvela1800
Жыл бұрын
I will study this video. Thank you so much brother. Happy New Year to all!
@male9881
Жыл бұрын
Feliz Año Nuevo Cole !! 🌠
@mario125ww
Жыл бұрын
I kinda gave up on women completely. I'm good just being a bachelor my entire life. I just box for fun and I studying to be a doctor. And then I hang out with friends My life is extremely boring and I'm ok with it.
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
If that is the life for you then that is awesome. Im glad you found your peace
@evanmaldonado9799
Жыл бұрын
Boxing is a very great and badass skill to learn, teaches u how to protect yourself/others and it also helps u learn disciplene and it’s just really good for self improvement, keep grinding man, you’re doing great.
@Gh0stGaminginc
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like cope
@mario125ww
Жыл бұрын
@@Gh0stGaminginc everything in life is cope even getting a gf. It's more about what's cope you used to feel better about your reality. My cope is that I found meaning in my career and hobbies less to do with chasing women
@Gh0stGaminginc
Жыл бұрын
@@mario125ww Well it doesn't sound like you're terribly happy with your "reality" like you're just going day by day. Life is too short to be unhappy.
@akshat5836
Жыл бұрын
Hi Cole you are a person whom I relate with a lot starting this year with your video Hoping achieve something i wanted And want to make my passion.. Thanks A lot for sharing this knowledge Love form India 🇮🇳
@Italo._
Жыл бұрын
i'm not agree with the last point, i used embrace my personality and people bullied me for that, because they don't like that you be different, they want you to be like them
@bigups2065
Жыл бұрын
be stronger. there’s a lot of people out there that’ll try and bring you down cause they see something in you.
@shpho
Жыл бұрын
Happy New Year, Cole!
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
Happy new year. Let’s make it the best one yet
@nevinarushan91
Жыл бұрын
I was just in a mental crisis and he helped
@CNarabicofficialchannel
7 ай бұрын
Jhonny cage giving pieces of advice 😂❤
@TrishaSmith
Жыл бұрын
Cole, you looked handsome in all your pictures.
@aaronaustrie
Жыл бұрын
Needed this. Thanks Cole 🙏🏾
@jay.perspective7377
Жыл бұрын
Great video Cole! You’re looking yoked too so it seems the time in the gym is paying off💪🏼
@nevinarushan91
Жыл бұрын
This guy is different in a good way
@GustavoSilva-ny8jc
Жыл бұрын
3:48 This stoic thinking to protect from pain is an inherent contradiction, how will fight for something or change things for the better if you don't care?! Akagi mahjong explore this "it was just rationality propelling Urabe's aggressiveness not desire to win, this can change by a simple change in situation". To be a champion, beat your slavery, survive, you can't say "you don't care about the results" in those things. A stoic would create every excuse to how defeat wasnt up to them and you can always suicid3 to escape pain.
@spaceman11c
Жыл бұрын
Waiting the part 2. Really good video !
@oonaofsauceland6354
Жыл бұрын
I am gonna start working on myself ,I've been in a rut.
@cxa011500
6 күн бұрын
Sounds exhausting. 😮💨
@dismayingmist7868
Жыл бұрын
Happy new year Cole Awesome video
@Ghillied_Gator
Жыл бұрын
I have 4 interest : - Airsoft - Practicalitiness (In other words, I always have what I need everywhere I go) - Touring - Psychology/Philosophy Explanation : - Airsoft is my favorite sport either for target praticing or just skirmish, I'm confident in my shooting skills and airsoft is my way to go since guns are prohibited in my country. I'm still underage to join the army. - Practicalitiness means I always have what I need, I always bring 2 multitool, foldable spoon, pen, paper, fire starter, and 3m rope in my wallet (Those things are pretty small and my wallet fits very well). Everywhere I go with my social group there's always someone that needs something specifics and I always have something for it. It always works and somehow my nickname is 'The Mechanic' since I can make something out of nothing. - Touring, I just love to feel the wind, and also I feel livelier when I go fast. - Psychology/Philosophy got my peak interest because there's always something that can help me in social situations as an Introvert, I believe in Stoicism and many people told me I'm too calm in stressing situations because of it, I'm still learning and mindfulness is my weak point right now. Here's my other interest : - Survival - Wood working My usual clothes : - Coat - Tactical Shirt (with turtle neck) - Long cargo pants - boots I need some more tips on showing my own personality (based on looks), if you have any questions or tips, please tell me.
@joelmeedel
Жыл бұрын
Great video, I'm really looking forward the part 2
@itsirrelevant4565
Жыл бұрын
You guys should really just be yourselves. If no one in the world that you know is interested in ANY of your hobbies then you are either prickly in general, or are engaged in such niche hobbies to hide from your trauma. Face it and be yourself. Accept how you are privileged and marginalized.
@ColeHastings
Жыл бұрын
"Be Yourself" is bad advice for people who dont even know who they are. And the most that they "are" is awkward and shy. A better thing to promote is for guys to "become" the best version of themselves.
@milarosenrot
Жыл бұрын
Funny when you talked about “what if I just like games…” I’ve only dated gamers my whole life and I don’t know why if someone doesn’t play games is so unattractive. I think is just better meeting someone passionate about the same thing you do, even if it’s just gym, or in my case, games
@flatheadgg2443
Жыл бұрын
Thank you man, this advice was like made for me. It even seems to look like my cards aren't that bad after all, if only l could get over the first hurdle of actually getting in touch with a potential partner. Having no friends to go out with indeed is a major handycap and being short is a death sentence for most guys on the dating market but maybe there is still hope to find that unicorn somewhere. Only time can tell, stayin on guard for the second part.
@bro918
9 ай бұрын
Did u find anyone? How short r u
@flatheadgg2443
9 ай бұрын
@@bro918fuck me, this was almost a year ago, thanks for even giving a shit dude. But yeah no, l'm just about scratching at the 5'6"mark now and there's still not a glimpse of hope in sight. I must say tho, the copium is working pretty well and my life has gotten a whole lot better. If it's my destiny to never find anyone then so be it, my time on this earth is way too precious to keep chasing fantasies after all, l'll have to make due with what l can. The best to you as well.
@bro918
9 ай бұрын
@@flatheadgg2443 Damn... I was hoping for a happy ending 1 year later... 😞 Im 5'4", approaching my 30s with not even a first kiss yet LOL. Natural selection in action I guess. What are your copes?
@flatheadgg2443
9 ай бұрын
@@bro918 Yeah that's rough, but rest assured that l'm in pretty much the exact same place right now. As for the cope however, l could probably write you a whole essay, but l also feel like this is something everyone needs to find out on their own. But in short; for me it took the form of some sort of pseudo spirituality, all born from me trying to make sense of my condition through various means, therapy and autistic levels of research on various exotheric and esotheric topics being the main one. I guess l took both the blue and the red pill simultainiously, I do have faith in myself and the universe that things will eventually turn out alright, but l am also staying content with the idea that there is a greater chance it will not. Also the usual; healthy lifestyle, stay off the internet, get a hobby or job you enjoy. "Be the best version of yourself" is such a generic advice but it does hold some truth none the less.
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