Also check out this success story / coaching session with one of my clients who was picking her fingers and thumbs: kzitem.info/news/bejne/xaWAv6Rvs2eoY20
@Purehess
2 жыл бұрын
man, I could never put into words why i was picking at the skin on my fingers, but "looking for roughness" and " not interesting" hit it on the head!!
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear I nailed it, Ed!
@jenniferstewart730
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely!!
@cinnamxn_stixs
Жыл бұрын
ik nail biting is more common, but nail picking is soo difficult to quit! every time i’m bored or anxious it’s the first thing i start doing. my longest was like a week but it was so difficult! i kept reminding myself that i wanted long beautiful nails but it was so difficult
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@theeyeschico_
8 ай бұрын
Appreciate you for sharing your experience! Do you still pick your nails? I pick my nails too. I realised that I do it whenever I’m bored, anxious or scared of something. I’ve been doing it nonstop, like every single night till they bleed, for at least two years now. It’s the hardest thing ever to stop. It’s almost impossible. But I’m trying my best. The longest I can go is two-three days. But the struggle is real. I want to get my nails done but I can’t so that’s not an option. Do you have any suggestions?
@cinnamxn_stixs
8 ай бұрын
@theeyeschico_ it's actually still a problem, but I have reduced the habit. It happend naturally, but now I don't pick my nails as much as I pick my cheek! So I have switched habits 😭😭
@theeyeschico_
8 ай бұрын
@@cinnamxn_stixs ohh, that’s actually sad to hear because I’ve experienced the same thing before. I used to bite my nails when I was little but now as you said, I switched habits too, so now I pick my nails. Which is even worse.. 🥲
@POCKBA
4 ай бұрын
It helped me when I was a cleaning lady as I had to touch so much stuff and it was better for years. Came back with stress and new traumas.
@ghostturtles4882
6 ай бұрын
Im 16 right now and i have a bad habit of using a pocket knife and digging under my nails with it. I also pick at them in school when im bored. I really hope i can stop soon because ive been picking since i was 4. I got my sister to hide the pocket knife and that has helped a lot
@annettepasternakSSPC
5 ай бұрын
Yes, getting rid of tools helps a lot. Thanks for sharing.
@LaylaG105
2 жыл бұрын
I cry because I can’t stop sometimes they aren’t as bad as before. It’s hard to resist but I use fidgets and I can’t wear gloves because I live in a warm state and i would be sweaty and this is helping so thank you! I hope I can stop this habit and everyone else who is having trouble
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
Glad to help, Layla.
@cjbrown8245
2 жыл бұрын
5 years of severe nail picking and embarrassment. No clue what started this!! Very glad to have found this video. I use nail wraps and it helps a bit.
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful. Thanks for sharing about the nail wraps.
@boohere2
Жыл бұрын
I have hangnails and sometimes pick them. I try to use just a nail cutter to just cut it away. Sometimes I just rip it. It just annoys me being there, that is the hangnail. I won't use lotion cream because I don't like it. Don't like the feel. That isn't really an option.
@minerly5612
7 ай бұрын
im 19 years old, and have been biting the skin around my fingers for as long as i can remember, and it has only gotten worse and worse. I have been biting the side and tops of all my fingers to the point where i constantly have deep wounds around my nails. It has always felt super embarrassing for me, and i have been hiding my finger tips as much as possible for many years now. My family and friends (only the ones who have noticed it, or the ones i have showed it to) have been telling me to stop for a long time now, but i have not been able to do so. It's so bad, that the skin around all my fingertips is super thick and red. A little while ago i tried putting band-aids on the tips of the fingers that were the worst at the time, and it kind of helped, because it made me not be able to feel the skin around those fingers. But because of this video, i have tried putting hand creme on my hands and fingers, and that has really helped, because it makes my hands feel super soft, and nice, which makes me stop biting. I try to put the hand creme on as soon as i think about it, and especially after taking a shower, or before going to bed, and in the morning. Thank you for making this video, this has really helped!:)
@annettepasternakSSPC
7 ай бұрын
I'm so glad it helped! Thank you for taking the time to comment.
@eloicocard7501
Жыл бұрын
I do it even when they’re moisturized. To the point where every finger starts bleeding and red and sore and I pick at them while they’re healing so they almost never heal. It only happens when I take my ADHD medicine (vyvanse) or if I am studying/ doing homework. I’m assuming it’s from anxiety but I don’t know. I’m going to try to moisturize as soon as I notice that I’m picking at them now and hopefully that will help!
@AestheticallyViolet
6 ай бұрын
Omg same, except I only do it at school.
@rainahoge4964
19 күн бұрын
omg same, like when they start to heal and scab over, I don't like the roughness of the scabs and I pick them off without even realizing it. Then they bleed. Its just the worst cycle and I can't figure out how to stop because I do it without even thinking about it.
@germangirl2017
7 күн бұрын
Hello Annette! I'm picking fingers for 27 years now. at this point: I can't fold my laundry without getting blood on them, I hide my fingers in a fist so most people ask why I'm angry, my books got oily so I don't use hand creams while working hence I pick even more. A woman at work asked me: you are such a well-kept young lady, why do you demolish you're fingers? I got so mad at her but somehow agreed... I need to stop because I know I'm harming myself. Your video motivated me and I'm gonna start using your advices. I'm not sure if I can endure the healing process but thanks for sharing your experience it gave me hope for a more peaceful daily life. Love from Germany.❤
@annettepasternakSSPC
7 күн бұрын
Hello German Girl! You can do it. If you need private coaching contact me on my website stopskinpickingcoach.com.
@ashleystarreveld3450
Жыл бұрын
I find I always relapse and get the urge to pick during the healing process. When there's that bit of dry skin "sticking out" or "half hanging off" (Hope you get what I mean) just seeing it like that it's too tempting to pick off. Hope you can help me with this.
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
I would definitely moisturize more, and when there's that bit, clip it off carefully.
@kiyugare2755
Жыл бұрын
I’ve felt the same way. When I feel myself healing, I find a piece of skin that’s bothering me that sticks out
@lmno13
3 жыл бұрын
My problem is I forget to put oil or lotion on my cuticles. I don’t think about them until I see the white, dry flakiness and, of course, I’m somewhere where I don’t have a cuticle nipper or oil handy. I need to be more mindful about being prepared-and consistent.
@annettepasternakSSPC
3 жыл бұрын
Maybe set some reminders on your phone or putting the oil in a strange place like on your keyboard to help you remember. Preparation and consistency are a challenge but the key.
@yourfav_madz
Жыл бұрын
This could never stop the whole video I’m doing it doing it it’s just unbelievable you can never stop you it’s impossible I could never find a way
@becamifi
Жыл бұрын
Great suggestions! Thanks for this video. Another idea to avoid the dryness is hydration! Often dry skin is an indicator that we aren’t drinking enough water
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
True! Thanks for adding that!
@sinkintostillness
2 ай бұрын
I always chewed my nails, I got the habit from my mother. At the age of 9 she told me I wouldn't be able to become a hairdresser (my then dream vocation) with nails like mine. I stopped, just like that - one day a nail biter, the next day not. Some years later, and I can't even pin point exactly when, I'm approaching 40 now and it could be a decade or more I've been at it, I've become a skin puller. I hate it, it hurts, looks gross, is a gross habit. I'm a pretty handsy person, so my hands can get pretty dry. But even when they're not, I'm looking for a rough patch to work on. Snipping these off to create a straight edge does help, when I'm not too anxious, but if I'm having a rough time I can't stop myself. It feels like an addiction. I can go weeks and be almost healed and really pleased with the result, only to start looking for a rough patch again. Some of my fingers now have these weird bumps around the nail bed, where the skin isn't growing back smooth anymore. I can't stand wearing the gloves to bed, but I do keep hand creams everywhere around my house so that if I'm tempted when I'm not busy around the house, I can massage creams into my finger tips instead to try and keep my hands busy. I keep pebbles around too, something small, flat and smooth, from the beach, to use as a kind of fidget toy when I'm out and about. Keep my hands busy. I've only just realised that what I'm doing can be considered a form of self harm, I'm genuinely shocked to know this. I remember some scenes from the Black Swan movie, thinking goodness that's awful, only to be doing it myself (though obviously not quite as graphic as the movie!)
@annettepasternakSSPC
Ай бұрын
Hi. Thanks for sharing your experience. These behaviors are like an addiction and are different from self harm because you are not intentionally trying to hurt or cause pain. Your behavior is satisfying in the moment giving you an escape from anxiety or other difficult emotions or sensations.
@AnneMelb2010
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for all the tips. I have been picking skin around my cuticle area and top of the fingers for decades. I have also watched other videos that say this picking has the same effect as people who cut themselves as it is a compulsive thing and relieves pent up anxiety and stress. I wish there was an easy way to deal with OCD behaviors, but I keep trying. lol I will try the gamer fingertip gloves as they sound breathable. I had previously tried latex version, but they made my skin sweat and wrinkle making it more tempting to pick later. Thanks again. ✨
@annettepasternakSSPC
Ай бұрын
You're welcome, Anne. It's important to remember the picking is not relieving your anxiety and stress. It's only giving you a temporary satisfaction that provides an escape from those uncomfortable feelings. Overall it increases anxiety.
@peterbennett4733
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for this video Annette! Been picking my skin for probably 20 years.
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 ай бұрын
You're welcome, Peter!
@veronicarogers2483
3 ай бұрын
I have ADHD, when I pick at my proximal nail fold it is looking to find a rougher bit to rub against my lips. It is a form of self soothing as well as stimming, I find myself doing this without being fully aware of it. This has been something I've done since I was about age 6 - currently 40 so it's been in the picture for multiple decades.....
@PawprintStudios28
2 ай бұрын
I haven't gotten diagnosed, but I do exhibit an increasing amount of ADHD symptoms. I would like to get diagnosed before adulthood. Anywho, reading your comment made me realize a reason why I might pick my skin... When I pick my skin down to that roughness, I just rub and rub my fingers against each other and my thumb against my hand. I'm not set on this being the reason, but it's a small possibility. Thank you for opening my eyes to this.
@user-du6re3rm9z
Жыл бұрын
I think it’s about curing it mentally, not making it harder to ruin the skin, it’ll just cause another coping mechanism. Or another part of the body
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
That doesn't usually happen with finger picking. Covering fingers is training your brain out of the behavior, not just making it harder to ruin the skin.
@lowerastral1963
3 жыл бұрын
Wow! Thank you, Annette! These are all really great suggestions that I'm going to apply to my daily routine.
@annettepasternakSSPC
3 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome! Glad you found the video helpful.
@jewelhannathomas
10 ай бұрын
I used to bite my nails for 15 years and somehow managed to stop it but unfortunately replaced it with picking the nails off whenever I'm worried/stressed about something..to make it worse, I even do the same with toe nails!!!
@annettepasternakSSPC
10 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing! You might also like my video about picking on your feet: kzitem.info/news/bejne/trCdr6SrraZ1iaQ
@_.Queen.Mariah.baily.23._
Жыл бұрын
I’ve been picking my nails since I was 2 years old and I don’t what to do
@megankwisdom
3 жыл бұрын
I'm going to try the gaming fingers, thank you!
@annettepasternakSSPC
3 жыл бұрын
Excellent, Megan!
@drueatcer
5 ай бұрын
Me too, that sounds pretty good.
@TaratulaTerri
2 ай бұрын
They also come in nitrile. That is much better for me, you can still feel everything and use your phone! Amazon.
@maako3867
Жыл бұрын
I had a very hard addiction of nail biting and now I finally free from it and so proud. I started getting off it like a month ago and now my nails are kinda long and they look so beautiful, I don't want to bite it anymore. And I didn't use any method or anything I just tried to distract myself from it and when I caught myself on doing that i simply did other things that took my attention. Also when I started it I was really motivated because I want to get my nails done and simply just let it grow. Yet I'm struggling with skin biting still. But trying to get off that addiction too!
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing, Maako. Congrats!
@grasOnYT
6 ай бұрын
TYSM i pick at my thumbs ALL THE TIME and this help a lot. I didn’t know there was a vid abt this ty :)
@annettepasternakSSPC
6 ай бұрын
You're welcome! Glad it was helpful
@chrisp3545
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Annette, I ordered the gaming fingers last week and they have really worked for me so far! I put them on my two "peace" fingers (or swearing fingers depending on what mood I'm in...) on both hands and stops me scanning and picking. Almost gave up trying but this seems to be working so far :)
@annettepasternakSSPC
3 жыл бұрын
That's awesome - thanks for letting me and everyone else know!
@flora.8223
2 жыл бұрын
I managed to stop for half a year but the bad habit came back and I’m doing it to the point where I’m bleeding and my hands are so sore to the point were I can’t even pick up a pen
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
You can do it again, Flora.
@faruambient
Ай бұрын
Doing this for as long as I can think. My mom did it too, so I thought I got it from her. Didn't think it's a kind of ocd. Trying to use a stress ball. Moisturing doesn't work for me.
@karelinramos7663
Жыл бұрын
I used to be a nail bitter but since like 6 years ago I stopped doing it. Something that helped me was painting my nails with nail polish. Whenever I had them painted and tried to eat them I’d be grossed out 😂 so that’s a great thing. But some years afterwards until today I started biting the skin around my cuticles. I think the behavior that triggers this is boredom or anxiety. I’m trying to find a way to stop this because I don’t like the way my fingers are starting to look, it also bleeds and hurts. I’ll follow your tips and try to work my way out before it gets worse. Thank you for this useful info, I’ll subscribe to your channel ❤
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for your comment Karelin. I think you will like this small coaching group I have coming up: www.stopskinpickingcoach.com/blog/stop-skin-picking-coaching-group-enrolling-now
@karelinramos7663
Жыл бұрын
@@annettepasternakSSPC thank you for sharing, I’ll check it out ❤️
@Issyxoxoo
23 күн бұрын
hey! Im 12-14 and i bite the skin all around my nails, and like you said, its and issue because im trying to flatten the area but i end up tearing off bits of skin. Whenever i come out of the shower too i just keep biting, i put bandaids on to try and stop myself, any feedback?
@Spiral.Dynamics
6 ай бұрын
This was so helpful! Thank you.
@annettepasternakSSPC
6 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@angelabarragan9237
Жыл бұрын
Definitely going to start wearing gloves when I wash dishes. I’m also going to start wearing press on nails lol my daughter designs them so I’m going to take advantage of the in home salon 😆 Thanks so much for the help and tips!
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
That's great, Angela!
@PolymerJones
Жыл бұрын
When my nails finally grow back I start using them to pick cuticles and if I stop that I literally just replace it with something else like biting skin on my lip or licking my back,
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
That will happen if you don't address deeper reason(s) you're doing the behaviors
@PolymerJones
Жыл бұрын
@@annettepasternakSSPC I stopped picking for a while and currently I’m back doing it and I literally can’t stop 🤦♂️
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
@@PolymerJones Reach out to me on my website if you want some help: stopskinpickingcoach.com
@Aamnashah88
Жыл бұрын
I was watchng the video while biting skin
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
You're not alone, Aamna
@57is57
3 жыл бұрын
I tried the latex finger cots a couple years ago but found the sizing to never be ideal - too loose or too tight. I’ll be trying the gaming fingers. I love fidget stuff - pipe cleaners, thinking putty, a sketch book, or even a couple of marbles to spin in my palm - while watching shows or attending church. (I sometimes take my sketch book to church too!) I also need a LOT more moisturizer and will be ordering some bag balm! Thank you!
@57is57
3 жыл бұрын
Heading out on a road trip this week and definitely need something to play with so I don’t pick my fingers or arms. ❤️
@annettepasternakSSPC
3 жыл бұрын
My pleasure, and thanks for sharing, Andrea!
@minemarei768
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I can't even remeber how long I have been struggling with this and I was often so ashamed for my hands, but this is giving me hope. I have noticed that I can completly stop picking at my fingers whenever I get a gel manicure, but I don't really like long nails and since I am a writer they do get in the way. I will try out the moisturising and gaming fingers. Hopefully this helps. I also got diagnosed with ADD last month and I wonder if this has something to do with my need to always have something to do with my hands. Usually when I am very engaged in Uni courses or my work I tend to not pick at my fingers. Maybe I should look into fidget toys too 🤔
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful, Mine. Thanks for sharing. It can't hurt to try some fidget toys too.
@jenniferstewart730
2 жыл бұрын
Yesssss same here!! If i get my nails done i don’t do it either it’s the craziest thing!!
@ShroomyNymph
3 ай бұрын
Not me picking my nails while watching this 😂 oh man lol
@flori2611
2 ай бұрын
Amazing !
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 ай бұрын
Thanks!
@AthenaPlayz
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so so so so so much!! Ive been doing this since i was 8 and this helps a lot!
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
My pleasure, Athena! So glad it helps!
@deer9311
2 жыл бұрын
This video was helpful! Thank you! Quick question. Do you have any tips for growing the skin back around the cuticle?
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
Good question, Dee! Beyond keeping the skin well moisturized, I don't know, but I can research this and do another video if I learn some good tips. Glad the video was helpful!
@OligoST
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you this has helped me
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad!
@michellemurph
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks, I’m really struggling rn. I had a picking spree on my cuticles and face the past two days and now I’m miserable
@annettepasternakSSPC
3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome, Michelle. Hang in there.
@sherrybradley1387
2 жыл бұрын
Gaming finger! Who knew! Great video thanks
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
Glad you liked it, Sherry!
@susanfinegan5861
Жыл бұрын
This helped so much I'm always so embarrassed when people ask what happened to my fingers I normally makeup an excuse 😂 thank youu
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
Glad it helped, Susan!
@susanfinegan5861
Жыл бұрын
😊
@ayumeikamomil8703
Жыл бұрын
I always do this in Unconscious I can eat the skin in my finger and picking it as well and if I whatching or dumbfound I picking the my toes too
@MelovesNiall
19 күн бұрын
Does the fingertips skin recover by itself if i didn't bite it? Cause mine is so bad, and im scared that even if i stopped, it will stay like this 😢 Please tell me it can recover by itself
@DrWoofOfficial
8 күн бұрын
It should
@WitStream1
7 ай бұрын
You have nice hands, coincidentally enough.
@annettepasternakSSPC
7 ай бұрын
Thank you
@-Mrs.Tomioka
5 ай бұрын
I came here bc i can’t avoid picking on my hangnails 😭😭
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 ай бұрын
You're in good company.
@-Mrs.Tomioka
2 ай бұрын
@@annettepasternakSSPC :D
@Kathn1p
Жыл бұрын
Just listening to you talking about it makes me wanna chew on my skin haha
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
Ha ha, it's not the first time I've heard that!
@OkBud405
2 жыл бұрын
A discreet way I don’t pick mine is a bandaid
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
Bandaids are great
@calzie4762
2 жыл бұрын
For me after I shower or bath my fingers go all wrinkly and white and pickable
@annettepasternakSSPC
2 жыл бұрын
Ahh, perhaps a shorter shower is better for you.
@cobrafire3700
3 жыл бұрын
You look beautiful
@annettepasternakSSPC
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you 😊
@archdukegordy2189
3 ай бұрын
I really like eating my fingers though
@Asukenick
Жыл бұрын
I'm over 30 and I've been doing it almost all my life.
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing Adam.
@furbabiesarefamilytoo
8 ай бұрын
I pick and bite after my shower, driving, watching tv or videos on my iPad
@MaxMaxis
3 жыл бұрын
Rubber gloves are tiring. Sweaty hands annoy me more than picked skin 😂 Funny you mentioned gaming fingers, I literally found them on aliexpress and got them also 3 months ago. I belive they will definitely help in the office when we get back to it after Corona. Fidget spinners never helped me either...
@annettepasternakSSPC
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing, Artem.
@JoJo-sv8fl
2 жыл бұрын
you could use gloves out of fabric :)
@sogga8971
Жыл бұрын
for me in my math class my teacher is rude ,doesn't let you do anything like fidget so i just memorized my phone layout and text in the air :)
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing, sogga.
@touchere
5 ай бұрын
Throw away the cotton gloves. Use nitrile gloves, it accelerates the healing and draws moisture from your body into the skin in addition to the moisturiser's effect. You can also wear them during the day without inhibiting dexterity. Great skin and nails in a few days. You must still continue regular daily moisturising when not using the gloves.
@annettepasternakSSPC
5 ай бұрын
Good tip. Thanks for sharing.
@charlotteinnocent8752
Жыл бұрын
Nope on a manicure. I don't need to have people JUDGING ME at some salon for having anxiety. I would not be able to take it.
@annettepasternakSSPC
Жыл бұрын
I understand, Charlotte. You can do it yourself.
@TaratulaTerri
2 ай бұрын
I've gone in many, many times with my ugly, dry bitten cuticles. Manicurists are quite the opposite, they don't judge. They want to help you have beautiful nails. Trust me, they see this every day. They can help you.
@charlotteinnocent8752
2 ай бұрын
@@TaratulaTerri Perhaps for my birthday thanks for the reassurance.
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