1 month later, allow me to clarify some things... The main counter-arguments to this video in the comments are: - "I couldn't think of anything worse than someone trying to talk to me all the time, let alone start a conversation with me in an elevator! Plus there's not a one-size fits all approach to socialising! Anyway, who cares?" So here's my response: - To interpret this video as "this guy is just saying we should ALWAYS avoid silence" is missing the point. - Silence is sometimes necessary if what you're after is a sane mind. - The example of the elevator was an example (emphasis on the word "example"). I used it to illustrate any scenario you might find yourself in where you might want (key words "might want") to spark up a conversation with someone. - However, if you're an unsociable fellow who prefers his own company to some random British man with a moustache trying to talk to you about god knows what in the hopes of having a lively conversation, that's fine. Knock yourself out with your solitude. - But for those of you who do want to occasionally speak to strangers and improve your approachability, I made this video for you. Regardless of what camp you fall into, Thanks for watching. Lewis
@maddscientist82
5 ай бұрын
Great video, saw it the first time you uploaded. Anyway, LOVE your content, dude. Also, I joined your Discord and emailed you looking for ways to aid you on your journey. Let me know!
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
@@maddscientist82 Thanks brother! And sounds good.
@4D-Weather_Man
5 ай бұрын
Yo I love your vest, is it tailored or just store bought?
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
@4D-Weather_Man thanks brother! I bought it from a small independent tailors - it’s a hand made Portuguese tweed suit - not sure on the brand
@Kajenx
5 ай бұрын
We all can say it, but if you really feel the need for this ban we will support you.
@therambler3713
4 ай бұрын
The oldest trick I've learned is treat every stranger like an old friend from high school. Absolutely works wonders and immediately breaks the tension.
@dxnvxr
4 ай бұрын
This is the key! That technique helped me to make lots of new friends lately
@a21123
4 ай бұрын
isnt that how every guy treats each other if they are not in work
@matheussanthiago9685
4 ай бұрын
@@a21123 the universal bro code
@mikec2845
4 ай бұрын
what if you had no friends in high school
@thenoodlebuddy
4 ай бұрын
@@mikec2845touche
@nocall-s6q
4 ай бұрын
moral of the story: choose stairs
@irinthur
4 ай бұрын
Thank you... I needed this comment
@joshholmes322
4 ай бұрын
I literally died laughing at this my wife thought I was choking in the other room
@بوعلي-ز3م
4 ай бұрын
@@joshholmes322 😂
@tieschawasilisa
4 ай бұрын
😂
@moonchildeverlasting9904
4 ай бұрын
this _USE_ to be right. Now its def. isnt.
@jamesnewham7125
4 ай бұрын
First 15 minutes after arriving in the US for the first time, a woman got in the busy elevator and faced everybody instead of the door and was just talking at everybody. As a Brit, I've still not recovered from this.
@evgeniizaets9243
4 ай бұрын
😂
@123simenHP
4 ай бұрын
You never went to an elevator again, right? Just imagine the same torture happening again 😬
@magyarbondi
4 ай бұрын
You're not a Brit. It's a lift. 😄
@heavenlysteel8337
4 ай бұрын
@@magyarbondi maybe they stayed quite a while in the US and picked up the American term.
@faruambient
3 ай бұрын
was about to say the same. As a german. ... why is there always the need to talk? people can just be quiet for 2 minute in the elevator 😀 In the US it wont stay silent for a second from my experience, but I dont mind either.
@BichHaSquire
Ай бұрын
The lack of conversation about Social Secrets Mastery is probably why social interactions feel like a challenge for so many.
@Primorkusha
Ай бұрын
Big help with social skills, totally worth it.
@keajd1178
Ай бұрын
That book was a game changer for social stuff.
@6TF6metoda-qn8rn
Ай бұрын
Wow, that book really turned things around for me.
@thekezich9401
Ай бұрын
Dude, I’m honestly shocked, my social skills improved so much!
@KaizenWithRen
Ай бұрын
Shillers ⚠️⚠️⚠️😂
@envar1
4 ай бұрын
For those who are curious, elevator walls have mirrors to help remedy the claustrophobic nature of them. Mirrors seemingly make a room visually larger
@NewelOfKnowledge
4 ай бұрын
WE HAVE THE ANSWER!
@jakedespppp
5 ай бұрын
Finally realized I have to go bald before I can talk to people ty
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
shit, forgot to mention this!
@tng3100
5 ай бұрын
@@NewelOfKnowledge noted..
@GuidelinesViolator
4 ай бұрын
@@NewelOfKnowledge policeman,firefighter,doctor.
@Morph-ek4ij
4 ай бұрын
@@NewelOfKnowledgeyeah then you have a conversation started everywhere you go😂 “Hey Hey miss/Mr have you seen my hair? It seems to have grown legs and jumped off my head!
@JonnyD3ath
4 ай бұрын
He hasn’t went bald, he’s shaved his head 🤣
@Johnnymoonlander
5 ай бұрын
Silence doesn’t have to be awkward. Silence just is
@JoeyG-o8r
5 ай бұрын
Sounds like a cope, friend.
@blaz1641
5 ай бұрын
@@JoeyG-o8r you never had enjoyable silence with someone you are close to?
@takeuchi5760
5 ай бұрын
@@blaz1641 that's not the kind of silence being discussed here. Of course, that is not awkward.
@JoeyG-o8r
5 ай бұрын
@@blaz1641 Sure, I guess. That's not what the video is about though, this video is about connecting with the people around you. You can't do that through silence unless you are already very close to them.
@johncharles.5087
5 ай бұрын
@@JoeyG-o8r Yes but what if it's clear the people in question have no intention of connecting and only speak because of the implied cultural pressure, the forced conversation that arises is always more awkward than the silence that should have been
@ac5788
5 ай бұрын
I don't like to make conversation in a place where it is liable to be cut short permanently. What is awkward is people's intolerance of quiet.
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
Fair point.
@siyanda_mpanza
5 ай бұрын
That's good! Make it part of the 'taking in your environment' exercise, but careful not to use it as a cop out either. Even if we only spoke for ten seconds, that's enough to make someone feel noticed, heard and, as a corollary, special. It's actually enought time to make a first impression. Perhaps a change of objective might enhance your experience(s). So, spread some cheer! Well, if that becomes your objective, tight time horizons will only motivate you to be more creative/ witty. 👌
@kalla103
5 ай бұрын
you meant to say prematurely instead of permanently, right? hard agree though, i would not try to start a conversation in an elevator when we'd part ways before i could reply to my partner in a proper manner. but that is fine and ok. we don't have to talk all the time.
@javi___
4 ай бұрын
yet you had to say something now
@mac19999x
4 ай бұрын
theres always the option when you dont end the conversation and just keep talking... but i get it, whatever excuse will do.
@wizcatcheslightning
5 ай бұрын
Interestingly enough, you can also use mirrored reciprocation to better negotiate/avoid conflict. For example, if someone says something, anything really, you mirror their response back at them. Person: "I'm so frustrated with your department" You: "You're frustrated with the sales department?" Person: "Yeah, our VP of project management is telling us to try and align with with the expectations your department is setting for the clients. And those expectations are unrealistic for us to fulfill." Next, you never ask a "why" question. "Why" questions make people inherently defensive because they sound accusatory. Instead, ask a "what" question... You: "What makes you frustrated specifically?" Person: "Well this employee of yours promised this (goes into detail about an unrealistic expectation that was set)". You: "Ah, well if they had attended that enablement workshop from last week, they should know better. Thanks for bringing this to my attention. I'll correct their course!" Issue resolved in a mostly non-confrontational confrontation, all because you mirrored their frustrations and gave them an opportunity to elaborate without making them feel the need to be defensive.
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
Ah man this made me happy! It seems you've been reading some Chris Voss (or perhaps not). Your knowledge of communication is awesome. Thanks for sharing this.
@wizcatcheslightning
5 ай бұрын
@@NewelOfKnowledge "Never Split the Difference" changed my life, yessir! Right back at you! I watched this video, and was like, "I know exactly what he's talking about!" That dog example was a chef's kiss 🧑🍳
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
@@wizcatcheslightning Awesome stuff. Love to hear appreciation for that book. Thanks again sir ;)
@princealmighty5391
5 ай бұрын
Source?
@turtlec7140
3 ай бұрын
Great comment! As a counsellor, this is one of the first basic things you learn - WHY is often interpreted as an accusation so people get defensive, hence we ask WHAT or HOW if we want to help them express themselves and open up. It's a great basic communication technique and helps people feel heard and valued.
@CynicalScorpio
Ай бұрын
6:07 OCTOPUSSIES
@albert5173
22 күн бұрын
that's alot of cats
@vincigamer
19 күн бұрын
😂
@ianmuhota
5 ай бұрын
Hey Lewis! My name's Ian. A while ago I came into the gym u used to work at and wanted to say thanks for being really nice to talk to! Best wishes for your KZitem channel Ur content is really helpful!
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
Ian, how could I possibly forget you! The mature young man, hustling with homework, gym and always about his business. It's great to hear from you mate. How did you find the channel? I hope you're doing well and maintaining your hustle with much deserved relaxation ;)
@jamessmithson-br7rm
4 ай бұрын
Anyone who talks in the gym should be taken out and permantly silenced. I’m there to work out not have a chat.
@SjorsHoukes
4 ай бұрын
@@jamessmithson-br7rm Lewis *worked AT* the gym, and was apparently a friendly staff member. I’d throw myself out of any gym where the staff didn’t talk to me. ;)
@katherineh.9379
4 ай бұрын
To each their own, James. If I can't chat a bit at the gym, I don't want to come there. For me, it's also a time to socialize a little. If you don't like it, don't talk to people
@LazarTheMaster
4 ай бұрын
@@jamessmithson-br7rm Bro 60% of working out is sitting around doing nothing waiting for your next set... It's not a library...
@gustaveriksson113
4 ай бұрын
What's funny is that in my adult life I've found these conversations easy to start and get into. My mindset is basically that it won't matter if that girl doesn't like me or will continue talking to me, she doesn't know me so the "me" that's rejected is just what she thinks is "me". Quite frankly I've had a lot of success with people doing this. It helps that I'm naturally friendly, curious, social, and interested in what they have to say.
@Almanic4ever
Ай бұрын
Our opinions about others are actually a reflection of our own identities.
@Mira.s.arcadia
Ай бұрын
@Almanic4ever youre absolutely right
@michaelpinder844
Ай бұрын
@@Almanic4ever Are you a post Freudian positing the theory of ‘reaction formation?/. (That’s a possible opening question in a lift, perhaps. ;)
@ballistic2527
4 ай бұрын
I relish the moments you guys call "awkward silence". I live for that shit
@JonnyD3ath
4 ай бұрын
I have a mate that loves it as well. Bathes in it like it’s glorious sunshine and works towards it like its the ultimate conversational goal. It has made me appreciate silence in a different way and not feel as awkward with it sometimes 🤣
@jaxter6037
4 ай бұрын
Why?
@meyr1992
4 ай бұрын
dont worry some of us are isolated anti-social hermits like you and thats okay
@bobbaseball
Ай бұрын
he's an insane madman. he does not bow to a country or a flag, he does not flinch at torture
@ZacHawkins42
26 күн бұрын
Careful not to cut yourself on all that edge, friendo 😅
@synthozy
5 ай бұрын
Hey, mate! A similar situation happened to me today when I was in the elevator and this pretty girl entered it. I managed to find her during lunch time and we started talking. Well, we gonna go out for a walk tomorrow, since she’s new in the city. Cheers from Brasil, mate! All of the best
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
Awesome stuff brother! Glad to hear it. I hope the walk goes well ;) Tell her I said "tudo bem!"
@lavatr8322
5 ай бұрын
I saw my crush everyday in the gym and sometimes in the elevator... And I didn't even say "hi" Neither did she. Last month I just saw her getting engaged to the biggest Deckhead dude in my same gym session. And it absolutely SHOCKED me.
@Tuber-sama
5 ай бұрын
Que homem.
@aurcut1178
5 ай бұрын
How’s the date been ?
@agzone7226
5 ай бұрын
Boa sorte, parceiro! Tomara que dê tudo certo pra ti.
@Novalty_
5 ай бұрын
remaining silent or not greeting someone when you feel the tension like you should always makes it more awkward in the future.
@lavatr8322
4 ай бұрын
I have been through this in the lift , almost everyday in the gym Mostly with women , men are absolute bros anytime. But women are extremely guarded everywhere
@jdanielortega
4 ай бұрын
THIS !
@freddo9377
4 ай бұрын
Ive listened to alot of these kinds of videos, but ive never come across the "give them something to solve" idea. Thats a very easy way to start a fun interaction. Thanks man!
@Vsimpro
5 ай бұрын
Absolute gem of a channel you have.
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
Thank you sir!
@berkefeil5646
2 ай бұрын
What’s also important is feeling ok being on yourself. It results in a confidence social interaction rather than a desperate one. If you’re not content with who you are alone, you’re probably not content with who you are with others either, and people pick up on that energy
@oxymoron2349
4 ай бұрын
A scenario like this always reminds me of how few people are actually free in our society, mentally.
@javachopTV
5 ай бұрын
I do this all the time, it’s pretty fun. I’m more connected with strangers than my own friends at times.
@127Kronos
5 ай бұрын
I actually have friends who are masters at this, hence why they're loved by everyone. They are super positive and make you really feel heard and understood. I don't know anyone as energetic, positive and "safe" as them. One day I'll ask them how do they do it, but maybe I already know the answer...
@princealmighty5391
5 ай бұрын
I'm that friend
@vackor
5 ай бұрын
do they make you feel heard or are they litsening?
@thecrystalliaguild
4 ай бұрын
'energetic, positive and safe' sounds like me, but I am not a master at the topic of this video since I'm super bad at having conversations
@jamessmithson-br7rm
4 ай бұрын
They aren’t loved by everyone. They sound intolerable.
@127Kronos
4 ай бұрын
@@vackor They're listening. Idk how they can keep information even after I forgot what I said.
@thatracingguy5694
4 ай бұрын
5:11 “Sonny innit”
@aajustgirls3000
4 ай бұрын
Because you get what you give. In all the friendships I had, I noticed that when you give from your soul without expecting a payback, you get nicely rewarded.
@AndreyRubtsovRU
4 ай бұрын
You are confused. Friendship and ephemeral small talk are not the same
@U_never_know_who_iam...
2 ай бұрын
That's kindness my friend
@EcomCarl
4 ай бұрын
Peter's insight on mirrored reciprocation is a powerful reminder that the energy we emit is often the energy we receive. Starting with a positive, caring attitude can transform our interactions and bring about mutual respect and love. 🔄
@alysonj7227
7 күн бұрын
I live in France and have nearly lost all motivation to talk to the natives here, especially strangers, despite getting a grasp on the language. Consequently when I go back to the UK I really notice, and appreciate, the openness of Brits, and the ease with which strangers make banter with you and are intimate. It's what I miss the most😭 Loving your engaging, informative, and funny videos btw, they should be on the school syllabus😃
@Sinner119
4 күн бұрын
I wish the skills of community organizers were valued enough to be presented in spaces like these. We are masters in this- able to gather the masses even before digital technology.
@TrustEngineers
4 ай бұрын
I'm probably the only socially adept person in the world who finds it absolutely non-awkward and natural to just stay silently next to a random person for a prolonged period of time. There's no need to have a conversation or a small talk if you don't feel like it. No need to awkwardly lower your sight or look around, or look in your phone even if you don't need to just to look busy. Just wear a confident face expression, slightly smiling, lean onto the wall and look straight. You don't have to apologize or feel awkward just because you HAD to be in this elevator with a stranger. There, in fact, very little situations in life where you HAVE to feel awkward. In most cases, you CHOOSE to feel awkward. Just remember that. Also, 4:13 -- That number is SIGNIFICANTLY understated. I don't think the author of the video followed his advice in real life, because most conversation starters he mentioned would be considered cringe in real world.
@hellonihaocomoestas
5 ай бұрын
that dog conversation had me LOL
@rickclick8359
5 ай бұрын
Long ago I made it an exercise to talk to everyone I meet. If you keep doing this habit it gets very easy to talk to anyone.
@fflxres
4 ай бұрын
what do you mean and how did you do it??
@anttif.
4 ай бұрын
wow, this is interesting, does it really work?
@rickclick8359
4 ай бұрын
@@fflxres It's very simple if you are sharing an elevator with someone, just make an opening comment. If you are at a party join a conversation, where every you see an opportunity don't wait, you start the conversation with anyone, its' practice. If you meet a stranger say good morning, try and be funny, kind or light hearted. I live in Thailand so I imagine it would be harder to do this living in a city where people are more guarded. I should of said most people in my original comment, use your discretion.
@rickclick8359
4 ай бұрын
@@anttif. Yes if you do this over years, you will find it easier to approach and talk to anyone. Sometimes you need to challenge yourself. Just go with no agenda other than to practice starting conversation. Just talk with anyone don't save yourself for certain people, make it a habit. It's really helpful so that when you have to speak for business or to someone you would like to get to know it makes it far less daunting.
@anttif.
4 ай бұрын
@@rickclick8359 Thank you for the response, it's motivating.
@amyfox4829
2 ай бұрын
I don't find silence with strangers awkward but I find silence with acquaintances or ppl I know awkward
@orangus_8302
5 ай бұрын
give them something to solve is actually really good advice thanks bro
@NIETZSCHE--
4 күн бұрын
A stranger responding to you normally is not enough of a situation to turn nonsense like 'you get what you give' into a theory.
@wolf_biter
4 ай бұрын
Silence need not be awkward. Sometimes silence is just silence.
@lecobra418
4 ай бұрын
You can't ask extroverts to understand that. If they stop speaking for a minute they have to think, can you imagine that? THINKING. Insanity!
@maximilianomorganti7639
4 ай бұрын
Two donkeys have gathered
@Agropio
4 ай бұрын
I agree. Whenever I hear someone say that silence is awkward, I feel like "Maybe you're just bad at silence".
@Uriel.982
5 ай бұрын
I'm in the highest difficulty then since i live in France and people here are generally a bit closed/shy, always in a rush, never smile, it is quite sad actually but still I try to engage and some people are quite wonderful like a sunshine after the storm. I believe that ram dass said that you should treat your relationships like a meditation, you discover yourself while discovering another human being, you have to be open and without judgement whatsoever to truly know someone in all their shades. ❤
@Meyer-gp7nq
5 ай бұрын
Keep making these videos. I subbed a couple weeks back, it’s kinda shocking to find such an intelligent person with such a small KZitem following and yet this high production quality and dedication
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
Welcome aboard comrade! Thank you for your confidence :)
@alien_in_white_3
5 ай бұрын
Short, simple, but to the point and delivers critical information. Great video! Now i need to stop procrastinating and actually start to be the 2% who initiate conversations
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
Get straight to it brother!
@steepescrr3278
4 ай бұрын
What helped me a lot where two things. 1. Try to understand the fear or anxiety you have towards talking to strangers. For me it was important to understand what hold me back from doin it to understand, that there is really nothing to worrie about and nothing to Lose. 2. To understand, that talking and not talking are equally good. You dont have to talk. But if you feel like it, Just Do it. Takes the pressure out of it. 3. Be authentic. Ask things you really find interessting. Talk about stuff thats really funny/interessting/deep/meaningfull to you. The third Was a Bonus :)
@NewelOfKnowledge
4 ай бұрын
Great stuff! Thanks for sharing :)
@FearfulFellow
2 ай бұрын
"give them something to solve" thats a good one
@Nishinga.
Ай бұрын
When you got to the part about giving people what they don’t have, I actually paused the video and went “oh shit!” I immediately thought of a ton of instances recently where my (charismatic) friends have made me feel better and it’s when they did exactly that for me. Great video mate, thank you !
@koadl77
4 ай бұрын
I really can't relate to the "awkward silence problem" with complete strangers. Most of the time I don't speak to strangers because I'm just not interested in them, their opinion or stories. I even try to get rid of people who force you into an conversation in such moments, which, to be honest, I find way more awkward than just minding your own business. Not everyone needs your attention. Not everyone is flirty 24/7. Not every person you meet wants to get to know you. At least I don't.
@tracyphoenixx
4 ай бұрын
I treat strangers like my old friend i haven't seen in ages, works most the time if the stranger isn't negative in general
@metundra5804
3 ай бұрын
So I like making origami birds. I make them in subway, in cafés, in many a place. And I Love giving them out to random people everywhere. And, turns out, I've been following your point about giving people smth to solve for a long time now, without thinking about it. Because usually I'll come up to a person and be like "Hey, what color do you like?" And give them a choice of the colors of birds I have prepared. And here you go - a conversation has sparkled! If the person wants it, of course. And these little guys sometimes just do wonders - people start smiling, laughing, and you basically become friends with them instantly. It's so lovely. Of course some people refuse to take a bird or just take it without much emotion, and I respect that. But, for the latter, I still hope they get some warmth out of it
@sidmiel9927
2 ай бұрын
That's very nice
@InTheMakingOf-podcast
3 ай бұрын
You are one of the best creator on KZitem I had the pleasure of watching. The way you speak, how authentic you seem, short enough and funny enough; bravo Sir! I love your style, keep up the good work 😊
@dadonthetube
21 күн бұрын
"We are the first ones to frantically.Push the open button on the lift". 🤣 That's totally me.
@mqemphatic38
Ай бұрын
You are delightful and refreshing. I could listen to you talk for hours.
@wholesomematt
5 ай бұрын
Lewis! You’re a captivating speaker brother. Great videos on this channel. A HINT for others who want to have better conversations with people they sort of know (someone at the gym you maybe wave or nod to and so on) I always after saying hello and asking how they are will run that sentence and say what are you excited about. “hey how are you today (the slightest pause) what’s exciting today” either we talk about a thing in the gym they are excited about or I’ll hear about something in life and the conversation can just FLOW cause someone is talking about what they are excited about. Which you can do anywhere in life.
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
Matt, all I can say is thank you. Not only for your comment but for the solid conversation starter of "what's exciting today?" I absolutely love it and I'm going to use it from now on. Another one similar to that is "what do you love most about your work?". Keep up the good work mate!
@afrizzyy
Ай бұрын
This video is the story of my life. Always the social one and if someone isn't into it "good talk" and move on bc your vibe attracts your tribe and the receptive ones are our tribe. Cheers brother!
@LuCk3rLive
4 ай бұрын
This was genuinely one of the best videos Ive seen in the past months on youtube. Charming, funny but still concise, you deserve more subscribers. I'll start. Subscribed.
@brandonacker
2 ай бұрын
This channel should have a lot more subscribers! 👏
@BorisBidjanSaberi11
4 ай бұрын
Learning to make convo with strangers led me to the most beautiful conversations
@elijahdrotts1025
5 ай бұрын
This is so close to the truth. I’m a Christian so my moral standards are different from the worlds but we believe you should seek to give to others without expecting something in return. We seek to learn to lessen ourselves to help others and ultimately elevate Gods loving and servant character through ourselves. True satisfaction comes from that. From putting others first and loving them because Jesus Christ first loved you. To the point of death, death on a cross
@truesight5968
5 ай бұрын
Thank you for putting such a great message in such a short video, loved it. There's nothing to be afraid of, especially if it's casual communication. A few days ago, a girl from my university needed help with her survey for her senior thesis, and without even noticing it, instead of silently filling out this survey, I asked her a few questions, and we had a pleasant 5-minute talk :)
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
Awesome stuff! Good job man. Proud of you. Thank you for the comment :)
@merchrich9758
4 ай бұрын
honestly, this is superb advice. when you begin to try to lift peoples' day up just a little with a genuine smile and a good will for them, that does reverb back either quite soon or eventually. that can definitely work in all sorts of aspects like starting a conversation to help people let go of some steam or other things alike.
@HuỳnhMỹGiàu
Ай бұрын
The silence around Social Secrets Mastery speaks volumes about why forming meaningful relationships feels so elusive for many.
@efdavis
4 ай бұрын
"Those who see all creatures in themselves and themselves in all creatures know no fear" - Isha Upanishad Man that is a deep quote. Gave me some lsd flashbacks haha. Thank you for the video. I was able to find the quote again watching video at 2x. Totally didn't remember it was at end. Gonna sub!
@NewelOfKnowledge
4 ай бұрын
Welcome sir! I'm glad you liked it :)
@Karina-xu4ps
3 ай бұрын
This video has given me so much clarity and confidence that I've been looking for recently. I really want to spark conversation, have light hearted experiences with strangers and brighten others days but I've struggled with the answer. Thank you for this video, I'm ready to GO FIRST GO POSITIVE AND BE CONSTANT.
@meentage
5 ай бұрын
Your channel came to me as a blessing. Been needing so many things u say
@LuckyCat-22
12 күн бұрын
I needed this confidence boost. God bless you good sir.
@JennyT101
4 ай бұрын
This is good advice. My stepdad was a master at this. He struck up conversations everywhere. If he had to queue up for something you can guarantee he would start chats to the people. around him, and people responded so positively to him. He made so many friends.
@NewelOfKnowledge
4 ай бұрын
I'd love to meet him in an elevator
@leta8796
3 ай бұрын
The first time I visited Denmark, for more than a decade ago, I said Hello to everyone at the bus station. Everyone seemed either shy or surprised and no one responded back . I felt so awkward and stopped saying hello from that day on 😅. Until I met an old lady who said Hello and had the hugest smile ever (unexpectedly) 😄
@emeraldchat
Ай бұрын
Knowledgeable and funny, this man is truly good with communication. An important thing we want to add (for anyone who's looking to apply the amazing tips in this video in face to face conversations or online interaction), small talk can be a good way for you to start a conversation (as was explained by this dude in the vid) it is easy to dismiss it as a convo ender, but mastering them will help you start many conversations. Amazing video!
@murlock812
4 ай бұрын
I gave others feeling of being cared for, loved and respected, got called a nice guy and left alone.
@NewelOfKnowledge
4 ай бұрын
:)
@mkhululimunjanja7388
4 ай бұрын
Dude I love how authentic you are with your presentations, keep it up man 👊🏾
@nattysilvy
3 ай бұрын
Today, I was in Barns and Noble. This cutest guy and I made eye contact and we both smiled. He walked off and literally came back 5 minutes later, and we both smiled again. I was THIS close to saying something, and I could tell he was going to say something as well, but we both chickened out. I'm too old to be this scared to talk to strangers (36). And why I'm still single! I'm determined to learn to talk to strangers without feeling so terrified out of my fucking mind 😅😂🙏💯 thanks for a great video ❤
@NewelOfKnowledge
3 ай бұрын
This is such a great comment. It's tough! Especially when attraction is involved! You can guarantee that man is gonna think about you every night asking himself "why didn't I approach her!". If you see him again walk past him and say "hello stranger", that should get your foot in the door.
@jazzyjswift
4 ай бұрын
Be wonderfully weird. Be awkward. Don't be afraid to look silly infront of a stranger. The moment you teach yourself to be able to do this, is the moment you'll learn how to be comfortable being yourself and starting conversations. Because people are wonderfully weird. First conversations are awkward. And humans are a silly bunch. Learn to be comfortable being human. Learn to be comfortable with making mistakes and being flawed.
@raquelsospedra51298
2 ай бұрын
It's true most people are waiting for you to start conversations. I bear that in mind when I do so. Still getting nervous when I do it, but I think it pays off!
@priyankap250
Ай бұрын
Loved this! Yu knew yu’ll get us with the dog analogy!
@awesomebears
4 ай бұрын
Really liked the video. Great insights on how to start talking to strangers. I think one really important step here that was not mentioned is forgetting about the past. Especially with the part "you get what you give". Maybe im a doomer, but I really feel like I put in the hard work, the social skills, got myself out there only to be greeted with negative experiences/outcomes. Its made me lose my soul and be cynical, like as if approaching people is just not worth the effort. Thats not true, there are great people to meet, you just got to let go of the past and keep going forward.
@NewelOfKnowledge
4 ай бұрын
Brother, to have experienced rejection and yet still believe there are good people out there is something to behold in itself. Great mentality. That will serve you well. All the best sir!
@erinelle4310
4 ай бұрын
I love the inclusion of the Upanishad at the end 🙏
@terrelletettey8952
2 ай бұрын
Interesting! Loved the insights
@GeorgeDimovelis
2 ай бұрын
5:10 how it goes in reality: - Its warm today isnt it! - Yeah... its pretty warm (Awkard Silence)
@United_statesofamerica526
15 күн бұрын
Thanks for showing me how to speak this is so helpful!!!11!1!1!1!11 Everyone already knows how to talk..
@Hexzit
Ай бұрын
Man! I just love your videos, they've really helped me improve myself, this is one of the best channels for self improvement. Thank you!!🙂✨
@alex-ander-13
Ай бұрын
6:21 This is another jewel. Thank you so much Newel!
@zyxwut321
5 ай бұрын
You can't deal with 30 seconds of public silence without it being painfully awkward? That's its OWN problem.
@anonusniogsonisrgnip
5 ай бұрын
Honestly I just want to be left alone 99% of the time if I am in a public setting, would be annoying if random people were trying to smalltalk constantly, but I appreciate your thoughts :-)
@NewelOfKnowledge
5 ай бұрын
True. Silence is much appreciated sometimes.
@repakore
5 ай бұрын
never has a video made so much sense and so easy to understand. I thank you sir
@something5032
3 ай бұрын
Man just comes from nowhere and gives life advice. Hope mirrored reciprocation will happen soon
@xngwmestm4289
Ай бұрын
Some notes if anybody wants them: 1. Initiate the conversation first, be positive (positive people are much more pleasant to converse with) and be constant (continue to be positive and friendly). 2. You have to put in what you want to receive, in other words, be friendly and others should be friendly with you. 3. Give people something to solve 1. Notice something in the environment. 2. Bring it to their attention. 3. Discuss it
@5DRealm
5 ай бұрын
I'm lucky I never fall witness to an "awkward silence." I literally never feel awkward or shy, but the downside is my emotions remain as they are at all times.
@angelstormmm7899
4 ай бұрын
Hello two things 1. The core statement would be be like a dog that greets humans happily , so that you get their attention 2. I personally go bouldering quite often and thats also almost the only situation where i feel comfortable taling to strangers , and its literally your tip . You have a boulder problem , like a move on the wall and yousolve it together with the other person . Great video
@VinHoangBach
Ай бұрын
The fact that nobody talks about Social Secrets Mastery shows why so many guys struggle with confidence and attraction
@cytean
5 ай бұрын
My personal issue is that I can start a conversation no issue, I just can't continue it. I do pay attention to what the other person is telling me, but I just can't figure out what to say after a response. Only after we both go our way I think to myself 'aw man, I could have said X or I could have asked Y.' How can I think of something to say after a response while still paying attention to what the other person is telling me, without having a major pause inbetween?
@itsmerose1995
4 ай бұрын
This video is on time. I am having social anxiety. SWEAR! I am nervous with people. thank you for the free class lessons today sir. Keep on sharing your videos. All the way from Philippines 🇵🇭
@wer2006
4 ай бұрын
The one thing that immediately kept me to continue watching this video was that you're so charismatic and entertaining to watch :)
@dodshawen7964
23 күн бұрын
I love how you talk. Also and more, your mindset.
@UifaleanAlexandru
5 күн бұрын
Never knew that the CEO of Glenair is such a source of wisdom. I work in the space industry and integrate their connectors into my designs regularly. They make the best connectors for space! Just found your channel today as KZitem suggested me your Amsterdam story, quality content.
@chelsealeigh2417
24 күн бұрын
Lewis, you are such an engaging storyteller.. I am so grateful for your channel, thank you 😊
@aqidamzar9926
26 күн бұрын
The problem is whenever i tried to open a topic,saving the awkward silence, thinking everyone would reply, instead they ignore like i was never there
@parkmel7019
4 ай бұрын
Wow! I'm rarely amazed by the quality of youtube videos! Good job man, please keep making these!
@chipmunk786
4 ай бұрын
Such a simple tip, but still genius. Not only is it a good ice-breaker, it also makes you aware of your surroundings so you might notice things that others don't.
@jamescandyland
22 күн бұрын
Thank you for this man! Awesome stuff ❤
@BiblemanZ
3 ай бұрын
Continue spreading love brother, God bless you
@eli7527
4 ай бұрын
Awkward silences really are the worst. We’re social creatures, and it pays to be outgoing in so many ways
@syed4194
4 ай бұрын
why does this guy look like a character from witcher 3 ???
@MindYourMovement
Ай бұрын
I just plain like you. Your videos are brill and refreshing. thank you.
@daviddegroot8147
4 ай бұрын
A big part of this is "to be constant in doing it", meaning: practice!! You don't expect to be a natural in the gym at your first visit, the same goes for speaking with strangers :)
@rotorblade9508
Ай бұрын
“the awkward silence has ben lifted” what to say when the lift goes up and everyone else is silent😂
@stevensen6541
2 ай бұрын
Dude for some reason you seem like a really likable guy to me. I'll subscribe and go see if you have videos regarding fear of confrontation or having a weak character, these issues are hurting me extremely :/
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