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@prettypearls26
3 жыл бұрын
My friend gave me this same advice 😌 it’s scary because you don’t know how the person is going to react especially when you live the same place... so uncomfortable. Thanks for the advice.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome! Yes, it is uncomfortable...but what's MORE uncomfortable is being in that limbo, and walking on egg shells with what you say or do, right? Sounds like you're dong well to develop a plan for this. That increases the odds you will be better successful at telling someone you're not interested anymore, and making it less painful. Rooting for ya! - Mario
@MrsPillows
3 жыл бұрын
I wish I could just send this video and be done with it 😅 (sorry, not sorry)
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
That WOULD be hilarious. Possibly rude, but maybe...MAYBE does more good for that person in the future?? It's a stretch, right? But funny to think you're just gonna message him a link and say, "Watch this." - Mario
@23dabrams
3 жыл бұрын
I love this idea lol 😂
@josequintanilla6864
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the idea
@Shiahna
2 жыл бұрын
Omg I felt like doing same😂🤦♀️
@JohnM...
2 жыл бұрын
Just send a test with these exact words: "Take care of yourself!!" There's nothing clearer, or more devastating than this text (had it sent to me - a GIGANTIC kick in the balls). She was someone I actually knew, though.
@RustySpoons6490
2 жыл бұрын
I appreciate this video so much. We are socialized to be kind, polite, agreeable, non-confrontational, etc. I have to interact with someone in a few of my college courses. They told me that they really want to form a close friendship, but I’m also starting to sense romantic feelings from them towards me. I do not in ANY way, share those feelings. I can’t ignore or ghost, since I have to be around them. I really don’t want to hurt their feelings, but I’m tired of the texts. I wish guilt-free honesty was easier.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Putting yourself first, holding boundaries, and saying "no" aren't easy things to do...but the BETTER you learn these skills, the more tools you will have to handle these situations. Because nothing you want to do makes you a bad person (based on your comment). My suggestion, don't respond to the extra communication like you would with your real friends and family. I'm sure some texts don't deserve a response, some you might send less wordy texts (that don't promote more conversation), and you can also not respond back quickly. All these things can give someone a clue, or clues, that you're not as "into it" as them. And last, creating barriers/boundaries/saying no...gets easier with practice. If you're concerned...YOU are not the person I worry about being too much of a jerk to someone else. You're the type of person who is a good person, and needing encouragement and practice to just say no. (When you behave according to your personal code for the games of Love, you sleep well at night when you do things like politely reject someone. One of the foundations of Game I cover in my Get Game Group academy) - Mario
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
And thank you for expressing your appreciation. That really does mean something!
@RustySpoons6490
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel - this was such a helpful and encouraging response! Thank you for taking the time out of your day to provide guidance and insight to my situation. It means a lot and I’ll certainly implement those strategies you mentioned, as well as check out your Get Game Group academy. Thank you!! 👍
@beckyturner4097
Жыл бұрын
@RustySpoons How is your situation going? I may be in a similar one and I'm not sure what would be the best outcome at the moment.
@amethystlake
3 жыл бұрын
Omg I need this video!! I went on a dating app and began to change my mind as I wasn't enjoying it. I tried to talk to people but now I've left the app, I still have two guys messaging me and I feel bad. They've been genuinely nice but I don't know what to say. It's not that they aren't nice, it's just I'm not ready to date from bad experiences.
@amethystlake
3 жыл бұрын
'I gave out my number and I regret it'.... Exactly what I did 😂 🙈
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
FYI, you just identified EXACTLY what you COULD tell them. Your truth. And it wasn't stated in a rude way. "I'm not ready to date from bad experiences." Understand this, though...you CAN ghost ANYONE, at ANY TIME if you're using Online Dating. Without guilt. People come and go, and they should expect others do, too. It happens. And happens for all sorts of reasons, including yours. If however, you feel the need to express your truth to those two nice gentlemen, a message along what you shared would suffice. And I would let you know, it could be a ONE MESSAGE thing, not a back and forth (which defeats the purpose, right?) So if you HAD to message them...you could just say, "Hey, I do think you're nice, and I've enjoyed connecting with you, but I don't feel I'm ready to date yet. I have some things I want to work on to be my best self first, so I'll be stepping away from this profile." That's your truth, right? And that is respectful, appropriate, and if someone can't get the point after that message, THAT'S THEIR ISSUE. Glad you enjoyed the video, much more on the way! - Mario
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Guys can handle rejection. And if we can't, we can't play the attraction game with women (it's always going to be filled with rejection). And honestly, keep in perspective how much you owe someone you barely know. At times, it's perfectly fine IMO to ghost! Not everyone wants to get formally rejected, they can usually figure it out from clues, and if not...you can always tell your truth with respect. Check out the comment below where I went into this a bit more. Remember, it's a game...have fun ;) - Mario
@amethystlake
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Thankyou so much for this advice!! I have told one of them politely, now I just need to tell the other guy. Conversation has gone well but I only want to be friends. So I shall take this advice. Thanks!
@samerdrich5579
3 жыл бұрын
@@amethystlake Nice guys always finish last, and sometimes not at all. lol
@Mindsetolympics
3 жыл бұрын
In my case it’s gonna be a no for a first date for multiple reasons: 1) I feel a bit awkward talking to him, 2) he’s very busy, 3) it’s long periods of inconsistent communication and I’m triggered by it makes me feel hes not interested. I don’t feel the need to name all of them I could simply just say I think it’s feeling like its not a match for me. 🤷🏾♀️
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Kianna, you're watching a video about "ghosting," but what you need to do is learn how to tell a man what you think, even when it's "no." Here's a simple way. HIM: (asks you out in person, over phone, text) YOU: I appreciate the offer, but need to pass. I think we're better as friends. Is that perfect? No. But it's one of a hundred things you could do that, if HONEST, work. The key thing is YOU have to be an adult and put your big girl panties on and tell a guy no and stop wasting his time. It only gets worse the more you lead someone on. Learn this sooner than later, because you'll always need this skill in the games of LIfe an Love. Rooting for ya. - Mario
@srivers1000
2 жыл бұрын
Yep and I have been nice to people who did not deserve my time and not on my level emotionally. I am just done with men. Happy being single. Fuck them! Lol all assholes
@bennetth77
Жыл бұрын
Wow, you really spoke facts !! Never thought I needed this, yet it's everything I went through. After my ex had a new girlfriend, he kept on talking to me through social medias and I always left him on read (out of respect for his new partner). Though I really wanted him to see that I was enjoying life while being single (through my posts). The worst part is that we've talked about this and we did say goodbye. That's why I never bothered to block and move on. How ridiculous. Plus, you know, this feeling of "wow, I really mean something to someone, like even after a year he still misses me" was just too flattering that I couldn't do anything but paying attention. Always blamed him to not moving on, but I think I was the problem. If you constantly see someone from the past, of course you gonna miss the memories. How selfish. And you were so right for the hope part. Hoping something when we know it's just impossible to go back to them... ah dear. Now that I heard everything you said, I just wish I could've see this video way before. You got a new sub! I love your perception.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing that comment. There isn't always a clear 'right' or 'wrong' action, but for the individual like you, your situation always has something 'better' and more aligned with you and your values. I'm glad the video helped you clarify your situation, and sounds like you have a better grasp of it after the video and reflecting on what it brought up to you. I think that's AWESOME. Rooting for you, Mario
@primetimexcmw2293
Жыл бұрын
This video helped me out today. I feel disintereste after a date she said the good and right things there was just some qualitys I wanted like a major I want kids but she didn't. I let her know just 2 days after the date after taking time and thinking what I really want and walking away with my dignity without Getting her hopes up, feeling used, or anything. So Sir Thank you for the video cause I left feeling better.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing that! Kids, and future are difficult topics to properly assess, because most people's views aren't as firm as they might say. So yes, it's awesome if you know your values and desires, and want to align with others, but I'll also share there are so many instances where people THINK they want something in their future, like kids (or not kids)...only to later change their position. I think it's great to know what's important to you, and it's a great exercise to be able to walk away when things aren't fully aligned, I just want to remind you that MOST men and women...don't know what they really want, or respond to. In any case, it's awesome that you took value from the video, and it's helped you feel solid about your decision, because i think in the games of Life and Love, one of the most important things is to be able to go to sleep at night, and maybe die one day...knowing you played these games of Life and Love YOUR WAY. Rooting for you! - Mario
@wisewittywanderer
4 жыл бұрын
Wow this is exactly what I needed. Synchronicity. I’ve been dating someone for a couple years and we just spent three months traveling together and do I go three months I realize I just do not feel love and he is deeply in love with me and we’ve been FaceTime in and I sent him a letter that I’m glad we’re friends but I feel this pressure from him that he’s hoping it will go back so your advice was extremely helpful thank you
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
4 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome! I'm glad the video was able to provide you with some direction and clarity. That's what we're here for, and much more on the way from the channel and GGG! - Mario
@user-cj8tb7fy6t
3 жыл бұрын
I'm in the same situation.. Uhh it's hard
@Moment.by.moment
6 күн бұрын
“It’s like training a dog you gotta be consistent and they’ll eventually get it” (paraphrased). Thanks for this! I was so bothered by this creeper I know staring and lingering whenever he gets a chance even after I made it clear I’m not interested. Training takes time I suppose.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
4 күн бұрын
And consistency! I'm glad you took value and understood how making a simple adjustment can help out. - Mario
@MyDarling572
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for giving me the courage to do it. I just did it. Omg i feel like a b****, but i will remember to NOT feed the beast no matter what happens.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
You're SO welcome! Sometimes we need that reminder to do what's RIGHT and NECESSARY. Not feeding the beast IS tough...but so is adulting! - Mario
@MyDarling572
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel oh and you got yourself a subscriber .
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Love it, Mama!!
@LadyTeePrinceLover
3 жыл бұрын
Oh Gosh. You make it seem so easy. I'm so not a confrontational person AT ALL! People tell me I'm 2 nice all of the time, but I cannot enable him 4 another second. I'm extremely irritated while I'm around him, & that is not my personality. I can tolerate a lot, but why should I? This guy is beyond sensitive & it's all my fault 4 trying 2 be only a buddy 2 him. My stomach is in knots 'cause I'm dreading the upcoming conversation w/ him. Actually, he should already sense that I'm not into him, because I have distanced myself already because he has started 2 really smother me, & I'm an Aquarius & we HATE that (UGH!). Thanx 4 allowing me 2 vent. Good luck 2 all the ladies who can relate 2 me!💜
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Terri, thanks for sharing/venting!! Confrontation is definitely NOT easy...maybe more for some than others, though. And also...it becomes something you CAN improve your level of comfort with. Remember, he's an adult. He should be able to handle you not being interested. I know it's tough, especially for those who are nonconfrontational, like you...but don't forget to "Put number one (you) first." Rooting for ya - Mario
@LadyTeePrinceLover
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Wow Mario! Such a quick response! Thank you, and why do I have the feeling that you've been down this road before! I 🤔 Hahaha!
@rockyayce6485
3 ай бұрын
@@LadyTeePrinceLoverThe Aquarius I know love to be smothered😫 so this is not all Aquarius... she driving me crazy 😫
@LuvYourDiet
17 күн бұрын
We always had a platonic relationship, but he had a silent crush for many years. I didn't know how serious he was until my partner died. He popped up by phone & soon was talking about moving near me, getting married, etc. I was so shocked I just reacted with HELL NO!! I thought he'd get the point, but he continues this game where he thinks he loves me. I shut down any hint of talk in this direction to at least try to preserve an old friendship. It's just not working & I'll have to cut him off yet again according to this. No food left 😢😢
@Ghosty_cat_
3 жыл бұрын
There’s this girl that likes me but I want to be her friend only. I don’t know what to tell her though, and I love talking to her on the phone and all, I just don’t want to pursue anything romantically. I really don’t want to hurt her
@teenagemand2362
3 жыл бұрын
Bruh fr , there’s this girl I know who posts shit about me on her story and how much she likes me and I’m like . god kill me
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
If you are really her friend, you won't let her continue to feel incorrectly about you and the hope for a romantic future. If you're really friends, that shit will last. If there isn't a strong friendship, it may not, if she only wanted the friendship PLUS relationship, or if she can't get over not having that. Consider this a learning moment. In your life, you will have to be unpopular. Say things that people don't like. To hurt people's feelings. But in Life...they typically are worse if you DON'T say something you feel, mean , or need to express. Like if you don't tell this girl you don't see her romantically (in a proper, and respectful way)...can you imagine how much time, energy, and hope she will waste?? If you respect someone...you tell them as best you can. Most of the time, it works out fine. Sometimes...you lose someone. But you can't hold onto someone's attention, or phone call conversations...because you don't have the courage to tell them a REALLY IMPORTANT THING, like how you will probably always see them as just a friend. Some thoughts to consider. Rooting for ya. - Mario
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
She has no clue how much of a turnoff that is to you. Question. Would you be interested in her if she wasn't the type to be all public in an embarrassing way? - Mario
@teenagemand2362
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel I thought I was attracted to her but it turns out I was just wanting to test the water. She caught feelings after telling me not to and I just feel sexually inept around her
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
@@teenagemand2362 sexually inept?? Sexually clumsy?? Without skill? Can you elaborate? Nothing wrong with testing the waters. Everyone does that. Or should. It's not bad. Do you mean she caught feelings after telling YOU not to, and you just don't feel the connection? - Mario
@500days.
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks man...I’m starting to get uncomfortable by her. But I feel bad leading her on
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Nothing wrong with doing what's best for YOU. If she makes you uncomfortable, if you're feeling like you're leading someone on...DON'T. Escape. But do it tactfully. No one says you have to be connected to someone you don't want to. It's not a law! But you DO have to be comfortable enough to respect YOURSELF enough to be the bad guy...if needed. You can't always spare someone's feelings. And if you can't...sometimes it's at least better to let them move on sooner than later. Rooting for ya. - Mario
@emudd20
2 жыл бұрын
ok so I am not dating this girl yet but we both knew that we liked each other and often talk. I recently lost feelings randomly and she’s really in love with me and we both promised not to back out of this
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Fuck that promise. This person isn't your spouse. This person isn't your partner. You don't even love that person. YOU'RE NOT EVEN DATING THIS PERSON!! Why would YOU, a single person...stay in a "not yet" dating (effort/relationship) when you don't have feelings for her (your words) and she's in love with you?? Seems like no one would win if you stay because YOU are wasting your time, and you're wasting HER time, too, you know? The respectful thing is to help someone move on (sooner than later), ESPECIALLY if you respect them or the friendship. This shit happens in Life. 99% of your relationship efforts will FAIL (and that's normal, and part of the game). I think you need to rewatch the video, you're not entirely getting the message, and I think it's important. I know some things are tough to do, but when you're an adult, or young adult, it's part of the price and experience of playing the games of Life (and Love). - Mario
@cayden5738
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel this comment alone gave me the courage to make the decision I felt was right, thank you
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
@@cayden5738 thanks for sharing that! We can't always win in the games of Life an Love, BUT...we CAN choose HOW we are going to play. I'm confident you can handle moving on from someone with dignity, class, respect...and that you WILL be able to sleep well at night, because of HOW you played the game. - Mario (rooting for you!)
@Shannystrr
3 жыл бұрын
Me right now. I started talking to this guy from online and met him in person, but the chemistry was not there in person. I had forced myself to have fun because I was drinking 🤣 plus I had already got dressed up so nicely and everything. But now he wants to hang out again, and i am just not interested… and I don’t want to continue this and lead him on. But I don’t want to be mean, or ghost. But sometimes ghosting has been my last and final option because I hate confrontation!😪🤦🏾♂️
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Shanny, this is part of playing the Dating Game. You MUST, as an adult, and a responsible player, be able to let someone know when YOU aren't interested (and never will be). It's messed up when men AND women lead each other on. Even if you are nice, sweet, have good intentions...you're still wasting their time, energy, money, and opportunities that they could invest elsewhere sooner than later. I get it. You're not great with conflict. But this video IS FOR YOU. I walked you through the perspective and simple actions you can take. Try it. And if you need some help, that's something I often do...help people with letting someone down. You want to not have this on your conscience, as it is right now, right? And you also want to feel good about your actions, even if you're rejecting someone. But you can't learn this lesson by sitting out of it. Can you follow this video's lead?? - Mario
@Shannystrr
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel yes, you are absolutely right. After watching this, I’ve decided to make the decision to be honest in a very genuine way. Making sure no one’s feelings are hurt AND no time is being wasted. I won’t feed the beast 🤣. Looking back on past decisions where I’ve fed the beast- it didn’t end well lol. Thank you Mario!!
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Awesome. Rooting for you. You can do it. And remember, we ALL sign up for rejection when we dare to play the Dating Game. 99% of our efforts END in rejection...we can handle it. Especially when an adult (legit) makes an effort to not waste our time, offer honesty, and some tact so our feelings aren't bruised TOO much 😉
@Truthspeakeralways
2 жыл бұрын
😂
@Americanpatriot-zo2tk
2 жыл бұрын
Well first of all you did him a favor because you ain’t all that! Second, I will agree with you after only seen him once you don’t owe them anything. You seem to be arrogant.
@ChrisOneill17
2 жыл бұрын
Amazing analogy about the pigeons and feeding the beast, so I'll do this slowly and create some space between us first and decline when she asks to go on another date then I'll meet her in person and explain I don't feel a romantic connection and say we'd be better just as friends. Brilliant! Thanks so much for this video
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome. Keep us posted. Things never go exactly as planned, but it HELPS A LOT to have a plan of action, that's ALIGNED with your core values. - Mario
@cupofjavaproductions3138
14 күн бұрын
This is true. We can't get involved with people in order to "be nice".
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
4 күн бұрын
Gotta be more 'nice' to ourselves! - Mario
@cupofjavaproductions3138
4 күн бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel True! 😀❤️👍🏿
@ZiggyLu-og3zp
2 жыл бұрын
Just know that you don’t need that persons approval. Then you won’t throw any seed to them anymore. Be respectful in your last contact and maybe even open and honest.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Wise words. (Not needing approval is hard as fuck for most everyone, though!) And YES, be respectful in your last contact. And openness and honesty...if not then, WHEN?? You never know what the future holds. And you don't want to mess up opportunities with them, their friends, friends of friends....just no need to put out negativity that can come back on you. And if you're open and honest...it's something I wish people did more of because then...when you play by your rules, winning and losing are much easier to handle (especially losing). Those last honest words can also lead to someone in the future reaching back out with a different tone. (but you shouldn't expect it...but it's not uncommon) -Mario
@cherrylynn7173
2 жыл бұрын
Story of my life. I just get irritated after while. I am nice and tell them I’m not into it but they keep trying. Like I’m going to change my mind. I just get pretty nasty and speak a harsh truth. Them ignore them lol
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Perhaps you should lead (sooner) with a firm stance. Don't give guys any hope that you change your mind. So basically, be a little harder on them sooner, so that you don't have to make up for it by being more of a...B later, you know? Something I've discovered to be really powerful is practicing consistency. When people believe your word isn't easily broken, they don't take weeks trying to change your mind before figuring out to move on. I doubt you enjoy being nasty. Feels wrong, right. So don't let it get that far maybe...by being more confrontational with that "tough" honesty rather than your traditional "nice" strategy. - Mario
@igotbanned8372
3 жыл бұрын
She seemed nice at the start but then I figured out she was a small time weed dealer and boom, can't hang around with that anymore. Thank you for the advice and now I just need to work up the courage to do so.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
I get it. Sometimes in LIfe, your associations make or break you. And we all have certain standards. To help with your courage, rewatch this video, paying EXTRA attention to my message about being HONEST. Seriously, you shouldn't feel the need to be so courageous about telling your truth. "I was interested in you, but you dealing weed, even on a small level...it's just a no-go for me." Part of her doing what she does is accepting the risk of many things, one of which would be disapproval from men. She still does it, she's not stupid. And most people do pretty well when you tell them the truth, respectfully...and when you keep it short and simple! Also, learning to say tough things is a skill. But a necessary skill for all the games of Life, including Love. Hope this helps! - Mario
@harleypage5789
3 жыл бұрын
I'm thinking about faking my death to get rid of my ex, I'm not nice and he still won't leave me alone!!! I moved 2x and I told him I was diagnosed with cancer, I told him I had months to live, and he still doesn't get it!!!! I went around him smelling stink, I told him I was addicted to heroin, nothing works ,I don't understand!?!?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Why would he move on when you still engage? (Your fault. STOP.) Literally...your words say "I'm done with you" but your actions say, "I'm still engaging you." And in another person's eyes, they're STILL thinking there's something they can say or do to get you to change your mind. (It's kinda hard to change someone's mind who ignores you.) Make sense? - Mario
@harleypage5789
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel tbh im afraid of him escalating the obsession or stalking, I'm not sure how he'll react once you finally grey rock ,I know it sounds foolish but I feel trapped even though its not physically I guess I'm waiting for him to find someone else or lose interest 🤷 if I totally block him out I can't keep my eye open for what's next. He knows where I work, law enforcement is already involved, its complicated but I understand your angle
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
@@harleypage5789 well of course if law enforcement is necessary, then you're talking about something more serious than most. It's still important that you stop contact, though. Trying to talk or convince your ex of whatever...it's not helping. Ignore, and if law enforcement is/was necessary, you get a restraining order and wash your hands of it. This is still not anything YOU have to fix. Sucks you feel so trapped, though. I know that's tough. But, you said law enforcement was involved. I would hope if you're this concerned you've sought a restraining order. Take care of #1, okay? Rooting for ya. - Mario
@harleypage5789
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel thanks, I appreciate it
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
@@harleypage5789 most welcome. Be safe!
@geieffect
2 жыл бұрын
I recently met a guy from work he works in another division with same business we're at-- He put me on the spot one day asking me out on a date. I wasn't interested, he kept insisting and even put a guilt trip on me when I ignored him-- so I said ok fine- GIVE HIM A CHANCE why not- I agreed to go to dinner I dressed up nice- he wanted see me again started making all these crazy plans- he starts giggling- says we are meant for each other-- he says we should get a place to live together,,, after knowing him for 2 weeks! ?? (From work even)...I wanted to run for the hills!!!! He is pushing things on me way too fast!!! Now I want to either ghost or stop engaging altogether. This is all my fault after giving him a chance!! I don't want him!! I don't want to lead him on any kind a way! What should I do? 🤦♀️
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
I think I told you what to do in this video!! For perspective, you BARELY know this guy, or owe him anything. You can tactfully tell him you're not interested in him (refer to video). And after that...you can ghost him (if needed). But if you work with him, you should probably make Plan A to tell him it's not happening, you gave it a shot, but no. This guy is persistent, but maybe also a bit weird. I'm concerned he doesn't recognize social cues, and then that issue is made more concerning because YOU are (probably) not comfortable with confrontation. Is that fair?? Oh, and I need to address all the wild things he's saying. Don't take any of that seriously. He's talking fantasy bullshit. He has said that to many women before (probably unsuccessfully). He's not that psycho, I think he's just not got great "Game" and says some lame stuff, and if he BELIEVES it...that would be concerning too. Considering you barely know each other. For certain, you need to master standing up for yourself. He made mistakes and turned you off in the beginning, you still gave him a shot. Ok. But then he still was weird and it's not happening. Gonna have to stand up for yourself so he'll give you space, leave you alone, and so that YOU ensure it doesn't become an issue at work (because you address it properly). I think you can pull this off but if you need further help, you can always see how to connect for a consult with various services from my website www.thegameoflove.us . Rooting for ya, at least you took a shot, right? Now you have to end this so he doesn't mess up a future opportunity (for you and someone else). - Mario
@geieffect
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Your a 100% in your video let that person be dilatory. Leave it be and walk away. I truly understand and yes I do see what is going on with him. I'll pray for him hope he finds someone special. Thank you Mario* God bless!
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
@@geieffect Thanks! And I accept all the blessings ;) Good luck and thanks for checking out the channel and video. I'm glad it has been helpful to you. That's what it's about. - Mario
@johnb911
Жыл бұрын
How do you tell someone. “I like u, you’re a really sweet person… this has been fun…. but I don’t see a future with you, bc you are too old for me. I might want kids some day …”. Etc…. How do u say that in a nice way?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
Well let's consider, what is the outcome you want? Do you want to make someone feel bad about something they can't control? Do you want to tell someone how perfect they are except for this ONE dealbreaker? Or, could you end the relationship, or create distance, in a way that allows them to know you're not interested, but without feeling like shit because they're older than you? See, the thing is, telling 100% the truth isn't always the best thing to do. Maybe YOU might feel better, but you also should consider being considerate of others. I think if you don't see a future, you don't necessarily have to figure out how to tell them how imperfect they are, but instead you can just stop presenting to them that you're 100% happy, invested, or into the relationship. Maybe they can handle you moving on just fine, and don't need the extra level of you telling them 100% why it's not gonna work. (Most relationships don't work out. 99% of all relationship efforts!! So remember we're all adults, and don't need to be coddled. But that also doesn't mean be an asshole, you know? If you can't figure out the way to express things...you might be best served by just taking steps to distance yourself from the relationship, or temper expectations. That's why most people 'ghost.' Because they don't know how to say they're not interested anymore, don't care to explain, and sometimes not saying anything is better than saying something that (despite good intentions) hurts someone else. - Mario
@shutupcody8162
3 жыл бұрын
I give off so many signs that I don’t like him like that and just see him as a friend but he never gets the hint and I really don’t wanna his feelings:/
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Um...why are you still offering hints? There is never anything wrong with being honest and telling someone the truth in a respectful way. If you can't do that, it's YOUR ISSUE. You're gonna have to learn sooner in later that in Life and Love, you have to speak up for yourself, because no one else is going to. And um...if hints aren't working, you go to something stronger! I'm confident you can 1) be mature enough to be honest, 2) only say what needs to be said and not extra shit that will make him confused or hurt, and 3) say it in a way that allows him to keep his dignity. YOU'VE GOT THIS. Or need to practice it and get this skill under your belt! - Mario
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
And remember, you're talking about a FRIEND. The worst friend is the one who allows you to make an ass out of yourself when you never had a chance. You know? BE A FRIEND. Help your friend get the picture and move on. That's what a friend would do. And if he's YOUR friend, he won't receive this poorly. If he does, that's on him. There's a limit to how sorry you can be that you don't like someone romantically, ok? - Mario
@elliejean3787
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah he tried to kiss me and instead licked my face and I felt so uncomfortable and sickened by him icl and now I don’t know how to say I don’t want to see him again after that traumatising experience, but he goes to the same school as me so it’s a bit of a sticky one 😟
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Suggestion: practice good karma. We ALL have moments that are "not so smooth." Let's not be too hard on the guy for not being a pro. If he had...maybe you'd be uncomfortable with THAT! It IS strange that you're grossed out by a guy you were READY TO KISS. One second he was hot stuff. The next, TERRIBLE PERSON. Yikes. You're gonna be in his shoes one day, let's not go overboard making anyone feel terrible BECAUSE THEY WERE ATTRACTED TO YOU (and botched a kiss that you wanted). We all make a ton of mistakes is what I'm saying. More attractive are men and women who don't freak out over others' mistakes or imperfections. Think about it! - Mario
@i.112
3 жыл бұрын
girl I completely feel you- my attraction to someone can leave in an instant. You are not weird. Many women feel this, however, men really don’t get it bc its harder to turn them off- they are more sexually driven.
@dariussimmons8859
2 ай бұрын
😂😂 this is so petty
@lotusquel
2 жыл бұрын
OMG LOL "What the F is wrong with you. Leave me the F alone"...man I sure did get a good laugh. Hopefully it never comes to that - loved this video though - thank you!
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome. It's all about playing the games of Love with respect for others...and yourself! - Mario
@Americanpatriot-zo2tk
2 жыл бұрын
In simpler terms tell them that you’re not interested and your done tell them good luck and goodbye
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Um...no. I know you figured that was quite the zinger...but you just displayed how little you understood from the topic and content of the video. Rewatch my friend. You watched it the first time but didn't listen to MY message (not yours). - Mario
@Americanpatriot-zo2tk
2 жыл бұрын
I’ll rewatch
@Americanpatriot-zo2tk
2 жыл бұрын
Well, I did re-watch the video. Personally, I think that your advice is pretty sound. As you pointed out when you sign up for dating so to speak you’re taking a chance. On the other hand, like I told my 21-year-old son, when a young lady says no that means no. It doesn’t mean maybe, it doesn’t mean OK later, it means no. I have to subscribe to your channel and give you a thumbs up for what I consider solid advice and I might add in a very kind manner. God bless bro keep making videos like this.
@bonnieburton7484
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you I need this I’ll be at the store and then he’ll be I feel as if I’m being stocked I tried saying no I tried being nice
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
It's not your job to be nice to someone. It's their responsibility to respect others...or be treated in return with disrespect. If a guy wants to approach you, he's gotta also learn to take the hint when you're not feeling it. So just know it's not your job to be nice! Look out for yourself first, and telling the truth is DIFFERENT from being rude or mean, ok? - Mario
@LyransDenofLight
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks going to let her know
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Very welcome! Good intentions plus a good plan...formula for good results! - Mario
@ms.rutledge7836
3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣
@RunninChic620
Ай бұрын
Man, I gave a guy my number. I think we talked once or something and I just wasn’t interested but he tried to talk me down from rejecting him and I was really put off. So I determined I needed to find another way to shut him down, because simply saying I was not interested was not enough (even thought it was). So I did allow a few days to go by, I would not talk with him live, just via text and then out the blue he face timed me-I was like WTH?! I didn’t answer, then he called, then he FT again…I didn’t answer then. At that point I text him telling him I was not interested and his actions were too aggressive, then blocked him.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing. The thing is, for a guy....well they 1) need to be able to accept rejection when all they've done is gotten a number...and you've not even connected and had a good time in person, on a real date even! 2) Guys suck at reading signals, especially when they're mixed. And you sent mixed signals. It was AWESOME you stated your situation...but they you continued texting with him. THAT FUCKED HIM UP. He might have figured to move on sooner had you ignored, blocked, or decided to never connect with him again (and stuck to it). And if MAYBE you thought one day you'd enjoy keeping in contact (but not romantically)...you'd have to at least ignore him until a long enough period of time passed that this could take place and feelings had moved on. Thought I'd chime in, there's never a PERFECT way to handle every situation, but sounds like you handled it as best you could, and tried to be respectful and honest, and did so in a way you SHOULD feel good about your conscience when you sleep at night. That's kind of the litmus test for most. Thanks for sharing and all the best, Mario
@wayneh3021
2 жыл бұрын
Sadly, this works, I was told by the woman that she loved me, every day.. an talked to me 24/7.. then out of the blue, she Ghosted me, no txt, no calls, she did things to make sure I couldn't contact her, what a waste after a solid yr in the relationship.. no closure.. its frankly bogus, owning up an telling the person your moving on & breaking up, then do the ghosting if need be., really sad people are doing this to other's, as theirs other ways to just drop someone out of your life an being healthy abought it, I guess I'm just old school and believe people should try before making rash decisions, unless its a unhealthy relationship from the beginning !
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
In most cases, we aren't talking about a relationship. We're talking about dating connections...which don't deserve the same effort as "relationship" connections...which it sounds like you and I are on the same page with. If you're WERE in a genuine relationship, yeah you owe somebody more than if you were just dating. Something I also encounter often, is people considering "online connections" relationships. But...yeah, they're not. You can't be in a relationship with someone you don't see, or barely see. (Not saying that was you, but just sharing experience.) - Mario
@JediBunny
3 жыл бұрын
This is a great video! Is there any chance you’d be willing to answer a similar question regarding friendships? I have a friend I care very much for, but they continually want more and more attention from me - it started with lots of texting which was already draining for me (I’m a huge Introvert) and last week they asked me to start regularly Zooming with them. I was so anxiety-ridden by that question that I completely ghosted their message - I want to be honest and say I don’t have the energy to keep up with constant texts and/or Zooms, but I’m scared of hurting their feelings! Any advice?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
YES. Look, what you just shared...is thoughtful, compassionate, tactful, and HONEST. What you just shared...with a few tweaks...you could send as a text to that friend. It shows you care, but also HOW you care, HOW you interact, and what you're comfortable with. You're not giving someone the brushoff, you're having the respect and courtesy to tell them how things can CONTINUE...because you have to do it on your terms. (This isn't a bad thing. People respect those who express/share their limits). I would wager that this person WILL NOT block/move on from you altogether, but can respect what you're saying and tone it down a notch, and probably be glad to do so because they like you, and it's not a big deal for them. I'LL BET...they even know they're a bit much for SOME! And from this honest communication...I'll bet the friendship remains, probably even grows. It's some of the most honest shit that you can tell someone. THIS CONV IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP DESTROYER! I'll share with you...i HATE being on the phone socially. I'm on it enough for work. But I tell people that. Friends, family, romantic interests...they all get it! And I also tell them I don't do video calls and shit like that. I just tell them I barely like phone calls, and I tend to multitask when I text or am on the phone...which video calls make even more challenging. If they want a relationship with you...they will respect your boundaries. Because otherwise...what sort of friend is that? Trust me...if you come from a place of a good heart, and such a message as you just shared above...THINGS WILL GO WELL. (They SHOULD with a real friend who cares about you.) Keep me updated please! Thanks for checking out the channel and view. We're growing like crazy thanks to you! - Mario
@JediBunny
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel thank you so much for taking the time to write me back - your comment is so deeply thoughtful and understanding! And update. It went so well - I was completely honest and upfront and my friend was so empathetic and understanding and thanked me for being so honest and forthright with them. I’m so relieved lol! Thank you so much for your words and sharing your own experience, I truly appreciate it!
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
@@JediBunny that's FANTASTIC news! And now...the relationship is STRONGER! Thank you for the update, and you're VERY WELCOME for the advice. - Mario
@JediBunny
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel thank you so much, Mario, I truly appreciate it!
@martam.3671
Жыл бұрын
From my experience with friendships and I have very good ones, is that the best friends I have are the ones that demand the least time from me, because good friends aren’t about time spent but quality, respect and connection 😊
@iamalleb9245
3 жыл бұрын
I used to like this guy and he liked me back but now I realize that I’m not ready for any kind of serious relationship but I feel like he thinks we’re dating and he always pushes his boundaries especially with physical stuff and I made it clear that I’m not comfortable with that and he got mad at me for saying that, I’m so confused and scared on what to do
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
I don't know how old you are, but the first thing I'd say is your relationship, whatever it is...lacks communication. Are you dating? You seem unsure. Do you like him?? You seem unsure. If you're dating, YOU WOULD KNOW IT. Hanging out, fucking, kicking it...IS NOT DATING. Also, it's your body and you shouldn't feel uncomfortable. If he's got a problem with his hands or whatever not going wherever they want, he can fuck off. And you should know to tell him to fuck off and move on (IF...that's the case). You should NOT be uncomfortable or scared around someone you like, and date. I think this is maybe the biggest point you need to understand. - Mario
@iamalleb9245
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel We never dated! And when I tried to tell him to remember that we aren’t dating he got mad at me and told me I was selfish. It’s not that I don’t understand that a person you like shouldn’t make you feel uncomfortable, it’s just that every time I try to communicate he guilt trips me into apologizing to him for telling him to stop. And I am also young and not ready for any kind of commitment or relationship but he won’t listen to me when I tried to tell him that.
@lora3680
3 жыл бұрын
Okay so... i have this online friend i don't know if he likes me or not but he always tries to start a covensation and recently he text me like 24/7 and i don't really like the attention he's giving me. idk if i should keep talking to him and keep him as a friend or just say that im not into him. Because if i said im not into him and he only see me as a friend im going to look like a clown😂 but yea i don't feel comfortable to keep talking to him what should i do???
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
First, not being interested (romantically) in someone DOES NOT make you look like a clown. Who convinced you of that?? Second, you have an ONLINE FRIEND. Key word...ONLINE. As in, "you have NEVER met in person." C'mon...it's 2020...please don't be afraid to respect yourself enough to stop talking to someone you're not interested in...THAT YOU'VE NEVER MET IN PERSON. PAY ATTENTION..."Look out for number one." Do what's best for YOU. If you want or don't want to pay attention to anyone, do that shit. Ok? - Mario
@froczl
2 жыл бұрын
the issue is that the girl i was dating for a little while is so sensitive and she reads into everything i tell her, eventhough I'm trying to be pretty clear and straightforward. she takes evrything the wrong way and the says things like "i knew no one would ever want to be in a relationship with me when they actually get to know me". I'm just sure that she'll think that I'm being mean or whatever. your advice was actually good tho, I'll try to it the nicest way possible without embellishing it. thank u for your advice
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome. Appreciate you sharing that. I know it's hard to say difficult things to people, but we truly have to remember to ACT like adults and do what's NECESSARY (and respectful). Side note, don't let anyone guilt you with the "I knew no one would like me..." BS. I suppose you have to be solid on what you believe about yourself. If you can say something tough but necessary, to end a relationship, or to let someone know you've lost interest...it IS tough to say AND hear...but necessary. As I shared in the video, helping someone move on from you more promptly is mature and respectful (vs them wasting time and energy on you). - mario
@DaveG-qd6ug
10 ай бұрын
I fed the beast . Great topic and advice!
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
10 ай бұрын
You fed the beast? Well at least you know to stop, and what happens if/when you don't! Thanks for the comment and appreciating the content. - Mario
@cynthiawurld4223
2 жыл бұрын
He loves me but I like him but I dnt want to date him I just want to be alone and heal myself from toxic narcissism we barely talk and he’s always busy and he finds it difficult to communicate his feelings and I sometimes feel irritated by him
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like he's lucky you spend ANY time and energy on! I don't connect much, OR DATE, anyone who is "always busy," sucks at communicating, and irritates me. Sometimes when we say things out loud, we realize how absurd they are, like you wondering if there's ANY QUESTION you want to create some space from this guy. Take it. You take care of #1 first. In the video I'm pretty specific about how to go about it. Maybe rewatch the video to hear what I'm saying again. You want to create separation with the least amount of inflicted pain, but you're gonna need to do what's necessary, whatever that is going to be. Rooting for you. - Mario
@colin5789
2 жыл бұрын
I have this exact thing going on right now, I tried saying I don’t like them but they keep telling me what I think and trying to like think for me. I’m very close to just ghosting
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
It's predictable!! Rewatch the video. I discuss this exact dynamic...as well as the likely (negative) turn that's next. I think if you rewatch the video, whatever strategy you employ, or later decide is necessary, you'll feel confident in it. (And when you're talking about "ghosting," you DO want to feel like you're not a piece of trash at the end of the day, right? I always want folks to sleep well at night with their decisions, whatever they are. - Mario
@colin5789
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel oh dude, of course I wanted to let her down easy. I tried and tried, but today finally I blocked her. I just kept waking up to pages of texts in the morning and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I feel like shit doing it but it was the only option I feel like
@colin5789
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel just have to hope she doesn’t start just showing up at my house uninvited
@Truthspeakeralways
2 жыл бұрын
@@colin5789 😂😂 omg , that person must be head over hills for you
@firespawn0006
2 жыл бұрын
Very constructive suggestions; thanx I appreciated it
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Glad you took value. That's what it's about. There are always a lot of different strategies for handling situations in Life and Love, but this video was definitely about helping people realize ghosting doesn't have to be the first and only strategy. But if it needs to go there... - Mario
@BlueSky-be1xf
2 жыл бұрын
I went out with a guy, telling him I'm not interested, he is bombarding with hearts, I'm to nice. Why do people not accept you don't want to end up in bed.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Wild guess....you're "working" on being more disagreeable. Meaning, you're working on telling people "no," and not saying or doing things you don't want to. Correct? I'm glad you're nice. But you have to be nice to yourself FIRST. So that means you respect and honor your time, energy, and whatever level of drama you do and don't want in your life. And then...even though it's tough...you're nice enough to honor someone else's time, energy, etc...and tell them something tough, but it's ultimately best for them to hear (and sooner than later). Again, I'm glad you're nice! But you want better balance in order to help others move on faster. This video had tons of feedback for you, regarding how do that, and having PERMISSION to. You can do it. Rooting for ya. - Mario
@avantiiresha6687
2 жыл бұрын
I have not watched a video but I tried telling people that it’s not going to work just after few days chats and response I received made me feel I should have just ghosted them instead… trust me some people are so bad at taking rejection that they will start a abusing you left and right even if you have not done anything wrong with them .. I would ghost people now without being apologetic unless I am in any sort of relationship
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Ok so let's say this out loud. "You told people whom you chatted with a FEW DAYS you weren't interested...and the response was negative." OF COURSE!! Agreed, these aren't genuine relationships, right? So this is where I'm trying to tell people that THIS SITUATION is prime for just ghosting. People you barely know/connected with DO NOT want to hear they're not good enough, or what's wrong with them. (After all, you barely know each other!) This isn't a genuine relationship in which closure and honesty is expected. At least an effort, right? Imagine...imagine if we all told EVERYONE we lost interest with after a few chats from dating apps that we weren't interested. We would get negative responses all the time, right?? So that's why in this video I try to explain what you're talking about. Because people don't want to necessarily hear why you're rejecting them when you've only barely connected. They'd rather just move on. A little frustration of not hearing back is usually preferred to a message saying you didn't like their personality, right?? Sometimes in the games of Love, we have to do what's "better." Nothing is necessarily a "perfect" strategy that's always successful. "Total honesty," all the time...SOUNDS GOOD...but in reality it isn't appreciated or rewarded! Sometimes "ghosting" is the most respectful way for two people to move on, Crazy...but true! - Mario
@paigenoel5513
3 жыл бұрын
I can’t ignore him or anything because he’s my friend though. I am in a friend group, and we are all singers. We want to start an a capella group and we need him so I don’t want him to separate himself and they need me, so how can I separate myself? I don’t want to lose my friends because I don’t like this one guy. What do I do in this situation?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Hmmm. There's a lot I don't know. But first off...ACT COOL. Maybe you don't even NEED to have a talk. After all, I'm thinking you two weren't ever committed, and did you EVER have sex? Or date OFFICIALLY? If not...the most important thing you need to do is act cool about it! Thoughts? - Mario
@paigenoel5513
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel definitely don’t have a history, i (by choice) don’t have any exes but have had to turn a few guys down, but this situation is more complicated because this is a smaller group that I don’t want to break up. I also may or may not have a thing for the other guy in this group🤭😬 and they are good friends that go pretty far back. He just likes me and I like him as a friend but we just aren’t compatible in that way. Apparently I have a “flirty personality” unintentionally so he might think I’m into him even though I treat everyone the same. I’m only in high school so I am not looking nor am I ready for a relationship. I don’t want to waste my time and emotions dating around but would rather date in the future with the intent of marriage so no, I don’t have a history with him.
@paigenoel5513
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel right now he seems to be testing me to confirm whether or not I like him. He stopped texting me for a day and I didn’t message him and then told me he wasnt going to school and asked me to cover him but I didn’t ask why. Is that what you mean by acting cool?
@xRaineDropsx
2 жыл бұрын
I have a question: I am planning to tell a guy, I have been chatting with that I am not interested in pursuing a relationship. Is it okay to send him a message explaining myself and then cease contact?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
I have a question for YOU! Why is it necessary to tell someone...that you've never had ONE REAL DATE with, "I'm sorry, but I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship (WITH YOU)." I think you're on the right track wanting to be open, honest, and short with your words...but I question the content of your message. You've been chatting. CHATTING. I think you have the right idea, but take it down a notch in the seriousness of your message and also...how you feel about it. If you can remind yourself that this is VERY DIFFERENT from a true effort towards a relationship (that involves more courting than "chatting"), I think you'll be less in your head about expressing your disinterest, and also in how much you feel the need to explain yourself. Make sense? Yes to telling him you're not interested "In that way." But do take a few steps back from telling him (for no productive reason) "I'm not interested in your for a relationship." That's some harsh stuff that isn't likely to be received well by most men. It will either (needlessly) hurt feelings, and/or it will increase the odds of a negative exchange. Sounds like you want to end all communication. That's fine if you do. You don't have to, though, as long as you're now communicating as much, and as intimately, as YOU are comfortable. It sounds as if you're considerate and thoughtful, so I'm pretty confident you can achieve this message in an adequate fashion. And in a way that you can sleep well at night, knowing you weren't a terrible person. - Mario
@becauseyes5507
3 жыл бұрын
Hey I have this girl that I really don’t like who’s into me and I don’t know how to let her know I don’t like her. I recently rejected one of her friends so she somehow got the idea that I’m interested in her. How do I get her to realize I’m not interested without saying it
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
It's not your responsibility to tell someone you're not interested. You simply need to not send mixed signals. And if you do...just STOP. You're entitled to just live your life without worrying about letting down someone...that you were never into! But if you want to be a good guy...still...I'd say considering just stopping and avoiding what could be considered as signs of interest. If she pursues you...just be honest with her. I'm sure you don't have mean things to say to her, and she's just not for you. The truth is a REALLY SOLID strategy. And if you need something more concrete, that's what our Love Life Helpline is for, available at www.thegameoflove.us for situations just like this! - Mario
@becauseyes5507
3 жыл бұрын
Hey Mario thanks for responding i want to start ignoring her and not responding to her texts but she’s my neighbor and my parents are good friends with her parents
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
@@becauseyes5507 you can still 1) not message her first, 2) you can not immediately respond when she does, 3) you can edit the fuck outta your responses until you're DAMN CERTAIN you're not communicating anything that could let her think, "Wow! Look at what he said!! He is in to me!!" I definitely DO NOT want you to be a dick. Having someone interested in you IS A COMPLIMENT. Be honored. Don't treat people who think highly of you like shit. But you also don't have to pretend and be inauthentic for their sake. Take care of #1 FIRST. And I think you can do that, with tact, and she'll get the picture, without you having to make a big deal. You're right to be considerate. She's a neighbor and friend of the family...and may have a friend in the future you're interested in and THAT GIRL will ask her, "Tell me about this guy, your neighbor." A man with game plants seeds with thought. He makes sound decisions of strategy for the short AND long term. Never know, so you don't want to NEEDLESSLY burn bridges! - Mario
@teresaolofson8059
2 жыл бұрын
Dont Feed The Beast Be Consistant IF YOU DO YOUR NOT STAY cONSistant you Reset the HOpe for htem to keep Going for it
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY!! Avoid this reset! - Mario
@haileycameron4254
Жыл бұрын
Question, what if I really like the person but I know I have to cut it off and they keep pursuing me? And like you said I don’t wanna ghost them or be rude because I want to preserve a friendship but I know we both shouldn’t be in a relationship. Great video btw!
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
I think it's not that complicated. What you just shared is well...mature. You've tried to cut it off, they aren't getting the message, and they're still pursuing you. Why? Because they don't realize it's not gonna happen. In your case, a proper and necessary split that creates the distance/separation YOU desire...may require you to tell them in a nice way, "It's not happening." So bottom line, you have to have an adult and mature conversation. Preferably face to face, ok? And ALL YOU NEED TO ACCOMPLISH in this convo is telling them you need some space, and though you love the friendship, you aren't ready or wanting more than friendship right now. You can also share that you don't want to be rude and ghost, so you wanted to respectfully tell them (because you value their friendship) that you need the separation and a return to just friendship, or maybe you can't remain friends right now (but you do want to remain friends). Make sense? Basically, the tact and respect that you just shared with me would go over well in a face to face convo. Why? Because you're TRYING to be respectful, empathetic, and a friend. You have good intentions. If you remain aligned in your actions with those intentions, chances are your interaction and outcome will come out ok. And if not...well you will be able to look yourself in the mirror regarding how you conducted yourself. - Mario
@nyijernacho8098
Жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel will try this one. Thanks for the help🙏
@vinn_0
2 жыл бұрын
Out of all the people who confessed to me there's this one girl who i got to talk everyday with since she wants to , she's very understanding that even when I reject her she says it's fine if I don't return her feelings she just wants to have me .. but she acts like she's my lover or something I want peace time , alone back to my isolated life , I don't want nor need her company , I don't want to hurt or be straightforward to her the fact I want to stop and cut ties with her for good. (She knows my ra account and address agh)
@vinn_0
2 жыл бұрын
I thank you for this video tho jsut what I need.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear it. Sounds like it helped you figure some things out. - Mario
@iamme2797
2 жыл бұрын
What sucks is I will try my hardest to do this but the girl I’m dating is so sensitive and after she gets over it she will make rumors about me I know because she did it go her ex and I don’t want it to happen to me too but I will try
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Totally get it. But if she was mature and was really "over it" she wouldn't start rumors, would she? Gotta think about the girls you date. Some will be chill, and mature. Others...will teach you why maturity and emotional stability are important qualities to look for and value. You are right to be concerned. If she did it to her ex, she could do it to you. Part of why we should never badmouth our exes or do wrong to them. Others will see it and recognize (or should) that if that person did it to their ex, they could do it to you. I think it speaks volumes about a person who can purposely attempt to hurt someone they were in a relationship with. Like, that's the person you were closest to, and you're gonna do them like that? Speaks to shortcomings or areas to be addressed. Rooting for ya and thanks for sharing. Hope that brief comment gives you some perspective. - Mario
@iamme2797
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel I ended up telling her and she didn’t understand at all but you are right I have to think about the people I date thank you so much and she started a rumor that I never loved her and I was using her so I don’t care anymore she isn’t mature and thank you for giving me the courage to do that
@blakeoquinn8493
2 жыл бұрын
Hey, I’m in a deep pit right now I like someone but I’m already in a relationship those feelings I got for that person began in summer and now I’m just confused on what to do
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Confused? I'd expect you to be. So you're ALREADY in a relationship, and have feelings for someone that have been developing since the summer. How far have those feelings gone? What is the status of your relationship? I'd say the first thing I'd recommend is reflecting upon where you CURRENTLY are, and only after you have a better idea of that can you then work on where you might be, or want to be, in the future. It gets tricky in the games of Love. But it's not supposed to easy, and what we aren't taught is that we all make mistakes, bad things happen to good people, good things happen to bad people...but it's YOUR responsibility to play YOUR game, with YOUR rules. If you need to talk or get advice, visit www.thegameoflove.us and check out the opportunities. Sometimes it does really matter if you win or lose, and how you play the game. - Mario
@rockyayce6485
3 ай бұрын
So can you just text them this type of message? Because that is my weakness just hurting a person's feelings?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Ай бұрын
YES. Why? Because if we get rejected...we prefer it doesn't happen in person (or in public), right? And we don't even want to hear why we're not good enough from a persons mouth and see their face. WE'RE HUMAN!!! If you're ending things anyway, yes, a text is good enough. (Let's assume we're not ghosting some real and lasting relationship, but someone you just met, someone you dated or text a few times??? Worthy of being ghosted. - Mario
@bonnieburton7484
3 жыл бұрын
I know it’s like why can’t I just be left aloneHow long do I wait to go to the words sometimes just to be alone and meditate I don’t bother anyone I’m always polite to people but sometimes you got people that just want to be that way and you want to say wtf ????
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Not everyone is wired the same. Maybe solitude is something you're comfortable with, a tool you use for self-balance. I guess I just want you to know that we all are wired and deal with life differently. And sometimes we DO need to tell someone, WTF?? Just a quick thought, if you DO need to pop off and get something off your chest, I'll bet that meditation will help guide you to the better way you can express it. - Mario
@samboriboun2213
Жыл бұрын
I cant stand a co worker that keeps staring at me, he tells me im beautiful and other compliments. He follows me at work but i just ignore
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
Nothing wrong with standing up for yourself and saying, "Thanks, but I'm at work and uncomfortable with all your compliments. I prefer to keep things professional at work, THANK YOU." If the comments and following continue, you might consider at that point letting a superior know your issue. We go to work to WORK. Yes, sometimes we make connections, but everyone has the right to JUST WORK at work if that's their preference. Confrontation averse?? Gotta develop the ability to confront when necessary! - Mario
@paigethompson2860
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks this was helpful
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome! Glad you took value from it. Perspective allows us all to make better decisions. - Mario
@100BD
3 жыл бұрын
i’ve turned to youtube for help, so i’m hoping you can help me 😔 ive seen your replies in the comments and i just have to say i’m subscribing! your advice is great and it’s nice you take the time to reply. that being said: i’ve been dating a guy for a few months, we started off great going for dinner, staying over etc but i haven’t felt the same for a few weeks now.i normally cut things short due to past hurt and i like to shut it down before i let myself fall for someone- that’s a problem right? so i’ve given it time. i’m having surgery next week and the guy has turned up the intensity wanting to see me all the time and trying to make plans for my bday at the end of the year. i have slowly not responded to texts, being blunt etc, but i’m gonna break it off with him tonight. please help me, i don’t wanna hurt him, and i don’t think he’s gonna take it well. what do i do?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the words and sharing the value you get from the channel. I appreciate hearing that! Now regarding your situation...it seems YOU KNOW you need to handle this differently...better than you have in the past. Props for not immediately running when you normally would, and letting things play out. That's a big positive step!! But...you're still at a place where you've lost interest. It happens, and PERFECTLY NORMAL. Here's what I want to point out. You see BY HIS ACTIONS he's invested, and only getting MORE invested. Further, he's making plans for your bday...which are well, relationship territory, and also when people invest MORE time, effort, and money. (It's also hard to tell someone you want to do something without them on your special day when they plan something special for you!) You've done the smaller, more passive actions...and he hasn't gotten the hint. So now you're at a place where you need to put on your big girl panties, and say some uncomfortable (yet NECESSARY) things. Good. It shows respect (for him). He may not be your dream guy, but you've had enough history that he deserves to be let down with respect. So...your big ideas for this conversation are to 1) keep it short, 2) speak the truth, and 3) ensure your message is express tactfully. Most of the time when I work with people in this situation, when I ask them to share what is going on...most of that communication is what they SHOULD share with the partner they want to move on from. Then there's some effort to keep it simple, of course. No need to get into things that don't matter, or into detail that isn't necesary. It just confuses, and when you know you're not getting back together...you don't want to offer false hope. Then finally you have to plan for your message to be shared tactfully. Are you aware of triggers? Things to avoid? What sounds better and less of a blow to his ego? These are things you should be considering, and remember, if you're breaking things off, keeping it simple and short helps others better understand (and move on) so they don't try to debate you into working it out, or don't fully grasp that IT'S OVER, AND NEVER GONNA HAPPEN. If you need help refining your approach and message, there are a few options. You can send me your approach to review via my 24/7 Love Life Helpline (great for one question, or to offer quick advice, or review a message). If you need assistance, like figuring out what to say, and the considerations to help this convo go more positively, you might consider a consult. Both of these services are available from www.thegameoflove.us When we're playing the games of Love, we have to remind ourselves most of our experiences (99%) will end in (eventual) failure. You have to become competent at ending things, and others playing this game also are responsible for handling failure. (We just want to let them down softly. Karma IS a bitch!) - Mario
@sim1860
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. This was a very clean process and strategy. #stopfeedingthebeast
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it! You're very welcome. Thanks for stopping by the channel. If you need anything, we have a ton of free resources at www.thegameoflove.us - Mario
@LadderProductionFilms
3 жыл бұрын
Valentine's Day is coming up and I don't want to date this person anymore. Awkward timing, no?
@GamesGirlTV
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
MORE AWKWARD...if you do something you don't want to do, though. Right? - Mario
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
See my earlier response ;) - Mario
@imho2278
3 жыл бұрын
Get the food and flowers. Scram on the 15th.
@jenniferanderson5348
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 😊
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome ! Thanks for stopping by the channel and saying thanks! It's nice to be appreciated ;) - Mario
@rocksroll6841
6 ай бұрын
Sign up for life & love sign up for pain 😂😂😂😅😅😅true so true
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Ай бұрын
How else would we learn lessons, or our values? What can we learn if not the most from our failures? If something is worth a great value, you somehow...have to pay a great price. But the games of Life and Love are so worth it. - Mario
@giddynun
2 жыл бұрын
omg it’s been a day and i’m uninterested already but i was hyping them up making them think i like them and they rly like me what do i do need help ASAP.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Understand you messed up with YOUR inauthentic and unnecessary actions. You do. (But WHY was that the choice that you made? Who feels the need to hype someone up they just met like that??) If it's been a day, you need to distance the communication. Don't ignore or be mean, but don't initiate, and it's POSSIBLE all you need to do is step back and away from the communication...because that's on them if they get overly into you off of one day and what they SHOULD have recognized (and red flagged) as your inauthenticity. If it comes down to you need to come clean, all you need to do is say your truth. But tactfully. Not, "Hey I lost interest in you after a day. I don't know what I was thinking." Instead, tell your truth. "Hey, I think I went a little too fast and would prefer to slow things down. I'm not sure where my head is at and just wanted to let you know." From there you'll get a response that you will then plan your next move from, either to slow things down, or to slow it down until it's not a surprise you're less interested and you both naturally just move on WITHOUT needing to tell each other they are not good enough. Make sense? Just a quick thought as I'm passing through. - Mario
@giddynun
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Thanks a lot kind sir 🙏🏽
@serenequeensubliminals
2 жыл бұрын
I am already in a relationship and there's this other person which is clearly attracted to me and keeps trying to get closer but i don't want to upset my partner but i still like that person as a friend i dont want to get them out of my life entirely
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes in Life...you have to choose. And it's gonna be a tough choice. I've learned, and hope to pass on to you, sometimes you MUST hurt feelings to protect someone you REALLY care about. Trying to please everyone...is a way to lose EVERYONE. As an adult, you're responsible for your relationships. it's a CHOICE. You also have to do tough things, like tell someone they need to back off if they want to keep a FRIENDSHIP, because you have to let them know your PRIORITY is your RELATIONSHIP. They either get on board, or they don't. Remember, or identify, your priorities. Trust me, this is something you have to learn, and learn to DO...as an adult. It WILL cost you in Life and Love. I know confrontation, and hurting feelings, doesn't come easy (WHICH IS GOOD). Remember that you have to have the ability to stand up for yourself and create boundaries, though...or you WILL lose in Life and Love more than you should. - Mario
@biteynibbles8444
5 ай бұрын
I never met a man who kindly and honestly told a woman he wasn't interested. Why do men expect better treatment than what they give?
@shadash5900
3 жыл бұрын
I did that once... I told him that i want to break up, but after i did i started feeling guilty and i couldn't understand myself anymore...i started thinking about him a lot and then i talked to him again, and i found out that he was so broken because of me but afterwards he forgave me anyway and we came back together... And now things started going wrong again and we haven't been talking much lately, also i started to feel like i'm done with him for good this time ... And i don't want to break his heart one more time... i literally don't know what to do!
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Here's the thing. It's pretty common for breakups to not "take' the first time. If's VERY common for you (or them) to feel regret. It makes sense, though. Clearly you were (initially) into them for valid reasons. Then all those shared experiences and memories?? Very tough to just "forget," right?? It sounds like you're ready to break up with him, again. I know you feel a certain guilt about this, but this is part of the Relationship Game. Rarely does the Relationship Game end in "happily ever after," and that's OK!! If you don't want to break his heart...first realize, it's great that you have empathy and care for his feelings...but you have to behave as an adult. For YOU...you can't stay in an unhappy/unsatisfying relationship. And for HIM...you can't lead him on to thinking the relationship is fine when you're clearly unhappy! The current relationship is well..kinda phony. And if you plan to break up, the best thing to do is follow much of the advice in this video. You can speak your truth, right? You can be tactful, right? And you can do what is necessary, right?? The guy, if you care about him...DESERVES to be able to move forward with his time and energy into connections that COULD work out, even if you two didn't. I know it's tough, but that's being an adult. If you need any help, I offer services that assist like consults or the use of my 24/7 Love Life Helpline at www.thegameoflove.us Hope this helps, and i'm rooting for you! - Mario
@elliemerc01
2 жыл бұрын
Trust your gut! If you wanted to break up, it’s you knowing it’s never going to work. Stop feeling guilty, stop feeling sorry for him! Take care of yourself first, life is short. You both will find the right one but never if you stay with the wrong person for all the wrong reasons.
@cameliasanchez8946
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you…🙏this really helped!
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome! Glad you took value from the video. - Mario
@user-xh6gr5lk3x
4 ай бұрын
I want to try it Cause there is someone I am dating and I am not in love with them anymore and I was looking for a way to get out of this relationship
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Ай бұрын
What comes around goes around. A 'relationship' deserves respect. 'Ghosting' someone you just text a few times, or even dated a couple times....not the same as ghosting your romantic partner. I hope you learn to overcome your weakness to be able to express your real feelings and not handle them so poorly. You won't be able to attract great connections if that's how you operate. Rooting for you, though. - Mario
@6xmaaaa
3 жыл бұрын
Can you just give the advice I can’t seem to understand Edit: get straight to the point already
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Your issue isn't me. Your issue is you're struggling to understand the message everyone else in the comments received. Just rewatch the video. The biggest lesson isn't a line, it's perspective. - Mario
@Christian_Bagger
Жыл бұрын
If you’re in a relationship and you pursue me… then proceed to do mindgames… I’m gonna ghost you.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
You should understand, if you experience 'mindgames' repeatedly...there's something YOU are doing that fosters/promotes this behavior. In which case, just ghosting someone isn't going to change anything in the future to break that pattern. Rooting for you, so something to think about! - Mario
@biteynibbles8444
5 ай бұрын
Thank you. Good advise.
@andreadiaz2610
2 жыл бұрын
i did that.. and it works
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Awesome to hear! In the Dating (and Relationship) Game...sometimes we MUST do things that are gonna hurt (you or them)...but as adults, they're NECESSARY. And as I share in this video, I think we can move on AND do so respectfully. - Mario
@dirkdiggler5821
Жыл бұрын
Great video
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
Thanks! Glad you appreciated the content. - Mario
@ojenibosnoyan6938
Жыл бұрын
✅True words
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
Thanks! - Mario
@stephanymccormick1102
3 жыл бұрын
I did that. But he wasn't getting it. I'll figure it out
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Nothing to figure out. "Don't feed the beast." Meaning, disengage. Ignore. Blocking isn't necessary. But you have to let people figure out to move on, the hard way if needed. We are adults. It's not your job to make them feel good and receive closure about you not being interested. IF YOU DO ENGAGE them by picking up the phone, responding to texts...you're delaying them figuring it out and moving on. Make sense? - Mario
@stephanymccormick1102
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel yes, thank you. I literally needed. I've been up and down with it so thanks.🌹🤗
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
@@stephanymccormick1102 very welcome. Rooting for you. - Mario
@randomhuman8730
10 ай бұрын
I really liked a guy or at least I think so but recently he did and said something with is such an immediate turn off like some absolute bullshit now I don't know what should I say to him like I feel tho as if I don't like him anymore the more that I get to know about him the more I don't like him
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
10 ай бұрын
Why do you believe you owe him some (grand) explanation? To what extent is your relationship? Life is short. Nothing wrong with moving on. Women do it all the time telling men they tried dating that they think it's more of a 'friend' connection and then things cool off, both romantically and even as possible friends. Remember in the games of Love we all try partners out (over and over) until we realize they're not 'the One' and then we part ways and try again! - Mario
@dezbane7261
2 жыл бұрын
Love the advice. I went on a date texted back and forth a bit but I’m not interested.. should I send a text, call or meet up and let this person down easy.. don’t really know what to do. Feel a text is childish
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes you need to just communicate appropriately. What I mean by that is, if you just went out ONCE...and don't have a strong bond of friendship, but maybe respect...there's no rush to communicate disinterest. Did the date go well? If not, they probably caught some of those vibes and noticed. Often in these situations, I like to think what's a great strategy is to just stop behaving as if things are great and you're still interested and pursuing. So...don't call or text the same communications you did previous to your date when you two were more interested in each other. You have to not act like things are perfect. Sometimes all you have to do is just back off. This is going to happen A LOT in the dating game. Sometimes, you both just won't contact each other again. No need to be the bad guy. Other times, the texting or calls just fade in quality, quantity an investment until things fizzle and again...everything fades away. And other times, the situation keeps on arising like an annoying splinter until you have to address it in person, via text, phone call, to RESPECTFULLY tell a brief truth... that you didn't feel the connection. This is literally a 30 second conversation. Simple, respectul, tactful, and honest. It's like if a job contacted you out of courtesy and respect to let you know you wont be getting the job. You know you can't get every job, and you respect the communication, and now you can stop hoping for the phone to ring or to receive that email with positive news. There's not really a perfect answer for every situation. You have to play it by ear. This is the type of question I'll get and review the scenario specifics when I get it submitted to my Love Life Helpline, and ultimately, YOU have to decide what the best strategy is FOR YOU...that also aligns with your values for the how you want to play the Dating Game. Hope this gives you something to think about! - Mario
@brittanysterling5671
2 жыл бұрын
There’s this co worker of mine who’s nice and we talked a bit and he recently asked for my PlayStation name and we played one day. He asked if I liked him and I said I wasn’t sure. The next he asked to hang out and get some food or something and I told him I was busy and then he asked when I was free. I was caught off guard by this don’t know why and was just like sure let’s do this day. 1 day later I regret it cause I seen him at work and he was being all weird staring at me lovingly and stuff and it threw me, also I found out he has the same name as my siblings so that’s also made me just off about going to meet him at all because now I just can’t see myself with him at all. Now when I see him it’s like that my sibling or cousin and I just can’t. How can I cancel the meeting? Change my mind about it without being mean? Cause I said I didn’t know how I felt before but now it’s a no. I feel bad though because I already accepted, and it’s going to be weird cause I have to see him at work
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Here are my thoughts. Part of this issue...is that you're playing video games with a guy...AND THEN surprised when he behaves immaturely. I'm just sayin...I'd like those odds, you know? Next, there is NOTHING WRONG with changing your mind when you realize you're just not feeling the situation. Whether it's work or his name...this is pretty common for both men AND women. Here's the thing. Now we KNOW 2 things: 1) You're NEVER going to be interested in him. Or it's like 99% certain. 2) You also have to work with him, and don't want to be rude when you have to see him. I'd say what you've shared is all valid, but what you want to do is KEEP IT SIMPLE. The work issue is good enough. "Hey I've thought about it, and it makes me uncomfortable to connect with you...AND work together. I know it's not an issue for everyone, but right now, it is for me." With that angle, and ONLY that angle, there's not really an opening for him to try to convince you. Which is also why we leave out other details, like you're not feeling him anymore, his name thing is weird. If you say stuff like that, he might try to convince you, and what you really want is to keep this as black and white as possible, so he doesn't fight it, and it's also handled as respectfully as possible. Look, you're blaming it on the work situation. That IS true. It's just not the ONLY issue. But it allows YOU to spare his feelings, and it allows HIM to accept things and everyone pretends it's just because you work together. - Mario
@iyaa105
3 жыл бұрын
heey so im on talking stage with this person, its clear for he both of us BEFORE that we like each other. but now i feel like i dont and i wanna be honest and tell him that. but i was wondering if i should also say to him to stop liking me? or should i just say my thoughts? aaa can u give me an idea what words would be okay to use :( i know u said to not feed the beast but it just doesn’t feel okay to just order him to not like me anymore just bec i dont like him?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
1. You can't make someone stop liking you. And saying that is a terrible thing to do! 2. What you want to do is honestly, and TACTFULLY, express to him your thoughts. Keep it simple. Tell the truth, which is something like, "Hey, I'm glad we connected, but I want to be honest and let you know I'm just feeling a friend connection here." Boom. That's it. You can even copy/paste that. It's honest. It's simple. It treats him like a respected adult. (You're being honest, and you're also not being a jerk.) It's also the extent of what effort you need to make. Their response SHOULD be to gracefully accept reality. They might have a text that responds in a friendly, accepting manner. But it is in poor form ON THEIR PART to try to change your mind. If they do try, firmly and just ONCE tell them your position isn't going to change. Again, you can literally message to any "But maybe..." text with, "My position isn't going to change, (insert their name)." If they accept it gracefully then, well you can possibly retain a friendship ON YOUR TERMS. Meaning, you don't need to entertain advances, and your communication is implied to change from a romantic effort to one of friendship. (You don't need to message as often or make as much of an effort. If you two COULD remain friends, you will. If not...you'll drift apart.) And if they want to continue without accepting reality, at THAT point you can "Don't feed the beast." Remember, it's not your responsibility or burden when you don't feel attraction. Anyone, especially men, playing this game have to be willing to experience and accept rejection. You're not a jerk. You're just not interested! Hope this helps and clarifies for you! - Mario
@iyaa105
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel thank you so much!
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
You're most welcome!
@yo547yu7
2 жыл бұрын
Ik I’m late but There’s this girl I like n she at my school she like me back to but she is shi But her friends like me to n she not really alladat Sooo she makes her move and 2 days later we are dating We kissed n everything but I feel like the only reason I got wit her was because I was so lonely She told her family and everybody about me How do I get out of the situation
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
I don't know where you are in the world, but if she told her family about you after just a couple days and a kiss...that's HER MISTAKE. All she deserves is just a BRIEF honest interaction telling her your truth. You wanted to get to know her, you enjoyed the kiss, but you're uncomfortable getting so serious so soon, and ESPECIALLY uncomfortable with her telling her family about you...how it makes you feel undue pressure. She messed up. She got real clingy, right? In the game of Love, that shit is punished whether you're a man or woman. You're not IN any situation. You're not in a relationship. At most, you get to tell this girl your truth and she has to accept it. This is more embarrassing for her than you, so be nice in letting her down. - Mario
@nehadhanesh4681
2 жыл бұрын
There is a guy who wants to say I love you to me But I don't like that I thought him as a big brother What should I do?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
How do you know he wants to tell you he loves you? It sounds like you two haven't even dated. Is that correct? (And I'm wondering where in the world you're located, because cultural norms are very different all over) You should respond honestly...but tactfully IF he drops a "I love you." WHY? Because you shouldn't feel guilty about not being interested, and not reciprocating. You value his friendship. If you want to keep him as a friend...honesty plus respect and consideration for his feelings are recommended. He does have good intentions...though poor social acumen, so no need to destroy him. But also no need to reward someone who hasn't even asked you out, or expects to guilt you into something when he drops an "I love you." I think the advice in this video is relevant where the big idea is to accomplish your goal...with the least damage/pain inflicted. You probably want to keep him as a friend. You don't want to crush him. But you also need to feel YOU are free, right? So the advice of this video is perfect. Consider the honesty, the tact, the respect...and if he doesn't get it...well you should feel ok about creating distance, separation, or telling him a more difficult to hear version of the truth about your feelings towards him - Mario
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
👉 *READY TO LEVEL UP YOUR 😐"MEH" LOVE LIFE?* (🙋♂️May I help?) In the description, I organized a collection of 💯🆓 RESOURCES and SHARE the "3️⃣ Actions in 3️⃣ Minutes" you need to take, RIGHT NOW. 👊🏼 - 🦸 *Mario*
@dirkdiggler5821
Жыл бұрын
Fun fact: Bread is incredibly bad for any birds digestive system and general health. Never feed any bird bread.
@tjgunion9963
2 жыл бұрын
The person I used this advice on is very mad at me I’m in high school and she sits across from me in second period does anyone have advice on how to not be awkward and to remain friends
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Stop trying to be friends with people who don't want your friendship as much as you want theirs (and more).
@nubiancutie5972
5 ай бұрын
What if you like them but they are toxic?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Ай бұрын
Sometimes you need to ask for help taking healthy actions that respect and love yourself. I think many of us in our lives at some point encounter someone enthralling...yet TOXIC. If you're still in the situation or need assistance, you can reach me at mario@thegameoflove.us - Mario (sorry about the very late response)
@afro_habesha
Жыл бұрын
tnx alot
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
You're most welcome, glad you found value in this video! - Mario
@monicaaguas328
2 жыл бұрын
I have someone i like but he has family and they still together he knows iLike him so much but he said he like me too but he just only show that only the body is the one he likes, I'm so much turned off with him he always chat me, I don't know how to avoid him and slap him I'm not interested anymore and iwant to distance as a respect to his wife so help me please what to do
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
1. You're not a victim here, ok? 2. Not gonna get my empathy for liking a married man with family that you're having sex with...and then are upset because he only wants your body, and not a relationship. What do you expect? You're not wifey material the way you're behaving...so he's not gonna treat you like wifey material. 3. So what if he chats/messages you? You are an adult. Delete the number. Block the number. Stop communicating with him. You're just as much a problem as he is and it's sad that you feel victimized so much that you think you're entitled to slap him. You deserve your ass beat by his wife, remember?? So let's keep our hands to ourselves before you mess with a guy who gets slapped and slaps you back like you'd deserve. 4. What you need to do requires ONE SECOND. Make a decision. Make a decision to be better, and move on. Clean break. Move on. Show some respect for yourself, and realize he will NEVER relationship you. EVER. So he's not going to pick you next to be his wife. With all this free time you're going to have, I recommend you engage in deep reflection to identify the motivation for your knowingly becoming sexually involved with a married man with a family...and WORSE...considering yourself to be some sort of victim. I appreciate your honesty, I do. But I've only got so much time, energy, and words before I have to move on to the next today. But what I shared is how I feel, despite it being a bit raw and tough for you to hear, I think it is what I want you to hear from me. And remember, I'm not here to tell people what they want to hear, I tell people what they NEED to hear. Rooting for you. No one's perfect. I'm certainly not. But you're in a bad spot, and I hope you quickly get out of it and return to being a brighter light to the world as you were meant to be. - Mario
@Barbara-sv3io
3 жыл бұрын
I wiah I could do this but I already lead him on... he asked me out on a date and I scheduled it for two months from now on, and I have to at least try because I think going back in my words would be worse, since he is my friend. The problem is that he keeps texting me all the time and making me nervous, flirting with me etc and I dont know how to ghost him properly since I keep online for a great time. :(
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
This is a lesson you learn with age and experience...but it's more disrespectful to not let a FRIEND know you're not feeling him like that. Spare him the awkward moments you hate, the convos you're (now) avoiding, and the further embarrassment of each day (making it worse). Plus...the wasted investment he could put elsewhere where he might find success. If you think like a friend...you keep the friendship (and maybe improve it) with just one uncomfortable convo. You can do that, right? And if you need any help, that's part of what I do at GGG. Have a whole helpline devoted to it! Best of luck and rooting for ya. - Mario
@ianbetts4435
2 жыл бұрын
I hate ball shit excuses or vagueness. Just be up front and straight with people.
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
2 жыл бұрын
Same here. But not everyone functions like us. But...being up front and straight is difficult, unpopular, and sometimes NECESSARY, right?? - Mario
@Fijian9tails
3 жыл бұрын
Most of the people who watched this video are females.. ? I feel irrelevant rn because I don't need this great advice atm buuuut I know who can 100% relate😂👀 Aye but I might use this in different situations
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Tough to say "most people watching this video were females" when I don't even have access to that data. Possibly? But unlikely. Really, doesn't matter. Well I'm glad you don't need this advice right now. It's a tough situation to be in, and that's why I'm trying to help men and women get through it smoother and better. It happens. And it happens to us all that we find ourselves in these situations. What other situations might you use this advice in? I'm curious. - Mario
@Fijian9tails
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel I mean... looking at the comments most are woman🤷♂️ I've probably only read 2 other guys comments but yeah doesn't matter, just wanted to say
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Oh, yeah, now I get it. Totally. Sometimes women really feel a certain way and dominate comments. Whenever a video triggers feelings, you can see them in the comments.
@Fijian9tails
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel oh so that's what I've been seeing
@Fijian9tails
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel yeah, in other situations like speaking to a woman that I'm attracted to or knowing if I'm pushing it a bit too far. Situations like that.
@idaliavelasco1824
7 ай бұрын
5:08
@Ywuhistheway
6 ай бұрын
Only hot people come here
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Ай бұрын
lol
@ThomasFerguson-lz1pv
Жыл бұрын
What bout your girlfriend family
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
What about them? - Mario
@kaushikpattanayak7478
Жыл бұрын
Brooooo u r so great , mf
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
Жыл бұрын
thanks?? - Mario
@maitzyjp6649
3 жыл бұрын
This guys talks to much just give the advice ?
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Hey man, remind me who doesn't have the knowledge or results? Oh yeah, YOU. But you want me (someone with results and answers)...to do things YOUR way. So funny. Thanks for the chuckle. - Mario
@maitzyjp6649
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel you don’t know me or know what results I have ha once again more uniformed uneducated comments from a old man trying to make KZitem videos hahaha pathetic
@maitzyjp6649
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel I was looking for a good way to let a girl down who I had just spent a night away with but the full night made me realise how boring she was so came across your video but your advice was shit so found another channel you are a dirty old man get a real job hahahaha don’t take it out on me cause I look like this and am half your age your like 40 hahaha sad
@boko_6471
3 жыл бұрын
@@maitzyjp6649 Maybe you should just grow up and watch the video. Simple and easy, too hard for you to comprehend, though.
@maitzyjp6649
3 жыл бұрын
@@boko_6471 awk nice try bless
@mariemayadi1471
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you this is sooo helpful
@TheGameOfLoveChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Appreciate your kind words and stopping by the channel. Help us grow by liking, commenting, subscribing, and sharing! We're trying to grow our impact! - Mario
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