No one is happy being tagged as a divorcy ....deep down every women needs a good n lovng partner...but yes women gets happy after leaving a bad life partner definitely....she feels ease n become comfortable
@syedah9888
2 жыл бұрын
Yes so very true.
@sadiamalik2251
Жыл бұрын
So true
@smerafarique1672
2 жыл бұрын
I’m a woman who is divorced and believe that your words are so true. I get told by many women that they think my life is so great that I’m independent because I don’t have a husband to answer too. The society needs to remember what Allah swt has said about marriage in Islam. I believe In marriage and the belief is that we are meant to be pairs for a reason to avoid sin. It’s becoming a norm in our society’s to promote live in relationships and not getting married. Which is awful for the new generation as a woman who was born and brought up in the west marriage is very important. Even for ppl in the west culture..
@lalag4348
10 ай бұрын
Great to hear 👂 you..
@farwasaleem4354
3 жыл бұрын
Such maturity, honesty, inspiration is radiated from her speech! she is a great help. how important is to talk about these things!! lot of times we nee dfhis kind of help. where no one knows abt whatwe are going through and still we're able to have a positive counselling from someone!! she's the one helping many!!
@saludd8237
2 жыл бұрын
That's what I am trying to say to my family that I am not against marriage but I cannot handle abusive relationship anymore,and now to my mental and physical health benefits.. divorce is last resort...
@zaraislam7581
4 жыл бұрын
Topic is sensitive but she has delivered and explained very nicely. Nailed it.
@oolahkhalid
2 жыл бұрын
I agree with you, I live abroad. I am a CBT therapist. And one of the thing I don’t want ppl in Pak to accept with out further questioning is the role reversal in feminism. Or at the end women in Pak will be working their ass off at home, raising children, paying bills and mortgages and serving the in laws as well.
@zucherobakes2454
3 жыл бұрын
Being happy because I am divorced out of an abusive marriage is a better way of putting things. But is happiness outside of marriage is impossible??? Marriage has been made sunnat but its not farz right??
@syedfaisal9544
3 жыл бұрын
Its Not only Sunnah its Farz also , Sahi Bukhari Hadith No :5063. On the Time of Prophet People said we will not marry and read Hadith carefully , its Compulsory , Otherwise he can't claim to be follower of Prophet Muhammad
@mdzaforiqbal6601
3 жыл бұрын
Just love your Insightful words!
@syedah9888
2 жыл бұрын
Mash ALLAH thank you Apa for this valuable advice. May all of us get good solid husbands obeying ALLAH( SWT)
@shabilakhan4399
4 жыл бұрын
MashaaAllah sister well spoken Alhamdulillah.This is what ive been trying to put forward for years but couldnt find to say it eloquently as you have put it ! JazakAllahu khair ! Brilliant well done !
@gamingworldgamers3827
3 жыл бұрын
Well delivered
@khansakhan1042
3 жыл бұрын
maam u have such a balanced approach and excellent way of conveying message, we need more guidance from u, stay blessed..
@abdullahpurewalgmail
3 жыл бұрын
You are guiding our misguided people. I really appreciate it 👍
@makhdoommohammad8923
Жыл бұрын
Happiness is a personal and individual state of mind that does not strictly hinge on marriage. While marriage can contribute to happiness for some people, it is not a prerequisite for a happy life for everyone. Many people may find joy, contentment, and fulfillment in other aspects of life such as careers, friendships, hobbies, travel, personal achievements, and more. The key to happiness varies greatly among individuals. It's important to understand that everyone has their path and every path, with or without marriage, can lead to a happy and meaningful life.
@sabenasaif4800
3 жыл бұрын
I understand that you are encouraging role models not to lie and be honest about what divorced life is really like. However, there are many women that are divorced and happier than when they were married. Abuse is not just one reason for divorce. Several women divorce due to infidelity. That just isn’t acceptable to them. Some are not respected and are not allowed to live the way they chose to. So they are unhappy. After divorce, they can live they way they desire ie come and go as rhey pls, work or not to work, wear what they want. They have freedom after divorce. So many women are better off divorced. Also not all single women chose to be single. One of the growing problems in our society is that there is a lack of suitable boys. As a result, more girls do not end up getting married. But that shud not stop them living their lives. They shud chose to be happy in that situation too. And it is not a lie when they say they are happy. They wud prefer to be married, but it is not in their fate.
@rafatmunshi3572
3 жыл бұрын
Totally agree
@amatruth24
2 жыл бұрын
Glad someone else said it and shared their point of view with just plain agreeing with her.
@mahinoorbegum4440
2 жыл бұрын
Being in a good relationship and marriage I may not be able to understand their point of view of those who have went through bad relationships...but I would also like to mention that it is a two way thing..not only boy there are innumerable girls who r not an ideal marriage material..the problem is lack of patience....you should not only focus on your childs material education but also their cultural growth...apne baccho ko sirf taalim hi nahi tarbiyaat bhi achhi do...and mind u bachhon ko not only the girl but boy also...
@naa9112
2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree....... its wrong g to say u can't be happy if u r divorced......if u r being beaten up and u r safe you're happy.....if u r not being lied to every time you r happy.....if u r not being humiliated and made to feel small nd incompetent u r happy........if u r able to follow ur heart as opposed to being told what to do u r happy....... so its extremely unfair to say that if u r divorced and saying u r happy its a lie.......felt disappointed with this coming from u...... in a way it surreptitiously commends people to be stuck in bad marriages as otherwise they can't ever be happy...bladderdash
@kiranbalikoul6453
Жыл бұрын
You are blessed with divine wisdom mam.
@amirahkaiser6199
2 жыл бұрын
Happiness is a state of mind. You may be married twice and still feel horribly vulnerable both the times for valid reasons. You could be unmarried and be contented. You could be widowed after a fairly good relationship or divorced out of an abusive marriage and be grateful for stepping out and living peacefully with your kins. What we need to evaluate wisely and acknowledge honestly is our current state of mind. Stop stereotyping. She who said she is happy after her divorce has her reasons to feel happy now.
@astrus.
3 жыл бұрын
Brilliant i wish all those who says can listen this .. i am tired of giving them the sense
@zaynebaziz1
Жыл бұрын
You can have boundaries, not mess around and be single
@zaynebaziz1
Жыл бұрын
I really respect your opinion in most cases however I disagree - you can be single / alone and happy I believe, and you can be married and happy also.
@tahiraahmad8176
3 жыл бұрын
Very well said you are amazing may Allah increase your knowledge.
@rojinakhatun8808
3 жыл бұрын
Amazing.... inspiration for me
@saba66284
3 жыл бұрын
Awesome...the explanation has correct points of religion and at the same time practical ....👍
@ishratjahanrana8041
3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful
@farzananaved7857
3 жыл бұрын
Well explained. Although our religion allows to have divorce when someone reaches a severe situation but it's really hard to live with the scar of divorce which needs to be changed..
@majidkhan-di3bd
2 жыл бұрын
So true hats off to you very nice
@stealthisgreat
3 жыл бұрын
I completely agree with her. And I couldn't agree more especially when she said.. "when women act like men"....
@ufaqkhan9021
Жыл бұрын
Very mature thoughts. Many thanks for this.
@saadiasharjeel4916
5 ай бұрын
As a Muslim woman, you speak my mind.
@shehlaazim5859
2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
@humazafar512
Жыл бұрын
Great respect for you.
@WajihaKanwalWJK
2 жыл бұрын
Very well articulated n truth…
@purpleocean4806
Жыл бұрын
Well said, wise words
@sumairamin5635
3 жыл бұрын
Way of talking is really amazing n inspiring....
@ISLAMMYCHOICE3451
2 жыл бұрын
Bilkul I agreee with it wholeheartedly
@uzmakhan603
2 жыл бұрын
Very well said
@bismillahsoftwareprofessional
Жыл бұрын
Well said
@shanzaasghar2974
8 ай бұрын
I totally agree with you 💯
@humairanaseer8940
3 жыл бұрын
Well explained Erum
@alhmdulilhaallah6834
11 ай бұрын
Lv uuuuuu❤
@syedah9888
2 жыл бұрын
So very true.
@ektagarg267
2 жыл бұрын
So sweet explanation
@thevideo5277
Жыл бұрын
Well said!
@fareedafareeda8632
Жыл бұрын
Thanks alot for your advice for a women May Allah bless you Aameen ❤❤❤❤❤
@dips2473
3 жыл бұрын
Very good video ... Love from india ... I am divorced ... And agree with your thoughts.
@costasehagal6153
3 жыл бұрын
arrange marriages last long but their lasting longer period is not evident of happy relationships.. women is beaten and in-laws of treated worst by women and on other sides men committed suicides or dies adopting serious disease due to ill relationship. separation is better instead of burning daily life's hell inwardly. A woman comes into the house of her husband with a prejudiced mindset given by her mother and a man mistreating his wife due to being a victim self the male-dominant superiority complex. if cant live with mutual respect then get or give a divorce.
@jonnyhenry3043
3 жыл бұрын
Hello friend how are you so this is my email add me OK.. johnherry875@gmailcom🌹
@ajmalrana4811
3 жыл бұрын
Great
@ismakanwal8240
2 жыл бұрын
Very well explained
@drhenna5735
Жыл бұрын
Very true dear
@sufiamerchant4699
Жыл бұрын
Woww!!!!! that is a real talk, you are right women who try to be like men is just not right. Instead we should try to be a strong woman that knows her rights and displays them properly :)
@hinzaattiq9804
3 жыл бұрын
Very nice
@shahnazkhattak7796
3 жыл бұрын
It is very sensitive but We love you alot alot.....
@tabinda460
3 жыл бұрын
Very well explained ,mostly divorced women tell this nerative but totally ignored being human you have desires too which can cause to enter in zina...those women cutoff that perspective ..man or women all need physical intimacy and as a muslim we should always stay on halal way...tell its difficult, shouldn't say completely happy.Thanks for putting out there.
@m_shamsul_qamar
3 жыл бұрын
Appreciate
@mdabdulrahmaan2534
3 жыл бұрын
Emotional speech something
@azfarsyed7082
Жыл бұрын
Great respect for Women, Its clear if after Marriages couple not happy, one of them not happy ? There are ways to go to divorce? Then can pick other one. Its Halal., Legal. Thanks your sharing.in a positive ways
@trashwithibbi8531
2 жыл бұрын
Totally agreed
@drriffatlucy3390
3 жыл бұрын
There are lot lot ladies who are very happy after getting unlocked from abusive relationships. Mostly ladies try to save marriage and see only wellbeing of family and children. But divorce becomes last option for them where they were mistreated like confirmed slaves.
@umeghazal4067
2 жыл бұрын
Very impressive mam
@irumjavedan5679
Жыл бұрын
Totally agree
@quazirumana
2 жыл бұрын
❤️
@monataz5056
2 жыл бұрын
And gave me the negative Evil eye energy to stay like this I know that now before I was like a goldfish in a bowl. I still am buy I've understood those people's jelousy & Evil they don't want me to settle.
@mustafakamal9624
3 жыл бұрын
👍👍👍
@prettygeniuses3464
Жыл бұрын
Please make a video for telling what is abusive relationship and toxic inlaws.
@plumplum1964
2 жыл бұрын
I have no idea why some men torture or abuse their wives. If u dont like her then just divorce her and kick her out of ur house. Why drag the unhappy marriage and end up being abusive?
@vrindasharma539
3 жыл бұрын
Aap ek sachchi Ruh ho🙏🏿
@mohitthakur1390
2 жыл бұрын
sabhi sacchi rooh hote ha Mam
@saniasaleem4545
2 жыл бұрын
But some men plays with women sentiments and give them more pain through children even after divorce
@Nzee2002
2 жыл бұрын
Are you related to muni Begum sahiba ( singer )
@tabassumfatimaahmad1251
8 ай бұрын
Dono ho case main mushkil hota hai. Married life main bhi mushkil hai or divorcy main bhi and unmarried ho still mushkil. Women ki life bahut hard hoti hai compare to men chahe wo kisi bhi religion ki ho. Men ki life bhi hard hoti hai par still ok for men
@sanjmalik6282
2 жыл бұрын
I just came out of a abusive marriage of 25 years. I supported the ex husband and I gave up my career and supported his career and once he reached his goals he divorced me and got married straight away.
@oceanacademy5791
2 жыл бұрын
So sad. I think woman should be independent.
@plumplum1964
2 жыл бұрын
Bina wajah k divorce nahi hota. Asal bat batayen
@sanjmalik6282
2 жыл бұрын
@@plumplum1964 who are you to be judge and jury. I don't have to tell you shit
@allahsmercy...6406
Жыл бұрын
@@plumplum1964 Divorce kaise bhi ho blame hmesha ladki Ko hi Kiya jata hai?.... Allah Pak se darein glti hmesha ladki ki nhi Hoti... Mard ki zaat hi aisi Hoti hai wo kisi k sage nhj hote
@crazyboy6006
3 жыл бұрын
here I want to say that if we analyze critically then Allah (SWT) assign a huge responsibility to women and that is to train upcoming generations accordingly so that they can carry ou Islam as well as world knowledge appropriately. Because child first gets its tuition or education from mother's cradle and it is a big thing if we think about it from out of the box.
@kiranmalik6883
2 жыл бұрын
So fathers have no responsibility?!
@allkKhan-tq8iy
Жыл бұрын
Be single and adopt western life style, rather than being in an unhappy marriage. Though it is unislamic and against Sharia, at the same time being an abusive relationship is bad
@aroojaslam6962
3 жыл бұрын
V. amazing.... Aur please yeah b btaien k jin women ko mental disorder h....kia usy shadi krni chahyey?
@vrindasharma539
3 жыл бұрын
Bt mam hamare under jo quality h use ubharne k liye kya karen hm to 15 years se house wife banke reh gaye
@nadeembajwa8530
2 жыл бұрын
Aap ne poora khaandaan sambhaala hua hai 15 saalon se. Agar aap ab baahir niklain tou aap ko andaaza hoga ke aap mein bohat taaqat aur khoobiyaan paida ho chooki hain.
@hafsamajeed6656
2 жыл бұрын
Aurat k say strong bnaye apnay apko jb unlaws r apnay ghr say bhi koe support krnay wala na hou
@misbhakanwal1366
2 жыл бұрын
Salam Apka nmbr mil sakta hai??main bht preshan hon apsy bat krna chahti hn
@divyasingh2550
3 жыл бұрын
Hello mam
@zaynebaziz1
Жыл бұрын
I think you misunderstood what the women said, she said she is divorced and she is happy. She is not happy because she is divorced.
@perveenaalvi
2 жыл бұрын
Agar ma'am aap Urdu Mai ziada speak karay tu aur logo k leay bhi ziada samajhna Accha hoga
@monataz5056
2 жыл бұрын
& settle my life.
@sanji546
3 жыл бұрын
Yeh hain kaun want to know
@kashish7764
3 жыл бұрын
Divorce hone vala h but m andr se bhut tuttt gai hu kese niklu iss sb se. Or life m kuch karna chati hu samj nhi aara h Kya karu..? 😞😒
@nadeembajwa8530
2 жыл бұрын
Aap pehle sirf aik cheez karain. Yeh yaqeen ker lain ke aap toot nahi raheen jurh rahee hain.
@BacchizAdventures
2 жыл бұрын
Watch videos from Louise hay. This is just a phase, winter always turns to spring!
@ESL142
2 жыл бұрын
Eram ji think of the psyche , the reason a woman / or for that matter man says “I am happily divorced “ .
@sarahsami8773
3 жыл бұрын
Well our society looks towards divorced women as pariah
@mahamalikhan2976
3 жыл бұрын
What about women who do not get married accidentally
@syedfaisal9544
3 жыл бұрын
I can Understand What you Really mean Currently in Pakistan ratio of Women to men is 106 women per 100 men, It means about 6 to 7 million women won't get It life partner, If one men marry one women, That'swhat statistics said, we only left with one choice, I know People will not understand, ( even my mother may not wants to understand) is Women should allow Men for 2nd marriage ,every 1 out of 12 should perform 2nd marriage, if we want every women to find it partner, and Same way our mothers should educate his son how to Do justice between 2 wives, how equally spend time with them, how to do justice to every moment of life, Otherwise there is no second solution , 106 women and 100 men Absolutely there's one solution only
@tashasworld585
3 жыл бұрын
But I am very unhappy in my marriage
@syedfaisal9544
3 жыл бұрын
Sister would you like to tell me what exactly you means by Happy, how you define happiness no one is 100% happy in this world
@farzananaved7857
3 жыл бұрын
I guess,most of us aren't happy but trying to compromise with our circumstances and situation.. So just be grateful and love yourself.
@SikandarAliKhann
2 жыл бұрын
I wish Har Larki is cheez ko understand kre .. my wife recently took Khula within 2 months because of misleading feminism
@kiranmalik6883
2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like your side of the story
@vaseline187
2 жыл бұрын
Why not aurat March highlights women's share from parents property inheritance!
@jeenakhan1187
2 жыл бұрын
You hv kids but if someone doesn't have
@sidramurtazasahito5073
2 жыл бұрын
Please aap Urdu language ziyada use karen.
@sabihabagasrawala6650
3 жыл бұрын
Choodiyaan pahen rakkhi hain mai ne. Haan..... Ek AURAT hoon mai Nazaakat ko meri mun ki kamzori naa samajhna Isi komal kaayaa se MARD ko janam dena majboori naa samajhna. Choodiyaan pahen rakkhi hain mai ne. Haan.. Khud pe nazaan Ek AURAT hoon mai. Khanam.. Have a nice day..🙏🌷🌹
@peacepeace4256
2 жыл бұрын
Divorced means death to me .Everything changes. Life changes. You no longer remains the same person.
@mariej4288
Жыл бұрын
Right
@qurratrehman4575
Жыл бұрын
Change your thinking - nothing is death except death itself. You never know what is written for you by ALLAH SWT. May ALLAH SWT in the waseela of RASOOLALLAH SAWS bless you with a happy and healthy married life Aamin SALLAL LAHO ALAIHAY WAALAYHI WASALAM
@allahsmercy...6406
Жыл бұрын
@@qurratrehman4575 Aapko nhi PTA divorcee ladki ki life kaisi Hoti hai... Allah Pak ne khud es fael Ko katal se bhi jyada badtareen kaha hai
@qurratrehman4575
Жыл бұрын
@@allahsmercy...6406 ALLAH SWT has considered divorce the worst halal thing but still has made it halal. If two people can’t live together, it’s better for them to divorce just k log kia kaheinge. Logo ne phir b kuch na kuch kehna hi hay. Logo ne ALLAH SWT Ki baatein ki hein, Nabiyon ki baatein ki hein, hum kia cheez hein. But beherhaal zindgi boht bari naimat hay, aor ye aik test hay, insaan kahein na kahein azmaya jata hay. Agar koi shadi nahi chalti tou logo ki jaga apna sochein, aapnay qayamat ko b jawab de hona hay. Baqi rahi baat divorced aurat ki tou soch ko badalnay ki zroorat hay. She is divorced because she walked out of a suffocating marriage. Nikah k sath usko ye haq Mila hay.
@allahsmercy...6406
Жыл бұрын
@@qurratrehman4575 Hmm you're right... Mujhe bhi divorce ho gyi thi shadi ke Mahina bhar bad.. Mai Aaj Tak usi pain Ko suffer kr rhi... please pray for me
@marooon1122
Жыл бұрын
divorce is better to live in abusive relationship
@ranashahid3170
Жыл бұрын
💌💌💌
@alayyan732
3 жыл бұрын
Mam are you divorced
@ISLAMMYCHOICE3451
2 жыл бұрын
She is divorced
@monataz5056
2 жыл бұрын
I didn't have no family support till now they believe in not having a second husband well so called sister did that to me until now she is jelous with me until now not to have a husband toll now. Yes they dont follow islam they pick & choose from quran. & if of course a person will be divorced if the dog doesn't have any love & effection for the child born. He absolutely doesn't. So there are 1000 of reasons to give the man divorced. He is a dog my ex never seen a father who doesn't like his own child. His not even want to talk to wife. How can you understand that person. I've never come across a father like that najayz he is no wonder don't have any feelings. I can't believe myself I'm still single & I deserve a good husband & allah gave me looks personally everything No kammi in me. I helped whole life people & so called family but they don't help you help us of you coz they know i will get someone better.
@amatruth24
2 жыл бұрын
This was triggering, at so many levels. Who are you to say it’s impossible to stay happy after divorce? Who are you to know how one finds happiness? You’re twisting the entire narrative. Not just that you judged the person who made this statement you stereotyped every divorced woman who is living happily. One Who has found her peace and contentment and she’s just plain happy in life. Maybe she’s happy that she’s found herself. Your comments are misogynistic. One doesn’t need a man to find happiness. May be physical relationships aren’t a priority to some. On top of that you mixed culture and religion in it. I have no idea how this woman is in any position to be giving lectures. She’s addressing feelings emotions and mental health with absolutely no qualifications, credentials etc to back her up. Please refrain from making videos about such topics. There are women who are truly happy in abstinence. They’re happy with where they are in life and happy focused on their children. They’re happy about life in general. Stop with this nonsense.
@nadeembajwa8530
2 жыл бұрын
Allah has created everything in pairs. It’s encouraged to get married in Islam. Yes, many divorced men and women can be happy to get out of an abusive relationship. However, a happy marriage gives more happiness than a divorce. A divorce can allow you to break the shackles of a strangling relationship but it also leaves many scars.
@mintaltima2
2 жыл бұрын
Not everyone can live happily in a marriage. It's Ok to remain single if you cannot find a compatible partner. Islam did not make marriage a Farz. It's recommended for all healthy people. Only if you can fulfill the requirements and responsibilities attached with it. Many people are much better living single. Just to fulfill physical desires one should not destroy other person’s life. Life itself is a test so is marriage. Marriage is a sacred bond and should be done to make Allah happy. Both partners should understand that.
@nazkhan3706
Жыл бұрын
you can stay single and be happy in bringing your children up and giving then a healthier happier non abusive upbringing . Also if you need the feeling of a partner then yes get remarried to a good sensible person who will love you for you and share great moments with you . And above all who will love your children aswell .
@monataz5056
2 жыл бұрын
Yes I don't like your video yes you are happy after divorce from dog partner who abused & used you. Allah said to find a 2nd husband of course. Yes to settle with a life partner but people do jadu bandish to stop getting married again. It happened to me I'm trying to settle I've been divorced long long time but I'm looking for my ideal partner. Proposal keeps going away because of bandish but I still have full hope faith in Allah He will give me a husband to settle. Of course a woman should not be alone get married again.
@mrab4668
3 жыл бұрын
Very informative. Thanks. Just one thing I want to say. RAB is not one of the Allahs 99 names. We can say RabulAllamin/ my rab / our rab. We cannot say only rab. It is an arabic word and we should be care full when using in urdu.
@sobiaharoon5141
2 жыл бұрын
یہ کون عورتیں ہیں جو کہتی ہیں کہ میں طلاق کے بعد خوش ہوں یہ وہ عورتیں ہوسکتی ہیں جو خود کو ماحول و حالات آس پاس کے لوگوں کے دباؤ میں ایسا کہتی ہونگی کہنے پر مجبور کردی جاتی ہونگی جن کے وجود کو بری طرح اوور شیڈو کردیا جاتا ہوگا
@nazmian6292
2 жыл бұрын
بہن ہمیں پتہ ہے کہ آپ کو بہت انگریزی آتی ہے لیکن خدارا اردو میں بات کیا کریں
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