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@2s3s4s5s9s
3 ай бұрын
I understand your pain, mam❤🦋🕊.
@therealsongstress
3 ай бұрын
You married a severe narcissist
@therealsongstress
3 ай бұрын
Narcissistic rage
@prettytings8216
3 ай бұрын
I think my ex had anger issues. He knows better.
@LR-yu3mx
3 ай бұрын
So sorry for what you endure. Yes, the violence gets worse!
@mmcdonald1000
8 ай бұрын
Ladies, the first time your man hits you or threatens you, LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY AND DON'T LOOK BACK!! No matter how much you love him. Don't take no abuse from nobody🙏
@sebinafloyd1121
8 ай бұрын
Amen my QUEEN I FEEL YOU MY DADDY DIDN'T Whoop ME MY MOM HE JUST PUT ME ON PUNISHMENT I BEEN MARRIED 3 TIMES AND THEY ALL KNEW NOT TO PUT THEY MF HANDS ON ME PERIOD OR THEY WOULD HAVE TO SEE THE MAKER ,MY DADDY ,GRANDDADDY,BROTHERS ALL 7 OF THEM 😱😰👹👊🏿🪓💉⚱️🪦⚰️
@PettyIsMyMiddleName
8 ай бұрын
Yep! I dated my high school boyfriend a few years after high school. His dad used to physically abuse his mom. His mom and I were close , she called me her daughter in law even if her son and I didn’t work out, in her mind I’d be her #1 lol ❤ Anyway, my ex had one too many drinks and a few too many puffs one night. I stopped by after hanging with my best friend. I guess I was looking too cute or something, and he slapped me as he asked where have I been? That was the FIRST and LAST slap he ever put on me. I was done. No amount of gifts or apologies could make up for it. Ladies never take them back , he Will do it again. Learn the definition of love. Love is the only word that people have their own “opinion “ of what love is. It is a standard definition. Love is action. You will never hurt someone you love. Place the one person you care about the most as an example. Let’s say a child. Would you ever hurt or allow anyone to hurt your child? It’s the same concept with every single relationship . Stay blessed ❤
@PettyIsMyMiddleName
8 ай бұрын
@@sebinafloyd1121 Right. My dad hit me one time and I used to mess with him when I got older. 😂 He said he didn’t want to but had to because he said he would, and if he didn’t do as he said, I’d lose respect for him at that very moment. Which as an adult I understand him. I was like 4 years old and I wanted to pour a new gallon of milk in my cereal. He said , no let him do it. I insisted that I wanted to pour it. So he said, ok BUT if you drop the milk I will spank you. And dum dum me dropped it 😂😂 and that was my spanking from him. lol I miss my dad ❤
@mmcdonald1000
8 ай бұрын
@@PettyIsMyMiddleName 💯
@bodaciousbethany0
8 ай бұрын
@@PettyIsMyMiddleName Beaten for spilling milk 🥛 at 4 years old? He had serious anger issues.
@414_kiaraaa3
4 ай бұрын
You never tell the abuser when you are planning to leave them
@louellarobertson8074
3 ай бұрын
NEVER EVER...
@sheilahill981
3 ай бұрын
NEVER EVER! JUST LEAVE.. we know…
@1goldenshell
3 ай бұрын
I moved out quietly like a slithering snake. And never looked back. It's been since 2012.
@carolynforge8586
3 ай бұрын
@@1goldenshell You moved out intelligently. He was the snake.
@BJW6643
3 ай бұрын
True
@santanapage5044
8 ай бұрын
She's describing a narcissist, theyre miserable people who hate to see anyone happy, including his own kids and wife
@Tanesha1990
8 ай бұрын
Absolutely
@YukiKonan
5 ай бұрын
More like a sociopath
@beautyinthedark7406
3 ай бұрын
100000%
@feenarvaez65
3 ай бұрын
I believe this
@sherrisolomon8673
3 ай бұрын
@@YukiKonanHe was probably both!
@wishfulthinking4566
5 ай бұрын
Sadly, I lived through 18 years of hell, similar to this, from 18 years of age to 38 years old. I have been single now for 14 years, and they have been my best years yet! Never again.
@emmalewis1979
3 ай бұрын
I been there 24 years of hell
@lizmcdonald8967
3 ай бұрын
Ladies, I cannot understand why or how you endure these situations for so long!!!
@irenetoroitich6818
3 ай бұрын
Sorry dear I've been there 23yrs 😢😢
@irenetoroitich6818
3 ай бұрын
@lizmcdonald8967 I was there, and it's fear
@irenetoroitich6818
3 ай бұрын
@@emmalewis1979 you're my twin sis 😢😢 sorry for us
@erinjohnson4273
8 ай бұрын
Ladies we can't keep ignoring the red flags.
@Onemorgantolove
3 ай бұрын
Please repeat again. I need to read it twice.
@StarHamil
3 ай бұрын
Facts , I went through though this now the gag is he now with African women and she really think the grass is green but guess what I don't say anything cause maybe maybe not he will or want but I do know for a fact if she got brothers he won't cause he is a runner when it come to a real.man putting hands on him he so scary I seen this to he won't fight a man but wi hit a women fast and this men manipulate you lies and will have his sister lie for him to the gag is he is a addict and now the girl he with is a addict too.i thank God I got out each and everyday I be thanking God . The days he want to go get high all its gone be a fight cause he gone go over to this prostitutes apartment hide til he spent out then when he come in its baby I'm sorry he was sorry alright A couple of time he would accuse me of taken his wallet call the police and when he find it he never apologiz this was the star that broke the camels back .I was done with him.
@acajudi100
3 ай бұрын
rip
@crystalsherman8896
3 ай бұрын
Exactly
@broco6608
3 ай бұрын
Say it again - louder and slower!!!!! He started slapping her when she was young, before they got married.
@teal1010
3 ай бұрын
Never envy someone else’s relationship! Never envy the fact that someone has stayed married for decades! edit: Wish them the best! 👉🏾You have no idea what happens in those relationships!
@bshelton770
3 ай бұрын
So so true. NEVER ENVY someone else's relationship,
@milli6415
3 ай бұрын
Well said...I can relate!!
@amilllion1
3 ай бұрын
We have to stop believing that Any relationship is better than NoNE ! Cause it’s not
@teresatyler9830
3 ай бұрын
From abused wife to published author. From abuser to jailbird. How fitting! I’m proud of you. So glad you overcame him!!
@tracyjacksonjackson4221
4 ай бұрын
A man that will hit you before he marries you will beat the hell out of you after you marries you.
@elizabethdean9409
3 ай бұрын
Frfr
@vikkicarr3255
3 ай бұрын
Facts!!
@polly8844
3 ай бұрын
You are certainly telling the truth. This happened to me. Back in the day I heard that " I'll give this marriage 5 years and then I'm gone, so I did 3 years and I was out thank God. Girls get out of abusive situations as soon as possible because I have seen husbands kill wives and wives kill husbands only to do life in prison. Don't let that be you. Also don't get pregnant until 5 years have passed you should know him by then. Remember God will give you the strength to carry on alone if YOU ASK HIM!!!
@polly8844
3 ай бұрын
Alot of these men were abused as children as was my husband or saw abuse in the home as my husband. They need intensive therapy. There is nothing you can do to help them except direct them to therapy, you will have to accompany him because after dealing with him, you may become abusive too, only natural. The first sign of him not sticking to the plane GET OUT AND QUICK remember some one will get killed and someone will do life! DONT LET EITHER ONE BE YOU!!!
@mightyfineanderson
3 ай бұрын
My ex husband slapped me one day while I was ironing. And I branded his ass too. He still has the mark til this day. Plus I called the police. He never touched me again. We got married some yrs after that then we divorced. But not due to domestic violence. A woman has got to stand up the first time. Don't even let it get started.
@joanie84h85
3 ай бұрын
I would never tell an abusive man I want a divorce and still stay in the same house with him..count your blessings
@CarolShook-yg9nn
3 ай бұрын
That's very dangerous there is no telling what they'll to maintain control
@cakegrame7454
3 ай бұрын
DISAPEAR, MOST FEMALES THELL THE ABUSER UR LEAVING???? THE ABUSER WILL MURDER YOU, WITH NO REMORSE. JUST GET A PLAN AND LEAVE WITHOUT TELLING ANYONE
@theresabeard5733
3 ай бұрын
Yes men get more violent when u say u are going to leave them and when you serve them a PPO.These men are cowards.Some men will beat and kill a woman but they won't fight another man.
@ivylinrolle8020
8 ай бұрын
Never tell a man you going devorce him and still live in the same house thank God you made it through
@tamikalee4441
8 ай бұрын
That’s so true 🙌🏽🙌🏽
@hopesanchez3501
8 ай бұрын
Big mistake to, let the abuser know your next move......
@Tanesha1990
8 ай бұрын
Right that's crazy
@margaretodonkor4747
3 ай бұрын
I agree with that 💯
@itinavarait
3 ай бұрын
Yes! I'm surprised she didn't know any better
@demetricemerriweather9925
3 ай бұрын
I was married to a Pastor for 40 years. The last 3 years were very abusive. Thank god for my daughters who helped me get and stay out. It has been tough. I am very happy now. At 67 i am happy You can get out. I took my dog and leeft and never looked back.
@CynthiaX-cs5ey
3 ай бұрын
@demetricemerriweather9925, I’m so sorry you had to go through that. It’s doubly sad that you were abused by a pastor, a man who’s supposed to be a God-fearing, Bible-believing man.😔
@Yesshecancan
3 ай бұрын
@@CynthiaX-cs5eyChristians are usually bad people.
@milli6415
3 ай бұрын
@@CynthiaX-cs5eyREMEMBER this...he may be a pastor, but he is also a man....with faults like anyone else...he got tempted and he yielded to it!!!
@deerhaven3350
3 ай бұрын
I am a survivor of two husbands who abused me. What I learned was that ANY type of abuse, whether it's verbal or physical, left unchecked, only escalates. I wish I could tell every young woman: Get yourself educated so you have something to fall back on before you start popping out babies, because if you choose the wrong guy you may be setting yourself and your children up to be trapped in a living hell.
@MargoHardy
3 ай бұрын
Agree 💯
@SistahShay
3 ай бұрын
Check your bloodline. For example, in my younger days I use to attract married men. I never understood why until a pastor told me to check my bloodline, only to find out grandmothers on both sides committed adultery. I immediately found scripture on adultery and broke that curse over me and my granddaughters. What’s interesting is married men don’t approach me anymore.
@noemisolano4748
3 ай бұрын
@deerhaven3350 I agree with you about women educating themselves because the woman can support herself financially and stand on her two feet. I've been with my husband for 24 years. I've been verbally abused by my husband. My husband is also very controlling. I only have one child with my husband. My husband and I are separating. I never want to be in another relationship because my husband put me through hell. It's time for me to heal and take care of myself. I have my college degree and will be able to support myself and my child financially.
@deerhaven3350
3 ай бұрын
@@noemisolano4748 Thank you for your comment, Noemi. Sometimes it takes time for us to realize we only get one life and do we really deserve to spend it being sad and unhappy? I wish you every success. Take care.
@myriamwilliams
3 ай бұрын
Ladies please be self sufficient.
@lindajohnson4999
3 ай бұрын
Times were different than now. Women didn't have the empathy from the general public or the authorities that they have now. Women were looked at as men's possessions. They did what they were told or else. Physical punishment was acceptable for women and children. Also, there were inequalities in educational resources for women. Women were still expected to get married, have children and take care of the home whether they were college educated with a career or not. So, women didn't have many choices during those times. Things didn't start to change until the late 1980s to early 1990s for women to excel in academia and in the business world. Also, there was very little modern technology during that time such as cell phones, the internet, or social media. None of those luxuries existed before the late 1990s to the 2000s. So, women couldn't just call an Uber and book an Airbnb on her credit card for herself and kids to escape an abusive husband. In most cases, everything was in the husband's name including the credit cards and bank account. If the woman was working, then she had to give her money to her husband in order to keep working. So, who could the battered woman turn to except sympathetic friends and family members for help.
@CatGamer-wc2ij
2 ай бұрын
@@lindajohnson4999 It still is in many poor communities. It isn't about time periods, it is about ghetto acceptance of trash. This is not about white or black either, simply the no-snitch etc culture found in areas, not races. This woman married who she wanted, who had slapped her as a teen. He gets rewarded, meanwhile the guy who would have cupped her face and kissed her offed himself because he was lied to. Meanwhile she brought a child into that abuse. I can't feel bad for her, but for her child yes. She needs to teach women--no more choosing abuse.
@OdachiRain
8 ай бұрын
$500 bond?! her abusive husband should be in PRISON for choking her out to the point of nearly killing her. its DISGUSTING the amount of abuse he got away with
@angelalindsey6797
3 ай бұрын
I couldn't listen to the entire clip but he didn't get away. He will answer for this behavior.
@CatGamer-wc2ij
2 ай бұрын
I am on your side--it's unbelievable. In Florida it is the law that there is no bond right off the rip. In fact many holes appear in her stories that leave me questioning it entirely, much like you bring up.
@jeanchampion671
3 ай бұрын
Sweet pea, never ever tell your abuser you are leaving. Make plans and leave when you know he will be gone a few hours
@robinb.4699
3 ай бұрын
I totally agree! Move in silence!
@Haterzarefans
3 ай бұрын
Move in silence...to avoid their violence
@socialperson3683
3 ай бұрын
PROTECTING YOUR KIDS...IS LEAVING AN ABUSIVE PERSON ‼️‼️‼️🥰
@eristotle2380
2 ай бұрын
this is the comment i was looking for. so many people pour out sympathy for the mother, but not enough for the children. TELLING her sons that they should never treat a woman the way he treated her is nothing. SHOWING HER SONS how a woman should demand respect by leaving is the way to teach and protect them. ladies, please understand that if he disrespects you in any way, he will eventually hit you, because he doesn't really like or love you.
@CatGamer-wc2ij
2 ай бұрын
@@eristotle2380 Pouring sympathy for the mother IS ENCOURAGING ABUSE. She doesn't deserve sympathy, she deserves to rot with her abuser for letting the kids get it. And no, she wasn't protecting them anyways.
@lovelivelife3092
2 ай бұрын
Correct, but these people feel like people who split up are damaging the kids. What about the damage of a toxic relationship? I will never understand how black people are now. With this blind eye to victim's thing, it's sad
@lovelivelife3092
2 ай бұрын
@@eristotle2380What the hell don't you know the mother and the children are affected both? What do you mean sympathy for the mother? Who wants to watch thy mother Git thy a** be you sound kinda creepy, sir. The whole family is affected but this hate against women. Thing like how can the sun not be affected by watching his mama? Get her a** worked. Creepy much
@CatGamer-wc2ij
2 ай бұрын
@@lovelivelife3092 It is because we forgive these horrible mothers (and fathers) for staying. We sympathize with them, despite the fact they facilitated the abuse. Their actions are 100% vile. They are not the victims. Furthermore, just because a parent is abusive to the other parent, doesn't mean he/she will abuse the child/children. My ex wife has done a 180, and I finally let her have the custody she should have earned a long time ago.
@SusanKelly-ox2kk
3 ай бұрын
My husband showed his true face on the day we got married just a few hours after the ceremony!
@WhatsyourIQ1
3 ай бұрын
Annulment sweetie the same day also.
@dranchd6571
3 ай бұрын
Probably before, but you made excuses/overlooked it.
@emmalewis1979
3 ай бұрын
Yep mine too
@saintamerican6105
3 ай бұрын
Theres ALWAYS warning signs before marriage we just hate admitting to it, God always warns us!
@Victoria-gq8gt
3 ай бұрын
I don't agree. There Were NO red flags until I could no longer work and had a baby. THEN he showed his true side. Don't gaslight women into believing it's their fault for not reading signs THAT WERE NOT THERE. Were talking about men who mimic empathy and positive emotions because they've modelled their behaviour to mask the lack of humanity they possess. Don't double penalise women. God I hate it when people do this.
@NigeriaOffGrid-jd8ht
3 ай бұрын
No one will ever understand unless you’ve been in an abusive relationship. Full stop…
@phyllisnorris7883
8 ай бұрын
A broken mean man can not be healed.😢 I know from.
@scorpiocara6798
3 ай бұрын
Yes they can....ik ppl who have and that was through therapy
@greendesertgoddess
3 ай бұрын
. . . gotta leave like a thief in the night!
@Blessedbeyond474
3 ай бұрын
Nothing is too hard for God he can be delivered and healed from anger in his pass. This is trama and it’s spilling over in his marriage.
@Tigerfied67
3 ай бұрын
he has to want to be healed but like a crack addict, it takes them hitting rock bottom, losing everything and facing themselves and getting to that unhealed little kid inside of them. Its a lot of work but if one is willing, one can overcome. 'IF' is the factor
@KinToNatTuner
3 ай бұрын
They can be healed, but we cannot be the healer.
@mmcdonald1000
8 ай бұрын
I'm so glad you got out of this situation alive. 🙏
@Facebook-sb3eo
8 ай бұрын
Right!!! She stayed 24 year's of mental/Psychological way way too long I no she on Benzodizpan 💊💉 or antidepressants..
@nativeamericanfeather9948
8 ай бұрын
No matter how much u think u love someone,Love YOUrself more!Im a survivor too♡He punched me,ripped my hair out,bite me,choke me,head butt me,spit on me,cheated in me,lied to me,put gun to my head and pull the trigger. I could go on & on. How dare I ever let a pos do that to me!? Im also a child abuse survivor. 6 years of hell..I was laying in bed crying one night.It was pouring rain with thunder. I got up,walked outside,& fell with the rain screaming out to God"why are you doing this to me" immediately it hit me..God is the one that tried to warn me. He gave me multiple exits! I AM the one that chose to stay! Its like the horse that a man tied to a lawn chair..the horse thought he was tied down when in fact he was stronger than the chair and all he had to do was walk away. But that rope tricked his mind. I decided right there in the rain..I was leaving him the next day! And I did! That was almost 10 years ago. Im still single by choice because I will NEVER settle again. Life is about finding YOUrself not someone else. Its too short to not be happy. And the only man I need in my life is God & those in my family. I am happier now than ever. I live in peace,have self love,& content. Thank you God for making me stronger than what tried to break me♡ I am so proyd of you for finally breaking free. Life is a precious gift and too short to not be happy! God Bless you! And NEVER forget your worth..even if others dont see it!
@erinjohnson4273
8 ай бұрын
I'm so glad you made it my sister. I was and still am fortunate that my daughter father is not anything like that. Love does not hurt! Much love to you
@hopewilliams7081
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for your honesty.
@timekademery
3 ай бұрын
Wow! U are amazing. I love u!❤
@sherriesteele-petty2998
3 ай бұрын
Amen! ❤
@MichelleJimenez-y3c
3 ай бұрын
May God bless you 💯 I've been in an abusive relationship for over 25 years hearing no more please I'm sorry no I need you I'm not the type of person no more cheated on me had a whole new relationship with somebody will come and go I left on 22 times n I came back to him and he still with the disrespectful mouth ..
@carolynarmstrong3850
3 ай бұрын
So happy that you and your children are free of that man.
@MegaRose1958
3 ай бұрын
This is why everyone needs to have their own money!!!!!
@CarolShook-yg9nn
3 ай бұрын
So true sometimes you can set yourself up not realizing it but I've heard of abusers not allowing the spouse to work they want total control
@Tanesha1990
8 ай бұрын
I understand her completely when she says she was scared to be on her own. Not scared to be alone, just on her own cause she's never been on her own. I was finally able to leave my abusive relationship 6months ago and even tho it was scary I've made it. It's been a struggle but I made it and we're(me & my 3 boys) doing fine.
@masershazemenfes1288
6 ай бұрын
Congratulations 🎉🎈🍾🎊 and May GOD bless you and keep you safe.
@mamiejohnson2527
4 ай бұрын
Our God is our help, We got to want his Help And move on it, God Bless You all Remember who truly love us all
@OliviaBaeBy
3 ай бұрын
💕💕💕💕💕
@shamekiastephen1218
3 ай бұрын
Keep going, be encouraged, but don’t look back. I’m so proud of you
@greaterishe7197
4 ай бұрын
My husband never physically abused me but the other behaviors she speaks of i can definitely identify with. It was not easy, but I decided to love me more ❤️
@wowzatrishiebunz
8 ай бұрын
This woman is my hero!!!! I am amazed at her strength and courage to fight for her life and get away from that man. It takes many times for DV survivors to break free of the abuse. This true story will save lives.
@CatGamer-wc2ij
2 ай бұрын
I stayed with my abusive ex for a year, and left her when she came back to me. I stayed with my second abusive ex for a year. Neither of those survivals make me a hero, they make me stupid for having stayed as long as I did. Because we glorify this nonsense, more people fall into the trap. Stop glorifying this!
@WindDancer435
3 ай бұрын
I grew up in a dysfunctional, violent household from an alcoholic, abusive female parent. I swore I would never let anyone else abuse me like that and I kept that promise. I am so sorry for what this woman endured and I am glad she finally had the courage to leave forever.
@danniamendoza9260
8 ай бұрын
people don’t change. very inspiring ❤
@peggyburns1702
3 ай бұрын
Incorrect; some do. If one can identify the origin of their pain and desire to address it then healing will begin. The biggest room in EVERYONE'S life in that of IMPROVEMENT. Hurt people hurt people. Their behavior is a mirror's reflection of their dark and vacant, shattered inner self. Remember, injured little boys and girls grow up to be wounded men and women. They too need rescuing.
@ceceprincess4758
3 ай бұрын
Some do
@staciecarmon1618
5 ай бұрын
I would sue the lousy judge that let him out of jail for attempted murder!
@miraclesforus
3 ай бұрын
This is common and still done in courts
@megayummyrockstar
3 ай бұрын
@@miraclesforus exactly most the times they actually are happy when women are victims in these type of scenarios women need to realize we are living in a failing patriarch.
@MadamSeibes
4 ай бұрын
I am so glad you made it out safely. I started sharing my story on my channel as well. I married an emotional, mental, and verbal abuser. He was even a suspected serial killer, my name was all over newspapers. My children and I went through hell. By God's grace my children and I made it out safely. Thanks for sharing your story, It does help someone. Stay blessed.
@saintamerican6105
3 ай бұрын
Praise GOD u and the blessings are safe!
@OdachiRain
8 ай бұрын
the legal system has to answer for the fact that this man bonded out the 1st time he was caught, he had a restraining order yet he still finds her, he DROVE A CAR INTO HER and tried to KILL HER and the most he gets is 9 YEARS. he should have been sent away for 30 YEARS TO LIFE the 1st time he choked her out
@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938
3 ай бұрын
So forget due process for an allegation. Should it be the samething for women
@719kai719
3 ай бұрын
@@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938Stop the tit for tat BS We are discussing this woman's story. Abuse is abuse so yes it should be the same, unless it's a case of self defense. Does that always have to be stated every single time a woman shares her experience?
@CatGamer-wc2ij
2 ай бұрын
@@719kai719 So just this woman's story? I thought the whole 30 years to life was for every man who does this exact same thing? Or is the OP not suggesting that? See, I think you are tarded. The OP absolutely meant ALL men who do this, despite you lying that she didn't.
@StarJohnnyProductions
8 ай бұрын
I'm sorry this happened to you, Mrs. Atkinson.
@Balert-z8w
3 ай бұрын
To the Most High Be the Glory🙌✨✨💟
@feliciadean1084
3 ай бұрын
You are more than a survivor, you are a miracle and a beautiful teacher !😊
@JenessaAndKingston
8 ай бұрын
It’s never too late to leave 💕
@Passionatelyfruits
3 ай бұрын
If the abuser delete the person....it's too late
@robinb.4699
3 ай бұрын
Amen!
@marthaklink413
3 ай бұрын
You are a very beautiful and strong woman. Very painful for what you 've been trough. Thank God for His blessings and protection on your life. ❤️🩹💕🙌
@GoddessTMarie
8 ай бұрын
❤🤗 your story is so encouraging. I too am a survivor of DV and never thought I could escape my husband. And I had to make the hardest decision of my life to leave him while pregnant with twins as he was making it unsafe for me to carry my babies. The shelter took good care of us during that transition 🙏🏽 anyone reading this know that there is help out there and you deserve peace and happiness away from your abuser. Please make your plan to escape quietly. God bless you.❤
@psychattack3381
3 ай бұрын
I am so sympathetic towards women who were with their abusers since childhood. This is a very different situation from a grown woman who got with an abusive man after ignoring all the red flags. I admire her courage, that she told the story objectively without begging for sympathy, and that she found the strength to leave. I’m glad she is happy and is sharing her story. What an incredible woman.
@Me-xoxoz
3 ай бұрын
Ignoring red flags. They maybe red to you by some people do not know what is considered as a red flag because of what they have been conditioned to in their childhood.
@CatGamer-wc2ij
2 ай бұрын
@@Me-xoxoz What? You do realize red flags are about the person who exhibits them and has nothing to do with the person they get with?
@astrid8433
12 күн бұрын
@@Me-xoxozbeautifully said. You labelled this so well. I did not know what red flags were when I entered relationships with abusive men. It was all I knew to see men abuse their wives in my family and upbringing. Both my grandfathers and my dad were abusive, and alcoholics. I grew up with this dynamic, having my self esteem severely affected and also my mental health. I haven’t been able to recognise the pattern until my most recent relationship. I pray that I will recognise this in my next relationship, but sometimes I am still blind to it so I feel a bit scared to be honest. I’ve done so much therapy and do so much research trying to educate myself on this. God bless you.
@ArtMom5boys
3 ай бұрын
I too am A survivor Moved my four young sons across country. 24 yrs ago Never looked back
@MzGumby02
8 ай бұрын
The part about him not wanting to help her cleanup I can relate to. I remember my ex saying she wasn't gonna help me with anything else after she offered to help. I already had plans to just do it myself. It's like they gotta put on an act like they're doing what they're supposed to, but then make you feel like you don't deserve it.
@Vixinaful
8 ай бұрын
Yup. Was in the hospital with a covert and he came to visit every day (was in there because I got sick due to him) and he told me "I'm only here because it's my duty, I want you to know that" He also was in the ER room with me when I came in in an ambulance and I was so afraid my pulse was on 166. He told me in the ER-room after they drew blood and the nurse left, laughing "Haha, you should have seen your arm, the blood spurted in an arch onto the floor when she tried to take a blood test!" Which made me even more afraid. He enjoyed my panic. They enjoy watching us suffer, they're sadists. But get this: God sees and hears, he has been homeless the past 2 years. He now wanders the streets looking for shelter and his own family doesnt care about him bc his father is a hyper controlling psychopath and his mother destroyed by his father and his sister got the hell away from it. So yes, God does punish these..beings.
@Tanesha1990
8 ай бұрын
@@Vixinafulyou're right. God sees all. They're definitely getting their karma and us victims/survivors don't have to lift a finger.
@Vixinaful
8 ай бұрын
@@Tanesha1990 Yeah, I feel kind of bad for them though because God punishes in ways where even I feel sorry for them. Narcissism and psychopathy are due to brain damages so..I do feel bad but at the same time they hurt us so badly. But yes; the prefrontal cortrex, amygdala, insula, right frontal lobe and hippocampus are not functioning which is why they behave bizarre.
@Vixinaful
8 ай бұрын
@@Tanesha1990 Yeah I was so angry after my second last narcissistic contact but then Ive watched all of their lifes (from afar) and whoa.. They really crumble. They REALLY crumble. It's like theyre cursed or maybe they do it to themselves. But their lifes do fall apart in the worst of ways. One was murdered, another became homeless, a third is 40+ and lives with his parents and so on. Just watch them, follow their lifes as closely as you can without being in contact with them, and you'll see the horror..
@sherrisolomon8673
3 ай бұрын
@@VixinafulThose conditions never stopped people from getting psyche counseling if they REALLY wanted it before the next their next violent episode.
@nettricegaskins1871
3 ай бұрын
The first time a man I was dating threatened my life I was in court the next morning to file a restraining order. I did not wait for him to hit me. Months later he did something worse to another woman and was sent to prison.
@billie44
8 ай бұрын
My mother lived the same life. He his dead I joined in the fights to help my mother
@robinb.4699
3 ай бұрын
I don’t blame you!! I would have helped my mom too!
@virgobutterfly1680
8 ай бұрын
What a monster! I am glad she is alive to tell her story. Let it be a lesson to other women.
@2thelimit
3 ай бұрын
It is a miracle that you are still alive. Such an inspirational story.
@justred5164
8 ай бұрын
My mom went through this and so did I! Thank God not anymore!!!
@natahliak7691
3 ай бұрын
I think because certain women are naturally caring and nurturing, we feel like we can save our abusive partners. We sacrifice ourselves because we don't want to believe that they can't be saved. PLEASE LADIES - THEY CAN'T BE SAVED. You and your children are worth so much more. 💕
@saintamerican6105
3 ай бұрын
My husband is on probation for something he did years before i met him.. but since he’s been physically abusive to me for years im about to be the reason he goes to jail and hes begging me to not tell the police! These demons make u feel so guilty for crap they brought upon themselves
@saintamerican6105
3 ай бұрын
Im currently praying for God to either show me *more* signs that i should tell the legal system the truth OR should i lie and pretend nothings happened in submission to my cruel husband.
@natahliak7691
3 ай бұрын
@@saintamerican6105 I think you found it. RUN!
@taesoolovely6495
3 ай бұрын
Pray for them...Don't be prey for them 😢
@mikosue8694
8 ай бұрын
U gave me hope queen! I recently left a VERY abusive relationship for 15 years and 2 boys... U have helped me that there is hope after because right now I feel like there is none. Anyone else feeling that way please reach out to me because I feel so lonely and scared... Thank you for your story sister ❤
@CJ-xg6ii
8 ай бұрын
I can’t personally relate to your situation, but I am rooting for you. I pray that you and your boys find the safety, peace, and happiness you deserve. You are worth it and you got this.❤
@youbettertapethis
8 ай бұрын
Hey I’ve had a small scale version of what you went through (shorter relationship, no kids) and I’m so proud of you for leaving!! Best thing I ever did. Was so scared and had zero self esteem at the time, 8 years later and I’m still damaged from it. But we deserve more. Your beautiful boys deserve more. Well done sis. I don’t know how to message on KZitem, but reach out if you want any moral support or a chat ok x
@alynegroovinoldskool70s49
8 ай бұрын
WHAT LEVEL ABUSE YOU SUFFERED? I left my husband after 17 years and dated him 7 years before marriage Night of our honeymoon. was the 1st time I heard him curse. I WAS SHOCKED.....THE MAN I THOUGHT I JUST MARRIED WAS NOT THE SAME MAN I BROUGHT HOME.
@mikosue8694
8 ай бұрын
@@alynegroovinoldskool70s49 beatings, horrible beatings, times I thought that was going to be the end of my life until I started stepping up for myself and pulling knives out to protect myself and boys because I wasn't going to die in front of them like that! Of course verbal and mental abuse but I just thank God I'm still here and fighting
@mikosue8694
8 ай бұрын
@@youbettertapethis ❤️
@mae3378
8 ай бұрын
I am so thankful you survived ❤ what a hard journey you have lived
@lindaaragon5477
3 ай бұрын
I’ve been through it. With 4 children yes you learn to function within disfunction. My heart goes out to you 🥲.
@CJ-xg6ii
8 ай бұрын
You’re a triumph, Rosalyn. Thank God you lived to see better and brighter days. So glad you’re in a healthy relationship now, and that you were able and willing to share your story to give hope to others.❤
@saramill5822
4 ай бұрын
My sister was murdered at the age of 36. Born February 16, 1958. Town of Nogales Arizona. Her death was classified as a suicide, place of death Tucson Arizona, her ex-husband after her 6 months of divorced Jesus Vega 3rd was a violent man toward her and 3 children, he was never a suspect. There was a bribe with the detective at the scene. 3 years later, the tuscon police officers I spoke to concluded he had murdrred her. I decided to investigate her case. I would personally like to thank the officers, even though the department decided not to investigate and that she took her life. Domestic violence was very present, very much for 15 years of her marriage. My family were cowards not to do NOTHING. Not out of fear but out of hate toward my sister. Reason i think he murdered her because he is a pedifile abusing her and their kids sexually. He attempted to muderer her when the kids were little, then tried to take out his children by poisoning them with an overdose of asprines. He is free. It's been almost 24 years of her passing. ❤
@daughterofenoch677
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. May the spirit of God continue to move over your sister's matters, exposing truth everywhere its been concealed. Amen ❤
@NovemberReigne
3 ай бұрын
I am so sorry for your loss
@lolomdlalose4547
3 ай бұрын
Thanks cc for sharing
@mstiffthaboss9194
3 ай бұрын
I was in an abusive relationship for a year and it was horrible. I am glad you got away from that. I can’t imagine 24 years.
@indigofay
8 ай бұрын
You are awesome! Thank you for sharing your story!
@115dancingqueen
3 ай бұрын
Never tell your husband you're filing for a divorce.
@clarity2013
3 ай бұрын
This is why it pays to live on your own. Do not go from your parents house to your Husbands house. So many people stay in unhealthy relationships because they are scared to be on their own.
@kelleyturner2238
3 ай бұрын
Every woman needs and education or a business so she can take care of herself. You see what is going on now with this so called manosphere they are angry at woman with a career or business the reason being they cannot control you. Well, there are abusers out their ladies be careful. Also look at what types of families these men come from.
@Rebeccabarragan-q9w
8 ай бұрын
I was 15 when I got married got smacked everyday took it 4 yrs when I took off to my grandparents home no TV pad locked in my home on my twins 5th birthday he was shot and killed over a stolen vehicle married 3 more times all 4 alcoholic s died now I'm married happily 10 yrs I'm 66 yrs old
@debihester7284
8 ай бұрын
Give your life to Jesus. He loves you and paid the price for our sins, so we don’t have to go to hell, if we are sorry for our sins, confess to him that we’re a sinner, and ask him to forgive all our sins. We all have sinned. Then get baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins, and you’ll be saved, if you put your belief in Jesus to save you.
@martiwaterman1437
6 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story. You were a child of 15 when you first got married yet you found the strength to leave. Good for you on your current marriage.. May you continue to thrive.
@jasminek6632
4 ай бұрын
Why marry so many times? it seems you never took time for yourself by yourself
@OliviaBaeBy
3 ай бұрын
@@jasminek6632 Yeah unfortunately, some people don’t learn right away. It’s hard for people to break away from dysfunction. It takes you to honestly get tired of the bullshh
@carolemmwilliams-UK
3 ай бұрын
What a powerful story! Praise God, you have come through it all and are helping others 😊
@sebinafloyd1121
8 ай бұрын
THANK GOD FOR MOTHERS AMEN THEY ALWAYS THERE UNTILL THE END NO MATTER WHAT 🙏🏼 ❤
@vernissiegaines6589
8 ай бұрын
Lord what a story have a granddaughter that will be 13 cant imagine none of this at the age at 13. To God be the glory.
@joycewilson7045
8 ай бұрын
We are proud of you. Can't focus on how long you stayed or why, Just know that I'm so happy that you eventually realized your worth. God bless you for sharing your story. Your ex was an evil coward. His family should be ashamed of him.
@Darkchild547
3 ай бұрын
Love doesn’t hurt, hate does. We need to take accountability at some point.
@greeneyedlady8426
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. Abusers wear the nicest "mask". Not your fault that you fell into his evil web of lives. So glad you got out victorious. Recently my son's wife called and told me he physically abused her, she has left him. I let him know I would not support him putting his hands on any woman. He has never seen me abused by my ex-husband or anyone. he suffers with mental illness but that is no excuse. Abuse affects not only the victims of abuse but the abusers family suffers also. I pray for him to get the help he needs to end his abusive behavior. ❤
@shadyshores-y5n
8 ай бұрын
You should be very proud of yourself! God bless you.
@TerriCarroll
3 ай бұрын
My God. The strength that you displayed sharing your testimony. Thank you for sharing. Somebody is in the same situation right now. I'm glad that you made it out and you are happy and enjoying your family and a man that loves you. Many blessings to you.
@melissaoakley1466
8 ай бұрын
I’m so happy you’re happy now. I was there as well. I’ve been gone 25 years now. I still have nightmares.
@staceyh.5759
6 ай бұрын
What a blessing for her to still be alive to share her story. This touched my heart because there are so, many women out there who need to hear this. You are not alone, and you can still be happy while being here on earth. God Bless you, Ms. Rosalyn Atkinson.
@queenbrttnybt
8 ай бұрын
Always against DV to the day I die!!
@CarolynFergie
3 ай бұрын
Loved your story for the strength of it. Sad sad weak man. Hope your life is nothing but happiness 🥰🥰🥰
@MSRez95
8 ай бұрын
Too many women aren’t independent and that’s the reason why men take advantage of them and abuse them. Too many women think they have no way out. But most all it takes is getting up and leaving. Even if it means being homeless. Bad times will always pass and it will eventually get better for you but only you can make that change even if it will not be easy. Just get up and leave!!! Don’t turn back! Just move forward and look forward.
@JenessaAndKingston
8 ай бұрын
Yes all that is true. But its mainly an emotional thing keeping you there. You love this person. Your mental state is so damaged that you get used to living in the dysfunction as this woman says. It’s so true. Trauma bonds are very real. Its hard when your protector is also your abuser. Then your self esteem is so low you don’t believe you deserve better. It is often a process to leave . Everybody’s story is different. When you are out it doesn’t even make sense to us why we stayed so long and we feel like idiots. None it makes any sense even to the victim until much later. I always say there is no point explaining it because if you havent been through it you wont understand.
@brittneysperspective8433
6 ай бұрын
Also. Please don’t undermine the FEAR. It is dangerous for these women to leave these men, and ask for child support or alimony. These men will kill them or put hits on them. Happens more often do you think. I know it’s dangerous to stay, but it’s dangerous to leave too. They need a PLAN.
@BerylRoberts-l7h
5 ай бұрын
If a woman isn't independent, she shouldn't even get involved with anyone.
@psychattack3381
3 ай бұрын
She was with him since childhood. A very different situation from a grown woman who chooses and stays with an abusive man. She was terrified because she literally had never been independent as an adult. I can empathize with that.
@annika9348
3 ай бұрын
If it was just me, but I have a baby
@angel70678
3 ай бұрын
Oh my God! He hated women! I’m so sorry you endured that! Many thanks to God for saving your life and getting you away from that deranged monster!
@bettycouncil6637
6 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry for what happened to you thank God that ur ok sis I love you ur a strong Blk woman 🙏💯💐🌹🌷
@74artgrrl
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for being so strong to tell us all what happened to you. I heard every word you said and it moves me deeply. You’re extremely brave and you’re a strong advocate for everyone in a sick dangerous relationship.
@Svvn_
3 ай бұрын
Bless you mama and glad your out, alive and safe🙏🏾
@nephie1979
2 ай бұрын
These women are extremely extraordinary! Thank you so much for sharing your life struggles with us.
@NatasciasVlogs
6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this story. I am just sharing my experience on my channel. I left in 2016. Thank you so much for your bravery.
@nursemaggie2321
3 ай бұрын
That you're alive and "normal " is an incredible miracle
@bobbiedavis8498
8 ай бұрын
Thank you Jesus 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I have said that so much to my daughters Thank you 🙏🏽 they are not in that situation however I always let them know that They cannot change aGrown man!! Thank you for sharing your life story with us Blessings to you and your family ❤
@mahtazdin
3 ай бұрын
Its important 😢 to allow people to tell thier story, without judgment. Cuz anyone of can accidentally could end up with a partner who is toxic. And dangerous. Life is not black and white. Alot of gray. Big Huggs to this lady for open up to us. Help other women to understand 🙏 😢
@CarlaMcmillion
3 ай бұрын
Narcissistic Abuse is Real, Get out of those addictionship with narcissistic men, they are dangerous‼️, Thanks for Sharing your story❤️❤️, Blessings to You 🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️
@MegaRose1958
3 ай бұрын
Its still amazing you still look good after what you have been through!!!!😊😊😊 Thanks for sharing your story!!
@sunshinedube5214
8 ай бұрын
M so sorry sister u went thru all that! I passed thru the same n i can relate but m now free❤
@fjorinasimoni9832
Ай бұрын
The unlove wife, goosebump all over my body, tears of pain😢😢😢
@TheAmmorna
4 ай бұрын
*...Learn to function into dysfunction* this is the real reason why most people stay in toxic relationship. They think it is kind of normal to go through non sense.😢 Unfortunately kids are enduring parents immaturity it is so messy. Thank you for sharing your story.
@tammyrichardson818
3 ай бұрын
What an inspirational story from bandage to freedom!!!! Thank God for giving you beauty for your Ashes. You Are Amazing.👏🏼
@mettamorph4523
3 ай бұрын
8 minutes in. I can't listen to more. I was a child living on a house with a father who made us walk on eggshells, trying to avoid his anger. This woman's story has me feeling anxious, and I'm years older. I'm single, never wanted marriage, live alone. This story is the hell I wanted to avoid. Living with a person who is rarely nice to you. Who is either angry or indifferent.
@peacegracemercy5445
3 ай бұрын
I am so sorry you had to go through that.
@Uberqueenbee
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story
@thatgirlkells5505
3 ай бұрын
So Happy you survived. Thank you for sharing your story. Wishing you continued peace. 🙏!!!!
@indiajacquet9195
3 ай бұрын
Im so sorry you had to go through all this. No one deserves to be treated this way. Thank you for sharing.
@carlaperry1312
8 ай бұрын
I truly appreciate ur bravery to tell ur story, I'm so sorry to hear this. My hubby is one of theeee greats to call my king, So happy u feel the same abt urs my dear, 🥂🖤🤎
@malviawalker585
5 ай бұрын
Wow!!! We are stronger than we think!!
@nanette3652
3 ай бұрын
SO PROUD OF YOU, MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS AND FOREVER 😢
@theresabeard5733
3 ай бұрын
Lord have mercy.Ive been through some of the same things in my second marriage.Thank God for his delivering power.God has a way of moving people out of your life.He made a way of escape.Thank God you survived the abuse.
@teeharrison2928
4 ай бұрын
Thank you. I appreciate the advice.
@EthelisLadyE
3 ай бұрын
Your story hits so close to home for me. I’m glad you can talk about it now. I stayed in a marriage for 28 years with mental and verbal abuse . Even though I was doing everything in the home and family wise I didn’t realize I could do anything alone until one day I went to visit my daughter without him and I couldn’t go back home. The divorce was an event also. Thank you for sharing
@dranchd6571
3 ай бұрын
He hit her before they married, but she says that after they married "things took a turn for the worse." So the premarital beating was tolerable, in her eyes.
@ceceprincess4758
3 ай бұрын
Don't judge
@dranchd6571
3 ай бұрын
@@ceceprincess4758 Everybody judges, including you and the victim. She judged that man as worthy when he was worthless. No self esteem cost her decades of abuse.
@dorothytitus8082
3 ай бұрын
It's like getting your behind beat is a rite of passage. This is so disgusting. And I'm tired of only blaming the abuser. Nicole Brown Simpson married OJ of getting her ass beat multiple times. Makes no sense!
@nasty212able
3 ай бұрын
Exactly!!! Then she brought kids into this world of BS very selfish 😢
@saintamerican6105
3 ай бұрын
She was a teenager she was manipulated
@mrs100
3 ай бұрын
God bless your journey forward.❤
@niecythebudgetnista3223
3 ай бұрын
Hey beautiful lady , the ' Beef Sector ' is everywhere 😊 Have a wonderful weekend 🫶🏽
@tonyahuggins7990
3 ай бұрын
You suffered but came out a better person loving mother and friend to many. Plus you married the real man of your dreams. Congratulations! Your store is powerful.
@dr.z.michellehughes8394
3 ай бұрын
WOW! Thank you so much for sharing your story. Such graceful endurance on your part. Thank God you got free!
@ONLYLOVEIZATION
3 ай бұрын
A strong woman. Praise God
@BJW6643
3 ай бұрын
Omg girlll i salute you for getting away from such a monster even though you didnt have the courage to get away sooner blessings to you stay strong 🙏❤❤❤❤
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