I have so much guilt from my past, so much so that it makes me fear success. I've been hurt so much but I'm sure that I've caused some hurt for other people too, not intentionally. I've grown a lot and am a different and imporved person and yet, I'm burdened everyday with an overwhelming sense that I'm an awful person.
@neetupoudel1524
4 жыл бұрын
Same.
@andromeda7298
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@krishshah3974
3 жыл бұрын
same
@violaevavenczel8378
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@odizaii1700
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@alexrose3064
5 жыл бұрын
i feel guilty all the time no matter what i do i have this knot in my stomach always no matter what i do i haven’t done anything wrong i always just feel guilt
@juliearvaniti7336
3 жыл бұрын
Me too
@migueljudd23
2 жыл бұрын
Dude it’s the butterfly in the stomach feelin
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry. For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@Requiem777_
2 ай бұрын
Same man
@that1person695
7 жыл бұрын
I always feel guilty. I don't know why. I feel guilty like I've robbed someone or murdered someone, which I've obviously never done. I haven't done anything bad. But I feel like I have done something so bad that I don't deserve forgiveness. So I put myself in situations that can hurt me cause I feel like I deserve it and the only punishment that can fit my crime is death.
@sawachan321
6 жыл бұрын
AnimeL0v3r AndPotatos DEPRESSION
@fstefano100
6 жыл бұрын
Jesús is forgiveness
@seignee
6 жыл бұрын
AnimeL0v3r AndPotatos I feel the same way.
@spigney4623
6 жыл бұрын
Yess I feel that same thing. Guilt for being alive
@Sarah-mf6zo
5 жыл бұрын
Yea , that’s why i self harm which is very very stupid
@chloefrazier4635
8 жыл бұрын
I don't know why but I feel like I am guilty but I didn't do anything
@iamgod943
7 жыл бұрын
Chloe Frazier yeahh man it sucks
@user-dj8gt6ik7c
5 жыл бұрын
Same. :/
@mckennayoung7753
5 жыл бұрын
same😭
@sleepyw1253
5 жыл бұрын
Samee 😭
@radicalslam2911
5 жыл бұрын
Every waking moment is spent feeling like I'm a piece of shit human being. I feel like I've let everyone down. Especially my dad. I didn't do anything wrong, but I constantly feel like I let him down.
@kangaroo3708
Жыл бұрын
I feel guilty all the time. I keep bringing back moments in my head and stressing and feeling guilty about them. A lot of the time these are things I didn’t think that much of at the time. I’m only 19 but I feel so much guilt for my teenage years. I know I was never a ferocious bully or abuser but there’s these moments that when compiled together make me feel terrible. And I feel like I don’t deserve success or happiness because of them.
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@elevatione2845
5 жыл бұрын
I feel like I’m the only one with feelings like everyone else can do anything and not care but if I do one little things I feel so bad
@cxitlyn111
4 жыл бұрын
Me too 😔
@bruhstfu9543
4 жыл бұрын
i feel this 💯
@caaiies
3 жыл бұрын
Well I feel the same when I was a child u was all happy and playful and HAPPY I could do everything like I felt like reaching the sky it was like the whole world hugged me and melted my heart with happiness but now my heart is shattering I don't know why maybe it's because I just keep thinking about problems like feeling im unhealthy and everytime I see something bad on Netflix I feel bad too I mean I'm already like 16 or 18 but now I don't use the netflix for grown ups because I don't really like that it's all bad like curse words murder and robbery I like the kids section more I miss childhood when I was a kid I wanted to be a grown up until now because now I I see the real world and I liked the real world the bad one and I feel so guilty for it I'm scared what if I get sent to hell? I need help please.
@tyyanniabyrd5203
3 жыл бұрын
same this is why i’m here i been feeling so bad and i say sorry a lot and still feel bad
@sadiaahmed9148
3 жыл бұрын
@@tyyanniabyrd5203 same here. I stand up to somebody for their wrongdoings and later I feel bad. I lack confidence in myself and what I do. I'm often overwhelmed with guilt which later leads to overthinking and mood swings.
@BendyDivine00
6 жыл бұрын
I have a lot of intrusive thoughts, and My psychologist Said to say Quack (like a duck) out loud. It has helped since it is a weird noise to pulls your attention to that weird sound.
@bitchfightme2259
5 жыл бұрын
GoTiSkA_GöTtIn are you diagnosed with OCD ?
@fredericmoresmau4303
5 жыл бұрын
the problem is - I am just an average person with average skills, and get overwhelmed by the too great people who do things that are faar outside my capabilities..... That is no crime, it is honest overwhelm and incapability to measure up.......
@OP-xi1hv
4 жыл бұрын
you sound sane.
@alexsmith-rs6zq
4 жыл бұрын
OP please have empathy. What this person is saying sounds like it makes sense to me.
@jamieisnotokay3298
4 жыл бұрын
I did this and it made me laugh. Thank you for that tip it actually helped lol.
@ausgamecollector
3 жыл бұрын
I feel that people who do feel guilty, unworthy, not good enough and alone are often the better people in this world.
@jasesjandrn9479
3 жыл бұрын
Well I feel none of those things and i actually do wrong. Maybe I'm a psychopath or something
@Halloweinie
3 жыл бұрын
Not me
@JjroseJu
3 жыл бұрын
@@jasesjandrn9479 same
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry. For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@lostspace6451
4 жыл бұрын
I feel so guilty and I just blame my self for everything that happens around me😓
@viranganakarke1883
3 жыл бұрын
Yes I do
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@behindyou6427
4 жыл бұрын
At this point I just want to destroy my life and become as miserable as possible I believe I have severe self sabotage and guilt shame and embarrassment
@yolothatrolo3577
4 жыл бұрын
Behind You never give up , when u give up u lose so don’t do it
@ryu7408
2 жыл бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.I
@stevestarr9769
4 жыл бұрын
I always say, just semi-joking, that if I took a polygraph test and was asked if I shot JFK, I'd prob fail. Feeling guilt is my default setting.
@duchesspascuapangilinan6505
5 жыл бұрын
Im always guilty. Its becuz ive done alot of things.
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@NidusFormicarum
6 жыл бұрын
I feel guilty because there are always things I could have done better, but it is not always my behaviour is under my control. Sometimes I just feel overloaded and then I become very needy.
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry. For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@andre2679
3 жыл бұрын
I find myself overcome with guilt/embarrassment when I think of minor embarrassing things I’ve done in the past. It hits me suddenly. These trivial events happened years and years ago. I hate it.
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@kb9tbq
10 жыл бұрын
I actually talk to myself on a regular basis - with the racing thoughts I try to force myself to focus, and distract myself when I am stressed. If I am really upset I use just words - like "i don't know" or "what ever" and I just keep repeating over and over until I get my composure back. When I am at home I always have noise in the background, even when sleeping so I can try to crowd out the constant thinking. Use music, or soothing documentaries I like about sea or space. Even playing games, or reading articles. I actually have problems with input over load to the point that I am loosing hours thinking. I can stave off emotional distress but still not able to function.
@kb9tbq
10 жыл бұрын
I don't entertain negative thoughts, usually the out loud talking is when I am trying to remember tasks that I have to do, like do I have my keys, did I feed the cats, what do I have to do today, kind of thing. Try to focus on the hear and now when I talk out loud. Avoid bad thinking - I do have some OCD - that is not the obsessive counting or washing hands, but just negativity against myself about past issues that eat away at me. I do everything to stave them kind of thoughts off.
@mitsyjunkyutie6078
5 жыл бұрын
Same
@superfresh9808
4 жыл бұрын
I know you said this six years ago but same you sound like you know my life
@flowersring4423
2 жыл бұрын
Hello! If it is okay, can I ask how are you today? I hope, you are healthy and happy. I just have read your comment and I am in almost the same situation, very close. I am loosing so much time thinking and I can't stop doing it
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry. For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@vittoriamain1950
5 жыл бұрын
Katie could you respond please, I feel guilty all the time even when I haven’t done anything wrong. I feel guilty for hanging out with my friends, i feel guilty for not being my absolute best a school, and i feel guilty for everything and have that cweezy feeling in my stomach all the time and it’s hard to focus when you feel guilty
@joannaheart8167
4 жыл бұрын
You don't have to be perfect in life. We all have flaws. Embrace yourself and find your qualities. A lot of people show off but they are broken inside. Someone must have put that pressure on you. People expect a lot from you but you also have your own dreams and needs. Enjoy your youth - it won't happen a second time.
@chloemcholoe3280
6 жыл бұрын
I feel so weird watching these videos. I have tried many therapists and in my country I haven't found any good ones yet. and I just feel sad and lonely watching all these videos alone in my room trying to fix myself but it's so hard without a proper theraphist I wish I had a nice theraphist like you :(
@jooheonsdimples
4 жыл бұрын
same. same same same. i hope you're doing better now.
@javeriaharoon7957
4 жыл бұрын
Prayers for u dear!
@sophiemae4119
4 жыл бұрын
hope you are doing better !!
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@pegasusluci7239
4 жыл бұрын
i feel guilty that my parents dont know, it makes me feel guilty and shameful and unworthy when people are nice to me and treat me specially...
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@akl4101
7 жыл бұрын
#kati faq Why do I feel stupid all the time? Like I don't know enough things or my opinion is silly, I don't feel intelligent and other people are, sometimes I want to read something to know more things but reading makes me sleepy, etc. What can I do?
@beam8250
6 жыл бұрын
It's a matter of building on your confidence. You already have all the knowledge you'll ever need! If others are willing to share their knowledge with you, listen. There is nothing wrong with staying quiet and thanking others for sharing what they know. ❤️
@ellie2041
5 жыл бұрын
A KL it sounds like low self a steem tbh it’s something we all have it on occasion. You just need to learn to validate yourself. Your opinions,feelings,and thoughts matter just like anyone else’s .
@DenaJaq
8 жыл бұрын
I wish you were in my life as a teen!
@justagirl1516
11 жыл бұрын
"How dare you watch tv and relax" haha yeahhhhh I get that one a lot. Oh Kati I'm moving back home with my parents. I left because it was too triggering at the time but I'm in a better place now and my parents know about my issues so I'm going to try again AND I'm going back to school (one course for now) and going to major in psychology (:
@yourkingdomcomeyourwillbedone
3 жыл бұрын
I had a breakthrough when I realised that my whole life was a gift given to me free-of-charge - I didn't do anything to deserve it and I don't understand why I'm not punished for all the wrong and evil things I've done in my life... It's like I'm under grace and it's too much for me to handle when I realise that I take this life for granted. All the the blessings I've been given in this life were completely underserved and that's partly why I feel guilty. I often take life for granted and I don't practice the gratitude for just being here and being alive and being able to experience anything at all. I find that if I take it back to the most fundamental level of giving thanks to the universe just for my existence then I don't feel so guilty. Hope this helps.
@eleah2256
2 жыл бұрын
Hmm makes sense a lot of my guilt stems from regretting not appreciating things and fear of being arrogant
@maxxywaxxyy
2 жыл бұрын
yes but i don’t even deserve the gift of life
@yourkingdomcomeyourwillbedone
2 жыл бұрын
@@maxxywaxxyy To "deserve" something is based on merit. A gift is something given freely.
@maxxywaxxyy
2 жыл бұрын
@@yourkingdomcomeyourwillbedone my parents taught me all my life that gifts are deserved
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough .
@partyanimal8248
7 жыл бұрын
I'm guilty all the time......
@ashlietheblasphemer1908
6 жыл бұрын
Actually same the way I try to help it is to read
@denisalvarez7354
5 жыл бұрын
me too.....cuz im never doing what im supposed to be doing....
@fredericmoresmau4303
5 жыл бұрын
it's not a rime, more I ain't psychologically capablle of, that's it....... no need to destroy me for my incapacities
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@DonnOfTechDuinn
5 жыл бұрын
That voice: "why did you do that, you should be guilty of yourself" Me: "I am in love with all of my imperfections" Everytime!
@melissasmith2801
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for talking about how to deal with toxic parents. Helpful
@basedneutral1173
3 жыл бұрын
I feel really guilty because I accidentally broke my dad's glass cup :(
@chloewalker7954
8 жыл бұрын
Hey Kati. I'm 17 and I've suffered with depression since I was 13. I have one person who I feel I can talk to about it and she is unsure how to help as she is not specifically trained in this area. We see each other twice a week but I text her and phone her when I'm down. Could you make a video on how other people around you can help get you out of depression. Love your videos!!
@chloemcholoe3280
6 жыл бұрын
I just wanna cry and tell everyone sorry :( and I always want attention :(
@haileyrichards9946
9 жыл бұрын
#katifaq I have no privacy with my parents especially once they found out about my depression and self harm. It makes me really frustrated and not want to talk to them about anything. I also recently found out my mom has been discretely emailing my school counselor about my issues and I just feel like I can't control anything on my own (which worsens my self harm urges) what do I do? I don't want to talk to my parents or mom about this because she's already nosy enough in my life. I just want your opinion.?
@alee0294
8 жыл бұрын
Your mom obviously cares about you. Idk how close you are to your mom but I can tell she wants you to be happy but you keep closing the door on her. Perhaps you should try analyzing the situation from here perspective and maybe you'll understand why she does the things she does
@lisasummer701
6 жыл бұрын
If your mom is doing that, (seeking help for you and all) it really means she worries and cares. A lot of parents won’t even care to do all that. I get the whole no privacy thing and I know it can be very frustrating but I highly encourage you to seek help so you can let it out. Also that person can talk to your parents about privacy and so on. It took me years to realize that my mom actually cared. Actions speak louder than words sometimes you know?
@blink182fanorsomething
4 жыл бұрын
I feel guilty about seeing things on insta idk what to do even if it's not my fault. Can someone help?
@m-hellothere4167
3 жыл бұрын
If it's not your fault then don't worry about it. Fight that negative voice back, you can beat it. Just try as much as you can not to come near whatever made you feel bad, but don't let yourself be taken by guilt.
@Julies_OchakosVersion
Жыл бұрын
i always feel guilty for no reason. For the context, i have had a lot of traumatic experiences during my childhood, and i use maladaptive daydreaming as a coping mechanism. My therapist has told me to try to work on stopping by myself for two weeks and if i don't succeed then we should take the matter more seriously, i feel really guilty for coping this way because my parents have told me multiple times that i am insane for doing so and if i continue, then they will get rid of me. I don't know just-- my parents were only one example, i feel guilty for my coping all the time and i don't know what to do
@HuangFengYing
11 жыл бұрын
II find it helpful to think of someone's else voice to talk me down our out of myself... Because i knwo that my own voice is triggering and gets distracted.
@ayshanassar5253
4 жыл бұрын
Can someone help me with these? The thing is i was a very short tempered person. But i dont get angry randomly. I just got angry if i was sure that the opposite party is wrong. But suddenly started reflecting on myself. I felt like i lived as a bad person all these years but deep inside i am pretty sure i didnt do anything that hurt others. I tear up when i get mad at someone for no reason. I starts crying again and again thinking that i am wrong. What should i do?
@mikaylachaplin1935
3 жыл бұрын
I think we all struggle with guilt because we are all imperfect. I'm a Christian, and the bible says that every wrong thing we do is sin. But the good news is, that we dont have to sit in those guilty feelings all the time. Because Jesus died for us. We celebrated easter yesterday, because that is the day that Jesus rose again, after being crucified. So when we give our lives to Jesus, we no longer have to be overwhelmed by guilt, because our sins and imperfections have been forgiven!
@trendyimpacttv
7 ай бұрын
When u are depressed or having anxiety minor things will made u feel guilty ! The only way to git rid of as far as i have experience is to manage ur thoughts in 30mins of time daily … like if you are feeling guilty about anything leave that thing to those 30mins and think about it thn!!! After those 30mins just follow ehatbu have decided there. Its kinda hard but trust me it really helps
@ashd5326
3 жыл бұрын
I feel guilty for opening up, and be real to people
@ryu7408
2 жыл бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
@SatiricalFey
11 жыл бұрын
Hey Kati this was helpful to me but I could really use your advice. I get what i call echos, not just my own very very very vivid (almost but not quite like its a separate entity and is that normal) but I here echos of other people, friends family, things they have said or things I think they could say, and I try allot of things to make it stop but it never goes away and the only way when it starts to even numb it is the SH/SI. It's like I already feel guilty it repeats so much that I belive every word both subconscious and consciously..if that makes any sense. How can I explain the echos and vivid images(Yeah bad images to, like people killing me, that kind of stuff but not like hallucination level) and negitive voice and all of that to my therapist without her misinterpreting it into like hallucinations and voices in my head.
@andreahoffmann7216
11 жыл бұрын
Hey Kati :) I was just wondering if you could maybe do a whole video on distorted thinking? Great video, as usual ;)
@saintdenis3238
3 жыл бұрын
"Guilt doesn't solve anything, really", "It hurts you ... I guess I am in the enviable position of not having to deal with guilt I think i am one, a true psychopath, without any remorse or empathy at all
@brettgomez8122
3 жыл бұрын
I did something many years ago that I’m not proud of but I know that I was a teenager and I didn’t know better, this action didn’t have a victim it was something that isn’t aligned with my morals now. I can tell myself that it was like 6 years ago and I feel I am a different person now but the guilt from my action remains. Just not sure how I can get past these feelings.
@mamelu711
2 жыл бұрын
I feel yoy
@ianjohnson8355
Жыл бұрын
I’m searching for this exact answer now!
@avi8252
3 жыл бұрын
I was in my room trying to draw something and my mom asked me to help her clean So I got up and smashed my pencil on the desk and left with a big "UGH" and when I started cleaning, I was super mad, but I felt really sad and guilty at the same time for making my mom feel bad about asking for help because she had been cleaning all day. When I was done I couldnt stop crying and feeling guilty.
@Ashenicky2009
2 жыл бұрын
I feel guilty for every single thing I did back then. And some of it I brought up to a few of the people I felt guilty for doing something to them, and it's been so long they either forgot it even happened or they seemed to think I was silly for still holding onto it. But I can't stop holding onto it. Sucks.
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry for what you are going through. For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@lovetolaugh35
7 жыл бұрын
all your videos help but this one really shed light on what ive been experiencing, , Unjustified guilt , and shutting up those negative thoughts.... Keep doing what youre doing because you really are helping people... Thank you
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@totallynotaoi4662
5 жыл бұрын
I don’t know why I’m guilty.. sometimes I have anxiety around people.. I really don’t know why. Another part of me feels empty. Half of me feels sad.. but the other one has emotions. Is this normal?
@goodcookie4458
3 жыл бұрын
I feel guilty for having such great parents and friends and being so depressed I’m mad because why am I so depressed I feel I’m ungreatful :(
@thought-full3445
3 жыл бұрын
This is a very old video but I feel like I need to vent somewhere. I almost condtantly feel guilty about modt things. What's been affecting me modt lately is a couple of things in particular. The first is that I feel guilty about not knowing what I want to do with my future. I feel like by now I should've chosen a career and I feel guilty because i'm getting monetary help from relatives, and the fact that I don't know what I want makes me anxious because I feel like they are wasting their money on me. Secondly, and I know this is really dumb but, if I see a guy on youtube who I think is cute and cool, I later feel guilty about it when I look at my boyfriend. Even saying it out loud makes me feel like a 13 year old. But it's true, for whatever reason, thinking that makes me feel like i'm a shit girlfriend. Then, I feel guilty about doing some things I enjoy. In the sense of "how dare I relax and watch movies today", or "why are you even bothering with art when you could be doing something more productive". And as a last point, I feel guilty about the fact that, even though I see people on streams and videos being friends and having fun together, which makes me want the same, when my boyfriend asks me if I want to join on call with his friends, I usually decline. The thing is, I feel very anxious with them because I want to make a good impression and seem fun and witty, but there's always the thought in my head that I'm not bringing anything to the conversation and I'm just there because I'm his girlfriend and they don't really want to hang out with me. That anxiousness causes me to decline his offers, but then I feel guilty about kt and like a total coward because I do want to be able to play games together with friends like the people I see online. It's like there is always a battle of voices in my mind. There's the voice of reason saying that i'm being unfair to myself and irrational, and then there's this other voice in the back telling me why I'm trash and should feel guilty about it. At first I can ignore it, but eventuslly the nagging becomes to much and I just can't do it anymore. The closest thing I can compare it to is that feeling you had as a student about a work you constantly postponed. No matter what it is you are doing the thought of it is always in the mind of your mind not letting you relax fully. Coupled with the guilt of a child who lied to their parents for the first time and feels like at any point a demon is going to come and drag them to hell. That's kind of how I feel more often than not and it's getting really tiresome..
@whatwhatwhatwhatwhatwhatwhatw
3 жыл бұрын
oh man, i understand you. feeling anxious about a thing, then feeling incredibly guilty about being unproductive because the anxiety takes so much time from your day, it's a vicious cycle. sometimes, i audibly tell myself "that guilt isn't productive." and that snaps me out of it a bit. i always try to tell myself that the voice scolding me in my head is irrational, but for me it often takes outside encouragement for me to feel like i didn't commit some horrible crime for, idk, something small like not texting my friend back immediately. so i want to tell you that everything you described in your comment is absolutely normal, and you ARE a decent person. i dont know how to stop the extreme self doubt voice yet, but i can tell you that the voice telling you you're trash IS irrational. and you're going to be ok. good luck with everything
@starrynight669
3 жыл бұрын
I feel so guilty even if I didn't do anything wrong
@desirelabelle2199
Жыл бұрын
I feel guilty most of the time for small things even if I accidently stepped on someone's foot and I feel awful and I keep apologizing and I return home and feel awful I stepped on the person's foot.
@josanishere1384
2 жыл бұрын
My problem is, is that I don't feel guilty at all XD Even though, well let's just say I have done some not very nice things in my past. I don't think there is really much wrong with me though, my emotions are a bit odd, but it's wayy more odd to feel guilty over something that happened long ago XD. No offense
@thebrain678
Жыл бұрын
I feel guilt for getting mad at a friend and now she doesnt talk to me
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@englinda2049
2 жыл бұрын
I cheated on my bf and I feel so bad and living with guilt and I think this mistake will stays with me in my whole life, I've been depressed for almost 4 months. And now I don't have energy to make myself happy also I don't think I deserve to be happy.
@crystalbogue9842
9 жыл бұрын
Just want to say thank you for making these. I'm seeking help now and hope to find someone as helpful as yourself. Binging on your videos, wish watching videos would be enough xoxo
@luket7448
2 жыл бұрын
I have ocd on particular events from my past and feel guilt in copious amounts every day can anyone help or suggest anything? Thank you
@jyotishmankalita1308
Жыл бұрын
I feel guilty because of my past.. i have done a very sinful act in my past and I feel guilty over it
@allisontaylor442
7 жыл бұрын
#KatiFAQ Hey Kati. I'm a big fan. I have a few questions. Can people with autism be depressed? do they fell empathy? And is it hard for them to live by themselves?
@theeporcelain
3 жыл бұрын
I feel guilty when i cant keep plans always with people or my period is so bad i cant get out of bed.. or i didnt eat those left overs and they went into the trash.
@Brunofromaraguari
3 жыл бұрын
I was of a conservative religion for a long time and I always feeling guilty, even far from traditional church. I use to feel guilty about my homosexuality, now I understand that there is nothing wrong about being gay, but I still feel guilty all the time, not only about homosexuality, but about everything. I even blame myself for feeling guilt. It's horrible.
@debigreen482
2 жыл бұрын
I understand this. I'm not gay, but was raised in evangelical Christianity. The guilt is never-ending. I recently read that it's a traumatic thing when someone gives you a critical, negative voice in your head, and tells you it's the voice of God. I no longer believe in God, and am working on releasing the chronic guilt. Hope you find your way out too.
@crazydaisy_x5935
2 жыл бұрын
I feel guilty for the smallest things.. it really hurts :(
@icaricc
3 жыл бұрын
I did a really fucked up thing a few years ago and lately it's resurfaced in my mind quite humorous
@Blue-lc5np
3 жыл бұрын
I feel guilty for having a great life, amazing parents and everything I could ask for, I see people who are in horrible situations and feel so guilty for everything, and sometimes trying to deserve this life can be a bit exhausting
@debigreen482
2 жыл бұрын
I feel this every day. 💗
@NoreenHoltzen
2 жыл бұрын
I used to feel guilty less often but since turning to Christ and church groups I have started to feel guilty more often. At church we bring it up sometimes and our group agreed that part of faith is to celebrate our guilt, because it keeps us clean and beneath Him. Guilt might be part of our Christian culture that we inherited. I would not be ashamed of guilt as it is part of being a good Christian, and those that are not guilty might not be forgiven and thus might not reach heaven. I myself often have guilty feelings of not enough faith in God but I use this guilt to ask for forgiveness so I can be saved. I don’t think we should try to overcome our guilt but recognise it as part of being a Christian, even if it is difficult to live with.
@operoverlord
9 жыл бұрын
God, I've never met someone so happy... lol
@ellie2041
5 жыл бұрын
I went to therapy once a week last year and the year before. I did exactly what she described in the video. In the beginning most of the session if I mentioned one bad thing anyone in my family did that made me feel bad I’d immediately defend them because I didn’t want the therapist to think bad about them I even asked several times before I left if they would keep it between us. Of course they assured me everything was confidential. It really helped when my therapists assured me that they knew I wasn’t saying my loved ones were bad people and they just did or said something that I was uncomfortable with or not ok with. Bottom line we are all humans and we have all hurt someone even if it’s unintentional. Don’t be afraid to open up. It really helps to let things out and eventually you can feel a little lighter.
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@jameshalliday4893
3 жыл бұрын
My son died by suicide 3 years ago. I carry this guilt for the rest of my life.
@KoleKre
Жыл бұрын
The thought of leaving my mom with that guilt is probably the only thing holding me back right now. I hope you heal.
@vivi-pq4pf
9 жыл бұрын
Hey Kati! I am new to your channel and I absolutely love them!I hope you read my comment! Here is the situation: I have some times where my brother/sister will call me a liar,and even though I am 9,I will cry,I know it isn’t helping but it makes me feel better!What do I do if they accuse me of doing something I didn’t do?
@CiCiLovesCouture96
11 жыл бұрын
#katiFAQ Kati, what if I donʻt really want to get better? I feel like Iʻm not harming people surrounding me with my addiction to SH, so why even get better? Iʻm "comfortable" in my SH, so whatʻs the point in even fixing this issue?
@allyonightmare
4 жыл бұрын
1:01 where actual video starts
@jekylljekyllhyde821
11 ай бұрын
For some reason I feel guilty for the fact that many people have it worse than me even though it's not my fault. Like, whenever i remember that someone is suffering while i don't feels unfair.
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@cellbiologyshorts9105
Жыл бұрын
What people *should* feel guilt all the time?
@akaboo69
8 ай бұрын
I struggle with feeling guilty in general. I don't like it. I feel like a bother in some circumstances but I'm sure it's in my head
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@stephanieb5004
11 жыл бұрын
It's so weird that you mention that we should write a letter to our future self because today during school we were asked to write a letter to our future self
@prototype3169
3 жыл бұрын
Remember, you are not the villain, you are the hero.
@tynakatroberts5117
5 жыл бұрын
Is it normal to feel guilty because my parents give me gifts? Like certain books or clothes that I don't need but they knew I wanted?
@polterbjj8269
8 жыл бұрын
Hi! I feel bad for thoughts I have about people I like...is this dysthymia? I felt I needed to tell my mother if I thought something bad or embarrassing about her when I was a child. It was her ,because I was closer to her and like her the most. I even have social phobia,too much trouble.
@iva6692
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like that when I am with my family... Also when I am happy or smth good is happening to me I feel guilty.. in front of my friends and other people...
@mariamendez2148
8 жыл бұрын
#KatiFAQ Kati I'm living in the past I love the 80s but soon late last year it became an obsession & now I feel depressed & have mood swings very rapidly. Now I got help from my counselor & from the school psychologist but I don't know how to tell them that? I'm a new comer.
@tophat4739
4 жыл бұрын
Argue with the voice in your head? Lol
@tommachniak8899
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I've been feeling quite suicidal lately, and feeling agitated. My parents excommunicated me because I'm gay. And my mother told me she wishes the worst for me, and that she doesn't want to see me prosper, because it am deformed in her words. She has been abusing me psychologically for my whole life. And no therapist had helped me with these feelings of guilt and shame. Constant verbal abuse such as "crack your demented head open, you're sick the way you dress" and "your never going to be happy being gay is a curse" and the thousands of other things she has said to me, its so hard, I'm beside myself at the moment and I've been crying watching this video. Knowing there is hope but at the same time still feeling hopeless.i feel guilty for existing.
@jekylljekyllhyde821
11 ай бұрын
It's horrible and insane to say something like that, especially to your own child. I wish you all the best❤
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@Ryu-v8r
7 ай бұрын
I had a suicide attempt in 2022. I was in my old apartment back then. I overdosed on my Medication. I went unconscious the same night. Although I still woke up, fell around, puking, shitting myself, broke things accidentally. I wasnt eating or drinking for 4 - 5 days. At one point I just layed there unconscious. My mom and two friends rescued me 4 days after I attempted suicide. I was brought into a Hospital with kidney failure and a sitting and laying trauma. Because I was on the hard ground in uncomfortable positions for over 100 hours. Some time after in the Hospital I came back to consciousness. Luckily I survived. I drink alot of water and my kidney is working again. But due to my pain in the back, from the suicide attempt, I had to quit my old Job. I hope you dont commit suicide. Im thankful I failed. I wish and pray for you strength
@chiafairy7091
7 жыл бұрын
I'm the same, I stopped restricting but now I tend to just eat a looooot of food all the time. I believe I am not really in extreme hunger anymore, because I remember that, that was definitely more extreme then again. But still...I think I eat more than feels good most days.
@atlanticskyx3298
4 жыл бұрын
I’m guilty because I watched lovely peaches
@rachaeldigiambattista6035
10 жыл бұрын
I feel bad about some stuff that happened at home to my brother and I write ALOT in a journal and I gave it to a teacher that I trust and she gave it to the psychologist at my school and y did she not do anything about it y
@alina3im678
9 жыл бұрын
Can't thank you enough for your helpful videos :)
@VanCamelCat
6 жыл бұрын
Hey Kati, Umm... I didn't know how to shorten this any more so if you respond to this *I thank you immensely* . Even if you just read it I'm already thankful. I wanted to present a question, and a fork in the road so to speak, about your advice regarding self-guilt, and the ways to deal with it (namely, talking back to that voice). What if that self-guilt you talked about.. what if I do feel a lot of it *is* justified, but then it starts piling up with a bunch more self-guilt that _isn't_ justified, and rolls down a hill like a snowball? Why justified? Well, because I think sometimes I might be having trouble accepting guilt or criticism from others (or in the more distant past, as a teenager, it was even constructive criticism I had trouble accepting), and I don't respond to it with much belief, and in turn: action. So I end up guilting myself because in a way I know that (in the right dosage) I do respond to it with action if I believe the guilt, and when it comes from my own self - I believe it. I think I'm even ok with some self-guilting if it brings forth results... but the problem is that in those times when it doesn't bring results, it starts piling up, and leads to depression (or I think it's more like you described the "high functioning depression" aka Dysthymia). Consequently, this all leads to even more 'not doing' and more guilt (hence the term snowball I used before). So even though that "voice" seems to have every intention of being very very positive, and helping me out and developing my own self and leading me to happiness (I really believe that it does for me)... it still ends up unwillingly being affected by a more silent "player" in my inner scenario. That player being namely the Dysthymia & specifically when the actions don't come forth like if I want to workout that day and end up not doing so or having anxiety or just plain unfulfilled stress. So you see, in these scenarios I feel I am pretty much lying to myself when I try to talk back and say "Actually, I'm doing great. This is ok. I work hard for this. This feeling isn't justified". Because, see... it _is_ justified. It's just that the intensity & repetitiveness of it is only causing me to do less, and that's just not productive or useful :( Don't get me wrong, I do have other times, when I'm stressed about recent past events or things I said or how I may have been perceived by others, where I talk back and tell mysef "shh... it's ok. everything is ok and you did good. also, it's in the past and now you know for next time how you feel about how you reacted or what you said and you'll be even better next time around". And in those types of scenarios that works! I just feel like for me, in these "self-guilting" scenarios (which are happening more and more recently), the talking back positively is maybe not specific enough. Because I don't believe my talkback, because I do feel that it was justified, and so it just keeps going on and on. Any other ways you may be able to suggest for what seems to me to be such a complex scenario? If you've read so far, Thank you. A response would be delightful and accepted with open ears & an open heart. If you haven't managed to read through so much text, well then thank you for your channel nonetheless. I've only been here for a few days and already I am opening my mind & inner-dialog in ways that were a struggle for me for years especially since I have had difficulty finding a therapist that clicks for me in my country. -CamelCat
@DarinaYa
4 жыл бұрын
I’m not Kati, but as a suggestion you can try working on developing self forgiveness, acceptance, & love. Use self compassion, patience, & create a safespace/ permission for your imperfections. Healing your relationship within is key to help at least a little/ get started. & also try an activity of “facts versus feelings” (logic versus emotion/ illusion verus reality). Typically we live with our guilt & shame, while others have no idea to which extent of those inner experiences & are focused on their own world. Maybe also meditate on affirmations & the emotion such as “i am innocent”. This work will eventually help at least a little. Don’t give up on yourself. 💗
@fellanefnaf3960
3 жыл бұрын
I feel guilty talking to people even if all we did was laugh ..and it's a feeling and not a voice 😵
@ComfortLining
6 жыл бұрын
My ex husband is a narcissist and my teens are over his house 1/2 the week. They are starting to see his bi polar/ entitlement behavior. I feel that I have to speak a certain way to him or he will blow up and point fingers. God forbid I say something assertive. It's absolutely ridiculous how I feel tense still around him and he stresses me out we've been divorced over 10 years now and I lose my words when he makes me feel like I need to explain things to him. Not to mention he will start fights and lie about stuff that makes no sense. I'm afraid for my kids as I see depression in my daughter and anxiety and my son is starting to act exactly like him. And PS. He always tries to compete with me, like he's the best parent and I'm just a piece of trash.
@amara9279
4 жыл бұрын
I dont have parent problems or a therapist i just feel guilty over little things or things from years ago. Like when i was in Primary school (Elementary) i ordered packed lunch but i had school dinners and i feel guilty over eating it even though it was spare. It's frustrating
@ellegrrace
7 жыл бұрын
You remind me of my old counsellor. She put everything so into perspective for me. I'm 17 at the moment and I'm currently getting therapy for an eating disorder and a currently (undiagnosed) disorder. (Bipolar disorder). Thank you for helping out xxx
@lauren-li3ub
6 жыл бұрын
Hey kati, my mom always checks my phone and I feel like my privacy is really invaded. One time she got an email from someone she didn’t know, and it was sent to MY email adress, so she checked my phone after that. I felt so nervous I almost threw up. I’m not on bad websites but I feel she will find something that she disapproves of. I just feel so nervous that she will ask to see my phone. She always invades my privacy like when I’m in my room with my door closed, she will ALWAYS ask me what I’m doing, what website I’m on, and check my phone to make sure I’m not lying. I just feel my privacy is so invaded by my parents. Please help, I’m really in need.
@tadpolebss
4 жыл бұрын
I just lied in a video game called skyblock with my co-op and idk why i feel so damn guilty this was a couple months ago btw.....
@eleah2256
2 жыл бұрын
Every time I feel warmth or when I think something or someone is cute, or when I see something nostalgic etc etc.. I feel guilt? I've had it since I was very little. For example, since I was little I couldn't stand those little boxes that you can wind up and they play music (what are those called?), because I would feel super guilty. I am puzzled to this day what that is about.
@sarofan
11 жыл бұрын
I almost have the same problem with no3. My mom turns a blind eye to all the info that my psychologist gave her about my BPD and she doesnt want to accept that i have it. She can be so mean and yelling at me all the time! I've been avoiding her as much as i can by not being are home or when at home not near her! She stills manages to make me feel like crap and i wish i could stood up for myself but i really cant and its terryfiyng :(
@MrZkoki
Жыл бұрын
Thank you sweet lady! I find that I respond better to negative rather than positive feedback. It is more stimulating, especially if you are a not so satisfactory version of yourself. Maybe defensive pessimists are all like that... Thank you!
@maishazarinanan5028
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video, the advice was gold and was stuff I've been looking for for ages!
@denisefuentes7905
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, exactly, I’m guilty when I don’t work out; take a walk; have a plan; follow the plan; do something creative; be positive; handle people; all the things that I’m informed will “help me” be “ok” or liked or authentic or acceptable. I truly, secretly, will be happy when this life is over. That’s very freeing. I’m 68 next week. It’s been a long haul.
@user-lw3hc9zt1n
Жыл бұрын
i have so much guilt from my past, I hurt my closest friends and did so many bad things and had a horrible behavior and mindset and so much more, I gave them an apology gift and they said it’s okay and to not think about it anymore. But everytime I wish something bad would happen to me, the guilt I feel is extremely unbearable and I can’t take it anymore. I want to improve and change and that’s what I’m doing, but I feel like no matter what I do I feel horrible. Everything I see lot hear that’s similar to what I did brings back the guilt heavier than ever. I always feel like I’m doing something wrong to my friends right now and apologize for every little thing. I just can’t get rid of the guilt and I want to tell them but I don’t know how to.
@nazeem8680
3 жыл бұрын
Looking at you reminds me of my guilt and makes me feel guilty :(
@devinvogt2860
11 жыл бұрын
i have anger problems i am 17 and had it as long as i can remember it scares me cause my family has it as well and they can control i but me i try to control it and when i feel or think i have it under control something sets it off again and i dont know what to do. do you have any advice on what i can do my anger is many based on the little things that set me off like noises or something that someone says to me and i feel that i just want to punch something and when i get even a little mad my ears turn really red just need some advice can you help
@koolkoala2813
5 жыл бұрын
What if I don't try hard? I can't try hard. I think I can accomplish things in my head, but then I don't do them in real life, and I fail at everything. It makes me so mad!
@wendynicole9907
9 жыл бұрын
Thanks for these videos u sure make me feel alot better after watching your videos.😆
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