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@BBFCCO733
3 жыл бұрын
Being myself a survivor of abuse, validation is crucial for healing. What happened to you is true. Someone chose to take advantage of you. We often suffer from emotions like shame, that don't belong to us. I believe we have the right to be angry at a person who took advantage of us. How can we transform this anger into healing? Not everyone will validate you for different reasons, and you need to remove these people from your life. I am currently accepting my anger for years I was shamed and dismissed for feeling angry. Basically the people who don't support you, don't want to. Surround yourself with people who support you. I wish you healing.
@clairobics
Жыл бұрын
Childhood abuse survivor watching this after being triggered by people at a busy petrol station - I frequently beat myself up for 'reacting' less than favorably when others don't have manners etc or I feel rushed by others or 'over busy'. Phrases such as "Everyone just go away and leave me alone!" "______off and go away!" "Supposed to be better with people, others want to be around people but I just feel better when I am alone!" - always have to recognise this is my inner child reacting to the thoughtlessness of others, which can be a trigger or feeling stressed or rushed by the world's systems. I don't think it gets easier but I think you recognise the triggers quicker and easier and can then do some reparenting work. But it is exhausting living a life of hypervigilance in your fifties because of something that happened to you when you were ten and especially because most survivors get no help from families of origin who compound and add gaslighting and secondary trauma and a society that really couldn't care less.
@kylielogan8771
3 жыл бұрын
I think we have to express ourselves in a better forum because I find myself over sharing with the wrong people! It makes us less validated and more vulnerable it’s awful most people don’t understand and it becomes triggering. Plus most people in society tell you to get over it don’t talk about make comments that your angry which makes it worse counseling didn’t help I guess it’s finding peace and forgiveness within ourselves!
@fludgs
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. I've been struggling to accept anger and to actually allow myself to feel it. I'm always afraid that I'll be out of control if it's out there. Knowing that you've walked through it, gives me hope. Listening to this conversation has given me words to describe my anger to the people around me, which might help to not be so lonely
@lamisb.a2811
2 жыл бұрын
22:00 God, I can feel you. I refused to go to psychiatric treatment because a doctor started telling me that you were a teenager, maybeyou had felt a desire. her words really affected me.
@chocolatesugar4434
Жыл бұрын
23:04 that’s men for you. Women go through so much wrong treatment daily. I mean, who abandons their SA girlfriend after a therapy session??? Who??
@saa1094
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video and the courage it took to share your stories.. It helps me to not feel so alone. I’m six months out from the last trauma/assault in my life, and I have so much rage that I have nowhere or way to direct it at the persons who have violated me so horribly throughout my life. I’m not used to being angry or displaying anger/rage, and it is quite frightening at times when it feels like I can do nothing but direct it at myself. Your testimonies/stories give me some hope.
@DeTurquoise
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I usually dont thanks in comment...
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