Dear Meaningless. I'm going to be honest with you and please don't take it badly but someone needs to say it. You hanging around a shopping centre and waiting for women/approaching women is one of the worst things you can do. No normal dude is doing that. You probably looked like a creepy stalker. No woman wants to be approached like that and she was making those excuses because she was scared she'd hurt your feelings if she rejected you and that she probably thought she would be in danger. It's not personal, it's just something women have to do to keep themselves safe because there are a lot of crazy men out there, I know because I am a woman and we experience this a lot. You need to be really careful interacting with women like this because they are going to be scared they're going to be kidnapped or worse in these types of situations. If you want to meet people then do it organically, like at a club, in a bar, at a class, or an activity where is socially acceptable to be starting conversations with strangers near you and you have something in common to talk about. You can't just approach people in the street and expect them to engage with you when they're minding their own business. You basically followed her to the station when she rejected your advances, so you came off looking like a stalker/wierdo and that's not okay, you need to improve on your awareness because you probably scared the shit out of her and I'm not surprised she didn't want to meet you after that. Please take this advice, I think firstly you need to work on yourself and your confidence because you are clearly not ready. I recommend going back to UK and then working with a therapist/coach one on one in person sessions on your social/speaking/etiquette/confidence skills. And please listen to your bloody parents because they know what's best for you and are trying to keep you safe. Yours sincerely A friend
@MeaninglessRubbish
5 ай бұрын
No I didn't follow her to the station I asked her and she agreed to let me come with her.
@FemmePursuit
5 ай бұрын
@@MeaninglessRubbish You shouldn't have asked her though, it's not socially acceptable for a man who is a stranger to behave like this. The reason women make up excuses like 'meeting a friend' are because they are scared and want an excuse to leave a situation they are uncomfortable in. She obviously wanted to leave but then you asked to follow and she probably agreed because you persisted and she was scared of what would happen if she said no. She was going to the station to meet a friend that didn't even exist, you said it was a made up excuse to leave? She said to you that she didn't want to meet you because you scared her! You need to read between the lines and accept the rejection. It happens to everyone, just learn from this situation and be more aware next time.
@MeaninglessRubbish
5 ай бұрын
@@FemmePursuit It's only now because of internet people think it's socially unacceptable.
@John-nb6ep
5 ай бұрын
You wouldn't care if he was handsome doing it. You'd act like a Chatbot with him probably.
@FemmePursuit
5 ай бұрын
@@John-nb6ep I would because I don’t like random men trying to get me in public because I’m not even into men.
@FR3SHM3AT
5 ай бұрын
“You could’ve said u had a bf but you lied to my face” wouldn’t that too be lying if she didn’t have one….
@MeaninglessRubbish
5 ай бұрын
I'd rather have that than going through a whole process just to find out the same thing.
@FR3SHM3AT
5 ай бұрын
@@MeaninglessRubbish i would prefer if they just didnt show up tbh, the feeling of rejection is gonna hurt till you realize people are just different and want different things Edit: im not being mean, i just have low self confidence so i get the feels
@Gooniessss
5 ай бұрын
I think you need to work on yourself before trying to meet women.
@TB-us7el
5 ай бұрын
on what?
@Gooniessss
5 ай бұрын
@@TB-us7el Where do you start? I'm not trying to be rough on the guy. I tried to encourage him. I don't know his history but even his presentation. He rubs his neck, picks his ears and rubs his face. He needs to work on his demeanour with someone who can help him like a therapist.
@zimzam9166
5 ай бұрын
What attracted you to Japan before you came here?
@TB-us7el
5 ай бұрын
@@Gooniessss better to do things at the same time, can get a girl while still imperfect - same for everyone.
@Gooniessss
5 ай бұрын
@@TB-us7el "Getting girls" is why most men go wrong. What about getting to know someone and building a friendship and then maybe a relationship.
@kiryubelmont3222
5 ай бұрын
Go easy on yourself man, sorry it didnt work out. This is life, you need to stop looking for it and maybe something will find you. Seeking never works, do some things you enjoy - focus on yourself and things will happen.
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