I put the rest here but you can watch the full video by clicking the attached title. Subscribe for support :) "There are some tasks she can't do by herself, like walking stairs, or driving, but asides from that, she is completely independent, she lived alone at the time. Seeing this my friends started to look at me with disgust, saying I was taking advantage of her, or saying I am a freak, or that our relationship was just to satisfy some fetish I supposedly have. It didn't go great so I just distanced myself from those friends, and after a while I wanted to introduce her to my parents, which was a bad idea, since they had a worse reaction, they said to me (in private) that they didn't approve her, that she won't live very long, and that they don't want me to have children with her, it happened close to Christmas and when I asked if it was okay to bring her to the Christmas party with them they stumbled with words trying to find a polite way to decline, Marcela is smart, she understands what was going on, both with friends and my parents, but she didn't say anything. After that Marcela was distant and didn't speak much, and after a while she asked me if I really wanted to be with her, because she doesn't want to be with someone with friends and family that didn't accept her. I know I should've said yes, I know I should've cut those people out of my life to be with her, I now know I should've fought for the relationship, but I couldn't. I just told her that if she doesn't feel comfortable with me it would be okay to break up, we did, we didn't talk anymore, I stopped picking her up for work, she blocked me on social media everywhere and soon after she moved to a different company. I miss her, I miss her laugh, her stories, our relationship, her cat, her smile, laughing with her on our way to work, going out with her, holding her hand. I left her for nothing really, my friends kept making jokes about her, so I don't talk with them anymore, my parents are not very present in my life right now, and the other relationships I had after never felt the same. Sorry for the rant, I just can't take it anymore not being able to talk about it."
@Tyler-he4pf
5 ай бұрын
Well at least OP now sees what he lost and is able to realize it and create the proper distance between themselves and the toxic people in his life. That way when they find someone else they can actually standup for their relationship and call people out on their behavior. I believe if you don’t like someone no matter the reason be upfront and honest. Don’t beat around the bush and in this case force others to do what you would because they clearly couldn’t see past her disability and it didn’t sit right with them seeing you treat her like a person and not a burden.
@poonyaTara
5 ай бұрын
When my best friend asked me to dump my boyfriend I confronted her and explained that she can hate my boyfriend all she likes but that if she was going to insist I break up with him she should at least be honest about it being because he was black instead of making up lame excuses. She was the maid of honor at our wedding twenty years ago and now has two children with her husband who is an African-American serviceman. I understand lacking the courage to do the right thing in the moment, but I'm glad she was trustworthy enough to be able to become a better person for our friendship. I hope no woman puts my son with cerebral palsy through what you put her through.
@jadedixon3641
5 ай бұрын
OP should have dumped the family and friends and kept the girlfriend.
@VictoriaReadsReddit
5 ай бұрын
In the end he lost everyone
@Mayfloweralways
5 ай бұрын
One of the best things you can learn in life is not to live to please other people. Live with honor and integrity. But don’t make choices based on fear of what others might say or think.
@sarahlovesdogs49
5 ай бұрын
As a disabled woman this breaks my heart. Disabled people deserve to be included and accepted as much as able bodied people. Even if she wouldn't be as independent and capable as she is she would still be a lovable human being. Ableism sucks
@janicet2665
5 ай бұрын
You learned a valuable lesson..ypu may never find love again like this young women...Your friends were never your friends, your family were selfish and cared more about how folks look then your feelings or your heart.
@Grouchbox
5 ай бұрын
I hope Marcella finds someone who actually loves her. OP is not the victim he the nks he is here.
@duchess_of_petty9323
5 ай бұрын
You did her a favor. You’re weak
@nangma07
5 ай бұрын
Have you tried reaching out to her for a second chance? I'm not sure you deserve it but, nothing ventured nothing gained.
@Esrohlrig
5 ай бұрын
Try to find her again. It’s that simple. Your family and friends will adapt if they love you. Maybe they can learn to be more open minded. Because love like that isn’t easy to find.
@Grouchbox
5 ай бұрын
Why would she want him back? She deserves better than a guy who is ashamed of her.
@Esrohlrig
5 ай бұрын
@@Grouchbox you are right on that point. She probably already found someone that appreciates her in a more comprehensive way. But if I was the guy in the video, I do everything in my power to find her and spend every day trying to make up for my stupidity, if she’s open to that.
@oOIIIMIIIOo
5 ай бұрын
I wouldn't take him back.
@nsde5945
5 ай бұрын
@@Esrohlrigits sure worth the try. Imagine what a shame itd be if both of them were missing eachother and wishing they could go back.
@QueenMizu
5 ай бұрын
I had a boyfriend when I was in the 4th or 5th grade. Obviously nothing serious but to me this puppy love was everything. He was sweet and funny. We'd walk around the school together or go to the corner store together. He'd buy the snacks I'd buy the drinks. One day he just broke up with me right in the middle of class transitions, going to another classroom, like right in front of the classroom door basically. The kids already inside the room started whispering and snickering some kids still in the hallway who heard stopped and looked at us to see the drama. I asked him why because we just said I love you the other day. We never once fought so why? He told me he didn't want to date a slut. I was appalled! When I was little I wanted to be a "lady" so the farthest I've ever been with a boy at that time was a quick kiss on the cheek AND THAT BOY WAS HIM AT THAT 😤 (just pissed me off remembering that lol). I wanted to do something in that moment. Say something snarky or slap him or SOMETHING. But instead I walked to the bathroom and cried till a security guard escorted me to the principal's office. He moved classrooms after that and never talked again until 2018 I think. Past grammar school into the end of highschool at this point. He texted me on messenger to my surprise. Asked me if I remembered him. I told him yea and what did he want? He was looking to talk about what happened between us....in the fuckin 4th grade...🫤 I was like "ok....? What happened?" Since I was still curious why he broke up with me. Context I was heavily bullied at the school me and him went to. I transferred in from the south side to the west side and was already disliked for that. Then it got worse because I talked like a "white girl" aka I spoke proper english and didn't curse (at that time I would never curse). I was a teacher's pet because I said please and thank you to them and called them sir or ma'am/miss. The final nail in ghe coffin were my grades. I was a A honor roll student because the school I went to before this was further ahead. I already learned most of the stuff they were just learning so it was easy for me. They thought I thought I was better then others because I offered help when the teachers wouldn't (learned some differences of teaching because of this. West side teachers gave up on students hella fast and south side teachers were extremely racist 🫤). I just liked to help and was already done I never thought I was better. Regardless the students in our classroom hated me, bullied me, and eventually spread rumors to my boyfriend that I was a slut doing nasty things for other boys for money. That's why I always had money, not the fact that he knew me and my brother sold snacks in school which he'd get discounts for but ok. He believed them. Even tho he fucking KNEW me, but I clearly didn't know him. After reading him tell me his reasons I called bullshit on all of it. I told him he knew I never did any of those things he was just a coward because he was being bullied too. Not heavily, he was a tall kid and kids would make long/stretch jokes at him or have him do "tall people chores" 🙄 (I'm not trying to downplay his experience btw. I remember him complaining about it as an annoyance and inconvenience). He was scared of being with me. That if we stayed together the bullying would've got worse for him. I told him he sacrificed me, isolated me because he told others "why" we broke up. He told me I was right. That people were starting to talk and he didn't want to deal with it (valid feeling shitty execution). He was scared because he thought he would have to fight someone over me and he didn't want to (😢) at that time. BUT he grew up! He wanted to try again. He never stopped thinking about me and wanted to reconcile. He wanted another chance awww 🥺 my heart fluttered as I sent him pic after pic of me and my boyfriend of 2 years (now 8 ☺️❤️) told him how I had someone who would fight for me, who would stand by me, and most of all wouldn't listen to another bitch about US because it's between US. I have the perfect boyfriend and not curious in the slightest what we could've been. He stopped texting me for awhile after that 😂😂 like boy do I look that desperate? 🤣 He couldn't find another girlfriend, long term that is. He had become a neck beard 🤦♀️ I had moved back south for highschool he stayed west. Some people we knew from school got killed around this time...he messaged me crying. We cried together. Senseless gang violence. It hurt, they were good kids. I wasn't close to them be he was. He knew them better and was hurt. So I started talking to him. He didn't have friends. I talked to him, learned what happened to us as life went on, some bad things happened for him sadly. Some good things as well. He likes write stories. Mostly perverted ones but he really tries to make a good plot for it. I don't entirely enjoy talking to him but would it really kill me t9 be compassionate to him? He has no one. Just messaging him every few weeks doesn't harm anyone. He seems happier...so i guess I'll stay around a bit longer. The stories aren't all bad. Sorry for the long story! Tldr childhood ex broke up with me over lies and cowardency. Showed up years later wanting to date again. Turned him down hard. Some months later he lets me know a couple of our classmates were killed in gang violence (they were in the wrong place at the worst time). We formed a semi one sided friendship afterwards.
@PhobicEra
5 ай бұрын
Wow. I can’t believe I just read all that. I usually skip the ones with “read more”. Even when I want to read them I end up skipping after a few lines. I have never ever.
@QueenMizu
5 ай бұрын
@@PhobicEra I'm surprised you read all that too. I was procrastinating when I was writing this and just wrote everything on my mind 😂
@lilykhandker4126
5 ай бұрын
I'm glad I read your story It shows you had ambition and did not let this 'idiot' and your classmates destroy you I'm pleased that you are living a happy and successful life
@QueenMizu
5 ай бұрын
@@lilykhandker4126 thank you for your kind words. Honestly it means a lot to read ❤️🤗
@lilykhandker4126
5 ай бұрын
@@QueenMizu I normally don't make a second post but I've seen it come up in other posts/video I would first like to say that I'm British - the child of a non-English speaking immigrants I don't understand when some African American don't seem to be able to speak proper English I remember watching a Judge Judy episode. She did not allow a young African American girl use slang and made her speak properly. The girl found it very difficult to do. At the time I felt very sorry for the girl, as this inability to speak properly would hold her back in life Anyway, like I said I hope your life and career is going well
@Charlotte_1267
4 ай бұрын
you should never leave someone cuz other people don't like them ❤
@joybernard7359
5 ай бұрын
Go back to her!
@lilykhandker4126
5 ай бұрын
It's been nearly 6 yrs. I'm sure she found someone who appreciates her At least he has grown up!!
@kpopopedia7402
5 ай бұрын
Na she deserves better. Hopefully she would have found someone who genuinely values her and cares for her. Poor woman😢
@Grouchbox
5 ай бұрын
Why would she want him back? He ditched her due to a disability, and now he is the saddest victim.
@grigotts
4 ай бұрын
Honestly, I don't feel sorry for OP at all. He valued others opinion over the "love of his life"
@SatumainenOlento
5 ай бұрын
It depends. If you were young and foolish and can explain to her that you felt pressured by your family. But also take FULL responcibility of your very very bad and foolish choice...yes, you have a chance to have her back. I think that you need to prove your worthiness again tho. I mean a long long time she will be afraid that you leave her again. It surely was traumatic for her. And do not expect her to take you back. It might not happen. You did hurt her badly. And the new relationship with her might not be the same as the previous one. It will take time for trust to build up. It is like starting from the beginning to date her. Small steps. Do not let her friendzone you. Be clear that you are interested of her romanticly. And always will be.
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