My brother attempted suicide in at least four different ways (that the family was aware of) over a 15 year period of time. Each attempt was preceded by an event in his life that he believed he couldn’t cope with. Each time, he was aware that someone would find him to initiate a rescue. His final attempt, swallowing radiator coolant that he mixed into a cocktail, left him with irreversible kidney damage. After receiving sporadic counseling over the years, along with a diagnosis and medication, which he refused to continue taking (he didn’t want to be “controlled by drugs”), he was paired with a counselor at the hospital where he had become a ‘frequent flier’. After years of nice talk therapy, this guy called out my brother for his attention-seeking manipulative behavior. He was bipolar and angry that his life choices had lead him down a less successful pathway than the one he perceived his siblings taking. The counselor confronted him about his refusal to take his meds and his suicide attempts meant to harness the family’s attention and resources. There was a reason why he survived the attempts at taking his life; most likely because he truly wanted to live by being validated by others. He never attempted suicide again, and lived a quiet life on disability, withdrawing from family as our parents died, but keeping in contact with very close friends that understood his bipolar disorder and self-medicating through alcohol and drugs.
@sims398
Жыл бұрын
I had to make peace with the fact I could not save my daughter. Hardest thing you have to do.🤗
@dustyyshellz1320
Ай бұрын
That emoji 💀
@Olacoker
Жыл бұрын
Whoah this is like my mom is calling in about me. I needed my parents to choose me, I chose being perfect as my defense mechanism. The first failure I had I was suicidal… I had to leave medical school and my parents couldn’t handle my failure or depression. My parents gave my little sister so much more love and understanding than I got and I will always say that I love that she is getting the best versions of my parents. I do wish they could be that for me too one day.
@KatAttack130
Жыл бұрын
It’s so hard….. if it means anything, I’m rooting for you, no matter what you do!
@janiceparkerson4727
Жыл бұрын
God bless your heart. Jesus loves you 🙏🙏🙏.
@mimimonster
Жыл бұрын
God bless you. I hope you can find the love for yourself to make up for their faults as parents to make up the difference. You do have the power to do this and you deserve it!!! Hope the future looks bright for you and you can achieve your dreams.
@blueStarKitt7924
11 күн бұрын
😔 May you heal and find peace and love.🙏❤️
@jomontanee
Жыл бұрын
John did a great job in digging deep into “house environment that contributes to suicide “, “mom’s angry response to her daughter’s need”, “bias love from the estranged father who treats the step sister better than her” and “ingrained childhood loneliness”. KUDO to John. Considering all the factors in the daughter’s life, no wonder why she cut herself and suicidal. She felt so alone, unloved, uncared and UNWORTHY OF LOVE. Ps. I love the exercise of weighted cylinder.
@blueStarKitt7924
11 күн бұрын
😔😔😔
@Koraeffect
Жыл бұрын
it hurts knowing people love you but dont know why because you cant even love yourself. is it real? can you trust this feeling? how long will this last? why do they even care? all these questions causing doubt.... i hope she never gives up and accepts loving people in her life and trusts again
@blueStarKitt7924
11 күн бұрын
Yes.😔
@paulrodriguez8852
Жыл бұрын
It's sad that many young women can't find no other option then death. Hopefully Dr. Delony's advice may help
@David-wo9un
Жыл бұрын
Actually men commit suicide at a much higher rate; it’s sad for both genders.
@katwilliams2950
Жыл бұрын
You are truly doing God's work and blessing more than just this woman. You are saying things that I wish I'd hear from certain people, have put things into perspective, gave me words to explain how I felt in college and why I've done things, and while I will more than likely need to revisit this video down the line, currently I feel a slight sense of peace. Just a small weight lifted from my heart. Thank you so much.
@mimimonster
Жыл бұрын
It is time that parents are allowed help with adults children’s mental healthcare. Something has to give.
@stephengallagher2209
2 ай бұрын
JD often misses the mark, but he was brilliant on this most serious of topics.
@brandyk
Күн бұрын
Listen to John and do this now. My mother was similar only she had dealt many years with my brothers addiction n as you know,you can't just divorce your kids even when they are adults n even have kids of their own ( especially then) but she got so accustomed to my brother apologizing for all the things he did,that of course were wrong once he became a frequent user n addict that she never ever had to look at her own role in any disagreement. My sister was "perfect" and lived overseas with her family so there was never any real conflict there n if there were it would not be something either would think is appropriate to bring up especially when you only see someone 2 weeks out of the year on average. She n my father had long given up on setting or even appropriately discussing any area of disagreement or contention perhaps bc the few times they did it was unproductive n deteriorated. So I was essentially the family truth teller. Willing n wanting to appropriately discuss things I was upset about,not even in childhood but adulthood n she took everything very defensively n started hurling even more grenades adding insult to injury. Even with my suicide attempt n eventually cutting in my early 40' which they eventually found out about n even with her going to see my counselors with me, neither they nor she on her own could get past her own defensiveness. I'll be 58 in 2 days n she is 84 n we are still estranged. Wouldn't surprise me if she sends me a birthday text as she sometimes does but as usual it will never include the words I've always wanted to hear "I'm sorry. '
@ineedhoez
Жыл бұрын
This is so sad.
@girlonlaptop
Жыл бұрын
College is the worst place she can be.
@brandyk
Күн бұрын
Her daughter told her n she brushed it aside n went in to defense mode. She should know better especially being a psych nurse. She shouldnt even be a psych nurse. She is probably reacting to those poor souls in a defensive way. She is a right fighter n needs to get her own help. She is clearly angry at her daughter.
@brandyk
Күн бұрын
You could send her all the text messages in the world but they are not the right ones..it's not always what you say but what you don't.
@Delaquintiny
2 ай бұрын
😢😢😢😢😢
@judyjerrell6563
Жыл бұрын
My daughter will be 21 this year but last year tried to kill herself twice. 😭
@murdahmammiez
23 күн бұрын
Please tell us shes doing better now
@judyjerrell6563
23 күн бұрын
@@murdahmammiez she's doing so much better. Im so thankful. Thank you for asking.
@blueStarKitt7924
11 күн бұрын
@judyjerrell6563 🙏❤️
@David-wo9un
Жыл бұрын
I don’t understand why an RN who works in psychology/psychiatry would call a podcast for help; doesn’t she work with qualified physicians who could help her?
@lindyloowho7
Жыл бұрын
Just because your profession is in psychology, doesn't mean you can't get other ideas. Maybe she doesn't want to disclose her problems at work! It's not a good idea! You have to seek a doctor that works for your personality!
@lesliekanengiser8482
Жыл бұрын
If they aren't in demonstrably immediate danger, you can't really do much.
@hannahbelcher4241
Жыл бұрын
Well also, which would get the most attention? (Specifically for the mother)
@ryansack5198
Ай бұрын
I just don’t understand cutting at all.
@ellie-kc4kj
Ай бұрын
Self hatred and mental illness. They can't focus on anything mentally, so the pain is physical and real. Obviously it's not a healthy thing, it's usually a cry for help. Not an expert, though.
@blueStarKitt7924
11 күн бұрын
There are mental health websites that explain all this very well.
@karenhardie1132
Жыл бұрын
Once they turn 18 they are a legal adult. You can't do anything, they make their own choices.
@JustinCase780
Жыл бұрын
Cold as ice.
@karenhardie1132
Жыл бұрын
@@JustinCase780 It's not being cold. As a social worker or cop you can't chapter 51 someone unless they hurt themselves or others. I have worked with families begging for help often times then it is to late.
@JustinCase780
Жыл бұрын
@@karenhardie1132 Yes, it's being cold. It's her daughter and of course she can make a difference. "You can't do anything" is b.s.
@chiragmehta8212
2 ай бұрын
@@JustinCase780agreed
@annberlin5811
Жыл бұрын
Parents dont let their kids fail, so they dont learn the relief of overcoming
@blueStarKitt7924
11 күн бұрын
Exactly.😔
@blueStarKitt7924
11 күн бұрын
Exactly.😔
@ryansack5198
Ай бұрын
“Wanting to feel something real” doesn’t seem logical to me.. it’s seems dramatic..
@blueStarKitt7924
11 күн бұрын
There are mental health websites that explain all this very well.
@truthbetold6942
Жыл бұрын
I hate when grown women giggle through talking about horrible situations. Grow up. It isn’t funny. You are an adult, and act like it.
@jenniproctor1345
Жыл бұрын
Some people laugh when they’re nervous or overly emotional.
@christopervontungeln3127
Жыл бұрын
I literally came over here to say what Jenni Proctor said. Giggling during a conversation that is hard is a defense mechanism to not show how truly devastating the words that come out of your mouth actually are.
@jomontanee
Жыл бұрын
YOU should do 2 things Kristina, 1. Exercise compassion. You have lack of it. 2. Learn basic psychology. Giggle is defense mechanism. Deal with it.
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