Stop saying im never drinking again.that just puts pressure on and sets you to fail.just get up every day and say im not drinking today .and when you go up to bed at night give yourself a smile in the mirror and say well done x
@BDogs10
3 ай бұрын
.do not serve notice.. Alan Watts: ‘the Art of the Sly Man’
@gregmonahan990
3 ай бұрын
One minute at a time
@bristlefist
3 ай бұрын
I'm sorry but you clearly know zero about alcoholism. If it were as simple as saying "I'm not drinking today" there wouldn't be any alcoholics left. This kind of advice does more harm than good
@Tidnull
3 ай бұрын
@@bristlefistif it was a simple as CHOOSING not drinking today, there would only one program to end them all: the "just dont drink today" program. Gee thanks, never thought about it like that!
@emilymccartney1593
3 ай бұрын
@@Tidnull Don’t be so f**king rude. It might have worked for her!
@MakoIIe
4 ай бұрын
i am six and a half years past my last whiskey sip. Once you're really on the bottom and have enough, you will stop. Some people just need to sit on the bottom longer than others. The decision needs to be final and there has to be no more excuses. Pain is a part of life that one has to accept and stop running away from.
@KimberlyJose-si2sv
3 ай бұрын
I started drinking since my teenage, got addicted to alcohol. Spent my whole life fighting alcohol addiction. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with OCD. Not until my husband recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
@DonnDenisse
3 ай бұрын
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
@Wimruther-hk4zn
3 ай бұрын
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
@MichaelDavidson-qi7ts
3 ай бұрын
Yes he's Dr.alishrooms.Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
@PriscillaLogan-by9ll
3 ай бұрын
From my experience it really works excellently! It doesnt even need to be a full hit. With potent shrooms 2-3 small ones will still make a clear difference. It will be a few hour cosy rumbling moment around rest time, but afterwards its just calm and you feel amazing and gain your freedom. Psilocybin is different dudes, its the only "treatment" I would recommend to someone who genuinely wants to get better. There is no addiction, withdrawal, or negative side effects. It's just pure healing., far more effective than any anti-depressant. You can thank me later,
@JesseJason-qc7ug
3 ай бұрын
I was horrifically depressed since childhood. It was relentless. I assumed it would ultimately end me somehow. About twelve years ago I randomly accepted the offer from a friend of a few doses of mushrooms. I did them two consecutive nights alone. First night was pretty mild. The second night? Wow. I saw my depression from every angle, realized much. Next day: depression totally gone. Never came back, never coming back. It's like it's a forest far away I can remember, and could probably find again with enough effort, but it has zero impact on anything in my life or mind. They honestly saved my life and improved it immensely. I never did them again, either. I wish there was a good, organized way to administer them to people who would benefit from them.
@archangel_josh
4 ай бұрын
Man, thanks for your honesty. Never quit quitting. Dust yourself off, be kind to yourself, give it time, you've got a brain with 30+ days of drinking so give it a few weeks for your brain to return to normal. Like you said, eat good/exercise/sleep and after a week you should feel better. Learn from this - look into your mind in the days leading up to going away and find out why you thought it would be ok to drink. Relapses start way before your first sip. It sounds like you thought it would be ok to moderate, which is a hard lesson that we need to learn that we cannot ever have ANY alcohol. I'm 604 days sober here, couldn't go more than a week without getting wasted back when I drank. You'll be ok mate, you'll learn from this - I promise.
@DavePoint84
4 ай бұрын
This feels too real man. The thank you for sharing your journey the ups and downs. I’m routing for you, I hit 8 months sober today and am so thankful for others putting themselves out there. It’s helped me a ton. Get back on the horse! You got this :)
@joneljones4181
4 ай бұрын
I couldn’t stop either. I’ve been sober 9 years. We admitted we are powerless over alcohol in our lives, have become unmanageable. There are people wait you for you to help.
@leigh7507
4 ай бұрын
Well done for putting yourself out there. Anyone who is a true drinker will understand the pain of relapse and the guilt and the shame because you thought you knew better. Its a journey and I hope you learn something each time you endure your lows.
@luigitosti7599
4 ай бұрын
You got this buddy ! I relapsed after two years sober, took awhile, but I ended up in the same “shit pile” that I was in before. Respect from Canada, I’m 45, I just tell my friends and family, “no whiskey till I’m 60”, one day at a time ! I would say good luck, but it’s not luck, I tell myself “I don’t know if I’ll drink again, but I know that today I’m not going to drink”, helps me.
@0tteru
4 ай бұрын
I know you're going through the struggle of relapse but after being a daily drinker for years YOU are motivating me. I want to get away from this shit, I know for sure that you can, and you're helping me know that I can too.
@jamesoflaherty7332
4 ай бұрын
I'm 7 years sober . For me sobriety was not a possibility until I realized that I could never have a moderate relationship with alcohol. That my addiction was bigger than myself and out of my control and always would be. Good luck Brother
@HaydenPettit-dx8dv
3 ай бұрын
Well done 👍 I’ve had to accept that as well
@kennethleitch8709
4 ай бұрын
My father was an Alcoholic and I watched him struggle for years to stop. I vowed never to drink, I am scared I would be the same.
@BDogs10
3 ай бұрын
there’s nothing wrong with a drink or 3. You gotta be a bit mature (& obviously) not have a problem with the drink
@kennethleitch8709
3 ай бұрын
@@BDogs10 If only that worked, they'd be no alcoholics.
@BDogs10
3 ай бұрын
totally🙏 . My Dad was an alcoholic too. he couldn’t stop at (1) & I couldn’t for a longtime either. I discovered later in life majority of ppl chill back on a few & are ok
@jbennison5672
3 ай бұрын
Of course it works. Depends on the individual.@@kennethleitch8709
@peacelilly739
4 ай бұрын
AA has helped me to stay abstinent from alcohol, and, emotionally sober, for 7 years now..... one day at a time. I tried lots of other ways. It might be worth a try. I understand your pain. maybe give it a go. You don't have to do this alone. 🙏
@robertriebel8064
4 ай бұрын
Going to Thailand and thinking your not going to drink... Come on Man 😂
@wwalkerproductions
4 ай бұрын
thinking you are better off drunk around your kids because you'll be in a better mood than sober is an issue.
@Mark-eg2yd
4 ай бұрын
Generally yes but after a 6 week bender it's not something I'd condolemn him for.. To remain a drunk in front of your kids growing up is a different matter entirely.
@Catlady52000
4 ай бұрын
No one is better off drunk.
@DICEcommander
4 ай бұрын
That’s satan
@harrybaker9044
4 ай бұрын
That is indeed satan. I have kids and I am an alcoholic. The voices in your head tell you that you will cope better if you have a few drinks. It doesn't work. It never works. This is the devil talking to you. The destroyer of everything.
@stephanielake8169
4 ай бұрын
Agreed. Gaurentee you no one else thinks he is in a better mood while drinking except him
@patrickcate1070
4 ай бұрын
My heart goes out to you man. Your story reminds me so much of my own. The fact of the matter is that alcoholism isn't a self-improvement problem - it's a disease, and there is no amount of self-will or drive or reminding yourself of your convictions, etc., that can end it, because addiction has access to those very same parts of yourself, and hijacks them. It wasn't until I really surrendered that it got better, and surrender meant not just admitting I was an alcoholic, but asking for help. I had to ask for help from other people, especially other people who were in recovery.
@travisa20
3 ай бұрын
You’ve got a lot of people judging you in the comments but I just want to say that I appreciate you putting your journey out there. Almost everyone who quits a serious drinking problem goes through years of relapses. That’s why people call it a journey
@Catlady52000
4 ай бұрын
Idk who you are but you popped up on my feed…. I am you…had a year and fell off. Starting over ….lets do this! I subscribed and will watch some of your older videos. Good luck! Thanks for the honestly!
@Mal3xander
4 ай бұрын
You are not your present or your future, just now so don't blame yourself for neather, just do batter for today. Believe in you dude! You got this!
@chrisbfreelance
4 ай бұрын
Get yourself to an AA meeting ASAP, you don't need to instantly get a sponsor or do the steps, but just listen and tell your story. There is no rhyme nor reason why it works, but identifying with a fellow sick and suffering alcoholic, or decade long sober alcoholics does wonders. It's free and only costs your time, your current trajectory will cost you more than money ever could.
@bristlefist
3 ай бұрын
In AA the solution to alcoholism IS the steps. Why would you loiter in misery, doing damage to your family(the worst part) and yourself if it was unnecessary. Some may find just going to meetings enough. I would venture this bloke may be beyond that. If just going to meetings was enough AA would have an impeccable success rate. Unfortunately, so many share the message you are sharing and for most it leads to relapse and a misunderstanding of the very first step in AA
@ashkatleorock-jf8tl
4 ай бұрын
Do not listen to these a$$ h0/3 trolls who criticize your efforts. I want to see their video progress up here! Talk is cheap behind a screen… I say to them, “put up or shut up! “. All of this is a part of you journey. I posted in your first video, to check out This Naked Mind. You are so far ahead in your journey then you realize! I have no skin in the game. Don’t know the author or anything like that. But it really changed my outlook on my progress! I really think it will help you in your outlook! Again, I think it’s admirable you put yourself out there. It is helping someone! Keep it up!👍
@markg.4246
4 ай бұрын
"I have no skin in the game". Translation, "I don't know what I'm talking about, because I have no actual experience". Only opinions.
@leetarrant5630
4 ай бұрын
This naked mind Annie Grace
@jeffdahlman8581
4 ай бұрын
You are RAD, buddy - keep on track - I had to go into a rehab. 3 times before it stuck for more than a few months - I am at 563 days - year and a half - there are still days that sneak in where I think ...MAYBE...just maybe I can have a beer at the BBQ - but I have to relive and replay those tapes of how shitty I felt mentally and physically. .and how I will actually die if I do !! .It WILL happen man - it will !!! surround yourself with others who know -- much love to you brother !! keep talking about it !!
@tjfSIM
3 ай бұрын
Man I know this feeling so well. First of all don't beat yourself up - it's hard, it's really hard. But you're not back at day 1, you've just hit another bend in the road but as long as you stay on that road, keep getting back on it and don't give up, it will straighten out. Even if you trip up, every day sober still counts, because that's another day when you didn't punish your body, and you didn't wake up full of anxiety and regret. If you do slip up it's not back to square one, it's just reminding you why you're doing this, and why it's so important to stick with it.
@airaozolina7555
4 ай бұрын
Never give up! Be sober for just today and keep going! I am with you man! You are doing better than you think!
@airaozolina7555
4 ай бұрын
Love and light!
@thebaldyorkshireman9019
3 ай бұрын
Hey man! Everything that you have said in this video I can relate to. You are literally telling my story. I'm 8 years sober and still loving the sober life, but before I got sober I relapsed for a year after been sober for 3 years. I needed to relapse in order to understand that I simply do not have the ability to drink moderately, just like you! When you stop you will 100% feel anxious, overwhelmed, and emotional, but give it a few months and you will start to gain clarity and feel less anxious. For me, it was anxiety that kept me drinking as I just couldn't stand it and when I did drink it got worse, so I would drink more and more. I have so much that I could share with you that I belive would be helpful.
@phillipwhite4741
4 ай бұрын
It’s a process and it takes time, as long as you never give up you’ll get there. One day at a time ,Stay strong mate
@AshlingMcgovern-ir9bu
3 ай бұрын
Im 40 I was same as you from 22 to 35. It took me relapse time and time again and again. It takes time and rock bottom and as long as u want to stop keep trying cos one day u will say f enuf is enuf now im 5 yrs sober trust me i drank everyday for over 15 years while working while being a mother it caught up but you got this u are self aware u are strong and u still have your health your looks so it will be ok
@pic101
3 ай бұрын
This was a really great video. I watch a lot of BS on YT and for once, this was as real as it gets. Bravo. You seem like a top bloke. We all have out stuff, you have a much better chance of getting on top of it by fessing up like this.
@Koop85
4 ай бұрын
Good luck on your journey you can do it. My advice is to not overthink it. Focus on all of the benefits of not drinking. Sometimes when youre craving a drink, youre literally just thirsty for water. Takes awhile to form new habits as you know but im hoping you stay positive and dont beat yourself up. Keep on fighting. Thanks for sharing your journey, you can do it bro just commit and let it go
@susannemaynard6380
3 ай бұрын
I am reading and following the book "How to Eat to Change How you Drink" and noticing that it is greatly reducing the desire to drink alcohol. Wishing you self compassion and Grace. You are awesome!
@luke4444
2 ай бұрын
Totally relate to isolation, depression. It only gets worse. Never gets better if you continue. Rock bottoms gets worse until going to the gym, eating healthy are off the agenda all together. Alcohol is baffling, powerful enemy that ultimately wants you dead. Once all that truly sinks in and you surrender to its power over you... Stay away from the first drink.. Today, tomorrow
@georgiastewart4479
3 ай бұрын
Give yourself credit, this is not easy!. The positive part of this is that you realize you have a problem, and care enough to try again. You have a good attitude about changing, and doing better. This too shall pass. Keep up the good work
@Leahmoonbeamflower
4 ай бұрын
I have too much soul to drink spirits. Yet somehow, I still decide to consume that poison. Why? Why I ask myself? Why do I decide to let the devil’s pee touch my beautiful lips time and time again? I’m currently a week free from the grog and the brain fog has lifted..and I want to stay this way. I WANT to stay this way. I want to feel good. Skin clear. Eyes seeing exactly what’s in front of me. Life seems and feels wonderful. This is just a week of being alcohol free. I want to stay this way. What keeps me going back? Of course it’s boredom and trauma and wanting to loose control and wanting to “ have fun”… and etc…. I’m so over wanting to numb my life. I can’t have just one or just two or just 3 drinks. The truth is, I’ll drink until I pass out. F alcohol. It has done nothing for me except make me feel terrible for days after. I will deal with my trauma I will put it somewhere positive. I will turn my pain into power. I will deal with boredom without alcohol. The most beautiful flowers sprout from bullshite and it’s time to grow.
@sullykhan7237
4 ай бұрын
Absolutely beautifully said honest to God
@Leahmoonbeamflower
4 ай бұрын
@@sullykhan7237 ☺️💕😊
@OutofPocket005
3 ай бұрын
Love this. Its All facts I'm with you.
@Leahmoonbeamflower
3 ай бұрын
@@sullykhan7237 thank you. I hope your day is going good.
@Leahmoonbeamflower
3 ай бұрын
@@OutofPocket005 ☺️☺️☺️
@Veromoi4
3 ай бұрын
You are not alone!!! Please just know I know exactly what you’re feeling. Never stop trying to get better 🙏 start over. When you’re sober long enough, miracles within yourself will happen.
@eastwoofer
3 ай бұрын
My advice is to also quite caffeine. It will give you the true peace of mind and calmness you need. Get a good tasting decaf and start you're true day number one. You'll get great sleep and in no time meet your younger self. How good you'll soon feel will shock you. No caffeine in your life is true sobriety.
@1gavin629
3 ай бұрын
Man, this sounds just like what I was feeling and saying to myself. Alcohol is a beast, it is a symptom of some mental game which takes time to understand and heal. I'm 25 years old, been sober for 250+ days from alcohol. Took me many years of drinking almost everyday with my longest streak being 17 days until now. Hang in there, it gets easier but when those urges to drink come up, it's a symptom of something deeper. I wish I could drink my problems away some days, but I know it would lead me right back to where I was...trapped. I liken sobriety to passing through an invisible wall in a video game, it took so many day ones but randomly, one day that turned into the streak I have now. Admitting I was powerless and truly seeing it was a huge step. AA helped probably the most and most of the times I just sat in and listened. I haven't done the steps, I will in time but don't put too much pressure on yourself. You don't have to do 1000 things in this specific order to get sober. Just gotta see the progress of sobriety and finally see and say "Hey, I have a chance to keep this going. Why would I want to go back to that life?" The days are not always easy, but it sure is better than where they were at in active drinking. Stay strong. You can cross that invisible wall too, just need to get help from AA or someone other than yourself. Will power alone is not enough to beat this beast in my experience, only to allow the sobriety to glide.
@carmenl163
2 ай бұрын
The recognition that something deeper is going on makes you wise beyond your years. I've learned that it's all about finding peace inside yourself. I wish you all the best.
@LotusCordova
3 ай бұрын
I can relate to these feelings. I quit drinking about 8 years ago after getting black out drunk, nightly, for an extended period of time. May I offer what helped ME and maybe/hopefully this will be words of help to you or someone that reads this. I quit and luckily, I never relapsed. I didn’t hold these “goals” over myself. That’s a huge weight and amount of pressure, and ultimately so many people turn BACK to the bottle because those personal pressures are just to much. This is definitely a physical, but MOST of this quitting process is mental. What helped me is I didn’t set these “achievement goals”. I had simple focus of 1) I am in charge of my life and not alcohol. I wanted to prove I could. 2) I kept my family in mind. My daughter asked if “it made me feel better”. The answer was obviously, “NO, it makes me feel worse”. When I didn’t have a good answer for her…THAT is the key that changed my mindset. You are bigger than this. Don’t put these huge pressures of different goals, in my opinion. Find the SIMPLE truths of WHY to quit and it’s mind over matter. I’m a super high anxiety/battle depressive states often. But I know it’s MENTAL and isn’t “real” unless I make it real. If I can do it, anyone can kick it. Find 3 simple reasons WHY you want to….and run with it.
@Babyboffa2018
3 ай бұрын
If moderation were possibly you wouldn't have an alcohol problem. You can NEVER drink again: not now, not next week, not next year, not in 10,20,30,40 years. Never means never, no excuses. Once you've accepted that you'll be on the road to success.
@xy4859
4 ай бұрын
Here's what I do instead of beating myself up. Never drink in my area/country except exceptionally if invited to a real celebration (like end of basketball season get together) but I don't ever get wasted. When I travel abroad like on surf trips, beer allowed and then I quit within a couple of days until next trip or meaningful celebration. This works because I don't let alcohol in my everyday setting so my brain doesn't expect it there. Also lots of sports and strong mind. This is an illustration of how the 80/20 rule can work, but I know this might not work if you are really addicted.
@justinaoska5901
Ай бұрын
I haven't drunk for 13 years 2,5 years ago I relapsed with alcohol Now I start again , I want to be sober because these were the best years of my life God bless you Greetings from Germany
@redsoxxfn
2 ай бұрын
Some of us have an allergy to alcohol. We react abnormally when we consume it. Meaning, drinking socially or in moderation simply doesn't work. It may for a day or two, but it's simply not sustainable. One day at a time seems to be a much simpler way to sustain sobriety. For me, I always looked at alcohol as the problem, but what I now realize is that it had become my solution to all of my problems. Not saying AA is the only way to recover, because there are many pathways to recovery, but it has given me new freedom and a new happiness to the point that I no longer have the desire to drink or drug. I simply try to concentrate on doing the next right thing, and remember that so long as I dont drink today, I have a fighting chance at living the life I and my family deserve. I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability and am wishing you strength and peace on your recovery journey!
@raidermt81
3 ай бұрын
Find a sober community that you can lean on. We can't do it by ourselves. For me that was AA, but there are plenty of other resources. Attending meetings, listening to experiences, wisdom of others, and working the program is the structure/support i need to make this a lifelong process. We need to relearn how to live sober and AA does that for me. Best of luck. Praying for you.
@MarkSmith-tp6zc
2 ай бұрын
Keep going mate, I do find counting days can become an obsession, think of it as a daily job that you know how to do and win at. Take comfort in the realm of the boring and fuck the extremities of booze.
@henryblatchford5611
3 ай бұрын
Your not alone brother your Definitely being heard. mine was 100 proof tavarski for 14 years I'd last a month to 4 months then relapse so i'm back Trying to get sober again its like my 7th day. Withdrawals are a pain in the ass.But It will get better!
@steveg2203
3 ай бұрын
You can do it, your not powerless. Don't beat yourself up, just pick yourself up and look forward.
@Mark-eg2yd
4 ай бұрын
I hope I am wrong but you don't seem ready to stop yet. You're doing well to quit for some periods of time so you should be proud of that. I thought I was a lost cause and that I'd die a drunk having "fun" but I too reached THE DAY. Unfortunately it took an attempted suicide from horrible withdrawal symptoms. DT's, hearing voices etc.. IMO you need medical help. You seem to have a very extreme personality. It is crazy going to the gym, eating healthily when detoxing. That's quite frankly unimportant for the time being and just making a go at sobriety is effort enough. This is almost a couple of months old so I hope you're still going strong. Good luck
@logannixon231
4 ай бұрын
I agree with u I hope he stays strong but your right u have to make that decision same for me took me going to hospital basically having a seizure cause of withdrawal to quit it takes rock bottom sometimes unfortunately
@1pelicanmarsh
4 ай бұрын
I feel for you. However idk what youre going thru....but I have seen your struggle and pain both in this video and others. I do see you giving your all to figure a path to change things. It seems as if what you're up against is not just a habit or pattern of behavior, but it's something chemical youre fighting. A couple great things on your side (imo) is your discipline with diet and working out and most importantly your kids. You also seem to genuinely like working out (again not me) but I would think that could be a useful diversion and source for working out the angst. When the time is right you may need to enlist some pro help to change patterns, as youre up against something bigger than most humans can handle alone. Wishing you the best and try to be less hard on yourself until you find a more successful path. Best G
@love-xh1zg
4 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing...its a good thing when you realize u are not capable of moderate drinking...so u know if u want to be free of alcohol frustration u cant pick up that first one... U r on the journey...u'll get there!!!Wish u ali the best!!!
@jadomi2076
4 ай бұрын
Mate you can never drink alcohol again. Ever. Simple as that.
@joko09010
3 ай бұрын
Once we grasp that alcohol is NEVER an option for us, it actually makes it so much easier. Any other way comes with too much work and too many consequences. 💪🏻💙
@Tidnull
3 ай бұрын
@@joko09010"at a certain point in the drinking of every alcoholic, he passes into a state where the most powerful desire to stop drinking is of absolutely no avail" AA p.24 "This is the baffling feature of alcoholism as we know it--this utter inability to leave it alone no matter how great the necessity or the wish." AA p.34 In other words, knowledge that we must stop, or die, is ultimately useless.
@dennismetzger9287
3 ай бұрын
Same for me, it's my brutal truth. It took me 3 years of trying to stop to actually stop. Knowing myself I know 1 sip will lead to a bottle
@SenorPain81
3 ай бұрын
Having a beer right now. It's so cold. Delicious when it's like that. Cheers
@petarnikolov3227
3 ай бұрын
@SenorPain81 I don't like beer. Alcohol isn't my favorite. I'm not an alcoholic. But I'm a drug addict to stimulants. Wanna roll a Meth pipe, smoke some, and reply here to spite me? 😂
@stanleycostello9610
3 ай бұрын
Recovering alcoholic (19 years sober). There are some people that say AA is bs. Not for me. Drunks talking to drunks. Every member of AA knows what you're going through. They also say that the "Higher Power" is also bs. To them I say, the Higher Power is within you. Take it or leave it as you see fit. Best of luck to you.
@Cracktune
2 ай бұрын
respect and Godspeed.
@scottlumbatis101
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for your candor! Great Message. I can relate to everything you talked about!
@travisclymer4481
3 күн бұрын
I feel for you. I’m sorry man. I am on a methadone clinic and ever since I started taking methadone I haven’t drank. When it crosses my mind, I just remind myself I hate being sick and feeling like shit after a binge. F that! The methadone helps w anxiety and whatnot a lot. Good luck, I hope you beat it!
@JM-uo5vp
3 ай бұрын
Don’t give up dude. 6 weeks on the sauce isn’t too bad. You’re smart enough to know it’s got to stop now. Stay strong - 6 weeks is nothing
@jackaustin5629
3 ай бұрын
Hey bro, thanks for sharing, I’m sorry you’ve gone through this. I don’t want to preach or to tell you how to go about this. But I’ve been 18 months sober now, and I take a different approach to AA. It is something that has worked for me personally extremely well although it is very different from the AA approach. You clearly on some level see there is some benefit to alcohol, which means on some level, there is always a battle of willpower there, a temptation which is a constant source of pain. You’re not drinking because you know you can’t - rather than because you don’t want to. I have used I guess what is best described as the ‘Alan Carr’ approach to my drinking problem, which was quite severe (daily drinker, hugely deceitful, behaviorally addicted). I have actively unpicked and alcohol and its place in its society to the point where I see it as a pernicious poison, and I actively have learned to hate alcohol. It’s a long and difficult process and it takes a great deal of ‘paradigm shifting’ - but I truly see alcohol as a disgusting and evil substance now, which has helped me immensely. I know this is a huge departure from the AA model, and therefore isn’t for everyone, just as AA wasn’t for me. Just to be clear, as a massive disclaimer, I am not dissing AA as I know it has literally saved many people’s lives, however there is multiple ways to approach this problem in my opinion, and my sobriety has been really steady with very little craving (if any) any more, and I feel very confident I will never drink again (however you can only take one day at a time - that is something I hugely agree with the AA model on) anyway good luck to you and anyone on the journey and I wish you well x
@pauldoyle9334
3 ай бұрын
I feel for u. Common you will get a handle on this shit. YOU CAN !
@arobersonable
3 ай бұрын
Me too. Thank you thank you thank you-it's lonely in this place.
@jackedkerouac4414
3 ай бұрын
I managed to stay sober 51 days since I was 14 years old. That's nuts. I'm 49 now and that 7 week sobriety streak was last year. Ever since then I can go 2, maybe 5 days and it's back to binge drinking. I don't know why I lost my mojo. The only thing I can surmise is that I am not going into it with 100% confidence and dedication. You're not alone brother. Let's not dwell on the supposed failures. That inner dialog is poison. Let's f'kn do this.
@hoosierbaddy3052
4 ай бұрын
When I finally saw how my drinking affected my stepdaughter, I was horrified. I didn’t quit then. But one cannot say that drinking around children is ok. Their little psyches are decimated by the embarrassing drunk behavior of their parents. Whether it’s outright abuse or neglect or being an adult idiot in front of them. It’s baaaad! Get sober if you’re a parent, please.
@JokuRandomiPoju
4 ай бұрын
Forcing soberness with willpower is near impossible. You are right, you should start to seek answers for within yourself. Maybe AA might help, therapist, my way was to deepen my spiritual connection with breathwork, meditation and starting to live in the present. Everyone has their own path, the hard thing is to find your own. Important thing to remember is, there is nothing wrong with you. Stop punishing yourself. You’ll have to really figure out, what makes you wanna drink and the answer to that can be found within. Everything will work out in the end, the universe will help and guide you, if you became sensitive enough for its message. Hope you are doing better, blessings ❤
@saraschwartz3075
4 ай бұрын
What I haven’t heard you say is WHY you are drinking to begin with. Drinking and or drug use eases a pain. What is that pain?
@ExclusionGlove
4 ай бұрын
it's anxiety
@Chazza..
3 ай бұрын
He doesnt look like he just finished a 38 day bender yesterday
@Aj14x
4 ай бұрын
If your kids ain't enough to make you stop, nothing will. You will forever be going around in circles until you lose your family and hit rock bottom only then you may stop but probably not as it seems like a vicious circle. Go into rehab and give your kids a chance.
@airaozolina7555
4 ай бұрын
Man you should go to AA meetings, they will help you a lot. I did go for few years and I am really grateful. I relasped few times in the beginning. Living sober now over 5 years. One day at the time. Living in a present moment, not planning for future! Everything will work out! I wish you all the best, never give up! Peace, love and harmony!
@mickeykozzi
3 ай бұрын
I found my self drinking 4 times a week for at least a year. I am now 30 days sober. What got me through it was going to bed EARLY. Straight after work, eat and bed. That got me past the want to drink. Worked perfectly. :) Now I dont even think about and thinking about drinking and a hang over is gross.
@giatasha2181
3 ай бұрын
This is exactly what I do. Six months sober. Early bed early rise and defo not putting myself in holiday situation or club or party or any of that. I value my sleep and my life. I hope I can do the same tomorrow as I have done today as I am happy and rested and anxiety free today
@GMCvideos2012
3 ай бұрын
Going on vacation always stresses me out and make me want to use.
@mandywaddington3814
4 ай бұрын
We’ve ALL had these conversations with ourselves, again and again and again! What are you doing differently? What work are you doing to keep you sober? Clinging on for dear life won’t keep you sober, you are trying to convince yourself, addiction is beyond anything rationale, it is beyond your control.
@markg.4246
4 ай бұрын
Absolutely Mandy. Unfortunately, people don't want to hear the truth. I was one of them. Until...the day I could no longer live with the guy in the mirror. I had a moment of rigorous honesty where I realized that alcohol was not the root problem. It was ME! That was the moment my recovery began! No more bullshit, no excuses, no self talk, no NOTHING...except ACTION! I literally had to change how I was moving my feet. I took action that I did NOT believe in, and got results I couldn't explain. That was more than 30 years ago, and to this day, I take the same ACTION. Not because I'm worried about drinking, but because I want to continue to experience the unbelievably great life that was freely given to me by the Fellowship! And because I have a desire to see other people "live to good purpose"! Peace, Mark
@mandywaddington3814
4 ай бұрын
@@markg.4246 me too, that’s why I recognise it in him, bargaining and trying to logic it, I wonder how many times he has ‘reset’ promising to never drink again.
@adamlekki9592
4 ай бұрын
Don't beat yourself up too bad just quit again and you'll feel much better! I've gone back and forth at least 10 times.. don't give up brother 👍. It can go swell again.. just do it again.
@paulmack5778
3 ай бұрын
You sound exactly like me when i rant to my girlfriend about my addiction issues. I was like this for years and years in and out of sobriety. The only thing that slowed me down was a health issue that arose from drinking. Keep trying dont give up
@hayeshove1723
4 ай бұрын
you look like riff raff bro haha best of luck to you man i was sober a year and tricked myself into thinking i could drink in moderation, drank worse than i ever have for 2 years after that, now im over three years sober and my life ahs been completely been transformed wife kids good job nice place etc.u can do it man.
@Manos-de-Piedra
4 ай бұрын
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@beanymanwalks
4 ай бұрын
Just done exactly tge same mate. 3 days sober now. One day at a time this time.
@handsomedevil7072
3 ай бұрын
You have to change your mindset on alcohol if you wanna quit for good. As any other addiction. When you quit, you don't miss out on anything, there is only benefits. When you understand it, every hardship like withdrawal symtoms give you motivation. Looks like alcohol is an escape for you, but only thing it does makes what you tryin to escape scarier.
@montanabanx-s9b
4 ай бұрын
Real dude respect for never giving up 🫡
@615drop
4 ай бұрын
Im with you BROTHER we can do This!!!!❤❤ IN JESUS NAME...AMEN!!!!❤❤
@katieb3929
3 ай бұрын
Why r ppl So judgemental.. he obviously knows he prob should cut off all drinking. I appreciate the vulnerability as somebody who has a hard time stopping or just having one drink. This is very relatable and it just makes me feel not alone and I’m sure many other people.
@happybdayo
3 ай бұрын
It happens to us all man it took major surgery to really sober me up... don't wait till that. 🙏 That day you don't get up WILL come unless you just take it 1 day at a time ❤
@jobidrumkenobi
2 ай бұрын
I remember when the world’s insane response to COVID was to shut down most businesses and force people to stay home, while liquor stores stayed open and quadrupled in sales. I was hospitalized for alcohol withdrawal and a panic attack in 2022 after my marriage fell apart. The Nurse practitioner put me on Librium and I did some major soul searching. Been sober ever since. One thing that helps me is to remind myself how bad it gets when it’s even at its “best.” Alcohol is the world’s worst drug because it sneaks up on you as a socially acceptable poison. I strongly encourage anyone to listen to Andrew Huberman’s podcast on “Alcohol and your health.” It will change your life.
@adammarkowitz7944
3 ай бұрын
Good luck, dude. FYI you can be in "the present moment" without alcohol, too. Bring your attention to your breathing. Anytime you feel stressed, go within, BE your breathing. Fight the good fight. Work out like an animal. You might try Magnesium Glycinate which can help by relaxing your muscles. Hot/Cold showers. Martial Arts. Weights. Best of luck.
@afwr209
3 ай бұрын
Hear you stranger whose words feels way too familiar. Hurts like hell to be in the place I'm in and oh my it's hard to get out.
@Meemeeseecoo
4 ай бұрын
You’re only 33. I didn’t figure shit out until I was 37. Hell I didn’t even try to cutback until I was 37. You gotta want it tho. I quit for 7 months initially which helped reset my habit.
@Mr.character.shuaib2
4 ай бұрын
Look I know how addiction is I’m there too, but you need AA badly I think. You keep going in circles which is known as the cycle and that’s an important key factor for AA that helps you with breaking that habit man! You got this it’ll be hell but you got it!
@jimmytwostones
3 ай бұрын
All the best brother. Kia kaha
@madcow5833
4 ай бұрын
Welcome back! You can do this!
@SW-EmmetOtter
4 ай бұрын
Your videos are powerful. Please consider seeking help. Each case is different, but you remind me of a dear friend who went many years without being diagnosed or treated. The chaos will continue. Reach out. You won't be sorry.
@mor9n243
3 ай бұрын
It happens People hate drunks BUT we are the toughest animals You cant be mentally weak and drink its TAXING on the mind body and soul
@ralphdeshon9710
Ай бұрын
I just had a relapse, nearly got beat to death at a local bar.Drove drunk.3 days sober, and i feel like crap.Not as bad as yesterday it will get better . Iam a carpenter and a customer wants an outside bar, i think i will pass on the job.I know what will happen when i complete it.
@jakubtallee1233
3 ай бұрын
It takes a real man to admit it bro. 🙏 s for u my friend.
@diegoalvarado916
3 ай бұрын
Been there so many times mate. Just have a few days today after having years 🙏💯
@tygriffith7893
3 ай бұрын
I feel ya bro👊
@Ah__ah__ah__ah.
3 ай бұрын
hey Friend its cool u drank alot ya know just enjoy ur life were all gonna die dont be hard on urself it makes life so bitter and miserable and life is a utter blessing tbh the real reason everyone drinks I believe is because society is so vile sadistic and evil we were never meant to work jobs and earn money we were meant to be together and love one another and support one another. peace and love friend. your awesome just being alive.
@juliadenholm8727
Ай бұрын
I used to care for Alcoholics on a hospital ward that were suffering severe jaundice, their liver was destroyed and they took weeks to die. From experience it's a very painful death....from drinking alcohol....
@shawnbrooks6447
4 ай бұрын
Get your butt in church. ⛪️ God will get you through anything, including alcohol. I’m 6 months sober and never looking back 💪🏼
@AnnLaustsen87
3 ай бұрын
I support you. My vice was Xanax mixed with alcohol.
@cheenbean
3 ай бұрын
Starting day 3 today... it's hard. We can do this 😊
@mapopko
4 ай бұрын
Thanks mate hang in there
@truthcooperator4683
4 ай бұрын
You look good, the weight is good, not a problem at all. Focus on giving up drinking. The stop drinking coach podcasts are awesome. May help.
@MattyLiam333
4 ай бұрын
Just hit my 1-year sober on May 15th. It took me about 200 day ones and almost 5 years of trying to become sober to actually make it happen. For me isolation is absolutely incredibly amazing. I love it. But I'm on a spiritual journey that requires it and I hate humans with a deep seeded passion. All of them. Good luck to everybody. You need to quit drinking. I completely turned my life around and got my life completely together for both myself and my 21-year-old daughter in this last year. It's amazing. If you like isolation though, please don't listen to the advice people give this a don't isolate. Not everybody needs other people to be happy.
@MattyLiam333
4 ай бұрын
How are you doing. Been a couple weeks since this video
@StewartGelling
3 ай бұрын
I here you bro I was sober for almost 2 years and have recently relapsed and hate my self for it 😞
@sethdinges7067
3 ай бұрын
This is the time when you start thinking about what you want in life and are you willing to fight for it, don't give up man, I had a hard time with alcohol in the past and I just started chugging water every hour, and I just switched to caffeine pills which are amazing, don't be hard on yourself, God will break us before he makes us whole. I'm going to pray for you.😊
@bryants6790
4 ай бұрын
The most important thing I had to learn was I can’t do this alone. I needed to ask for help
@samathakaiser2247
4 ай бұрын
My friend is in The same boat as you, i wish you could talk to her. Your gonna do it. Its not easy your not at day one youve been fighting for month's dont think you have failed. Its not day one its still an ongoing fight. Dont fall for the AA NA bull. Your not failing just get back up and move on.
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