Hey all! I am overwhelmed by your comments. Thank you for taking the time to share, encourage, and spread love. I am hopping off for a while but will do my best to get back to each and every one of you. You are what's good in the world. Thank you. xoxo
@candy123258
2 жыл бұрын
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@PrincessMeganElsaBoo
2 жыл бұрын
♥️🙏🏻
@tearalewis7532
2 жыл бұрын
Im so so sorry. I truly feel for you. I lost my mom to cancer 8 years ago, and my brother suddenly 2 weeks ago do tomental health and years of addiction. The fear of losing a loved one esp during a long illness or decline in health is so hard. My heart breaks for you. I will keep you in my prayers.
@tinathompson1129
2 жыл бұрын
Aw, Lisa I'm so sorry to hear about your grandma. We are honored to have gotten a glimpse into her character. She is so classy, sassy and funny. Know whatever mean things she says are the disease and not her. I wish I could reach through the screen and give you the biggest hug.
@jessicaa3198
2 жыл бұрын
Oh Lisa, I'm sorry. I am a primary care giver for adults with dementia. It can be a very hard and heartbreaking . I helped my grandfather with my grandma's dementia journey a few years ago. I have a genral idea of what you are struggling with right now. I wish i knew some magical phrase to make this all better. If you would like some tips or resources on how to handle dementia or even someone just to chat with just reach out. We don't know each other but I know the struggle you are feeling. 💗
@lisbug
2 жыл бұрын
Hi guys. Thanks for spending this time with me. I am so grateful for this small but gorgeous hearted community. Sending ya all some love
@courtneyG89
2 жыл бұрын
Awe this breaks my heart to hear this💔 I (and I’m sure all of us) understand where you’re coming from when it comes to not sharing, but just know so many prayers are being sent your way❤️ Praying for peace, patience, healing, and lots of love❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@SeLAnDDeMiFaN33
2 жыл бұрын
Watching grandparents getting older is just soul sucking. I lost my grandpa beginning of August to a myriad of issues including Alzheimer’s. During the peak of his disease he struggling greatly with remembering who I was. At the end, he knew EXACTLY who I was. It was like he was normal again.. that hurt more when he passed. As a caregiver, it’s hard seeing your loved one struggle. Much love to you sweet Lisa! You are stronger than you know! Hugs!
@vickiemouse236
2 жыл бұрын
I lost my parents within a month of each other about 10 years ago and it takes time. There are no rules for grief and you just have to take your own time and do what you need to do for you. I feel for you and am holding you in my heart and Prayers 🙏🏻🕊♥️
@Torsee
2 жыл бұрын
Never minimize your thoughts and feelings. Your grandma is a wonderful woman who brought your mom to the earth, an she you. I had a grandfather that faded away. Very sad. I made it through, you will to. Take care, be well.
@SuzieQ-lw2kp
2 жыл бұрын
Bless your heart 💜 sending love to you and your whole family. My precious mom had dementia it was heartbreaking and so draining. take care of yourself
@mamaoliverr79
2 жыл бұрын
Oh Lisa. My heart goes out to you, your family and your sweet grandmother. An alzheimer's diagnosis is so hard on everyone. I hope you find a great place for your grandma, where she can have the most amazing healthcare professionals to care for her! Coming from a nurse who works on a dementia unit often, know how much we care and love on these patients. ♥️
@lisbug
2 жыл бұрын
A nurse?! Oh bless your heart. Thank you for your service and for taking the time to comment. I won't forget this. xox
@stephmoo
2 жыл бұрын
Anticipatory grief is REAL and I believe that’s what you’re dealing with. I have been through that with both my grandmothers and ….. I truly feel for you! I wish I could hug you. Thank you for sharing your strength today!!!! ♥️♥️♥️
@lesleyallen3084
2 жыл бұрын
I absolutely had this with my grandma too. So hard ❤️
@NicoleShew
2 жыл бұрын
I had the same with my grandmother also. ❤️
@CateMConn
2 жыл бұрын
THIS. My Nana was my best friend and I absolutely went through a long period of anticipatory grief prior to her passing. Sending so much love your way Lisa!!! Take the time you need for yourself and your family. ❤️
@courtneyw.6456
2 жыл бұрын
My mom and I took care of my grandmother when she was declining from Alzheimers. It SUCKS having to watch your grandma decline. Embrace the good moments you have with her. Hold on tight to those memories. I'm so sorry you have to go through this pain.
@lisbug
2 жыл бұрын
I am sorry you understand this so well. It SUCKS. But I so appreciate your strength and your kind words of wisdom. Thank you.
@courtneyw.6456
2 жыл бұрын
@@lisbug Also, studies have shown music can great therapy for those with Alzheimers. There's something about baby dolls that brings them much joy, also. My grandma had quite a few. She took care of them as if they were real.
@creativityinspireddaily
2 жыл бұрын
Lisa I went through this was my daddy. He has dementia and the man he was has been gone for a while now. I went through a mourning of losing the man he was what is left is nothing like him. My protector, the one I could always go to and ask for help or just use as a sounding board is replaced by a shell. It is a terrible terrible disease no matter what form it takes. I hate it hate it hate it! I understand having gone through this, please take the time you need and talk to a grief counselor. *Hugs from one Lisa to another
@MissLilyputt
2 жыл бұрын
It’s so hard watching someone slowly lose their memories and forget everyone and everything they loved. It’s like having lots of little deaths before the final one. As sad as it was that my grandma died of cancer, we were fortunate that she wasn’t lingering for months. We all got to talk to her and say good bye. Please reach out to your doctor or your grandmother’s doctor about help. Don’t wait until you get caregiver burnout to reach out. Sometimes it’s just having someone to talk to or having a skilled nurse to come in and give a hand to help with some of the harder things about care.
@brookiebrooke77
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so open with us Lisa. I know how you’re feeling so if you need to take a break from us, absolutely do it. We understand you have personal things going on. We’ll always be here waiting for you no matter what. Prayers to you, your family, and grandma! 💓
@lisbug
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this sweet comment. I enjoy being here with you guys. It's my second home. For better or for worse! Haha.
@cassidyminter3043
2 жыл бұрын
Lisa, this year has been the hardest year of my life (and i’m a R victim from 2015). this year I escaped my abuse mother and bought a house at 20 years old. Loosing my “youngster” years feels hard, but I have to take care of my home and bills now, even though i’m already so behind on money. watching your videos (something i’ve done since I was 14 years a old) helps me get through everyday. I’ve also experienced watching a loved one get lost to dementia, it’s scary, and it’s hard. keep a smile (even a fake one) on your face for her and tell her how much you love her as much as you can. I understand it’s hard, and I am here to talk if you ever would like to. I wish you and your family well.
@wafflesx3TT
2 жыл бұрын
They say when your loved one has dementia you lose them twice and it’s so true. Seeing you go through it is reminding me of what we went through just a year ago with my grandfather and I wish there was something to say that can make it easier but there isn’t. The last thing my grandpa said to me in a moment of clarity was “ I’m happy as long as you’re happy” and I know your grandma wants the same for you. I know it’s hard not to feel guilty but I know because of how much you care for her she would not want you to be sad or feel pain at her expense.
@MichelleSinTO
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. Health issues from aging, especially those affecting memory & cognition, are just so difficult for all involved. After such wonderful lives, it’s such a cruel end for all. Thank you for sharing an honest view of this life stage. The secrecy that often goes with it is isolating for those experiencing it, but also means we don’t have a baseline comprehension for it as we start to experience it within our own families, making it even more scary, difficult to navigate, and lonely. Plus I’m sure the limitations of the pandemic have exacerbated this whole situation. Good for you in giving yourself time to figure things out for yourself before sharing, and for going back to therapy to get support as well. If you don’t care for yourself, you can’t care for someone else.
@airpen91
2 жыл бұрын
Watched my husband go through this with his grandpa. My heart goes out to you. Sending you love and support!
@barbarascanlon7226
2 жыл бұрын
This is such a hard thing to talk about, but you hit the nail on the head - when an aging loved one begins to decline, either physically or mentally, we mourn/grieve for them even though they are still alive. Having lost both my grandma's over the last 7 years, I wish I could tell you it gets easier, but it doesn't. The sadness will linger like their illness, but the fact that you did everything you could for them right up to the end is such a comfort. Lean into your support network - they will get you through it!
@capturedbk
2 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately I’ve been in almost exactly the same position as you Lisa, from the bits that you’ve shared. It is so heartbreaking to watch someone who’s been such a big, important person for your entire life start to fade away. I think it’s the cruelest aspect of living I’ve experienced so far. And I’ve seen a lot. Wishing your grandmother as kind a journey as possible from here and much love to you and your mom. ❤️
@unfabulous912
2 жыл бұрын
Sending so much love to you. Your openness, honesty and vulnerability is why I keep coming back to your videos ♥️♥️♥️
@trashpanda4115
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Lisa, I am so glad that your family is moving forward and supporting one another. Your video really touched my heart. I lost my great grandmother about 2 years ago. She was in her 90s and had dementia as well. She was my role model growing up, she was fiercely intelligent, quick-witted and sassy. When she forgot who I was, it broke my heart. Now I try to honor her memory by treating others with kindness and compassion. It sounds like you are experiencing a lot of what my family went through. I hope your family heals and cherishes the last moments together. ♡ Thank you for sharing your journey.
@lelvi5
2 жыл бұрын
I don't know exactly what you are going through, but in a different way I do. My mom has sundowners, it's like a precursor to it. You are not alone, you can vent to us any time. You bring us joy by being funny but mostly it's because you are real and authentic. I appreciate you the person as well as you the content creator. Big hugs to you, your mom and family.
@GlamJam2
2 жыл бұрын
Sending you all the love and hugs ❤ I know this type of grief oh too well. My grandma has had dementia for years but has really declined in the past 3 and we had to move her to a long-term care facility where she can get full-time care. It is so hard to watch someone you love slip away from you but at the same time still be here. Take in the good moments when you can, and remember to take care of yourself.
@samanthagerry6045
2 жыл бұрын
Lisa, thank you so much for sharing! It’s a warm feeling knowing that I’m not alone with a similar situation. Just know that I’m here for you in spirt and I hope all the best possible for your family. I lost my grandma last year…unfortunately due to the neglect of her nursing home. But at the same time she was already on that deep decline in her health. And over the last year my grandpa has been on this roller coaster with his health. And just yesterday I was told he’s probably not gonna live more than a week if we’re lucky. I’ve just moved to a different state for work, and it’s so hard on me to not be home and be there for my family. Especially my dad…I know this is hard on him. I spent my whole day at work yesterday with frequent trips to the bathroom to cry because I had to let it out. Again, I hope all the best for you and your family, and I hope soon you find some peace with the whole situation. Please have the best day!
@desireereed2905
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. I say ty bc of a current situation in my life, with my family. Videos like this are hard but then it also helps other people to not feel alone. I am absolutely so sorry for what you’re going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
@LAURENloveaddicttt
2 жыл бұрын
Proud of you for being so vulnerable ♥️ it’s incredibly difficult watching someone decline. My aunt recently passed away after battling cancer for almost 4 years and it was so so difficult to watch her decline. Thinking of you!
@carmamuxlot3092
2 жыл бұрын
I felt this in my soul! Taking care of a loved one with early dementia has me exhausted in a way I cannot describe. I feel guilty for complaining though because I love them, and they spent a life time taking care of me, and everyone else in their life... it is a comfort to hear other peoples stories.
@asash21
2 жыл бұрын
Awww Lisa! Big big hugs! I understand too much what you are going throught. I feel you… i can’t do much, just virtual hugs and my infinite support! Xxxx
@claireyoung3622
2 жыл бұрын
Oh my heart breaks for you. Be kind to yourself - grieve any way you need to. Grief before a loss is unbelievably real and raw. So many hugs to you!
@katalinapaz95
2 жыл бұрын
I have so much respect for you Lis, I took care of my grandma with my mom aswell the last two years of her life and even tho she was only partial bedridden (not a burden at all) it still was a REALLY difficult time for me and my family, specially my beloved mother that sacrificed so much of her life to work and take care of my dear grandma. It was one of the most hard times of my life but also, when she passed away a part of me was in peace because I knew I gave all I could to her. My grandpa had alzheimers too when I was little and I remember a bit of that time too. I can even imagine what you and your family are going through, sending so much love and light to you, your mom and your grandma :)
@captainstefanie
2 жыл бұрын
My grandma had Parkinson’s so her experience was kind of the opposite…she could remember everything and was still mentally sharp, but she was very rarely physically able to communicate clearly. It was immensely frustrating for everyone involved. It was also years of anticipatory grief that, in the end, didn’t lesson the blow of the real grief I felt when she passed.
@redmeghixtape410
2 жыл бұрын
My grandpa had a type of dementia that was closely related to parkensons they misdiagnosed him as early onset alzheimers he really seemed like he had both parkensons and dementia . Ive delt with both and its hard for the person and their family . It requires support and understanding and respect
@JessLovePug
2 жыл бұрын
This breaks my heart so much because I know all to well what you are going through. I was one of my grandmas caregivers when she was suffering with cancer and as you know it is sooo hard watching someone you love so much suffer. But it is something you will never regret doing no matter how painful it is to experience. Sending you prayers and lots of love to get through hard times 💕
@reneefears8112
2 жыл бұрын
I lost my grandma a month ago - it has been ROUGH for me. Thank you for telling us what you are going through. I was at the hospital for three months prior to her passing and it was taxing - especially during COVID. I lived in WA and her in CA and I flew back and forth all summer. When you said it was both an honor and a very sad sucky thing - I have never heard it put so well. My love to you and your family. Your grandma is so lucky to have you and your mom. Spend as much time with your grandma as you can - you will never regret one extra minute holding her hand. Trust me.
@mazellmitasky
2 жыл бұрын
I feel for you. Caretaking is such a stressful task, especially when it’s for someone who has Alzheimer’s or dementia. My mom used to do it, and I used to work at a hospital that had plenty of elderly visitors. Thank you for being so open about such a trying time in your life. I know your grandma is so grateful to have a kind and patient person like you taking care of her.
@cl0930
2 жыл бұрын
Lisa, I don’t think you’ll ever know how much I needed this. I’m a granddaughter who is also the primary caregiver of her grandmother with stage 4 Alzheimer’s. Four years ago, a surgery on her leg went a little south and caused accelerated Alzheimer’s. This is perhaps the loneliest, most exhausted, overwhelmed, and stressed I’ve ever been in my entire life. On top of that, I’m watching her mirror all of those feelings and emotions back at me….all while having to grieve her as a person while she’s still here. Honestly, it feels good to know that I’m not alone (I know that I’m not, but sometimes, it feels beyond lonely) so thank you for putting this out there. It means more to me than you know.
@snip131313
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this Lisa. It hit home for me as we had to postpone our wedding due to COVID as well, and then my grandfather passed away unexpectedly before we could set a new date. It really is this weird situation where you’re planning something so exciting but also dealing with this other, awfully sad reality. I haven’t quite processed it all yet but it’s helpful for me to see you find joy in the wedding process even though you’re handling these things in other parts of your life. Sending you and your family so much love and strength 💜💜
@Aluciel286
2 жыл бұрын
Sending love your way. We went through the same thing with my grandma. She was in decline for the last 5 years or so of her life. She passed at the height of the pandemic and since she was in a care facility, I almost didn't get to see her beforehand. This shit's HARD. On everyone. You've got this, though. We all do. ❤
@cocakelady
2 жыл бұрын
So sorry you're going through with this. My mother-in-law is also suffering. It's so hard to not take the things they say personally. Just try to remember that this isn't her true self, and try to remember the good times. The slow degeneration is so tough to watch. Hugs!
@georgiamacdonald-danvers4597
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry. I lost my grandmother this year who was living in palliative care and it’s awful. Grief counsellors can help with the pre-mourning process too, it can be really powerful. 💛 Hope your process is peaceful & your grandmother is comfortable during this stage in her life.
@winglessangel6358
2 жыл бұрын
Nothing so heartbreaking than seeing a loved one start to decline in health and there is nothing you can do but just be there for them. Support each other however you can stay strong, love each other. hugs
@nicoleb6
2 жыл бұрын
It’s so heartbreaking to watch a loved one go through that. I’m so sorry Lisa. I do remember your grandma from some videos. She always made me laugh. She’s a light and that light also shines through you, and always will.
@katieawesometoski4658
2 жыл бұрын
Lisa I haven't watched your videos much over the last couple years but I'm so glad I found this one. My family is going through something so similar right now. My grandma is 78 and her memory has been fading for a long time but the last two years have sped things up and she wad finally diagnosed with Dementia then a couple months ago we found out she has cancer on her pancreas. Two days ago she was diagnosed with Covid and is now in the hospital with constant oxygen. Just know you are not alone, you have your family around you and your community here on KZitem is forever here rooting you on.
@Lizi_p
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Lisa I’m from the Uk and I work with Alzheimer’s/dementia residents and have done for 20 + years I know how hard it can be and will get , they become our families too whilst in our care. We often use music therapy which has helped with a lot of our residents playing music, singing to old tunes can often help calm them and remember certain aspects of there life stay strong sending love and hugs 🤗
@peggymarie6414
2 жыл бұрын
Lisa, I went through exactly what you are. I was pretty much my mom's only living immediate relative during the last years of her battle with dementia. It was the hardest thing I've ever done. It felt like my "mom" was gone, but her body was still here. People don't get what dementia does to caregivers. Please, take time to take care of yourself too. I'm sending you hugs.
@redmeghixtape410
2 жыл бұрын
I had to deal with dementia with my grandpa almost decades ago he wasnt fully diagnosed until post mortem i was around him daily everyday after school it was very hard , the alzheimers accosiation helped a lot not that i trust organizations but they have support groups . Thanks for being up on your channel about it. Its hard for them and stressful to watch and exhausting to be supportive . There is silver linings in visiting and stuff i guess . Hope youre doing ok i hope shes atleast in a comfortable living place and is happy
@JaimeLee0555
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this video, Lisa. I’m in the same situation. I’ve been my Grandma’s caretaker for 2 years now while my Mom is battling breast cancer. My Grandma will be 90 years old in March. It’s so so hard on so many levels, so I understand. My thoughts are with you and please keep us posted when you can. Take care of yourself. It’s so important!
@aliciawilmes9884
2 жыл бұрын
I understand your life and empathize. I lost my mother almost 2 years ago to dementia turned Alzheimers after a 5 year battle. I don't know how she held on as long as she did except that my father just couldn't let her go. She was just 73 when she passed....early onset. It sucks. I am so grateful that my mother was happy and full of song. It can be a long road and make sure you have a good support system. Then, after my mom, my dad gave up on life (he was diagnosed with dementia during my mom's illness) and decided he would no longer care for himself....including taking his meds and had a massive heart attack leading to a stroke leading to full Alzheimers....so, I'm going through it again. He doesn't know me and is angry that he lives in a home and doesn't understand what is happening to him. Please continue to be open, it for sure helps. Enjoy those small moments, savor them, they will come and may be very small, but look for them. You have people who care about you!!!
@Caitlin_
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry this is something you are going through. Please just hold onto the memories of who she was and how much she loves you. I know the grief of waiting for a grandparent to pass. My grandmother who I am extremely close to had a cancer scare a few years ago on top of a few other things and we were sure we were going to lose her. I was terrified of her not being here, not being there for my big events, like getting married or having kids, but thankful she has pulled through and is now 90 herself but the fear is always there. Hold onto your loved ones, hold them close and love them thoroughly, it’s all we can do in this life.
@green7023
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly this kind of videos are really eye opening and remind you that (like you said) you never know what someone might be going through, so lets just be kind to each other and be understanding... I'm really sorry you and your family are going through this, hang in there💙💙 lots of virtual hugs and good energy to you 🎇🙌
@erica1159
2 жыл бұрын
We are going through something similar. This year my grandmother has started having mini strokes. I am one of her main caretakers and it is so sad to just watch her go down hill. I know it's a part of life, but it is still so hard. Love you Lisa! You and I also have bad anxiety and OCD so I feel like we are very similar in some ways. 💙 stay strong lisbug!
@3lc0rr3A
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear we went through the same w my grandma. Sending lots of hugs
@miranda1985..
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Lisa, thanks for sharing this part of your life it must have been hard. I think it is really important to treat people with kindness because you are right you never what someone is going through. 2 years ago I lost my beautiful amazing daughter she was only 14. I think you and your mum are doing an amazing job and I'm sure it must take alot out of you two. My love and thoughts are with you and your family.
@Tacoustic3
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry Lisa, I feel for you and am going through something similar. You're so strong and I truly appreciate you sharing
@Sean.A.M
2 жыл бұрын
Awe huggs. I love your grandma. Therapy will def help. I don't know what else to say other then I wish you all the best. I am sorry this has happened.
@hitsugiluva
2 жыл бұрын
My nana went through Alzheimer's when I was young and it was very very hard for me because I was so young and didn't really understand what was happening. But I do remember my mom stressing so much and holding it all in, I hope you are able to get it out and your mother can get help too just in case this is too much for you, it's totally normal to feel this way! Sending you my love
@SherbetLemonMate
2 жыл бұрын
Found this so incredibly moving. My nan battled Alzheimer's for nearly 8 years and she passed away right at the start of the pandemic. Because of the rules in the UK at the time it meant the funeral could only be attended by 5 people so I never got to say goodbye. It added a whole other layer to the whole process. Watching the decline from Alzheimer's was so difficult to deal with. I'll never forget the hurt when she asked me 'who are you?'. It broke my heart and took so much inner strength to remember that it wasn't really her talking, it was the disease. As you mentioned about your grandma mine could also often become angry and cruel and that truly wasn't who she was. Sending so much love and strength to you and your family ❤️
@beckypope79
2 жыл бұрын
I went through this with my grandma as well a few years ago. I live 3 hours away from my family and my parents were the only caregivers for her. I know what a strain it was physically and more so mentally for my mom. My grandma who was basically my best friend growing up wasn't the same person anymore and didn't know who we were most days. As terrible as it sounds, many days I prayed for her battle with this terrible disease to end so she could be at peace. Prayers for you and your family during this trying time.
@kelsiantal
2 жыл бұрын
Listen, love... This is EXACTLY the video I didn't know I needed. I've been following you for years, but specifically in the past couple years as I was planning my own wedding. I just got married on October 2nd. When I first started planning my wedding, my 85 year old grandmother, who is also slipping mentally and physically, was very sad but hopeful that she'd be able to hang on to see me get married. Now that I am, I'm so grateful that she made it, but in the recent days since the ceremony, it seems she's been slipping fairly quickly. The extended grieving process is difficult. Be patient with your emotions and afford yourself some grace. Life is hard, and it hurts sometimes. Thank you for your transparency. You're a beautiful human.
@StephieO08
2 жыл бұрын
Honey, sending hugs!!! I get it...my mom is dealing with my stepdad and his cancer/COPD and is his caregiver full time. They are now on a fixed income, neither working and I try to help them in any way...but it's really hard seeing him slowly decline, see how taxing it is on my mom, worrying about them and their finances, etc. I'm praying for your family in this tough time.
@moshiergirl
2 жыл бұрын
I took care of my mom with her Alzheimer's for 10 years. It is emotionally and physically exhausting. She passed two years ago and I'm still struggling to overcome the mental toll it took on me. Prayers and positive thoughts for your family as you go through this struggle. Take what time you need for yourself.
@WeekendsatCarries
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry Lisa ☹️ I just wanna reach out and give you and your family a big hug!! I’ve dealt with something similar, and currently am dealing with something similar. We all need to be so kind and gentle to those around us because we really do not know what each other is going through ❤️ hang in there Lisa ❤️
@missyraleigh6447
2 жыл бұрын
Idk of you’ll ever see this but I am so sorry you and your family have to deal with this but also thank you for talking about it. I lost both grandmas to dementia, one to a more intense fast moving dementia and we took care of her and the other a more slow go she had it for years before her health declined and she lived with me from 13 to when I moved out with my partner. It’s one of the most confusing, isolating, frustrating things I’ve ever been through. It sucks but some of our favorite memories were the funny moments that happened while they were sick. Even when she didn’t recognize us or was so mean as hard as it was helping care for them were worth it.
@lisalovesyou1998
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Lisa, Lisa here, and I've been watching you since like 2010 and I so relate to this. My grandmother passed away in 2019 on valentines day after almost 10 years of a slow onset battle with dementia. She was such a huge influence in my life and I loved her so much. The pain is hard but it really does get better with time. Sending love and good vibes to you and your family. I really hope that your grandma now has the access to the proper care she needs.
@abbybottar2297
2 жыл бұрын
Oh Lisa, I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. My grandfather is in a nursing home with dementia, and it's such a difficult decision to make. Thinking about you and sending you love.
@notyayo
2 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry that you are feeling heavy with what is going on, your struggles whether or not you say that there are bigger things going on, they are still your struggles. and that is hard. take care and do what feels right, enjoy your family and personal time. sending all my love! ♥
@mariahthebudd
2 жыл бұрын
Oh Lisa. All the videos she has done with you have always made me laugh and love your channel more. Sending all the love and hugs to you and your family ❤ I helped my ex boyfriend family take care of his 100 year old grandma when she started having dementia and such. It such a hard thing to go through but even the littlest joy helps. After she passed, his aunt had to adjust again to life. It usually hard.I bet she is grateful to have such a amazing person as you. Dont forget you are human. We love you!! If you need a break take a break. We will understand ❤❤❤
@jdboy2000
2 жыл бұрын
Lisa, I love your channel and it has helped me feel more stable mentally for years. You have made me laugh every video and given me something to look forward to. I appreciate you continuing to make videos through all of this, but if you ever need a break, take it girl. You deserve what little peace you can get. I appreciate you sharing this aspect of your life. I know how hard it is to be caring for an aging person. My father, who has now passed, was in an assistance facility for several years. My mother is in her 60's now and is already experiencing memory issues and a great deal of physical symptoms. I have to go with her to the doctors offices and write down what they tell her so that she can refer back to it. Information about everything from medicine dosages/times of the day to how severe her Rheumatoid Arthritis and Fibromyalgia have gotten and holding her hand as they explain that there is nothing more they can give her for the pain. It is exhausting but I love her, not only because she gave me life but also because she is the best human person I've ever known. All of this is to say that I am sending my love, healing wishes, and empathy to you , your mother, and your grandmother. I hope this honest message helps you feel a little bit of the joy you've shared with your audience over the years,. Looking forward to your video on Friday. Keep Going, you got this!
@lunatictheater6901
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing. Your experience was so similar to mine earlier this year I lost my grandmother who I was very close to and she was struggling with dementia towards the end bad and she was touch and go for a long time then she passed peacefully with all of us around her. I hope all goes well with you and your family and your grandmother she seemed like a really sweet lady from your other videos. By the grace of God hopefully everything goes well. Thanks again for sharing. God bless
@kelly7905
2 жыл бұрын
I was my Dads care giver for 2 yrs I had to do everything for him, he also suffered from the same stuff, it was the most challenging and rewarding experience I have gone through, watching them fight this illness is the worst.
@preciousonejewel
2 жыл бұрын
i had anticipatory grief for over a year before my mom died.. be kind to yourself, its normal, its real and its okay
@amyspeers8012
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing. My father had dementia and it was very difficult. I live in SW France and my parents live in Florida. My son moved in with my parents to help my mom. Because my son was there, my dad was able to placed in home hospice and died peacefully at home. Loss is never easy, but I am glad you have your mom. Take care, sweet lady, and lots of love from France.
@Stephie2007
2 жыл бұрын
Girl, it's okay. You share as much as you feel comfortable with. My grandmother has been living with dementia for a few years now and she is declining. It's definitely not something you want to remember them by when they pass.
@vickyrutherford3695
2 жыл бұрын
Sending so much love to you and your family. My Grandad had dementia and it sucks. He had it a while before we knew as my Nana hid it from us but when she passed he just went down hill from there. Was heartbreaking to see the man who would take me on nature hikes and always make me laugh become a shadow of himself. But loved going out in the car with my dad and seeing the countryside he loved so much. He sadly passed in 2011 but I like to think he's now somewhere peaceful enjoying walks with my Nana and their many dogs.
@DuckieBaker
2 жыл бұрын
I feel your sadness and let me tell you I have been there. My grandma passed back in 2009 , she lived with Parkinson’s for over 30+ years and eventually dementia and even before that she went through quite a lot too but thats a long story 😂. Anyway, its the weirdest situation to be in because what you are living in is anticipatory grief, your are grieving your grandma and who she was and the life she lived and you lived with her even though she’s “there” but not. But know this the grief will always be there but you grow with it and you will find yourself smiling and laughing when a memory comes up. What sucks is that getting old costs money when it shouldn’t. Anyway love you giving you all the hugs and squeezes !!!
@pinklugia12
2 жыл бұрын
My thoughts and prayers are with you through this difficult time and I'm sorry to hear about your grandma having Alzheimer's 😢❤
@lisbug
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Kyla. I appreciate you.
@loltubelvr007
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Lisa Thanks for sharing. I too have an elderly relative with Alzheimer's/Dementia. I know a lot of people have it and more will as our population ages. She is weak but high functioning. She just can't learn/retain new information and this is so frustrating. The other day she put a few different leftovers in a pan to heat for dinner including a salad? We decided to try it and I think more people should make fried rice with black olives, walnuts and vinaigrette. We are also caring for her ourselves. Her angry outbursts are brief and shocking and so out of character. It makes me think that we all feel this way sometimes but keep it quiet and react with patience or passive aggressiveness. Thanks again for sharing.
@vickiemouse236
2 жыл бұрын
My dad had Alzheimer’s and it truly is a horrible disease. My hope and Prayers are that the person who has this disease isn’t aware of what they are going through. As a family member it is really hard on “us” You are in my thoughts and prayers🙏🏻🕊♥️
@evolvingboard
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry. I just lost my grandma last monday kind of suddenly at 72. Luckily she was fully there mentally till the end but there was no plan and no money saved for a burial so that's been a struggle. Especially since she's the first death since we all moved across the country so we're having to pick a cemetary from scratch far away from extended family. I have no idea what it is to care for someone with dementia but I do know that you're a very strong person to be dealing with this. ❤
@amandajaydexo
2 жыл бұрын
And never feel bad for sharing things you want to share love! It's your channel! 🤍🥰
@christianneottinger3932
2 жыл бұрын
Hugs to you and your mom who are shouldering the hardest of it all. Thank you for sharing, but also take care of you. If that means less videos, then that is ok. Take the time you need.
@bethany311997
2 жыл бұрын
I lost my dad in 2019 to stage 4 lung cancer that was diagnosed too late. This was months after I had disowned him for unspeakable things I learned about. It was a very hard year. I had to learn how to really really forgive and also grieve. My heart goes out to you
@mirandao9310
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this, sending you so much love. Your vulnerability does help people feel less alone. I miss both of my grandmas each day, they had such an influence on my life.
@kangy870
2 жыл бұрын
I have been through this I feel for people who have grandparents moms dads in the nursing homes during this extremely tough time. I lost my grandma this January and literally it broke me because I haven't seen my grandma since before the pandemic so I understand how you feel indefinitely. She also had a form of dementia and seeing her deteriorate also really broke me I really feel for your family during this tough time. I hope and pray for peace for everyone in your family right now. If you ever need to reach out to anyone we got you!!💔❤💔❤
@gaylewoodruff5532
2 жыл бұрын
Our family is also going through this with an elderly sister. You put everything so perfectly about what you are going through and feeling….hugs to you. And yes everyone be kind❤️💕
@XamanthaRose
2 жыл бұрын
I have lost multiple relatives to Alzheimer’s and dementia. It’s so so hard because you lose them before they’re gone and then you lose them again. I feel for you girl. It’s a cruel disease
@Janiz1998
2 жыл бұрын
So sorry for what you are going through. Taking care of those around us as they age and/or get sick is so hard. My heart goes out to you. Sending good vibes to you and your family ❤
@jilyrex
2 жыл бұрын
Oh, Lisa. My Mom, who is only 68, over the past few years has had several memory loss. This past summer, she and my father finally agreed to start testing on her to see what was going on. A month after we started, my father passed away unexpectedly. I still haven’t really processed losing him, as the main focus has to be my Mom at this point. We went through so much in a very short time, (included having her admitted to a geriatric psych unit to keep her safe), but we finally got her into a memory care assisted living. While it is insanely expensive, it’s the best thing for her. You have every right to be exhausted, the process is extremely taxing. There is so much paperwork, so many legal things that need to be taken care of, it’s a lot. About a month after my father died, my boyfriend proposed. We wanted to get married on our anniversary, which gave us about a month to plan. So there was all of that stress on top of the loss, and getting my Mom help. With the help of my (now husband)’s family, my Mom was able to be at the wedding. She may not remember it, but I’m glad she was there. We’re all here for you ❤️
@RobinFlysHigh
2 жыл бұрын
💕
@jodihaskey6164
2 жыл бұрын
Sweet girl I just want to hug you and help. Life is beautiful and it takes painful turns. I live with my mom she is 72 and things are slowing down for her and the frustration is real. You are loved and appreciated for any thing you share. Pain is felt and Should never be compared. Your Pain isn't less because it's not global it's global for you. Be kind to yourself. Sending good thoughts and strength your way.
@JoySuzannexo
2 жыл бұрын
It's so difficult to go through this, my grandma has dementia and lived on her own for a while after we lost my grandad - we had a few scary moments where she would go missing or get hurt - so she went into a home for her own safety. It's awful because it's like your mind is mourning the loss but they're still around, then you feel guilty about it. My dad's an only child and we were too young to help at the time so they did it completely alone, it sounds like you at least have a supportive family around you, I wish you all the best
@rainotter
2 жыл бұрын
I know what you're going through. My Pa had vascular dementia that lasted 7+ years and my dad and I moved in with my Granny to help and it was extremely taxing. It makes you feel like a horrible person because you secretly pray for it to end and you know it won't and you start hating yourself but you are doing everything right and it's ok to feel that way. My Pa even had moments of clarity about it and said to not worry because I frustrated him to when I couldn't talk or wouldn't listen hehe. You have a great strength and we're proud of y'all.
@lanim5139
2 жыл бұрын
I’m experiencing this with my grandmother too, she’s suffering from dementia and this year has had a heart attack and multiple infections including in her bloodstream (one they weren’t sure she’d recover from) I’m not a primary care take up at my dad is. He’s found that the best way to deal with it is with the humour. When she forgets what he does for a living, he jokes around and says outrageous careers that he would never in a million years do (which then also prompts her to use her brain a bit more to try figure out what is real) it just keeps the humour and everything a bit more light can you get to spend more time laughing looking rather than worrying. My grandmother‘s long-term memory is fine but short term is quite bad so sometimes she can’t even remember things that happened 10 minutes ago but one good thing is that when she isn’t having a good day, she forgets about it and it’s almost like she gets to start over. I know it can be hard but try to look for the positives even though and find new ways to enjoy your time together. Having been through another long decline with my grandfather a few years ago, I can tell you you’ll be so much more thankful in the end knowing you have no regrets and enjoyed your time. Sending love 💕
@tennygirl79
2 жыл бұрын
I live with my grandmother who has Alzheimer's but luckily meds have kept her at a pretty steady level for the past decade. There are many frustrating moments but there are amazingly beautiful moments too. Like last year someone got my grandma a paczki from a bakery on the other side of the city and she started telling stories from her childhood I had never heard. I will pop an old show on streaming and she will start telling me about a dance she went to 75 years ago. As frustrating as it is for us, it's much harder for them. It's scary and sometimes they get temperamental because they are living a life that is almost new every day, sometimes new every hour. It is immensely heavy to watch and wade through but try to find the beautiful moments too because they are amazing. Especially when they have the look of so much happiness remembering something from long long ago.
@beyondthestacks
2 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate your thoughtful and beautiful videos. I am so sorry that your sweet Grandmother has not been feeling well. Thank you for being a real light in a pretty dark tunnel in my life right now. I’ll be praying for you all.
@shawneethornton4734
2 жыл бұрын
I am so, so sorry. Sending prayers, love and all the good vibes possible. Please take any time you need for you and your family. Thinking of you. xoxo
@liacovello8117
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Lisa, I can relate so much to your situation. 2 weeks ago my mom and I moved my father into memory care for Frontal temporal dementia and I got married this past weekend. Each of these are life changing events but going through them simultaneously is incredibly difficult. I promise you will make it through this.
@loriegabidel
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry. I wanted to crawl through my TV and hug you. I lost my grandmother to a different long illness and watched my great aunt slide into dementia so bad that I had to be introduced to her thrice in one meal. I know how hard it is. I'm glad you have such a good support system.
@candy123258
2 жыл бұрын
Sending prayers and positive thoughts, my dad is 87, barely survived Covid,I have so much sympathy for you 🤗. ( memory diseases are the worst!)
@StephiH.
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Lisa. I'm sending you a big big warm hug from Germany. I can so so so feeling, how you are gonna feel with your situation with your Grandma. I lost one of my granny (last year) at dementia/Alzheimer. And the loneliness in the begins of corona give her the rest. I think it's so important and brave from you, to tell us so much personally things. Again: I'm sending you a big big hug. (Hope you understands my english writing) 😉🙂
@sarbearr4
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Lis, I was a caretaker with my mom for my dad and he had dementia too watching someone I love become a stranger is the hardest things I’ve ever done. I am sending you and your mom all my love and prayers. Anticipatory Greif often happens when you can see someone begin dealing with changes like this so give yourself the time, patience, and the love your Greif deserves.
@emmaweb2006
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry about your grandmother just a note I am here for you ps stay safe send my love to you family ❤️❤️x Life is so fucked up I was my gran Caregiver it was so tough ❤️❤️
@amandajaydexo
2 жыл бұрын
Alzheimer's disease is such a rough diagnosis. My grandmother has it. 🥺 I am sending so much love and positive energies your way. 🤍🙏🥰
@amyleeglassner
2 жыл бұрын
Prayers 🙏🏼 This is so difficult, enjoy the time you have with her ❤️ Definitely dealt with a VERY similar situation with my grandmother.
@destinyreidel
2 жыл бұрын
Literally going through the same thing. You’re not alone ❤️
@trishalenon6395
2 жыл бұрын
I work at a retirement home and see a lot of dementia. I have seen families go through so much and I also have seen it from the residents side. Being a caretaker is a difficult job, especially when you are so close to the person. Just know you are never alone ❤️
@gaylemamabutterfly
2 жыл бұрын
HI Lisa, I'm a grandma myself. Best thing for your to do is just love your grandma. Dementia is awful. . . my mom had it. Covid make it even more difficult. Tip that helped me is I would always TELL her who I was when I visited instead of asking her if she knew who I was. Take care and don't forget to love yourself. I'm in Canada and my mom's pension covered her care so thankful for that...wonderful place run by the Lions organization. It's such a hard road to walk down. Hope your family gets help. oxoxox Big Mamabear Hugs.
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