Hi Gladys, I'm so sorry to hear that you are not adjusting well. The first year of marriage is the hardest, especially when you're married out of your culture. I am an African, married to a Chinese and living in China too. My husband works in Europe (we have a 6 hour time difference with both my husband and family back home) so we only see each other a couple of times a year. Because your husband is still in China and you have only been in China for a short while, I think you just need time to adjust. It takes about 2 years to fully adapt to a place. What you need is to make your own friends, find a hobby. My offer to join our online Bible study, if you would like to, still stands. My husband and I have been together for 6 years now and I wouldn't recommend living so far apart for you as a married couple. I'll be wrapping up my postgraduate studies this year, so if you do stay in China, I wouldn't mind meeting up. We can meet in neutral places like Shanghai or some other place and connect you to people here. I think when you move to a new country, try not to compare the new country to your home country - that is where you will fail to adjust. Just take it all in, be open-minded, take it as an adventure. The joy-killer is when you compare. Take it one day at a time. Edit: PS, the only reason my husband and I are in a long-distance marriage is because right now I am studying, but when I finish we will be living together. That is why I would not recommend you start a long-distance marriage because your situation is different. And you moving back for how long will it be for? How will you deal with the situation of starting a family in future?
@verovlogs3588
11 ай бұрын
@gladyslin please come see this advice right here.
@nb7524
11 ай бұрын
I agree with you. I hope that she will reach out to you and begin a friendship with you. I hope that she can build friendships with other African women there.
@sharonemmons1005
11 ай бұрын
Such a beautiful soul to reach out to Gladys and great ideas to help her adjust
@elizabethc9843
11 ай бұрын
Brilliant, God bless you for reaching out to Gladys 💕
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
I felt at heart ❤thank you dear. lingladys14@gmail.com or gladyslin256( my instagram) we can connect from there dear. I will be humbled to hear from you and to join the Bible study. Am so greatful for the advice yes I have been comparing my country and China, I will stop it immediately
@KayKudiwa
11 ай бұрын
Gladys you're homesick. I lived in China for 5 years. It was depressing but I thank God that I was surrounded by friends from my country. It's not easy living in China. Please try finding other ladies in your city that are in similar situations (married to Chinese men)
@okanichika7949
11 ай бұрын
Not easy at all
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
It’s not easy my sister but I will try getting myself out
@okanichika7949
11 ай бұрын
@@gladyslin just try,search for them,get occupied u will get better okay,the same with me when I was in China till I mixed up with locals there then I get better
@glowryahayikoru9638
11 ай бұрын
Hi Gladys,I’m a Ugandan also married far away from home and just this week I was feeling like you are.What I would advice is find a Ugandan community in China,a friend or two will take you a long way.Another thing that is really helpful is to enroll for some classes ,maybe Chinese classes or driving school that can keep you busy and will also be helpful as you try to navigate your life in china in the near future
@verovlogs3588
11 ай бұрын
Gladys me I think consider this comment/advice up here. It may be helpful. You are married, you can not create a distance between you and your husband.
@visu4566
11 ай бұрын
Maybe if you go back home for a visit it will help you get stronger to deal with differences.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you sister stay blessed, this feeling is crazy dear but you too be strong 💪
@Iyanafields
11 ай бұрын
Everything you've listed she's prevented from doing them. Strange isn't it? What's The point being abroad when she has limited opportunity provided to her to develop any skills? . She would be way better off in Uganda.
@ltvt6047
11 ай бұрын
Great advices from everyone. May God bless all of you. Thank you so much. We all need good people who understand us to talk during challenges like this.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
And am glad I have you my online family ❤❤because I really feel loved and not alone and I can over come it
@connieakambikira7507
11 ай бұрын
Hi Gladys, Sorry for what you are feeling but I guess that's bound to happen as you moved into a culture that is completely different. Six months is not a long time Gladys....am certain you will fit I somehow most especially when you start working... My recommendations: 1. Continue vloging of couse 😂 2. Read - get books you wish to read 3. Talk to your husband how you feel 4. Language is key - I think you need to embrace the Language as someone as someone has commented that try to reach out to Rose who has lived in China for 10 years or so. One of the things Rose did first was to study the language. Reduce your English when talking to your husband and instead switch to Chinese 5. You are certainly homesick and that's normal. 6. Get a pen and.paper and Try to list about 10 things you think you cN do while in China Take time to pray...it can be soothing
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
This is amazing idea thanks dear
@connieakambikira7507
11 ай бұрын
Hi Gladys, Don't give up your marriage just like that. You have to fight.
@jacquelineparkinson9795
11 ай бұрын
Gladys I'm old enough to be your mother and I feel your concerns. This is what I would advise my daughter..would it be possible to connect with other KZitemrs from Uganda or other countries in China? it may help open up your world to socialise thus making friends. Please don't get upset about missing Uganda this is a natural feeling, of course that will always be your home, where family and friends are living. Remember you are strong, beautiful and friendly and married the man that you loved. Please talk to you husband again to keep communication open. Would it help to go on holday to stay with your family then return to China? sending hugs and prayers that you find a solution x
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you sis it’s abit hard since they are far from me but I will try to look for them
@marionoladele
11 ай бұрын
Maybe plan to go to Uganda at least once or twice a year and that gives you something to look forward to. I feel for you ❤
@AudreyFyffe-Huey
11 ай бұрын
Don't suggest any unnecessary financial stress on your husband. When you learn chinese and get a job you make suggestions that are costly. Remember financial burden leads to stress, stress leads to misery, misery leads to divorce. You don't want that
@lifewithtee8034
11 ай бұрын
Hi Gladys, I moved to another country to be with my husband and I had days just like this. You just need to find YOUR purpose, I started volunteering at the community college and I made friends and had a purpose when my hubby was away working. Just a suggestion ❤ stay strong, you got this.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Am going to for places to volunteer however the language will be a problem am not scared
@AgnesAliceMariakaki
11 ай бұрын
Gladys, what a lovely girl you are... you are honest and very brave with your self awareness. I actually think that possibly what you go through is a kind of en emotional burn out. For me 1) you need to decide if the Chinese culture is eventually going to be a good fit for you, after you get a job and some local friends, or not... 2) having kids should not be an anti depressant solution, nor a way to solve your boredom 3) do not make any decision considering the needs of others first, and your needs second 4) do not listen to anyone except your own gut, and be brave enough to do exactly what will make you happy 5) any decision you take will have a cost. Decide what cost you are willing to put up with... living in China, or living a long distance marriage...what is healthier for you, according to your gut? 6) before making any decision, seek counseling, talk to a councelor, a therapist who can really be a wise sounding board.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you sister Agnes
@nadineleanya4311
11 ай бұрын
Gladys I know your pain! You are not alone. I have not yet been married in China but I am in a relationship with a Chinese man, it’s not easy he does everything for me and we love each other but he’s always travelling with work even now I am all alone and feel lonely. Just find a hobby you like and try making friends with fellow black peoples there. You are not alone girl, going back home is not such a good idea for the sake of your love for your husband. Organise to visit home together when there’s time
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Best wishes galfriend it’s not easy connecting with friends because they are far miles away from me
@seamill2
11 ай бұрын
Awww Gladys ❤❤❤ i hear and feel how you feel girl. Having to live in a complete different culture and community than what you are used to is by itself a big challenge. But being in a place and feeling isolated from your own family and support is also something else and it’s hard. Myself, I’ve married to another culture, I know what it is to tag along with your husband and his friends and family, fulfilling them but yourself feeling like a big junk of you is missing. It’s easier when you are in a country with not much restrictions. Stay strong. After 24 years away from Home, trust me I still miss my own family. I hope you find peace and that your husband sees where you are coming from and how you feel. Praying for you little African sister. Sending you all the love from Scotland ❤❤❤❤ Stay strong!!!
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing sis I really thought it’s only me who is feeling this and maybe am over reacting but it was eating up so I shared with you my family and it’s helping so greatful
@nomsam4014
11 ай бұрын
Hey Gladys. One thing I like about your channel is that you are showing a more realistic side to being a black woman. A side of us that many people don't know because the world only chooses to show certain things about us. I'm proud of you. You are a not only beautiful but you are also a good woman. I wish only the best for you. Things will work out well , don't worry!🇿🇦
@sandraatkins2539
11 ай бұрын
It has nothing to do with her blackness. It has to do with a completely different culture. Many people are probably thinking that she should be happy because she now lives a luxurious lifestyle compared to her previous lifestyle. That may be true to an extent. However, she is not materialistic. Her problem is the isolation and lack of openess in the Chinese culture. Therefore, she is suffering from depression. I wish her well. She needs some sort of psychological assistance and/or a psychological adjustment. Otherwise, she is heading for difficulty. China is a different culture. It is not going to change. She is the one who will have to change.
@angela10491
11 ай бұрын
Nothing to do with being a black woman. It's human. Stop blaming everything on color!!
@nomsam4014
11 ай бұрын
@angela10491 It's people like you who want to shut down other people's experiences by saying things like that. If another person of my race said that, I would maybe consider, but for someone who has no idea what she's talking about, who does not even understand what I'm saying because she herself is consumed with colour/race politics is unnerving! Those who get it , get it. You obviously don't. And the message is for Gladys, because right now it's about making her feel better, not fight about what you are trying to spark! However, you are welcome to hold on to your assumptions about my message , it's your right!🤷♀️
@nomsam4014
11 ай бұрын
@@sandraatkins2539OK. You are another one who is twisting my comment! I'm not talking about blackness here! I'm talking about why I as a black person like her channel. You may see things differently or watch it for different reasons. That's you , not me!! Concentrate on following the channel for your own reasons and stop twisting peoples comments to suit your assumptions about them! I am not going to respond to anybody else who is going to play this twisting game! You and your friends can keep liking each other and agreeing with each other. Fine with me! I'm done!
@Joan-jr8qs
11 ай бұрын
@angela10491 Do you really think she is blaming colour?
@marieadonis8482
11 ай бұрын
If your husband finances can afford it , you should go back at least twice a year to visit your friends and family ; true love is hard to find , don't give up on your marriage and the man you love !
@Nuncy_gtf
11 ай бұрын
Home is home. Try and get yourself together and make friends with your husband people. I left a Caribbean country and live in a cold country. I can say it is different. I enrolled in college and started to feel like I am accomplishing my dream. Maybe studying will help you my sister. It helped me, getting out the home daily makes me feel better.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thanks for the tips!
@duneshawalli678
11 ай бұрын
Give it some time. Be patient sister. Life is full of challenges and we need to stay strong and hope that it will be better. There are times when I am emotionally exhausted but I still find a way to make it work.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
When you said we you can’t believe happy I was knowing am not alone. Am lucky I have you ❤Love you
@AminaIbrahim-x1m
11 ай бұрын
Hello Gladys am really touched today dear.i want you to know that married life is very challenging and is only the strongest who wins this battle.Even if you're in Uganda you are going to face it dear I know is not easy.sometime I do see in your videos when am watching you that deep inside you are not happy and I see how you are try your best to make your husband and mother in law happy hmmmm it is well dear.i know very soon when you start having kids you will be ok.let God be your strength.
@Bonita16
11 ай бұрын
Gladys you are doing just fine. I think what is happening to u is normal. From your videos I want to believe you have lived in china for 6 months . I love you, to watch you and you new family. Your husband is putting much to ensure you fit iñ . Please don't think of going back to Uganda. Stay in china and make work. There are some things you need to do. First learn to speak the language. Don't compare Uganda to China . They are 2 different cultures apart. So chose to be happy no matter what. With time you are gono settle in. What ur feeling is normal. No matter what n how u feel pls don't leave ur husband. U would be fine. Get to learn d language Make good friends Find chores u can do U have a channel do more videos U have d best husband n mother in law in d world. Just give it a shot.
@charlottesn8643
11 ай бұрын
Yes learn the language, so that later when it's possible to work you don't struggle to fit in
@yelloworchid1840
4 ай бұрын
It's natural to miss your home country, your friends and family there, and it does take time to adapt to a new country, make new friends, learn the language. Now your baby has arrived, you'll have a more of sense of purpose, time will go quickly taking care of your baby, less time to be lonely. Getting help and support from people who knows you and can make the time will make such a massive difference
@sandrabarrett7837
11 ай бұрын
Hold on sis. Pray for strength and wisdom. It will get better. If you can go home for a visit do it. If you sister can visit you thst would be nice. Face time with family if you can. If you need to cry😢 some time; do it. It takes time to settle in a new environment where everything is different. God bless.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you sis ❤
@eangelford7626
11 ай бұрын
Bless your heart Gladys. You’re breaking my heart with your tears. I’m from the US and I’ve been in an interracial marriage for 38 years. Not only that but we’re a retired military family, so I’ve traveled to several different countries. I realize my situation is different from yours but I understand your loneliness of missing family, country, friends and food. My husband was gone all the time with and at times I had no contact with him for moths. Please don’t give up - take it day by day. One day at a time. It’s okay to miss home that’s a natural part of living abroad. You can do this. Marriage alone is hard enough but living separately from your husband will make even harder. I’ve grown to love being alone. It was not easy but over the years I’ve to love it. I will keep you in my prayers and believe God will give you peace. I have learned to do crafts, taken classes go for walks and grown my relationship with the Lord. Bless God - don’t give up. You will be in my prayers.
@marthagary6683
10 ай бұрын
You don't have love for him or his culture that's why you are feeling homesick. And you don't care even if he gives you the whole world, you still want your own.. Love is the key that will make you accept him and everything he comes with.
@hajiranankoma4255
11 ай бұрын
Hi baby gal,you need to be strong and I would also advise you go and study Chinese it will make things easier in the long run, please keep remembering the vouu that you made to your hubby sis
@alyakemigisa1641
11 ай бұрын
I think it would be easier on you if you knew chinese. If you can learn the Chinese language you can easily make friends because you can easily communicate. So for me i feel like language barrier is what is stressing you out.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Am really trying to learn it
@palmpalm5131
11 ай бұрын
I think you are a little homesick in the way you were able to freely move about in a familiar environment without language barrier …and also missing the familiar comforts from your home country. That is only natural when you move to a new country, any country. Maybe a short visit back home to Uganda will help. Once you have a baby on the way it will help to occupy your focus. In the meantime maybe take up a hobby..something that will help occupy your mind and your time. You used to make wigs. Why don’t you do that again? Or sewing..or painting..jewelry making..join a dance group .. Don’t be afraid to go out and explore China, don’t let the language barrier hold you back…maybe connect with others in China who are also from Uganda. Hope things get better for you soon..this will hopefully soon pass. Hang in there.
@elizabethnirere3214
11 ай бұрын
Gladys be patient you see Felista and Rose they were also like you but they got used now Rose has been there for 8yrs and Felista 4yrs
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
So proud of them
@lifewiththerichies5075
11 ай бұрын
Hello Gladys, I can totally relate and understand what you’re going through in this moment…honestly I believe everything is going to work out for you and be just fine. In the meantime, if I may encourage you to draw closer to JESUS in prayer. HE will comfort you and help you get through those feelings and emotions of feeling lonely. Also, if you have a Holy Bible…read it and meditate on the scriptures for Peace and Comfort. Lastly, if you’re able…maybe you can take a trip to visit your family in Uganda. You have a sweet kind husband. He probably wouldn’t mind you taking a little time away just to visit your family. Whatever you decide to do…I’ll be praying for you. Stay strong, be encouraged and Blessings to you!❤🙏🏼
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
🙏🙏🙏🫂
@cateCates-m2z
11 ай бұрын
Hey Gladys, I try to wear your shoes. But kindly try to look for someone close to you who can guide you on this. People joke but I know you might be stressed, take some few days and visit your home country. Stress is bad when you are in a foreign country. Take care of your mental health. Cheers girl!
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Taking Heart love ❤
@maryssali6402
11 ай бұрын
Hi Gladys, I feel so sorry for you. I am a Uganda leaving in UK. I also felt the same when I had just come to the country; but I think you should go and visit Uganda and then come back. I stopped being bored when I give birth, the baby kept me busy and the boredom disappeared. Nkitegera kyoyitamu mukwano
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Greetings and much love to the little one. I keep hold up dear ❤
@tombimashri8149
11 ай бұрын
Only you can decide what u want, none of us know the true reason u feel the way you r feeling.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
I feel am really felt and understood
@juliejohnson7207
11 ай бұрын
Most chinese men have to prioritise their work. Try to learn chinese and once you can speak it better you will be able to make friends quicker. Chinese are generally loving caring people. I see your husband is very cariing and he works hard. Take care Gladys and I hope you will not feel so lonely.❤❤
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thanks dear
@ree6553
11 ай бұрын
Gladys maybe you and your hubby can vacation sometime in your home country when it is possible.Remember your hubby is working to help give you the things you need. That might help you.🙂 Alsi, maybe doing some outdoors videos would help with the boredom.Walk around a little show us more of China.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you dear
@ree6553
11 ай бұрын
@@gladyslin 💗
@angelawagner849
11 ай бұрын
You need to go visit your family for a while, then come back to see things differently. You'll figure it out and God will ha e you always. 😊❤
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you, I will dear with time
@mercyumennachi8663
11 ай бұрын
Be strong, try to keep yourself busy by attending language classes. Try to take more chinese language classes to help improve you language to able you to go out there and socialize.
@vickykiirya8444
11 ай бұрын
Gladys, be strong and adapt to the situation. Tokaaba mukwano.
@BO-fq7zi
11 ай бұрын
Hello Gladys- what u are going through is very normal and natural. I relocated to the US over 30 years ago and I can relate. I remember my first winter, I was dreaming about my hot Nigerian weather. Ok - so u need to hv a plan? You may hv to take a class and find other Africans that u can connect with. Stay strong though. You definitely need to hv a plan so you can feel needed or productive you know. I appreciate your openness You got this lady Give yourself time too
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
I found my self laughing at you dreaming about hot Nigeria 🇳🇬 me too here I be dreaming about my Ugandan Green banana, and other foods
@chichi8946
11 ай бұрын
Hi Gladys, I’m sorry to hear that your adjustment in China has been challenging and I pray you find your way & discover what you’re missing! I was also going to suggest reaching out to the KZitemr Rose who lives in China as others have mentioned, but hopefully u will soon feel comfortable to talk with your husband about & possibly come up with a way to make it better, sending much luv from the states, hang in there chica, take care & be well❤
@annieparker3126
11 ай бұрын
Greetings from the Caribbean. You have to be strong. I think you are missing family and friends. Have more frequent video calls with family and friends if you can. Work it out with yr husband. Don't ever think of this long distance crap you don't want to regret. Blessings on yr journey. Hope I was of some help
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you, I won’t even ever mention it again
@SumayaUthman-fd6gu
11 ай бұрын
It happened to me when I reached here in Thailand...but the good chance am not married yet. But I can surely give it a try because am really strong thou am lonely here in Thailand haha😂😂 I suggest that you please give it more chance, at least you have a husband and his family that cares for you dear
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you dear take care ❤
@jacquelinewilliams375
11 ай бұрын
Gladys I feel your pain. I know it's hard. Are there any other people from Africa in China that you can talk with? You are so brave I have never traveled anywhere out of the Country. You are not doing anything wrong dear. Pray very hard and talk with your husband about your feelings. You both Love each other, whatever you both decide it will be alright. I will be Praying for you. God Bless you my dear.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you dear
@Sandy.TX5050
11 ай бұрын
Hello Gladys, it is very understandable that you are homesick….it is natural. This is still new for you. GOD will not lead you were HE want make it right……Don’t be hard on yourself, things will work out. Can you take some classes on how to speak Chinese?. Maybe go home for a month or so to visit. My hearts goes out to you…..May GOD Bless you my sister🙏🏼💗
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Amen 🙏 God bless you too Sandy
@winettaross
11 ай бұрын
Gladys change is never easy That said I think you are seriously homesick and you should get in contact with other African women who are married to Chinese men living there
@ingridfontaine7359
11 ай бұрын
Immigrer n'est pas facile, s'intégrer demande du temps. Apprendre à parler chinois t'aidera dans ton intégration, tu pourras rencontrer des personnes à l'extérieur et te faire des amis, avoir des activités. Tu as un homme qui t'aime, garde le précieusement. Accroche toi. J'ai immigré au Canada il y a 15 ans, cela m'a pris 5 ans pour me sentir intégrée, mais on y arrive. Sois patiente. Courage
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Stay safe and happy sister
@angieBhanson
5 ай бұрын
Hi Gladys, I’m sorry you were feeling this way. You may be able to find another KZitemr who is living in China who you can reach out to. You are stronger than you know. As women, we love hard sometimes, but if you are not truly happy, your emotions and feelings will prevail. The language barrier is hard. You can only make this decision about staying or going back to your home. If you are going to stay, you will need to learn the Chinese language. I feel like you already know the answer.
@nnennaokorafor9569
11 ай бұрын
Gladys your husband is right. The first year of marriage is hard especially when your family is not around. If it is possible try to enrol to learn Chinese. You can use Babble. Please hang on, you will be fine by God's grace. You can visit home and come back.
@Rosie-wj1le
11 ай бұрын
I don’t understand why the government cannot give you a conditional green card so you can at least work. It’s hard to leave your home and friends and everything you are familiar with. It can be very heartbreaking. Take some time and go home. Reconnect with friends, etc.. you are too young to be so lonely. This is not about your wonderful husband, this is about you. Taking time for your mental health❤️
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
I will be able to get the Green card after 5 years
@paulineofori-dei70
11 ай бұрын
Correct, that is what alot of people don't understand loneliness is not easy. Also, as for rose she over came the language very quickly and is now a farmer of which fits perfectly with the Chinese people. Plus she can cook just about anything. And has make history for herself. With crew people following her every now and then.
@paulineofori-dei70
11 ай бұрын
That's a long time, that's not helpful.
@faithhealingandself-care8972
11 ай бұрын
Lastly, look at the sacrifices your husband made to marry you and bring you there. Marriage always has a transition period and in marriage you two are now one. If you truly love him don't give up so easily on your marriage. There are other mixed couples in China, some are online, seek them out but please, take the time to learn the language and the culture. You focus too much on your country and what is different instead of what is good or exciting about where you are. Grow your KZitem Channel by explaining your new country and sharing it with us. Connect with other KZitemrs in your area. You have a life that others dream of. This season is temporary, don't give up so easily. Focus on why you moved there.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Your right I need to discover myself and appreciate his efforts and sacrifices
@Blackberry-xd4gb
11 ай бұрын
We know you love your husband dear. You are homesick. It’s very healthy to go home sometimes, just to visit. You have a bad case of homesickness. So you should go home from time to time to keep you mentally stable. ❤❤❤
@faithhealingandself-care8972
11 ай бұрын
Gladys, take some language classes. Exercise, scout out the ingredients you need to make your recipes. You need to do everything you can to make your marriage work. Was your life in Uganda so much better? Instead of looking at what you are missing, focus on what you have gained and what the two of you can build together. I am praying for you.
@amanikeotto7257
11 ай бұрын
Gladys, sorry you’re going through that. Be patient 6 months is too short to settle in a foreign country. Talk to your husband and talk to your family too. Mostly look within yourself and find out why you’ve that feeling. Remember a happiness is a personal choice. No one can make you happy if you don’t feel it within you. Go visit your family but don’t leave your husband for a long distance marriage……. Long distance relationships don’t work if you ask me I’ve a horrible experience from that. Be patient you will be just fine. Reach out to Rose a Ugandan married in rural China. ‘ Rose and Anzai’
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Advice take sister thank you
@estheragyin9593
11 ай бұрын
I came to america to visit my son,was feeling lonely boring and always in the room 5 years now. So i started singing gospel songs,reading quotations of loneliness, started sewing few things with sewing machine, then going to church .So dont go to uganda ,you will regret. Try to do the above things especially reading quotations of loneliness cant you also do some little business with your sisters at uganda?
@alisamonroe9284
10 ай бұрын
Please don't leave your husband. Start with prayer, then try to learn the language. Prayer will give you strength. I am an old woman that has traveled and has had many disappointments. But your husband loves you, and you live him. It is natural to feel lonely. Find a church that speaks your language. You will find friends. Find a support group for mixed couples like yourselves. I will pray for you . God bless your heart and remove your heaviness.❤
@ninalopez5994
11 ай бұрын
Oh God bless your heart. I understand. You're being away from home. You are homesick. Isolated and lonely. The loneliness is taking over your soul. Poor thing either way is going to be a tough decision leaving China or going back home. Whatever your heart desires gladly wish you all the best of luck.
@husseinfatma
11 ай бұрын
i totally understand your happiness matters but its not also good to make decisions when your emotional. i miss home too banange . i believe you will be fine kuba you cannot adjust to a new place in 6months. i leave in canada but all i think about the social life back home , the food ,the free spirit life .i think you should give it a year or go home and come back.we are all home sick sweetie
@valentineamoo3675
11 ай бұрын
Hey Gladys please hang in there.its okay to feel the way you feeling..kindly be patient i know its not easy but i believe you can do this just hold on dont let go
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Really not easy at all my dear 😢
@valentineamoo3675
11 ай бұрын
@@gladyslinI know dear receive hugs from this side 😘💕💕this season too will. Pass I believe in you
@ntsikitseka3825
11 ай бұрын
You are such a brave young lady.
@audreygill4176
11 ай бұрын
are you trying to become a legal resident there ? ,I doubt you can go back home and still acquire your status ,sit down and talk with your husband. I've watched Rose from Uganda, maybe you can connect with her , find others from the your home land and connect with them
@susankamba3352
11 ай бұрын
I understand your frustration I hope u get pregnant and have a child will keep u company Pray about it and stay positive
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Amen 🙏
@Agnesokebu111
3 ай бұрын
It’s hard being far from home but it will get better with time. U are missing ur family that’s fine but it gets easier
@DeborafrimpongSmith
8 ай бұрын
Dear now is your life stop thinking about friends and enjoy your marriage is not easy but corporate please love you from ghana
@LadyDaniel4
11 ай бұрын
Always Follow your Heart my Queen 🙏
@victorocubano66
11 ай бұрын
Invite mama when you lonely, talk to your friends from Uganda with face time
@lasoniabreham773
11 ай бұрын
Hello , try to learn the language. It makes things a little easier, and then you will meet people. You really should try to talk to Rose , she has lots of friends. Hire a translator to help you learn the language . It would be heartbreaking for you to live in one country and your husband in another one. Most of all, pray let God lead you in your marriage. Most of it is being in that apartment by yourself. Now is time to put on your big girl pants and suck it up. You are strong you can do this.
@nondumisokunene9279
11 ай бұрын
Please study Gladys and occupy your time. Alone is not lonely. Some of us are in Africa and single. The important thing is to do meaningful things. Studying is one of them. Love is not everything I know hence the depression. Si ce you can't work there , study. Empower yourself. Learn a skill. Study through corresponce where you can study in English.
@brooklynsky1228
11 ай бұрын
You have many KZitem friends we are all here for you.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Am so blessed I have you. Blessings to you my family ❤
@ninamutuku5580
11 ай бұрын
Hi are you allowed to do business?You can sell things back home and be able to travel home and China too.
@Am_Manasa
11 ай бұрын
As a foreigner in any country is not easy especially if u can't speak the language,is difficult find someone from Uganda i live in Germany i face the same problem
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thanks dear
@lornacoleman7405
11 ай бұрын
You can visit but you don’t have to separate from your because you are going to break his heart too. So you while he travel to work you can visit your country. Maybe if you have a baby lol 😆😆you would be happy to have a little company but it wouldn’t be fair to be alone with a baby, just trying to help. I feel sad for both of you, knowing if you tell him you want to go home it’s going to tear you apart. Take it to the Lord in prayer. ❤️🙏🏽
@josephinenamirimu7056
11 ай бұрын
Dear Gladys, so sad to see you this sad! Am not the best Counsellor here but i think you might need to talk to yourself deeply because deep down in your heart, there is that voice in you. I know love conquers and overcome all obstacles. Long distance is not an option dear as you will feel more distant even to your own husband. Just sit down and listen to your soul. Find commonalities in both of you, try to create the world you want. It is possible to feel lonely evwn here in Uganda your motherland. I have seen it before. Sending you love dear sister.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you dear
@olgamartha5727
11 ай бұрын
Gladys, I want to give you a motherly hug right now from America. You’re lonely, different people, different Language, different food, etc,. Learning the language is hard and a big struggle for you. I admire your meekness Gladys. But like someone suggested, try to get in touch with Rose and Anzai Country life on KZitem. She’s a Ugandan. Please, PLEASE, do not leave your husband. Maybe visit Uganda for a short time but try and hang in there. Your husband loves you, girl!❤️❗️. This feeling you have now is mostly because your husband left, you’re getting closer to one another, and your emotions have taken a strong toll. Please don’t give up or give in; this too shall pass. I can empathize with you. I left my country for America. Give it a good try. God will help you adjust. Blessings to you always ❤❤
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Warmly hug 🫂 felt mum the advice is take I will hold up
@greyeye5345
11 ай бұрын
America is a democracy.
@Rosemarie882
11 ай бұрын
Gladys, one of the things your have to do is to find things to do, It could de difficult, learn to sew nit grow up you are a woman. Marriage could be hard but the vows are for better or worst for good or bad till death do us part. TOO many people have good sex and think that is all its much more.
@Racheal-gp3ry
11 ай бұрын
If you need food foods they them send dried foods that if if DHL does allow that.
@nevetajohnson4873
11 ай бұрын
I am crying with you. Loneliness is not nice
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thanks darling 🫂
@PMRroberto2023
5 ай бұрын
Gladys, You're just home sick. Just go and visit home for like a month. Bring your sister to visit you once in a while. We have been in the same situation before. You are just home sick, long distance marriage won't work since you are still young. Also, look for a Ugandan community.
@JBonniwell100
11 ай бұрын
Listen pray you will work it out, you married him, so go home visit, but you married him you love him, be strong, you will survive Gladys Lin
@monicamuthoni3456
11 ай бұрын
Gladys, try to take one thing at a time. Concentrate on your challenges and make them work... Face your fears with your head high. Going back to Uganda is not a solution, involve God in everything.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Your right sister thank you
@monicamuthoni3456
11 ай бұрын
@@gladyslin Thank you to dear. God will help you take one day at a time. Let your marriage pass test of time. Love you guys.
@jeangordon557
11 ай бұрын
Take it to the Lord in 🙏 prayer.i❤
@evelynamalu-ix8jz
11 ай бұрын
Don't give up Gladys,this is the time to pray and ask God to help you. Please, the key is to learn the language and things will improve. Think about people who come to your country from a foreign land and they adapt. How about taking classes in the classroom. You will get to meet more people like that. Remember you made a vow for better or for worse. No, you haven't fallen or failed. This will pass.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
I will look into schools hearby
@misanincube3693
11 ай бұрын
Hie Gladys Lin... remember you are now married and it comes with hard choices and also means giving up the norms from your country as an African girl or woman... it is what we are told to understand and adopt new family norms when getting married... instead of thinking alone how you should live your life, I think you should discuss with your husband to find a better solution for both of you.... yes sometimes it is good to be selfish and 5hink about yourself... but making decisions like living a separate lives it should be both parties.... you can ask your husband to visit home for sometime and have a little break and some closures ad a married woman. If you go back for your friends, neighbours etc. What will happen if those get married in foreign countries and leave you there? I am too in a foreign country and I understand your feelings....this is a challenge you have to overcome...and just cry as much as you can... then turfen up and bring Ugabda to China...don't leave your new home and new realities
@nakayegaglenda7801
11 ай бұрын
❤❤VERY WELL EXPLAINED. Extraordinary advice, dear. Hope she copes
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Right ❤thank you sister
@Linz1212
11 ай бұрын
Give yourself at least 5 years, don’t try to rush the process, don’t try to fit in it will never be possible even after 20y, with time you will feel ok to stay alone, your taste of food will start changing and you will crave less and less food from home. I think the problem is that your body is in China but your mind is still in Uganda. The friends and family you are talking about are also are going through some changes in their lives and the moment will come when they will not even have enough time to entertain you even if you are back home, so you have to learn how to feel ok with being alone and make your own paradise where ever you are.
@MrsMugs
11 ай бұрын
some things never change, I'm living in Uganda married to a Ugandan but gosh I can't adapt to their food and it's been almost 7years....that being said I pray Gladys finds the strength to persevere and gets a circle she feels connected to.
@bonitahopkins2958
11 ай бұрын
You are so right on many levels. We have to find our place in God's purpose for our lives, that's the real paradise no matter where you're physical location is 😊
@Linz1212
11 ай бұрын
@@MrsMugs I think it’s because you still have options around you to eat your food, when you are in an environment where you have no option it’s different. I used to be exactly the same when I moved abroad. I was looking for my country’s food everywhere until I realised that i was spending too much money on that, then I started to look for alternatives. It’s been 6y now the craving are gone completely, I still love my country’s food (I make it once in a while ) I will choose it over any other food but the alternatives I found are more than enough for me especially that now I focus more on healthy food than tasty food 🙂
@Linz1212
11 ай бұрын
@@bonitahopkins2958 I definitely agree with you. I think we are usually more focused on what we think we are missing that we forget about our purpose and what God really wants for us. The location absolutely doesn’t matter (as long as you are safe). You are there for a reason, Build your own paradise. 🙂
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you sister
@sarahv.o7031
11 ай бұрын
Gladys, I’m a Ugandan married to an American and we live here in Arizona, USA. I came to the USA on my own and met my husband later after 4 years of living here. Adjusting to life here was so difficult- missing home, food, culture. I was so lonely I thought I could die but the good thing I found a good church and later made so many friends. I know you can’t just go to a church in China but with time I think you will adjust. Please don’t give in to going back to Uganda and living apart from your husband. Married life is not easy but it’s beautiful. Evaluate the reason you entered the marriage, give yourself time and soon you will start feeling better. Life back home is not easy also. Reach out to the other Ugandans in China who are offering to meet up with you and take it from there. God bless you 🙏🏿
@spiritharris1080
11 ай бұрын
Hi Gladys. You’re so brave to share your feelings with us but most importantly with yourself. Please pray ok. Don’t make any decisions while you’re feeling emotional. Can you go home for a visit? Also maybe reaching out to others like you living in Chiba will help. Give it a try. Gladys it’s really good that you’re acknowledging how you feel. That is the first step. Pray, write in a journal and reach out to other women in China that are from Africa or elsewhere. Hang in there.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you dear
@SumayaUthman-fd6gu
11 ай бұрын
If I may ask,is it your first time to be in foreign country?? If yes, please please try to be strong,those things have happened to me so many times...but by the time I started to ignore it and focus on accepting what am already in especially now that Uganda obwavu bunji mukwano😥😥 please be strong and try to copy up...the only biggest problem I see,is that you don't have job yet to keep you busy dear... please don't go back to Uganda...obwavu bunji u are lucky u moved,just try keep yourself busy and visit your in-laws or focus on Netflix as you pray hard to get that card,when you start to work,trust me all the stress will go away and you will start to like the country 😊😊🙏
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you dear this is motivating and encouraging
@plk6234
11 ай бұрын
Be strong. Go out and interact with others and make friends. Try to blend in. Learn new activities. You don’t need your husband’s friends to escort you to places. Create a life that isn’t centered only around your husband, so that even when he ain’t home, you’ll still function. You could also visit Uganda with your husband.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Honestly this is what I want have my own happiness not based on anyone
@mimisland5482
11 ай бұрын
My dear Gladys, God sees you more than you see yourself. You are one of His children, He will not leave you nor forsake you. I was very happy to see you on your wedding day and I've never stopped praying for you and your husband, just as my children. Take up a vocation or a professional course of your interest, with venue close to your home. You can even enroll for a Chinese language course. You will enjoy it.you can also teach English if you like teaching . I enrolled myself into a french language class at the age of 70+ because i love to speak french like my children. I really enjoyed it so I'm encouraging you my dear daughter, don't despair. Take a decision now, talk to God about it and He will lead you to greater joy. Remember Jesus loves you. Grandma lolashka Lagos Nigeria.
@deniseloua8625
11 ай бұрын
My heart is reaching out to you my dear. You are young enough to be my daughter! I AM SO PROUD OF YOU. I have never been as brave as you are to take on such a challenge/journey! PLEASE PRAISE YOURSELF for all of your accomplishments so far. I don’t think you are giving yourself enough credit. You are a BRAVE, STRONG African Queen! Remember there are always negative energy around all of us. The Negative Spirit doesn’t want us to be Happy. When I receive negative thoughts, I say, “Thank you God, Thank you God”, until the negative voices go away! Please try to relax and focus on all the accomplishments you have made in China during this short period! Probably, visiting Uganda for a brief period might help. Long distant relationships are possible yet challenging. I AM SO PROUD OF YOU MY AFRICAN QUEEN. Thank you for talking to us and God Bless you! You are STRONGER than I have ever been. Please give yourself more CREDIT!❤️🙏🏽😘❤️🙏🏽😘❤️🙏🏽😘
@MarieA1
11 ай бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽
@MarieA1
11 ай бұрын
Aww sweetheart I feel for you and your feelings are understandable. Maybe if you can find friends and keep busy going out doing things. You’re missing your home your family and it’s not easy. I watch another KZitem channel and she left her home in Tanzania to make life in china with her husband and children. Just ask God to help you make the right choices. 🙏🏽❤️
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Papa am already saying THANK YOU GOD 🙏 taking away all the negativity
@randommusings4957
11 ай бұрын
So sorry you are going through this Gladys. After yesterday's vlog I was a little worried about you. I hope you find a way to work through this❤
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Thank you, I will dear
@krysdelight6282
11 ай бұрын
Gladys you are your own worst critic. You haven’t given yourself enough time, 6 months in a new country it’s not long a place China with different cultures just give yourself time Rome wasn’t built in a day.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Your right dear but emotionally it was hurting
@sweett1973
11 ай бұрын
We care about you and want you to be well and safe. Based on what you said, you're definitely homesick. Also, you want to be accepted there and make a life for yourself. Making friends there is a challenge, but it can happen. Communication in a foreign country is hard at times. Most people know some english but won't admit it, unfortunately. You're doing really good as a new wife and couple. You're lonely and miss your open free environment back at home. Not being able to work is really hard, and boredom is all the time for you, so it seems. You can't just go roaming around out there it can be scary and uncomfortable without a local friend. Stay positive and remember to pray and may God lead you and guide you. I will be praying for you as well. Also, your husband is a very smart man and he knows and feels for you to. He wouldn't want you to go he loves you so much and cherishes you. You can tell in eyes how much you mean to him. So you two will have to have another heart to heart chat and decide what's best for you mentally and your beautiful marriage. ❤ Keep us posted. 🙏
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Sweet your so right about everything thank you I feel am understood. Thank you dear
@beatricekell1644
11 ай бұрын
Pray about it my baby and be strong for your husband 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦❤❤❤❤❤
@babrahkuryagye8748
11 ай бұрын
U have to be strong dear 😢 I know you’re missing Uganda but stay calm and pray to God he will provide you with kids that will comfort you
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Amen 🙏
@caroljean161
11 ай бұрын
What you’re feeling is a mixture of emotions. Gladys it really is early days. Please hang in there. Have you tried reaching out to other foreign KZitemrs in China? I watch Rose in China who is another Ugandan and her circumstances are different to yours but she has been in China about 8 yrs so she might be able to share heart with you and encourage you. It is a very brave thing to leave home and go to a new country and try to fit in. Honey it takes time. I am praying to God that you will find some peace of heart and mind also you are not alone. God cares and loves you. One more suggestion, have you thought of getting a cat or a dog so you won’t feel so alone when hubby is gone? ❤❤❤
@Tobeesho
11 ай бұрын
😊Rose and her husband were mostly together working in the fields, sharing chores etc. Kinds different from Glady's situation. Easier for Rose to settle in. Her .uch smaller, more rural community also played a big part...dropping by, sharing meals, produce etc.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Let be patient dear
@caroljean161
11 ай бұрын
@@Tobeesho yes I know and did say that Rose’s circumstances ARE different. However, as you brought it up about Rose and her husband, they have also had times of separation due to hubby working away.
@shirleyprincipe3554
11 ай бұрын
Long distance marriage is not correct. You have only 1 marriage 1 husband. Please talk to JESUS about this. Read the Psalms in your Bible.
@barbiebarbara5911
11 ай бұрын
Gladys I really understand you 😢. I’m in the US but I sometimes feel so homesick and it’s not Fun at all. At least here we all use English which makes communication easy. So I can’t imagine you living in a totally different culture with different food and language. It makes it hard to express yourself or even make friends. Even gatherings you feel left out because of the language barrier. It makes you feel lonely and left out. So, I totally do understand you. I think talk about it with your husband and if he loves you, he will really understand and support your decision. You can go home and come back. Because mentally it’s draining and makes you sick. Maybe try some gardening…..it might help. I’m sorry you’re struggling, and I know the feeling.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
That’s exactly what am feeling
@ravie6973
11 ай бұрын
Hi Gladys. Someone made the exact comment I was going to make. Enroll in some Chinese speaking classes. You seem and sound like a very intelligent young woman and I'm sure you will pick it up fast. I've been watching some other youtube channels and some people do pick up the language by spending a lot of time learning. If you go to Uganda I hope it's only for a visit but please don't stay. Return to hubby and make it work. You have a wonderful marriage and one of the best mothers in law one can want to have. You're one of the lucky ones. Take care my dear and let God guide you.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Amen 🙏 thank you dear
@randommusings4957
11 ай бұрын
Have you looked online to see if you can find any groups for foreigners to socialize to make friends? Maybe you can visit home for a few weeks at a time every few months? Just a couple of suggestions
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
For now it’s hard to visit home ❤
@Rita_Aine
11 ай бұрын
Hello Gladys. Hang in there. Missing home is okay, it hurts all the time. But you are now a married woman, you can talk to your husband and see if you can make a brief trip to Uganda. Try to make yourself busy, maybe a few movies or documentaries and more vlogging. Be strong, and him being away also contributes to that. But you will get used. Love from Uganda 🇺🇬
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
I have been watching movies but sometimes it that lonely feeling comes out
@margaretwhite6677
11 ай бұрын
Hi Gladys, try to talk to Rose. She's also a Ugandan girl who married in rural China and has adapted very well. "Rose and Azai country life". She might help youBe very open with your husband. I'm sure he will understand you. He seem to love you very much.
@hillview4378
11 ай бұрын
I totally agree I also follow her channel and felista the African daughter-in-law in China. Try and connect with the Africans already there as they probably feel the same and make your own little community it's hard when you don't have people who can speak your language or share your taste in food etc. Don't give up perhaps bring a relative or friend over to visit for a while a friendly face chat with. Plenty of African students are in China studying as well as ones from the Caribbean make some new friends who speak your language you won't be so alone.
@lobiesoso
11 ай бұрын
@@hillview4378 I to follow these two and they are happy in their community and very much loved. I agree it would be good for Gladys to contact at least Rose because the are from the same country Uganda and the speak the same language. Rose is a very positive person and can lift her up. ❤and help her to speak more Chinese and so on. Gladys please take this advice
@marienabwire3515
11 ай бұрын
For real talk to Rose she will definitely 😄 help you
@janelleeden5253
11 ай бұрын
True
@natukula
11 ай бұрын
Rose knows the laguage shes like a really chines, she talks to every one, like shes at home except glady
@simonsmith1860
11 ай бұрын
Gladys culture shock is normal especially when you’re in a completely different culture. It takes about 5 years to adjust to a foreign country( I have been living in Asia for 20 years, also from Africa). I understand how you feel, but just stick it out. Invite your mom over to China:) Get connected to some Ugandan folks in China. But it definitely looks like culture shock because depression is a big part of it. Sending you blessings and a big hug 💕
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Hug 🫂 received thanks bro
@paulaross4495
11 ай бұрын
You are asking everyone BUT your Heavenly Father as a woman of God.put the camera down and get alone with Jesus. You have not let Him be a vital part of your life. You need to start listening to Him Now. Not your subscribers and Not your family.
@marieadonis8482
11 ай бұрын
After three months in USA from Haiti , WI , I almost returned back home , it was very hard like what you're experiencing , I couldn't understand the way they speak , the foods were different etc , you're a strong and intelligent woman , a little trip back home , then a good computer and wifi at home in China will keep you connected with family and friends in Uganda and the rest of the world. P.S Look deep down yourself and figure out what does make you happier , then choose the one you cannot live without ! Don't be miserable the rest of your life and don't make some move that you'll regret later ! I'm sure he won't want to loose such a beautiful , strong and intelligent woman , he'll let you go home and visit ! Good luck little sister , hang in there !❤
@angela10491
11 ай бұрын
Bring your dad or sister. You need people.
@rosetta4880
11 ай бұрын
Haiti is not far from USA especially from Miami. You can visit often its not the same as China to uganda
@angela10491
11 ай бұрын
China is not the US. We have a variety of people. You can speak to your husband anytime. You can get a job. You can attend church and have a church family and support.
@gladyslin
11 ай бұрын
Am happy you didn’t give up let me keep my head up too sister
@modupeolabaruwaoladipo3658
11 ай бұрын
You are married and your husband loves you, the bible stays the two shall join together and become one. Please don't break the heart of husband. Stay with him and get yourself busy by 1, register in a language school 2, Look for Africans I am sure there are some around your area or nearby and make friend with them like Africans association. 3,Get yourself busy by writing small books about life and your experience in China. By the time you start cracking your brain on what to write, you will forget the loneliness and before you know it, pregnancy will crop up that will keep you busy and by the time the baby is involved then you yourself will be wishing for an extension of time. My dear please don't take any radical steps. See Ģod as your strength
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