Story 1: Mmm yes, telling your child that you never wanted them and that you were gonna give them up for adoption and even considered foster care and that you hated every minute of raising them is _definitely_ gonna make them want to spend time with you.
@khaleesireyna731
Жыл бұрын
"Bu-bu-but what about OUR feelings???" - OPs parents, probably
@juliawacker
Жыл бұрын
Even the most illusional parents should be aware that this answer leaves only one ending.. That is scorched earth and burned bridges. Why would anyone want parents that never wanted you, not then nor now, who saw you as the parasite that was depriving affection, resources and time from their favorite child. Unbelievable. I dearly hope OP makes her parents statement public and they get abandoned from society, cast out of town in tarr and feathers.
@ineedhoez
Жыл бұрын
She asked for the truth
@juliawacker
Жыл бұрын
True, Op asked for the truth but I'll bet my car the moment she red his answer she wished she didn't. There are some thing you should never say to your child. And "we never wanted you, never loved you and actively tried to give you away but nobody wanted to take you in" is one of those things.
@silverblaze46
Жыл бұрын
What’s even more sad about this? Is that the sister really didn’t have any love for her anyway. I’m just hoping that years to come that win. The OP is OK has better friends and everything and say the family including the spoiled princess demand that OP comes to visit or love them, OP just says now I have a better family than you morons and then just go to scorched earth. I’d at least put them on blast including the sister. I don’t care if she didn’t really participate, but she knew, and she revels in the attention. Just imagine if OP was even rebellious they would’ve gotten rid of OP thrown them in say a juvenile detention type thing just so they wouldn’t deal with them and probably throw out all the things lock the door and say trespass just to make sure they wouldn’t have to deal with them ever again.
@janejones7638
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: That is one of the saddest stories I've heard. We tried to give you up for adoption. It fell through and we decided to treat you like shit and less than. How absolutely awful. The parents have probably been cutoff by the sister because she's in school and has a new life. They are lonely and now feel like having a do over.
@johnowen9349
Жыл бұрын
Even if pretty sister has cut them off they'll still fall all over themselves when she decides to crook her finger for her first house or a car replacement or something.
@MrJpaynebb
Жыл бұрын
She needs to contact the sister to find out if she knows why their parents treated them so vastly different. As for the parents they aren't worth OP's time or energy after nearly 2 decades of mistreatment.
@pippo17173
Жыл бұрын
@MrJpaynebb I'm curious if her not contacting them might be part of it along with op. She feels guilty so she just up and left then all or something.
@shebakoby
Жыл бұрын
Cluster B abusive parents: "We couldn't afford to raise both of you" Same Cluster B abusive parents: "Here, Golden Child, have a full 1,000 dollars for clothes. Scapegoat, here's just like a hundred or so for clothes" The father was lying out his teeth.
@lifewithlee6298
Жыл бұрын
They need to see therapy, but I’m sure they know the therapist will not side with them
@tatalsaba
Жыл бұрын
Heard the 1st story before, but not that insane update. Those parents are at their core, monsters and deserve none of OP's time or energy, least of all the message "you're forgiven", that is something that requires time, effort and genuine will to make things right, not simply saying "we weren't good parents" while they're a bit lonely. Disgusting.
@Knight121198
Жыл бұрын
My response to the update would have been. "Don't walk, run!! The best thing you could do is live a good life as far away from those horrible people the better, find love, have a family and be well, they don't deserve your forgiveness or further thought, good luck. " Bloody hell, what a story.
@Sherwoody
Жыл бұрын
I’m curious what happened with the golden child. Is she going low contact because mom and dad were smothering her? If she’s going low contact too, mom and dad might feel abandoned by both kids now.
@whitneybennett4857
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, imagine telling a kid, "Your sister deserves nicer clothes because people always want to look at her and not you anyway." It takes a truly heartless POS to do something like that.
@tatalsaba
Жыл бұрын
@@whitneybennett4857 Spot on. And it gets even worse because they tried to adopt OP away without remorse and later decided against treating them equally since the golden child might be used to the unfair treatment and OP didn't deserve the luxury.
@sherimarvin5938
Жыл бұрын
Terrible parents! How could they even make it up? They can't go back and treat her better, they can't go to her sports games, they can't do anything equitable and they haven't apologized.
@Russman67
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: Let's be honest. The reason Mandy and Casey can't find a babysitter for the little spawn is that they don't believe in disciplining Nick and Maya. Well free-range babysitting it is then. Not the asshole and be busy when Mandy calls in the future. "Sorry I can't babysit. I have to make ice."
@tokonunya8301
Жыл бұрын
The story made it sound like they asked OP's mom and the mom "volunteered" OP. I hate it when parents do that, make their kids do favors/labor for other people without asking their opinion.
@MrJpaynebb
Жыл бұрын
SIL and brother are setting their kids up for failure without giving them discipline right now.
@jenicdarling9425
Жыл бұрын
I have to make ice! 🤣💀💀💀
@jenicdarling9425
Жыл бұрын
@@tokonunya8301it’s messed up she went to op’s parents to see if op could babysit instead of going directly to op. Seems like she expected the parents to force op to do it, sounds like the parents didn’t order op to but they did pressure her but at the very least they were paying op to. Which wtf the SIL wasn’t paying op?! She knows how her kids are and would’ve paid the babysitter but I guess felt she didn’t have to pay op. She wanted a free babysitter who couldn’t say no! And when she found out her in laws were paying op she tried to take that away. I also can’t get over her saying to op to “know ur place”, like wtf does she see op as family or the family’s servant?! Op needs to talk with their brother like I wouldn’t be surprised if he doesn’t kno and is the parent that disciplines them like SIL says to them wait till ur father gets home, hell the SIL may kinda too but just doesn’t like the idea of someone else doing it to her “precious babies”. Yeah hope op never babysits for em again
@carolroberts4614
Жыл бұрын
I wonder why Mandy doesn't want to take the kids with her to see Grandma?!!!
@thefallennero5265
Жыл бұрын
Anyone else think that in the future, OP's dad will reach out again to "ask" her to raise her sister's kids so she can continue partying?
@markbigbadbear
Жыл бұрын
Nah. They'll welcome the golden child's kids into their home like it's the 2nd coming of Christ. They WILL come nagging and begging once they found out OP1 got married and has kids of her own (if she wants them/can have them) and they weren't invited. Probably throw 'grandparent rights' around too.
@juliawacker
Жыл бұрын
I guess they will sweep OP under the rug or disown her and concentrate their resources and affection to golden child and her children. They never cared about Op, were only doing the absolute minimum and I bet 10 bucks that the only pictures of OP are in a dusty fotoalbum in the very back of a cupboard, while the walls are covered in pictures of the happy family. This won't change if Op has a family, as they would have to share time, affection, money.. All the things the sister "deserved more because she's used to it"
@LaMara-vv2wq
10 ай бұрын
I would not be surprised if they're doing that right now.
@vamp567
Жыл бұрын
OP's parents are monsters, plain and simple. They don't deserve forgiveness, they deserve nothing. I really hope OP goes back to NC because Jesus. The Father's explanation made me feel physically ill
@therealmaizing5328
Жыл бұрын
The father's "explanation" just made everything worse!
@shebakoby
Жыл бұрын
only a severely personality disordered individual could type out all the crap the father typed out and think it sounded reasonable.
@fox0yeah410
Жыл бұрын
Fuck that fuck em let them die alone never seeing you again
@TuntematonX
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, monsterous is the only word I can give the parents. There is disfunctional when shitty life happens and people make bad or stupid choices leading to messy situations. Then there is narcism sacrificing others' well-being to feed a delusion to cement one's world in. I am frankly surprised how much the father's explanation enrages me. Considering that getting drafted long ago forced me to make peace with the notion of ending another's existence, which will never be okay but can be necessary. This was not necessary - not by far. That is were I think monstrosity lies.
@n.g.l.
9 ай бұрын
I actually felt like throwing up. These people are sick I do hope they one day find Jesus and get help other than that they’re bad company!
@Russman67
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: The sperm and egg donors are out of their minds with the idea of having a new beginning with OP. Basically they wanted to get rid of the runt of the litter and when other people couldn't split up twins they treated OP like an afterthought for 18 years. After the update, Nah, keep that energy going forward Dad. No way to forgive a childhood of constant neglect so they can build up OP"s twin into a "Golden child". He can wait for his chosen daughter to come home if he wants to play Happy family.
@TheArnaa
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: the parents wanting a do over makes me wonder what went wrong with the golden child. Update: holy yikes! The parents just want to feel better about themselves and they’ll drop OP again the moment golden child is around to take up more of their time. They want forgiveness without even apologising for the way they abused her.
@prairiepalmetto9378
Жыл бұрын
First thing that crossed my mind, too.
@miminana-hd6nf
Жыл бұрын
yes, and for OP to say she doesn't blame her sister is very generous. Her sister is also to blame. She knew she was the "chosen one" and took advantage of it. She could have told the parents to step up and treat them equally but didn't. Those parents are awful people, just awful. OP needs to stay no contact with them.
@dionysus_adores
Жыл бұрын
So who needs a kidney, or what party do they want to save face in? just saying they don't out of the blue do this unless they want something. The update is worse! These are terrible people!
@Uneclipsed
Жыл бұрын
@@miminana-hd6nf that only works in movies. The reality is that children in these dynamics are raised from childhood to be complicit in abusive behaviors-which in itself is a form of abuse. That’s not an excuse for the hurt and scapegoated children can forgive or not forgive anyone they want to. But family dynamics are extremely difficult to break and attempts to push back are met with more abuse. Expecting minors to stop the abuse parents cultivate is fucked up.
@ynmonroe
Жыл бұрын
@LlEUCU. BEAU× Yep. OP even mentioned that the sister wasn't outright mean, but did feel she was better than OP. So I do think the sister is just as trash as the parents. She clearly drunk the kool-aid.
@hodgeelmwood8677
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: How the hell did the parents think that giving genuine love and care to OP would be a "luxury"? That's what you OWE any child you have! They're just feeling guilty now that the other twin isn't around, but the moment she comes back to visit, they'd drop OP and rush to fawn all over their golden child again. I'd tell them to get lost & then block them from facebook. They'll never learn.
@Knives7777
Жыл бұрын
STOP giving people who constantly or consistently hurt you second and third chances. She gained nothing talking to her dad. DOnt speak to them
@condorboss3339
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: Even after the update, I still suspect that there is more to it than the parents seeking absolution. I think there is some actual thing that the parents want, whether it is money, a caregiver, or even an organ donation. If OP has some trusted friend (one who will not give information to the parents), OP should ask that friend to snoop around and see what, if any, hidden motive the parents have.
@MsUnamusedNerd
Жыл бұрын
STORY 1: $1000 gift card for boutique of expensive clothes is the same spending ability as $100 for books? Yeah, that is not favoritism whatsoever. Also as a book lover books are expensive! $20 + for hard covers and $15+ for trade paperback. Unless you’re shopping for yourself in the kid section. (not judging any adult book lovers that read children’s books. I like to re-read Edgar and Ellen, as well as other children’s novel from my childhood.) The message where Dad said “I know we weren’t good parents” but they were good parents, but exclusively to one child. They knew how to be good parents, but they were only good parents for their favorite child while OP had to watch from the sidelines because for some reason, OP was not good enough to receive that same type of love. ATU: OK the reason for having a favorite child was so stupid. “we only wanted A child, but then we got stuck with you so we purposely gave you the short end of the stick because we only wanted one child. We didn’t put you in foster care, so be grateful we raised you the way we did” Fnck them! They can’t just come back and want to “do it over” childhood is a very important foundation, and there’s no reverting back to childhood for a second chance after they purposely screwed up that badly. I’m pretty sure they are just using OP as a spare because they are twins and their favorite twin daughter is away at college, not having time for them anymore.
@tokonunya8301
Жыл бұрын
Raising your kid to be an entitled brat who looks down on others (especially their own sister) is NOT being a good parent. They were shite parents to both kids.
@MsUnamusedNerd
11 ай бұрын
@@tokonunya8301that’s not what i meant. The parents claim that they were unable to be good parents to OP. Well, that’s a damn lie. They were capable of being a good parent but they chose to spoil the other twin. They chose to not treat the twins equally and they used to spoil twin “having her feelings hurt” to avoid changing how they treated OP. They were able to shower, OP with love and affection and grand gifts the same way they did their “favorite” but they didn’t want to. They didn’t care to. I was not at all praising the parents for raising a type of child who needs one really good beating from a school bully to humble the spoiled brat.
@themagicconch.804
Жыл бұрын
There is no starting over from that what type of parents could treat their child like that gross just grow there is no new start like Mark said the way they acted was just nasty frick them they don’t need another chance they ruined ops childhood and now want a way into her adult life no just no
@greendiamondglow
Жыл бұрын
I think it's entirely possible for people to change, but I think of the dad was sincere, he would have sent a detailed apology with no expectations of reconnecting with op and just left the ball in her court
@fhuber7507
Жыл бұрын
1... OP is completely better off without abusive parents in her life.
@lisabagdonjones1950
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: I'd automatically think that they needed an organ. Don't give them a chance, it's the road to more emotional damage
@tomc9453
Жыл бұрын
God I hope she never replied to her Dad after that! She now knows the reason (explaining it so plainly is ironically the only good thing he ever did for her!) and can completely, and permanently, close that chapter of her life.
@carolrondou6161
Жыл бұрын
I hope she forwards the message to everyone the "parents " know. Story 2 I love the smell of malicious compliance in the morning it smells like victory.
@gregmiller4387
Жыл бұрын
Story 1 - Let your parents wallow in their guilt for the rest of their lives, you have proved you don't need them ,all you will get if you let them back in your life is more pain. They're lonely because "Golden Girl" is away at collage and all they have is each other which is like living alone because they are both so empty. They'll pretend to love you for awhile, until "Golden Girl" shows back up then they will drop you again. Save yourself the hurt, seeing them again isn't worth the pain. Good Luck, OP, you can handle this ,you've handled worse.
@AryonaSamoto
Жыл бұрын
I know OP in the first story was treated horribly as a child but they are not responsible for how others treat them. They are Only responsible for how they react to that treatment and OP handled themselves with grace and dignity. I hope OP makes the best choice for them. My family hasn't even noticed I've gone low contact(It's been 2 years). Really brings into perspective how little I mean/meant to them. Especially since I thought we were so close till I accepted that I was the only one putting in the effort. I think they hold a lot of guilt for everything they put me through as a kid so don't like to see or talk to me because they can't accept what they've done.
@averycheesypotato
Жыл бұрын
OP in the first story should cut all contact from her family for good. But keep that email. You never know when they might try to work their way in. You may need a reminder of how insincere their apologies are- or proof of what kind of people they are, should they choose to interfere in your future life & relationships
@annabethsmith-kingsley2079
Жыл бұрын
Those parents' "explanation" makes everything WORSE! omg... unforgivable.
@ayushkumar-gk1zj
9 ай бұрын
Story 1: That'd be the type of parents you block and never see again.
@ondank
Жыл бұрын
Story 1 : These people are just the worst. Like absolutely the worst. I hope OP sends that email to the sister.
@bhutehole
Жыл бұрын
Story 1. I hope she never gives them a chance again. They are literal monsters
@SuperOdyss
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: I was kind of in the same position being a middle child of a very large family. I just went to university out of town and then grad school on the opposite side of the continent. Never really ghosted them but saw them only once a year or so. You can allow them to send you an email wishing you Happy Birthday, but you do not need to include them in your day-to-day lives.
@KittenUndercover
Жыл бұрын
2 years old is absolutely not too young for a time out. Time outs help to calm aggression, which is what a tantrum is, and gives the child time to figure out how to explain their frustration.
@amandasunshine2
Жыл бұрын
That first story was basically my childhood, except I was an only child.
@Poopiepies
Жыл бұрын
This made me realize so much. I thought I was being a brat about my sister getting $1000 monthly while I paid them $700 monthly. They are also trying to get into contact without an apology after I went no contact. Damn.
@broken_queer_but_fighting8589
Жыл бұрын
Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗
@j.scottvanlester4584
Жыл бұрын
In situations like this I make unreasonable demands to gauge their commitment. Tell them to sign over their house to you, deposit their life savings into your account, etc. If they really feel bad they'll react sadly, if it's a scam they will go on the attack and get nasty.
@juliamiller2299
Жыл бұрын
Story 1. This situation is so F'd up. At this point, OP should respond to them by saying, "Pretend you had adopted me out since I will never want to have any relationship with either of you. You are the worst parents ever, and my childhood would have been infinitely better if you had adopted me out to a family that would have loved me instead of merely tolerating my existence." I looked this user up and it's been 8 years since she made that update on Reddit. I would hope she stayed no contact with her horrible sperm and egg donors. Story 2. Mandy got what she deserved, with OP's malicious compliance when watching her brats.
@jameslyons6655
5 ай бұрын
The father’s email is mind blowing. Both of her parents are monsters. I would reply “Thank you for your honesty. You are both more horrible than I ever could have imagined. No, you will not get another opportunity to hurt me. Please stay as far away from me as possible.” People, beware of creatures in your life that harm you and then ask for a second chance. If someone shot at you and asked you to stand still for another go you wouldn’t say yes.
@Xenaga
Жыл бұрын
I have listened to so many of your videos, but the first story in this one just leaves me speechless. What a pair of horrible parents.
@nimuesfluffygaming
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for reading the comments like the last one, that was really helpful for me lol
@MamieBabi
Жыл бұрын
I'm so early, good morning, Mark. I hope you and Poppy have a lovely day, love you! ❤️
@eduardoesparza3325
Жыл бұрын
That first story made my stomach turn so horribly. I really hope she keeps no contact, those parents will never change.
@Joe___R
Жыл бұрын
Story 1 OP should just completely write off her "parents" what they did is completely unforgivable. If she tried to have a relationship with them again her sister would inevitably become their main priority soon enough. Once the sister sees that she isn't getting their full attention she would likely do something to get it back since it sounds like she was very aware of how poorly her twin sister was treated but never did anything to change that. Which means she had no problem with it and is almost as bad as her parents. Story 2 OP is NTA. She got mad at him for simply giving them a time out. After telling him not to dissapline them the second time she forced him to babysit. Any damage to the house is completely her fault. Kids need dissapline to learn lifes boundaries, the kids who are never told no turn out to be terrible people. Spanking teaches a kid must better than any amount of words ever can.
@acrawford01
11 ай бұрын
At least they were honest
@feronar-warsongus221
Жыл бұрын
S2 Bit of advice: If your employer or anyone else in authority tells you to do something that you know is stupid and could cause damage, get it in writing, be it paper, email, or even text. If it's electronic, keep a copy on a medium you control, i.e. your personal non-work phone, computer, or email address. They say: "Do not discipline my kids, that's my job, not yours." Before babysitting, you text: "As per our previous conversation, I am not to discipline your kids in any way, even if they are completely wrecking your house. Please confirm." Do not start babysitting until they text their confirmation. If they complain that the house is wrecked, send a screenshot of the agreement.
@angeleyesgreen1586
Жыл бұрын
2yrs is is not too young for a time out. The rule is: one minute for every year they've been alive. 2yrs=2 mins If you don't discipline when they're small like this, you are failing them. Functional behavior doesn't happen in a vacuum, it is taught.
@madambutterfly1997
Жыл бұрын
If a person says they can't do something 90% of the time it's because they choose not to do it and it's not actually out of their hands.
@Tokyo_Rose.
Жыл бұрын
Story 1 - Ive been the victim of parents like this (i have no twin, but i was unwanted/unloved) They dont change. They never will. Im sorry, but my advice would be to cut them off permanently, like i did. I wish you the best of luck and happiness for your future.
@lapsedgoth
Жыл бұрын
My sister In law is one of those "you don't even tell my kid they can't do something" kinds of parents, guess who doesn't watch the kids, or let them into personal space. Like, if you won't let someone set and hold boundaries you're never going to find a reliable sitter.
@ggg89106
2 ай бұрын
Story 2 the funny thing about malicious compliance is the other party always asks for it
@kevingriffin3628
Жыл бұрын
I read that fist story a long while ago. It's an older one. I always find myself wondering what happened to OP from time to time.
@philipturner9087
Жыл бұрын
Story 1 - They want something from you.
@KE-hr4sb
Жыл бұрын
S1: Why the sudden noticing you’re gone? What happened with golden child, did she move on with her life and they no longer are the center of her world, so they suddenly remembered they had another child? Don’t do it. My story is long, but the TLDR is basically my mother was abusive. I went no contact multiple times, only to be guilt tripped into getting back into contact (by other family members) a couple of times during milestones. It’s the biggest regret of my life, because she got a chance to hurt my kids. Not physically, I never left her alone with them, but that woman is headstrong and sharp tongued, and anyone that doesn’t believe as she believes, even children, are “wrong.” The last straw was when she slut-shamed my seven-year-old daughter for wearing a dress she’d creatively “made” by tying an old t-shirt of mine around her. You’re happy and healthy without them in your life. Don’t let them back in to undo your progress, and if you ever have kids, don’t let them repeat the cycle. What if you have one “beautiful” child and one “plain”? S2: NTA. Tell your parents they’re welcome to babysit, but it’s not worth the money to you and if they keep agreeing for you, the result will end up the same. Tell Mandy she needs to learn her place and parent her own kid instead of constantly dumping them on you.
@IzzyPR2010
Жыл бұрын
The time a child needs their parents the most is when they are growing up, a parent doesn't get to do nothing for their child while they are growing up, and then suddenly want to be parents after that child has grown up and no longer needs them.
@katyrye
Жыл бұрын
The commenters comment about forgiveness and apologizing is spot on
@terryjackson-chubick2506
Жыл бұрын
First!
@NopeScope14
Жыл бұрын
Karma is going to bite them right in the ass and I'm going thoroughly to enjoy OP's "golden child bailed on them and my newfound family and I don't really visit them in the nursing home" hopefully future update.
@des1279
Жыл бұрын
First
@Archonion43
8 ай бұрын
Father : we don't have resources to raise 2 children. Also father : gives $1000 gifts to that one child for her birthday. That Narcissist of a Father is lying
@jolteon345
10 ай бұрын
Story 2 is hilarious to me. I’ve become a de facto babysitter before to a massive family where discipline is a no-go, as the older kids and my brother went to where the younger ones weren’t allowed *and* the four adults were getting their “break time”. That was the last time I visited that family, my mom saw how exhausted I was and understood how unfair it was once we got to the car to head home. OP needs to tell her sister something along the lines of “I can discipline them as the temporary guardian, I need higher pay to make it worth the effort without discipline, or I’m not babysitting. Take your pick.”
@thecinnamonguy5127
Жыл бұрын
Story 1 op is better off cutting contact with her parents if they were sorry they would have said such. They didn't. They made an excuse. Cut contact and live the rest of your life happy
@AutumnFire1414
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: those asshats will dump OP the moment their "golden child" returns to their lives. OP would be better off to never trust these monsters again.
@jonstephenson9660
5 ай бұрын
Story 1: my answer- “thing is, this ‘new start’ seems like it’ll be a luxury to you, and pain for me. Glad you’re doing well in therapy though. Ask the therapist about hard boundaries and NC, and maybe they can explain what I want you to do from here.”
@_Enzhaym
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: op baby dont let them have this new beginning
@WorldofWarcraftfan02
7 ай бұрын
Story 1: the second the golden child comes back from collage or even for summer/Christmas things will go right back to OP’s childhood.
@Gerilyn2003
Жыл бұрын
You can tell your parents, "All our lives, you wished you only had one child. You now have your wish. Never contact me again."
@kmon1324
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: NTA Op and it seems your parents are only remembering they have another daughter now because your twin decided to move on. We can also consider the reason could be due to one of them needing something. Keep that letter both the request for an apology and the reason they chose their golden child over you and if they decide to escalate by claiming you abandoned them or some other convoluted crap tell your side of the story with that letter as proof.
@starlingswallow
10 ай бұрын
Story 1: they are probably reaching out because they think YOU will take care of them when they get older and need help....I'm sure their spoiled adult child won't have time to take care of them...she'll be too bogged down in her designer duds to bother with them. 😅
@meredithwhidden8712
8 ай бұрын
😢 Op , as others have already commented, your father is asking for forgiveness but not apologizing. It comes to my mind that either he or your mother is probably sick (first stages? ) in some way. They want forgiveness so they can (at a later date) ask you for help caring for them. They know they raised a selfish brat that won't care, but you're their backup plan. Story 2 😅 good for you, Op. You're learning how not to parent your own children if you ever decide to have them .
@jas6940
Жыл бұрын
The email thing from OP 👏 just beautiful
@PuReGhOsTT
9 ай бұрын
It's so scary that there are people in this world that do shit like this... we live around these idiots. (both stories)
@elizasevillano5133
Жыл бұрын
I feel like op isnt even "ugly" she just felt that way cause her parents treated her as the "ugly" twin. This is so sad.
@standinthegsp6858
Жыл бұрын
It’s also probably the reason dad spends so much time at work.
@yaqbulyakkerbat4190
Жыл бұрын
Some people deserve to be unalived. Op's parents are among them. I hope op just keeps all of them disowned, they aren't family
@tygir5096
Жыл бұрын
S1: Honestly, I'd take that dad's response and share it with everyone in the family and all their friends. Let them live with real consequences after 18 years of willful neglect and abuse.
@honeypot8524
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: I would go NUCLEAR and send out dads email to EVERYONE!!!! then block and go no contact.
@Tokyo_Rose.
Жыл бұрын
Parents cant automatically get what they want - single child, twins, blue eyes etc. Im a girl, but my parents wanted a boy. They never let me forget that.
@kagekun1198
Жыл бұрын
OP1: Prepare to be dumped like last night's dinner once the golden child comes back from college
@srsh12345
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: If Parents went no contact then she would have healed faster. Reaching out just to drop this massive slap in the face is awful. I'm so sorry for her. You know she had some hope when she restarted that communication with her parents. And they crush her mentally and emotionally. Awful people and OP needs PERMANENT No Contact. Block them all.
@keifferlindsey965
Жыл бұрын
Story 2- When you’re doing someone the favor doing something for them, do it YOUR way or tell them to find someone else.
@cherilynlarsen8104
Жыл бұрын
These are the worst parents! Selfish, childish, cruel, and indiferent. They only wanted one child? Saw spending money on you robbed her twin of her "rightful" support. These people have no idea of the impact of their actions. I wouldn't be in contact. They are toxic. Sheesh, my mind is blown.
@stevebanner5609
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: OP’s sister needs to tell her hubs to get his head out of his arse and start acting like a parent or she might as well raise them on thrir own. That’s part of the kid’s problem, the other part is discipline is a critical part of raising children.
@Harry-lq5hu
7 ай бұрын
These people/parents are Fn sick !!!!! Shocking !!!!
@PuppyKatt
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: Those kids do not need a baby sitter, they need a parent. Why does mummy get to escape them to go visit HER mother? Next time you are asked to watch them, tell SIL to take them with her to see their other granny.
@kimmyb8276
Жыл бұрын
as someone who was adopted and abused...it isn't any better when those who adopted someone are the abusers
@howardbeck3400
Жыл бұрын
Babysitting story, yep the a******. Hysterical you are absolutely right to do what you did. The first story I do believe the father at least is repentant. The OP asked for honesty, he gave it.
@logirl1975
Ай бұрын
Story 1: After the update it sounds like the parents are reaping what they sowed. They turned the "wanted daughter" into at the least someone who is living her own independent life but more likely a spoiled, entitled, brat who can't be bothered to care about her family. Now they don't have the child they wanted anymore so they're turning to get the same attention fix from the one they wanted badly to get rid of but just couldn't bring themselves to follow through on. The part that just gets me is that they were all set to go through with the adoption but somehow putting OP in foster care was a bridge too far? And instead of resigning themselves to the fact they had two kids, they did the very bare minimum for the unwanted child. That would have the absolutely last straw for me. I would methodically make certain that neither parent could never contact me ever again and they'd be dead to me. I truly hope that OP has found some peace and happiness since this because holy shit do they deserve it after all of that.
@yaff1851
9 ай бұрын
Story 1: I’d challenge the parents to specify what they mean by their promise to ‘make up for it’. Their answer will tell you how sincere their remorse is. Probably they don’t even plan to stop the favoritism in the future.
@maskednil
10 ай бұрын
How does realising you are an F up parent for 18 years of your child's first years, undoes the damage and trauma of those years?
@balanc-joy9187
Жыл бұрын
First story: Fizz the parents till they get blasted to the moon, no forgiveness or agreement, hope the OP freezes them out. Not accepting your child because you didn't plan one, and basically only raising them a tiny fraction of how you are supposed to while lavishing the wanted child with everything is sick and wrong on so many levels I can't even begin to express. I have issues with how my family behaved towards me but they got anywhere near that awful and selfish, those parents deserve the worst possible way their lives could unfold, nothing better.
@cpaul9269
Жыл бұрын
story 2 - 'No." is a complete sentence.
@computernerdtechman
Жыл бұрын
I think I would tell the parents that if their wish was not to have had me, then your wish is granted and I will never communicate with you again like I never existed.
@SS-te4hs
19 күн бұрын
How bad do kids have to be for them to be left home when visiting their Grandmom?????
@rekslegiune6004
Жыл бұрын
Story 1. F them, sorry mum and dad you had 18 years to be parents.
@vivi44
9 ай бұрын
My friends parents abused him for years, then after he went no contact, they decided to track him down years later and show up on their property. They acted surprised as him and his wife drew firearms and ordering them on the ground and once the police arrived they explained they feared this was potential retaliation, they feared for there lives and trespassed the parents.
@Bornagainvillain
Жыл бұрын
OP’s parents are unworthy of life itself.
@jennywhite2462
Жыл бұрын
Story 1 there's a special place in hell for OPs parents.
@Cerinaya
Жыл бұрын
First story: Hell no! Let them stew in their guilt, if they have any. They are the ones who decided that since they couldn't offload you to someone else (super sad that strangers cared more and were not willing to split twins) then they will just treat you like shit. Let them rot. They don't care they just feel lonely because the only child they wanted is out of the house. I am so sorry this person had to live through this and hope they can live their lives happy.
@Ryuondo
Жыл бұрын
After that reason, I'd just reply with a simple two sentences. "I don't have parents. I never did." And then go no contact for the rest of my days.
@noydb-1
Жыл бұрын
Before update: My guess is golden sis has blown through mommy and daddy's savings and is ditching them since they have no more money to offer her. Now they "love you and have seen the error of their ways. Please bring money". Or sis is ill and needs your spare parts for survival. After: If this is their apology, reply "Thanks, good to know." Block them on everything. Don't ever let them waste another precious minute of your life. Just because sis is leaving them behind, don't be a replacement until sis wants something from them again. You will be cast aside every time sis comes back for money, or a free babysitter (they might even expect you to provide both). I still think sis has left them broke, and you are seen as a solution.
@paulleckner8235
Жыл бұрын
My father's golden boy my older brother became a lazy, college dropout, alcoholic, pothead, living in my parents' house bachelor. I became hardworking, college graduate, sober, drug free, married to my wife with our own son, and a 30-year mortgage, who went no contact and had moved out and far away. My father was furious that I insisted to my wife that we name our son after her father. My father did not deny his abusing me but whined that the Bible says we should forgive. Forgiving him and letting him back into my life are two different things. I couldn't see myself naming our son after one of the two males in my life who hurt me.
@oshinb7
Жыл бұрын
As soon as I heard your opinion at 4:10, I immediately Liked and Subbed to your channel! Your head is in the right place! Keep it up 👍
@carlandrews666
Жыл бұрын
I hope the young lady in story 1 agreed to meet her parents in public and tore them to shreds. Publicly berated them for the shit childhood she endured because they didn't care about her before telling them that as they can't apologise for what they did to her and how she was treated for 18 years she wants nothing to do with them ever again and she will ever forgive them because despite them claiming to be their "new" selves they selfishly want her to forgive them without them apologising
@anthony98907
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: I wouldn't forgive your parents. I would block them and your sister and go NC with them and send what your dad sent you to your other family members.
@pamelamitchell8789
10 ай бұрын
I bet it's because family and friends are talking and asking embarrassing questions as to where you are etc. They don't want to publicly look bad!
@SwapnilBBagul
Жыл бұрын
Simple question: "Why now?" If the OP doesn't like the answer then a simple sentence will do, "I am doing just fine without you. I don't need you at all. Consider me dead. You need absolution? Find a priest. The best you can get from me is apathy."
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