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@natemarx4999
2 жыл бұрын
Sunday’s belong to Lana’s uploads.
@hemakanshimeena8442
2 жыл бұрын
hey ....please help me ...i am suffering stress last 3 year ...my life is going to ended side day by day.my boyfriend brokup with me .....
@jessicavanessa6928
2 жыл бұрын
a big thank u
@RealHomeRecording
2 жыл бұрын
What's your body count, Lana?
@altfel12
Жыл бұрын
How many of them did you fwcked?
@Astgsfgt
2 жыл бұрын
"Someone's childhood trauma is not a reason to treat you poorly". THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!!!
@diegovillacrez8349
2 жыл бұрын
It's a reason but it's not an excuse
@trappart9209
2 жыл бұрын
Even if it is a reason the question is if you are willing to accept this behavior
@sweetcherry4558
2 жыл бұрын
So true
@hedonismbot3274
2 жыл бұрын
But many do and they don't even know what they are doing. So what is the solution ? A good therapist. Self inquiry. But many will never do that. So "hurt people, hurt people". I have just been through two relationships where they both projected everything onto me their former friends did. Up to "you hate old people" and such absurd things. And no chance to tell them otherwise. No solution. In the end both had projected so many things onto me that there was no defending myself or way out and they left me. Or better the terrible person they made up in their heads. And I know both where traumatized and the exes where assholes. The only thing that can be done is avoid such people.
@Astgsfgt
2 жыл бұрын
@@hedonismbot3274 I partially agree. However, I don't think people are so oblivious to the pain they are causing as they want others to believe. Most of the time, they are well aware, but simply choose to not acknowledge it because it's inconvenient. And they hide behind the "I didn't know/I have issues so it's not my fault". It doesn't take a therapist to teach one that faking feelings is unfair and that cheating or diminishing others is hurtful, for example, nor is a therapist's job to tell someone they're an ass xD
@JustNicole6400
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly, the more I focus on dating the more I tend to overthink everything and I lose sight of what really matters. I deleted all of my apps and started doing things for myself like dance classes and ceramics. I realized I needed to find things that fulfilled me and the need to “find someone” has completely gone away. It’s almost scary how peaceful it is because I feel like there’s something wrong with me for not actively dating 😂
@brainelite
2 жыл бұрын
You're right! For me it was art. It helps me to be in love with life and not needing someone else to make me happy ❤️
@11Renee11
2 жыл бұрын
I think the same can be said for already being in a relationship or married. We tend to lose ourselves and forget what we like to do, what we're passionate about. It's healthy for everyone to have their own interests and hobbies.
@Baasicstuff
2 жыл бұрын
If you wish to meet someone just like an education or a job, you need to go get it! Everyday you waste your getting older, men want young women...PERIOD end STOP. Men like feminine traits like submissiveness, women Like masculine traits, like muscle, facial hair, and aggressiveness. If you act like a man, this is not attractive to most men, just as if I pranced around like a female, it would be very unattractive to a woman. Common sense guys
@paulaluzuriaga9416
2 жыл бұрын
@@Baasicstuff FAMINE ? okk that's all we need to know about you. Also regarding facial hair and aggressiveness , i don't think is that important , I don't like neanderthals personally but idk.
@Baasicstuff
2 жыл бұрын
@@paulaluzuriaga9416 As you age your perspective will change. As for knowing all you need to know of me. Happily Married, Self Made, Retired by 44, Wife's traveling the World currently, me chilling having a great life. I wish so much others would live in reality, rather than some made up universe, a making of their own. I love when people tell me how it is, I just smile. You're very disagreeable, that a masculine trait, good luck with that. Aggressiveness, that's a go getter, that's what you want, not some high pitch loser thats going to work for me. Who corrects someone spelling, lol thats all you got, petty, another trait that will hold you back from all that you feel you deserve.
@michaelrainbow4203
2 жыл бұрын
I hate dating for the same reason I hate job interviews. Never ceases to amaze me, the BS people are willing to go through to not feel lonely.
@elarapatrick9168
Жыл бұрын
Ohh yeah honey I which we are together because I have be the same way too
@themichael3105
Жыл бұрын
Amen.
@elarapatrick9168
Жыл бұрын
@@themichael3105 hey buddy why did you say that ?
@VinyZikss
Жыл бұрын
@@elarapatrick9168 whats wrong with saying amen
@MrGianeta
11 ай бұрын
ahaha. so true. Yep. But the answer is the same as with a job. That's why we are looking for something that lasts, no? I mean you go through the motions, and then you stick to the job/partner you got unless there's something seriously wrong with it/them.
@BimmerWon
Жыл бұрын
I’ve been on 0 first dates and I’m almost 26. Here’s what I learned:
@DonJDawson
Жыл бұрын
ahh don't sweat it bud they don't want you anyway until you are 35 with money anyway. Just focus on building yourself a company so you can get that part out of the way and then really enjoy the rest of your life. If you get involved with girls while you are trial and error building your company you will fail much much harder, you don't have enough mental bandwidth to do both. Trust me I tried it, in every way possible. Screw the women. Build the company. Then the world is your oyster bud.
@is_mizo7486
Жыл бұрын
@@beatmymeat6769 😂😂😂😂😂
@BennieWilll
Жыл бұрын
49 dates and still single. Ouch.
@blammmed
Жыл бұрын
@@beatmymeat6769tell me you've never felt the genuine love of a woman without telling me:
@chetantiwari5745
Жыл бұрын
I m 23 and I never had a relationship here what I learn
@georgekolton9059
6 ай бұрын
"Remember that you don't owe anybody anything". I REALLY dislike this concept. I think people do owe each other basic respect, appreciation, decency, common courtesy.... And if someone took you out, spent time, money and effort on you while being nothing but nice to you... and you're just not feeling it, you DO owe that person the courtesy of simple explanation and "good bye". Thinking you don't owe anybody anything leads to somebody in this situation suddenly disappearing without a word and ignoring the other person... which is seriously rude and lame. It's also a sad symptom of how these days, so many people have adopted this "It's just all about me" mentality.
@Allesea159
Ай бұрын
That's true, but that's not the context she was referring to. If someone is misbehaving on a date or they're making you feel bad or they're ruining the date in another way, you don't have to torture yourself in sticking around because you don't owe them your time. You can just get up, say that you're not enjoying the date or that it's not working out as you were hoping and leave. You owe yourself a good time and an opportunity to find out if this person is right for you. Ive spend too many dates sitting there with someone for hours, while I knew 30 minutes in that this was a mistake and that I wasn't attracted to him in the slightest. I gave them the benefit of the doubt and stayed, but in hindsight that only made the end of the date more awkward and it was unfair for me to give them hope that there was a chance at a second date. And that even was in a situation that doesn't feel threatening. Because if the situation does feel dangerous, just opting out without an explanation or a fake one (like a friend calling) is very much OK. How many women were assaulted because they didn't feel like they were allowed to leave because of common courtesy? No matter how much time or money they spend on the date, that's irrelevant. You owe it to yourself to protect yourself more than anything. Back to normal dates - I truly think on a first date it should be about yourself. Doesn't mean you have to be rude about it if the guy is otherwise nice and it just doesn't click. But in some situations it's fine to be assertive and to just get out of dodge as soon as possible. All is fair in the love and war, they often say.
@maniravandi5983
Жыл бұрын
"Interest in usually obvious" I needed to hear that so much!
@rosabelletan1002
2 жыл бұрын
I learned that relationships and marriage are not really a must for me. I’m fine with being either single or married, married life doesn’t mean it’s way better than single life as both have advantages and disadvantages. If I couldn’t find a partner it’s ok as the most important thing for me is to find inner happiness with life and myself.
@legrandduca687
2 жыл бұрын
after 45 life gets pretty lonely, but it's up to you if you're ok with dying alone and nobody to remember you..
@PeaceFinder12
2 жыл бұрын
What have you found helps with inner happiness?
@christiantaylor1495
2 жыл бұрын
WGTOW spotted
@christiantaylor1495
2 жыл бұрын
you do realise we are in an aging crisis due to low birthrate. Check the birthrate of your country. Actually do it, don't be lazy. Yeah, it's f+£(&(_(cking low. There are people who hate you, rubbing their hands together laughing at this talk of single life being equal, meanwhile their homeland has a birthrate over 3.
@littlelam3691
2 жыл бұрын
@@legrandduca687 just because you may be lonely without a partner doesn’t mean everyone is the same. You shouldn’t make blanket statements and judgments.
@aakashailajan
2 жыл бұрын
There’s this “need” to be in a relationship or have a partner in our early 20s when we’re still trying to figure out life or ourselves for that matter. And most people jump into relationships with the wrong one, or anyone that shows slight interest bcz you’re seeking love and happiness and want to feel appreciated. The truth is that you need to first figure yourself out and learn to love yourself. Instead of seeking love and happiness in someone else, find that within you. And this self love, this internal joy, will attract not only the right partner, but a life filled with blessings. 🙂🙏🏼
@JustNicole6400
2 жыл бұрын
This! 👏🏼 There’s too much pressure in your 20’s to date someone. I wish being single and working on yourself was the norm for people my age but I seem to be the outlier lol
@saintsaens21
2 жыл бұрын
Word.
@hi29189
2 жыл бұрын
Self love is essential but it’s normal human nature to want to couple up. Can we please stop denying this and making people feel wrong for desiring partnership.
@myfriendgoo2816
2 жыл бұрын
With the benefit of hindsight, I doubt any marriages in my 20s would have stuck, be it the one GF where it was possible or any hypotheticals. People still develop and mature into their mid-20s, which is one reason the car-rental companies treat people under 25 as bad risks.
@OshinSharma
2 жыл бұрын
Agreed 100%. But easier said than done :/
@JemimasOutcome
2 жыл бұрын
Lana, girl I am so traumatised from online dating and I only tried it for 3 months. 😭😭 It was emotionally and mentally draining. My main problem though was that when I liked a guy, I got too carried away believing it was gonna work out. But then all of a sudden he ghosts. It was just so confusing. I thought there was something wrong with me. However, I then realised they just see me as an option, as there are plenty of girls to chase. So I left the dating apps and I am taking a break until I can handle the rejection. I am now focusing on learning more about myself, and what I need and want so that I don't keep falling so fast. Also I'm hoping to just meet someone organically, because swiping is so long 😩🤣
@LanaBlakely
2 жыл бұрын
The dating world (especially online) can feel like a jungle. Good on you for realizing it was becoming too much and taking a break! You don't want it to start feeling like a chore. It should be fun and exciting imo. xx
@sams517
2 жыл бұрын
@Life In France are you a girl?
@BartSimpson-rl2uo
2 жыл бұрын
Well that's how it works. There's a small number of men with unlimited amount of options when it comes to women then there's every other men.
@onnol917
2 жыл бұрын
Its even worse for men. The current dating is simly mostly superficial
@norapeace6526
Жыл бұрын
@@onnol917 so true. Rich guys want Instagram models & vice versa & everybody else is left watching / wanting them
@samuelmyers9417
8 ай бұрын
I was rejected 27 consecutive times before I got a first date, to go on 49 first dates I'd need to ask out over 1,300 women. This information is invaluable, especially because I don't have another 720 years to find potential mates.
@spinnetti
7 ай бұрын
You are a braver man than I. Kudos.
@georgeinjapan6583
5 ай бұрын
There are likely better options overseas. Don't limit yourself.
@Ana-vq6tp
4 ай бұрын
You're referring to girls as mates 😭
@tesladrew2608
3 ай бұрын
@@Ana-vq6tpand that offends you?
@carolinareaper8089
3 ай бұрын
O wow I admire your persistence. I wasn’t on a date for 9 years - no one asked me - it’s hard for woman too 😮😢
@FFCAJC
Ай бұрын
"Don't look for someone who will create your happiness, look for someone who you'd like to share your happiness with." wow, that's what I really need to hear. It's true for any relationships at any stage. Thank you Lana.
@MidnightMoonProductions
2 жыл бұрын
I've had my fair share of crushes before. Before, I was filled with infatuation and missed constant red flags. I was hoping to dating them at some point but looking back I'm glad I didn't. Thankful to God that I started to deeply work on my self because I love myself like never before. I believe its good to be with someone who is willing to be your best friend and grow with you :)
@annejean3767
2 жыл бұрын
Girl same here, 50 first dates for me!
@harrypotter_petronus
2 жыл бұрын
How many hook ups ?
@pbj5521
2 жыл бұрын
How many free meals did you fiend off of? 50 dates? Lmao how convenient that you’re just now “focusing o your career” 😂
@annejean3767
2 жыл бұрын
@@pbj5521 0? In my culture it's either 50-50 split or each person pays for themselves, plus I recommend actually doing something cool (and free!) like checking out a museum or cycling around a lake for a date. Not every date needs to be a boring sitting in a restaurant ;) Have a nice day and be kind to yourself!
@merc2796
2 жыл бұрын
Alternative comment : 50 hook up and I am taking a break from it 🤣
@christiantaylor1495
2 жыл бұрын
Focus on your career later in life after having children. You should also know women quit their careers 80% of the time. Fact check it. So you might find it isn't fulfilling anyway. You have a limited time while fertile, and are more fertile the younger you are
@selmameyer_
2 жыл бұрын
Dating and romantic relationships have taught me so, so much about myself. And I'm still learning. Thank you for sharing, Lana!
@aleksandra2759
10 ай бұрын
Zzzz
@scott1294
Жыл бұрын
I tend to agree about the connection but have also come to realize that connection develops over time as you get to know someone on a deeper level. Eventually it turns into love. So maybe for less attractive people, less connection in beginning but if given a chance, it can and does develop. There is more to beauty than skin
@ShaferHart
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like something an unattractive person would say 😂
@beautifulplaces2703
Жыл бұрын
I think it's important first to learn how to build healthy relationships.
@Leoo117
2 жыл бұрын
Great stuff, Lana. I'm so glad you mentioned falling in love with someone's potential. My mother did this, and my sister is currently doing this. You just end up not accepting them for who they are, and you end up angry all the time due to them constantly disappointing your fantasy of them. I've learned that another term for this is called limerence. We've just got to accept reality at all times, no matter how uncomfortable it is for us. Also, as a man, I've learned that the kind of woman that can be truly special to me only really comes along about 2 times a decade. I'm very careful with who I decide to ask out on a date, because I really have to feel a genuine excitement about her and be certain, because I don't want to go around breaking hearts. It's usually easy to be certain though, as long as you can do honest introspection, and remember that you can't force yourself to like them like you said.
@c-ronos
2 жыл бұрын
"The right one is right in front of you, but if you're looking for what you don't want in a lover, you won't be able to see them." That's why they say - "Open your eyes but from the inside and think about what you see. You need to be looking even when your eyes are physically closed",
@rohantaneja7500
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah honestly man I haven't been around two long but I've only had one woman that I genuinely was in love with in 20 years. The others was just infatuation or just situation ships I got into because I was so flattered they were into me. I recently got out of a really short month long relationship because initially I imagined I was going to date potential but something just didn't feel right so I had to let her go. I think I broke her heart and it was a terrible feeling to go through. So I now plan on only asking out women that I genuinely feel like there is a connection with which like you and I mentioned before come only once every so many years. It's not easy because sometimes in the loneliness of the night the option to reconnect always comes back to me but I fight it since it's the right thing to do. Good luck in your journey to find love and Godspeed my friend.
@Leoo117
2 жыл бұрын
@@rohantaneja7500 Thank you. I appreciate this comment. I have the same struggle, but we can persevere. Keep it up, man. It'll work out for us.
@itsez1129
2 жыл бұрын
Like lottry, If win you win, if not then who the fuck cares anyway
@BG-sq7zf
Жыл бұрын
What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas, and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability, and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife, or lover, she already had been "run through," so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being, or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way. *Sex and Culture* by Joseph Daniel Unwin *The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi *The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar *The Myth of Male Power* by Warren Farrell *The Feminist Lie: It Was Never About Equality* by Bob Lewis *Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe *Men on Strike* by Helen Smith *Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous Feminist's Ideology from Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook: '''My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated, and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.''' Cardi B. Artist and role model for the most privilege 🦄 on the entire planet: '''My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.''' Isaiah 3:12 *Childish* leaders oppress my people and *women* rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road. Proverbs 31:3 Don't give your strength (attention, resources, mental point origen) to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings. Ezekiel 23:20 There, she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses. Any thoughts, suggestions, and constructive criticisms are always welcoming 🕊💚🙏🏼
@LB-uo7xy
5 ай бұрын
Stop promoting the Better help scam.
@p382742937423y4
4 ай бұрын
Yes pkesse!!!
@mst.jannatunnasrin7348
21 күн бұрын
Why?
@toymachine2020
2 жыл бұрын
Do not settle. Keep going until you’ve found the one.
@jayMM000
2 жыл бұрын
I’m not sure if that’s good advice…
@Karincl7
2 жыл бұрын
There is no "the one"
@Vivi_9
2 жыл бұрын
@@jayMM000 first half was good advice kinda lost me with the 2nd. I'm pretty freaking exhausted from keeping on going haha, I'm taking a break
@franciscocolin2008
2 жыл бұрын
Better advice: make sure the next date you go to, the man or woman has already built a bridge to you somehow. For example, both of you enjoy the same hobbies or have the same intentions.
@marcosfalcao2488
6 ай бұрын
Good advice but this could be problematic as you always think there's someone better and you get sucked into this cycle of writing people off over the smallest things
@chloelorrin212
2 жыл бұрын
you never miss lana thankyou for putting out the older sister content i always needed
@nicholashartmann4525
Жыл бұрын
For attraction definitely grows when I get to know the person. It's like their physical look doesn't matter as much anymore. Not, that it doesn't matter at all. But just not as much. And I think that this behavior is a very individual thing that really can't be proven by a study. Edit: Oh god that point about making excuses for someone else hits home. I had this friend who started barely talking to me anymore. I made so many excuses as to what happened. They were like family, I miss them.
@linneasimchah1621
Жыл бұрын
The 1996 movie "Truth About Cats and Dogs" where it's acknowledged that the perception of someone's external appearance is very heavily influenced by who he/she is inside. Someone drop-dead gorgeous can start to look ugly if they are not a good/nice person. Someone who is average-looking can start to look beautiful to you if that person treats you right. My husband of almost 20 years is not the most handsome specimen on earth, but we get along so well and laugh everyday. Our internal connection is priceless to me. At the beginning, I knew I wasn't physically very attracted to him, but I also knew it probably would still work, and Thank God it has!
@bobbobbington3615
9 ай бұрын
Going on 49 first dates tells me something as well.
@sfd672
3 ай бұрын
Yeah she is lying for clickbait. She probably only meets 3 guys she likes in a year.
@scientificbhaiya9336
11 күн бұрын
Now you’ve got 49 likes
@floofygod
2 жыл бұрын
How do you go out on 50 dates and not find a suitable partner? How do you even get 50 dates? Y'all are ridiculous.
@jfj876
9 ай бұрын
Exactly...!
@Maurice181
6 ай бұрын
49 out of 50 men say: "we're in the friend zone"
@patulo1191
3 ай бұрын
she was speedrunning dates to have content
@nfilippis1
11 күн бұрын
She is ridiculous. I don't think that she's been on many dates at all. She falsely stated 49 but in the video, she states: "I've gone on a FAIR SHARE of dates". She has definitely not been on 49 or anywhere close. Her advice is also very superficial. Nothing profound here! Just a pretty face to clickbait and that's all!
@malaklahlou5234
2 жыл бұрын
This video has been posted on the right time. I had “my first date” yesterday as a 21 yo. I have been in a 4 years relationship before that which ended 1years ago ( my only experience). After having accepted this date, i realized that i had absolutly no experience on it and that we may not be ourselves on the first date but people will judge based on that because we now live in a world where people don’t have the time to be interested in the few things liked in their date, we are too picky and we want perfection
@georgekolton9059
6 ай бұрын
A "bad vibe" can be a simple miscommunication or misunderstanding. And some people are way to eager to find a "bad vibe" because of preconceived notions or some past experience. Sometimes, a "bad vibe" is worth trying to sort out, rather than being a reason to automatically run for the door.
@janithaprabodha1855
2 жыл бұрын
Stay single until you find someone who can match your loyalty. Stay single until you find someone who can reciprocate your effort. Stay single until you find someone who can give back the same amount of attention you put out. Stay single until you find someone who can make the same amount of time you share. Stay single until you find someone who provides the same level of honesty you exploit. Stay single until you find someone who meets all of your expectations as clearly as you've set them. If you're single right now, it's not because you're not good enough. It's not because nobody feels the same way about you. It's not because you're bad at relationships. It's because no one is ready for you just yet. It's because they are the ones who don't deserve someone like you. It's because you aren't settling for just anybody who tells you that they care. YES, it does get lonely. Seeing other couples being happy together doesn't make it easier. Even seeing other couples argue may make you miss being in a relationship because the thought of having someone who cares deeply enough to fight with you and fight for you is what hits you. But hey, what's the hurry? You're still young, and it's just not your time yet. Loving yourself and empowering yourself is what you need because otherwise you're always gonna feel that emptiness that you think only having someone can fill, but that's wrong. You've always been everything you needed. Be patient. ❤
@steph4369
2 жыл бұрын
Well said, thank you!!!
@MyLostYouth
2 жыл бұрын
Unless you're old! Be lonely for decades / your entire life, and see if you think the same way.
@K4113B4113
2 жыл бұрын
You give the advice to stay single unless someone meets "all of your expectations as clearly as you've set them". Does those expectations come from you originally or do they come from society? Maybe something to think about. "It's because they are the ones who don't deserve someone like you." I know girls love to say stuff like this but why do you have to aggrandize your own ego and pretend like you're perfect and they are worthless? Why not just say "We just weren't right for each other" or something like that.
@Horkruksable
Жыл бұрын
LOL 🤣
@MultiColoredHairBoy
Жыл бұрын
I watched the first half of this video and it had absolutely nothing to do with the title. I stopped watching the video because I feel misled.
@TheREALHugo4
2 жыл бұрын
At the end of the day, we keep searching for a loved one, someone that has good matches with us. I'm still 25 years old but i need to learn more about love and dating.
@Karincl7
2 жыл бұрын
You don t have too , live your own life not the one that society forces you in too
@franciscocolin2008
2 жыл бұрын
Read 3% Man by Corey Wayne. You can still live your own life with self-awareness.
@Emily-ke8qx
2 жыл бұрын
I just started dating again after my last relationship. And some people seemed perfect for me (same interests, life style, humour etc.), but in real life I didn't felt the vibe. At first I thought it's because I haven't overcome my ex and the problem is me. But after I've been honest to myself about how they made me feel, my perpective shifted. And when I made the decision, that it's about me and how I feel the universe (that's how I like to see it) showed me their true faces. Trust your gut feelings - always! If something feels off it probably is
@adamlindeman5738
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I recently went on a date as well and wasn't feeling it despite our interests and enjoyment. I think dating apps are to blame for this in a way. It's this feeling of have endless possibilities and having unobtainable standards. Also, the way the media portrays romance has always been distorted to a point where we base our experiences or expectations based on what happens in a movie or tv show. Anyways, just rambling.
@K4113B4113
2 жыл бұрын
@@adamlindeman5738 I think you're right.
@ThreeTwentyTech
2 жыл бұрын
The biggest thing you learn from going on more dates is *understanding what you want in a person* You’re gonna meet some people that you love and others that you’re really gonna dislike and, ultimately, it teaches you not only what you want in someone else but also what you value in yourself, too! 👌🏻
@Khushithakur153
2 жыл бұрын
True'🌸
@chrisjfox8715
2 жыл бұрын
And familiarity with how to tactfully set boundaries for yourself
@chrisjfox8715
2 жыл бұрын
@Life In France some people most definitely do
@qazedc3
2 жыл бұрын
It has definitely been teaching me this. I’m not totally clear on what I want so this might actually be helping me to see what’s out there
@nerifterafrnam4682
6 ай бұрын
Honey if you´ve been on 49 dates like it were an assembly line, then the words love / empathy are just words.
@nfilippis1
11 күн бұрын
Great comment.
@MotherRabbits09
Жыл бұрын
friggin 10/10 all around. I hope that more people can watch and learn from these videos, it'll save them years of time and heartache
@manzell
7 ай бұрын
Yes! "The person you're dating deserves someone who is excited by them" absolutely. Stringing someone along you want to break up with is a form of entitlement and disrespect. If you're not feeling it, you've gotta be active otherwise you're actively a bad person. Romantic honesty is mandatory for good people. Unspooling a year+ relationship may take time, but 1-5 dates, you've gotta come correct.
@TheAbsoluteCool
6 ай бұрын
She learned how to get 49 free meals
@naisin5607
4 ай бұрын
Have you heard of something called splitting the bill
@sfd672
3 ай бұрын
All those guys had their time wasted. Yikes.
@haiqa6130
Жыл бұрын
thank you lana, i feel like there’s always this pressure for us to be in a relationship. finally could rest in peace and stop going after someone emotionally unavailable n justifying their actions ❤
@DianaBelovaYT
2 жыл бұрын
When I was a teenager, I decided to learn to be comfortable on my own first. It was a long way but I figured out how to enjoy being alone. My first romantic relationship started when I was 20, almost right after I understood that there is a room for another person to care about in my heart. Luckily, the other person was mature himself. We’re 1,5 years in a relationship now and it keeps getting better❤️ But for sure I’ve learned that taking good care of yourself is crucial. P.S. My boyfriend’s path was different - he has learned everything in a number of relationships. Took him a decade. So there is no single path for everyone - your’s can be different and it’s ok🙏
@doop445
Жыл бұрын
enjoy being alone? meaning countless hookups?lmao soo inspirational
@bellabowwow2204
Жыл бұрын
i always considered first dates to be the best dates. everybody has a story to tell and i like listening to stories. the best ones are when the sparks fly from the enchanted moments
@arimdu1408
6 ай бұрын
Here is what I learnt: some people will go in 49 dates and waste peoples time
@donbraga4863
Жыл бұрын
49 free drinks and food. Nice
@MrMobi007
6 ай бұрын
It's tough but somebody's gotta do it.
@R.GrantD
2 жыл бұрын
Good work, Lana! :) This video sounds like some pretty good advice :) "Don't look for someone who will create your happiness. Look for someone who you would like to share your happiness with." To me, this is two (maybe three) things so far: 1. a round-about way of saying "you must be happily single before you are happily married." In other words, have a (happy) life, improve your outlook and positivity, and stay away from bad attitudes and neurotic vortices. To sum up, come happy rather than depending on the other person to make you happy. 2. Don't put all expectations on the other person to fullfill your wants, needs, or pleasures -- In other words, don't be selfish, or don't hold the relationship hostage to a set of emotional attachments to what you want from the person. 3. (Maybe) Look for someone with whom you feel an openness and desire to share more of yourself and what's important to you with, because that's a good indicator. Am I missing anything?
@elarapatrick9168
Жыл бұрын
Ohh wow I think you are the pretty guy I have be looking for
@featherfiend9095
Жыл бұрын
Bravo. Very good insights.
@ItsIvaonthemic
Жыл бұрын
“Don’t look for someone who will create your happiness. Look for someone who you would like to share your happiness with.” 8:03
@stellastella4418
2 жыл бұрын
Someone who is into you does not need to be reminded of your existence. Take their actions at face value Someone's childhood trauma is not a ticket to treat you poorly
@Philo229
2 жыл бұрын
49?? Oof, I feel bad for being a virgin and having gone on 0 as a man in my 20's. Such a failure.
@goatelement
2 жыл бұрын
she is a female man, her peak is early 20s, your peak is coming, use early 20s to build yourself, as a man you HAVE to build yourself. Dont think you are a loser. YOUR TIME IS COMING
@Kat_Fe
2 жыл бұрын
Don´t worry, I assure you there´re a lot of virgins (both male and female) in their 20s, it´s nothing to feel bad about.
@chrisjfox8715
2 жыл бұрын
No shame. Like dude above says, take control and focus your attention on becoming the best version of yourself for you. And regardless, your timeline is your timeline - don't make the mistake of comparing your milestones to others.
@TheDoomerGoGetter
2 жыл бұрын
@@goatelement listen to goat element he tells the truth
@daeith1233
2 жыл бұрын
@@goatelement Don't know if you knew but not every female date in their 20s
@dikshyakasaju7541
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for pointing out that "Physical attraction is important" since you have to desire and be attracted to the person you are with.
@jstn_0000
2 жыл бұрын
“Don't aim at love. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For love, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for love: you have to let it happen by not caring about it.” - some Austrian guy
@catrocastre8215
2 жыл бұрын
Was it Victor Frankl?
@NOBLEGAMING21
2 жыл бұрын
If you want to get into dating, you should start by dating yourself. If you can't entertain, nourish, help, listen or be there for yourself... How do you plan on doing that for others? Or how do you hope that others will be able to do that for you, let alone let that in?
@dylanbrotherton4755
5 ай бұрын
Wow.... I just realized while this video was playing that your voice is extremely easy to tune out and blend into background noise. I started reading comments and for a moment didn't realize the video was still playing.
@ajmosutra7667
3 ай бұрын
I agree...
@growingoaks
Жыл бұрын
Was the 50(th) First Date with Adam Sandler?
@scottbaron121
Жыл бұрын
I'm an old head and after 50+ years of dating, marriage, etc. I can confidently state this: Past trauma is no excuse to be treated poorly. HOWEVER, your inability to DEAL with said trauma, in an ADULT, RESPONSIBLE way, IS YOUR FAULT and you can't expect a potential partner to deal with that. Don't blame them, if they decide to walk away. Look in the mirror.
@BrownieEXE
2 жыл бұрын
I do still think physical attraction can fade away but then there's attraction of personality which lasts much longer
@LanaBlakely
2 жыл бұрын
That's a scary thought. You'd hope you and your partner continue to be attracted to one another as you grow older too.
@Vivi_9
2 жыл бұрын
@@LanaBlakely in a healthy relationship where attraction is based on more than "but how hot do other people think my partner is?" then yes.. but what percentage of today's romantic relationships were ever started on something that wasn't entirely superficial or ego-driven? Maybe I'm a pessimist but I'd say less than 5%. I don't know you personally but you are clearly an exceptional woman and shouldn't settle for anything less than what you know a healthy relationship looks like.
@BrownieEXE
2 жыл бұрын
@@LanaBlakely wait, how is it scary?
@thegr8keone
Жыл бұрын
I love how you explained everything in a nutshell without having the content super long. Great content, and definitely subscribed to you!
@binarioochentaycinco4791
Жыл бұрын
You don't take advice from someone who had 49 dates and failed
@erikt1713
5 ай бұрын
As a man, do not put yourself in a situation in which you are going to be one of 49 candidates to be vetted by a princess like her. Try a "warm approach" in which you get to know the woman in some shared activities. If things go well you may evoke feelings in her, and part of it will be that it will not be quite clear from the beginning if she can actually get you. I'm almost certain that Lana is not going to pick the 50th guy on a first date who ticks all her requirements. Instead she will be with a guy who somehow sidesteps all this nonsense and "sweeps her off her feet" as she actually mentioned as a risk. (Not sure if she is in a relationship already, I would be interested in the story of how they met).
@andreyartemyev9634
Жыл бұрын
I had doubts about this video, but when I got to 4:03 that's when entire thing flipped on me. The first time I met her everything she did was blame it on her mental state, and her mental issues. It started early with acting hot and cold, it felt like one day she would be the most loving, and the next day avoidant, and she would always say well sorry I have mania or BPD i can't always be there for you and it made me feel awful. After finding out that she used to cheat on her ex while in bed with him snapping dirty videos to another man while he was sleeping next to her, and I stayed anyway because I thought that was the past...that's when I realized how much I should of paid attention to their actions at face value, without closing myself off in a box and thinking it's going to be different. Thank you for this video.
@blackholejoe6LP
5 ай бұрын
49 dates in one year? 🤢That says a lot about a girl.
@Sunshineandrainbows234
20 күн бұрын
No sex !
@Hostileminds
2 жыл бұрын
Great advice, the best thing I’ve ever done for my dating life, is get to know myself in and out. Strengths and weekenesses and all
@fholmx
2 жыл бұрын
4:20 - 4:28 Spot on. I spent years until I finally gained enough self respect to prioritize my well being in this regard.
@chrisjfox8715
2 жыл бұрын
Wishing you all the best in finding the "perfect" partner for you soon enough. You're a joy and a light to so many of us but you deserve a rock too.
@EmaTheisss
2 жыл бұрын
Love Leon
@thewealthsecrets9648
5 ай бұрын
“First few dates should always be in public spaces “. Thank you Lana! That’s all I needed to hear today.
@atuldwivedi3959
2 жыл бұрын
This is what I think Don't share everything with him/her doesn't matter how close he or she is. Don't assume you are going to make this a perfect relationship, just be yourself. Don't be afraid of telling them, in case, they are becoming toxic for you, nothing is more important than your mental health. No one can deny that when we fall for someone we kind of develop an emotional bonding with them over the time, which, might cause severe difficulties, in case, you are not an emotional intelligence person. Try to understand your emotions as well the emotions of the other person Be ready for a change, it doesn't make you less of a person Don't compromise your career, especially if you don't have a job, make it your number one priority. Financial independence is necessary, harsh truth. If someone is telling you he or he is super busy with other commitments etc, don't fall in that trap, it is just a lie. I am not employing it with each and everyone but the majority of the people will give you breadcrumbs.
@mikeloki2064
6 ай бұрын
"Love is friendship set to music." - Joseph Campbell
@valeriewalker5831
2 жыл бұрын
Oh god… I went on that many dates too:( I give almost all guys a chance and I believe a person can have a beautiful heart or a good personally. I date in Warsaw , Poland. Dear women, unfortunately, I’m mostly disappointed. Many bitter men, many men who can’t take rejection, mean people. That’s very sad and it does make you feel down
@chaitanyagupta6668
7 ай бұрын
If you were a man, you'd be bitter too with how much rejection you get. Coming from a woman, you have to know you speak from a place of privilege. Try being an average man and trying to date. Oh no you can't because it's not possible. But you can try impersonating one on dating apps.
@earthrooster1717
2 жыл бұрын
Expectations block - be open to what the universe can bring. Ask yourself, have you ever received what you expected? Probably never. So be in the frequency that makes you feel great. Then, see what happens.
@ruoranfu854
2 жыл бұрын
Frankly, Lana's video has become an english learning tool for me. Since I could get lots of nice expression, and more important, i'm really into these views you shared!!!
@zainebk6059
10 ай бұрын
Im 23 years old, I've been to 20 first dates. No one matched. I was hurt by the most of them so now I stopped.
@zevo8293
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I really do apricate this video and your advice. "Don't look for someone who will create your happiness, look for someone who you'd like to share your happiness with." & "Potential is not a person; it's a figment of your imagination." are the two things I REALLY needed to hear.
@thequirkykittymeow6038
2 ай бұрын
The one thing I've learned to make dating a little bit easier stop thinking About what do they think of me and start considering do I like them?Can I see myself with them. It helps with the nerves and i've noticed It's more successful .
@user-ok6ef9zn4f
2 жыл бұрын
I can't get one date. I've been trying for about 3 months now. Women are so lucky 🤣
@konstantinalexandrovich9885
6 ай бұрын
So much experience with first dates and still alone… you can’t escape from yourself.
@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving
2 жыл бұрын
Hey, you are still very young, Lana! Take your time and do what feels right to you! There is no right and wrong here. Once again, an awesome video! You are very wise!
@Turanic1
6 ай бұрын
she means 49 first dates and 979 subsequent ones and still she was so picky that found no one, otherwise she wouldn't have time to brag about it here
@boohoohoohoo
Жыл бұрын
The first lesson thats better than all these lessons: Girls, no one wants sloppy 50ths. Men will run for the hills when they hear a number as high as 49. In fact, a lot of girls probably wouldnt trust a guy with that many under his belt as well.
@guyincognito9698
Жыл бұрын
Ok incel.
@stitch-q2x
Жыл бұрын
You’re associating first dates with body count.
@jJust_NO_
Жыл бұрын
the more you consciously learn or study any field of experience, the more boring it gets because now the experience can then be curated and manipulated. theres no more YOU approaching an experience unconsciously. and the same application to romantic relationships. intimate relationships should be done in raw, organic form but when you try to study its format, it loses its appeal via the discovery of its mysteries. when you uncover its pattern and learn, you no longer get swayed by its automatic emotional responses. there is a dullness or bluntness to emotional patterns and the cognitive aspect of the brain takes control
@dvazquez22
10 ай бұрын
49 first dates? Men stay away from her
@nfilippis1
11 күн бұрын
This is the best advice that I have received after flicking through this video. Thank you dvazquez22.
@Mrcheekymonkeyisback
9 ай бұрын
as a man, this is interesting, thanks for the insight. i still decide to keep to myself, if i can help it that is, im a man thats been through too much bs, i dont want to date anyone unless I know my baggage and most of my bs is dealt with first because when i find the one so to speak,i dont want my shit get too much, the woman deserves the best i can be as a man.
@Maurice181
6 ай бұрын
49 first dates... that she tells us about. And a double digit body count to go with it. "Mental checklist" optional. Therapist not included.
@ryeofoatmeal
2 жыл бұрын
thank you for addressing the 'physical attraction is important' bcos I hate how much our society in denial that physical appearance is not important. your 1st impression is the appearance so i don't understand with people who said looks doesn't matter. some maybe ok with anybody but don't condemn who wants an attractive partner
@ryeofoatmeal
2 жыл бұрын
@Life In France lol why are you keep coming back to this comment again and again. keep sending me the same mssg, who hurt you 😭 if you think looks doesn't matter, then that's for you to believe. let other people believe what they want. you can't control my mind 💀
@Jack-ns9sz
2 жыл бұрын
As a guy struggling to get 1 date, the fact that you went on 49 first dates is like a kick in the groin. It shouldn't, cos you are very beautiful and I know you could date pretty much anyone you wanted. But I dunno, I feel like I'm living in a completely different reality to women when it comes to dating.
@BruceKarrde
2 жыл бұрын
Same here. 49 dates, I have maybe 1 a year. Just not enough women swipe right on me or just don't talk when we match.
@Leonnardum
2 жыл бұрын
And you will feel lost until you actually "accept" and not just "feel" like you are living a completely different reality to women (dating and otherwise). And you will not be able to get that 1 date on such videos, because you don't learn how to catch a fish from a fish. You learn how to catch a fish from a bear.Growth is painful, and it takes inner desire and mental discipline to be able to put up with the pain that growth and knowledge brings.
@vklnew9824
2 жыл бұрын
Women have unlimited options, and most men are invisible to women, unless you're good looking of course.
@SpicyNuddle
2 жыл бұрын
17 dates for me since 2017..one relationship only. Dates for beautiful women are like piece of cake will little effort. For Guys? You have to be sharp as hell in every possible way + looks. This game is not fair, but thats the reality. :)
@TheMatrixofMeaning
2 жыл бұрын
They are essentially creatures of desire. They don't know what they want cuz all they want is MORE, specifically more intense feelings, attention, and validation from someone they respect, admire, and sexually desire.
@sfrealestatedealmaker6001
Жыл бұрын
#1 Physical attraction is top priority. Do not settle for less in the case the person checks all the other boxes you’re looking for in a partner. It will not last if you don’t have pure attraction.
@kadoer9776
2 жыл бұрын
I'm 25 and haven't even been on one date. Turns out I have a lot of catching up to do😂. And seriously, I will be happy with one, if it is with the right person 😀
@ft.jackjimmy7282
2 жыл бұрын
I’m 24 turning 25 this year and also never been on a date, only been on two dates that never went anywhere, actually we mutually ghosted each other lol. Lots of catching up and these videos help with the catch up and meeting SOs of friends help me realize who I’m looking for, honestly haven’t concluded anything yet.
@kadoer9776
2 жыл бұрын
@@ft.jackjimmy7282 Now I am trying to date someone using dating apps, but for a person who has very few pictures on social media and do not use them often it is very difficult because I don't have good pictures of myself. In addition, by modern standards I am not a very interesting person because I don't travel or do any crazy things.
@Vivi_9
2 жыл бұрын
@@kadoer9776 get off dating apps ASAP. They hardly work for anyone that wants to end up in a healthy relationship, and will destroy your self esteen. Use Meetup, travel and stay in hostels, pursue hobbies and make friendships there. You'll learn far more valuable social skills, and if you live a life like this you'll just plenty of opportunity to use those skills
@kadoer9776
2 жыл бұрын
@@Vivi_9 Too late they have already destroyed my sense of self-worth.
@Vivi_9
2 жыл бұрын
@@kadoer9776 that's temporary bud. I was like you until I turned 22, read something online called the Book of Pook and it basically changed my life. I spent the rest of my 20s dating a lot and getting into relationships. I'm now in my 30s and very very single 😅 not having anything like the level of success I had in the past. Modern dating culture is gross and toxic, the pandemic turned the majority of people into toxic narcissists, honestly I would concentrate on the fulfilling life ambitions and pursuing hobbies thing, trust me things are easier when you feel you're not working on trying to date, when you are passionate about something and show that drive in your day to day living the right women will gravitate towards you. But that isn't your goal - your goal is fulfillment. Sorry this is longwinded and preachy it's just that I've been there before
@hildahjaruha
2 жыл бұрын
When someone is into you they don't have to be reminded of your existence
@dhritichoudhary
2 жыл бұрын
this is totally unrelated-but i am (we are) eagerly waiting on that hair routine video
@LanaBlakely
2 жыл бұрын
It's coming!!
@DannyBoy443
Жыл бұрын
SO basically, and I'm not dismissing anything Lana is saying, just older wisdom lenses here. 1. Look for what you like. 2. Treat people honestly. 3. Don't forget #2. 4. Be kind while being honest. 5. Be an adult. Done lol.
@karangoraksh6859
6 ай бұрын
49 dates. Wasted time of so many gents
@frankgradus9474
6 ай бұрын
or they wasted her time
@GorgieClarissa
7 ай бұрын
as someone who has gone through childhood trauma, i’ve dealt with my fair share of people who haven’t gone through trauma and will still treat you poorly. so your perfect childhood is also not an excuse to treat someone poorly. i know why i have problems, so what are the excuses for the rest of you? THIS IS IMPORTANT!!!!
@samihamouchane961
Жыл бұрын
Anxiety can be the body trying to warn you of something that is off based on patterns of a past experience. It's your ally, yes don't ignore it, please.
@kafkatamurra
Жыл бұрын
"The red flags that you choose to ignore at the beginning will be the reason to break up in the end".
@tadeoalvarado143
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve met this girl back on October 2021, and I’ve been really attracted from the first time I saw her. Time passed by and the feeling only got stronger, I was in love, (I still have feelings for her). We hung out a few times when we were friends and we dated for 2 months, she really made me know that the feeling was mutual (she said it herself) we were about to make things official. All of the sudden I noticed a radical change on her attitude. I wasn’t going to take it anymore so I asked her what was wrong. She told me that she wasn’t really sure of what she felt, that she doesn’t want to repeat what happened with her ex boyfriend…, that she needed more time…. She even tried to avoid the topic when I asked her what was going on. I honestly think that’s a bunch of BS, except for the part of her childhood trauma (pretty dark stuff)… but that ain’t my thing to deal with. This is my first true heartbreak, it hurts from the time I decided to stop communicating with her, it hurts all the time, and she’s on my mind most of the day. But I think I did the right thing… I just don’t know how I’ll feel when I see her again… Might be good to point out that we also have cultural differences, she’s Ukrainian and I’m Venezuelan…
@driakos
2 жыл бұрын
You did the right thing.
@tadeoalvarado143
2 жыл бұрын
@@driakos she was very immature, even if she actually feels something, hiding the fact that you can’t be in a relationship right know by a change of attitude and treatment towards the other person is really stupid. I just, miss her a lot…, but I’ll get better with time and Lana Blakey videos 😅
@marthint
2 жыл бұрын
hey, Lana! nice video, it’s like a conclusion of thoughts when I’m thinking rationally. will check this out from time to time. what do you think - is meeting quality dating partners completely random or should you go looking for it and be aware at all times?
@Emmile.17
10 ай бұрын
for me attraction can and will definitely grow or fall when getting to know them
@xardas6579
2 жыл бұрын
This is one of my favorite video of yours so far. I like that there are a bunch of different aspects that you talk about. To me, it is the most important thing to first know what I really want before starting to go out dating. If I am not aware of my own flaws and habits, especially in terms of relationships with other people, I should try to spend some more time to think about those points. I also wanted to add something to the attraction aspect. From my personal experience, most people I fell for were not that spectacular looking (speaking in retrospect). Attraction is not only about the appearance, it is also about how a person speaks and expresses itself, it is about how a person thinks and how it is interacting with you. Of course, there are always some types we prefer, so the appearance has some influence too. I just realized for myself that I should not focus too much on the look of a person.
@Namastezizii
2 жыл бұрын
I'd add that if you have the opportunity to go out and meet new ppl in any kind of places like workshops, school, work, gym, and you find someone attractive just talk to them! There are for sure a lot of likeminded and nice ppl everywhere you go. So don't focus on finding someone online, be open and also look for ppl in real life
@qazedc3
2 жыл бұрын
I’m the type of person who needs to experience something before I know how I feel about it. In the last 3 months I have gone on about 7 dates and counting so far, and this has been my personal all time record high in a specific dating period. At the beginning in the first few, it was quite triggering because it brought up a lot of fears related to rejection and rejecting someone else. As a lot of people have said here that it would. I started to quickly realize how impersonal this whole process is. I really wanted to give up at the beginning but I told myself I would keep going. There just keeps being real bad dates that bring up my own fears and also makes me aware of how wounded others are, I’m sensitive so this actually makes me kind of sad. I was joking to myself that maybe I should go on 50 first dates as an experiment at the very least to see how much I can learn and grow from it. Then I see this video pop up for me. So maybe I will do that, as taxing as it is. But I’m going to have to take breaks for myself because it’s honestly so emotionally and mentally draining, and can easily feed into my belief that I may end up alone forever.
@ving3573
2 жыл бұрын
Truth here No matter how good you look or how good your partner look …. You can date a long as you want or as many as you want but you can only bond with someone who is not socially awkward ….. or if you are not socially awkward….. this is reality we are talking . This day and age only children are not socially awkward….. Unfortunately or Fortunately love is all about bonding …. You decide folks.
@axps4964
2 жыл бұрын
If you are good looking more people will approach you and you will interact with more people and end up being a lot more socially active and this will result in you being socially more capable than most people.
@luciafoglia6631
2 жыл бұрын
Wouldn't be better stay humble, open and especially frank that we ourselves should work first on our character? A person is not checklist to be ticked. Let's not forget to be human, therefore natural, otherwise knowing others becomes a mathematical formula. We need to give some time to the person and to ourselves to develop what we feel about each other and if to start any relationship! Many wonderful stories start after a while..
@theadmiral4625
6 ай бұрын
How much trauma does one have to go thru to think having 50 first dates is socially acceptable?
@ProteinBadger
2 жыл бұрын
I would guess high % of your dates would be interested in 2nd date. Some framework: if your dates are not interested after 1st date, usually your looks is the issue. If some weeks later, they lose interest, your personality is the issue. If some monthly later, then your networth/income/lifestyle, etc.
@Karincl7
2 жыл бұрын
So if i only have first dates and never second, i m too ugly ? There s something wrong with your points
@LanaBlakely
2 жыл бұрын
Interesting framework. Haven't thought of it that way.
@lianvitos
2 жыл бұрын
Thats a nice guideline
@Vivi_9
2 жыл бұрын
I don’t think such generic rules can apply to something as complicated and fucked up as dating. I don't think it's healthy to assume you did something wrong when there is equal likelihood that the other person is just a flake.
@axps4964
2 жыл бұрын
@@Vivi_9 You are not entitled to peoples choices. You cannot blame them for not liking your face or lifestyle.
@rxw5520
2 ай бұрын
I’d be concerned about that many first dates at such a young age. That’s either a failure of whatever method you’re using to meet people, or a loooooottt of incompatibility.
@launchpadmcquack4971
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve found you can’t outthink biology. There are forces at work that we may not be consciously aware of. If the chemistry isn’t there it’s best to cut it off quick. Turn off your brain and enjoy the process. Great video as always Lana. You’re almost to 1 million subscribers!
@R.GrantD
2 жыл бұрын
So far this seems true!
@K4113B4113
2 жыл бұрын
How do you turn off your brain?
@launchpadmcquack4971
2 жыл бұрын
Enjoy the date and stop caring about the outcome. You’re going to have good dates and bad dates. You’ll have chemistry with some people and not with others. Stop seeking approval and be OK with the process.
@K4113B4113
2 жыл бұрын
@@launchpadmcquack4971 Ok but why not end the date if you're sure it's not going to work out?
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