I like how people say "be yourself", but they don't actually want you to be yourself
@jcq1961
Жыл бұрын
Bang on.
@ante5544
Жыл бұрын
@schizoposter1499Many people. It's a general phrase I hear a lot, and it is a stupid phrase. What people should say is "act on the best parts of yourself", because more often than not, that's what they mean
@odenkozukii
Жыл бұрын
preach. and this works for literally anything, not just introverts and extroverts.
@suzannaflores1164
Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@xdragon2k
Жыл бұрын
That's why, nowadays, the saying is be the best version of yourself.
@vanguard6937
Жыл бұрын
my favorite part is when they interrupt you every time you start to say something, and then wonder why you dont talk much in conversations
@Ausnen
Жыл бұрын
So true!
@Lyrielonwind
Жыл бұрын
It's a manipulation tactic to exclude you and then gaslight you suggesting you have a problem (you do, hanging out with someone who doesn't care about you).
@rileyxxxx
Жыл бұрын
I think its a reason why people became like that. my parents never involved me into a conversation when other people were visiting us. that developed an insecurity within me and now I cant even start a conversation. I just respond. quite sad actually, but talking to people stresses me out.
@ABitefLife
Жыл бұрын
@@rileyxxxxyou just have to work on it, and keep working on it until you feel more comfortable. Your comment right there was clear and concise and you sound like an intelligent person so the conversation part should be easy for you. It’s the hesitancy you feel and lack of confidence that probably holds you back from having meaningful conversations with people. Try and get out of your comfort zone and talk to people as much as possible and not worry about the outcome. At first it will keep feeling awkward, but eventually you will feel more comfortable to talk with the people you most connect with . Good luck! ⭐️💙🙏
@PigeonLaughter01
Жыл бұрын
@@ABitefLife100% its a skill that can be learned, and we can get rusty if we dont practice.
@the_infinexos
2 ай бұрын
"Just be yourself!" = "Be more like me. I'm clearly more pleasant to be around."
@Cannibalizee
Ай бұрын
I tell the opposite to shy people. I tell them to stand up for themselves and to have a voice when needed, or everyone will keep stepping over them. Being shy and quiet are not the same thing. Some people are not talkative, and some are waay too timid. I mean if you're cool with exploding randomly when you've had enough, then go ahead, but I know shy people don't like that.
@jc-rq8or
Ай бұрын
@@Cannibalizee The issue is people conflate the quiet person with someone who's shy. Plenty people like myself default to the turn the other cheek mentality. Because of this, everyone assumes I'm shy, but I just don't like to start fights unless I think they're necessary. I know I can take it and genuinely laugh it off and often times i can become friends with the aggressor. Immediately becoming defensive and aggressive doesn't do any good. It needlessly puts up walls and sews bitterness. Though, if i see someone who is shy and timid getting picked on i tend to boil over pretty quick. That is a point where I think getting confrontational is appropriate.
@CRYCITIZED
Ай бұрын
@@jc-rq8orYeah. Like dude no I’m not scared to fight and I’m not scared to stand up for myself I just don’t want to talk to everyone all the time. It’s amazing to try to converse with someone you think is shy though. I like that.
@3rmmwhatt
28 күн бұрын
do you not get it😭its not like they were hating on the person for talking alot. its like when someone asks an introvert on why they arent talking much but instead the roles are switched.
@TamWam_
14 күн бұрын
@@Cannibalizeeyeah I'm shy asf, I do wanna talk and I had a time in my life where I wasn't shy and was actually popular. Til I pushed it all away, and became unknown basically. I just hold myself back from speaking up
@andresrogersa
2 ай бұрын
"You think too much" Me: "You think too little"
@thermalegoogle
2 ай бұрын
daaamn
@crazychris1123
Ай бұрын
Can't stand when people say I overthink when they don't think enough about a situation before acting.
@kylepatton2423
Ай бұрын
How do you know that? I think you're just a loser that's jealous of other people that can live life and not be too critical... You're lame.
@brandonedwards1181
Ай бұрын
The empty barrel rings the loudest. Loud people are just dumb
@vliealonso
Ай бұрын
This one ⚜️
@nuraatway001
Жыл бұрын
"Is there a reason your mouth moves so much" lol I have to add that sentence to my vocabulary
@thatonebrownhead2cool4u_
Жыл бұрын
😭frl
@--NAYA--
Жыл бұрын
please don't. it really hurts the person u say it to
@therobin980
Жыл бұрын
@@--NAYA-- I'm pretty sure they were joking so no worries
@--NAYA--
Жыл бұрын
@@therobin980 no they weren't. they bullied me for years and watched me get choked..
@aliviaggrace
Жыл бұрын
Fr
@Moshuun
3 ай бұрын
“Why are you so quiet?” *”Why are you so talkative??”*
@MegaTinni
3 ай бұрын
Because if I didn't want to talk, I would be home alone.
@ADxtraIsHere
2 ай бұрын
@@MegaTinni Facts. To be honest so much so I don't have to deal with equally fast-paced interior monologue 🥰😂
@G.of.J.
2 ай бұрын
The word i like to use is ✨loquacious✨
@bambampewpew32
2 ай бұрын
Because it's fun and I like human interaction
@WhiteWhistleBondrewd
2 ай бұрын
@@bambampewpew32 Good for you. We dont.
@Necromancer0225
2 ай бұрын
The saddest part is that when you do speak your voice trails away when you realise no one’s listening 💔
@ACH77
2 ай бұрын
I went through that a lot when I was younger.
@TonyNaber
Ай бұрын
Some people treat conversations like a screaming match. I’m like there’s literally no reason your voice should be that loud rn. People just wanna one-up each other, whether it’s talking more or louder. It’s really not a competition smh
@mcaskey358
Ай бұрын
Yep, I feel that.
@MaggieJean
Ай бұрын
Yes, so true
@chimitrey08
Ай бұрын
Ugh or you think someone is paying attention so you start talking to them and they don’t respond bc they thought it was over or they were busy because i chose the “perfect” time to start talking. Then you call their name and they don’t hear so you have to literally reach out for their attention bc you don’t want to get too loud. Or you just let it go.
@vinny_rivera
2 ай бұрын
"You'll grow out of it." 😭 The amount of times I've heard that-
@JudgeJulieLit
2 ай бұрын
They're the immature ones. They rely on others to process and lift their emotions.
@HoV326
Ай бұрын
It's worse when they go, "It's not cute anymore." or "You're not a kid anymore." Like, do you think I'm being cute this whole time? Or do they think there's supposed to be a timer on this?
@davidcardozo290
Ай бұрын
@@HoV326 Some weird mfs out there.
@cartel_papi
Ай бұрын
Truest comment ever @@davidcardozo290
@nowifate
Ай бұрын
Yeah, I mean, most people nowadays don't even try to grow out of it anymore
@BlackOtter9
Жыл бұрын
"you're so quiet" Thanks, I'm not comfortable around you
@rainacherienne1010
Жыл бұрын
Imma use this 😊
@1675loof
Жыл бұрын
@@koldemperor8474 that's not how it works. Dumba*ss
@ch3m1c4l_c0ff1n
Жыл бұрын
I get really awkward and just say something like "oh okay" 😭💀 Or nothing at all
@alexia3552
Жыл бұрын
Exactly ❤
@chickenmanman
Жыл бұрын
1000000%
@NikoN-xw6xy
7 ай бұрын
“You look unapproachable” Me: and yet you’re here.
@aliendeathrocker
6 ай бұрын
💀
@fairywingsonroses
6 ай бұрын
This. I was let go from a job once for being "unapproachable." Me not going out of my way to talk to every person here isn't the same thing as being "unapproachable."
@3Pookiebear
6 ай бұрын
Agreed
@kyleegarcia5569
6 ай бұрын
I’m more extroverted and someone said that to me one time as an excuse for them being rude
@elin3284
6 ай бұрын
They’re insecure
@brianj4090
2 ай бұрын
Well done. As an introvert I’ve had to learn how to basically babble or ramble on about nothing just to keep people comfortable socially.
@JudgeJulieLit
2 ай бұрын
You might intersperse a few Qs. about their weak points, to redirect their criticisms to their own to-fixes.
@silverpenn3809
Ай бұрын
Yes, same. The more you babble about nothings, the more relaxed they get 🤷🤦
@alejandrasanchez3022
Ай бұрын
As an extrovert, ive had to do it too.
@antivirus4389
Ай бұрын
its a trap .....they want to destroy your innocence because they have destroyed there's and realized they are now uglier and no one really wants them, they are trying to do the same for you....once you lose your beauty which you got by your shy and calm nature, they will just say to themselves mission accomplished, now both of you are equal.....avoid unnecessary engagements and interactions, interact while in a group 3+ people and never remain in the same place for more time, they will not get enough time to criticize you.
@bford5899
Ай бұрын
Or you could converse about current events or whatever you find interesting so you’re not awkwardly silent while others are just enjoying lighthearted banter. You don’t have to talk foolishness. Humans are social creatures.
@Cuupi
Ай бұрын
"Are you ok?" "I was, till you approached me"
@Indubidably0
Ай бұрын
Except you introverts are waaaaay to cowardly to ever actually say anything remotely like that.
@murongsun4630
Ай бұрын
honestly “are you ok” is a really nice thing to ask? like what if someone is actually sitting there silently bc they’re going through something but can’t approach someone, being really silent and not participating in activities/conversation can also be a sign of depression and i honestly feel like its better for you to just say “yeah” when someone asks “are you ok” then to want us to never ask if someone’s okay
@CRYCITIZED
Ай бұрын
@@Indubidably0I’m not. When someone does they’re labeled as an asshole which is why they don’t. And it’s true. It doesn’t take balls and it doesn’t make you a coward for thinking something rude and not saying it. Takes more effort to have self control than to not. Don’t try to encourage bad behavior. Says a lot about you.
@CRYCITIZED
Ай бұрын
@@murongsun4630It is a nice thing. You’re an asshole to respond to a nice action like that. Now, this video sounded a bit condescending. “I used to be like you” lol I’m not shy and no I will not grow out of not liking to talk to people all the time.
@horamigaun
25 күн бұрын
you'd be a jerk if you said so to someone who really cares
@MineralTown
Жыл бұрын
I love it when people who have never attempted engage me in conversation ask why I dont talk
@amandasimonds9
Жыл бұрын
this
@davenotstaine5646
Жыл бұрын
I FELT THIS ONE MORE THAN ANY OTHER COMMENT HERE 😂
@johndurrer7869
Жыл бұрын
They are observing that you aren’t talking to other people much. It’s not about them personally
@Readysetgo2007
Жыл бұрын
I love it when everyone is speaking a different language that I don't understand and then comments on me being silent. Yeah, I'm silent cause I don't know what you're talking about...
@karenjb82
Жыл бұрын
This!
@HerbertLandei
Жыл бұрын
If someone asks me why I'm so quiet, I whisper "I was raised by librarians"
@JayeMallard619
Жыл бұрын
Ohh, can't wait to use that one on someone... ;P
@Paige-Turnner
Жыл бұрын
That's brilliant ❤
@ArtByCass
Жыл бұрын
I wanna use this one ✊✨
@jeanettekvinlaug2772
Жыл бұрын
😂😅😂
@rakkatytam
Жыл бұрын
"I was raised by abusive parents" works too
@makrssspop
Ай бұрын
Always good to remember that the opposite of extrovert is introvert, not shy. Actually, you can be a shy extrovert, and be an introvert whos is not shy.
@josephinepeng
19 күн бұрын
yeah ikr
@SkettiKandie
19 күн бұрын
Yuuup
@chargedup6
2 ай бұрын
we have two eyes, two ears and one mouth. the reason is so you watch and listen twice as much as you should speak.
@releasethealbum6190
Жыл бұрын
"I used to be just like you" SO ACCURATE WTF
@cm-yu6gu
Жыл бұрын
Like, 'no bish you didn't cause I don't see any issue with being an introvert, you clearly do otherwise you wouldn't have 'changed'' 😂
@iiii4271
Жыл бұрын
“But then I took an arrow to the knee.”
@christiantaylor1495
Жыл бұрын
@@cm-yu6gu cope. Just because you make excuses and refuse to develop doesn't me you can shame superior people
@cm-yu6gu
Жыл бұрын
@@christiantaylor1495 did you just call all introverts, 'inferior people'?!
@Anna13Tonks
Жыл бұрын
@@christiantaylor1495 I'm sorry but I agree 😂
@sophiefrancis8295
Жыл бұрын
“Why aren’t you talking?” “Because I have nothing to say.”
@marcsequence
Жыл бұрын
well, why don't you have nothing to say? - me if I was a therapist =] or me normally =D "oh? tell me more..." haha!
@FewerMiles
Жыл бұрын
"I usually reserve speech for occasions when it will outperform silence."
@sophiefrancis8295
Жыл бұрын
@@FewerMiles “Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something”
@svgarcoqted
Жыл бұрын
i used to be just like that but it’s a horrible way to live with no social skills
@kroguegaming8891
Жыл бұрын
Damn
@Planeet-Long
3 ай бұрын
You can be an extrovert and shy at the same time. The opposite of a shy person is an apathetic person. The opposite of an extrovert is an introvert.
@steviasativa9803
24 күн бұрын
My favorite is: “aw, don’t be shy!! 🤪” thank u I’m cured now
@H0SANNA
Жыл бұрын
I hate it when people infantilize me or think there’s something wrong when I don’t talk much
@_--Reaper--_
Жыл бұрын
You should apologize
@imthebossmermaid3648
Жыл бұрын
Apologize for what?!
@seren4740
Жыл бұрын
@@_--Reaper--_apologize??? 😂😂😂
@cat_city2009
Жыл бұрын
I hate the constant pressure to make small talk. I don't want to have banal chatter about nothing. It's painful.
@kathiekalara6
Жыл бұрын
@@cat_city2009 It's that attitude "banal chatter about nothing" that gives the rest of us introverts a shitty rep. People have things they care about that they want to talk to you about. I still get energy from being alone, and fatigued from interaction, but I've learned extroversion to a degree and how to communicate with those more chatty folks. So in that sense, yeah, you do grow out of it as long as you're mature enough to make the effort.
@DavidianCrest
Жыл бұрын
"you'll grow out of it" is the sneakiest diss of all sneak disses
@scarlettstar
Жыл бұрын
Seriously. Basically like calling someone a weak child. I would be saying... Do you think somethings weak about me? Just because I'm an introvert doesnt mean I wont pop off and whoop your ass for pretending to be better than me 😅😅 jkjk JOKING 😄
@msozs
Жыл бұрын
@@scarlettstar 🤣🤣 quiet mouth loud fists beause life is about balance🤣🤣
@scarlettstar
Жыл бұрын
@@msozs 🤣😭😂
@k.b.8941
Жыл бұрын
"You'll grow out of it" is the ultimate phrase people use when they have no clue what they're talking about
@voltijuice8576
Жыл бұрын
"Yes, honey. Just like how I'm sure that you'll grow out of your favorite outfits after you settle down."
@kathyspaulding5326
2 ай бұрын
The reason we don’t engage is because most people want superficial conversations and we want depth.
@chainuser1774
Ай бұрын
Facts. Superficial small talk irritates me like no other but I try to be polite and fake it like I'm interested.
@jimmoses6617
Ай бұрын
Me too. Real, meaningful conversations make extroverts feel uncomfortable as they may not know the subject and therefore can't babble on endlessly. They hate not being able to talk nonstop. My Mother in Law is the world's biggest extrovert and a champion babbler. It sucks the oxygen out of any room.
@Oozaru85
Ай бұрын
Nah, ist because they talk about stuff that doesn't interest me. As soon as the topic is one that I'm familiar with or am interested in, I instantly become an extrovert.
@green5260
Ай бұрын
this is reddit tier cringe shit, maybe you should know them before first before thinking they're brainless idiots
@Indubidably0
Ай бұрын
lmao you introverts aren't deep. You're not even capable of honest communication with anyone as you're all too afraid of confrontation for it. Can't ever have "deep conversation" with an introvert as they're completely incapable of it.
@kellyj817
2 ай бұрын
Extroverts are energy vampires
@CapitalismDeathSpiral
2 ай бұрын
Not all of them.
@kellyj817
2 ай бұрын
@@CapitalismDeathSpiral Yes. All of them.
@JudgeJulieLit
2 ай бұрын
And social control freaks.
@GameChanger597
2 ай бұрын
@@CapitalismDeathSpiralYes definitely not all of them
@PacmanBrunner
2 ай бұрын
rather be that then a asperburger
@petesahad3028
7 ай бұрын
Everyone always tells me to speak more and be more open, but no one tells the extroverts around me to stfu so i can do that.
@ahhwe-any7434
7 ай бұрын
Lol I've def heard ppl who babble on too much get told stfu though
@babooshka-it4cv
7 ай бұрын
@@ahhwe-any7434 Ahahahahaha me, though I'm a quiet kid classroom stereotype 🤣
@highestpeeqs9532
6 ай бұрын
Jesus loves yall and died for us! Jesus calls for all of us to repent!!!! !
@sarahberkner
6 ай бұрын
I'm an extrovert who was told she was too quiet, my mom is a talkative introvert. Otherwise agreed, the double standard is dumb. People often only talk about the overlay talkative people behind their backs which I think is passive aggressive and it's okay to tell them if they're actually being overbearing. But with exceptions like asking that they be polite I don't see a reason to tell people they should talk more, are they supposed to manufacture words out of thin air?
@Gandhi_Physique
6 ай бұрын
@@highestpeeqs9532 Shut up
@limiwa
Жыл бұрын
Many people assume that you're shy just because you're quiet, but that's not always the case. I'm a quiet, reserved person, but I'm not shy. There's a difference between being nervous/afraid to speak and choosing not to or not feeling the need to.
@SnailHatan
Жыл бұрын
That’s because the overwhelming majority of people who call themselves “introverted” are shy, socially anxious, unconfident, awkward, have no self-esteem or just straight up hate other people with a passion. They think all of those are what introversion is. When millions of people who are just awkard and shy call themselves introverted and then grow out of it, that makes everyone else think being quiet is just shyness or something else. Shit, it’s all over these comments, people talking about social anxiety or hating people and calling it introversion. It’s honestly kind of infuriating. More than it should be.
@rizkamaulita7182
Жыл бұрын
Right it's not a big deal for me to have public conversation or doing presentation in front of class but I prefer NOT doing it if I don't really have to do it, I'm not a talkative person so don't expect me to talk much :(
@firegodessreiko
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, I'm not being quiet because I'm shy....I just have nothing to say and don't feel like talking....TO YOU! I think people don't understand this at all. Lol
@firegodessreiko
Жыл бұрын
@@rizkamaulita7182 people really attribute anxiety disorders to a personality type....and all it really boils down to is, do other people give energy to you, or take it away? Shyness and anxiety are not related....but introverts are often portrayed in all forms of media as shy, mousey people, so I guess we can't blame them....too much...
@Shawarma101
Жыл бұрын
exactly, i am extremely confident yet i am super super introverted, yes i used to have social anxiety, yes i used to hate my self, but i don't now and i am still introverted af
@danalynne8902
2 ай бұрын
Sometimes I genuinely wonder if the extroverts are OK. There's chatting, and then there's CHATTY.
@FantomMisfit
2 ай бұрын
Idk if it's the Introvertedness or me being Autistic but people always talk about such dumb pointless stuff. I have nothing to say because I couldn't care less about what you're talking about
@manubibiwalsh6953
2 ай бұрын
@@FantomMisfit you are so correct. I don’t know whether I’m autistic and I’m too uncertain to even self-diagnose, but this is hitting the nail on the head. Like “no, I don’t care about yesterday’s game. No, i don’t care about the local political drama either. And nope, I don’t care that z-list celebrity cheated on their partner. I actively do not wanna talk about work because my job sucks. I only care about Baldur’s Gate 3 and D&D currently, so we can talk about that or be quiet and mind our own business. You don’t care? Ok cool so let me go back to my tumblr feed where I can just engage with the content I actually care about”. And people would mostly be offended by that but like, what would be the point and why would I waste energy on trying to offend someone anyway? I’m just tryna have a good time to. Idle chit chat just doesn’t register as having a good time for me, but like each to their own.
@JudgeJulieLit
2 ай бұрын
@@manubibiwalsh6953 You seem to have the focus to create an extended work of art. Go for it!
@meagangalvin6219
2 ай бұрын
Sometimes we are definitely *not* okay. When things are going well, I have a better ability to monitor and control who I talk with and when. When having a really hard time (or when I am feeling isolated from good social supports) the random word vomit is more likely.
@marcosgin777
Ай бұрын
Got something to hide
@nothing23681
Ай бұрын
Why do I wanna approach someone like that so bad.. Like “Hey I can’t help but notice how much you talk. Are you mentally stable? Why? Oh well it’s just that you’re so loud and talkative.”
@Miss_Akashiya
5 ай бұрын
"you'll grow out of it" AHHHH I also hate so much how many people don't know the difference between being an introvert and having social anxiety or being shy
@rebelraccoon9018
2 ай бұрын
They are different things and you can also experience all three or just two of them.
@alejandroux4991
2 ай бұрын
Yeah, more on this please
@Alwaysdisciplined100
2 ай бұрын
I mean I'm sure I could be an extrovert but caring too much about what others think stops me because people can just be mean at times and got to learn to have thick skin.
@phoebe3575
2 ай бұрын
this!!! i’m a definite extravert, but im also really shy - not being around people EXHAUSTS me, but i’m beyond reserved around new people
@alejandroux4991
2 ай бұрын
Maybe a fourth element too besides introvert, social anxiety, and shy... Is also having lost practice (or never had it) putting words together in social situations or knowing when to jump in in a conversation
@TeaTimeThrillers
6 ай бұрын
Lol my grandmother was a very quiet and reserved woman, and a lady she worked with was being snarky and was like “you’re always so quiet!” So my grandmother went into the kitchen and came out with a spoon and a pan and started banging on it, and asked “am I loud enough now??” 😂 I miss her so much.
@TwighlightAngelRose
5 ай бұрын
I love your grandma ❤😂
@valeriewhite1459
5 ай бұрын
@@TwighlightAngelRose Me too!
@sarahsmith4205
5 ай бұрын
My grandmother would start talking to anyone about anything and by the end of your conversation you made a new friend
@StefaniaM-gx8sx
5 ай бұрын
Im stealing this
@redemption5763
5 ай бұрын
Corny as hell
@angelcoyote9802
2 ай бұрын
I love seeing introverts expressing in ways impossible in a large group, yet now for everybody to see... exhibiting the strength and high quality that introversion protects from the masses.
@alejandrasanchez3022
Ай бұрын
its not about introverts or extroverts. Being introvert isnt the same as being shy
@antivirus4389
Ай бұрын
exactly, that's why they attack to see what's hidden and then plan to destroy, once damaged then good bye.
@Kate_B2029
Ай бұрын
This is how extroverts are actually treated
@Kae_lina.
13 күн бұрын
Fr there will always be someone who says "you talk too much"
@lingling2754
10 ай бұрын
"Why are you so quiet?" like bitch we're in the middle of a class and I'm taking notes, tf are you on 💀
@iiCounted-op5jx
7 ай бұрын
LMAOOOOOO istg 😭
@H.K.5
7 ай бұрын
Don’t worry. When you leave school, barely anyone asks you that question again.
@highestpeeqs9532
6 ай бұрын
Jesus loves yall and died for us! Jesus calls for all of us to repent!!!! !
@zappinglegos
6 ай бұрын
Litterally likee
@vvoof2601
6 ай бұрын
@@highestpeeqs9532 I'm not a christian so that's a hard pass.
@Theresa5207
Жыл бұрын
It's like they want to embarrass you because you are shy or quiet. It's kinda passive aggresive in a way.
@pricklycats
Жыл бұрын
An extremely embarassing event is usually what initiates people having social anxiety, so your fears just get reinforced over and over every time you try to push yourself to go anywhere. I know introversion and social anxiety are separate things but just mentioning that since that's what a lot of people think introversion is.
@koomine3087
Жыл бұрын
I KNOW WHENEVER THIS HAPPENS TO ME IT JUST MAKES MY ANXIETY WORSE CUZ THEYRE TREATING ME LIKE A BABY
@behindmyblueeyes99
Жыл бұрын
@@pricklycats exactly And that’s how I became suicidal
@benjaminroman916
Жыл бұрын
The jokes on them that can't deal in silence with their own thoughts.
@GustavoSilva-ny8jc
Жыл бұрын
Or they want to help but suck at it, it's hard to communicate.
@carpediem44
2 ай бұрын
"Why am I so quiet? I don't like you. Thanks for asking. Bye bye."
@ausername8658
2 ай бұрын
Oh my gosh this needs to be a series! How extraverts don't leave you alone to reset, they can't process any of their emotions quietly in their head & oh my gosh it's exhausting
@AntenainaLand
2 ай бұрын
yup. but sometime, like in my case, there is just too much for my head to process and that's why I need to talk it out... but I just try to not drag introvert in it since I understand them very much
@truthsmiles
Ай бұрын
Not that it probably matters to you, but we (extroverts) process by talking at least in part because we are trying to “calibrate ourselves”. Meaning, we want to know if we’re seeing something incorrectly or misunderstanding something, so we “check in” with others we trust and respect - either for reassurance that we’re not out of line, or to be corrected.
@ariellek4789
Ай бұрын
Agreed. Notice it's the extroverts that responded. (Introvert talking) If you need to talk it out to deal with your emotions find another extrovert. I've learned when I'm tired of listening and giving the same answer 100 times because the extrovert doesn't like the answer just end the conversation by changing the subject or getting off the phone. Boundaries are huge when you love extroverts.
@Indubidably0
Ай бұрын
Yes we can. We just think at exponentially higher speeds than you dullard introverts. We're also social, not antisocial like you. A lot of us simply misunderstand thinking you sad sacs are depressed or something so we try to talk to you and give you things to relate to, when in reality you're just antisocial narcissistic assholes who don't like yourselves but don't have the fortitude to actually speak up and just say that. We're also not the one's so pathetically weak we need a "reset" because we went to the grocery store... It's you introverts that are dysfunctional. You can't even say what you think in the moment because you're all too afraid too. An honest introvert is like an honest politician: there's no such thing. An introvert will only remotely approach honesty from a place of anonymity.
@-SomeRandomKid-.
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes you’re not even quiet but just have common sense to not scream at the top of your lungs in public 😭
@brandonb.5304
Жыл бұрын
I have people all the time ask me why I'm not talking when I've literally been engaged in conversation with the person or group. But unlike a lot of people, I don't feel the need to try to dominate a conversation, be loud, talk over other people, draw as much attention to myself as possible, etc. So people think I'm not even participating--even though I was. It's fucking annoying.
@jfm14
Жыл бұрын
Seriously... I'm introverted, but not quiet. I just don't like drawing all attention to myself in public. The whole world doesn't need to hear my thoughts. 😂
@kakashihatake1029
Жыл бұрын
@brandonb.5304 next time someone says that you shoukd say "ok I'll try and be more like you", then scream every sentence
@ShonenJoe
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU
@aurora_boketto7746
Жыл бұрын
yeah a lot of things look at being people /kids being silenced as a victory when they shame u. cuz ur easier to deal with " don't even look. be uncompliant in your own GOOD way. be who u wanna be. u can be both ! 🤗💓☺️
@perilo.o2581
Жыл бұрын
“You’re so quiet.” Me: I wish you were too.
@WhitneyDahlin
Жыл бұрын
Yeah it's really frustrating how extroverts are so entitled they feel like they are owed social interaction. Sorry you aren't old social interaction from anyone. Not all of us are social vampires who gain energy by stealing it from others.
@geckohunter123
Жыл бұрын
If you call people vampires then I see why you’re an introvert 💀@@WhitneyDahlin
@kwiett
6 ай бұрын
24/7
@user-hu7jo2xj4x
6 ай бұрын
Se ardió el extrovertido, buscador serial de atención@@geckohunter123
@dianagruver5767
5 ай бұрын
@@WhitneyDahlin❤😂
@idt1442
2 ай бұрын
My ‘silent’ friend said she was actually very happy that I’m talkative. It gives her space and safety and yes I take the responsibility
@yomna.is.normal
2 ай бұрын
That's so sweet
@splishsplash3492
Ай бұрын
In the eyes of these introberts here youre an evil devil for even trying to approach her lmao
@idt1442
Ай бұрын
@@splishsplash3492 😶❤️
@rai.2876
Ай бұрын
@@splishsplash3492 well obviously this person and their friend are, well friends, introverts are of course okay with people they like approaching then you absolute dummy 😭
@CRYCITIZED
Ай бұрын
@@splishsplash3492No. In the eyes of introverts, don’t talk to us like we need to be babied or ask us why we’re so quiet. I’m not talking because your conversations don’t interest me. I will talk to someone about something that interests me. My friends interest me. I don’t know about strangers, but if you’re up to talk about things I like, I’m up to talk about things you like and maybe we can compare or share and be friends. It’s nice to talk to people because you think they’re shy or outcasted. Not nice to try to baby people.
@EduardoRodrigues-no2gb
2 ай бұрын
Fun fact: Being shy is not the opposite of being extroverted, neither the same thing as being introverted. It is possible to be shy and extroverted at the same time.
@yomna.is.normal
2 ай бұрын
This ^^^^
@kpopismylifenow2701
Жыл бұрын
I literally hate when people ask why I’m so quiet because I honestly don’t know how to respond to that 😭
@fmgoga
Жыл бұрын
An answer that could work when they ask you why you're so quiet: "Why are you so loud?" 😉
@fmgoga
Жыл бұрын
Cool channel, btw!
@mysharona6754
Жыл бұрын
As if them bringing attention to you and the fact that you are quiet is going to somehow make anything better
@helena5442
Жыл бұрын
@@mysharona6754 yes if they cared they could ask a question to get to know you lol. I am quiet because i do not want to talk to u
@violettbellerose1173
Жыл бұрын
And then they pressure you into saying something, like that helps? Lmao why would I want to talk to them
@Floeticssss
3 ай бұрын
People always say it’s rude not to speak but no one talks about how it’s rude to demand someone’s energy and attention when they would rather avoid mindless banter
@mikeexits
2 ай бұрын
Rude not to speak? What kind of garbage thinking is that? Sounds a bit manipulative if I'm being honest. That sucks. People like that will just move the goalpost wherever you're not standing and expect you to song and dance your way over to it before moving it again. Like a hamster on a wheel or a pig chasing a carrot on a stick. It's demeaning and belittling. I hope you have people in your life that you can be open and authentic around, without hiding behind a mask or survival/defense mechanisms getting in the way.
@Floeticssss
2 ай бұрын
@@mikeexits you know I didn’t think about the manipulation factor but that does track. Cause they’re trying to guilt people into carrying on conversation they don’t want to be part of just to make themselves feel better. And it’s annoying as hell.
@yasininn76
2 ай бұрын
If you want to avoid conversations so much why do you stand near people who clealry want you to interact? And then why do you subsequently lament about not having left your room for weeks when you do?
@Floeticssss
2 ай бұрын
@@yasininn76 who said anything about not leaving their room for weeks? What are you even talking about 😂
@night4263
2 ай бұрын
@@yasininn76 You're confusing introverts with shut-ins.
@marca9955
2 ай бұрын
So true, we shouldn't look into whether someone is introverted or just shy. We shouldn't make sure they feel included but just leave them alone.
@deathray6551
2 ай бұрын
I understand where your coming from. I do believe people do that sort of thing in good conscience, but there are ways to do it without coming off as patronizing or insulting. A lot of people, whether they are introverted or just shy, don't want to be baby talked or asked if they are okay just because they are behaving differently. A better way to attempt to welcome someone into the conversation is simply to ask if they would like to join in. You can be friendly and still make the situation as comfortable as possible for everybody involved.
@TheSaltyAdmiral
Ай бұрын
Every extrovert has a God given mission to save the introverts from themselves :D
@angelikaskoroszyn8495
Жыл бұрын
If you know a person who is actually shy but wants to be a part of the conversation then just involve them in it. Ask questions, wait for answers, never comment on the potential awkward speech patterns, give them a way out. If they're just introverts who don't want to talk then leave them alone. Easy
@alexia3552
Жыл бұрын
Excellent beautiful advice. Putting a shy person on the spot and being like “say something 😐” just feels like public humiliation for no reason. Ask questions and patiently and encouragingly listen
@jusssable
Жыл бұрын
@@alexia3552 I used to be shay and I wish I could time travel just to tell those people exactly this.
@dYstop1a_
Жыл бұрын
I wish people actually did this ToT
@JuliaShalomJordan
11 ай бұрын
Exactly.😂
@angelwishes3213
11 ай бұрын
Right, can never satisfy people, something not right with the people. When tried to be more social and read self help materials, people would just ignore or act like there's a bug disturbing them or extremely negative reactions - really weird and strange - just stopped trying after last few attempts and chugged it up to not meant for me - destiny on a different path
@BruttiF27
Жыл бұрын
>I used to be just like you >You'll grow out of it Oh, this brings back memories. Fuck those people. I'll talk when I want to talk.
@johnm1874
Жыл бұрын
Fr those pretentious oompa fucking loompas must have suck assholes through straw when they were little 😤
@kgosiking4228
Жыл бұрын
you tell em f27 !!!!
@lawyerreactsnotthemoon85
Жыл бұрын
Lol. Fr.
@falsehoodbasher7240
Жыл бұрын
can ya say that? no I'm not shy just that _I talk when I want to_ _talk_ 🤣😂 lmaooo
@BruttiF27
Жыл бұрын
@@falsehoodbasher7240 Watch out, we got a cool guy here
@Paradigm-Shift208
4 күн бұрын
Recognizing someone being quiet because they're quiet and someone being quiet because they're hurting is an *invaluable* skill to have in life. It's one that most people don't have.
@LivingOxymoron.
28 күн бұрын
As a quiet person, apparently I am so unapproachable that this has never happened to me
@s.b_reads
Жыл бұрын
bro i’m always the “shy one” cuz i’m not screaming in public like 💀
@--NAYA--
Жыл бұрын
exactly like i'm not the shy one, i'm the sane one 💀
@s.b_reads
Жыл бұрын
@@--NAYA-- yessss 😭💀
@--NAYA--
Жыл бұрын
@@s.b_reads 😭💀
@annabelle.rose.slay.
Жыл бұрын
LITERALLY
@gggggg-hs2tk
Жыл бұрын
First of all, who the f screams in public💀
@metl6929
7 ай бұрын
"Why are you so quiet?" Because I don't have anything to say, Sharon. If I talked but didn't have anything to say, then I'd be like you. And lord knows THAT'S not the goal.
@Yuqideqiko
6 ай бұрын
THIS COMMENT RIGHT HERE SIR! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@sophiethelk9557
6 ай бұрын
lmao this is the perfect comeback
@JimmyJ2J
5 ай бұрын
This is so perfect.
@lanayashina
5 ай бұрын
so good
@Bedlaminhavana
5 ай бұрын
Who's Sharon? Feel like there's a story there. 😂😂
@MollyDamian
27 күн бұрын
Im an extrovert and it so annoying when ppl tell me i talk too much and that i need to stfu. Like thank you for making me insecure
@bbe9374
2 ай бұрын
Sometimes society pushes other people saying "You need to start talking", "Why are you so quiet","You need to talk to many people" but the thing is that people like will get criticized for being loud, talkative, for running their mouth so much, or even for dipping their nose into others business. I don't know about other country but at least in my country its like that.
@sc4ramouch3
Жыл бұрын
“you’ll grow out of it” gets me like DAWG IM AN ADULT😭
@mai8013
7 ай бұрын
also them assuming that it's naturally something to be hated that you have to grow out of, when actually most quiet people are comfortable with themselves they don't need to change who they are to please people who don't make the effort to understand them
@Jess-yp9fo
7 ай бұрын
lmfaoooo you will eventually stop caring about others opinions tbh
@KyeCreates
7 ай бұрын
@@mai8013 To be successful, you need to stop being introverted. Almost all successful people have been extroverted or very advanced in their communication skills.
@thomasanderson468
7 ай бұрын
@@KyeCreates🧢🧢
@iiCounted-op5jx
7 ай бұрын
is it not true though? I always thought being the "shy" and "quiet" was a result of being young, innocent, and inexperienced in life, and that it naturally diminishes as you become an adult because you become experienced, more sure of yourself, more confident etc.
@HelloMyNameIsShun1
5 ай бұрын
The worst part of being introverted is when you do finally try and speak up, the extroverts will either talk over you or get annoyed that you’re practically yelling over them to “speak” lol 😅
@consistentme22
3 ай бұрын
In my experience, because I'm so quite, when I decide to speak everyone is keen to listen 🤷🏻♂️
@fernandocolunga9177
3 ай бұрын
I feel very seen. I always either think, man I rarely talk, you'd think you'd give me a moment when I do or I'm mad at myself because I'm overtalking people. Once I start I'm not gonna stop for people who can't get enough of their own voice.
@guysumpthin2974
3 ай бұрын
Ha!! ❤❤❤
@allycain24
3 ай бұрын
This happens to me all the time and it;s gettin kinda annoying now😭
@OrwellianDystopia1984
3 ай бұрын
Being an introvert doesn't mean that you don't have social skills.
@ananj
2 ай бұрын
I feel so validated atp. Love this.
@WinstonPrimal
2 ай бұрын
The problem is that this isn't swapped because she's confronting the person in an extraverted way.
@JudgeJulieLit
2 ай бұрын
Not a problem; she's confronting the extrovert as an extrovert, to show them how it feels to be so challenged.
@FUCKYOUTUBElollll
Ай бұрын
@@JudgeJulieLitProblemz
@ambientalholocaust
Жыл бұрын
As an introvert, I just love how most people feel uncomfortable with silence.
@maalikserebryakov
Жыл бұрын
Cringe
@jkfd97
Жыл бұрын
Even better is when there is an extrovert who appreciates the quiet times with you whilst you enjoy the chaotic times with them. Ying and Yang.
@Shawarma101
Жыл бұрын
only thing i hate about silence as an introvert is if in class the entire class is silent and you accidentally sneeze or smth, all the attention goes to you 💀💀
@dalewoods7308
Жыл бұрын
I know then they ask do you want to go to such and such place me no because that means i have to talk to people
@Cadaveralien
Жыл бұрын
I recall watching a video about negotiation tactics and one advice was keeping quiet, because people dislike silence, so they feel pressure to keep talking and end making mistakes/making better offers. And when they played a scenario as an example, I immediately recognized it as basically every single interaction I ever had with a salesperson. I just thought: Damn, I didn't meant to inflict psychological warfare on these people, I'm just a quiet person.
@brandonb.5304
Жыл бұрын
The best is when people act like you've been completely mute the entire time you've been hanging out with them even though you haven't. They'll be like why aren't you talking? I actually have been, but I don't feel the need to yell or dominate a conversation or talk over people so people act like I haven't said anything at all. It's really irritating. Extroverts expect you to be as loud and talkative as them or they consider you a mute.
@Harry-fk5of
Жыл бұрын
Yep either that or when I do talk everyone goes silent to listen to me and when I stop talking to allow others to take over the conversation they think there's something wrong with me. No, I'm just getting tired of talking - some people don't understand that concept
@prototypex674
Жыл бұрын
@@Harry-fk5of Thissss.. I felt uncomfortable just reading that, people are so judgemental nowadays.
@Brickerbrack
Жыл бұрын
"I've been talking. Why weren't you listening?" 😏
@kmbbmj5857
Жыл бұрын
@@Brickerbrack YESSSS. They are so busy talking they don't spend any time listening.
@KingAzxoll9
Жыл бұрын
@@kmbbmj5857 now thats not true of all extroverts. I talk A LOT cause i have a lot on my mind and like to get as much as i can out there, but when a friend of mine has something to say, i always try to have an open ear and allow them to express what they're thinking
@bookgremlin474
25 күн бұрын
Fr they constantly check if you're okay, like I was ok until you came in girl
@slecuyer21
18 күн бұрын
As an extrovert, I’d absolutely love to have a conversation with this person
@ziggy.smallz
Жыл бұрын
"is there a reason ur mouth moves so much" LMAOOOO
@cm-yu6gu
Жыл бұрын
"why are you quiet??"
@mooma10
Жыл бұрын
@@cm-yu6gu STOP PTSD
@silly_memories
Жыл бұрын
that is my classmates to me tho XD
@ranballs3335
Жыл бұрын
Why have I been told that so much, idk all my friends are introverted and my talkative annoying ass is there going for hours
@madametj
Жыл бұрын
"Why are you so quiet?" I'm not, I actually talk a lot when I'm comfortable and with people that I like. 🙂
@patrickbateman3326
Жыл бұрын
Daaaammnnn
@Mimi-zk8rq
Жыл бұрын
I like this. I should say this.
@marioluigi9599
Жыл бұрын
Well actually it's not good to be shy and Jesus said to try to get out of it. That doesn't mean be a loud and obnoxious person. It just means be a strong and confident person that's not shy to talk their mind So please don't advocate for shyness. We shouldn't advocate for weakness. We should help people out of it. Thanks.
@raenaprottengeier
Жыл бұрын
@@marioluigi9599try to get out of it” 💀💀 stop trying to change people because you think people’s personalities or sociableness equate to weaknesses.
@bunninsula5849
Жыл бұрын
Yes same. After some XP with stalkers, I know it's not wise to open up to just anyone. We just playing it safe.
@abzeeno
2 ай бұрын
'I'm not shy , I just don't want to talk to people'
@paul_logic010
2 ай бұрын
Well said
@Itsaaronadams817
Ай бұрын
“I’m not shy, I just don’t wanna talk to YOU.” 💀
@Burn143
Жыл бұрын
I’m an introvert but I’m also shy and quiet. People would ask stupid questions like “why are you…?” BECAUSE I JUST AM. I want to be left alone, please and thank you.
@janetslater129
Жыл бұрын
Yep, and ya'll are making me more anxious by putting me on the spot, and invading my space.
@Burn143
Жыл бұрын
@@janetslater129 Exactly😭😭like they don’t understand how it makes us feel.
@janetslater129
Жыл бұрын
Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy being with people, but I also really need my alone time to recharge.
@Burn143
Жыл бұрын
@@janetslater129 spoken like a true introvert haha.
@ZBM-jj1xr
Жыл бұрын
Yes! People will ask me why I'm quiet. Uhmm...I have nothing to say right now? Do I need to speak at all times, even when I have nothing to say? Another one is people saying it's so great when I do say something and I need to do that more.
@cestmagnifique7932
Жыл бұрын
I've noticed that, once ppl get the impression that you're quiet, they won't listen to you even when you do talk.
@namae270
Жыл бұрын
Hahaha true
@jaybird0312
11 ай бұрын
Good way to counter that: make sure they hear you when you speak and make sure what you say is insanely good. People know I'm quiet but they also know that when I speak, they need to listen up. I also project very well.
@lilithcrawler-mj3xr
11 ай бұрын
@@jaybird0312I was basically screaming at my friend and she still ignored me 💀
@NaishiYT
11 ай бұрын
FR ITS TERRIBLE
@relentlessrhythm2774
11 ай бұрын
I've noticed that too. Why should I even bother?
@Jay-zk4bb
2 ай бұрын
Says 2 sentences: "Bro why do you talk *so much"*
@itsamejc
Ай бұрын
As a former extrovert i can say that the majority of us we don't talk that much we just talk with purpose which can intimidate people ( i kinda started to become more introverted overtime because nobody listened to me = covid and autism
@socialistrepublicofvietnam1500
7 ай бұрын
"You should talk more!" *they actually talk more* *ignores them* *they don't talk anymore* "You should talk more!"
@highestpeeqs9532
6 ай бұрын
Jesus loves yall and died for us! Jesus calls for all of us to repent!!!! !
@socialistrepublicofvietnam1500
6 ай бұрын
@@highestpeeqs9532 nah
@someonesomewhere8869
6 ай бұрын
You aren't going to convert people that way buddy. First they must have interest in conversion. If they aren't Christian already. Unlikely you're going to spark that interest in a comment section. Also, political belief and religious do not always conjoin. Things aren't black and white. Me? I believe in God. Its bigger than the confinement of religion. Beyond our comprehension and understanding as we are men. It's a variation on beliefs of the Christian God. It's big picture. I doubt in your current state you could even come close to understanding my perspectives. But I will tell you one. When you fail, when you fall do you get back up again? Do you succeed through failure? Do you learn from the evils of this world? The truth, is that some things are not absolute. There are things beyond good and evil. There are necessary machinations. Nothing cannot create something. It must have an origin. I believe, even time.
@someonesomewhere8869
6 ай бұрын
@socialistrepublicofvietnam1500 these people give Christianity a bad taste. They make them look unintelligent
@sarahberkner
6 ай бұрын
There's a great Blimey Cow video that makes this point, I don't remember which one it is but all their Messy Mondays introvert videos are good.
@keithprice1950
Жыл бұрын
"Don't be shy!" is one of the dumbest things you can say to a shy person.
@ashtonskyegorlewski2248
9 ай бұрын
My Dad says it to me, especially when I was a little child.
@alvarojimenez50
9 ай бұрын
It isnt dumb, the only way to stop being shy is start to act like you are not. "Simple" as that, at first you feel like dying but the more you do It the easier it gets.
@faye4426
9 ай бұрын
it's like saying "don't be depressed" to someone who's clinically diagnosed with depression.
@Dreviles
9 ай бұрын
Stop being shy. @@mmecharlotte
@skyhunter520
9 ай бұрын
@@mmecharlotteI love this
@thedragonmaster7374
2 ай бұрын
I wish this happened to introverts, we'd actually have friends
@JudgeJulieLit
2 ай бұрын
If you want friends, join groups that share your interests.
@CRYCITIZED
Ай бұрын
I think you’re just shy man. I have friends. I just don’t talk a lot to people that don’t interest me or in conversations that don’t interest me. I’m fine with sitting in silence while my friends talk. And if they bring up something I like I’ll join the conversation.
@RandomAudio3dits
29 күн бұрын
the way i’m an extrovert that has been treated like this 😀 i didn’t talk for a week!
@TiffanySoulbird
Жыл бұрын
In middle school someone said to my friend "she's so annoying, she never talks" and I was standing right there. 💀 Why does silence offend people?
@elenaramirez7635
Жыл бұрын
Exactly!!
@deucedeuce1572
Жыл бұрын
For real. Like it's better to be thought of as annoying than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. lol. (A modified quote stolen from Abraham Lincoln... "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt"). It's just hard to imagine hoe someone could be annoyed, because someone is literally doing Nothing.
@nightwalker8837
Жыл бұрын
Because they does not understand what you think and that is what annoys them🥲 i am personally very chatty person who can stay silent only with a few people,so trust me,they are not offended by you,but by what they can’t understand
@scipioafricanus5871
Жыл бұрын
@@nightwalker8837 They are afraid they might be quietly judged.
@HylianGeekBoy
Жыл бұрын
Once I was heading to my home with a friend from University and I was just so chil and felt so nice that day, then my friend does a weird face of being offended and she did it twice, I didn't know what happened until she said that that was a nice talk sarcastically, I felt so weird as I was just ok and only in that particular day happened and my friend never spoke to me again the same way, just for one day of not talking as I tend to enjoy talks but I also enjoy the silence.
@cesardejeronimo8184
11 ай бұрын
"I noticed you speak so much, sounds like you don't get enough attention at home. Are you okay?"
@iiCounted-op5jx
7 ай бұрын
😭💯💯
@cestmagnifique7932
7 ай бұрын
😆😆😆
@Art.and.Hamsters
7 ай бұрын
😭💀👍
@babooshka-it4cv
7 ай бұрын
We should normalise this 🤧😌 I mean only towards the offensively rambunctious ones.
@totoro413
7 ай бұрын
reall hahhah
@user-hp8my2hp1y
Ай бұрын
Im shy but i know those people are just trying to be kind and i appreciate it
@murongsun4630
Ай бұрын
rare comment not going “fr whats wrong with extroverts ew” or “im just a dainty little introvert and sigh why are people so loud” 😭😭 as a literal introvert i literally got so tired of the replies just shitting on extroverts 😭
@Kae_lina.
13 күн бұрын
@@murongsun4630 You and OP are amazing people thank you 😭🙏
@Chantilly907
18 күн бұрын
Extroverts would like that, though 😅
@lovelace8702
Жыл бұрын
As an introvert people don't realize sometimes we are quiet because you suck and we are polite 😂
@cooperedith958
Жыл бұрын
99% off the time haha. 🤣
@suzannaflores1164
Жыл бұрын
Wow good one!
@theoaktreejourneys6246
Жыл бұрын
😂😅 love this!!
@samwisegamgee1243
Жыл бұрын
This is the one!! #truth
@TheEnigmaProductions
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@user-po3ir2tx5z
3 ай бұрын
“Why aren’t you talking?” “Because I'm listening, something you've haven't figured out how to do.”
@GenXJen78
2 ай бұрын
Yes! Why would I talk to someone who doesn't listen?
@Brayn126
2 ай бұрын
"Because I have nothing to say."
@mikakettunen7939
2 ай бұрын
AMEN \,,/
@angelictigerette
2 ай бұрын
LOL Good one. haha
@mikkitoro8933
2 ай бұрын
Fools talk, cowards are silent but wise men listen.
@tuckertoops4354
Ай бұрын
For people who supposedly hate attention, introverts sure do enjoy making everyone aware of how much they hate attention. Also, on a side note, being introverted has changed from simply gaining energy from being alone to a complete aversion to the company of other people. Being introverted is not an excuse for being rude or completely avoiding other people. We still need to learn to be personable to others because humanity thrives on community, not in isolation.
@chanp8563
3 ай бұрын
The thing is.. extrovert person will happy to answer those question and lauch about it. That make us happy :)
@humourlessjester3584
Жыл бұрын
Just saw a FB post a few months back of someone taking a candid photo of someone eating alone in the mall and the OP literally just said "It's okay we all have bad days sometimes". Like, can't the man just have a date with himself and his fried chicken?
@Nick-Nasty
Жыл бұрын
Lol i eat by myself plenty, some of us have jobs that require travel, what do i gotta do? Go try and make friends real quick before i eat lunch?
@meowJACK
Жыл бұрын
So wild 💀 like damn what if dude was just on his fkn lunch break or something. There's a million reasons why someone would be eating alone in a mall that don't involve having a "bad day"
@Road_to_Dawn
Жыл бұрын
It's like that Sad Keanu meme lol. He was asked about that picture on some interview, and his response was like "I wasn't sad, I was just eating a damn sandwich lol"
@KingAzxoll9
Жыл бұрын
Ironically, I'm very extroverted but i very much like to eat alone. It can be difficult trying to juggle eating with talking. Like, let me eat in peace, then after I'll probably be in the mood to talk lol
@HailZod
Жыл бұрын
Thats such a shitty thing to do aswell. Like if they really cared they'd ask the guy if he was okay. Not plaster him all over social media without his permission.
@crunchy_wahter
Жыл бұрын
When my teachers said “I’m gonna break u out of that, you’re gonna talk in my class” N nothing changed, girl bye 😂
@FewerMiles
Жыл бұрын
Strange, as a teacher, I'm generally aiming for the opposite.
@crunchy_wahter
Жыл бұрын
@@FewerMiles lol we would’ve got along just fine
@alexia3552
Жыл бұрын
Whyyy do teachers do this?? Like it’s none of your business lmao. Just tell me about triangles.
@crunchy_wahter
Жыл бұрын
@@alexia3552 it’s like they be so offended by the quietness lol
@PGOuma
Жыл бұрын
@@FewerMilesong
@redxoluhvie
25 күн бұрын
Im both shy and extroverted so i'll pobbably get treated as a Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis 😔
@lillly1188
9 күн бұрын
“Yeah so is there a reason your mouth moves SO MUCH” passive aggressively got me
@ava_sturman
Жыл бұрын
Im an extrovert, but my don’t understand how other extroverts just say these things like cant you just realize we all think differently socially and that doesn’t make a person any less?
@claireschweizer4765
Жыл бұрын
Fr fr
@drake6800
Жыл бұрын
Blame western culture. Extroverts are praised while introverts are seen as weirdos. Why do you think there’s so many jokes about “the quiet kid” as if they’re gonna shoot up a school one day or something?
@verduoh
Жыл бұрын
No they can't realise that, at all. A lot of them need your attention because all their friends have had enough of their egos for now
@centpushups
Жыл бұрын
Judgmental attitude with a touch of pride. Font know if the intent is to belittle or help.
@AdrianCuyubambaDiaz
Жыл бұрын
Socially I do feel less, though
@neurofiedyamato8763
Жыл бұрын
Captures the condescending yet passive-aggressiveness of such a encounter perfectly.
@lolipop504ful
Жыл бұрын
or maybe theyre autistic trying to understand you and the dynamic
@nootnewt9323
Жыл бұрын
Yeah exactly. If I have nothing to say I don’t say anything, I can’t imagine just chatting about anything and everything. Sounds annoying.
@RuinedTemple
Жыл бұрын
@@nootnewt9323 Tons of ppl do that. I think a lot of ppl are super uncomfortable & even frightened when they have to quietly sit alone with nothing but their own thoughts, memories, & worries with no distractions. Which is why learning skills like self-honesty, mindfulness, radical acceptance, self-acceptance, self-awareness & understanding, neutral & positive self-talk, positive alternatives to the negative thinking errors, biases, & self-beliefs, doing your shadow work, & dealing with your trauma with some therapy is so worth it.
@PeaceOfMake
Жыл бұрын
@@RuinedTemple So you think all extroverts have a problem? Jeez
@JAYSPLASHMUSIC
Жыл бұрын
@@PeaceOfMake "tons of people" does not mean all please read
@nothing23681
Ай бұрын
“Why are you so shy?” They asked “Oh uh- idk” I say “Why are you so social” I think
@domename
29 күн бұрын
no extrovert would listen quietly for so long... At least I wouldn't.
@Kae_lina.
13 күн бұрын
Me neither tbh
@Witchmee
5 ай бұрын
They ask why you're so quiet but they dont actually start a real conversation with you. They could literally just ask me questions, and i would asnwer, but instead, they wanna be judgemental.
@yungacid1
2 ай бұрын
They're the truly antisocial ones. Like that kinda judgemental ish makes me not want to socialize with you, ew.
@DecayOpossum
2 ай бұрын
Lmfao same. For a recent example I was talking to someone I didn’t know at a wedding and she was asking questions (god bless her cause my socially inept ass was definitely not helping carry that conversation) and eventually asked my favorite animal and I answered (you can probably guess based on my username and pfp). I think she noticed the fact that I lit up at that and she asked about opossums specifically and I just started popping off. After that talking about other stuff was pretty easy. Sometimes the best way to get someone to be more comfortable talking (at least if they are just shy and want to talk, not if they just don’t want to talk in general) is to just ask a question, especially if they seem interested in whatever you’re asking about. It helps people open up and sometimes the hardest part of talking is literally just starting the conversation.
@GenXJen78
2 ай бұрын
Sometimes they say they're just trying to have a conversation, and I say, "Why would I want to talk about being quiet?" "You're so quiet" Is not a good conversation starter. Pick a better topic!
@Pain_Ito
2 ай бұрын
answering questions isn’t having a conversation, just letting you know
@Witchmee
2 ай бұрын
@Pain_Ito that doesn't make sense. Most conversations are filled with questions. How was your day? Did you see that episode last night? What's your favorite color? Black? Wow that's my favorite too.
@Crime_Scenesters
6 ай бұрын
"Is there a reason your mouth moves so much?" That should be put on a T-shirt.
@Bedlaminhavana
5 ай бұрын
Hallelujah
@lunaneila
4 ай бұрын
And on a tote bag, a hat, at the back of a coat, on a billboard, on a field so that it can be seen from space. E V E R Y W H E R E
@brianlittrell797
3 ай бұрын
Yes there is a reason my mouth moves so much, because I love to eat. And talk. 😂
@alexiadeligianni1654
3 ай бұрын
Yes! 😂
@Gernot66
2 ай бұрын
Her T you mean by that.
@ZoraSingsohh
Ай бұрын
Me as an extrovert sitting here like: 👁️👄👁️
@hasanalmansur7033
28 күн бұрын
An introvert would neverrrr approach anyone like this 😂 but yeah
@peppermint740
Жыл бұрын
In elementary people thought I was depressed or something because people were always like “are you okay? You look sad” and it was just my resting expression
@Adzukii-Sama
10 ай бұрын
I hate that so much honestly. Like do I have to be smiling all the time? 🤦♀️
@tappajaav
9 ай бұрын
@@Adzukii-Sama Yes
@UrjGaming-zw2cj
9 ай бұрын
I go in high school and some people still question me why I look sad
@poucet___
8 ай бұрын
"YoU lAcK sElF-cOnFiDeNcE dOn'T bE sO sHyYy" lemme alone lol I don't like u
@jessapop
8 ай бұрын
@@Adzukii-Samasometimes people are just worried, I know it's annoying but maybe try a positive mindset! Like... "Oh these people do care" something like that You don't have to talk to them about everything because that's you choice
@blyatcyka8105
Жыл бұрын
I'm super talkative when I feel comfortable and with someone who won't judge and try to make me change because we're not some sort or clones of eachother
@ante5544
Жыл бұрын
I've always really respected people who can put you at ease being around them
@StudiesOfTheAncientNearEast
Жыл бұрын
This is nonsensical. If im doing something immoral I would want people to judge me and to be ashamed, so that I may grow as a person. Not to mention others should be pushing to change you, for the better. That's what people who actually care about you do.
@ante5544
Жыл бұрын
@@StudiesOfTheAncientNearEast *If. He didn't say he doesn't like people judging him for doing something wrong. It seems it's more that he doesn't like people who judge others simply for being different and then try to make others more like them. I think what he's talking about has more to do with things like tastes in art, music, and hobbies than it does breaking the 10 Commandments.
@blyatcyka8105
Жыл бұрын
@@StudiesOfTheAncientNearEast Telling me I'm not a real girl because I don't like shopping isn't caring about me, it's judgmental. Telling me I should drink alcohol otherwise I'm "not enjoying life" isn't trying to change me for the best, it's trying to make me fit in a mold that's not meant for me. I found people I like, we respect eachother despite the fact that we aren't identical, we focus on what we have in common and we appreciate our differences and we are not trying to change eachother to fit our vision of what a proper person is.
@azurekutella3812
Жыл бұрын
@@StudiesOfTheAncientNearEast Introverts don’t need to change. They are just better at different things. Most written works were made by introverts. To really become an expert at something, it helps to be the kind of person who can separate from people for a while and practice or study. Nature hedges her bets by making all kinds of people.
@Michelle-rb2mz
2 ай бұрын
All are shy some people act extra but it keeps people at a distance too😅
@datenshiiii
29 күн бұрын
“i used to be just like you” THEN WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE THAT GODDAMN 😭😭
@NomadSupreme911
Жыл бұрын
When people would ask me why i didn't talk much, my response was because people don't listen much.✌️
@CorwinJHarris
Жыл бұрын
REAL👏🏾👏🏾💯
@andreasklindt7144
Жыл бұрын
People asking "What?" *before* you even finished your sentence...
@hellokittykilla
Жыл бұрын
yes people love talking over because I am naturally soft spoken.
@enrater123
Жыл бұрын
Then the people you hang out with suck lol
@enrater123
Жыл бұрын
@@hellokittykilla I wouldn't consider myself soft spoken but it does happen to me sometimes, I just don't give up saying what I want to say lol
@powderedwater67
Жыл бұрын
I was always told growing up that if you didn't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.
@StudiesOfTheAncientNearEast
Жыл бұрын
That is just ridiculous. This is how we get an overly sensitive whiny society. People need to be told the truth, whether the truth is "nice" or not.
@VirgoLeaf
Жыл бұрын
@@StudiesOfTheAncientNearEast true true, tho unfortunately some doesn’t know the difference between being honest and being a jerk lol
@JAYSPLASHMUSIC
Жыл бұрын
@@StudiesOfTheAncientNearEast ok then. nobody gaf what you think or say so why even comment? Thats %100 the truth so dont be "sensitive and whiny" in your response LOL
@coreyroberts5251
Жыл бұрын
@@StudiesOfTheAncientNearEast truth is subjective bro
@StudiesOfTheAncientNearEast
Жыл бұрын
@@coreyroberts5251 Is it objectively true that truth is subjective?
@Mina_Hina
16 күн бұрын
I’m a extrovert but I’m really shy due to trauma lol😭
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