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@johncollins6342
9 ай бұрын
Mel / Katrina - is there an update? This was such a compelling session, I am hoping Katrina has landed in a wonderful new place and is loving her life there. As a parent, you calling her on her “avoiding choice/action” because of her parents was spot on. We always want them to thrive, no matter what it takes. (And airplanes exist…) Any state in the country would welcome such an intelligent, kind, and thoughtful person.
@renishagovender8089
8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, this resonates with me so much
@carolynpace
8 ай бұрын
Like
@Me-555
7 ай бұрын
Great video. I'm wondering how you let go of a toxic person when they're your own child?
@yvettebravo347
6 ай бұрын
I need to signup
@dianepereira1860
Жыл бұрын
Believe me once someone hurts you to your core you'll never feel the same way about them. Intellectually you want him back because you keep the good times you've experienced together in the forefront. I'm sure there have been bad times...red flags...that you kept ignoring because of how you felt about him. But if you look deep inside your soul, you'll realize he is not good for you. You need to take the time for finding out who you are alone and to heal your heart before entering into another relationship. I've been through the same 40 years ago and wasted too much time pinning over him when he jumped into another relationship weeks after and a year later married this person on my birthday! Put it in God's hands. I kept praying for God to send me a wonderful man who would be there for me forever. And 2 years later my husband walked into my life and we have been happily married for 33 years! It will all work out in the end if you allow everything to unfold the way it is meant to be. God bless and best wishes. 🙏
@carolgeorge6409
Жыл бұрын
@Diane i also needed to hear what you just saiid. Thank you
@trrahr5496
Жыл бұрын
❤
@melodyst.claire5389
Жыл бұрын
Yes indeed ❤️ I was lefted at a Christmas dinner after a 5 year..relationship Broke my heart and 15 years single now never dated or cared too 💔 I just have made my life as good as possible You could say iam a Monk 😅 actually I have been working on my spiritual side of life 🙏 ❤and as a spiritual artist it really has worked for me 🎉their is life after break ups....still to this day I wonder if I stayed I'd probably be dead. So ❤️ 💐 iam glad I found strength to carry on and find my purpose, and live my life free 🙌 🙏 ✨️ ❤️ your okay 👍 Your going to make it 🎉 Just do what you love ❤️
@Wealthybaby
Жыл бұрын
This is so true, I was having a tough time, but once I got real, that person didn’t even deserve me. I laugh now, and would never look their way again
@MARLA116
Жыл бұрын
Diane, What a wonderful story. I am heartbroken over my husband's betrayal, abandonment, and discard after 30 years of fidelity and devotion on my part. I am 60, so I doubt the right man, a good and Godly man, will make it to my doorstep. Dabbling with so-so men in my loneliness and grief. But know that I will probably be alone. Am preparing for that. As for YOU, my dear. BRAVO!!!!!👏🥹🥲❤
@susanbrowning5826
Жыл бұрын
She breaks my heart when she says “Wasn’t enough” and looks down - you will never “be enough” for the wrong person, they are empty buckets that will keep you jumping through hoops for their own pleasure - you will be more than enough for the right person ❤
@antygona-iq8ew
Жыл бұрын
I think is better, and wasnt enough really mean we want different things. If her needs whatever they were , were not met, this is not going to work. Doesn't matter what.
@andycapo9you
11 ай бұрын
I felt that, being feeling 'not enough', 'nothing', ugly, and more for months now, I even tried to quit from this life
@kathleen4611
10 ай бұрын
Yeah don't stay there he'll come back one day some crap story to use you that's what Wicked people do to come back to use you cuz you're making it
@kathleen4611
10 ай бұрын
Low life make you feel like crap about yourself leave that place
@kathleen4611
10 ай бұрын
Oh my God Indiana sucks so bad
@eunminwootang
Жыл бұрын
The lack of closure is what kills the other person. That's the part we have to accept, that the silence was the closure
@trinityp8575
Жыл бұрын
Even if you hear the cold truth from him, it won’t make the hurt less. It may even leave you more angry or resentful in a long run. Silence is your closure. It means he doesn’t love you nor want to be with you any longer. What other closure is needed? It’s clear as a day. If someone loved you and cherished you, they wouldn’t leave or do what they did. Acceptance is the key. Then healing happens and then… new beginnings:)
@newearth4071
Жыл бұрын
Mel YOU ARE A GREAT TEACHER , YOU EMPOWER US TO BELIEVE IN OURSELVES, TO SELF RESPECT..... SO From the bottom of my heart THANK YOU ❤🙏🥰💐💝💃🥳
@va9347
Жыл бұрын
amen!
@terrischmidt764
Жыл бұрын
Beautifully said!
@MS-ns4ki
Жыл бұрын
It’s pretty much over for me . But hopefully this doesn’t happen to anyone .
@trudybongers3534
Жыл бұрын
An old woman with dementia once said to me Take good care of your self, other people won't do it 💕🌺🌷🌺🌷🌺🌷🌺🌷🌺🌷🌺🌷🌺🌷🌺🌷🌺
@michellebh
Жыл бұрын
I’m 50 and I feel this woman. I wish she could see how young, beautiful and full of potential she is
@jelizabethpetrie6656
Жыл бұрын
And as you and I know (60yo) we know the next 25 years will fly. ❤ She is lucky to get a clean slate and start fresh. Rather than starting over after 10 or 20 years later saddled with added responsibilities (kids in school) more than herself, limiting her choices in a start over. 😊
@pretty-eyes
Жыл бұрын
Same here
@mystic627
Жыл бұрын
He did her a favor Mormons have weird ideas. She deserves a man with her own values who loves her and adores her. She needs to realize she is so worthwhile and amazing.
@carmencusido9131
Жыл бұрын
I feel for her. I spent eight years with a man who was terrified of marriage. I just turned 40. I'm done. Then I attracted another guy I dated a while back so is even more aloof. It's scary to go back to the drawing board in my 40s.
@KL-ps4im
Жыл бұрын
Same here age 53 Omg. My jaw is on the floor This young woman has SO much going for her. I hope focusing on her new EARNED career and making new girlfriends in her new city helps steer her in the new life. I am Mel's age and this is such awesome yet raw advice.
@Mmmmkaaay
Жыл бұрын
"I was the next target to be hit..." "Or a captive to be released" Bingo! Change the story. You're brilliant, Mel.
@naomisoze2862
5 ай бұрын
Real Talk 💯 I’m Laughing At ‘were they ALL Mormon?’ 😂 Mel’s A Total G
@AS-hs5kk
Жыл бұрын
"When it is not love it is a lesson" 💯👏👌
@j.jgodismyprotection4296
Жыл бұрын
POWERFUL 💯💯💯
@divinefeminine8427
Жыл бұрын
TRUE FACTS
@BluieBeth
Жыл бұрын
OH MY WORD AMEN!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for saying what I have been thinking for YEARS. I mean seriously.
@AS-hs5kk
Жыл бұрын
@@BluieBeth 😀
@AS-hs5kk
Жыл бұрын
@@j.jgodismyprotection4296 😀
@lindzlarae5655
9 ай бұрын
I am going through a very similar situation, so I can definitely feel her pain. The worst part is when he cuts off all communication and goes ghost. Then you sit and wonder how someone can act as if you are their everything one minute then flip a switch and become so cold and treat you like you never meant anything to them at all, and give you absolutely no closure whatsoever. It’s so painful.
@mirajasmin4883
5 ай бұрын
I hope that you have found strength and peace since watching this episode... I'm currently going through the same thing. My heart feels shattered and I'm in a state of confusion. Thanks for sharing. I hate that I'm not alone, but I'm glad that there are people like you who are willing to share your personal experiences...it helps❤
@Oceansgreen
4 ай бұрын
You were with a narcissist
@carmadariacompaniona4181
Жыл бұрын
1. Run toward something in life; not away from it. 2. Closure: you need to let go in order to close the chapter and walk toward something new. 3. Don't blame others when you hold yourself back and play small; take ownership. 4. Stop saying you're afraid to disappoint someone. Ask for their support in pursuing your dreams. 5. If someone doesn't want you anymore, don't want them. You deserve better. 6. Your intuition is always right; listen to it. Look for the signs and claim the fact that you ignored them. 7. If it's not love, it's a lesson. If something ends, it was supposed to end. 8. Rehearse what you're going to say if you might see someone again. 9. You don't need another person in order to feel complete. You can learn and move on by yourself. Claim and identify the signs that you ignored. And owe your own toxic behavior. 10. In life, there will be many things that you do that you regret. You'll regret most of all the things that you didn't do. Don't let your fears hold you back from doing the things that you know in your heart you want to do. How you feel about someone is very different from how that person or place makes you feel. Put the weight of your decision on how the person makes you feel. You must know the difference between what the right decision is in your heart and your fear of making the decision. Always find a way to make the decision that is in your heart because you will not regret it.
@r.p.8906
Жыл бұрын
number 8 is Just the best thing ever. Boom. Being prepared is what Mastery is about.
@scottytv1
Жыл бұрын
Number 7 ❤
@d.knudson2256
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for this simple summary. Wow this all makes complete sense. It’s been 33 years in this relationship and I’ve been struggling for years. Now at 71 years of age I’m concerned of being alone and unwanted. Possibly because I’m already feeling that way. Ive on and off imagined it all working out in so many ways. I became obsessed with him. I Imagined he deeply loved me and I could help him and fix everything. I gave up on life at one point. I’ve been asking for direction and help. I’m getting answers and they are eye opening and dare I say exciting. I’m happy today because I know I’m not the only one in this boat and I can get out. Yep I’ve learned a lot in this relationship. At this time it’s more of a physical mental spiritual draining living in it. Any feedback is welcome. Thank you Mel you are a gift!!!!
@megramos2888
Жыл бұрын
5 years. Killing me. I'm not scared anymore... not to lose him. Scared of what's coming. I want nothing... but GOD
@soonsuicidal
5 ай бұрын
Hope you are in a better place now Meg. 😊
@rawgab4439
4 ай бұрын
28 Year's here ! Congrats ...move on !!
@dalecentamore5064
Жыл бұрын
"Coward-ass chicken-shit decisions"! Tell us how you really feel, Mel! Seriously, love the straight talk.
@JulyPosterGirl
Жыл бұрын
This is a big one for me... I need to separate how i feel about him from how he makes me feel right now and NOT how he USED to make me feel.... He used to make me feel safe and valuable and beautiful. Then he went through some private emotional stuff and turned away from me, not toward me. And now its just not the same. And now he does not make time for me, works constantly and is generally dismissive of me. So... I do need to embrace Truth #1 about how I feel and stop chasing the dream of what we had, bc I deserve better, right now!!! Thx Mel!!
@marterra
3 ай бұрын
Please make the decision of self love 💖. People like your partner who don’t seek to communicate or get help will never change and your situation will get increasingly worse. Please seek community support and get help for yourself. Trust me I’m currently healing from a broken 12 year relationship w/someone like your partner. Don’t waste your precious time!
@Hayes2703
Күн бұрын
His big loss, what a blessing for you, have a great life. 🎉
@thehipsenior
Жыл бұрын
I am 53. I went through a divorce 10 years ago and more recently went through a breakup of a relationship of 10 years. The other day I heard the quote," just because he says I miss you Doesn't mean I want you"
@PerrySkyePhoenix
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes they tell us what we want to hear, when they want something from us.
@etienneseboka4842
Жыл бұрын
I share same experience with you. I wish you are my soulmate.
@polskid3
3 ай бұрын
Tell me how did u deal with that 10 years brake up I am going for simula situation but 10 years relationship 6 years married now all gone fuck it self destroying me to the ground some of it , it is my fault some not 2 kids top of it
@arabrab47
Жыл бұрын
This hit SO close to home for me. I am one and a half months out of a 2 yr relationship that ended abruptly. When he told me he was seeing someone else, he walked out and never spoke to me again. "Ghosted" me, if you will... After 2 years of showering me with adulation he just disappeared in an instant. Its the most heartbreaking thing ive experienced. What i NEEDED to hear was that it is the INJUSTICE of this that is so hard to take. Thanks Mel. And good luck and good vibes to everybody moving through grief right now.
@MS-ns4ki
Жыл бұрын
I am sick inside and no one and nothing will fix this
@rcasas56
Жыл бұрын
Similar situation
@paulaw9764
Жыл бұрын
If he treated you so harshly, he'll probably do the same to her eventually.
@paulaw9764
Жыл бұрын
@@MS-ns4ki time heals.
@deborahhunter4441
Жыл бұрын
been there done that - bet he's a narcissist
@gracieportillo1950
Жыл бұрын
When it's not love it's a lesson......You need to change your story......wow 🤯 you have no idea how bad I needed to hear this! Thanks so much!
@carsonc6659
Жыл бұрын
Me too.
@taratopia6475
Жыл бұрын
After I heard this... I didn't go see my ex. I'm taking back my power. Thank you.
@kimberiysmarketstrategy
Жыл бұрын
Excellent!❤
@RG-bd5fy
Жыл бұрын
Good for you - stay strong!
@wendy1479
8 ай бұрын
HUZZAH!!! 🎉 Well done. Love you. Even if he can't or won't, you can always be the one who says "I have value and am loveable"
@salonilakhpati3378
8 ай бұрын
more power to you !!
@paulatripodi3989
Жыл бұрын
She'll move on and be better for it. Her story resonates with me for sure. I was 60 years old when my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me by text! after avoiding me and lying to me for a couple of weeks. It needed to end. I was sad to lose the relationship, but what broke my heart was the way he did it. Made me lose trust and respect for him and I deserved better. A few weeks later, he wanted to get back together. I said No. I have since moved to a new town and life. She should definitely let herself move on to somewhere new.
@denisecameron3406
Жыл бұрын
Hi Paula, I was a 65 year old widow when my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend called me, told me she had talked to him, and asked when I had broken up with him. I hadn't broken up with him! Fast forward two years later - I still think of him way too often and even have imaginery conversations with him. He kept a few small tokens of mine that he knew I wanted but returned everything else, so I rehearse ignoring him if he tries to return them. Sounds crazy doesn't it? When will I ever get over him?
@paulatripodi3989
Жыл бұрын
@Denise Cameron It's not crazy, and you will get over him. Sounds like his ex had some doubts about him, too, or she wouldn't have called you. I still think about my ex and just tell myself to stop it if I find myself getting aggravated or hurt and starting to wallow in it, but that happens less and less. We can't control other people's behavior. We're both too old to put up with deceit and emotional immaturity. I have been honest with myself, too. Did I overlook red flags? Yes. Did I put up with things that bothered me? Yes. I'm sorry that happened to you. I know how it feels. 🌷
@denisecameron3406
Жыл бұрын
...those red flags Paula - I dipped them in chocolate and rolled them in sprinkles!
@carolwintx8248
Жыл бұрын
@@paulatripodi3989glad to know I’m not the only 60-ish woman who is still dealing with world of dating and relationships! It’s exhausting
@melinatedvessel6840
Жыл бұрын
@@denisecameron3406😂😂I can definitely relate...
@martalost
Жыл бұрын
The closure is something we have to find within ourselves. We cannot expect that someone who broke us will fix us with what we consider the closure.
@juliannevans6559
Жыл бұрын
When I gave my heart to a man who didn't value me, nor did he know what true love was, I realized he was a "Teacher" who showed me how little I valued/respected myself. If I had the self- worth/self-respect I do now, my INTOLERANCE would have kicked him to the curb. Lesson learned. I feel Catrina should write a "closure" letter or email so she can close her heart finally. He doesn't deserve a face-to-face conversation. Worthiness grows EVERY TIME we act on our own behalf in kind, loving, supportive, protective ways, we BUILD our self love, self worth, self respect, and self confidence!!! Some day Catrina will look back and smile knowing she graduated from being treated LESS than what she deserves. As her worthiness grows, her decisions will leave her with little to no regret. Thank you Mel for all of your unedited wisdom!!!
@SP-rx4sm
Жыл бұрын
Beautiful..your writing helped me alot..thank you❤Wow! Sending best to you..ty
@wandmayeslupik6302
Жыл бұрын
"It's about HOW he handled it.".. Amen!!!! Thank you!!!!!
@cassandraschrier3791
Жыл бұрын
This is so ironic! Here is something I had written quite awhile ago (also, true story) Based on my " bump into" a the grocery store... .I want to thank you for letting me go. I want to thank you for showing me that I wasn't the one for you. The way you went about it, as fucked-up and shitty as it was, I still want to thank you. Because if it weren’t for you disposing of me the way you did ( and without a care mind you,) I’d still be there knowing I deserve so much better Than you. So, I want to thank you From the bottom of my heart I truly do. You’ve given me the greatest gift that no one has ever given me before. And that is to discard me. You also taught me what a real man isn’t. It took some doing, but you taught me well. . Its because of you I now know what a real man is. What true intentions are, with real feelings, honest feelings . But most of all having integrity, transparency, and respect for one another without second guessing. And Its amazing . He’s amazing. What’s between he and I is amazing. Thank you for showing me the light at the end of what could have been a very dark and lonely tunnel. So, thank you for that. Thank you for being you. Because if it weren’t for you Rejecting dumping ,then ghosting me regardless of your deceit and lies, I’d still be with you. (most likely) Because I know that I wouldn’t have ended it. And I’d be all the while waiting on pins and needles for the other shoe to drop. So, I’m ever so grateful that you did. I am happier than I’ve ever been since you dumped me. And I’m in love! real love, Reciprocated love. And it’s all because of you. Thank you for showing me the way. The way to true love and happiness. Not just with the beautiful human being that came into my life, (That just happens to be a fantastic perk!) But to know how to truly and deeply love Myself. I’m finally getting what I so long and, quite frankly, always deserved… And it’s all because of you. I’m sure this must be confusing for you. You probably can’t quite wrap your head around it. That’s o.k. I understand. But maybe someday. (well hopefully someday ) the same thing will happen to you then maybe…just maybe you just might “get it” Thank you again, take care, and God bless.
@carolineb7796
11 ай бұрын
I’m going through a horrible breakup, my heart is so sore. Mel’s voice calms me down ❤
@danielaarana5624
9 ай бұрын
How are you feeling now?
@carolineb7796
9 ай бұрын
@@danielaarana5624 I am feeling a million times better! It’s been 2 months since the breakup, enjoying single life and living on my own and doing what I want to do. My ex has been in touch, really wants us to get us back together, but the time apart has made me realise I no longer want that. Wishing all the best things in life for you, merry Christmas x
@amberadams139
8 ай бұрын
I’m also curious how you’re feeling now?
@carolineb7796
8 ай бұрын
@@amberadams139 All is well and Im feeling good. I was with my partner for 6 years, we lived together, i moved across the world to be with him so I was properly invested. My heart has healed so much, I made daily voice memos of how I was feeling and getting all my thoughts out in an uncensored way. That really helped, and I kept busy with the gym, work, friends, making plans for my single life (joined lots of ‘female solo travel’ groups on Facebook lol!). The crying stopped by week 3, and I started to embrace single life and living alone. While my ex pulled the rug from under me in a very sudden and unexpected way (while I was off sick from work on stress leave), it turned out to be a very good thing. After a month of no contact he reached out, and has stayed in regular contact since, he is very keen for us to reunite. But my heart has healed, I feel better than I did in the relationship - and what we had is no longer what I want. Wishing you all the best if ur going thru heartbreak, you will get through it, it might well be the making of you, I’ll be rooting for you ❤️
@elenamaldonado7304
8 ай бұрын
I'm going through the same. You'd think I'd be over it, my husband left in September and it's now January. I knew it was ending months before but the actual leaving part is horrible especially since we just moved so I am essentially alone. I need podcasts like these that to help me through.
@ItsAllGodAnyway
Жыл бұрын
I dated someone for 10 years. We had lots of good times and lots of not so good times. I am as grateful for the not so good times because I learned so much from them. Take the lessons, experience the pain and allow it to move through you. Breakups hurt. But that’s okay because pain is a part of the human experience. Trust me, you do not want to marry someone who doesn’t truly want to be with you. HE FREED YOU!! I’ve been happily married to the love of my life for 22 years. We have had up times, we have had downtimes. Ultimately, we keep choosing each other. You want that…. You do. ❤❤❤
@melissam6037
Жыл бұрын
This is helping me so much. My story for the younger ladies: in my 20’s my then boyfriend dumped me suddenly - we didn’t have cel phones back then so at least people had to have a breakup conversation back then! I was so devastated and pined over him and (stupid I know but I was young) kept calling him and we ended up getting back together a year later. Fast forward 22 more years - we had gotten married, supported each other in growing our careers, had a child, bought a house. I thought he was my soulmate and best friend and that first year was something we worked through. Then he did THE SAME DAMN THING. I found out he had a whole girlfriend/fiancée and had it all figured out how we were getting divorced and he had this whole new life planned for himself. I literally had no clue, and it has taken a long time to work through the feelings of betrayal and hurt. She is honestly lucky he ghosted her now while she is still young enough to learn from this and find someone who will be a partner, instead of finding out many years later. The cheating early in the relationship is a big red flag 🚩 I would never take back a cheater again.
@spookems8
Жыл бұрын
Its so true....its how the breakup is done. The DISRESPECT just sucks the life out of you. I had read if you never get true remorse from the violater.....it never goes away.
@SonjaParis
Жыл бұрын
Now I know why I am still heartbroken thinking back of my first love as a teenager: because I was tossed aside like a piece of garbage, and somehow it still is hurting even 40 years later. I wished I had listened to this when I was 18. I would have understood so much more.
@PerrySkyePhoenix
Жыл бұрын
I was ghosted by my first love way before ghosting was a thing. He turned up like a bad penny 5 years later and I saw him again! By that time we had both been married, divorced and I had a young daughter. He figured that we could just pick up where we left off, but I was no longer in love with him, no longer attracted to him and I rejected him. I wasn't trying to hurt him or get even, that's honestly how I felt. When someone hurts me, or betrays me like that... I can forgive them but I never forget.
@carsonc6659
Жыл бұрын
Don't feel bad. Millions of boys and girls go through that same thing. 🤦♀️
@frankreinmiller848
Жыл бұрын
I’m feeling the same thing Sonja,You aren’t alone.
@nadinedavies698
Жыл бұрын
This is my story exactly and it sounds like yours too!
@RG-bd5fy
Жыл бұрын
Teenage love and it’s been 40 years for me too and I still think about him and wonder, even though he threw me to the curb and lied and manipulated me for another 2.5 years after the “break up.” There are triggers.
@andrewzaltman6934
Жыл бұрын
Catrina, give your self the credit you deserve!!! You’re attractive, bright, young,and healthy ❤! Bottom line: you won and HE LOST! Perhaps you don’t see it that way at the moment. Eventually and with the help from Above, you will get what you deserve which is the very best❤!
@rogers5622
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely agree. Her ex does not deserve her and I hope she moves on and stays away from him
@MS-ns4ki
Жыл бұрын
My heart hurts and I’m treated like a POS and I don’t care anymore
@Greydog184
Жыл бұрын
I’m 49 and so mad at myself for being heartbroken and betrayed like a teenager.
@mathildabootier6414
Жыл бұрын
Saaaasame here!!
@allisoninterviews
5 ай бұрын
It happened to me too at 49. Sending love ❤
@mothebarakuoane363
2 ай бұрын
It happened to me at 44 and I hated myself because it was my first major heart break. That was 3 years ago. It took almost 2 years for the pain to stop. But it did and I am grateful that God freed me. Looking from a distance, I realize I was slowly dying. I hope you are ok❤
@fetabrown
2 ай бұрын
Love energy to you. I am 48 and in the same place. We have to open our minds and our hearts to the future free of someone who didn’t value us.❤
@shaunaarthurs
Жыл бұрын
Mel, you have such a beautiful combination of: wisdom, compassion, hilarity, perception, heart, courage, authenticity, heart. Thank you! ❤🙏🏻
@staejaye1910
Жыл бұрын
Factz
@constance4065
Жыл бұрын
I agree Shauna!!
@susannicky
Жыл бұрын
Being a woman is the greatest feeling in the world, I feel strong and I want other women to feel the same. Work hard don’t let others push you down and never let a man make you feel like you don’t belong in this world. Be leaders, be great make a change. I did the following step below to get to the top:
@susannicky
Жыл бұрын
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@susannicky
Жыл бұрын
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@heidiampe8056
Жыл бұрын
I love how her energy changed, her face changed when she took charge. Her voice and expression transformed when she owned her power. Strong!
@fire12731
Жыл бұрын
Katrina is so lovely. Honey you will find a man who deserves you. You are worthy Katrina. You are putting him on a pedestal. Put YOU on the pedestal. You have everything going for you. I absolutely want to hug you Katrina. You will do great things in life and you will have a man who wants to show you off! And treat you as you should be treated
@nikkicalton2148
Жыл бұрын
The man will find her she doesn't even have to look!
@naomisoze2862
5 ай бұрын
Seriously, This Guy Nick… Sounds Like Such A Goofy. She’s A Successful Goddess Who Deserves Love & Respect.. Nick, If You See This; You Lost The Prize, Boss
@montsevegah
Жыл бұрын
I’m hurting so bad watching this. I, too, was dumped by a boyfriend at age 25. We dated for six years, gave shitty excuses, promised he’d think things through and would come back to me. He never even said “Hey, forget that thing about me coming back”. But I waited around for years. I watch Katrina and and see a strong woman. I was a scared, co-dependent woman with narcissistic parents, little support and a huge heartbreak. 20 years later, I wish I had 1% of the guts and determination of this young woman.
@starmaze3250
Жыл бұрын
Rehearsing what to say or do is crucial. When my ex showed up at work I was stunned. Never in my wildest imagination did I expect to see him again. He was a user and abuser. Instead of saying what I should have said, I went into playing the nice girl. I was so taken back I couldn’t think. Now I regret that I didn’t handle it better, because that was my chance to speak my voice.
@anng7189
Жыл бұрын
Wow, this resonates. Married for 28 years and my husband left me for a heavy equipment operator at work. I was broken… I thought. Some very dark and hard times where I considered ending life for a brief time. I knew something had to change! I started therapy for about six months and I had to admit some very hard things to myself. I felt worthless when he left. But I will not be beat, ever. I learned in therapy that I am resilient and I deserve better from a partner. I have my MBA, have a well compensated job, a great group of close friends, an awesome family, and a wonderful daughter who is my best friend as a grown woman. Feeling worthless was the hardest thing to overcome. I know that he has had some very serious struggles and I would never want those things for him but I have got to move on with my life. I remember my therapist told me, stop asking him for an answer. If he gave you an answer, you wouldn’t believe him because he has proven he is a liar. I struggle with being afraid that my heart won’t be open to anyone in the future because I get upset even thinking of someone entering my life. I just am not in that place right now. I’ve lost over 100 lbs, cut my hair, and started new hobbies. Life is off in a great direction! Mel is new for me and she is awesome! Enjoying her videos.
@ignazs.5816
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like you're thriving.
@baileyb8619
Жыл бұрын
Mel, you are tremendous. This episode was better than 1.5 months of counseling I needed after I ended a year long relationship with what I now know is a narcissist. Wow-this is gold.
@anitadiener2307
Жыл бұрын
I Agee ! Golden !
@JB48632pointfour
Жыл бұрын
Study up! They’re everywhere. 1. No contact is goal #1 2. If no contact would not serve your situation, grey rock. Don’t react; keep communications short and sweet. 3. Mindfulness and therapy is not a cure-all, but will help you stay calm in intense situations. 4. Keep/start pursuing your interests.
@mariaagosti-pm7tk
9 ай бұрын
How do you know he is a narcissist? Narcissists with full personality disorder only affects 0.5-5 % of the entire population. Are you sure he had npd or maybe just narcissistic traits which we all have?
@Inequities
8 ай бұрын
@@mariaagosti-pm7tklol…. Why you on here questioning people’s realities? If someone is at the point where we’re in this comment section of this video, there’s a good chance that we weren’t just dumped, but we were dumped by someone who’s a “chicken shit”. There’s a good chance that person is a cluster b. Mine was a borderline. No object constancy. No object permanence. Little to no empathy. No sense of self. And on and on. It’s having been with cluster Bs that makes us desperate for answers and closure that aren’t coming.
@mariaagosti-pm7tk
8 ай бұрын
@@Inequities People can have borderline traits and NOT be diagnosed with borderline personality, and thats just facts. You can score very high on the borderline scale but sometimes its not enough points so they can make a diagnosis so then it is often borderline traits but not a full diagnosis, I am saying to be careful because a persons behavior can be affected by a comorbidity of many other health disorders and as long the person didnt tell you they have borderline or have been diagnosed, YOU DONT KNOW. Also, it is not relevant, yes, it may explain certain behavior, but at the end you shouldnt care so much about their diagnosis, but why you stay with a person that mistreats you. I dont say it didnt happen, but what is more important is what YOU are doing with your life now, knowing this person might have a diagnosis, but you have to move forward because dwelling on this topic holds you back, yes, it helps for you to explain certain things, but at one point you have to ask yourself what you can do to not find yourself back in a similar situation and how you can move forward.
@Jennifr1966
9 ай бұрын
This life is quicker than you could ever imagine. Don't wait until you're having health problems and are too tired to do things you know are right. I wish everybody reading this the absolute best life!
@zinazoulou3574
8 ай бұрын
❤ thank you 💕
@Oceansgreen
4 ай бұрын
You’re so right… life is so short, try and not waste any of it ruminating over a lost love, try and accept it’s over and move on… don’t live in the past, I’m trying so hard to take my own advice, hopefully, one day I’ll get through it without a thought of my narc ex husband of 37 years, then I’ll know I’ve healed.
@jeanlives6032
3 ай бұрын
She is young, smart, with grand achievement. Drop the past dream that was never good enough for you on so many levels... is the reason he was a coward & if u hadn't been dreaming and busy with studies then u would have seen past his hesitation. Him blaming the Church is just an excuse to make him appear validated. The blessing here is now u see the truth about him, thank God u didn't marry him and find out at 45 or 50 with 3 kids... make a positive new life where ever u call home. Your parents are every proud of you for growth and positive change. Doesn't mean u will never see them again, holidays & special events are in your future with honesty for your own self Love.
@WarrickRanger
Жыл бұрын
10 days ago I was left by a woman in her 40's who ended the relationship because of PTSD from her first marriage when she was 19. Instead of managing her internal emotional state, she let her house fall into disarray (mouse poop everywhere in the basement, moths eating her clothes, 6 month old cat litter from a cat that passed away, etc.) and committed her entire free time to playing video games. Even knowing all that and what a bullet I dodged, I still loved her and miss her very much. In the aftermath I have fully invested in my health, eating better and exercising, and my spiritual life, reconnecting to God, and spending time with friends I long neglected. There's still a piece of me tethered to her, and I will forever feel that, like it or not. But my life goes on.
@amg9163
Жыл бұрын
@Daniel Miller, hopefully in time, if you wish to, your ex will allow a platonic friendship. It sounds like something that could be a source of support for her, and hopefully when she is healed, can be a source of support for you as well. From your brief post, you sound like a decent guy.
@littlelam3691
11 ай бұрын
My boyfriend just left me (4 days after purchasing a 10 day thailand scuba retreat for both of us and going furniture shopping for the home he just bought to start our “dreamy new life together in.” Last week i was the love of his life. This week i am disposable. He too blamed PTSD from his divorce 3 years ago. Said that was the sole reason, but it just doesn’t seem possible that anxiety would make you no longer want a future with someone you have been so adamant about moving forward with. I feel crazy. Like I hallucinated our whirlwind loving relationship. I’m heartbroken 💔
@Melmar31cr
10 ай бұрын
@@littlelam3691he sounds like a narcissist - look into it … they do that .. put you on the clouds and the completely ignore and reject you leaving you confused and hurt. Run away as fast as you can from this charming demons
@authenticallyspeaking6529
Жыл бұрын
He did her a huge favor. Sweet, beautiful, smart girl deserves much better than he had to give. I hope she'll be able to see that someday. He doesn't deserve a second thought.
@DCSwavey
Жыл бұрын
You are worth so much more girl! Change is needed, take the jump, and never look back. What you want is waiting. Shut the door to this man, another one is waiting to truly love you.
@rogers5622
Жыл бұрын
Right . She romantized this relationship so much that she has to know she deserves better .
@hannahberlinpetry450
Жыл бұрын
When said something along the lines of “If you’re battling between how you feel about someone and how someone makes you feel, you gotta make decisions with how someone makes you feel.”
@skylaellis
Жыл бұрын
I feel for her because I’ve been there so many times. It hurts now but she’ll look back and be sooooo amazed at her old self because she won’t feel the same!!
@Devo9094
Жыл бұрын
This was right on time for me! The man in my life for seven years broke up with me very abruptly last week. He did it after he went out drinking and then hung up on me so that he didn’t have to hear how it made me feel. I did not see it coming because we had several events planned that included family. Listening to this absolutely gave me a new perspective about myself, and the relationship itself. I won’t be running into him, but I’m definitely using this for the next time he calls or send a text message. Thank you so much… God bless you!
@whitneyparrish9153
Жыл бұрын
15 mins into this video and I'm in tears. I have been holding onto emotions from a breakup for 2 years. I think about him constantly...things remind me of him daily and I'm trying so hard to get over him... Thank you Mel for this video
@carsonc6659
Жыл бұрын
So am I. You're not alone.
@mintberryXoXo
Жыл бұрын
you´re not missing him, you´re missing the feeling that he gave you. big difference. dont chase the fantasy
@etienneseboka4842
Жыл бұрын
Same here. Still looking for my soulmate 😢
@alandrade0726
Жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to this story, and I've only watched the first 12 minutes of it. I'm taking a leap of faith myself. From West to East. Ten days from today. I finally decided to let other " adults" manage and live their own lives. I have wasted enough time already. I also have a professional career, Aerospace/Aviation FAA Licensed and certified Engineer, 17 yrs. Those you do the most for appreciate it the least. Enough is enough,life is, too short. I'm now 62 What ta h....happened to my life? God 🙌
@janinegridley8179
Жыл бұрын
This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it kzitem.infoUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.
@Lizliz-k3i
Жыл бұрын
Don't throw pearls to the pigs. They won't know any better. Hugs, girl, you're a pearl ❤
@Oceansgreen
4 ай бұрын
Wow!! You are so right.
@yariz7023
Жыл бұрын
Please don’t ever stop making these videos. Empowering and breaking open that shell most of us been hiding in for years. This is amazing
@outroseok
Жыл бұрын
got my heart broken about a year and 3 months ago, healed and moved on, and now here I am again...
@gigliolagrey6861
Жыл бұрын
This is what I call communication! Every woman should have a friend like Mel, who is kind and firm at the same time. I know how this girl feels, it is terrible, but the pain comes to an end eventually. Katrina, you will get through it, and I'm sure much better things are waiting for you. I wish you all the best!
@marymartin6896
Жыл бұрын
My worst was not listening to my own voice. I journal and found that I wrote to end my relationship on 9/2020 and did not break it up till 12/2022. All because I dod not trust my gut. I promised my self to never not trust my gut again and stay focused. ❤ Thx Mel!
@tracyh1617
Жыл бұрын
I did the same. Many gifts about myself I would not of looked at because I didn’t listen to my gut. Pain and grief then looking at my side of my personal issues to secure my own security with myself. Facing why I allowed myself to be in a trauma bonded relationship with a narcissist. Biggest lesson I needed to face for my own personal freedom.
@amygoldman7014
Жыл бұрын
I found acceptance of a divorce with my husband when I really believed that I don’t want to be with someone that doesn’t want to be with me. We remain good friends because I’ve come to acceptance of it. It’s a much better relationship now. I don’t hope for getting back together as I’m now doing things I may not have done married to him.
@joaniecheresko7781
Жыл бұрын
Don’t worry about your parents! Don’t worry about him .. practice the “let them theory ” that Mel practices! Let him leave your mind and heart! You’ll find someone else eventually!! And be happier than you ever were!! Good luck
@saralaganesan2899
Жыл бұрын
Girl what can I say .. if only I could have heard this 35 yrs ago!! 10 pre marriage years and 25 now!!! Gone through a fare share and enduring with my exit plan.. I sold my self short big time . Earlier the better….LET GO! Slap on my face. Thank you Mel…❤
@charleskristiansson1296
Жыл бұрын
What a bright, articulate and gorgeous young woman. She is a catch for sure.
@denyze85
7 ай бұрын
She's so beautiful
@MissSusyG
Жыл бұрын
This is such a great podcast for anyone in their twenties. Its an important decade of life to learn about yourself. I wish this podcast was around 20 years ago so that my younger self could hear it; but I know I am listening now and that’s what is important for me. Thank you Mel. Blessings to Katrina 🤗
@jennycairns7464
Жыл бұрын
There are several life lessons here ..not only about relationships. Trust your gut!!
@chantaltucker3219
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I gained the missing piece I needed to try and make sense of a situation I was so confused and conflicted about. I am 54 and a year ago my boyfriend of 14years, after treating me badly for a long time and refusing to discuss it, disgaured and ghosted me. This session has been huge for me. I no longer feel shame. I didn't deserve to be treated that way, no one does.
@Shelyn
Жыл бұрын
This hits home hard. My current bf of 4.5 years, didn’t know how to love, and reacted poorly in our last exchange a month ago. We did not explicitly end things, but it felt like that, feels like my world fell apart. Mel said we must let go to move on, the struggle is not being able to let go when you love someone deeply.
@trinityp8575
Жыл бұрын
You can just try and let go by being courageous and have strong belief that if you are meant to be together, you will be. Universe will bring you together. And being fearless and knowing your worth and showing to a man that you are not scared of loosing him will totally reverse his way of treating you and looking at you. Ignore him for sometime, go travel somewhere, focus on you.
@yvonnemagliocco8507
Жыл бұрын
Same exact story with me. 6 yrs. with someone and broke up with me on vacation the last week of June. Told me I should leave. My heart sunk. 💔 I actually didn’t believe that would be the last time I saw him. There was no warning. Im devastated. I wasn’t given time to prepare for it. 😪.
@stickybearskinrug2046
10 ай бұрын
How I wish I’d had this told to me at her age. I’m 54 and going through the same thing after a 13 year relationship. Hearing that it’s not the “what” but the “how” is powerful. I was with a bonafide loser yet still gave him the keys to my worth. I won’t get over the pain today, but I’m now reframing my thought patterns and know that I will get over it in a more healthy time and way now. Thank you, Mel!
@angelafreeman7881
Жыл бұрын
Just like a lot of us women , we depend on men to give us value, but once we start educating ourselves in reference to our self worth it would be easier to walk away from those who don’t value us,
@Mags765
Жыл бұрын
🙌🏽💯
@RjMezzanin
Жыл бұрын
I am a grown up man, and I was crying while listening to this. Mel said everything that has to say that I could not otherwise put words to. Her words truly pierces the feelings that I’ve been keeping for the last 3 years since my break up. Thank you for this!
@cristinagoode8509
Жыл бұрын
❤Oh my God Mel ! I needed this ! And I'm 60 .about to make a huge move ! No regrets !😂
@joannemcclelland5271
Жыл бұрын
It’s hard to heal in the same place where you were broken.
@dxbell3
Жыл бұрын
Dam, it really hits home to find that our situations and negative emotional experiences are so universal. I have been struggling with a seperation after 26 years, and have been hanging on to hope for someone who just gave up on me, treating me like i no longer exist, and took the cowards way out! Thanks Mel.
@dmh2780
Жыл бұрын
Me too after 16 years - dealing with the same thing. Trying to realise he didn’t treat me well, narcissistic behaviour and blamed me for everything that ever went wrong. I can’t be responsible for all of that. It’s very sad for me and I am trying to process the loss of the marriage- this podcast was actually very empowering and helpful. I hope you work through what you need to. Seek friends and try and take it a day at a time like me xx
@dxbell3
Жыл бұрын
@@dmh2780 Thank you! I appreciate your kind words. I also was blamed for everythning, but what I came to realise was all of those negative perceptions she dumped on me, were only the reality of her own insecurities. Keep your head high, you deserve to be valued and loved!
@diningroomfish5470
Жыл бұрын
It's hard when you love someone so much and they shit on you and they don't care, that's hard to deal with, I am dealing with it, you can't get it out of your mind
@artsylady3187
2 ай бұрын
me too
@enigmatowles
Жыл бұрын
Katrina’s response to her ex if she runs into him was 🔥🔥🔥. The way she worded it sounds like she is a lawyer! 💯💯💯
@dianepereira1860
Жыл бұрын
I'd probably just ignore him like he didn't exist. That would probably go up his a** that he wasn't as important to her as he thought.
@IyatundeMac0917
5 ай бұрын
I love Mel. She’s the big sister I never had but I’m grateful to have discovered. Thank you for sharing your wisdom Sis ❤
@brookestormcloak8039
Жыл бұрын
The timing of this was sooooo perfect. I needed to hear this. Thank you!
@JinPhila
Жыл бұрын
42:50 how you feel about someone is totally different than how that person makes you feel. Focus on how they made you feel. Great advice.
@EmilyAdams_theAltaCreative
Жыл бұрын
I want to see an interview w the guy because I bet everything he is the literal definition of mediocre. This woman is so impressive it’s very easy to see she was dumped because her partner felt he’d have to do too much work to keep up with her
@scottytv1
Жыл бұрын
I ended a 4 year engagement in December and I have done a lot of reflection. I was so good to her and was painting red flags green thinking I was being loving. What an amazing lesson and grieving process. Great video. Gotta love Mel!! 😎
@jonathanewingy2k
Жыл бұрын
"You need to change your story" I have been justifying and speaking to protect someone that when I speak the truth, (its even hard to type) just isn't a good person to me, and doesn't love me as I love them and as I deserve to be loved. Thank you Mel.
@jackiepastor6056
Жыл бұрын
Never ever have I watched any podcasts from anyone at all. Nor was I ever into them. But I’m so invested and I will continue to watch these.
@ItsabeautifullifewithJesus
Жыл бұрын
This resonates so much with what I'm going through. Puts things into perspective.😊
@StrongLittleIVFMama
Жыл бұрын
Mel, hearing this podcast may have given me the courage i need to end my marriage. He cheated and left me when our son was 10 months old. I was shocked and heartbroken. We had gone through 4 years of IVF. After a few months i felt like i was planning a great future for myself and our son. Then he wanted back in. I took him and things were amazing. Like the good old times. We were talking a lot and having fun. But it didnt last long and he has become distant and uncaring. I know what i need to do. But, knowing i have to give up part custody of our son breaks my heart. Im also grieving for the future i thought we had. He is different now. So am i.
@susanbilawchuk1192
Жыл бұрын
This is where I differ… once someone disses me ( whether family or boyfriends) I don’t need to confront them to move on. If I genuinely feel that I was not the cause of the dispute or reason for separation… I do not need to see their faces to move forward. I don’t need for them to know that I am happy or moving on… “I” know and that is all that matters. Really no good comes out of asking someone why they no longer want to hang with you. This comes after years and years of trying to make certain relationships in my life work… I always wanted to talk it out or let them know how I felt. Some people just don’t care how you feel. just my thoughts ❤
@meesamagill1193
Жыл бұрын
Katrina wont be asking why. Shes showing him that shes ok. Otherwise he might still have the power thinking shes hiding from him rather than moved on.
@susanbilawchuk1192
Жыл бұрын
@@meesamagill1193 it only matters what “your” mind thinks … but we are all different and we do what works for us individually. I use to rehearse what to say if I bumped into that someone and trust me it rarely goes the way you rehearsed it. 😊
@beez991
10 ай бұрын
I went through this my whole life since I was 18 everytime I left home something horrible would happen to my mom. I felt responsible, I felt if I left she would die. She almost did when I left multiple times. I gave up most of my life. I felt in a no win position because I wanted my mom alive, but I also wanted a life. It really screwed me up. The weight I carry on my shoulders, I felt every decision I made carried so much weight, litterly life and death. It's given me a lot of anxiety and depression.
@ruchika.1201
Жыл бұрын
Hey YOU, incredible person reading this...The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! - Love, Ruchika ❤
@dilsiam
Жыл бұрын
This remember me a Mel's short in which she says Let them If your friends doesn't invite you to an activity, let them... If your family shuns you and doesn't talk to you, let them... Let them, and reclaim your power...
@dmh2780
Жыл бұрын
I needed this right now. Thank you Katrina and Mel. Very truthful and I’m hoping empowering for me as a newly separated person from a 13 yr marriage. Thank you xx
@brendakrause5639
Жыл бұрын
Enjoy the freedom.
@MsCReads-jc8dc
5 ай бұрын
So glad I ran across this message tonight. I truly needed it. Thank you ❤
@randomfun3845
Жыл бұрын
That guy chooses to dump you right when you graduated he's messed up. He should be celebrating your success with you. If he can't let you have the spotlight for a sec, he's not healthy for you.
@kentuckylucky5762
Жыл бұрын
Completely cruel!! Definitely not a caring person...
@trainwithcoachjess
8 ай бұрын
Mel, you're my hero. Thank you for all you do. Every time I hear you I am reminded to stand a little taller.
@truptimehta9587
Жыл бұрын
My dear Mel, I love the way you said to look for, not How you feel about the person but how he makes you feel . Based on that go forward. Exactly what I trying 😢being a compassionate and forgiving person I am just looking for good in him for my sanity and that isn’t helping me moving forward. My soul is hurting for unfairness and injustice to me when I did nothing but trying to please him. I leave it to lord to make me strong. I know I am better off alone I am happy, travelling in control. But 😢wishing and hoping he see the light of love and happiness we could enjoy together. But it is what it is. 🙏🏽
@lindaarmstrong5170
Жыл бұрын
Loved this! Showed it to my daughter who’s 24 and struggling with the end of a bad relationship, thank you Mel!
@nataliet7470
Жыл бұрын
Wow... I feel like I was sitting in on a coaching session between me and my life coach (she's the one who sent me this video to watch). I can relate so much to Katrina. My big brain wants to have control of situations but my heart ends up getting hurt because I ignore it. Thanks so much for helping me see some hard but important truths.
@HolisticFuture
Жыл бұрын
This was awesome and feels like something I was meant to see. I wasn't even planning on watching it but it started playing (crazy how things appear when you're not expecting it 😂). I've felt the pull to move and leave the state I've always lived in for awhile now. It's time, it's been time but it's also terrifying and I've that hold me back in the past, something I no longer want to do. I relate to many things that were spoken about in this video, leaving family, friends, starting new, being alone. But Mel, when you said that you will always regret it if you don't do it, I know you are right. Just another reminder of why I have to do it. For myself! Thanks for sharing ❤.
@joshjones1522
Жыл бұрын
I can relate to her a lot. I’m ex Mormon. I can understand what she’s going through and your story has helped. Why be with someone that doesn’t want you for you. See value in our selves. Can we be friends Katrina 😊
@estereneforrest887
Жыл бұрын
You'll were just a season, keep it moving. Don't run from something, Go to something.
@carolgeorge6409
Жыл бұрын
Yes yea yes
@carolgeorge6409
Жыл бұрын
@ Esternine
@duck1889
10 ай бұрын
I totally understand her pain, frustration, and anger. My gf dumped me 4 months ago, no explanation was given. Slowly putting myself together.
@abhidahiya6097
10 ай бұрын
hey bro It sounds like your situation was just like mine. my girlfreind dumped me before 5 months after a 2 year of relationship without any explaination. first 2 months after breakup is fells like hell because she is in my mind every minute not a minute every second she is in my mind but after 2 months its get easier and easier day by day and now i rarely miss her but that time i was thinking that I'll never get over this but time heals every thing. acceptance take time like if you had a 5 year relationship you would take 6-8 months (or more) but you have to give atleast 6 months to accept things and to get over her thoughts but one day you will. just wait tips -(1) dont get into in another relationship or looking for rebound because this rebound shit doesnot work for men in rebound we still miss that bitch. rebound might work on womens but not on us (experience) just give time to heal yourself alone (2) acceptance takes time atleast 6 months
@duck1889
10 ай бұрын
@@abhidahiya6097 First, I like to thank you for your message and sorry for what you went through as well. You are 100% correct, the thoughts of her slowly disappearing from my mind, and more importantly, I finally can see where things went wrong. Now I've been hitting the gym hard, BJJ, boxing and so on. Never again ill allow this to happen to me, I keep telling myself that this was a blessing and painful life lesson. All of us will find someone better, as long as we improve ourselves.
@jennycairns7464
Жыл бұрын
Loved seeing how you coached and empowered her through this experience. Thank you for sharing! You are such an inspiration!
@MandyJRoss
9 ай бұрын
Learning about attachment styles will change your relationships and life.♥️
@victoriacherrington9936
Жыл бұрын
This hit 2 things that I needed help with. THANK YOU for helping me let go of a romanticized ex. Her situation was similar to mine I thought he was everything I wanted.. but he chose someone else and the moving thing as well! I have always felt Florida was my happy freedom place and Ohio my captivity place. If only I saw this video sooner! Move towards your joy with no regrets and trust your intuition! Thankful for the perfect timing now! God bless!🙏❤
@yooyooba
Жыл бұрын
0:20: 💔 Katrina seeks advice on making a life-changing decision after a breakup. 5:39: 💔 The speaker is considering moving away from Indianapolis after a breakup, but also feels called to leave for personal growth reasons. 11:26: 🔥 The speaker encourages X to let go of her ex-boyfriend and focus on her own growth and self-worth. 17:52: ✨ The speaker reflects on her past relationship, realizes she deserves better, and plans to confront her ex. 22:38: 😊 The speaker is grateful that the relationship ended and plans to move to a new place for personal growth. 28:06: 💪 In life, it's important to run toward something powerful rather than away from something. 33:07: 💡 Let go of what's holding you back, take ownership of your actions, communicate openly, and trust your intuition. 38:41: ✨ When something ends, it's because something better is coming. Change your story from heartache to the lesson learned. 42:53: ❤ The key to making decisions is to prioritize how someone or something makes you feel, and to choose based on what is in your heart rather than fear. Recap by Tammy AI
@jillyoung1282
Жыл бұрын
Hi Mel, you are an awesome woman. I lost my mother 27yrs ago. Today, you spoke to me as a mom. Thank you so much. This was a powerful lecture. I love you too. ❤
@AA-fz3lj
8 ай бұрын
Same. I think we really need Mel in this space
@wrenleasure3497
Жыл бұрын
Mel and Katrina, Thank you! My situation is entirely different, but it is completely the same. It was four years of spoiling me to get me to trust him and say yes, which I did finally agree to marry him. Less than a month later, he was throwing me out without much explanation of why. All I got was I'm done get out. I had an amazing healing cry listening to this because I realized my hoping he would want me back would restore my self-worth somehow or fix what I let him break inside of me. I moved 1200 miles away from him last Sept 2022. I have moved back to my home town to heal. I'm here to heal everything, and I am doing it piece by piece. So much personal growth and stepping into my power and feeling peace. Yes, I am dating a childhood friend that I have always adored. It turns out he always liked me, too, but I've been 1200 miles away for 20 yrs. This cry and realization is so completely needed!!!! I can finally offer him my heart because this was the healing step I couldn't find until now. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!! I can actually feel my heart in my chest again for the first time in about three yrs since the boy freed me. Lol WOW, this feels great!!! It was a huge break thru in my healing journey. I am so appreciative of this. Thank you!
@nawal4133
Жыл бұрын
Thank u so Much Mel for this podcast . Really what I need to hear after a broke op with my ex and still hoping he will come back. 🙏🏻🙏🏻. I am excited to start launch 2.0
@Sayo0201
Жыл бұрын
35:24 37:53 I recently got dumped by my boyfriend of one year and I watch these parts every single day. After watching them for more than 30 times, I realized that I am still holding a slight hope that we could get back together. On top of that, he asked me to become friends from now, and I was happy thinking he still wants me to be a part of his life, but now I know how wrong it is to think like that. I will see him one last time this week to give his stuff back. When I see him, I will try to be strong and tell him that I don't wanna become friends with him and we should not see each other any more, because "I deserve better". I already miss him and it's gonna be hard, but I will do it for myself and for my future. Thank you Mel for the very important lesson❤
@freedmm3122
Жыл бұрын
😊thanks for writing this. I too was ask to remain friends ,and i could not. When😊you remain friends one can never really move on and fins whay one needs.
@melissam6037
Жыл бұрын
Stay strong and don’t let him suck you into “let’s be friends”. Friends don’t hurt friends. It will be a lot easier to start feeling better this way.
@NuzaInwa
Жыл бұрын
Any update? How's everything going? Are y'all still in contact with each other?
@faritahuaman-delgado2957
11 ай бұрын
¿cómo te fue con él?
@jiachen8353
10 ай бұрын
❤ you are strong
@speakfrenchlikeme2772
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Mel for your wisdom and your kindness. I'm French and I'm keen on your podcasts. I learn so much from you.
@LLovellYY
Жыл бұрын
Girl... You are beautiful, smart, and a catch. He did you a favor. The right person is out there waiting for you. I moved six months ago after ending a 11 yr. relationship and is the best thing I've ever done.
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