Healing is hard. Accepting reality is necessary to heal. 🤗❤🙏
@brianhales1416
3 жыл бұрын
I've had to condition and discipline myself. I've had a less than standard childhood and disheartening is an understatement. Learned a lot of lessons the hard way. However, I've come a long ways as I am resilient. I've spent the past 10 years on a self made island reflecting on experiences. Piecing together all the kinds of madness I've encountered in my travels. I rarely ever had time to myself and when I did, I cherished it. Wasn't until a year ago that I learned of MBTI and took the test out of curiosity. I was surprised and this I hadn't felt in a long time. INFJ made sense for the many pieces I couldn't quite connect with then. The kinds of people I ran with wouldn't understand as I've tried and became the village idiot. Getting away and able to find peace at mind through self isolation helped tremendously. An added bonus was coming across reasons why my being was looked on as an odd one always out of place, the constant stranger as it were, drifting in and out of people's lives searching to belong. At times I thought I were alone and this world is my hell for a crime that I haven't come to terms with. I'm happy that I've finally made sense of past misunderstandings and sad by how this understanding, if I had understood then. I'm half century into this life and although I understand, still I wonder how much grief would've been avoided. I understand that if not challenged for one's soul to give testimony to the best version of one's self, life wouldn't be worth the experience.
@briansievers4513
3 жыл бұрын
A great saying for you and then another not so appropriate for this fine lady's videos. 1. Someone once asked me , why do you always insist on taking the hard road ? I replied , why do you assume I see 2 roads? 2. We are all in the same game , just different levels , we are all in the same hell , just with different devils...
@cindyc
3 жыл бұрын
🤗🙏🕊
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
Brian Hales: I agree completely - the self-made island is a necessity. And yes, it is beyond frustrating when no one around you understands. I did the same after a horrific experience in my life, and it was unbelievable to me how many people would not accept my need to withdrawal. Not only did they not accept it, they tried to advise me that I was doing the wrong thing by withdrawing. Nothing like suffering a personal tragedy and then being reprimanded in the way one deals with it. It was a wake-up call for sure and when I left my island, I got out the scissors and started cutting away. It is a strange place, where (as you say) the sorrow of knowing what grief would have been avoided and gratitude live together. It's hard to describe that place, but it's definitely wistful. Thank you very much for your beautiful and thoughtful comment.
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
Brian Sievers: This fine lady enjoyed both of these sayings!
@kimkeck6266
3 жыл бұрын
Hi everyone! I want everyone who reads this to know that I at 58 am finally free! Just outted my ex-husband after 40 years - who I just realized is a malignant narcissist. It was hell and put me in jail for 30 hours. I have an adopted daughter from China....that ought to tell you that I do not belong in jail! I survived because I am an angel and every single person there said "What are you doing here!" I will never ever EVER forget all those poor lost souls. Anyway, it didn't feel that bad because I feel like I have been in jail my whole life! Imagine being an INFJ and not knowing who I was BUT knowing something was terribly wrong with him! He stole 40 years of my life, all my $700,000 inheritance, while stealing my soul! He made me so anxious, depressed, and took all my confidence. Just imagine what he did to my daughter! 😔 Well, let me tell you I am bouncing back, off all RX'S and researching everything I can on NPD, all about INFJ'S, and being a Cancer. Finding out on my birthday that being a Cancer has traits that read like an INFJ is a double whammy!! Anyway, Your Never Sleeping Beauty I am deeply sorry that I wrote a long comment saying I was fighting back against my ex until the point of no return. You remember my name...you deleted my comment. Then while looking through papers I had copied your comment to another subscriber to give to my daughter it was then that I realized that you were upset with my comment because of your experience. In all my confusion in dealing with my nightmare I didn't realize it was you who lost your parents. It broke my heart. I knew I had hurt you. I am sorry! I never want to hurt anyone or anything! I will say that I never did back down...not for one second in dealing with him! My outting was 11 legal size pages. It was pure poetry! My father an INFJ who is extremely bright gave me an A+. I only made one small mistake! He gave me the best compliment he could..."Kimberly, I am proud of you! You not only talked BUT you did! You followed through with what you said you would do! You not only outted him BUT you hogtied him!!" I caused him narcissist mortification....death by exposure....public humiliation and embarrassment. He used those exact words. Anyway, I too need many years to heal and think about all the horrible things that I have endured. Your never sleeping beauty YOU are an angel! Please forgive me. Please keep doing your videos. They mean the word to me and I have quoted you many times! Peace or TRUTH is my favorite! I cannot have peace without TRUTH! Blessings to all on this very VERY important day! 🌷🙏💝
@Johnnyo1300
3 жыл бұрын
It’s hard to fix broken if you don’t know it’s broken once you know it’s broken then you have to figure out how to fix it once you figure out how to fix it you actually have to put in the work and then the question becomes did you find the right way to fix it
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
Yes. It's like getting an engine running. To me, that's probably the hardest part and the step most don't even bother with. Once it's running, then it's just a matter of doing some fine-tuning and maintenance to keep it running smoothly. Until you reach the next 100,000 miles and you have to do another overhaul 😆
@Johnnyo1300
3 жыл бұрын
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty I love the analogy young lady always a pleasure thank you
@Johnnyo1300
3 жыл бұрын
Returning to the scene of the crime is a great way to find the blueprints so that you know where to set your corner stone the rebuilding process can’t start if you’re not ready to rebuild and you don’t have the blueprints you could worry about the remodel later it’s the corner stone the foundation if it’s not right it never will be thank you young lady Thank you
@briansievers4513
3 жыл бұрын
The irony of this video is uncanny to me at this moment. I just rewatched the peace or truth video before this. I am divorced after a 10 year relationship with a narcissist and after looking back and realizing the damage that has been done to me . I tried to keep the peace my entire life but now see after really looking back for the past few months that I messed up. It should have been truth. I see the meaning now from many events from my past but the struggle is to apply the lessons learned. Both of these videos go hand in hand. Thank you so much for your videos, infj-t, Brian
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
I am very sorry for what you've suffered. I am happy you escaped, but also sober about it, because I know full well what you're left with. I'm not sure how long it's been since you've separated yourself, but I do know that the more time passes, the more understanding you gain. It takes a while to see clearly because you're left spinning. For me, it's been something I've had to sift through slowly because it disturbs me to my core, not just from the abuse itself, but from a knowledge that people like this exist. It creates a sorrow and despair in me, and I must just stop thinking about it for a time. And it's interesting that you linked these two videos. Are you finding some peace now that you see the truth? I sincerely hope so ... take care and make sure you rest from time to time.
@briansievers4513
3 жыл бұрын
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty I appreciate your comments and I thought I had recovered but then I found myself apologizing and saying sorry for everything . I guess it's harder to recover from that then I thought... my thought process with the 2 videos - the rose colored glasses is the key. There's a melancholy like joy from escaping then later it hits you that you are still doing the same things, ( sorry and apologize for everything) . I'm working on it 😉.
@kimkeck6266
3 жыл бұрын
Brian....me too! Look for my comment above to another subscriber named Brian. I just said "Peace or TRUTH" is my favorite! I need TRUTH or I am nothing! Peace be with you!🌷🙏
@SirMo
3 жыл бұрын
Listening to you is like listening to my own subconsciousness. It's a bit uncanny. I've been doing a lot of that same digging you speak about. It is unbelievable the details I am able to uncover. If they are childhood memories it takes me many tries, over weeks or even months, but every loop there is a good chance I will uncover something new. It's almost like being hypnotized to remember the details. I understand my "nurture" (as opposed to nature) so much better as the result of this self reflection. Thank you for sharing, it is truly appreciated to know that I am not alone in this experience!
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
"Every loop" ... excellent way to describe it. Like driving the same road over and over ... you see something new every time. You're definitely not alone. So many comments here which prove this for sure.
@ho8464
2 жыл бұрын
It’s definitely true that it takes me a while to process grievous events in my life, and sometimes it feels like there’s something wrong with me because I “get over it” quickly. Recently I broke up with my girlfriend and my grandfather passed, but these events haven’t shaken my core as I would’ve expected them to, even though I recognize intellectually that these are important.
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I think it's just too much to process in the moment. You will analyze events and introspect on them for certain reasons, but it will be done slowly and in your time, not all at once. That's the best way, so trust your intuition when it nudges you.
@wyattarmstrong1317
3 жыл бұрын
Experience and meaning really do have quite an interesting relationship. Sometimes I will fail to grasp the meaning of an experience, but other times it is only by understanding the meaning that I am able to endure an experience. Also, certain experiences can produce many types of meaning depending on an individuals perspective going into the experience.
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this excellent comment. Especially the last bit ... I've been doing some writing and reflecting lately about exactly this. Perspective yes, and also expectations as well.
@triplejmom7826
6 ай бұрын
I relate to this so much . Thanks for the video. The rose colored glasses are off & my questions of why are being answered & many I’m not liking. The journey led me to wheat I am & now I’m trying to discover who I am. Putting a limit of grief is wrong. Sometimes I think those who get over it quick are probably suppressing their grief. Some grief you never get over, you just learn to live with 😢
@datchampion1524
2 жыл бұрын
The meaning to specific experiences, I've found can change with time as ones perceptions enhance
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
2 жыл бұрын
This is true. I think it depends on what you are subconsciously searching for.
@gizmohawaii
3 жыл бұрын
Aloha and Thank You so much for your videos they have been very inspiring in helping me understand who I am. I'm new at this understanding of me being a INFJ and have many questions of who can I trust. Have encountered a Narcissistic person and have been locking down ever since ........
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
You are welcome. It is difficult to find people to trust, but it is so worth the effort.
@joshuabreunig8564
3 жыл бұрын
i agree....i can not be told this is how its done, because this is simply the way it's always been done.
@Johnnyo1300
3 жыл бұрын
It’s been a long time warms my heart to hear your voice five minutes and in the video that I made just finished odd in my video I speak on the light in the dark end grief funny how God works I hope you’re well actually I hope you’re better than well I pray you find happiness young lady I mean that from the bottom of my heart I know that’s an old saying people don’t use it much anymore the fact of the matter is people don’t seem to use their heart all that much anymore always a pleasure🐶😎🐶❤️🤗
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much. It is an old saying ... remember saying how we learned something "by heart" when we memorized something? You had to know it so well you could say it (or play it, if on an instrument) without even thinking. Maybe imprinting the meaning of it on your heart? I don't know ... but they were interesting phrases.
@Johnnyo1300
3 жыл бұрын
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty 🐶😎🐶❤️
@IMightSay
2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful video. Thank you. 🙏
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
2 жыл бұрын
You're welcome.
@elenigalani4885
3 жыл бұрын
This was helpful, as always. Thank you
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome.
@belladonna2104
3 жыл бұрын
"we gotta go back Marty" 😁 PS I would like to hear your opinion on world events right now
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
Sure ... would you like to meet for coffee? 😆
@belladonna2104
3 жыл бұрын
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty 😂 In Australia so travel is probably off for now. I'd ❤️ to.
@shaunbeswarick7952
3 жыл бұрын
I'll come too☕ And I'm in Australia too...so guess who needs to make the trip...lol
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
Who? 😆
@shaunbeswarick7952
3 жыл бұрын
🤔🙄😉
@gemeinschaftsgeful
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for another great video! I just finished a book by Richard Rohr titled Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life and it touches on the journey you're (we're) on. He writes on the false self we often create when young in order to survive and to protect our egos, and then as time passes, we hopefully go through a process of finding out who we truly are and how to incorporate that into the second half of our lives. That's a very brief summary but I found it insightful. After reading a book like this, it always leaves me in a place of tension in that one never knows how their personal journey of self discovery is going to turn out. Will I find the me that I left behind in my childhood? Will I find the strength and grace to overcome those unhealthy aspects I impose on my self from the past? He speaks of learning non dualistic thinking and dealing with our shadow self. Darn! It never seems to be easy!!! I'm learning to catch some of my false self in almost real time.
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
3 жыл бұрын
I have also found it very difficult to catch in real time. It happens sometimes now, which is an improvement, so I'm hopeful it will happen more. Most times, it's in reflection (that infamous hindsight) when I realize I was reacting out of habit. Your questions are excellent ... we are asking ourselves the same exact things.
@kimkeck6266
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the name of the book and your comment! I am buying it!
@phillipdozier8143
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you pretty much covers what I have to say.
@xxxxx2664
8 ай бұрын
I am curious, what do you think? Which mbti type is the most aware?
@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
8 ай бұрын
Hello! You have to narrow this down in order for me to answer. There are many things of which one could be aware.
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