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@juliegallagher4377
3 жыл бұрын
My late husband told me on our second date, that I could take my time but he wanted to see me exclusively. We were together from that day on, married and had 11 wonderful years together, till he passed away unexpectedly. I am ready to move forward now, after 2 years, but I keep hoping for that instant "love at first site" thing to happen again and when it doesn't, I kind of sabotage it. Your videos are helping me be more practical and realistic, which is important at 63 :) . Thank you!
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Be patient, finding a great person can take time.
@johelka7901
3 жыл бұрын
As a young women I never slept with a man and I never had to worry about a guy living me it was all a game!! But now as an adult it’s so hard to find a man to commit it’s like they’re are also looking for savior or stability with oneself!! I believe that a guy should be wholesome as a man as the woman too!! Just be a companion rather then what can I get from the other!!
@SamElle
3 жыл бұрын
i am definitely guilty of giving guys those relationship benefits and it wasnt until I set those boundaries where a guy would commit to me!! Its hard when you reaaally like someone and you wanna just spend a bunch of time / do activities with them
@cherrysnotes4547
3 жыл бұрын
hi sam. do you have IG? I noticed you always leave a comment with all the dating coaches.
@SamElle
3 жыл бұрын
@@cherrysnotes4547 hi cherry, I do!!! My IG is therealSamElle
@deannas6710
3 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!!!
@CaliforniaGuerita
3 жыл бұрын
90 day minimum in days of COVID! Very few adults are doing anything more than meeting for coffee and a hike! UGH! California is finally opening restaurants which may help singles!
@dellaholzer1011
3 жыл бұрын
Mike I have listened to several dating coaches but I like how you share your information, it is not a lot of talking but to the point with a little humor added at times. Your feedback is helpful, wish I had it years ago. God Bless you!
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the kind words!
@sori677
3 жыл бұрын
Sure , I did walk away last week, i am worthy, thanks Mike.
@barbaramay3539
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@lyndamcmullen9410
3 жыл бұрын
Fabulous ❤️
@ruthcrawford3015
3 жыл бұрын
I think for the 50+ crowd......30-60-....(90?) days to see each other casually and chat is about right. This is before even really officially dating. This is plenty of time to get to know (a total stranger) and feel the click or not. Allows for pacing, and no pressure. Older gen is not as quick to get personal with total strangers. Thanks Mike!!
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed and you're welcome.
@katw4377
3 жыл бұрын
Loved the information that you presented in such a clear way. No tricks up your sleeve to try to make a relationship but a time frame. I personally like 90 days because unless they are immediately seen as not compatible I’m not one to rush things so for me 90 days sounds reasonable. That is definitely going into my requirements for a relationship and your right about benefits of a relationship without any commitment. Thanks for the great content.
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome.
@TheSentinel555
3 жыл бұрын
Regarding the 60-90 days, I always give the guy " 100 days of courtesy 😃
@yu-me
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your insightful wisdom!
@shinylittlepeople
2 жыл бұрын
Makes sense… 60 or 90 is fine all good. Great video Mike … thank you again for your great advice! ❤️
@cocoavery
3 жыл бұрын
I am gonna wait 90 days for any man because I always rush and agree to their exclusive terms and get burned in the end. I feel trapped and I never speak up to end things early on. This is for my own safety and benefit to wait 90 days.
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Good! Do what works for you.
@karenshapiro2163
3 жыл бұрын
All great advice. But I can’t imagine any man willing to wait even 60 days for sex and still keep dating me. Does anyone else here feel similar?
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
If you want only have him wait until date 6 plus and then have sex. If you truly have an A+ connection you both can wait. If the connection is okay we make up for it by having sex.
@GillyDavis
3 жыл бұрын
Perfect mindset shift! Rules of thumb are also beneficial and 60-90 days seems very reasonable to me!
@deannas6710
3 жыл бұрын
Yikes. Def giving those benefits- not the physical ones, but the friendship type ones. I don’t message all the time back right away. I’ve known this guy for five years but he’s been dating someone for four years. He’s thinking he’s at the end of that relationship but obviously he won’t be ready for another one yet. I’ve gone back and forth in my mind about him the last 3 1/2 years or so. He’s a great guy and he values my friendship. I haven’t totally thought about future with him, but a little i have. Ugh...... I think about him often though
@skydnzr
3 жыл бұрын
I"m great with the timelines you brought up...my problem is the conversation that follows! I unfortunately get comfortable and friend zone guys I think!
@scamp8345
2 жыл бұрын
I’m at almost 60 days of in-person dating, but we talked on the phone for 3 weeks prior almost every day and have been in contact every day of dating - so like 80+ days of constant communication. I’m ready to bring this up, and ready to walk away if need be.
@kristinsmith5954
3 жыл бұрын
Fabulous advice Mike! You are the best for saving us time. No benefits for 90 days, just like a new job.😊 That weeds out about 90 percent of most guys. I can’t believe this hookup culture now...and guys wanting to go for a test drive on the first or second date!!! Times have changed......
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
HAHAHAHAHAH.... Just like a new job. That is perfect and so easy to remember! I love this. Wish I came up with this.
@kristinsmith5954
3 жыл бұрын
I can’t claim this either....it’s from Steve Harvey: No cookies until your probation is up!
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
@@kristinsmith5954 - Smart man!
@karenzaskolny5732
3 жыл бұрын
@@kristinsmith5954 I love his book too! Listening to male dating coaches makes sense to me :)
@nimfabangay7318
3 жыл бұрын
Ty for sharing......i dont know. .🙏❤but God knows....
@robinthompson1353
3 жыл бұрын
60 to 90 days gives you a good time to figure a guy out!! I love your advice and you're a breath of fresh air!! I love your videos!!
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Robin
@allisonpajak3585
3 жыл бұрын
I think it depends how much time you spend together. I like the idea of dating around, but I only believe that you should not sleep around either. So , if you say wait 6 dates to have sex and not be exclusive, I don’t want to be with someone who is sleeping with other people. Is that what you are saying?
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry, I must have explained it poorly. I would suggest finding a partner you want to be exclusive with. Once you are exclusive and feel comfortable, then have sex, assuming you are looking for life partnership. Does that make sense? (Also, I think folks should do whatever they feel comfortable with). However, over the years, I have found this to be the most successful strategy for most people when looking for a partner.
@terivernieri2628
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this video. It really resonated with me. I've been with someone for over a year. He's a totally amazing human being. He's very generous with THINGS, but stingy with his time and emotions. He's a widower and had been married for 36 years. His wife passed 5 years ago. He started out strong, but got complacent, so I walked. He came back strong. said and did all the right things. It lasted a while but has dwindled again. I've cut him some slack because of all he's been through, but now I realize that things aren't going to change. He's doing what HE feels comfortable with, however, I want more in a relationship. I watched a couple parts of your video 3 or 4 times to fully absorb what you were saying. I think it's time to walk away and find someone who is looking for the same things in a relationship that I am.
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Good plan! I am sure you will find someone who can give you what you need.
@terivernieri2628
3 жыл бұрын
@@EZDatingCoach Thanks Mike!
@brendadoane480
3 жыл бұрын
You make points I didn’t put as a boundaries! But I’m doing just that as of today!
@raqueljimenez4704
3 жыл бұрын
This is your best video and the best I had seen!! Congratulations!! Thank you for your advice and experience!
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Wahoooo...thank you!!!🙏🙏🙏
@maryrsf
3 жыл бұрын
That is a good amount of time. I like approx 90 days. Thanks!
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching 🙏
@tiffanyb8656
3 жыл бұрын
I thought 60 days was enough time to determine whether or not a committed relationship was viable with a potential suitor, but after being courted by a gentleman for 10 weeks now, I'd say 90 days is the right amount of time for this stage in my life. We've been dating for 10 weeks and we VERY much enjoy each other's company! We have only been on 7 dates in those 10 weeks, mostly because I enjoy spending time with my friends too, which is something he finds VERY attractive. He's even mentioned wanting to meet my friends, whom "I spend so much time with," as he puts it. As for him, he has a career that doesn't include outrageous hours, and enjoys playing golf with his mom and brother on Saturdays. So, with me having a life outside of dating a man, 90 days is very realistic, as I would need to evaluate how he would fit into my lifestyle and vice versa for him. As a sidenote, I'm 44 (45 in July, without skipping a beat 😘) and he's 51. Our lives mesh perfectly, so we'll see in just a few short weeks whether we'll progress into a committed relationship!
@tammie1661
3 жыл бұрын
I’m in the same boat! I’m 44 (going to b 45 in a few days!) & the guy I’ve been dating is 51. We’ve been seeing each other for only a month. He’s done everything right so far in terms of words & actions to follow. But I have a past history of distrust. I broached upon the DTR topic, but he’s said this is the start of something new. So kinda like, let’s see what happens. I don’t want to b the one who has to initiate the convo of exclusivity. But I wonder if he’s not being exclusive himself during this undefined time.
@karenzaskolny5732
3 жыл бұрын
Hey Ladies, Mike is right. Here I am at the age of 62!!! and I look back and I was always in a hurry and did not set good boundaries. I had low self-esteem and lived in a world of lack. Now I know better, and trust that if it's not this guy, there will be another one coming along sooner or later. I love what Mike has to say and it's 60 days for me.
@tanja3703
3 жыл бұрын
My maybe guy works or has custody every weekend and we live 5 hours apart. I work 60 hours in 5 days and own a house with 2 dogs.
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!!! Why are we in maybe land instead of yes or no?
@jodyh2077
3 жыл бұрын
Great advice! Thanks!
@desbrow3339
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, you are truly right... Telling it like it is for women. Good Bless
@honestyfaithful
3 жыл бұрын
What is you met on online dating app. He lives a long ways away from you. We will have met 3months online. He is coming for us to meet face to face Friday. How do you do this ??? Have not been with anyone dating or otherwise for almost 7yrs.... thanks in advance for the thoughts Robin
@mindfulnessmovementmusic9661
3 жыл бұрын
Breath, relax, be yourself and enjoy! Try not to have expectations.
@honestyfaithful
3 жыл бұрын
@@mindfulnessmovementmusic9661 thanks😉
@miarodriguez7220
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I love this video so helpful to me. You're Awesome!
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!
@mommyjo01
3 жыл бұрын
Great video Mike! Makes so much sense! Thank you!
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome.
@cherylrmt
3 жыл бұрын
Tk You coach🌹 excellent wisdom shared! I enjoy following you and you nail it with your stories to clench the lessons! Keep up the great work! Happy last Sunday of February🌷
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@marwamirwar6058
3 жыл бұрын
Omg! This video came in the perfect moment!! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us ❤️❤️ we love youuuuu
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Love you too!!
@rosieesposito1548
3 жыл бұрын
Awesome video! Needed to hear this.. especially from a mans point of view
@lynseyash1460
3 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend is American im British we have been together a year but covid has put a stop to it all right now but fingers crossed June 21st the international travel ban will be lifted. But my boyfriend does call and message everyday. I wish all of what your saying was so easy in a long distance relationship
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
I hope you get to see each other soon!
@judyjohns7491
3 жыл бұрын
Loved having you validate my thinking! Good stuff! 60 days is hard for sexual women.
@llaw785
3 жыл бұрын
Great vid, Mike 👍👍👍 Dating in the pandemic can be quite different than under pre-Covid times, don't you think ? Our lives are upended by this public health crisis, so sticking to 60-90 days have to be more thought through 👌
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Honestly, this pandemic has been the best time to date ever. It makes both parties have difficult conversations a lot earlier and immediately you get feedback on values and communication styles.
@llaw785
3 жыл бұрын
@@EZDatingCoach Absolutely agree, however as our lives are being upended by it, it also brings on enormous stresses & not everyone responds well under streases & destabilization 🤷♀️ What I wanted to say is if we apply the usual discernment under non-pandemic times to weed out people we may miss out on great partner. Just saying🤔
@sherripuckett4537
3 жыл бұрын
Mike, Hey again we are on the exact same page!! I could be writing your videos this is scary! I have been in a LTR for almost a year. LTRs are rarely discussed. The mechanics are a bit different because of how often you don’t see each other. The background is we grew up together. Still, there are New elements in our lives to share. Basically the 60-90 was my timeline however he kept me on the back burner. How do you spell eh hun as in no way? LOL 😂 So,, like you’ve explained Mike, I’am taking my heart back. In short we would go back and forth and I was losing count of where he was. We are talking several states. Many mistakes were made by this giving woman! I finally woke up. Wish I had dated others all along! Hindsight is wonderful! Thank you Mike 🙌🙌 My eyes are wide open. Oh... the closeness unfolded over five years roughly. Wish there was more for LTR... maybe?
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear it. My advice is date local. 😃
@sherripuckett4537
3 жыл бұрын
@@EZDatingCoach As Always I appreciate you!! 🙌🙌TGIF 😊
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
@@sherripuckett4537 You're welcome.
@sirennem.6890
3 жыл бұрын
Great
@astariaseraphina2478
3 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes
@genevieverudman5221
3 жыл бұрын
Mike I met someone..... I like he ticks all the corret boxes ,we have had 4 dates 1 sleep 💤 over due to distance.... Separation bedrooms, he remembered every single thing I told him message me everyday from mid of January until now always following up on what Iv told him. I really thought he liked me but when I asked the question ''may I ask are you attracted to me'' his response was.... I'd like to just keep it friends for now so I'm not sure what to think about that🤔🙃😊
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Why does he want to keep it friends? Does he want to be friends that eventually turn into best friends and lovers? Or does he simply not see you as relationship material and just as a friend. We need clarification on this ASAP.
@genevieverudman5221
3 жыл бұрын
@@EZDatingCoach I have no idea - my message said - May I ask something...Yes I know we are getting to know each other....but id like to know if you are attracted to me - THE response was...….. Dont get me wrong you are lovely , caring and genuine person BUT at this stage I would prepare friendship and its not because of anyone else
@cynthiagraeff2979
3 жыл бұрын
If there was an extremely strong connection and you did overthink and created anxiety and concerns from past relationships and pushed them away . How can you fix it ? Signed a forever people pleaser .
@chicanica64
3 жыл бұрын
60-90 days to decide. If no commitment then cut him lose.
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!! 🙌🙌
@debramelillo5416
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! What time frame seem reasonable for a long distance situation that's going great? He makes every effort to book trips to me and wants me to come to him.
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Time frame for commitment? Depends how many times you see each other?
@nimfabangay7318
3 жыл бұрын
I got too much respect from you/him that years have passed we have not dated.....but ty. Because you deserve me. Haha😀 Musa you have been years with me. And have not scored. 😴😕💃❤u
@sunnysalguero5989
3 жыл бұрын
What about for a new long distance relationship, where you are only able to see each other every month or so? We've spent online time together every day for 4 months now, he gives me exclusivity, flies across the country to spend time with me... but I am at a loss at how long to wait for sex. That would take a deep level of commitment for me, and I worry how well we actually know each other.
@julielynchbuettner3906
2 жыл бұрын
Looking for more information regarding strategies for meeting “ My Person”. In an earlier episode, you had said to “Do nothing”. Can you elaborate on this? Is that still the case and listening intently to what is recommended. Not doing online dating at this time and that is what most of the kids are doing Now-A-Days.
@EZDatingCoach
2 жыл бұрын
1/3 of marriages happen from online dating. Would you like some help getting that setup?
@lisacohen790
Жыл бұрын
I think that 60 days are sufficient.
@shelraysam4705
3 жыл бұрын
Love you love you love you mike. This is amazing aspect advice. I wish I can kiss you all over your face! 60-90 days. The last time I was dating was five months before He reduced me. We been together for 7.6 years and have. a daughter on the year we break up. You are awesome mike. I love that you keep videos short and amazing to the point. I am appreciate you!
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
You are very welcome. Thanks for watching!
@sherrysresearchandreviews6915
3 жыл бұрын
Ooh good advice. Did you tell the audience about how energy stuff can give people access to your brain? I wont say the rest, but you understand I'm sure. Gonna break that down someday? It's off topic, but it could be a video on "dating safety tips." I think its worth mentioning at least.
@TheSentinel555
3 жыл бұрын
Mike, great video! But there is something I do not agree with. I do not in favor of the term "having s-e-x ". To me, in a really loving relationship there is "love making". Thank you for those steps. Happy Purim Mike 🥳
@Alexadance_uk
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!! ❤❤❤
@lyndamcmullen5506
Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤
@kathrynscott6258
3 жыл бұрын
90days
@veronicahamilton5513
3 жыл бұрын
What if the cow is not for sale?
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
So you both get the milk for free and have fun??
@veronicahamilton5513
3 жыл бұрын
@@EZDatingCoach I have always found that phrase misogynistic. A queen’s mindset would flip that and not view it as “giving” something up, but gaining an experience without expectations. Perhaps men should think twice about giving up the sausage for free 🤣
@EZDatingCoach
3 жыл бұрын
@@veronicahamilton5513 - I totally agree with that. When I am in a place looking for a relationship I have turned down or at least postponed sex with women.
@genevieverudman5221
3 жыл бұрын
👐👐👐
@chicanica64
3 жыл бұрын
Date six??? Would go through a lot of partners in a year!! 8.6 partners per year if having sex by the 6th date….
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