Dude is dang near a therapist out here! I appreciate that he explains without a lot of therapy speak which has been misused in popular culture.
@markusbanks7572
Ай бұрын
This could not have been said any better.. Thank you for saying this.. Much appreciate and respect to you 🫡💯!!
@bluewave3417
Ай бұрын
Misused and overused.
@ramsesthegrt
Ай бұрын
Sounds like me in my city wit my panel of friends. Been dropping gems on my peers since 2013🤦🏿♂️
@yungrock59
Ай бұрын
You can tell trip been to counseling, and I'm glad he's introducing that to our community that frowns on it.
@brandontrammel4581
Ай бұрын
Facts
@traceymiller6700
Ай бұрын
“I have to reach in and parent that child “. I love your analogy on this. Thank you ❤
@therealmoniquelove
Ай бұрын
I don’t comment often, but Tripp be on point so much that I have to shout him out💯🙌🏽😉
@martineberger5585
Ай бұрын
Excellent message my brotha! Trip definitely brings wisdom, knowledge, and understanding to our community as black people. May God continue to bless you, keep you, and elevate you in order to operate in your gifts! Thank you for what you always bring to the platform. 👊🏽🙌🏽❤
@Craigthomas322
Ай бұрын
I noticed a lot of women say no to not wanting a man who doesn't feel safe enough to be emotional, but I find that many men don't feel that they can be emotional for fear that their woman would look at them as weak.
@sidfalcon7714
Ай бұрын
One of the rare times I disagree with Tripp..Do NOT get emotional in front of your woman, you may not hear about it in the moments right after but you most definitely will hear about it at a random time thereafter..IF she stays around..It's sad & it sucks but that's most of us men's reality.."Deletion" rates are extremely high in part because of this..
@LetsGoforDabash
Ай бұрын
@@sidfalcon7714 majority women don't want to accept the harsh truth because it makes them look bad 😂 on the top of that they run with the same " express urself" bs n " U choose wrong woman" rebuttal... Men needs to work on their emotions by themselves or with good friends
@sakeenah34me
Ай бұрын
I have 2 sons, and I love them so very much. I don't want them to hurt a woman, and I don't want a woman to hurt them. They have been taught how to handle their emotions which includes crying to release the pressure. I tell them that sometimes you can't cry in the moment because you have to handle your business, but afterward release that pressure or you'll eternalize it, and that can be dangerous for men. When my husband cried in front of me, I saw someone's son, a man hurting, someone vulnerable. I could tell that he was distressed not only by what he was going through, but at the realization that he was crying in front of me. I did what I would want a woman to do for my sons. I rubbed his back, told him that it would be ok, reassured him, and hugged him. It wasn't an issue for me because tears were given to women AND men. Nobody can be strong all of the time, and sometimes being strong for yourself is allowing yourself to be vulnerable.
@sidfalcon7714
Ай бұрын
@sakeenah34me Unfortunately this is not most men's reality..We do need safe spaces to vent and prevent internalization of feelings but we are almost always met with "Don't be a B***h." "Man the F up!!" among other negative connotations to men's emotions..We mostly were raised to internalize whatever we have going on and "suck it up, and move past it." I'm in my 40s so this obviously isn't going to change overnight, if at all..I do appreciate your viewpoint though sista..
@sakeenah34me
Ай бұрын
@sidfalcon7714 I agree. I went down the rabbit hole of youtube and the battle between men and women, and I came to the conclusion that there are a lot of unhealed wounds. I also concluded that it starts early in childhood(unhealed parents trying to parent children all the while keeping up the same unhealthy and sometimes abusive behaviors) I can't speak for other cultures, but I have seen what you speak if in the black community. Little boys told to stifle their tears, being punched in the chest, push around, being called a girl, by both men and women who are supposed to be protecting them. I can do my part by not doing that to an adult male and by not letting anyone do it to my boys or speaking up if I see it being done to other boys. Perhaps it's too late for us older ones if we are not open to doing the work and changing negative behaviors, but for those coming up under us, there is hope. Like Tripp said, we have to parent that young child within us. I've done it. It hurt like hell, but i'm much better for it.
@OstreiaWalker
Ай бұрын
Tripp, once again you have spoken the truth! You have to be able to understand yourself and your own emotions before you can be a safe place for your partner. 💯
@Ourown311
Ай бұрын
Yes, exactly! This comment needs to be pinned.
@ericahenry9103
Ай бұрын
Dude... Tripp, I am so appreciative and proud you my spiritual brother for being your authentic self and being ypur purpose and calling!!! Amen!!! Love you and messages you share. Most men, especially black men are not willing to be this vulnerable. This is real stuff of life that makes it beautiful even during the storm "The Work" the process you go through to get here. No one understands until they are willing to be bare naked with themselves, no more lies and mistruths, being the authentic self is hard work to get there, but the most amazing feeling!!! ❤❤❤❤ enjoying seeing another beautiful spiritual soul🙏🏼
@ChildofGod98765
Ай бұрын
Heavenly Father guide me as a single mother. Both of my sons have special needs. I pray that you bless me with your love, grace, and strength, as I tirelessly care for my sons. I ask that You provide for my every need and sustain me in my daily struggles. Because Lord I’m overwhelmed struggling to pay rent each and every month struggling to buy groceries. Lord hear my prayers.
@wandat5042
Ай бұрын
🙏🏾i’m praying for & with you. Hold on!!
@dumpd6227
Ай бұрын
Praying for you. I can empathize with you. Hold on. God got us.
@lovemoretoday
Ай бұрын
Sending hugs, love and blessings. God has you ❤
@letsraediate
Ай бұрын
You and your sons are now in my prayers 🙏🏽
@OstreiaWalker
Ай бұрын
I am touching and agreeing with you I am a single mother of 2 teenage daughters and I am dealing with this same issue. God will not forsake us!! God got us!
@shaneejoseph6074
Ай бұрын
Spot on....if you can't be vulnerable with your partner....the relationship will suffer....and both party have to make the environment safe for the other to be vulnerable.....
@trinity-hopetricia3241
Ай бұрын
Preach and Facts Tripp Preach and Facts 🏆🐐🎯🙏❤️
@Dimitrius-vz7ol
Ай бұрын
Therapy could help as well
@JoshMitchell116
Ай бұрын
Most definitely. And an intentional exploration of who God is
@nanonano.beepbeep
Ай бұрын
@@JoshMitchell116 who is God always comes back to who am I. I haven't met anyone yet, including myself, who hadn't started off looking for God only to end up in search of self. Quite a fascinating observation, I must admit.
@wbujaocoy
Ай бұрын
Yeah, same church different pew.
@JoshMitchell116
Ай бұрын
@nanonano.beepbeep most definitely. Those two questions are forever intertwined because what comes to mind regarding God, or the idea of God, is fundamental to our self-concept. If I believe in a divine creator, letalone that all people are made in this creator's image, that colors my view of myself.
@latoyakelly3683
Ай бұрын
AMEN!!!! Tripp always on point!
@simplydifferrent
Ай бұрын
I feel that my brother that was a blessing to hear❤
@TheCoolbreeze3206
Ай бұрын
Realest ish I done heard. He talking to me. Fr. You got to be you and be real wit cho self! I'm still learning...
@nicoles_luv
Ай бұрын
Took me a long time to get to this place. I'm beyond grateful that I gave myself the space to learn, navigate, and feel my emotions. It is safe.
@Thejericko17
Ай бұрын
Well said. I find it so odd that people need to learn to give their thoughts and feelings the space to breath. I understand why/how it happens it just breaks my heart that it's not something people know to do. Learning to make a safe space for and within yourself is a foundational piece for anyone who wants a true partnership.
@AubreyBest-ib9yd
Ай бұрын
We love that man
@LaviniaOsbourne
Ай бұрын
We sure do!
@misskeah8893
Ай бұрын
Right...like when folks say, "she/he gotta be my peace" Learn to be your own peace and when you're ready to find a partner you'll know how to automatically vet and see the peace in a person, it'll be easy to weed out what they lack. Work on yourself first...
@ashashe5316
Ай бұрын
What was described is what some would call Shadow Work…. Also, therapist usually ask to write down what you can remember starting from ages 1-3, 3-6 and so on, then they can usually guide you through what happened as a child to trigger your actions now as an adult. Insight is beautiful.
@ldkea05
Ай бұрын
The range of this message is unreal! So thank you for sharing this because whether unknowing, or without admission, it's a necessary word for the masses.
@NicoleSmith-to4dr
Ай бұрын
Yeah u have to know yourself first and i’m 33 and still learning bout myself
@cyntsutton
Ай бұрын
This guy always be on point! I love him...❤❤❤❤
@BenitaRodriguez-g5e
Ай бұрын
Self care is important. Tripp always on point!
@rooseveltday6687
Ай бұрын
Tripp be tripp'n (in a good way)
@shariecebrewster5962
Ай бұрын
A agree on it's what you are saying
@lisahightower8370
Ай бұрын
Real shit!!!!
@RosieRochelle
Ай бұрын
Oooooooooooooo this right here is on a whole nother level 🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@35tshone
Ай бұрын
Facts!!!!!!!💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
@lornagreen8961
Ай бұрын
Luvluvluv Tripp!.. we really think we can't do though.. or that it's too intense. But, we CAN DO it..we must do it to find true contentment. Thanx Tripp as always💜💪🏾💜
@allensmith9620
Ай бұрын
Maan!! This guy here.... Mr. 🎯.... sheeeeeesh
@AaambitiousArt
Ай бұрын
You can remove the relationship part and it's still good advice for everyone. Tripp don't miss. 🎯
@shuniquehandley2518
Ай бұрын
It's not safe to be someone like that. I'm getting more confirmation. People like that has a false sense of their own reality as well.
@courtneysmith3497
Ай бұрын
Come on Trippppp!! Tell them!
@JackieS812
Ай бұрын
I agree Tripp!❤
@marciaevans8016
Ай бұрын
We should CLONE this man! Seriously.
@mca217
Ай бұрын
We need to start holding parents accountable for not teaching EQ. All those times parents used to yell, "Stop all that sniffling and crying before I give you something to really cry about!" Saying things like "Don't be soft, man up, get over it. Men don't cry. Stop being a p---y" were all very, very counterproductive to the development of good emotional intelligence. It starts at home and society simply reaffirmed the philosophy of men not opening up to others.
@user-zx1ii7vf2z
Ай бұрын
I think it's fair to hold people accountable for not teaching things they had reasonable opportunity to acquire as knowledge. But if they didn't have access to that knowledge due to the time they grew up or lack of resources available, then no, I won't hold them accountable. Because that's now shifting my thinking into a fantasy, instead of ackniweldging reality. They could not do, teach or be better, because they didnt have the tools. What I will do is acknowledge they did their best with what they had and what they knew. Our ancestors also had trauma that was never processed and they lived their limited lives through their traumatised minds. I'm not going to make their experiences, of lack of experiences, my personality. I now know better, so I'm responsible to do better.
@jas1565
Ай бұрын
You reach a certain age where you should also be held accountable. We can recognize where some parents lacked in raising their children but at what point are you old enough to fix it?
@mca217
Ай бұрын
@user-zx1ii7vf2z The issue is that the tools have always been there. The Bible speaks about the dangers of provoking your children to wrath. The Bible emphasizes leading a family with love, not anger.
@mca217
Ай бұрын
@jas1565 I agree with you, but the issue is that people should be made aware of the mistakes they make so that they don't repeat them. That's why you hear so many men fear marriage. They've been told by their fathers, uncles, and grandfathers not to get married. They've heard those male family members complain about their wives instead of praising their wives.
@TheeEliteEmpress
Ай бұрын
Inner stand very true Tripp….once you do that you will be able to see things not only within yourself but in others that many are unable to see even after looking in the mirror.
@Yakira787
Ай бұрын
Please do pray for me in this. I am certain of this being a word to me.
@sidfalcon7714
Ай бұрын
Most women weaponize men's emotions and look elsewhere for other needs to be met..Would it be great to feel safe enough to express themselves in the way they need to??Absolutely but part of the disconnect in our community (black) men aren't allowed to feel like this without varying levels of ridicule or emasculation..So the premise Tripp speaks on is 100% accurate the truth is this isn't occurring very often & in some cases, at all..
@quincywilker532
Ай бұрын
Felt that
@antoinetteroberts5098
Ай бұрын
Facts 100% 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@shariecebrewster5962
Ай бұрын
I am going through it's no boby care :::::::::::
@marinafernandez8934
Ай бұрын
I needed to hear this today.
@unapologeticallyconscious5981
Ай бұрын
That's some truth!
@NinaRedd
Ай бұрын
Absolutely
@carlettethomas5252
Ай бұрын
Right ✅️
@cameronemmanuel5889
Ай бұрын
Speak to me lord 0:27
@gloriaray3084
Ай бұрын
Yep that inner child love so that adult live as an adult real talk. I've taken that inner child PROGRAM an it has helped me so much.
@AnnDavis-qc6zm
26 күн бұрын
Everyone has a different way of communicating what's going on with them , it's told in a different way without sadness in a way that it was told to you be ready because it's a time for everything and you know by the way it was encoded in their way of thinking
@laronsands7242
Ай бұрын
Men are taught how to treat women & women are taught how a man is to treat women. Do women honestly know how to treat (healed/healing) men?
@StopSelfDoubting
Ай бұрын
Not any unhealed woman, no.
@NicoleS2023
Ай бұрын
🔥🔥🔥🔥
@empressbthealkemisst
Ай бұрын
That part 💯 it’s clear mother Gaia has shifted into a whole other timeline because we’re seeing all the old beliefs that stemmed from the male, men, masculinity from the 70s of the misled narrative that men aren’t supposed to cry and be sensitive is out the flucking window. A man in his humanity and divinity who expects to be a leader of a household a family and or an enterprise that can’t be vulnerable with himself and with GOD can’t lead if a woman can’t trust you with your authentic emotions how possibly can she trust you with her.
@Nylah-lm9os
Ай бұрын
Deep 😢
@shariecebrewster5962
Ай бұрын
I am glad you coming out with that's ma message need that;;;;::::::::
@SunGirl-z4x
Ай бұрын
I'm sorry but I could never deal with a man who can't pour into my cup as more as I poured into them
@cerissabrown3487
Ай бұрын
It’s how they communicate it I feel…. Because of…. I want this…: but this is happening…. And I don’t have the skills to process this differently…… what are your thoughts….. but nooooo. It’s games
@R.Yvette.X.
Ай бұрын
Yes. I can't help you with your emotions if you're not telling me why you're crying.
@shuniquehandley2518
Ай бұрын
Come on!!!!
@therealvibrationsbynae
Ай бұрын
🗣🗣🗣
@robertbrown7748
Ай бұрын
Do you really want somebody to be in partnership with you that doesnt feel safe enough to be emotional with you?
@StarlitSoul
Ай бұрын
❤️👏👏👏
@LaTrinaMilton
Ай бұрын
This Good!!!
@KenyonH
Ай бұрын
💪🏾💚
@24kchefkimmy43
Ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤
@GOOD_GODD
20 күн бұрын
💡
@LadyBee4433
Ай бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@cjohnson_
Ай бұрын
so who is tripp cheating on me with??? 😂
@Flower_hoarder
Ай бұрын
🔝✔️
@jasmineyoungblood
Ай бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@neka4164
Ай бұрын
👏🏽
@JASS-v7n
Ай бұрын
At this point to still be battling this ignorance is embarrassing
@LBoogie101
Ай бұрын
Zo Williams
@hiramWilliam
Ай бұрын
Ok yOu Do nOt have A Personal TherapiSt who Else has These Conversations with (They Do nOt "care") ?
@Yvng_Zy
Ай бұрын
Real
@EG-hh6zz
Ай бұрын
how to deal with trauma is the result what happened and how those emotions effect my past life in the present moment some of the effects of trauma is that the wounds of the past keep showing up in the present so from my point it’s not so much about delving and dwelling on the past but on dealing with how the past keeps showing up in the present it doesn’t matter how many times I go back and think about my childhood story that’s not going to help me what I have to deal with is happening to me right now is the shadow of the past what’s going to help is to deal with the emotions that are arising right now
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