Very mature young lady. You handle it well. I wish you and your love John the best. Like I put in our 1st published book. Life problems happen, no one gets through this life unscathed. It is your positive attitude that gets you through times like this. I hope you get your wish& John comes back and you guys can get married and be happily wed. Be blessed, safe, healthy, happy, prosperous and great. Real talk& Nuff Said!!
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching ❤
@Ghosted760
Жыл бұрын
This is hilarious. She says several times "it was my fault".. but never admits that she CHEATED on him. Very typical of women being unable to accept responsibility for their own actions. It would be a NO for me to take her back. Move on to the next one.
@AFX79
Жыл бұрын
Deep down men value loyalty and respect in a woman above all else.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching ❤
@riptide10x60
Жыл бұрын
John, too many beautiful girls in the Philippines, find one that appreciates you and won’t cheat on you
@Regular_Guyph
Жыл бұрын
You really did well to avoid talking about the 'mistake'. I assume some boning was involved.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@RCFSULAW
Жыл бұрын
John did not break up with you. You broke up with him the minute you violated his trust and loyalty. He may have used the words but your actions created the breakup. You said you loved him but cheaters are not loving. My ex Filipina did the exact same thing and begged for forgiveness and even today keeps trying. But once you violate trust and loyalty even if someone takes you back he will always think you will do it again. Especially when hanging out with your single friends and the places you may go where there are single men. Especially foreigners.
@MrHornet72
Жыл бұрын
You don't know how to love a man. Cheating on a man is not a mistake. Ur not trustworthy. If u do it once u will do it again. Ur selfish and only think about what comes best for u and u don't appreciate good men. John u did the right thing. This woman will never be trustworthy if she keeps falling into temptation. These people don't learn only when they are too old then it's too late.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@RyanTheEatingwarrior
Жыл бұрын
Remember guys, if she cheats, she’s for the streets. If your Filipina cheats, there are millions of replacements. This is speaking from a marriage of 5 years to a Filipina who ultimately cheated while I was away on work. Don’t simp for a cheating woman ever, I see some of you in the chat haha
@chrisdillon2073
Жыл бұрын
If you loved him you wouldn't have cheated on him. You need to learn what love and being in love is .
@InspiredSaints
Жыл бұрын
I must say I feel so sorry for John to go through that. He seems like a kind hearted man, must have hurt him deeply. I'm not sure if some women understand the deep hurt that a woman does to a man when she breaks trust and loyalty. For most decent men it is everything and once broken is almost impossible to get back again. I imagine in a LDR it's 10x harder to trust again.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching🥰
@Jedirising
Жыл бұрын
If she loved him from the beginning she wouldn’t have done what she did. John is a better man than me because I would have moved on. Stay safe guys 😂😮😅😊
@bigdave5946
Жыл бұрын
Once trust is broken it’s very hard to recapture it . Because trust is the foundation a relationship is built on .
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@marylublankenship6398
Жыл бұрын
Betraying someone’s trust is one of the worst things you can do, especially when you are in a relations with them. I have been through it myself, and was cheated on by my ex husband. He’s an ex husband because there was no way I could repair that relationship on my own. Although I was willing to work through it and learn to forgive, He never wanted to change. Things happen for a reason for sure because i found someone else who loved me and only me and we have been married for almost 13 years. So, remember how John forgave you and never take it for granted. You were lucky to be given another chance.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤️
@Sahrokh
Жыл бұрын
So you cheated. This is always a relationship breaker. You never say it clearly but use 100,000 words. Looks like "red pillers" are right when they say women are the same everywhere in the world 😔. You are lucky with him, because I'd not taken you back.
@ronsilk6212
Жыл бұрын
If i have LDR and i see she post pictures but already 30 men saying hi beautiful hi sexy than it turn me off. No man wants to see that.
@robertg1450
Жыл бұрын
Well if you cheated on him then you never loved him to begin with so maybe it was not meant to be after all and as you know women over there are not hard to find especially if he's a good man he'll find someone who will not cheat on him or lie to him
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching 🥰
@outdoorsman2b918
Жыл бұрын
You are lucky he took you back. Most men (including me) would no forgive you. I hope you value and honor him.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@gregbaker2788
Жыл бұрын
We have all heard the phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater". That is not to say that the "cheater" can not find someone they love and respect enough to overcome. But other people getting romantically involved run the risk of entrusting their heart to "cheating" mentality people who will not protect your heart at the expense of their wants.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Again that was 2 years Ago thank you for watching 🥰 Were happily Engaged now ❤️
@retiredcryptohunter9031
Жыл бұрын
As an American I am married to a Filipina who is from the province. I prefer a conservative woman and that is exactly what my wife is. For me I believe the man’s role is the provider and the woman’s role is the caretaker.
@starfoxx3398
Жыл бұрын
So he was Good to you and helps you financially and you cheated on him...🤔🤨
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
This happen 2 years Ago when we start dating everyone so please watch the entire vedio and I share my past life and how I overcome those problems. I did not cheat to John I act too immature and hardly adjust cause of his culture and my culture there are things that he didn't like with me my behaviour and is i need to change 🥰 have a great day everyone stay safe ❤
@ramonnava7312
Жыл бұрын
I watch your video, I look at everything in the background and wonder how much of that John did for you. Trust is so so important. You didn’t say what you did, but that is your decision. Props to John for being a man and making the hard decisions
@NE0561
Жыл бұрын
19 minutes of video without saying what you did wrong😤😤😤. Lady you messed up so you are the one who is supposed to fight for your relationship not the other way around...
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@imhotep1934
Жыл бұрын
I had a similar situation with a girl from Sri Lanka… She was so sweet innocent and kind, I thought, until I found out that she was cheating on me. After that, there was nothing that she could do to rebuild the trust in our relationship. She asked me to trust her again… But, of course, the trust was gone, forever.
@TomScott__
Жыл бұрын
I assume this is an old story and you and John are still together today. I suggest you stay loyal to John and treat him as good as possible. I would have unfriended and blocked you too. Then I would unfriend and block any account you tried to contact me through. It's John's decision if he can trust you again but I never could. There are too many good women out there to date a woman (or a man) that has proved themselves untrustworthy.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Yes thank you for watching ❤
@LeonardMarlin
11 ай бұрын
Over 20 year vacations and living in the Philippines I had 5 Filipina girlfriends. The first one was 18 to young to marry. She never cheated on me the next was 23 we were together 3 years she cheated on me. 3rd one was 27 we were together 10 years she cheated on me and got pregnant. I loved her forgave her then she cheated on me a second time. The 4th girlfriend 32 we were together 1 year she wasn't the right woman for me. The 5th girlfriend 38 and now my wife would never be dishonest with me. Took 20 years but I finally got a good one.❤
@mics1694
9 ай бұрын
John is simping 😂
@ndnbbbear
Жыл бұрын
One thing i realize is this.........if a girl cheats on you never take her back..........because she'll never respect you. And if that man did take you back........well that hurt WILL not leave him.
@gracejonesgj3368
Жыл бұрын
Trust is difficult to rebuild once broken. It's possible to rebuild but it is vulnerable and if you love a person never hurt it's feelings be trustworthy! Good to hear that time goes by you get mature enough.keep it up!
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@Regular_Guyph
Жыл бұрын
What was your mistake?
@jetPower1960
Жыл бұрын
Jessel make sure not to listen to your friends, or do what your friends do. John has a lot of wisdom, and it's good time to listen. All the best to you both. Hopefully John will come to the Philippines real soon.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching ❤
@nikumimito3164
Жыл бұрын
Your video is not very clear Jessel. 1. You never said what you actually did, you say you gave to temptation and made mistakes, but you don't take full responsibility and say you cheated on him, which is what most of us viewers will assume happened. 2. We don't understand if he broke up with you for good now, is this video only about the past? If he broke up with you again recently, then did you cheat on him a 2nd time with someone else? If you are broken up with him now, you didn't say anything about why he ended the relationship this time. 3. You seem bitter/upset because you had to chase him and use a lot of effort to make him trust you again. You need to realize it was your fault that he was acting cold towards you. Loyalty is the very important to men, like a lot of the other comments, I would never ever take a woman back that has cheated on me before. And we are confused about this video because it looks like you cheated on John twice now, so could you clear up your video and let us know.
@krakerjak3
Жыл бұрын
Wow you completely misunderstood her entire video. She made everything very clear. How did you misinterpret every thing she said? Are you drunk? lol
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching god bless ❤
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
@@krakerjak3 thank you for understanding my video some did not understand 😁 that this was happen 2 years ago and I learned a lot of things in life since John was there teaching me guiding me and now were happily couple ❤
@bobbythespaceghost51
Жыл бұрын
Loyalty, trust, and communication are vital in relationships.
@PhilippinesUntold76
Жыл бұрын
If you got him back, things would never be the same, trust is a fragile thing. The main reason western men up sticks and move half way round the world for filipinas is because western women behave so badly. He could just stay in his own country if he wanted to simp. Good luck to you, but "sorry" can't fix everything.
@deckdeck66
Жыл бұрын
If you are the one that did wrong and you take the blame.....then I applaud you. It takes a special person to admit they did something wrong. I love that. A good person always admits if they were wrong. It shows the quality of a person someone really is. ❤. Love will conquer all if given a chance.
@billyjohnson9166
Жыл бұрын
Are you a cheater?
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
No sir I was immature in my actions 😔😔thank you for watching❤️
@johncarlson6472
Жыл бұрын
No offense, but I'm not seeing any real remorse, guilt or shame here. John's in the driver's seat. He needs to remember there's thousands of Filipinas and Thai gals out there that don't/won't cheat.
@yolandelyle
Жыл бұрын
No matter how young a woman is,or how beautiful she is, a man is not interested in her beauty. What he values is her loyality,......NO LIES!!! No man wants to be with a flirtatious woman. And she must respect herself as well as him. All the best for you,Jessel and hope your relationship gets stronger.
@thetruth2648
11 ай бұрын
Trust is largely more of a emotional Thing, It is fragile, and like an eggshell, one slip can shatter it.
@prescottosegie
Жыл бұрын
I appreciate your honesty Jessel you definitely took accountability for your actions and I’m glad that you work it out with your partner John 😎💪🏾
@johnconroy1278
Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry to hear that, you guys look like a nice couple. You are a beautiful smart young woman and I'm sure everything will work out for the best. Sometimes when God closes a window, he opens a door.
@DonFashionBeauty
Жыл бұрын
I had the same experience with a Filipina I met in Dumaguete. I found she had many other men and I said I could not be part of this anymore. She did not try to regain my love. She just said "It's up to you", I figure she did not love me at all.
@Lauratalksofter
Жыл бұрын
Wishing you the best. I would not have been able to handle a LDR when I was your age. It is important to treat your loved one with respect. Monagamy is not easy for some people and add distance it may be an " out of sight, out of mind" and temptations do happen. Good luck in your life with John or without him, but do remember your lessons learned.
@dr.detroit2877
Жыл бұрын
It is best to be honest in life and not temp other men when you have a LDR. You claim you love him but treat him like a fool. It is difficult to trust someone after they have lost your trust. I am glad you were taught a lesson. I am surprised you are so honest with what happened.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@frankschrock4484
Жыл бұрын
Jessel, from what I can see, John looks like a young man. And if he has a few more years until he reaches retirement age, it's going to be tough to stick it out. I know from experience. Don't pressure him, that's usually a turnoff to most of us that have our wits about us. Let things happen naturally. If it's meant to be, it will. When we think about how long it will take before we can move to the Philippines, it can be discouraging. You're young and have your whole life ahead of you. And by the same note, you are also young enough to wait for him. You will figure it out. We all have different situations. I took care of my ailing mother for two years. So between that and the pandemic I didn't see my gf almost 4 years. And we're still strong and we live in Bacong now. Take care, you're a tuff lady, and a survivor.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@mikewright9637
Жыл бұрын
All I can say is we all make mistakes. However if you cheated on him then just walk away. No man needs that in their life. I'm not saying you did just saying. Of course the knife cuts both ways. Neither of you can see what the other is doing. If it's meant to be it will be. Hope the best for you both
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@charlesc.9572
Жыл бұрын
Life lessons can be hard, as you well know. I'm sad to hear about your lost relationship with John. He seems like a good man, and you a good person. I wish you both well.
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@11Suncere
Жыл бұрын
Why can’t most Filipinas take accountability for their actions, asking a friend?
@rgenjic7076
Жыл бұрын
IMO, before love and trust - comes respect. Also, the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Be careful, people are creatures of habit.
@ronmiller997
15 күн бұрын
John is a lucky man ! Also , that is a beautiful solid door behind you.
@jesselinthephilippines
12 күн бұрын
I think so too!
@patient864
Жыл бұрын
It’s not over. A character fault does not just vanish in many cases.
@garybaskett6724
8 ай бұрын
You are a beautiful and responsible young lady. Continue on with what you feel is important in life, but never forget your son is the first priority!❤
@abrahamlidholm9007
Жыл бұрын
Thank god that there are some strong people who can forgive, come back and continue a relationship 💕 after have been hurt because of for example (infidelity). Am not one of them although I wish that I was.
@geraldturner8111
Жыл бұрын
Hi Jessel. Ldr is not easy. I have tried it but it didn’t work out for various reasons. I'm assuming that you are still together with John and that you were talking about past mistakes. Às usual in your videos, you're very open and honest and give good advice to others in similar situations. I wish you good luck for the future and I hope there are many more blessings to come for you. Take care as always😊
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching ❤
@matthewhull2596
Жыл бұрын
Assumed you were going to be getting married soon. LDR is not easy which takes strength and effort from both partners in relationship.
@junior4984
Жыл бұрын
POOR JOHN😢
@CharlesJR7
Жыл бұрын
Blessings John & Jessel!!!
@TheeILuv489
Жыл бұрын
John looks like a very successful financially secure man. That means he’s also very smart on not wasting his valuable money and more importantly his time. We can make more money but we can’t make more time. He’s ready to find a wife not play games. He can find many women there who have no kids and many over 25yo who are still virgins with no boyfriends. He should look for that as there are many there. You were very blessed and didn’t appreciate it. I am learning all Filipina women are not trustworthy. Thanks for letting us know this
@sandman6988
Жыл бұрын
sorry to hear that one....however a Leopard cannot change its spots.....I understand his side as well ...if it were me I don't friend zone anyone once a relationship is over as well....I block them for good....
@michaelbeggs2013
Жыл бұрын
First of all, an LDR is not a relationship until you have met in person. Why should he trust you? You are only penpals until you meet. I am an American retired in the Cebu and I purposefully did not try to start an "LDR" with anyone.. I waited until I was here with my own apartment until I found a girl on a dating app and we quickly met in person in a couple days and started an actual relationship in person in the real world. My tone may sound harsh but I wish you luck in your relationship. Don't waste your best, hottest, young years on a guy who is not even present. Find someone in the real world.
@ArcticCoder
Жыл бұрын
Okay. It does take courage to talk about it. Once a child shows up things change. It is a moment of clarity and end of innocence. Now you suddenly need money, stability, home, job and many other supports.
@feg466
Жыл бұрын
Pinoy at lalake ako ate yung marami kang lalakeng "friend" sa FB red flag na talaga yun. Maganda ka at not bad in english speaking Pinay. Malamang marami ka nang naka chika or naka date na lalake lalo na mga lalakeng porendyer. Tapos LDR pa kayo. Alam mo sa sarili mo pagnanasaan ka namin kasi maganda ka. Kung meron kang minamahal na isa mag ingat ka na. Wag ka na magpapansin sa ibang lalake. Kung pwede lang wag ka na lumabas sa bahay nyo ng pamilya mo.😊😊😊
@StanHasselback
Жыл бұрын
L'DR's are difficult especially if you didn't have a solid in person relationship to begin with. I'm not sure what you did Jessel, and I don't need to know as it's between you and John. I hope you both learned something from this mistake as all relationships go through difficult times. Sometimes working through difficult times makes relationships stronger. I hope that is the case for you and John.
@alexanderdonmichael
Жыл бұрын
My first comment on your channel was that i didn't feel the love between you two. Looks like i was correct. LDR's are tough. Don't be hard on yourselves. Learn and move on. Life is short.
@benpradhan9625
Жыл бұрын
I think that the burden John feels is the rather public way this relationship has been carried out…it’s hard on him as would be on most of us guys. Perhaps if you gave him a little space, a little time…and a little privacy, I think his heart is in the right place and will find itself back to you cuz that’s John :)
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@kevinnelson5505
Жыл бұрын
Everything happens for a reason and nothing does not happen before its time a cup can only hold a cup of water your time is coming soon rejoice and be glad in it who God bless no man curse🎉
@naturalmystics-kd9vt
9 ай бұрын
There is no guarantee that the one you love gonna love you there is many more that will love you none of us is perfect
@analizasison930
Жыл бұрын
Your reversing the issue.your the one who broke him.
@grahambenn5163
Жыл бұрын
Jessel, i watched this video as i watch all of your videos and i was confused as to whether you are still together or not. But I'm delighted to see that you and John are still together. I've just watched your live stream with John, I'm sooooooooo disappointed i missed it as i love partaking in your live stream videos. Thanks again Jessel for another video. Much Mahal to you as always!! 💕💕
@davinciavilo5731
Жыл бұрын
Instead of calling it "issues" or "a mistake", own it and take accountability. If you Cheated, then say you Cheated instead of dancing around the "issue". I would not have given you a second chance.
@lifeinnorthcarolina4770
Жыл бұрын
Yes, Jessel I Love your video thanks for sharing as you should always fight for someone you Love as me and my Manila Fiancee always say we are going to fight for our love to each other and I am so sorry this happen to you. Oh and yes we are still in LDR hopefully will be together soon like maybe this year as we are waiting on the K1 Visa Process which is so slow.
@gregrodrigues5453
Жыл бұрын
Hi nice video. Hope you are having a lovely sunday 🌹
@thejwb1
8 ай бұрын
You will be tempted by a lot of guys at your age and look. The best thing to do is when you are official exchange passwords for your accounts to help you block any guy trying to flirt you, and stay open with each other about temptation, don't entertain or add any guy you don't know like relative only, keep your phone open when together. Also don't be LDR longer it's worthless and temptations too high. Either be together in person forever n near future or break. That's been my experience.
@okeefe1963
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing Jessel
@justaskKj
Жыл бұрын
Part of relationships growing pains. Trust is 🔑 key and everything
@sizzykelly
Жыл бұрын
Hala grabe inyong relasyon dai, I'm so happy for you now nga ok namo.
@winburt4225
Жыл бұрын
John is a good man to forgive you but you need to control yourself. But on the other hand, this is the problem with long distance relationships too.
@lowlandbear
Жыл бұрын
I’m so very sorry things didn’t work out for you, LDR I’d hard todo I hope you find your joy, and that your family prospers
@gibblespascack1418
Жыл бұрын
It is easy to be young and stupid. What has changed for me is that I am not young anymore. Keep up the good work.
@CJ_Foy
Жыл бұрын
There's really big age gap between you two and I can understand why you did whatever you did that is normal for alot of women your age. My experience of having a fiancé that was filipina we have to adapt to each other culture and be patient. God bless you and John and I wish both of you the best!!
@jesselinthephilippines
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching ❤
@bazoincas12
Жыл бұрын
Buy a toy not a human to cheat with.
@waylayin6159
11 ай бұрын
I dont blame her. Young dudes arient lining up to hop in bed with a grandma over someone their own age. It sucks but i mean no young woman's dream man is 40 years older then them with a big gut and hairy and sweating on top of em. Blehhhhh im so glad im not a woman. Im sure he is a good guy though. Not sure what he looks like. Or how old he is. Im just guessing from her age and that its the Philippines im on the right track.
@spartuz71
8 ай бұрын
My Filipina cheated on me twice and after many months apart, I decided to forgive her and give her a second change, it's been 8 years now and we are happy together. Forgiving is the hardest thing to do but is worth it. We all make mistakes Jesus said "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her."
@daniellewis5123
Жыл бұрын
You really did a great job fixing the problems your relationship had but I'm just curious if the problem was only having a lot of friends on Facebook I'm just curious because I'm trying to learn thanks Daniel
@branthill2310
Жыл бұрын
take care... i know its difficult.... don't neglect yourself...
@giacomoliga
Жыл бұрын
this is sad John seemed a good man try not to hurt him because if he loves you it is painful good luck.
@Airraidcd
Жыл бұрын
Wow Jessel that’s a lot of fb friends. I’ve had my FB since 2012 when my ex wife and I divorced. I just checked now and only have 177 mostly family, ex coworkers, High school friends, college friends and friends. Definitely red flag for a LDR Filipina with so many guys as friends….stay away not worth the time. Find a better woman that isn’t so much in social media unless it’s her job making money.
@brianrussell5378
Жыл бұрын
I feel bad for any guy that goes back to a woman that cheated on them. John has no self respect, but look at the situation I am guessing he is an old guy with this young girl what do you expect. If he is a young guy and goes back with her that is way worse, These girls are with these old guys due to being poor and looking for a better financial situation. There is no way the majority of them are attracted to these old guys physically, This is a financial agreement with most of them.
@cabrufalo35
Жыл бұрын
Dont worry. We love you❤❤
@donald6301
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Jessel for sharing your experience. 😊
@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
2 ай бұрын
I heard a Rabbi the other day, "A husband can be a husband and not respect his wife. It's not good but he can do it." "But a wife cannot be a wife is she doesn't respect, look up to him." They may love love but it's just your turn, as they say. If she respects you and looks up to you as a hero then you will feel like you are home. It's really that simple.
@lancewright2518
Жыл бұрын
Down to 600 friends?..please...keep your circle small but tight..in times of trouble maybe only 5 or so of those 600 will actually be there for you..that you can bet on....dead trees dont produce good fruit..good luck to you...
@joeblow3939
Жыл бұрын
Rule number 1 with dating someone and sharing your relationship on the Internet, it's OK to announce that you are no longer dating but I would give it some time before you announce it. In America we say, don't air out your dirty laundry on the Internet. If you say we broke up, then in 2 weeks, oh we are back together again. That makes you sound very unstable for the next guy. They are always going to wonder if that person comes around , are you going to leave or cheat on him. I guess I still have a chance😉👍👍
@deejaydark07
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Hindi ko maintindihan kung paano mo nasabi na mahal mo siya, pero niloko mo 🤔 halatang hindi mo siya mahal. Ano ang mararamdaman mo kung niloko ka niya? Walang may gusto sa sinungaling o manloloko. Sana ay natutunan mo ang iyong aralin.
@GradyGordon-bl9py
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Jessel, l am so sorry to hear that, l know that LDR can be really difficult 😞
@Ty-dt8xv
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Great video good advice my friend 🙏🙏🙏
@Leonard369C
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I was under the impression that it is very uncommon for a Filipina to admit to wrongdoing, in fact, I understand this to be a Filipino trait in general (saving face culture). Do you find this to be true if so, hats off for being honest..
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