As a hospital case manager I applaud you more than you can know. People like you are so rare. Shower fear- part of dementia is the person loses a random step in a task and it panics them to try it. Also IMO, I believe the noise, fast water is scary, over stimulates so to speak. The enclosed space may seem like a trap, a prison. They can't process it as it is so much going on even though it's just water from a spout. It may help to warm the water up. (some shower heads have an off switch) get her in, and slowly increase water flow while chatting with her. Yes, you'll get we too. But it may be more comforting for her to go slow from no water to enough, not too much. Just enough to wash and rinse. Many people have to turn to sponge baths because it is just too difficult, OR anti anxiety medication before a shower, but that can have it's own problems. Since she is homebound for the most part, unable to leave on her own and probably rarely unless there is a need, like Dr visits etc, you might try Home Health visits for a while. A nurse can help with ideas to resolve barriers, and inform you about managing the process, and what to watch out for with skin care, a physical therapist can help you with not just with your own ergonomics for safety but also simple ways to help her keep her balance and walk, transfer safely as she declines. Also assistive devices. A medical social worker can help you discover more community resources that may be of help to you now or later. Most agencies have aides who can help with showers. They are a temporary intermittent service, but can be immensely helpful and helpful in finding permanent help. There will come a time when hospice may be indicated, if she no longer will eat or drink. They can help you with comfort care and support you through the hardest time. Again you are an amazing husband and a role model for what a spouse should be.
@JohnvanGurp
3 ай бұрын
@@collinsfriend1 thanks for the tips and for the very kind comments too - it’s very supportive to hear it!
@patnewson6908
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for this detailed comment & suggestions. What an amazing guy that has come this far on this scary journey that has no happy ending.
@cremebrulee4759
2 ай бұрын
Those are great insights.
@taylormaddux8433
2 ай бұрын
These comments show that one needn't have to re-invent the wheel when it comes to caring for people with a form of dementia. Thank you for your time to contribute such helpful information.
@riccosuave2761
Ай бұрын
@@JohnvanGurp If it is over stimulation maybe try the foam ear plugs. You are incredibly inspiring and motivating, you are like a life coach. I am always incredibly impressed with each video.
@phillipkopp5809
Ай бұрын
Your compounding struggles are so challenging. I'm sorry, man. I often wonder what conflicts are occurring in Heather's mind and how frightening or baffling this must be for her. Thank you for always shedding light on the human condition.
@jimsutherland6538
3 ай бұрын
Wow John I am not religious but god has a special place for caregivers like you
@karendraeger2100
13 күн бұрын
Hi mr. John, I have been viewing you videos and there was one thing that I found while working with the elderly and some dementia clients, when showered them i had them seated in shower safe chair, facing the shower handheld wand ,i would keep whatever part of them I was not washing yet covered with a towel then I would rotate with a towel to the washed parts this way as i always soothingly speaking to the they always were able to see my hand and where the water was going to be, and when standing them up i always had a towel for them to stand 9n so them couldn't slip. Not sure if this would be helpful, but keep them non chilled with towel
@louise8752
2 ай бұрын
John, you are doing an amazing job. Please rest and care for yourself, get out and have fun and come home rested to continue helping your dear wife. She is incredibly lucky to have you. Bless you both!!
@PeggiMendricks
3 ай бұрын
Hi John….I was glad to hear you advocate for people to reach out for help when it’s needed. Please heed your advice. Caring for a dementia patient, maybe especially one who is a loved one, will probably be the most difficult thing you’ll ever do. I’m a retired nurse and have worked a good deal with dementia patients. The shower is THE most commonly feared activity for a dementia sufferer. So if/when it becomes nearly impossible to get your dear one showered you will need to get in home assistance for that task at the very least. Take good care of yourself and I hope you have some family help nearby. Caregivers can lose their own health trying to keep up with the demands of being a caregiver. You both will be in my prayers.
@JohnvanGurp
3 ай бұрын
Thank you, and I really appreciate getting comments from people like yourself who have walked this road especially as a nurse. I feel like I have a lot of physical and mental resources left… We started dating in 1978 and that’s a very deep well to draw from. I’m staying ahead of the game and I’m trying to plan and adapt and make sure I have my resources lined up before I need them, not when I need them. So I’m not going at this in a reactionary way and I think that’s the best approach. At this point I feel like I will be able to carry on at home until she gets her wings, but likely with live-in care help at some point. If I feel a care facility is warranted I will go that route. I’m in it for the long haul which sadly won’t be very long if things keep going the way they are going. Thanks again for your comments, I really appreciate it as it reminds me that I’m not alone.
@PeggiMendricks
3 ай бұрын
@@JohnvanGurp My prayer for you John is that you will be successful in keeping your dear wife at home with you. It certainly seems you have a well-thought out plan and that is crucial. It will be challenging but will be so worth it. Having your wife home with you will be best for both of you. You’re in my prayers. I am subscribed so I will be with you in spirit and thought!!
@brendamorrison1434
3 ай бұрын
If they have a fear of stairs , you can get them down sadly by turning them around and having them go down facing backwards. I would think having her sit facing away from the shower in the tub chair you could then put the water on without her seeing it. If the noise bothers or affects her maybe putting in ear plugs first would help. Just some ideas to try. My Dad had Alzheimer’s . Hope this helps
@deborahmaehs7604
2 ай бұрын
Medical supply stores (and probably Amazon, too) sell these shower caps with shampoo in them. They are heated briefly in the microwave to warm up the liquids. The cap can be applied to the head, put all the hair in, and then gently massage. It is surprising how well this works. Just a suggestion for people who are unable to shower.
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
Great tip, thank you.
@BrendaMaggio-k6m
2 ай бұрын
When I worked as a nurse's aid in a nursing home while I was attending RN school, we used shower chairs for the elderly patients with Alzheimer's. You can strap Heather into it too, so that way you do not need to worry about her falling. She is evidently worried about that too, as portrayed by the "death grip" on the shower bar. The ataxia and balance problems we have make slipping, falling, and getting injured a real fear. Then you will be better able to handle the handset, instead of trying to wash and support Heather at the same time. Be sure to use low flow so as not to scare her with that, too. She might have a fear of drowning when you try to get her under a shower, but if you can wash her hair like they do in a hair salon with a gentle flow, Heather might not get so sacred. Remember, with the damaged and shut down areas of the brain, she is like a child that has an underdeveloped brain, and has no rational adult functioning or understanding. I know exactly what she is going through, having gone through this myself. Here's how irrational my thoughts were, as an example. One evening our cows got loose after I forgot to close the barn door, and were headed for our gate, down the road, and to a main intersection nearby. I was in pj's and slippers, so as my son headed for his track shoes to beat them to the gate for our property, I said" I can beat them to the gate!" Fortunately, he was the second fastest kid on the track team after the one Black student, so he handily beat the cows to the gate! We have great laughs over that incident still. I had told him at the time he should write a book about all the funny things I said and did, so it's great you are doing this sharing so others can see what it is like. The not so funny episodes were when I forgot to close the chicken coop and would find them slaughtered. I still remember the first day I forgot if I had washed body parts, so just washed everything again! Although I never had the fear of drowning, I still limit my showers to when only necessary to avoid falls and injury myself. I refuse to have to use a chair, as that will make my legs weaker and cause my balance abilities to deteriorate further! (What you don't use you lose!) I am stubborn and independent, just as so many others are! While I can communicate again, I still have severe problems with balance due to ataxia, and cognitive impairment with understanding things. My ability to judge things in the world in relation to me, is impaired (called proprioception). That is why when I walk around corners I bump into them, and when I go to look out the window, I bump my head on that. It really sucks that yesterday I didn't just damage me, but another's car. I smashed my truck into another car when I misjudged the parking spot. Countless other days I have avoided that from happening, but after more mold toxic damages to my brain with recent rains, then poisoning from the neighbor's laundry fragrances, I got worse. The additional brain inflammation from the toxic exposures were too much and impaired me further. Such a hassle trying to live and function with a non-working normally brain that shuts down with toxic exposures! When I went through that initial deterioration of brain and body function before discovering the causes and how to try to reverse the damages, my teenage son had no clue what was happening. Having cared for Alzheimer's and dementia patients as an RN, I knew what was happening, but didn't know how to fix it for a long time. You need to know the underlying contributors to the disease first, with accurate diagnoses. I could not get that, as a toxic-damaged former US Naval Nurse Corps Officer. The US govt only wants veterans dead and NOT healed and helped! But like you, with the love shared between people that really care about each other, my son's heart guided his care for me. I used to have my son do the thinking for me before I got answers and how to reverse some of the lost brain and body functions. It would be less stressful if you have no adult expectations of Heather, but think of her as a child that is unable to think and do for herself. Hope this helps! Hope Heather too can get some reversal of symptoms if under the care of an Environmental Medicine MD that will help identify brain/neurotoxic sources contributing to her problems, and provide treatments for improved health and healing. For me, I have come out of the downward spiral to death using alternative therapies and NO western medicine and big pharma drugs. Drugs can also cause dementia, especially statins. Be sure to look into that, too. A farmer I used to buy hay from, experienced that with his father. Once the statins were stopped, the brain function returned. So much to consider, and you need an expert in the field of Environmental Medicine for that! All the best, and be well!
@DaveDabomb
2 ай бұрын
That is so true John, things are never going to get any better. You are doing such a great job with Heather. My wife still uses utensils occasionally but like Heather she eats with her fingers now so I try to give her a lot of finger food. As far as bath or showers go, I now bathe her in the bed. She no longer gets in the shower anymore, but she experienced the very same symptoms as Heather. We have an organization called hospice and they send a caregiver three days a week to help me bathe her. We have only been using hospice for the past two years and they have been a tremendous help. Sounds like you have some great resources up there in Canada, that will really be of benefit to you! Take care! Dave!
@Marsee800
3 ай бұрын
Bless you for caring for her. I walked this journey with my mother, it is not an easy one.
@JohnvanGurp
3 ай бұрын
Thank you… I’m in it for the long haul here at home until either she gets her wings or I just can’t physically manage anymore.
@BeeHus2256
2 ай бұрын
Odd as this nay sound, and it took us a while to figure out, Mom had a horrible fear of snakes. As dementia over took her, she became fearful of the shower too. She thought the sprayer was a snake. What helped us figure it out was she started hissing one day and that made it "click" in my mind. She saw the sprayer as a snake. We had to remove it. I know... Such a fabulous clean up tool we could no longer use.
@robynjoyce5185
Ай бұрын
As a current dementia patient and former stylist. Shampoo and blow dry at a salon she may love it. I’m watching and cheering you two on!❤
@zeldamoore8371
Ай бұрын
My husband was not able to step into the shower & I bathed him pretty good by washing his hair over the sink & using a body wash made for patients that didn't need to be rinsed off. I did try to rinse with warm wash cloth but it was no big deal if residue was left. Left his skin very refreshed.
@rrichardson53
2 ай бұрын
My husband still uses utensils but I see other residents at his MC dining room using theirs hands to pick up food (or they fumble using utensils)
@kittyallison6359
3 ай бұрын
there are shower caps that have shampoo in them and u do not have to rinse the hair and there are clothes that are soaped that u can microwave to warm up and u doent have to rinse the soap off these product are made for cancer patients or bed bound people in the usa u can get the shower caps at walgreens and we bought the soap clothes at a pharmecy
@bobbibartley549
2 ай бұрын
Again, so similar to how it played out very late stage for my husband with FTD/Alz. He had hospice and they had someone come twice a week to bathe him. He started getting angry and threatening whenever encouraged to do anything and I had to make the terrible choice for him to be in a "care home". That was the last straw for him sadly.. But we can only do what we can do to keep them as well as ourselves safe. You're doing a wonderful job!
@juliamundt101
2 ай бұрын
My husband would perseverate on fears. His Dr gave him lorazepam on the regular to keep the fears at bay. Bonus, it helps him sleep as well.
@manueladarazsdi9675
2 ай бұрын
My mom passed away with Alzheimer's. I am aware of the struggles. You are doing a great job. I am jealous that you are living in beautiful Novia Scotia.
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
I’m sorry about your mom… The disease touches so many people. Thank you for your comment and yes, I feel very lucky to live here as well. Take good care!
@antoinettecastle4739
2 ай бұрын
How distressing seeing your beloved wife so frightened 😢 ((()))❤❤
@janonthelam3418
2 ай бұрын
John, would a small, sturdy seat in the shower help? Thanks for keeping us updated and you take care. 👍🏼♥️🇨🇦
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
The shower seat is an excellent suggestion and I’m planning to buy one. Thanks so much for your comments!
@toryberch
3 ай бұрын
Hi 👋 your video popped up in my feed and as a 59 yr old lady with Lewy Body Dementia I can empathize with your circumstances. I read recently about a no rinse cleansing foam for personal area cleaning and there are wipes and no rinse shampoos as well. I used to work in a nursing home and the biggest fear besides falling was the showers. Its the broken brain trying to make sense when it can't. Hang in there 💪 your an amazing husband 👍
@JohnvanGurp
3 ай бұрын
@@toryberch thank you for those tips… A couple of other people have suggested the same thing so I will definitely investigate and maybe put the products on the shelf here to be ready for when the time comes. I’m sorry about your diagnosis, but I guess with your nursing home background maybe you’re a little better prepared than most. Calling it a broken brain trying to make sense when it can’t is just the absolute best description of what’s going on. Thank you so much for your kind comments, maybe I’ll hear from you again. 😊
@juliamundt101
2 ай бұрын
We soap up my husband’s hair outside the shower and then rinse in the shower with the handheld wand. We have a built-in bench in the shower and that helps with fear of falling.
@toryberch
2 ай бұрын
@@juliamundt101 that sounds like a good idea thanks for sharing 😊
@HiPlainsThrifter
2 ай бұрын
Ah the fingers now need additional attention. This is when I implemented warm washcloths before and after meals. Kind of a Japanese idea I got while eating sushi. She and I both enjoyed it. I would use lotion after and I have to say it was a nice interaction in my memory of a really difficult journey. ❤
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
That’s actually kind of poetic and beautiful… Thanks for sharing!
@lisaneill8217
2 ай бұрын
God bless you John ❤
@charlottrkoehler8280
2 ай бұрын
GOD bless this man!
@nancisailormoy9135
3 ай бұрын
You are such a positive person on this difficult journey. I just found your videos this morning so catching up on Heather's diagnosis and journey. I followed Trey and Theresa Pippen down their road and he was also so a gentle caregiver. Bless you for all you do and the encouragement you offer to others.
@JohnvanGurp
3 ай бұрын
@@nancisailormoy9135 thank you for your very kind comments! I will have to look up Trey and Teresa… I hope you have a great rest of your day and I appreciate you visiting.
@Marty_Makes
2 ай бұрын
God Bless You!
@mswetra2610
3 ай бұрын
They do have products that can clean your body without much rinsing. There are also different types of wipes. When I was in the hospital they gave me full body wipes that worked really well. I'm no professional but it may help to extend the time between showers. Blessings to you on your journey 🙏🏽 ❤
@JohnvanGurp
3 ай бұрын
I’m definitely going to consider all options going forward. The fear I saw seems to have been just the start, so I’m hoping we get a little more time before it becomes a full blown issue. I’ll try changing the approach to showering to make it easier, but wipes and dry shampoo etc will be on my mind as things change. Thanks for your suggestions!
@vanman4923
2 ай бұрын
@@JohnvanGurpJohn - you can also buy a hair shampoo stand online. That way Heather can sit in a chair and lean her head back into the shampoo stand. It replicates the body position women are in at the hair salon. No fear of water in or on the face. We also bought a bath towel warmer that made drying off something to look forward to.
@lattymom1
3 ай бұрын
Thanks for this video. You must be going through things that some of us will never understand. I'm wondering how she would deal with a bath. Maybe put a large towel down first and just a little bit of water and set her in. Put bubbles in there as well and some soothing music. She may adapt to this. Cheers from Northern Canada.
@JohnvanGurp
3 ай бұрын
I certainly didn’t anticipate any of this so every milestone and change is a bit of a surprise to me, especially because she’s not presenting as the average or typical Alzheimer’s or dementia patient. I think because it’s early onset that it’s particularly aggressive, and coupled with the aphasia, it’s a special challenge. I actually tried her in the bath a couple of months ago and it doesn’t work anymore… Besides the stiffness of her body, I think there’s a fear of stepping over the edge of the bath. I think her depth perception is gone and there are other issues like that. The fact that she is unable to tell me what’s going on in her mind makes these things a little harder to sort through. Thanks so much for commenting!
@MariaDunleavy
2 ай бұрын
Hi john my name is maria i feel foe u my husband has Dementia we are in to our 4 year now he is age 66 its so heartbreaking i cry lots at times it can be so loneley may god bless youx
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
66 is too young! Take gentle care of yourself… Thanks for the comment.
@sonnykat462
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for doing these videos to educate us. Big hugs, it's not easy for you.
@dorothysalassi3593
Ай бұрын
When my husband needed to be spoon fed, I had to buy a baby spoon with plastic cover. He kept biting the regular spoons and chipped a tooth.
@janejdough2230
2 ай бұрын
Thank you
@emmek2814
2 ай бұрын
Maybe instead of hand-held shower, use a bucket and ladle? I grew up in the Philippines and that was how we 'showered' back in the day.
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
@@emmek2814 I will confess that’s something that’s never crossed my mind. It might be worth a try! Thanks for the suggestion, I appreciate it.
@leighannaray7400
2 ай бұрын
Hi John. They make a foaming body wash that doesn’t need rinsed off. If you live near a medical supply shop they will certainly have it. Amazon too I’m sure. This disease it so hard for both patient and caregiver. Lean on your loved ones. And humor really is the best medicine 😁
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for that tip, I will keep it on my list!
@DavidFraserYHZ
3 ай бұрын
You're a good man, John.
@tkwheeler4577
2 ай бұрын
We had to resort to microwave bath wipes. It was so hard to see a loved one who had always been so meticulous about cleanliness and appearance. When incontinence becomes a factor, you might have to use a barrier cream on their bottoms to keep the skin from breaking down
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
I certainly don’t have that on my radar, I never thought of it! I will definitely get some barrier cream and think about using it. I’m usually very quick to change her, and absolutely on top of it when there’s a number two accident.
@WdawgSmith
2 ай бұрын
Are you sure it’s not just a fear of being on a somewhat slippery surface in her bare feet ? The only reason I say that is I had slight vertigo and I the shower would make me almost faint For some reason it just gave a feeling like I was going to fall You also have to close your eyes in the shower a lot Just a thought I’m sure your right about the fear of water but figured I’d throw that in there Perhaps a bath would be a good way to check if it’s water or a stability issue Although I guess there isn’t much point It’s a shame that with this disease once something goes awry It stays awry Sorrry John We all feel for you both
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
@@WdawgSmith there may be an element of that. To that end about a week ago I got a rubber noslip shower mat and I’m sure it seems to have helped.
@rchrdjms62
2 ай бұрын
You may need to decide what your red line is. At what point must you consider other care for her? To not do so ahead of time you may tend to let things slide until it gets very bad.
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
That’s a really tough question to answer… I can’t come up with one.
@rchrdjms62
2 ай бұрын
@@JohnvanGurp we all admire you for your kindness, strength, and assistance to your lovely wife. Maybe I wish that I could have vlogged when I went through hell taking care of my mother. Nobody's ever said they admired me or appreciated my effort, including family members who didn't help so much.
@kandiceblu1
2 ай бұрын
Maybe call in a part-time aid to help a couple days a week with "things "like that.... showering etc.
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
Funny thing is that I had a private agency in for a half day per week. My aim was to train them up to do the morning routine so I could escape or sleep in or whatever. I wanted them at 8am, which truthfully was already probably later than it should have been but I guessed their shifts would start at that time. The agency asked that I adjust it to 8:30am as the care worker’s bus didn’t leave earlier, and I agreed. It turns out that by 8:30 am everything is already done… the whole busy morning routine is complete by then. Plus, I stay on top of house cleaning and meal prep on my own during the week, and the best way for Heather to get showered is with me joining her, and I’m sure that’s not how a care worker would do it, and I cancelled the service. I just found it wasn’t necessary and I was sort of making up chores to keep them busy. That might all change at some point and I won’t hesitate to get in-house help, maybe full time, but for now I’m on top of things.
@kandiceblu1
2 ай бұрын
@@JohnvanGurp sounds like a plan ..OK I wish you well with everything.. and you're doing an amazing job
@GrandadsOtherChannel
3 ай бұрын
Thank you, John. Keep going 👍
@jimmywarren6685
3 ай бұрын
Prayers for you!
@cremebrulee4759
2 ай бұрын
I think they make a handheld shower that has an on-off control on the handheld section so that you can turn it on and off without having to reach the regular water controls. Also, I have scene like suction cups to stick onto the sidewall of the shower to hold the handheld spray. Just a couple of suggestions that might help you with the shower experience.
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for the suggestions!
@wendingourway
3 ай бұрын
Maybe try a tub chair with a hand-held shower with a long hose. May have to just turn the water on to a trickle also to work through the fear. All the very best!!
@JohnvanGurp
3 ай бұрын
@@wendingourway I think I’m gonna end up with a chair in the shower, yes
@rutniktrainer
3 ай бұрын
My Mom had Alzheimer's until she passed. My Dad is losing some abilities but not as bad.
@JohnvanGurp
3 ай бұрын
I’m sorry to hear that… It’s so common, but it’s brutal.
@ossier2796
26 күн бұрын
Oh my I can’t get my loved one to shower or even let me wash him off outside of the shower.
@JohnvanGurp
24 күн бұрын
How do you manage? It sounds very frustrating
@Bazerkly
Ай бұрын
I care for my mother and Anxiety has been a major issue going to the point of not wanting to get out of bed.Check with her Doc there are some very good anti-anxiety meds. Do not let them give her Haldol. That is a very old med that turns them into a Zomby....
@minkaoppey7469
2 ай бұрын
Just a suggestion, cover her with a thin towel so she’s not feeling exposed while you clean her.
@JammyGit
2 ай бұрын
Hi mate, have you tried using medicinal cannabis to treat your wife with? I have read of it being used to treat dementia. All the best ✌️
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
She felt really uncomfortable using cannabis the last few times so I avoid it. Thanks though! I appreciate the suggestion.
@YumiSensei-t2g
Ай бұрын
Did she have a stroke? Is this how her dementia started? What is Heather’s type of dementia? You are AMAZING.
@JohnvanGurp
Ай бұрын
No sign of a stroke, according to the CT scan. However, it’s consistent with primary progressive aphasia.
@wichitatxgal
2 ай бұрын
Well how about bath toys and they need to be washed! She holds one and you put soap on the toy. Scrub it. Get her a shower bench to sit. Bench better than stool. Play some classical music from your phone. Something soothing. Don’t start with hair! Start with feet, legs, slowly - hair. ❤
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
It’s a good suggestion, but she won’t take baths anymore.
@middlemarie2
2 ай бұрын
Is she on a waitlist for a care home? Wait lists in my city are years long even for emergency placements. As for the shower, she may be losing her ability to sense her body in space
@JohnvanGurp
2 ай бұрын
She’s not on a waitlist, although this has been recommended to me. It’s something to think about because even if I don’t accept a placement, she would be in the system. I agree with you about her, losing the ability to where her body is in space. I think that is common. Thanks for your comment, I really appreciate it.
@dimpsthealien333
Ай бұрын
Hi John. What type of dementia does your wife have? My mom has Vascular. 😢
@JohnvanGurp
Ай бұрын
Logopenic primary progressive aphasia and general dementia… I didn’t get any further diagnosis beyond that.
@dimpsthealien333
Ай бұрын
@JohnvanGurp wow! That's a mouthful. I'm so sorry, friend. It rips us up to watch our best friends decline. You are doing fantastic. You probably have times you feel like a jerk. But you are doing your best and are only human. It's a lot! But I'm glad you are getting more help.
@SuperBotanica
3 ай бұрын
I have heard that patients with dementia/Alzheimer have very good success with the carnivore diet
@JohnvanGurp
3 ай бұрын
We are plant-based here in the house, so I don’t think we would do that, plus she already has significant atrophy of the brain so there’s no going back. Thanks though!
@lisawall9068
2 ай бұрын
@@JohnvanGurpyou’re vegetarian. There’s yet another reason to like you.😀
@brendamorrison1434
3 ай бұрын
If they have a fear of stairs , you can get them down sadly by turning them around and having them go down facing backwards. I would think having her sit facing away from the shower in the tub chair you could then put the water on without her seeing it. If the noise bothers or affects her maybe putting in ear plugs first would help. Just some ideas to try. My Dad had Alzheimer’s . Hope this helps
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