Hey Stranger, even tho I don't know you, I can relate to you on a deep lvl. Thank you for talking about this and making me not feel so alone
@encouragingb
3 ай бұрын
Hi
@vomgurl
2 ай бұрын
i grew up in a very dysfunctional and verbally abusive household, my whole childhood my mother used my sensory issues to make me listen to her, as i was seen as "defiant", no matter how i said things, no matter how much i listened before that, she would purposefully yell at me just to get me to fall in line. my youngest sister (im the oldest of 3 kids, im 20 right now) has been recognised as autistic her whole life, mostly because she has the more "male" autism symptoms. ive felt like an imposter my entire life, cause whenever id bring up my symptoms people would just brush it off or dismiss it as a possibility whatsoever. i got the classic "you dont LOOK autistic or ACT autistic" whenever i started considering i also am autistic, despite nobody realising what masking is and not listening or not understanding when i tried to explain it. example: my stims and sensory overload symptoms would be explained away, it being "just anxiety", my irrational dislike of any change being dismissed and my mother telling me "we all need to deal with change, thats normal for everyone", girls not getting along with me and instantly disliking me, my selective mutism being something people forced me to ignore because if i didnt my mother would punish me, ive been seen as "the defiant kid" or "the problem child" despite my behaviors and symptoms being extremely similar to my sister's, (both of my siblings have adhd and autism), getting along really well with autistic people at school and in the neighborhood more than other children, etc. thats just the tip of the iceberg with my symptoms and yet, people still dont believe me. thank you for making this video, you brought me alot of comfort knowing that im not broken, that i DO need help, and that im not just "pretending" to make people feel bad for me. im going to save this video for later to take notes and so i can show it to someone who will actually listen, like my doctor and grandma. youre a life saver, seriously. ive never been able to properly describe my symptoms like you can and your video will help so many other people like me, im sure of it 🩷
@encouragingb
2 ай бұрын
Hi sweet girl, I am so SO sorry to hear all of this and what you went through/are going through. This is a VERY real thing and your experience is so important and valid. I want you to know that. You are NOT a burden, you are NOT defiant, you are NOT a problem child. Let me tell you a list of things that YOU ARE: You are kind, expressive, loved, UNDERSTOOD, caring, beautiful (inside & out), you ARE easy to get along with (the right people will find you & you will find your people..this is something I’ve learned at 25!), you are so deserving of someone to listen to you and to hear you and see you! I promise you that. Please never blame yourself, it is not your fault. I know it’s easier said than done (I still struggle with this). While I am absolutely heartbroken to hear your story, I can find similarities in my own experience of growing up and even still today. The selective mutism and bullying being one of them and aversion to change (as mentioned in my video). I’m glad you’ve saved this video for later, and I hope you can get the answers you are looking for, please don’t give up on that and keep trying to find someone who will listen to you and not dismiss you (as far as doctors and possible evaluation). thank you for your kind words. It’s comments like these that keep me going with my channel. I’m glad this brought you comfort. 🤍 Sending you SO much love, strength, positivity and remember to extend that kindness that you give to others, to yourself. You are never ever alone. You are wonderful. Know that. 🤍🫶🏻
@NathanClouse-ox1ln
3 ай бұрын
Love the video and your dog
@encouragingb
3 ай бұрын
Thanks Nathan! You’re awesome! :)
@T.K.P.
24 күн бұрын
About the eye contact issue, i figured that out by 19, As long as you keep them busy in talking, you can look as long as you want, as much as you want and wherever you want. There's no issue, don't even worry about that even for a sec.
@encouragingb
24 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind words! I deeply appreciate you commenting! Means a lot!
@T.K.P.
24 күн бұрын
I'm a guy and i totally agree, growing up your example of "hello" in my ear and waving hand in my eyes and stoping me from seeing really made me flip, and that made me called or branded as abnormal. But that's past 10 years now. Since those normal people discredit, humiliate and dehumanise us, i say we are the normal people, they just fear the normal people, the whole system and world is broken, because it's run by these people, we have to make our own system/world, the system by autistic and adhd people.
@encouragingb
24 күн бұрын
Ahh!! What a great perspective! Thank you for sharing, and I’m very sorry that happened to you as well! #AutisticsUnite! #MakeOurOwnWorld :)
@kairamirez067
3 ай бұрын
I’ve been struggling and this helped me. Thx for sharing your experiences.
@encouragingb
3 ай бұрын
Your struggle is so so valid and important. Thank you for taking the time to watch, I really appreciate you!!
@mattthebassboy
3 ай бұрын
Thanks for the video princess
@encouragingb
3 ай бұрын
Ah you’re so nice! Thank YOU for watching Matty! I appreciate you!
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