I wish he was my lawyer- need him real bad. going through a divorce with a narcissistic husband. he’s trying to take everything I work so hard for.
@NerdNest0
21 күн бұрын
@@EvelynSierra-q3i😢
@coogs9335
17 күн бұрын
Not all lawyers are money hungry greedy, selfish...etc...this gentleman is authentic non bullshx
@Artchick1972
11 күн бұрын
I agree
@robertnielson9559
Ай бұрын
I would love to have a couple of cups of coffee with this guy. Extremely intelligent man.
@marklouis1890
29 күн бұрын
Very well spoken and articulate
@growing367
Ай бұрын
0:20 **Say nothing. Make them repeat 1:05 **Be persuasive 1:30 Be 2nd 2:00 **Make them 1st 2:39 "Because I know"3:00 3:28 **Use your voice for persuasion3:42 4:35 **Care what other say, Ppl know not authentic 5:55 **Be likeable, compliment them6:30 7:00 Surface level connections 7:35 8:15 Small talk, 8:45 Ask for preferences 9:30 **Give conversation options 10:30 Open ended/Close ended questions 11:14 ppl love to talk abput themselves 11:44 **Stop being in ur head, Listen 12:06 **Listen then Focus on what ur gonna Ask next 13:35 **Listen Learn more abt thm 80/20 talk 14:03 **Ask deeper questions 15:00 **How to make ppl trust you, Cr8 safe space 15:48 Acknowledge thm wht thy did, thr presnce 16:30 17:55 "yeah you're right"19:10 18:10 **Stay flexible, not too loose, not too tight 19:31*Pick out the deeper core issues layers20:34 21:00 why wife mad 22:00 Adress root causes 22:40 **Give ppl space to be themselves & vent out 23:15 Navigate disagreements 24:05 **Have a frame, Tell them how u want the convo/outcome to end 25:43 they lash out if u just go with the issues 26:00 where is this convo frame going? 26:45 if you arent able set frame, them insults 27:40 **Use Silence & Set a Boundary 29:07 #1 Boundaries, Tell what u want & how it will end 29:31 *Communicate Low & Slow 30:08 Very tensed inside emotionally charged 30:50 **Detach urself & Look objectively 31:15 if they say something nasty.. **Use silence & make them repeat it 32:20 ppl have imaginary convos arguments in their heads 33:15 they just react, ppl cant accept the fact they're wrong 33:58 how do u know if ur overreact & how do u redeem ourselves 34:05 **Acknowledge it & make them acknowledge what they did 34:30 35:30 dont overapologize 36:20 apology is for urself 37:00 How to know if they're lying 37:40 **Observe them & Make them repeat what they said 38:20 their words dribble out when they lie 39:35 u brushed ur teeth? 40:15 **Make it as easy for them to tell the truth 40:35 When you attack they clinch it more 41:38 not feel doubt with old crowd 42:00 Be consistent 42:47 43:30 **Stay humble & handle pressure criticism 45:06 **Keep friends few & close 45:59 **Be in service to people 46:50 **Gain wisdom 48:00 **Keep doing what youre doing, patient, consistent48:40
@KM-wv2og
Ай бұрын
Thank you, it must have taken a lot of time and effort for you to do that for us!
@Soulenergy31
Ай бұрын
Thank you bro!
@jackintheforest
18 күн бұрын
Wow. Excellent! Thank you for taking the time to summarize. Absolutely relevant in life. I’ll be using this. 🎉🎉🎉🎉You won my membership.
@jenseaglasssoul2824
7 күн бұрын
Jefferson Fisher is has so much wisdom.
@DWMtukwila
Ай бұрын
I am a retired teacher who just started watching your videos. I taught various subjects. What I am sure of is how practical and useful it would be for every student to learn and practice what you are teaching me! I would say to to people if they asked me "what do you teach," and my reply would be "I teach children or students if they are high school age. I think the whole idea is to help students to be successful in their lives academically and personally. They go hand in hand. I would love to see workshops for teachers using your knowledge and wisdom.
@user-jl7jr8mj3q
29 күн бұрын
"You will always find more happiness by being last. " Thank you for helping me.
@jodiburnett6211
20 күн бұрын
“Say That Again For Me?” Watch them dance. Amen!
@candacecrute9313
26 күн бұрын
I'm a volunteer mediator in Bexar County. Though I had a full 30-year career in the military, I have really wanted to go to law school. Your videos have inspired me so much. Thank you, Counselor 🙏🏽
@roballan2004
Ай бұрын
I rarely comment on videos, but the host and the guest were fantastic. Asking great questions and providing clear and helpful responses. Kudos and I thank you Both for the excellent content!
@rizzo3170
3 ай бұрын
Yep -- I always use silence -- then low and slow always. If that does not work - move away and create space until they calm down.
@CarsonBoyd
Ай бұрын
Wow, you are a brilliant example of good character. My hat is off to you sir. I don't think I could admire you more.
@cheriedye5772
8 ай бұрын
Love him! I have applied his tips in my real life and they really work such as how to not get angry in an argument.
@tauseefasad
3 ай бұрын
I love this guy ngl! He really changed the way I conversate
@treesap2
3 ай бұрын
Converse. You don't have to make up a new word. The word is converse.
@theresatomasello1843
Ай бұрын
Is conversaré a word??
@edenwalsh1014
9 күн бұрын
It's ok. I get what you mean. 😊
@MyHomeVideosByPDWarner
Ай бұрын
This lawyer is amazing!!!
@photoshopphotographyimagee3273
Ай бұрын
This lawyer is soooo good!!!
@phoebeweston1055
6 күн бұрын
Find myself looking so forward to hearing Jefferson's tips .....not only is it helpful in business but in everyday relationships. I studied Stephen Covey...How to Win Friends and influence Enemies and it changed my life. Jefferson is a modern day version of❤
@CurtisCadwalader
Ай бұрын
Was able to take many great lessons from this video, big THANK YOU!
@sarahyip2825
25 күн бұрын
Watching this a 2nd time on a Sunday and getting sooo much more... Great content aside, the low n slow yet thoughtful responses well demonstrate Jefferson's manner of authentic engagement. We don't see nor hear enough of such interactions, not at home nor at work! And being consistent at it-a high calling especially for a lawyer! It's an EQ class all its own. You'd think such thoughtful low n slow manner can only be found among loving grandparents! 😊 Well so happy an articulate yet grounded lawyer is showing the way. Every conscientious person young or old gains from seeing this authentic and purposeful way of engaging. Promote and make room for mutuality-it can be a way of life even for lawyers! Should the frame of mutuality break and egos get in the way, stop and re-engage another day. So good!
@pattithiel7342
29 күн бұрын
I’m a huge follower. I’m pleased that I’m locating your site much easier and your topics you nail it! 😊
@crissycobain8361
7 ай бұрын
I love how you are so passionate about arguing Jefferson. I can see it in your facial expression. It's exactly what I need. Thank you!
@debbieharvey6307
20 күн бұрын
I find your advice is so realistic and if applied it works wonderfully.
@debbielickey8024
3 ай бұрын
Can you make video on how to respond to someone who acts irritated at you in a passive aggressive manner
@judithryan783
25 күн бұрын
Yes, this is difficult. I’d like to learn more because I encounter this with teenagers and it can be hard to move the situation’s forward in a constructive way.
@elizabethmedina874
23 күн бұрын
I wish everybody everywhere truly care to learn from these videos. Also wish that these skills can be taught in every school and a must to pass no matter what grad even college.
@derrickpigatt5195
7 ай бұрын
My misconception of “argument” almost had me skip this dialogue. I’m glad i clicked
@MelHS-gr4lv
3 ай бұрын
it's clickbait titles with that LOL that is crazy and what is with that :D however sometimes interesting information to find
@artisticexpressions59
Ай бұрын
I love listening to your video shorts, they've helped me a lot in dealing with some challenging situations, even with my own family members..looking forward to watching more!😊Thx!
@teapotrose2
9 күн бұрын
You have the kindest eyes. Thank you for taking helping us.
@finderskeepers4327
Ай бұрын
Jefferson Fisher is excellent
@lb1049
5 ай бұрын
So wise and helpful! Thank you for sharing!
@andrew.gardiner
Ай бұрын
Thank you for creating this video. Jefferson makes a lot of sense… and I sincerely hope he makes a lot of dollars too :-). Namely, because his “voice”, message and content, are extremely valuable and worthwhile. To put it another way, I would be both delighted AND grateful to have him as my friend, confidant, therapist and yes, by all means, my attorney….. or all of the above. IOW there is not a doubt in my mind that his ‘message’, is directly & indirectly having a positive impact on the world at large. He’s certainly had a profound impact on me, and in turn, on the people in my life, for which I am extremely thankful. XOXO Andrew
@colleendavid9457
8 ай бұрын
Excellent as always. Aside from the “trail lawyer” misspell.
@JuliePayne
7 ай бұрын
😂
@delmamoreno4509
Ай бұрын
Aww ..just couldn’t let it slide ..😊
@cathymontano569
6 ай бұрын
Outstanding!
@judithryan783
25 күн бұрын
Ditto for all teachers! Especially new teachers.
@yogi9631
9 күн бұрын
A lawyer in Australia is very different to that in America. We mainly used sworn affidavits vs real testimonies…. Only a short period o us time is used verbally in court. All evidence are written affidavits..!! Nothing like what we see on TV dramas!!
@Abulls33
3 ай бұрын
“So try that and follow me” - Jefferson Fisher
@lindamitchell3393
5 ай бұрын
So great! Love him
@CathyVinglish
27 күн бұрын
You always give good advice
@Cyd1057
5 ай бұрын
Terrific interview and insights - thanks!
@stefanieconklin9046
20 күн бұрын
Profound!
@brandyk
Ай бұрын
Excellent points but he is missing in this video anyway the common situations most people face where they can not simply walk sway or say thet they wont be spoken to that way. Both of those scenarios involve a power dynamic in which both parties are equal or the person being lashed out at is higher in status in the relationship anyway. And while i do think its generous n often beneficial to extend to people some grace especially a stranger who you're unlikely to see again it can very easily with even half way decent people turn into abuse that continues over time with rhem feeling safe to lash out at you whenecer they are upset n while not everyone makes a concioud decision on who to do this with it can become an unconscious reflex n habit. But i guess i just answered my own question. You can give them grace the first time or two but then a conversation may be necessary. The problem with that bowever is yiu may likely remember these 2 situations very clearly n them far less so bc yiu were goid enough not to make a big issue of it, by the time you decide yo bring up what you now see as a pattern,maby people will be defensive and deny it. That only adds to the problem. What i have also found about people who don't show humility and adk for forgiveness in treating you poorly or lashing out is they dont always like not getting you angry n see your kindness n skills as you acting or thinking yiu are better than them. This often will make them more angry. I know this sounds crazy but i have seen this dynamic play out so often n not just in my own life. Its as if they resent you n will continue to look for opportunities to take you away from what they see as yiu being better than them. I believe this is why aloy of people actually say what they mean n been afraid to say for sine time when they are drinking alot. There's a better chance that the other person whos also drinking will argue back n maybr say some inappropriate things n the truth is as dysfunctional as that is, it often has a better outcome at least in the short term n maybe to an extent the long term. I have found in my own life that taking the high road can be very lonely. I dont regret it but don't expect the average person to join yiu there. But i certainly wont get into the mud wirh them.
@sarahyip2825
Ай бұрын
Great points about power dynamics, being gracious then being taken for granted (and bullied) over time. Usually some kind soul who has a slight power advantage lets the other one come up to some semblance of equal status and in the process, over time, the one being given face will grab more and more, almost as a birthright! So yeah, keeping some sort of power dynamics in tone and in interactions may be what's needed for our own protection. Take care!
@iw9338
10 күн бұрын
thanks very much
@ellekay1721
Ай бұрын
Idk, my ex husband used to dismiss anything I was upset with him about by claiming it was really something else unrelated to him. Because of course, it couldn’t be him. No, I was upset with him directly because of his actions. Or lack of.
@2coryman
Ай бұрын
I like the advices, like chase wisdom etc
@tiagoborges6487
3 ай бұрын
Great video
@AleksanderKoskinen-xx
Ай бұрын
Referring to the headline about winning every argument: when you think about it a bit more, it's incredibly destructive to strive to win every single argument in every conversation throughout your life. It sounds like the delusional dream of a pathological narcissist, where the narcissist is always right and their views are never questioned.
@hannahmanager7646
6 ай бұрын
1:32 damn this question😮 how about adding to the end of this sentence to complete the question by saying ; “in a way that is authentic and genuinely honest rather than being like any other attorney and persuading to be deceitful”?
@mel3256
8 күн бұрын
Alot of this is taught in journalism school. Just decent people skills...What if you need to work with people you genuinely don't like or care for?...
@cynthiadevries3295
Ай бұрын
Hi Jefferson, how do you react on people you like but they always tend to take over your story immedeately with a bigger story? Thanks!
@HelotesHellRaiser
Ай бұрын
Take this advice it will save you a lot of grief
@knowy1713
Ай бұрын
He should have become a Christian preacher. Would be affective. He has natural puppy eyes which earns a lot of trust.
@delmamoreno4509
Ай бұрын
Right?!
@AS-yh6xu
16 күн бұрын
If only lawyers were not crazy expensive charging for every minute and every word…
@MellowBellow1
4 күн бұрын
Nope. If someone insists on talking to me in order to get their way. It’s a no. If you can’t put what you want in writing, then don’t negotiate. If you can’t play fair in writing. I walk away. No deal.
@carolynredinger439
9 күн бұрын
Beware if you try using these vulnerable, empathetic techniques with narcissists, sociopaths, and/or psychopaths.
@carlosnavarrete5164
14 сағат бұрын
So, what are your recommendations with dealing with such behaviors.
@carolynredinger439
13 сағат бұрын
@@carlosnavarrete5164 For "Dark Triad" individuals, experts recommend limiting interaction (only absolutely necessary), staying detached, enforcing boundaries, refuting gas-lighting (e.g. "that's not what I heard"), and maintaining a flat affect ( so-called "grey rock"). Don't argue, or take bait to argue; keep it surgical, unemotional, only as necessary, and brief. You can be civil, but stay cooly detached and be willing to walk away if their behavior is abusive. You can't "win them over" or make them care about your feelings. They are unable to feel empathy and have agendas that are always bad for you. Diagnosed narcissists are rare, but only because they would rather die than admit they have a problem, so they don't go for help and don't cooperate/behave honestly if sent. There are lots of these people in society. I suggest watching/reading some experts like Dr. Ramini so that you recognize when you are dealing with these toxic types. Narcissism is much more that ego, which is sometimes hidden, it's incredibly destructive to the people in the narcissist's sphere of influence, whether at work, in families, or romantic partners. I suggest paying special attention to recognizing "covert narcissists." They work hard to seem to be victims/angels. But, they are the proverbial wolves in sheep's clothing. One doctor described them as hidden assassins. You won't sense the "gun" until the "bullet" hits you. There is overlap between these dangerous personality types, as well.
@stevenreeves9092
Ай бұрын
But what if the person isn't reasonable or care about actual facts?
@PSA3377
Ай бұрын
-here's a hack to seem authentic 😂signed an Attorney
@leeboriack8054
Ай бұрын
Do you want to be right or be happy?
@brandyk
Ай бұрын
I never liked that oft repeated expression. As I see it it should not be an either or proposition. That's not to say you should try to win every argument or even have every argument. If you are around people who never think your right or your position is valid you're not likely to be happy either unless you're a doormat. But they're not truly happy either.
@sarahyip2825
25 күн бұрын
@@brandyk In moments where emotions are high, being right is least useful. Egos come out and that can be ugly. Out of that moment and where opportunity presents itself later, some assertions may be attempted. But only if the person you're dealing with deserves the truth and knows what to do with it. Otherwise, walk away. A sad option but it protects us from more of the same nonsense.
@-Joann
6 ай бұрын
💜
@SGUKCSDFDF
Ай бұрын
hes a trial lawyer not a trail lawyer as indicated
@GodHelpMe369
4 ай бұрын
here's what I'm working on... I'm desperately struggling... I need prayers. I need guidance. I need help. I need a miracle. MY VOICE HAS BEEN SILENCED MY WHOLE DAMN LIFE. MY BEAUTIFUL SACRED MIRACULOUS VOICE. MY VOICE IS MY MAGICAL GIFT OF TRANSMUTATION! that being said, all my life... I have given people access to me in ways that I should not have granted them access now, I want to scream at the top of my lungs: FUCK OFF!! YOU DO NOT GET TO HAVE ACCESS TO ME IN THAT WAY!! THE DOOR IS NOT OPEN!! YOU MAY NOT COME IN!! ACCESS DENIED!! but fuck, so much easier said than done. I've been programmed my whole life to be silent, conditioned to have no boundaries... so how, now, at 44 years old, do I change this all around? (may those whom I loathe suffer for all eternity for what they've done to me! TRULY.)
@corby1228
Ай бұрын
I listen then calmly say they are causing me problems
@planetbizzaro1839
Ай бұрын
Yeah ok great. Now go live and quit whining. You're not alone nor specifically wrong in any way.
@jeaha5871
Ай бұрын
Welp, gonna be 60 next month……so, you have 16 years of time being ahead!! From my perspective, find forgiveness (for all those blamed, and then yourself [for blamimg]) Everything happens for a reason. This too shall pass. Your choice; be bitter. Be better. When you know better, you do better!! Um, that goes for both sides, yourself and them. No one has the power to make you feel (*something/anything*) without you giving permission. The only competition for all of us,, is to improve your life for your own good. Try this; intentionally smile or wave to at least 5 strangers. You have no idea what other people are going thru. I assure you, there are people who would gladly trade your troubles for theirs. Choose happy, you are uniquely made. Xoxo💜
@henrynguyen3993
16 күн бұрын
❤
@mac-ju5ot
Ай бұрын
Just having a conversation eith a man eho has all the red flags manipulators are so hard to soot
@francesbernard2445
24 күн бұрын
We human beings are not dogs who need to be told we have to be someone's best friend or else be treated like only a trash lie and a liar always.
@marlenebronson2681
2 күн бұрын
Lawyers do this?
@MadMal2024
5 күн бұрын
Why would you want to win every argument and take all the fun out of life?
@photoshopphotographyimagee3273
Ай бұрын
That's not correct. I do not like to talk about myslelf...
@planetbizzaro1839
Ай бұрын
Shouldn't it be about finding the truth? Shouldn't Law be determining what ACTUALLY happened and NOT just about "winning a case"? Padding your "record"?
@lennybuttz2162
12 күн бұрын
How many channels do you have? Why do you keep popping up on my feed? I never watch these types of videos. Again I'm going to click on "Do not recommend Channel and i will keep clicking on that until I stop seeing your face.
@sophie_siesta_art
Ай бұрын
No other species are that interested to validate their peers using competent communication skills for use or even just the sole joy of it.
@mariesmith5670
16 күн бұрын
Same old same old from a lawyer…how to manipulate people 101
@carlbeaver7112
8 ай бұрын
If it takes 49 minutes to say it I'll just walk away and not give a damn.
@ladysnowblood
8 ай бұрын
thanks man!
@themandinkafamily
8 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@blackwolfthedragonmaster
5 ай бұрын
Can you say that again for me? ;)
@mikebirnie6381
3 ай бұрын
Then it takes 49 minutes...
@abbybia3113
3 ай бұрын
In your case, not even a second would solve it
@fitnesssoup7553
Ай бұрын
I'm not sure what it is about tnis guy. Something about him is off. He seems like a guy that's comfortable manipulating.
@growing367
Ай бұрын
Thats just you projecting your qualities
@fitnesssoup7553
Ай бұрын
@@growing367 You think that I'm projecting my qualities
@davidyates8457
Ай бұрын
Would you mind repeating that? I'm not sure what you mean
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