Thank you so much for watching my video and your thoughts on it 🙏🏽 This is a difficult but necessary conversation I appreciated our support 🥰
@queeniebeaniesboys1447
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. 💜🌸
@SarahA196
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story! ❤️
@darbydeford6270
4 жыл бұрын
Sending so much love to you ❤️
@Ali_D_Katt
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing. It's not easy drudging up all those old feelings then laying them all out there for everyone to see. You're stronger and possess more inner light than you give yourself credit for. Your video is so well done. I wish you nothing but the best in future.
@WolfStreak
4 жыл бұрын
So brave of you to put yourself out there. You should reach out and talk to John, maybe do an interview. Or maybe just check out his discord. It's a supportive community!
@UncleMikeDrop
4 жыл бұрын
It also doesn't help that most of the cultures that take the declining of food as an insult just so happened to make ridiculously delicious food.
@StarlightPrism
4 жыл бұрын
Well, if a culture with bad food tried to do it, their whole society would collapse lol.
@UncleMikeDrop
4 жыл бұрын
@@StarlightPrism Maybe it's a form of culinary natural selection they won't teach us about in history. The bad cooks through reduced mating opportunities and the occasional kitchen murdet, died out. LOL
@darkdemonqueen
4 жыл бұрын
Mike Vasquez ha ha interesting theory!
@UncleMikeDrop
4 жыл бұрын
@@Callimo Why do you think they make such ridiculously delicious food? Food scarcity forced them to be creative and coming to a place with lots of food was the culinary equivalent of dropping a weight class. Now they are creative with good ingredients.
@user-rz4xl7ro4w
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah...foodie culture isn’t to blame here. One can limit their eating in special events, maybe skip breakfast and lunch for a major event or whatever.
@paradoxieart
4 жыл бұрын
its so sad that the fat acceptance movement is toxic. I mean I’m getting to the point where I’m scared to talk about my weightloss journey eventhough its such a big part of my life :( I trust u guys and I have to share it somewhere or else I‘m gonna explode lol I started my journey this year in May 18th at (i guess, I didnt have a scale) 120kg/265lbs and now I‘m at 101kg/222lbs and cant wait to drop under 100kg 😭 I know no one asked I’m sorry 🥺 Have a nice day and stay safe 💕 Edit: OMG GUYS WHAT IS THIIIS 😭💕 I‘m so overwhelmed you all are amaziiiing! Thank you so so so muuuch for the kind words, encouragements, recommendations 😱💕💕 and Updatee I‘m finally at 99,6kg so I‘m finallyyyy under 100 ☺️ #Update november 9th: 204lbs / 92,7kg 🥳🥰 #Update december 29th: 195lbs/ 88,5kg ✨☺️💕 #Update March 2021 its been a rough winter ^^' 187lbs/ 85kg #Update June 2021 its a sad Update because my mum is very sick and this time it doesnt look so good for her, I still try to keep track but I gained weight sadly. 190lbs / 86,2kg I hope I can give u a better Update next time Thank youuu for all the nice comments its unreaaaal I‘ll keep you updated 💃🏻
@hannap8052
4 жыл бұрын
Congrats and good luck ❤️
@karlvelker1776
4 жыл бұрын
That's awsome keep up the good work. I hope you hit you goals. I'm still working on mine.
@Massielnh
4 жыл бұрын
Yes, The movement is terrible. I use to be a part of it as well. BIG Time congrats on the weight loss. so inspiring. keep up the good work.
@CoushattaL
4 жыл бұрын
Congratulations!!! That is great!! Taking control of your health is such a beautiful thing.
@tkps
4 жыл бұрын
You should be very proud of yourself. I'm sure there will be support groups out there for people who do want to get healthy. It sounds like you're on the right track so good for you and I hope you succeed with your goals.
@furryavacado8000
4 жыл бұрын
That quote in your end card, "FITNESS IS NOT ABOUT BEING BETTER THAN SOMEONE ELSE, IT'S ABOUT BEING BETTER THAN YOU USED TO BE", I need that on several shirts to work out
@LoveMyUnusual
3 жыл бұрын
Seconded! ✌🏾
@chaitrak.s3943
3 жыл бұрын
Yes please!
@ellcharlotte
3 жыл бұрын
say it louder for the people in the back👏🏼
@wanonahalgenon7446
3 жыл бұрын
❤️
@A_Turner
3 жыл бұрын
"When you start competing against others, you become bitter. When you start competing against yourself, you become better." -Will Tennyson
@Phantom95179
4 жыл бұрын
“8th graders will make fun of you but in an accurate way."
@eller.6322
4 жыл бұрын
John Mulaney lmao
@jesorinsekwa4054
4 жыл бұрын
Look at that man with his feminine hips
@lorabetht9206
4 жыл бұрын
I have an 8th grade girl 😰
@howdytherestranger2139
4 жыл бұрын
I was looking for that in the chat and not one person said it lol
@myishenhaines1706
4 жыл бұрын
Just like adults....
@AngryPanda.
4 жыл бұрын
"One day I found Tess Holiday" John: "uh oh" 😅
@TheAdrift
4 жыл бұрын
“Why do I hear boss music?”
@sxukablajt6299
3 жыл бұрын
😂
@alessandrocoppede3066
3 жыл бұрын
"One day I found the cult leader"/"One day I found God"
@bb7961
3 жыл бұрын
😂😂
@A_Turner
3 жыл бұрын
We all had the same reaction to that line 🤣
@sabbath2112
4 жыл бұрын
in the words of Jordan Shrinks: “i wasn’t healthy because i was exercising [despite being obese], i was healthy because i was 20”
@drsalka
3 жыл бұрын
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@helloesthertv3960
4 жыл бұрын
I'M Mexican and it is really hard, when we have to say "NO" friends and family get mad or offended when you say no.
@thornofrage794
4 жыл бұрын
Relatable! I’m from an Asian family (Bangladeshi) and boy it’s ridiculous how people get offended when you politely say no to food.
@karinarodriguez3519
4 жыл бұрын
They also won’t stop asking if you keep saying no. I know they do it with good intentions but they should think about it deeper and the effects it could have.
@thornofrage794
4 жыл бұрын
karina rodriguez Exactly!!! I suffer from bulimia and I’d feel guilty as hell if I was told to eat more. I get provoked very easily as it will cause me to lash out.
@reynoldgreenleaf6368
4 жыл бұрын
Thorn Of Rage I’m pretty sure the idea of not saying no to food goes back to a time when it wouldn’t have been a problem because all the extra calories would have been burned off from working on the field all day. Old traditions die hard.
@karinarodriguez3519
4 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to hear that! I know old traditions are hard to break that’s how their parents were so they pass down the traditions. In other counties people are more active than here in America so it was easier to burn the calories they were also more organic healthier foods.
@Awall79
4 жыл бұрын
I'm a middle/high school teacher....middle schoolers are scary. They get better as they get older but that in between age is just hormones and bad judgement a lot of the time.
@jill9606
4 жыл бұрын
So true. I teach high school. I think middle schoolers have a mentality of “bully or be bullied” socially and by high school, they seem to have outgrown that to a degree. They can certainly still be mean, but middle schoolers are out for blood.
@finnclarke3645
4 жыл бұрын
ms. wallis is that u omg???
@zeala1
4 жыл бұрын
I believe parents have a lot to do with the children’s behaviour. A middle schooler brought up well would most of the time not be a bully. Let’s not readily blame hormones and bad judgement and not do the work as parents.
@JillRhoads
4 жыл бұрын
Oh gawd, as a follow teacher I'm glad it's not just me who think they can be sooo scary.
@Awall79
4 жыл бұрын
@@JillRhoads My colleagues and I talk about it a lot! Lol...they scared most of us.
@allisonmariemakes7223
4 жыл бұрын
When she said, "I'm not pretty", my heart broke. Just because there is something you don't like about yourself, doesn't mean you aren't pretty.
@beepbeepcasucha
3 жыл бұрын
Not the point but you're really pretty, I like your smile sis 💖💖
@leahtv7778
3 жыл бұрын
Right but conventional "prettiness" is over emphasized in women, and just bc a woman isn't pretty doesn't mean she's worthless. Beauty is subjective.
@AbianahAlmeida
3 жыл бұрын
I think she is pretty im gonna cry when I saw her. I thought wow she is beautiful.
@ENTERTAINMENT35
3 жыл бұрын
I know right. She is pretty
@alwaysyouramanda
3 жыл бұрын
right? she's so pretty!!! I wish my chin was as cleft 🤩
@MrsMeowMeowWoof
4 жыл бұрын
Why are you the nicest dude on the planet tho
@fadalerabrasool3563
4 жыл бұрын
his obese life made him humble.
@perapeki
4 жыл бұрын
@@fadalerabrasool3563 has nothing to do with that maybe he is just a good guy .
@PapunaOfficial
4 жыл бұрын
@@perapeki agree
@ipsharoy7398
4 жыл бұрын
@@fadalerabrasool3563 Uuuuuummm obese people actually don't have good mental stability and he is not obese (I has something to do with the nerve receptors). His body physique is healthy. So, what you said is weird....
@MayMay-qr1yc
4 жыл бұрын
@@ipsharoy7398 he used to be tho. Maybe he was bullied and just doesnt want people to feel how he felt. I think my past obesity made me more empathetic and kind to people because i dont want to make people feel how i felt. Or hes just nice. Idk.
@tallgrasslanestitches6635
4 жыл бұрын
The whole “rejecting offered food” thing: years ago, I travelled to a country where they would literally dump food on your plate as soon as it was empty, even if you said “no, thanks”. I’m a really fast eater, so I learned to slow waaaay down. I also came up with a mini speech that I would spit out when necessary: “Thanks sooo much for the offer! I wish I could eat more because your food is so very delicious! But if I take one more bite, I’ll be so full, I’ll feel sick.” Etc etc etc. It usually worked.
@benzhao6321
4 жыл бұрын
China, I guess 😅
@rottenpotato4399
4 жыл бұрын
Welcome to middle east
@JazZippo
4 жыл бұрын
Rachel Forshee you said 6 feet or taller?.. hm gonna have to go to france sometime
@carpediem4091
4 жыл бұрын
It doesn't really work while you're growing up. My parents literally made me eat everything they put on my plate ( an adult size serving). I couldn't leave the table before eating everything. There were times I ended up being at the table for the rest of the day. Sitting and being told I couldn't leave before eating it. Fun times...
@colman123456
4 жыл бұрын
@@carpediem4091 Straight up child abuse.
@tabbygirl7487
4 жыл бұрын
the whole boyfriend against your weight is the most painful thing any girl could ever experience in a relationship. mine ironically hated that I wanted to lose weight. he would tell me I looked too skinny when was in the 170s from my highest weight of 193 and I'm a curvy girl with big-everything. I always felt bad cuz I thought anyone would be happy with anyone trying to be healthy and taking care of themselves. I was also so confused because he was freaking obese himself. my mum would always say it's because he didn't want me to look better than him. in hindsight I can see that she was right. he feared that I would look good and others would find me attractive. he wanted me to remain fat and unhealthy. saying that the rolls on my body looked so hot. lmao and tbh I sometimes felt happy that he'd say that because I thought I hit the jackpot. I was so naive smh. anyway I broke up with him in May and I'm 164lbs now. very happy with my decision and look very healthy now. he can go be with someone who is 200lbs or more if that's what he wants.
@devinrivers5808
4 жыл бұрын
Thank for sharing that, keep on keeping on✊🏾
@beepbeepcasucha
3 жыл бұрын
Hottie with a body!! Good on you girl 😍😍👏👏💖💖🌌🌌
@tabbygirl7487
3 жыл бұрын
thanks hunnies lol ❤❤❤❤
@kiarasabur5338
3 жыл бұрын
What's your diet I'm currently 193lbs myself and I'm trying to get down to your size
@tabbygirl7487
3 жыл бұрын
@@kiarasabur5338 Hi Kiara uhm so I did a little bit of everything. but mainly what helped was intermittent fasting. I had to train myself to eat only when hungry and fast for those hours when I wasn't eating by avoiding snacks. I also think a low carb diet paired with strength training helped in the beginning. It's been a 19months and practicing these habits have helped me maintain my weight loss. I still wanna lose about 10lbs so I have been more cautious of the things I eat. I currently do omad and I'm seeing results. Take your time and try different things to see which one works. cuz our bodies get used to new routines after a while. especially when you hit a plateau. also never do it only for the weight loss. do it because you want strength, and optimum health for your body. the weight will naturally occur. you can do it❤😘
@jewelweed6880
4 жыл бұрын
I think "fat acceptance" is a problematic term. How about Self Acceptance? That encompasses the essence of accepting yourself even if you don't meet someone else's idea of perfect, and it leaves room for changing things where YOU realize you need to in order to take care of yourself and feel your best.
@michellemcgill9328
3 жыл бұрын
I agree let’s start a “ self acceptance movement”
@MichelleSalinasREmax
3 жыл бұрын
YES!! I think this is the perfect fit:)
@Sol-lf6em
3 жыл бұрын
Actually it exists :) Tee Noir mentioned in one of her videos (link: m.kzitem.info/news/bejne/s6Vv1GaIpKZ5a6A) the tiktoker @pondpajamad who identifies herself as “radically self-acceptance” = radically accepting herself, no matter what she looks like.
@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid
2 жыл бұрын
THIS! Its the same with the term feminist, the word is kinda a dumb choice
@dejstoney
2 жыл бұрын
@@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid that’s because men who are sexist have twisted the actually meaning to make it seem like it’s an evil movement. Especially incels who hate women.
@daxxydog5777
4 жыл бұрын
I’ve always said middle schoolers just need to be put on an island away from people until they can become useful members of society again. The hormones are awful. They’ll rip you to shreds at the first sign of weakness like a pack of hyenas. I wasn’t overweight because this was the 70s and very few people were back then before the low fat craze, but I had acne, awful hair, and was socially awkward. It was the worst part of my life.
@alisue4426
4 жыл бұрын
Yep. I have naturally curly hair but didn't know in middle school how to get it to curl and not frizz, didn't know the products to use.. it was always a frizz mess. I still remember the kid calling me afro ho. It still pisses me off but I also laugh because he was just a dumb kid ha. But you never forget
@kimberlyoldschool
4 жыл бұрын
Word. I still remember what the bullies said to me, almost 40 years later. Thankfully, with age comes wisdom, perspective, and the ability to use Google to discover that middle school bullies often end up with mugshots online.
@susanlansdell863
4 жыл бұрын
Daxxydog Ikr, I got acne,glasses and braces on my teeth in the first year of my senior school (age 11). God it was hard.xx
@beepbeepcasucha
3 жыл бұрын
God, what a terrible time to grow up :( my mom said adults used to say things like 'if your lips are that big, boys won't like you' to teenagers, like they could do something about it. Not that it's easier now, bullying is done more discreetly. When I was 13 and we had picture day a classmate told me that I was so ugly that I shouldn't bother getting the photos done, so I listened. Children can be cruel
@newfie2197
3 жыл бұрын
Someone's never watched/read lord of the flies and it shows lol it'd be complete anarchy
@Capacityforwings
4 жыл бұрын
I'm not sure why, but I had a really negative and defensive view when it came to your channel (I follow a bunch of body-positivity channels so I may have heard someone make a negative comment about your content) , but when I finally did click one of your videos to watch.. I'm hearing this positive, articulate, fair, thoughtful, and ultimately *kind* POV . I'm not sure why I had that initial negative viewpoint but I'm definitely subscribing now. Thank you and keep it up :)
@therealstewyward
3 жыл бұрын
Growth, we love to see it 💖
@chesterlestrange7725
3 жыл бұрын
Because you have been brainwashed to think that truth is wrong and speaking the truth makes a person "mean" or "phobic" in some way.
@kumarules118
3 жыл бұрын
It's the title for me. I avoid clicking on his vids cause the clickbait but I am glad I finally binge on his videos
@Justanotherface143
3 жыл бұрын
I honestly felt the same a couple years ago. I knew about him through insta and really liked him! But then, when I discovered his KZitem and saw his thumbnails and posts, I immediately felt negatively towards him. After a few months, I decided to watch his videos and immediately realized that he was super fair, articulate and didn't bash the person he spoke about, but rather, criticized their actions, which I like a lot more! I hate when KZitemrs hate on other KZitemrs. John approaches his video subjects super fairly. I genuinely think that his thumbnails/captions make viewers believe that he's like other health/fitness "gurus" when in fact, he's nothing like that. I'm so glad I stuck around cause I would've missed out on all his helpful tips.
@Capacityforwings
3 жыл бұрын
@@Justanotherface143 absolutely! Thanks for the awesome reply 😊
@anu4537
4 жыл бұрын
Abuse is 'Common' in toxic relationships but not 'Normal'.
@applegal3058
3 жыл бұрын
Amen! So true.
@amaella1
4 жыл бұрын
Being forced to finish meals way too large for me by adults as a kid was one of the things that both made me hate certain foods as well as not be able to develop a stop signal for eating. The amount of guilt for letting things get spoiled is still unhealthy. This all set me up for alternating periods of binging and starving (along with other influences from my family) as well as complete lack of knowledge about nutrition. It's sad other people have to still go through this despite all the info being so easily accessible now...
@Bakerygo
4 жыл бұрын
Same here. I was always told to finish my food so even know I have trouble leaving food in my plate but I'm working on it.
@briettapassalis7642
4 жыл бұрын
I still struggle with understanding when to stop now even as an adult because I feel so guilty about not finishing the food I take or what I have at a restaurant. But being conscious and slowing down has helped immensely. It’s a long journey to having a better relationship with food but we can do it 💗
@watchesfromedges
4 жыл бұрын
We were blackmailed and guilt tripped by adults and teachers to eat poor quality food as kids. "there's a little boy in Biafra who'd be grateful for that" they would chant, looking accusingly at the gross remains of our meal while we wondered how they would ship it to him.
@gothicmoth.
4 жыл бұрын
my father would scream at me and wouldn't let me leave the table if i didn't finish my plate. im 17 and still am trying to break out of this instinct where i feel like i need to finish my plate (and sometimes even get 2nds and 3rds even though im full) so i don't waste food. i only came to the realization i had this problem a year ago.
@amaella1
4 жыл бұрын
@@gothicmoth. I'm sorry you had to go through that, my father was the same. Especially with Christmas dinner, even if I took 3 hours to try to eat the fish without puking... Let's do our best to be healthy and guilt free. I can tell you that doing the shopping for yourself and having a freezer help a ton in the beginning as you can freeze in single portions. Or try to leave just 1 worth of bite of food on the plate each time to get used to the idea. Realizing there is something and what it is and that you can change going forward are the most important steps.
@pinkcrystals535
4 жыл бұрын
I was “only” mildly obese. But I too gained a lot of confidence from fat acceptance. But I gradually realized the negatives....and have moved on to lose 25 pounds. It did help me feel attractive and valued, I am thankful for that. But to teach that our health is not affected by weight, I could not accept.
@miriamhavard7621
4 жыл бұрын
Precisely. 🌟
@fillupthesky
4 жыл бұрын
i always thought fat acceptance was to not discriminate or judge others by size. as an obese woman, that’s a awesome concept. as i dig deeper i found it’s a lot of cancel culture, enabling of unhealthy relationships with food, and that you can be “healthy” at any size. and some obese people have good bloodwork, no serious medical issues, but it’s a ticking time bomb. i couldn’t get behind that. also on my own journey to lose weight as i want to actually be healthy and be able to move in ways i can’t (or exhaust me) now.
@griffinbird3000
3 жыл бұрын
@@fillupthesky the fat acceptance community also blasts the fat influencers if they want to lose weight or eat healthier. I thought fat acceptance was treating everyone the same too but nope its a group of people justifying having an unhealthy lifestyle and denying the potential health problems.
@JessieArmy
4 жыл бұрын
The fat acceptance movement is about not taking responsibility for being overweight and instead shifting the blame to people who dare to point out that you are FAT. PS: I am fat and it is my own damn fault. I haven't always been overweight. I was a runner and I served in the Army. I am losing weight again because I refuse to play the victim card. Plus I want to live a long, fulfilling life... I am 35.
@ISceneAshley
4 жыл бұрын
You're gonna rock it :) and you'll get that long life!
@astrologytea7361
4 жыл бұрын
Keep pushing!! You’ll reach your goal before you know it! :)
@Tinawarue
4 жыл бұрын
You go girl keep rocking 😍😍😍😍😍😍💕
@MelsRamblings
4 жыл бұрын
It isn’t at all about that though. It’s about being able to accept and love yourself regardless of being fat. Fat people are told to hate themselves by society and that’s what we’re fighting against.
@marvins1373
3 жыл бұрын
kzitem.info/news/bejne/lXeOv31qfIx-i6A watch this, its more complex than you think. i never had a problem myself with having to much weight. im 6'3 and only weigh 165 lbs/75 kilogramms. as a sports student i and fit person i still dont judge negatively about every fat person. for many its not about willpower etc. just watch the documentary if you want to get more educated about the topic
@allisonhutchens5069
4 жыл бұрын
"I was choosing to kill myself everyday." That is a reality check. You don't necessarily think of it like that. I'm not into the body positivity, fat acceptance scene. I know and understand being fat is not healthy. But I am quite undisciplined and get tired of trying. I just want to not have to think about it all the time. I just want to do what I want to do without feeling bad about it. I can appreciate the body positivity movement. It's given me license to feel cute. To actually accept my rolls and flab and not be so self-conscious about it........WHILE I'M IN PROGRESS. I'm eating probably half (or less) as much as I used to and feel satiated. If I eat too much now, I do not like how I feel. I am determined to actually stick to it and finally lose the weight. I'm down nearly 30lbs. 95 left until my goal. I want to go on a 30 minute walk without my hips hurting. I want to dance with my preschoolers without sweating like a pig. I want to sit comfortably in my seat when I drive. I want to not have to fuss with my clothes rolling up. I don't want to be skinny, I want to be healthy.
@scariespaghetti9028
4 жыл бұрын
I’m completely understand the not wanting to think about it thing, I really did not like constantly thinking about food and just going “okay second meal of the day have to make it healthy what’s available?” It can get tiring. I just started meal prepping and that helps a lot with the will to do this
@ISceneAshley
4 жыл бұрын
Another suggestion with food I have is just... Try out one new healthy recipe a week, whether it's a breakfast, lunch, or dinner. That's how I slowly integrated better food into my diet without having to think too much about it.
@georgies5357
4 жыл бұрын
This is why you should never shame people into losing weight because 9 times out of 10 the opposite will happen.
@indeeditiscirro
4 жыл бұрын
and the other 1 out of 10 could result in ED tendencies
@georgies5357
4 жыл бұрын
@@indeeditiscirro exactly that.
@Marskilius
4 жыл бұрын
So effin true! Was bullied at school because of my weight. First I ate my feelings, got fatter, then I wanted to lose the weight which resulted in cycle between binge eating and orthorexia. Thankfully I got a supportive mom and best friend and boyfriend and for the last 3-4 years I've had healthier relationship with food.
@vivalarance1840
4 жыл бұрын
Last time at work i brought in my lunchbox with a pre-baked egg with spinach and mushrooms, which i love and got criticized by it from co workers (all pretty older ppl) and yesterday because i brought oat meal with me. I got so mad at them. Asking me why I brought it and when I said I want to lose weight they asked me why.. i answered cuz i want to feel sexy and healthy. This anwser didn't seem to statisfy them. Nor did the anwser that I also want to lose it cuz im starting nursing school in September and if imma be in a hospital all day om my feet, being a few pounds lighter is better for my feet.. (i work in a grocery store) I got so pissed at them and told them exactly what I thought 😂 btw lost about 6 kg so far 🤭
@valeriaramirez2586
4 жыл бұрын
VivalaRance S I’m happy for you and if you don’t want them to know you can answer them “ just because” so that way you don’t get mad. There’s no reason to get mad queen 👑 it’s not good for the body to be upset
@Bakerygo
4 жыл бұрын
You don't have to explain your food choices!
@haggisa
4 жыл бұрын
VivalaRance S They sound like a bunch of intrusive assholes.
@melancolielupine2023
4 жыл бұрын
What the hell ! It's none of their business ! I can't understand that. People are so TOXIC
@devinrivers5808
4 жыл бұрын
Good for you, those folks criticizing you are jealous, because they don’t have the motivation to do what you’re doing, living a healthy lifestyle. I’m working on losing weight getting in better shape, and changing my lifestyle; more importantly I’m on cholesterol medication.....I’m not obese just need to lose like 20-25 pounds and I’m 40 years old..I don’t want to take medication anymore...this is my motivation; keep grinding, keep doing you 👍🏿
@gracecar5820
4 жыл бұрын
Honestly cannot remember a single face and barely two first names of the people who bullied me as a child. I’m very happy about this No one is living in my mind rent-free, too many textbooks in there.
@catc2938
3 жыл бұрын
Repression?
@AcanthaDante
4 жыл бұрын
"Love bombing" also known as hoovering, is the stage of "reconciliation". The cycle is often called the cycle of violence.
@charlene4419
4 жыл бұрын
Being bullied is horrible. I remember some kids in my class talking about me, that I was 'anorexic', I was very thin but I ate like a troll. I've never been overweight, so I can't really imagine, but I hope the girl gets better.
@jamiemelquist8733
4 жыл бұрын
When I look at the body positivity movement I saw thin privilege this and that. It reminded of unpleasant encounters I had in high school others blaming their eating disorders on me being thin. There also a lot of negativity towards men who open up on eating disorders.
@JazZippo
4 жыл бұрын
You’re not alone❤️ a lot of my friends eat so much and are hungry every 30 minutes and don’t gain a pound. it would be awesome if everyone had a regular metabolism lol for me If I eat a bagel i will be bloated for 2 days it sucks
@gracea3594
4 жыл бұрын
Charlene I was also bullied in school (especially high school), people would call me anorexic, stick figure, stick insect and or assume I have bulimia. People have to walk on egg shells around overweight people yet they can skinny shame thin/slim people without repercussions even though I was never underweight in fact I took part in a lot of sports as a child that’s why I was thin. At 21 years old I still get skinny shamed but society thinks we thin/slim people have so much privilege so they can say whatever nasty things to us and what’s worse is been black and skinny, black women are expected to fit this physically stereotype because of black cultures and mental health isn’t talked about as much so they assume that their words won’t hurt you...😭imagin been called malnourished by other black people and your own family members?
@Scrapegoat
3 жыл бұрын
I had two friends accuse me behind my back of having an eating disorder. They were around me more than enough to see that was the farthest thing from the truth. Some years later, they both individually told me they’d said that out of jealousy. Most of the women I’ve known in my personal life would LOVE to be accused of being too thin. Plenty have admitted that despite having said otherwise in the past, having trashed other women for looking so.
@korrinschilling8108
3 жыл бұрын
I was viciously bullied for being very thin. It's just as terrible to be bullied for being thin as it is fat. In fact, it's considered ok to bully thin people, because we "had privilege". Really! Where?
@rachelconnolly5951
4 жыл бұрын
Hey just to let you know, there was a 13 year old girl in the livechat who asked if she was fat at 5'5" and 118 lb. I'm worried that your younger audience aren't super aware of what is actually classified as obesity, and I know from personal experience that body dysmorphia is a huge issue at that age, so I fear this will contribute to eating disorders. While it isn't your responsibility to take care of that, I think us collectively as a community should ensure that it's clear who needs the help with losing weight and who shouldn't actually be worried about it! Obviously we can all work on our bodies how we want, but at that young age no one should have to worry about it. Thankyou for doing such a great job at educating though, and working hard to express a healthier mindset around this stuff. And to that 13 year old girl, no, you're not fat, please don't worry about that. But I know me telling you that probably makes no difference as this is so much more about how you see yourself. And even if you were fat, your worth is not defined by that, and you are enough as you are. If you are still worried about it, focus on healthy habits that you enjoy rather than the weight, eat healthy foods that you like, learn about nutrition from professionals, and do exercise that makes you happy! But do not put pressure on yourself, being 13 is stressful enough, and loving yourself and treating yourself with love is the priority as that will set you up for anything 💕
@koinwonderland4309
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for saying something! I can’t even get through the video because I’m so distracted by her comments. I was so hoping people in the live chat would say something to her, which I see some did. As someone who had an ED from a young age I could see a familiar thought process. Wanting to have a low BMI and worried about waist size. So scary! I hope she listens to the people trying to tell her she should not be worried about her weight. She is already thin and has absolutely nothing to worry about.
@paula92111
4 жыл бұрын
So important!!!
@emmahoffman5082
4 жыл бұрын
Well said!
@khalilahthompson7065
4 жыл бұрын
You should be asking the parents, not him. Come on now... lol
@koinwonderland4309
4 жыл бұрын
Khalilahinjapan 2.0 How would one go about contacting some random person on the internets parents? I’m a strong believer that parents should be responsible for what their children do online and not content creators, but in this situation the girl is clearly mentally ill and it’s unlikely her parents even know. Making the content creator aware and leaving an encouraging message in case she sees it later is the only thing someone can do. It’s not like we could even personally reach out to this person at this point.
@CoushattaL
4 жыл бұрын
"I did this to myself." That is such a powerful moving statement. When you accept responsibility for the things in your life, you're on the right path. I Hope others start to fall away from the fat acceptance movement. Their health should be more important to them.
@Saraalsudairymua
4 жыл бұрын
That's true not alot of plus size people admit to this especially the influencers.
@devinrivers5808
4 жыл бұрын
Absolutely right
@AdorzAaliyahSince94
4 жыл бұрын
Manal is such a sweetheart! Met her in person once and she's even prettier in person.
@IzzyAndAndy
4 жыл бұрын
You’ve got to be kidding... God is really out here picking favorites
@miriamhavard7621
4 жыл бұрын
What's sad is that she doesn't seem to know just not how pretty she truly is. 💗🌹
@AdorzAaliyahSince94
4 жыл бұрын
@@miriamhavard7621 I think that she's finally coming into her own now, but it's been very difficult for her, though. People can tell you all day long, but it has to be seen through your own eyes as well.
@miriamhavard7621
4 жыл бұрын
@@AdorzAaliyahSince94 💓
@charliesbeerandwine
4 жыл бұрын
Auntie Apocalypse it’s especially disgusting to hear what’s she’s been through and then know how she treats ALR and Chantal (as well as who she’s friends with on Twatter).
@NachoAE360
4 жыл бұрын
I’m also still terrified of middle schoolers. Worst time in my life. Adding on to this to say that even though I’ve never been overweight her story was hard to listen to because it is really relatable. I was made fun of a lot in school and at home and I’ve always had really low self esteem as a result. It’s something I still work on at almost 25.
@fadalerabrasool3563
4 жыл бұрын
can say the same. I was bullied by a skinny rude classroom for my weight. jokes on him cause ive lost 78 pounds
@deficientgirl4224
4 жыл бұрын
Saaaaame. I was made fun of mercilessly for liking Michael Jackson, ok... just the biggest selling artist of all time... 😂🙄😂
@kastaway-m4x
4 жыл бұрын
you're very pretty 😍😍
@biancahellberg587
4 жыл бұрын
Yes! I was bullied for being fat (despite being normal weight), for being the new girl who had acne, and liking East Asian cultures and media. Graduated in 2014 (we used to have a total of 13 years of school) and I'm still working on it. My fear of speaking in front of people is getting better but my body image issues and low self-esteem are still there and I notice that I'm letting a lot of things slide still because I find myself thinking that a specific action isn't "that" bad. Trying to stop doing that is hard though.
@kastaway-m4x
4 жыл бұрын
@@biancahellberg587 You're pretty too. Don't worry about those fools, hang out with me, I'll treat you like a queen daily.
@jessicab6723
4 жыл бұрын
There are so many things bloodwork can’t tell you. Relying on that to determine your health is like crossing the road without looking because ‘well I can’t hear any cars’. So many health conditions won’t affect your blood. It’s a weird thing that the fat acceptance people seem to have attached too much meaning too.
@xtinkerbellax3
4 жыл бұрын
A lot of those people also don't seem to acknowledge they have age on their side. Your blood work is fine NOW. But a lot of healthy living is about prevention. Lets see where they are at 40.
@princessbabe1313
3 жыл бұрын
Anorexic people do the sameeeee thing, they cling to their passing bloodwork as a sign that they’re not hurting themselves. That’s just not how it works
@user-qb8hz6sn3n
4 жыл бұрын
I honestly think my biggest “bully” when it came to my weight was my mom. I didn’t get bullied by other students and never had a teacher say anything rude. I didn’t really have friends because my parents didn’t let me do anything. But as for my weight my mom was the one who “bullied” me for it. And I was only 30 pounds overweight then. I’m just glad I’m working on it now.
@unowen7416
4 жыл бұрын
My grandma was my biggest bully. I felt she never cared or valued me until I lost over 100 lbs. And then it was all she would talk about,to the point where I would hardly go visit. This,from an old bitter woman who was very overweight herself,my whole life, until she died. I think she projected all of her crap on me. She didn't have an easy life at all,but that's still no excuse to be mean to someone.
@user-qb8hz6sn3n
4 жыл бұрын
Jane Doe I feel my mom being overweight was and still is the biggest reason why she treated me the way she does. I don’t see her often enough to hear it anymore. I’m sorry you went through that. But it’s awesome that you were able to lose weight! I’ve got about 100 pounds to lose myself.
@unowen7416
4 жыл бұрын
@@user-qb8hz6sn3n Thank you hun,and I'm very sorry you had to go through what you went through,too. It's never easy,especially when it's someone you love that makes you feel sad. And losing weight is never easy,especially when you've got old emotional wounds tied to it. It's not easy,but it can be done! The biggest piece of advice I can give anyone in regards to this,is to just try really hard to learn to love and value yourself,no matter your size. Once you've got that down,everything else will eventually fall into place! Good luck on your journey hun...you can do it!!
@user-qb8hz6sn3n
4 жыл бұрын
Jane Doe Thank you! I have gotten better at loving my body. I don’t exactly like how it looks but I love what it can do and I try and use that as motivation to continue to work out because I can. It’s been hard but I’m getting there.
@jordanplummer9400
3 жыл бұрын
I'm proud of you get them gains
@lyjwb8
4 жыл бұрын
This was the most wholesome reaction Ive ever seen. Just when she describes how she felt like a monster because she was big and tall.. he just pauses the video and goes "aw. thats so sad" ... if it were anyone else, it would seem so fake but it was so sincere and heartfelt and obvious he felt that pain for her and just could only manage to express that it's so sad
@mightymight24
3 жыл бұрын
That's empathy, that's not being "fake" lol
@semblt
4 жыл бұрын
Down 108 from heaviest. This channel is inspiring. Not into the crossfit but dig the motivation. Good work bud.
@jordanplummer9400
3 жыл бұрын
Are you trying to get abs not being a dick
@lleah2839
3 жыл бұрын
You lost the weight of me! Congrats :)
@charlesp26
4 жыл бұрын
Middle schoolers are “children of the corn”😩
@classycassi20
4 жыл бұрын
👑 underrated comment
@Ran-c7d
4 жыл бұрын
Omg so true
@aracelyescobar2076
4 жыл бұрын
So right 😱😱😱
@dianaolivarez4444
4 жыл бұрын
Love that movie lol
@beepbeepcasucha
3 жыл бұрын
AHHH 🤣🤣
@luizmodesto110
4 жыл бұрын
The fat acceptance movement remind me so much o f the pro-ana movement that was trending a few years ago. They are two sides of the same problematic coin. Check it out: 1. If you are not thin, you are not attractive / My 300 lbs-overweight figure is attractive, those who disagree are fatphobic; 2. Being thin is more important than being healthy / You can be healthy at any size; 3. You must buy clothes, cut your hair, take laxatives, be hungry and do whatever it takes to be thin / You must demand that commerce and industry adapt to the needs of large individuals (even if that is in detriment of everyone else), this includes airline seats, chairs in restaurants, clothing and standard medical practices; 4. You shouldn’t eat anything without feeling guilty / You should eat intuitively, your happiness is all that matters; 5. You should not eat highly caloric food, without punishing yourself after / You should not even think about losing weight and being healthy, that’s not body positive; 6. You must count calories in your food and according to that restrict your meals / Calorie counting is part of a conspiracy perpetrated by the diet industry to oppress “plus-sized” people; 7. What the scale says is the most important thing / The scale is a tool of tyranny, ignore it completely; 8. Losing weight is good, gaining weight is bad / Losing weight is bad, gaining weight is good. 9. You can never be too thin / You can never be too fat; 10. Being thin and not eating are signs of success and great willpower / Being morbidly obese is a sign of courage and self-love.
@v.anessa1451
4 жыл бұрын
youre absolutely right, i think the comparison is spot on. i was involved in the pro ana community when i was in high school and it was completely toxic
@georgies5357
4 жыл бұрын
So, so true.
@carpediem4091
4 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately they're still trending too.
@Stan_the_Belgian
4 жыл бұрын
Great summery 😃
@irishcountrygirl78
4 жыл бұрын
Omg l never saw that!!
@alhana8293
4 жыл бұрын
Oh the scars of being bullied are permanent but what matters is to use them as motivation to become the best versions of ourselves. That is why as a teacher, I am very careful and cautious with my words because being bullied by my teacher crushed me.
@Luanaontherun
4 жыл бұрын
That Monster comment is universal for big tall girls apparently. 😢
@lovelavenderlily
4 жыл бұрын
Everything she said resonated with me so much, ESPECIALLY the “feeling like a monster” thing, and I’m not even super tall. But I always joke and say stuff like, “fee fie fo fum” or that I’m the Hulk or Godzilla. And the relationship - exact same thing. Same thought process, holding on so tight to something so toxic just because you never think anyone else will love you or that you’re not worth it. It’s so sad how awful we are to ourselves.
@sandpiperr
4 жыл бұрын
Same here. I'm on the shorter side of tall (5'7). However, when you spend your entire childhood having kids say to each other "watch out, she might sit on you!" and then your pre-teen years having kids say to each other "there's your girlfriend!" in a way that very clearly was NOT a compliment...I don't see how one doesn't see themself as a monster.
@lovelavenderlily
4 жыл бұрын
sandpiperr I’m sorry you had to go through that. Kids can be so cruel. They used to call me Shamu. I didn’t even know what that was so I had to ask, which was even more embarrassing. Anyway, I try not to think of myself that way anymore, but it’s tough. Stay strong, girl 💪🏻
@ALittleBitShabby
3 жыл бұрын
Yep, I'm 25 and still on a journey of trying to gain self worth and confidence - as a female who was 6ft2 before the age of 15 I grew up feeling like I was almost a different species to others my age - and made to feel like a monster by others, it was so crazy to me that my boyfriend was genuinely attracted to me - sometimes I find myself asking 'are you sure you don't just want a normal girlfriend?' 😔
@lovelavenderlily
3 жыл бұрын
@@ALittleBitShabby Oh my gosh girl I totally get it! I feel the same way about my boyfriend and anyone who says they’re attracted to me, which is just so sad. I’m not that tall, so I’m sure that must’ve just added another layer of pain and difficulty for you. I’m sorry we both had to go through this! Even though I’m on a self-love/acceptance and weight loss journey, and I don’t believe we should be perpetuating larger bodies as healthy, I do believe there should be more representation in the media of larger (and taller) female bodies, especially as main characters. We exist and we still have lives to live that have nothing to do with weight, and I think that if I had seen stuff like that growing up, I might not have felt so horrible about myself and so “other.” I hope we can do better for the next generation.
@susanstuckmeyer4857
4 жыл бұрын
Everytime you let out a little "aww" during her story it brought tears to my eyes... You are an incredibly loving person. Wish her the best, subscribing to her channel!
@Chozn4u2da
4 жыл бұрын
I gained 67 pounds with my twin pregnancy and it was MISERABLE beyond my wildest imagination. My body would hurt all the time. So after hitting 240lbs with them I knew for sure I would never allow myself to get that big anymore with without a pregnancy. Being big is very painful and I commend her for bringing that out.
@kokomoinmyheart
4 жыл бұрын
John being wholesome for 38:37 mins straight.
@daylight1992
3 жыл бұрын
I've struggled with obesity for my entire life so this story really hit home. My best support is my best friend because we've been fighting weaight problems together for half a decade, but on opposite sides of the scale. I deal with stress by eating and she deals with stress by not eating and so many people who are overweight think someone who's super skinny could never understand their struggles but we all struggle with something and no one in my life understands my struggles more than she does.
@corpusdelectable6078
4 жыл бұрын
'I did this to myself.' I give mad props to her (and also say she is absolutely gorgeous!) because that takes a lot of courage to finally confront the truth. I, like many, many people, have struggled with my weight all my life. I have weighed between 88 pounds all the way up to 160 at 5'2". I am currently at a healthy weight (110) and in recovery for bulimia and anorexic tendencies, so I know how hard it is to struggle with food. It's the one addiction that you can't quit cold turkey--you need it to survive. So food relationships are very tricky. But the minute I took ownership of my own behavior (whether it was bingeing and gaining weight or doing harmful things to get rid of it)--that was when I felt empowered. It wasn't anyone else's fault I was like this--it was my own. I had to hold myself accountable for my own choices and not blame societal pressures for them. Once I took ownership and responsibility, I was able to get on the right course--eat smart; eat in moderation; exercise. Every day. For the rest of my life. It's that simple. It's not society's fault or responsibility that I did what I did--it was my own. Instead of excuses or acceptance, I looked for solutions. And I'm finally on a healthy path in life for it.
@jenny-sue7174
4 жыл бұрын
I think she is really pretty too.
@lund2471
3 жыл бұрын
I saw this video at an incredibly low point... I had gained so much weight after college and sat around feeling bad for two nearly two years. Then I saw you on (recommended by another KZitemr) and this video, your positive outlook, and your kindness reminded me that not all is lost. I've been working hard and really adjusted my attitude around eating and consumption, and my weight loss journey is 3 months underway! Thank you for being so positive, uplifting, and accepting in such a controversial and sometimes toxic space.
@kam731
4 жыл бұрын
I just want to thank you so much, I was apart of FA until like last week, I got on the scale and scared myself, about a week later using a calorie deficit, eating in moderation, and walking for about an hour every morning I’ve already seen a difference!! Thank you so much for motivating me!!!!
@shera3271
4 жыл бұрын
Love bombing.....That’s what I’ve been going through for almost 13 yrs. weren’t married so no messy divorce. I was my regular weight when we met. Then within a yr I was almost 200lbs. I stayed that weight for 7-8 yrs. I felt so poorly about myself because he was continuously hurting me so bad mentally. I’m now single and I’ve lost the weight but still struggling wit the brutal times we shared and my self esteem is lacking.
@GraceWhip
3 жыл бұрын
Congrats on getting out. That is so hard, but you're clearly strong af. I hope you're finding peace and healing 🖤
@Qrtuop
3 жыл бұрын
Better a million years alone than a life with an abusive man. Take good care sister
@MegaCheese48
4 жыл бұрын
This is the reality check I needed to hear right now. When she said, "I was sitting in a hospital bed without my gallbladder and I did this to myself" my heart dropped. I've always known being overweight is unhealthy and have tried over and over again to keep the weight off and have failed. I think a huge part of that failure is not holding myself accountable then empowering myself through it. Getting caught up in shame and disgust never got anyone anywhere.
@dungeonsanddeadlifts3344
4 жыл бұрын
Can I just say that I'm really digging the stand up chatty version of these videos. The blue lighting in the background is pretty dope to. These videos have some nice vibes and I just wanted to pass that compliment your way
@Theflowergeekcrafts
4 жыл бұрын
I appreciate her honesty. I am 32 years old and I have been losing weight for over a year. I have been obese since I was a kid and only recently has it really started bothering me that my parents, family and friends have never tried to come to me and get through to me. Even my ex. I got all the way up to 335lbs. It’s really sad. I’m glad I’ve worked so hard now. Becoming a mother has definitely sparked a change in my health. The last thing I want is my kids growing up without a mother because I wouldn’t get healthy. I look forward to relief from knee and back pain as I lose more and more weight.
@Laplantelatte
3 жыл бұрын
She's so lovely inside and out! My heart hurts that she has been treated so badly! No one deserves that!
@Bakerygo
4 жыл бұрын
As a teacher I can confirm that teens aged 14-16 are nasty. They're starting to perceive the world around them as they are entering slowly the grown-up world and they criticize everything and everyone thinking they are better or that they can/will do better. Nobody is safe from their mean words, teachers, strangers, parents, other teens etc. Of course by 16/17 when school starts to become really difficult, they calm down a lot and they become less obnoxious.
@SyntaxError83
4 жыл бұрын
Manal: "Then I saw Tess Holliday." John and I, concurrently: "Uh oh."
@TomJohnSmith
4 жыл бұрын
when she said "I did this to myself" all I could think about is Radiohead... "You do it to yourself, you do , and that's what really hurts.. Is that you do it to yourself, just you, you and no one else. You do it to yourself"
@familyguy160
4 жыл бұрын
Name of the song please
@lilliat4590
4 жыл бұрын
Wow she’s so insanely smart to be able to look past all the lies when they are specifically targeted at people like her. That’s a very hard thing to do.
@JennRighter
4 жыл бұрын
When I was in middle school we were standing in the lunch line and a group of popular girls were standing in front of me, whispering and laughing (not saying it was about me, just describing the story). I didn't have any friends and I was just trying to pretend to be busy with my notebook or whatever. Then, one of the girls turned toward me and said "don't you wish you looked like me?". This sounds so fake but I promise it happened. I remember the girl's name, Kristi (with a K) and her last name started with an R and was similar to my last name. I'm not going to post that, obviously, she was a child, we were like ten or eleven at the time. I remember being so humiliated. I already obviously had no friends and I dressed "weird"; I had been skipped a grade so I was younger than everyone else. I was poor, couldn't afford anything "cool". I didn't have cable TV or magazines, so I didn't even understand trends. And, of course, I was really fat.
@tkps
4 жыл бұрын
Yes, you could be considered a target at the time BUT: if someone is slim, attractive blah blah, they should feel no need to pick on those they see as 'less' than they are. If that girl was so superior in her mind, why even ask you such a question? She should have been confident enough not to resort to it. Some are so self centred they really do believe looks/shape are all anyone else thinks of just because they do. But in the long run whether because she felt looks are all there is, or because deep down she was insecure, it made her weaker than you.
@JennRighter
4 жыл бұрын
TKPS Yes. I purposely didn’t share her full name. I thankfully had a MUCH better experience in high school. I was still fat and I wasn’t popular but I made friends and didn’t get made fun of anymore. I definitely believe she was insecure. It’s difficult to explain without sounding like I’m judging someone’s appearance, but to explain it the best I can, she wasn’t someone anyone considered very pretty. I’m glad I didn’t respond to her. But for months afterward I remember wishing I had told her that I could lose weight but she couldn’t fix her ugly face. I’m just being honest. I’m glad I never said that, and it’s the only time I remember judging someone else’s appearance in my life. Because I did not in any way want to look like her. Certainly she felt insecure. She was very popular and thin but definitely didn’t really fit in with that popular crowd. She’s one of few people I went to middle school with that didn’t go to my high school as well. So I have no idea what came of her.
@JennRighter
4 жыл бұрын
This is so crazy, I have never looked her up but I just did on Facebook and immediately found her. She’s just normal. Has three kids, regular person. Actually very pretty. I hope I didn’t sound like I held a grudge, I don’t. She has three daughters and I imagine she would not teach them to say such things. I doubt she even remembers saying that to me. I’m sure it stuck with me far more than it did with her.
@MA-zg2pz
4 жыл бұрын
Jenn Righter I’m sorry she was so rude then. I have two little kids now and I volunteered at my daughters school last year. It shocked me how cruel and hurtful some of the kids conversations were towards each other! I imagine how those experiences shaped them. I often step in of course and let them know they can’t behave or talk like that to each other. I hope you get a chance to step in for another little kid and let them know it’s not okay. It can really be healing to be a part of the process that helps kids in those situations.
@JennRighter
4 жыл бұрын
M A I don’t condone what happened to me or cruel behavior from anyone to anyone else. But I don’t think what was said to me was as big of a deal as I made it. More than anything I think it hurt because I didn’t have a single friend. I latched onto goth culture in middle school, even more once I enter d high school. Again, I was younger, I was briefly 12 when I started high school. My mom let me dye my hair green and I started buying clothes at the thrift store. I took responsibility for my own feelings and just wore them on the outside. And I immediately made friends. I was much smarter then than I am now and I over-thought everything. It’s not an excuse for anyone to say shitty things to me, but the moment I stopped caring I stopped getting made fun of and I made friends.
@alyssiataylor546
4 жыл бұрын
Middle schoolers really are the worst bruh
@heybanana9288
4 жыл бұрын
I'm in high school, I'm still scared of middle schoolers too, high schoolers aren't that bad, they don't care middle schoolers are scary af
@RehabWithRaeRae
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this...I'm 6 months clean from drugs but all my friends died and my boyfriend died too in February. Love people at arms length. Know when to walk away because there WILL be a "too late" if you don't. We should look up to healthy people like you. Not Tess or in my case, Sid and Nancy.
@pandasweetrose441
4 жыл бұрын
When she said Tess holiday and you paused and said o ooo 😂
@SkinnyNala
4 жыл бұрын
The fatpositivity helped me care less about other peoples opinions. And that's good and valid. But you can't love yourself while knowingly accelerating your death with your habits. That is neither loving yourself nor life.
@JohnDoe-xc5kn
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed, but people seem to love hating the fat positivity movement for the wrong reasons. The fat phobia is still there because they don’t care about the emotional roots responsible for people becoming fat, they still use this facade of caring about health as a cover up for their disgust. It’s important to stress the health issues associated with obesity, but in the end nobody has the right to tell someone else what to do with their body (unless it’s a dear friend or relative you are genuinely worried about), because it’s not your business.
@Democratic_Republic_of_Iacon
4 жыл бұрын
All my life was like this, at first, family, peers, made fun of me as a kid if I was too skinny, if I gained weight. And it caused a lot of conflict. Then a girl food poisoned me, and I lost 30 pounds. I was not eating from what happened. Then I moved schools to counteract the bullying. But the new school was primarily white. Me being Hispanic, mostly speaking spanish...it got worse. Then I gained until morbid obesity for a teen from the internal pain. Then insecurities took over and lost 50 pounds. I am now a lean muscular machine at 16, and got counseling to fix my diet.
@brionyshauntingadventures7251
4 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you got back on a health track
@GBfanatic15
4 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna be honest the first video of yours I watched I was bracing myself for scathing criticism but you actually have legitimate criticism whilst also showing compassion for the people involved and I really resonated with that
@thevanessarosette
4 жыл бұрын
IT SHOULD BE CALLED FAT CONFIDENCE NOT ACCEPTANCE BECAUSE YOU SHOULDNT ACCEPT IT
@royaltootsie
4 жыл бұрын
Why not? It’s their body, right? If you’re not happy with your body then change. If someone doesn’t mind being fat then leave them alone. They have bodily autonomy, no one gets to decide if you accept your body or not.
@tanya6335
3 жыл бұрын
@@royaltootsie obese people cost the tax payer money 🥴
@angiemaritza2408
3 жыл бұрын
@@royaltootsie okay let’s accept alcoholism and drug abusers etc. it’s their body
@kbjinx2273
3 жыл бұрын
angie maritza wow true😂
@sabinamedrano3595
4 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh, I can relate to her story! I had a growth disorder that caused a lot of my weight gain as a child and kids were not nice. It’s been such a struggle and I tried so hard to keep a happy smiling face but it has always been so hard. I’ve finally lost 130 lbs and I’m on a journey to accept my body as is. And love it for all it’s done for me ❤️ wishing her the best and you too!! We are stronger than we know and can continue to keep going ❤️
@diannhazelton9808
4 жыл бұрын
I'm laughing about the middle schoolers scare me. When I started driving buses that was the only thing I didn't want was middle school! Now I drive almost middle school exclusively 😂😂 I now do my best to impart love & kindness into their lives.
@mjoto
4 жыл бұрын
I love tall girls. I love girls with curves. I dont care about girls that are taller than me. Seriously dated girls of all stature. A person is NOT their height. A person is NOT their weight. Love is love.
@zaynabpatel5736
4 жыл бұрын
Omw... Just beautiful 😍
@alexiscarmel4082
3 жыл бұрын
Bruh why is the one video you have uploaded called "fat girl dancing in a tiny dress" 😭😭
@duvade1
3 жыл бұрын
@@alexiscarmel4082 this is hilarious LOL
@captainobvious90
4 жыл бұрын
Just sharing my culture regarding food, when you're eating as guest at someone's house, you are often encouraged to add a little bit more of food after you finished the first portion, to show to the host that the food taste good (often it is!). I've learned to eat a small portion when starting to eat, and add just a little more just to please the host.
@michellee.6508
4 жыл бұрын
you are such a sweet person and it really shows in the compassion you show for other people. ❤️
@Massielnh
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this. I'm an ex fat positive person; I have the same experience and more. I glad she made this video . It's so inspiring . Who knows? maybe I'll make a video too.
@tfoprincess
3 жыл бұрын
People don't realise that when you're overweight, there may be a reason for the weight that is more complicated than "I just eat a lot lol." It's WHY do you eat a lot? Culture, depression, stress etc. To shave off the pounds you must shave those things off and then add in discipline. It's a LOT of work and different for everyone.
@lavenderteal8485
3 жыл бұрын
Yes. That's why just simply dieting and exercising won't fix the root cause. If the root cause is stress, trauma, abuse, food insecurity as a child, etc then those things need to be addressed. It's also finding other coping tools and ways to soothe outside of food. It can take really working with a therapist and dietitian to overcome these things. Just telling someone to eat less and move more won't permanently change anything if there's deeper reasons. For years I thought I just needed to find the best exercises and way of eating and the weight would permanently stay off. It was not the case. I got into therapy and dug deeper as to why I was eating. It has changed my life so much knowing its not all about the food.
@friendlyneighbourhoodbridg1354
4 жыл бұрын
The "tall" comments concerning dating really got to me. I'm tall and, in my experience, most guys do not want to date tall girls at all. Thankfully I came across a few that said that I was the perfect height for kissing, but the rest sucked tbh. Especially because I always HATED my height because I was always so much taller than most people
@TipTheScales27
4 жыл бұрын
But if you were a supermodel guys suddenly wouldn’t have a problem 😒 I don’t get why guys care what height women are
@friendlyneighbourhoodbridg1354
4 жыл бұрын
@@TipTheScales27 I have no clue and it killed me for YEARS
@BmW-so2zj
4 жыл бұрын
I like tall but i think most guys like tall i think your country just dislikes tall girls
@friendlyneighbourhoodbridg1354
4 жыл бұрын
@@BmW-so2zj definitely depends on where you are. Apparently most Swedish guys like tall girls (I can't remember where I read that so don't quote me 😅)
@Samantha-xq5ke
3 жыл бұрын
Short guys never wanted me. Tall guys preferred shorter women. So many were attracted to me until I stood up. A few admitted that it was intimidating. One guy was fine until I wore heels. He threw all of my shoes out while I was gone one day. My husband now loves my height. He doesn't care to lean up for a kiss. Totally loves my heels. I'm so glad I found him. I dont slouch anymore 🖤
@happyme7513
4 жыл бұрын
This is how i deal with when food is being offered I always fill half of my plate with veggies and always take very less food and when they offer food...thts the only food i eat This way my cals are in check and their feelings arent hurt as well Hope this helps
@MidnightSky1821
4 жыл бұрын
I respectfully decline the food offers. This is a smart move too.
@Abc-cp8me
4 жыл бұрын
I do this sometimes too. After losing weight i feel like I get full really easily and when I go to a place where they offer a lot of food I gladly accept it, but only eat until I feel satiated. Then when they offer more food I point at my own food that's unfinished and say "i'm really full... i can barely even finish the last one. Maybe next time?" 😂
@radrose4864
3 жыл бұрын
You are the best fitness motivator because you are RESPECTFUL, EMPATHETIC, and genuinely NICE
@itsdrgilchrist
4 жыл бұрын
Her story is a lot like mine. I was heavily bullied and teased, partly for being fat and partly for being socially awkward. Teachers looked the other way and sometimes even blamed me. When you’re an adult, you hopefully have a good sense of self that insults matter little, but when you’re a kid trying to figure yourself out, words can have a worse effect. I badly wanted to date in high school, and even make the first move, but I was constantly rejected. It made me put up with a lot of things I didn’t deserve. I probably would have fallen into FA if it had been more prevalent in the late 90s/early 2000s. I think that everyone should feel worthy and have basic respect no matter what they look like, but this is a case where the ones with the loudest voices do the most damage.
@JohnDoe-xc5kn
3 жыл бұрын
FA is just a way to reclaim control of the narrative for fat people. And people need to respect that, because that’s the only way FA will accept health issues as a genuine concern along the way.
@applegal3058
3 жыл бұрын
I remember losing some weight and my grandmother saying I'm too skinny and wanted me to eat. It's definitely a cultural thing. I love my Nan with all my heart, and I know she just wanted the best for me. She never ever pressured me to eat, and loved me regardless of my size. I miss her so much! Thanks for bringing these conversations to light.
@melancolielupine2023
4 жыл бұрын
I had gall stones once too. It was the most incredibly painful thing. I had it for 6 freaking months before being diagnosed. I was laying on my bed, silently crying from the pain. Later I had surgery to remove my gallbladder. I felt that when she talked about it :( Btw I was overweighed at this time. Around 80kg for 1m65. After the surgery, I wasn't able to drink alcohol or to eat greasy, over-sugarey stuff anymore and I lost weight. Finally at a healthy weight (60kg) after years of anorexia and bulimia because of this, so I guess that it was a bad for a good. Oh and bloodwork means nothing really. A lot of diseases can't be diagnosed just by a bloodwork. Oh and just wait for those fat acceptance movement's rockstars to age. I doubt that Tess Holiday will be a healthy, active 40 or 50 yo. People will see. Sadly they need to SEE the truth by themselves. So just wait... I'm not happy to think about it because it means that a lot of people will have health issues in the future.
@kayakinggrandmakelly7105
4 жыл бұрын
It is also hard when the person trying to force you to eat their food, or more of their food, is thin and doesn’t understand. A particular friend is a wonderful cook but she is thin like naturally. She says, “just ONE won’t hurt” just one cookie or just one piece of cake........but I cannot stop at just one! And having one at her house, makes me want more sweets all week.
@tkps
4 жыл бұрын
So you muster up the courage and tell them: "one doesn't seem to hurt you but it clearly does hurt me so whilst your food is wonderful, it's doesn't do me any good - just made that way I guess". So long as it's done so that they can't take offense, you need to put yourself first.
@theEumenides
4 жыл бұрын
I don't really understand why people are so insistent on others accepting/eating their food. I love baking, and I have friends over regularly for game nights. I almost always have something to offer them. I usually just have them on the table and say, "Help yourself, if you like!" But if they don't take any, it's no big deal. Sometimes people just aren't hungry; sometimes people are abstaining from sweets. Especially if a friend told me they were struggling with food, I would even stop having stuff like that available when they were over.
@unowen7416
4 жыл бұрын
If you've told this friend that you can't eat this type of stuff and she still insists,I'm sorry to be the one to have to tell you,but she is TOXIC. What if you told her you had diabetes and couldn't eat baked goods,would she still be trying to force you under the guise that "one won't hurt"? Maybe you haven't told her to please don't pressure you. You don't have to be mean about it,nor get an attitude. Just say,"I'm sorry,and I don't want to offend you, but please don't offer me anymore baked goods. Me saying I don't want any for any reason should be good enough,and pressuring me into eating one is extremely disrespectful, and not something a friend does to another friend. I care about you, you're my friend,I care about your well being,so please care about my well being." Advocating for yourself is one of the hardest things ever,but it can be done!
@amandalopez7572
4 жыл бұрын
I just saw a twitter thread from a fat acceptance page and they were saying how plus size girls who work out are fatphobic because they only do it so they don’t get bigger than what they are. It genuinely upset me because I am a plus size girl who loves fitness. It’s not all because I don’t want to get bigger but because whenever I allow myself to eat like shit and not work out I feel beyond sick and tired and even makes my depression worse. These fat acceptance pages and influencers want so badly for all bigger people to be as big as they are and shames them if they aren’t. It’s so hypocritical. Side note this woman is beautiful and I am proud of her and her journey!
@annmariekane8063
4 жыл бұрын
Sitting on the ground? At 285 lbs I could barely get out of a low chair.
@noahatlas5240
4 жыл бұрын
John "looking for the lie" caught me so off guard it made me belly laugh. A very Julien Solomita move
@amandamarissaparis
4 жыл бұрын
i hope foodie beauty sees this.
@emmahoffman5082
4 жыл бұрын
Already relating to the "must eat when socializing" thing. My gramma, whom i love dearly, but she will say im too fat then get mad if I don't eat an entire box of oreos.
@melancolielupine2023
4 жыл бұрын
Huh... Ok it's very weird. She can't bash you for being too fat, then bash you for not eating a box of Oreos. None of my business tho but I'm a bit sorry for you
@marde13
4 жыл бұрын
I used to think I was fine being overweight (440pounds). I used to say if people who have a problem with my size, it is their issue. Almost 2 years ago I made the decision to have weight loss surgery. I waited 12 months to have the surgery to ensure I was mentally ready. I had surgery Nov at 2019 and so far have lost over 140 pounds. I now realise that I wasn't happy with my size, I am not ok with other people who are self destructive. So maybe I am fat phobic... even though I am still fat! I want to keep changing and making progress to sit in plane seats without spilling over to the person beside me, play sport without people stopping to laugh at me! I don't ever say anything directly to people as they display self destructive actions, but i am judging in my own head.
@alijane6675
4 жыл бұрын
Evertime you judge them in your head, replace 'them' with 'me'. Cuz you arent really hating on them. You're hating on you. It's called projection.
@marde13
4 жыл бұрын
@@alijane6675 I agree Ali Jane but I think it is both because I am looking at myself and saying I can't believe I used to justify like they are, I used to eat like they do but I am also judging them. I have forgiven myself for all the years I was on self destruct mode. I have made peace with my past but I sure know the behaviour will not return in my future. Too much hard work has happened to go backwards
@reblewi30
4 жыл бұрын
Just watched this amazing video about two hours ago. Then came across a documentary on Amazon called, “The Dark Side of Fat Acceptance” and she’s in it!
@marisabel5500
4 жыл бұрын
The parts you said about toxic relationships is insanely accurate. That's how my past relationship was like.
@MsMichelle7710
4 жыл бұрын
When she said she found Tess Holliday all I heard was Phoebe Buffay saying, "Oh no.". 'Cause we all know how well THAT'S gonna turn out!
@MathStar100
4 жыл бұрын
No idea who you are dude, but you're amazing. I love how compassionate you are while still hitting the nail on the head on so many things.
@alternifeind15
4 жыл бұрын
I really really wish Tess Holiday wasn't "the face" of this movement. I feel it gives a lot of people the wrong idea
@absolutelyridiculous6743
4 жыл бұрын
I don't understand how watching her teetering on high heels down a catwalk is "empowering". It's terrifying. Human skeletons are not made to withstand that much weight, and neither are our joints, muscles, or organs. I'm surprised she hasn't snapped an ankle yet to be honest 😳
@alessandrocoppede3066
3 жыл бұрын
No, It gives them the actual idea, and that's good
@pipermarie8393
3 жыл бұрын
Love your channel, just found you. I was obese all my life as well and can relate to her story just like you. I lost over 100 pounds naturally so I love hearing others stories.
@piau1798
4 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry but I laughed out loud when she said “and one day I found tess holiday” because I said “oh oh” at the same time as you did 😅
@WildFreeBrittany
4 жыл бұрын
Omg!! My daughter is going into middle school this year! During a pandemic. Middle schoolers really are terrifying!
@emilyhops2566
4 жыл бұрын
We've got a saying in England - misery loves company. Food addiction is 100% real, and it ISNT recognised.
@liaperalta3674
4 жыл бұрын
I loved listening to her story and your commentary! I’ve been experiencing an internal debate whether to be supportive of the body positive/ fat acceptance movement, because I do support women creating confidence & building their self esteem but I don’t want to support unhealthy behavior. IMHO, “fatphobia” is a modern social construct invented to undermine the fact that obesity is harmful.
@belzeebubbubbachunks
3 жыл бұрын
I am just loving her eye makeup and brows. So nice and subtle.
@samar2741
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for both of you for being so REAL. I just came across this vid thru auto play and haven’t dealt with being overweight but it’s amazing how experiences of low self worth are so universal no matter what you look like, trying to fill that void by settling for people who don’t treat you right or with other forms of addiction such as food/shopping/drugs. I wish they taught more about self esteem and finding inner worth in school. It seems like something so many of us struggle with and just hearing about her experiences broke my heart, but must be really validating for others going through the same thing. Just know you are strong enough and worthy to leave a toxic situation and love yourself. You can lose the weight/bad partner/bad habits, but you need to show yourself some love first!
@jokesonyou1457
4 жыл бұрын
Bro you literally look like a jacked version of tom holland
@CRIMSONarteries
4 жыл бұрын
I thought the same thing! The resemblance was crazy when he was younger.
@noahatlas5240
4 жыл бұрын
Big body, kiddish face
@Vitorruy1
3 жыл бұрын
Tom holland is jacked now btw
@vickyoli
4 жыл бұрын
I was skinny and I never saw myself pretty during high school. I think thinking “I’m not gonna talk to him bc he won’t like me back” is very common :(
@Jen-ne5ov
4 жыл бұрын
being in a mexican household it’s very hard growing up chubby. our food isn’t healthy at all and food is very important to us. at every event there’s food. being chubby is hard because you get called “gorda”, “gordis” (fatty) but in a “loving” “playful” way. although to family it’s playful or a joke it’s very hurtful. I was chubby all through middle and high school and got bullied by my own family about it. so much more hurtful then a random stranger. so because of this when I graduated high school I lost a ton of weight I got tired of being called fat by my own family. Thankfully now I’ve developed a healthier relationship with food though.
@DeniseResendez
4 жыл бұрын
Same here. I grew up in south Texas and healthy eating isn’t something that’s practiced very much. I started to get heavier in the last few years of high school and freshman year of college. But then I lost the weight. And it was hard that summer trying to get my family to understand I was serious about eating healthier. Sometimes my mom would be mad I didn’t eat something she made or there would be remarks from my siblings. It took time, but we’re in a good place now. I’m glad your relationship with food also got better!
@partycentral07
4 жыл бұрын
If you are on the thinner side, family will think you are sick. Being thinner to older generations means you are poor and cant afford food. Most of my family is also large for their size but they consider themselves to be healthy. As a kid my parents left me and my sister with my great aunt in Mexico for a afternoon. I was a lot thinner than my sister so my great aunt and her daughter tried shoveling food down my throat because I was so skinny. I was 6 so it really messed my head up. And when I told my parents of course they were upset. But the mentality needs to change otherwise peoples idea of health will always be altered.
@kaitlyncryderman9449
4 жыл бұрын
Oh man, everything she says just speaks to my life. So happy she’s moving to a positive space. ❤️
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