A reminder that I always remind myself “Do things from love, not for love “ 😊
@kreagan4826
2 жыл бұрын
like going to rainbow mountain
@moons4363
2 жыл бұрын
Well said 👏
@ashgunn3456
2 жыл бұрын
I’m going on to qq
@ashgunn3456
2 жыл бұрын
I don’t know what
@nbn1018
3 ай бұрын
Yeah …. this mindset has gotten people using me and not reciprocating the same energy to me …. aint gonna abandon myself anymore 😒
@glitteringworldgirl
2 жыл бұрын
A famous Selena quote is "the impossible IS POSSIBLE."💓 She often talked about her dreams/goals in the present tense too.
@GAURIIII_16
2 жыл бұрын
Gomez?
@glitteringworldgirl
2 жыл бұрын
Selena Quintanilla Pérez
@katbatson
2 жыл бұрын
@@GAURIIII_16 this made me laugh ♡
@lisar252
2 жыл бұрын
Yessss Dylan!!! Thank you soooo much for making this video! And yes it’s so true. Ever since I discovered law of assumption in the beginning of this year (thanks to my breakup with my ex and me miserably wanting him back) I have completely changed how I view love. I was doing a lot of sp affirmations for him in the beginning (which did work a lil bit btw) and some sc affs but ultimately it didn’t bring him back into my life fully conformed. So I just stopped and left it thinking I’ll get back into it later and just focused solely on sc affs. When I tell you my life changed…. I already worked on myself before getting into law of assumption but the sc affs took things to the NEXT LEVEL. I started getting noticed like never before and being asked out on dates. I completely changed my view on love bc of sc and attracted my current partner who pretty much reflects almost everything I affirmed for. I don’t even want my sp back now lol. And ever since I’ve done this work on myself and affirming for SC, I noticed that nothing feels forced anymore. With the guy I’m dating now, everything feels so natural and it’s all unfolding naturally bc we’re both pretty much on the same frequency (eiypo) and looking for the same things (which is commitment and marriage) so we’re just enjoying the ride until that time comes. Even my friendships are the same. It’s mostly equal reciprocation and it doesn’t feel forced or anything. I text someone whenever I want and they respond and reach out to me too. There’s no waiting or playing games or anything like that. Same with the guy I’m dating. We both text and call each other whenever and nothing feels forced or with an expectation attached to it. It feels so free and liberating! I guess this is the result of truly putting work into yourself and loving yourself unconditionally. Being in a mentally healthy state to be able to give and receive love, from your partner, friends, fam, others and most importantly yourself is one of the best feelings :)
@jadonmuller1576
2 жыл бұрын
Hey i am wondering what affirmations for sc did u use ? I feel dumb saying love is consistent in my life when it isn’t yet but I think that is the persisting. Do you affirm during the day or right after waking up and going to sleep so it’s easier to impress ?
@lisar252
2 жыл бұрын
@@jadonmuller1576 hey! Tbh I just used generic sc affirmations like I am loved, I am lovable, I am deserving of a healthy, committed relationship, I deserve unconditional love, etc. I did say a lot of affirmations (like around 20-30 ish) at once which is probably unnecessary but it helped me so if that helps you then do it! and I would always say my affs out loud to myself before I go to sleep. Sometimes i try to say it after I wake up but if I have work the next day its really hard bc I’m such a last min person and I’m always rushing so I wouldn’t get time 🤦🏻♀️ but I saw progress doing it once a day. Don’t feel dumb, the biggest thing is persistency. You don’t need complicated affirmations or a complicated routine or anything like that to manifest. You just need to believe and keep going even when it seems impossible. Another thing that might help is setting an intention or a goal before just blindly saying affirmations. Like for ex if you have an intention to be in a serious relationship before going into dating then say that out loud and continue with your affirmations and watch it all unfold. And even if your affs seem unbelievable at the moment, keep affirming bc it’ll impress into your subconscious eventually and you’ll start believing it! And kick out any negative self talk that pops up in your head throughout the day and affirm for the positive of those instead. Basically just have trust in yourself, whatever you’re affirming for and the universe. That itself is half the work, the rest is extra to help you out (think of it like this). And just keep persisting. You’ll get there dw :) good luck!
@spacevspitch4028
Жыл бұрын
Man, I feel so so so screwed. Like so many of us, I started the same way. Got broken up with 3.5 mos ago by gf of 8 years. I don't know how other people truly feel with their SPs but the twin flame/soulmate vibes all throughout my relationship were incredible and incomparable to anything I'd ever experienced. So it's extremely difficult to completely let go and JUST focus on SC. And not care about wanting them back, feeling like we're made for each other and blah blah blah. And think I'm gonna meet some _other_ person that I could have that same kind of companionship and chemistry and feel that way about them as my original SP. But then it's like, we're in no contact anyway and I don't feel confident reaching out to her. I feel like she broke up with me, so from my end I just feel like I need to manifest contact from her first. I'm doing breathwork every day and various affirmations, some for SP and some for SC. I have trauma though and there seem to be really strong emotional states that I get into that are incredibly difficult to break out of. It's not as simple as just changing thoughts. Doesn't seem to he anyway.
@Verogomez15
2 жыл бұрын
Late night thoughts 💭 Love is a choice not a feeling 💛 Love (philia= affectionate love) is a choice (verb) a positive decision to treat myself with care on a daily basis, and choosing to care and see the best in others, not a feeling that supposed be fulfilled by outside forces to make me feel positive emotions, I’m suppose to be complete on my own and love unconditionally(no expectations) with compassion and respect. Intimacy is a feeling that can express love, but I can separate them because I love myself and I’m able to set healthy boundaries and think with my head (choices) and not my heart (feelings), so I won’t get confused by a good feeling for “love” and be able to see clearly if someones values don’t align with mine to build a future and Im able to walk away from situations that no longer gives me peace. I feel sad for people that don’t choose love because deep down they are hurting themselves by sabotaging their own life by putting themselves on unwanted situations, they are screaming for someone to understand them and see them as good people and enough to feel deserving of love for themselves and to express to it others. So never take someone’s negative behavior personally, send love and peace and let them heal on their own because we are all responsible of our own happiness to feel complete to be able to choose love.
@user-rc6xh2ln3r
Жыл бұрын
it is a feeling. the way you describe love in your different contexts, like self love and searching for a partner all of it sounds like .. unnatural? forced? you might want to be "realistic" but youre like theres no "natural feeling" in it at all.
@carolynherbert5353
2 жыл бұрын
I completely understand his perspective and really liked the point of view , for instance in a relationship where it's usually going 50/50 and the whole meeting someone halfway but sometimes the other person may not be feeling well, may need a little pick me up and some days it's perfectly okay to go the extra mile just because you love and respect that person and you are doing it from your heart for the sole purpose of caring for that person , and having unconditional love !♡ thanks Dylan
@Jade__40
2 жыл бұрын
I wasn’t able to understand and implement this until i was really focusing on stability. The night affirmations help a lot, but its really the Breathwork that transformed me.. nobody in law of assumption emphasizes that like Dylan. He truly has it figured out
@RedyPiper
2 жыл бұрын
My wife and I gained so much perspective from this video. Thank you Dylan 👍✌️❤️
@Robertiena
2 жыл бұрын
So long story short, true love is selfless, if you want to experience true real love in your life or from your partner, you can't be selfish. You must think, feel and act, treat people in such way that comes from a place of genuine love and without any expectation, you do it because it feels like a loving and beautiful thing, and it's because this is who you are, not because if you do this thing you will then expect to benefit. Once again, such an important video ❤ please remind us of this in the future over and over, this is such a huge and common mistake, so it needs to be hammered into our heads because we live in a society where entitlement is seen as a good quality to aim for, when it's quite the opposite. We deserve love and amazing partner but they can't be expected to treat us that way when our thoughts about them are far from pure love. P.S. I've always noticed and admired Selenas character too, some people are so blessed they know how to find this love within them naturally. Gonna have to find that movie for inspo❤
@sarazephyr8224
2 жыл бұрын
Everything you do coming from a place of love is so pure and I think that's such truth right there.
@meowmeow1stgen668
2 жыл бұрын
Here’s where this gets confusing. Self love and giving love is great and I think it’s valid and necessary. However, the issue is we don’t live in a vacuum and it is a normal human need to be shown love by others so when they don’t, wouldn’t it be normal to want or need it? I do understand what you’re saying though in the context of giving vs to get. That’s valid.
@Ruth72166
2 жыл бұрын
The present is thoughts manifested from the past, the future is our predominant constant thoughts now.
@MZ-ry3rj
2 жыл бұрын
Dylan, I LOVE how open minded you are. It’s such a pleasure to listen to you.
@jillkx
2 жыл бұрын
Hey 🌸 Could you perhaps do a video on how to stabilise yourself? I’d also be interested to know as to how we‘re supposed to react in different kinds of situations. For example if we want to communicate our boundaries or that someone is not treating us well without engaging in it too much and giving the other person too much power over us 😊
@dbsk06
2 жыл бұрын
Basically don’t do to get. Be whole and complete instead and show up with love without expecting reciprocation
@nadiasmith4477
2 жыл бұрын
Lol Dylan your “melatonin nightly talk” love it thank you 💗
@jinxjinx77
2 жыл бұрын
Your Venmo is 444 and your subscriber total is 777 … I am back watching ALL of your videos … you are helping me to shift, stabilize, improve my self concept with the affirmations (night 2) and manifest!!! Thankful for you DJ.
@Julie-hh2pu
2 жыл бұрын
It's funny that a few days ago I was randomly singing "let's talk about love, baby" out of nowhere and now I see this😆
@shanybouwer5082
2 жыл бұрын
Dylan you are truely amazing 🙏 I have changed my life in a year of listening to you self concept tapes. I do see that I struggle a lot with romantic love in particular even after listening to the tapes and affirmation. I dont think about it, bit just something that I have noticed
@theoneonly8916
Жыл бұрын
I’m really trying to figure out, I’ve finally gotten to the place where I can feel my manifestation is unfolding, and it’ll get ALMOST HERE where I can TOUCH IT, and then I accidentally sabotage it. I can’t figure out my breaking point and I’m basically breaking my own heart. It’s repeating!
@inonedakshi3520
2 жыл бұрын
Great content as usual! Can you also touch base on how to not get used/ manipulated. I feel like genuinely being nice is so rare these days and people try and have you in their life only because of what they can get from you. How to apply this is in situations and people who are not willing to contribute but only sticking around to receive? This does not necessarily mean I am keeping score and expecting things in return but I really like to understand how to maintain the balance.
@lucidaandromeda
2 жыл бұрын
Love this chat about Love!! Selena is one of my favorite movies. Great example of living in love. Thank you Dylan! 🙏🏽💖👑
@kimberleygaleano8044
2 жыл бұрын
I love that you address us with “ hello cuties” 💕 P.S. No disrespect intended but I enjoy falling asleep to your sexy deep voice guiding my meditation sessions 🔥🔥
@phynekat
2 жыл бұрын
Dylan you are a joy and I'm so glad I found you..🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@anzie679x
Жыл бұрын
Sleepy Melatonin Dylan is adorable-BUT please rest, king! We love you! 🫶
@jadestea510
2 жыл бұрын
Dylan your affirmation tapes are so useful and I always use them while manifesting something specific. Can you please make a tape for parent's unconditional love and support? My parents are standing between me and my dreams...
@gretchen0778
2 жыл бұрын
Your videos help me so much, with self confidence and believing in myself. Whenever I’m having a bad time with life I hurry up and remember I can control my destiny…. Like right now a crush sent his girl into my job to get him stuff. It’s affecting my emotions a little. But I’m trying to stay strong and remember I choose to no longer have that person in my life, and to stay positive someone better who deserves me will show up. I just have to keep showing myself love so I can receive it. Thank you Dylan for your channel! I even listen to the overnight meditations it does help!
@charlottestannoo
7 ай бұрын
This reminds me of a saying, "I can only keep what I have by giving it away."
@khadijahnasseb6736
7 ай бұрын
I really needed to hear this. Thankyou. I have fucked up my relationships because of having ulterior motives
@JasmineLajeunesse
2 жыл бұрын
Wow Dylan :) You’re my best friend 💚
@StuckInKMusic4Life
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Dylan, I would really like a video from you on what to do when you lost yourself so much that you don't know what you want. Like all the things you used to love and aspired to seem meaningless and you feel so stuck and overwhelemed by life.
@its_becks119
2 жыл бұрын
Maybe make a list of things you used to enjoy and try and pinpoint when and where- what could have happened that made you lose interest? Nothing is meaningless if it brings you happiness. It’s all a self concept thing
@StuckInKMusic4Life
2 жыл бұрын
@@its_becks119 Thank you for the tip. Yes, it very much is a self concept thing that stems from fear and inadequcy. I guess I just need to start with baby steps to stop feeling overwhelmed and find myself again.
@nesrinechabani7806
2 жыл бұрын
Dylan sweety i've already manifested my biggggest desires using ur teachings there is only one thing i still feel lil anxious about : exams. So i didn't take any action i didn't study and idk how to apply ur approach on it. 12 juin i do the exam if u can do a short live talking about it, it would be nice and appreciated
@brimo4565
2 жыл бұрын
I manifested passing my nursing board exam a year and a half AFTER graduating nursing school. Ever forum online said I wouldn’t pass it that I had to study for like 4 months. I passed it just by KNOWING I was going to pass, and with minimum studying. The only reason I studied was because I felt like if I didn’t, even if it was 5 min that maybe I wouldn’t pass but that was only a limiting belief. Still I studied for like 20 minutes for like 2 days and I passed. You got this!
@nesrinechabani7806
2 жыл бұрын
@@brimo4565 thank you i really appreciate your response
@lolitaa7760
2 жыл бұрын
I would write down on a piece of paper ur fears and current reasons why u think u won’t pass and release the emotion from there. Then change the belief and uno stuff like I’m always the best etc i always get whatever I want. It’s possible for illogical things to happen to idk whatever else that resonates with u
@nesrinechabani7806
2 жыл бұрын
@@lolitaa7760 i was gonna write what bothered me but i already shifted. One of my manifestations is to have the knowledge that will get me my desired results. Anyway old story i didn't know what topics we study and all but kept affirming while skimming through notes, i calmed down and completed what was i doing. So now when i wanted to comment that the only limiting belief i have is not studying enough i got instantly an opposing thought *wait u actually have the knowledge * so thank u for ur comments but i guess i already nailed the exams
@lolitaa7760
2 жыл бұрын
@@nesrinechabani7806 yourwelcome !😌
@inmaculadaserrano4114
2 жыл бұрын
I love you just for who you are Dylan💜Thanks so much for sharing this view on LOVE!
@paolaguerrero1810
2 жыл бұрын
Also, think about it the other way around. Would you like it if you knew that someone's showing you love or giving you something to gain something in return? I won't. So let's not do that.
@gaaaaaleeeeeee
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Dylan 🙏🏼
@rozendahendrickse7962
2 жыл бұрын
Awesome content! Thanks Dylan! ❤️🇿🇦
@nidhitripathi5764
2 жыл бұрын
Dylan you have no idea how much I adore you❤❤❤
@shaydeejai
2 жыл бұрын
Your content is so real and life changing! I’m putting myself to work by becoming the change I want to see. Thank you for your videos!
@pocahontas330
2 жыл бұрын
Much gratitude for you D🙏✨💖🤗
@AS-ru7kf
2 жыл бұрын
I’m enjoying your videos so much and your love for what you teach really comes thru on the screen. it’s refreshing to see and it helps everyone stay in touch with their emotions especially in these uncertain crazy times. 🤗💕🙏🏻
@bbybunnyyy4812
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your videos 🤗💖
@ericatan4325
2 жыл бұрын
Lower your expectation of how others should have treated you and don't tell others how to love you. Instead, we should understand that giving out loves is a personal decision.
@maedegracia404
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dylan. So timely. ❤️
@annesobb1675
2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree, but for me when you give love it’s always for something even your ego or to high up your own self estime or to feel better with yourself . Even Theresa sister was giving her life to help people but it was for God - was not totally free
@akane233
2 жыл бұрын
Love you Dylan! ❤️
@jcferg7733
2 жыл бұрын
Great stuff. Thanks Dylan.
@frankensquid
2 жыл бұрын
This was the video I needed 💜 goodnight 🌙 and thank you 🙏🏻
@bhumikaitkan
2 жыл бұрын
ily dylan, thank u ♡
@family2082008
2 жыл бұрын
謝謝!
@alexdiaz4550
2 жыл бұрын
Heyy Dylan, I always wanted to say that your honestly a gift in this world. And, I’ve been using what you taught me to get this girl who actually has a boyfriend to come my way. But, she’s in that confused state and I don’t want to continue to give myself. Ik you always talk about no third parties or circumstances. However, what would you say to dealing with a situation like this when you see each other at work everyday ? I’m just confused cause Ik I want to not act without love and comfort, but Ik she’s not the way I’ve been desiring. Just a video idea!!! Have a great day
@JACKtheSEXYPIRATE
2 жыл бұрын
Start creating the story you want. What do you want? She can’t resist me. She realizes I’m the only one she wants. She loves the way I treat her. She compares me to every guy, and they all come short. In your current 3D - first accept where you are. This is most important step, because you release resistance that way. I always tell myself, just because things are this way right now does not mean they always will be. Don’t restrict yourself from being loving. First, girls love that. It only becomes a problem when you over extend with the expectation to receive in return. This has been a problem for me in past. I did this, so you should do that. No! I’ve really had to freely love and become secure in myself, that way you can give love- retreat back into your own life/goals and then that person will be left wanting more in a non toxic way. Continue to affirm only the story you want. When she gives you that sweet flirty smile at work, remind yourself - yes she’s falling for me hard and we’re moving towards our relationship. When she talks about the current boyfriend remind yourself that’s only temporary and she’s already got her mind set on me Commit. And don’t look back.
@alexdiaz4550
2 жыл бұрын
@@JACKtheSEXYPIRATE thanks so much sparrow for that, it really means a lot! I’ll take what you said and apply it 🙏 and reread again again
@bloxylush3643
2 жыл бұрын
Anyone else still confused about how to not act as a doormat while still being loving and not emotionally reactive?
@manifestingcafe
2 жыл бұрын
Here's what I learned from being in feminine energy spaces: You don't need to cuss people out or tell them about themselves when they show up in ways you don't like, you set & hold the boundaries by being able to just remove yourself from the situation & not even respond to the behaviour, or just let them know that you don't appreciate what they're doing and that you won't stay around for that behaviour. That communicates to them that you won't tolerate being treated any-which way and this can all be done in a loving way. Setting boundaries isn't getting mad at someone and screaming "I told you to stop showing up this way!!!", that's a waste of energy and rarely doesn't anything (trying to control the 3D), it's really about if they do show up in a unfavourable way you show them that they no longer get access to you and it doesn't have to be a big dramatic thing. Constantly trying to force someone to change their behaviour is only keeping you stuck because It's up to you to uphold your boundaries out of love for yourself, no one else. I hope this helps ✌
@jess_v7556
2 жыл бұрын
Daddy Dylan, what do you do when your trust is betrayed and they refused to prove you wrong, but you love them? Do you just let it go because you want to show love? Will that really give you peace of mind in loving that person 100%...
@PhoenixSecret
2 жыл бұрын
Love your content! You are awesome and I still listen to your affirmations every night. May I asked what happened to physical glow up? I was going to rotate to that and can't find it now? I know you are revamping and rearranging. You are the best!!
@stormmoonlightbrigth7022
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Dylan! Could you please make a video talking about money and career? Thank you 💞🌌
@jackieangela1678
2 жыл бұрын
Love this video so much
@Brock_Wasabii
2 жыл бұрын
Love you bro
@davimderkaur1797
2 жыл бұрын
Hey ..i want menifest my visa ...and amzing life with my lover..
@insomnias6399
2 жыл бұрын
If/Whenever I imagine/affirm something positive for someone else (healing etc), does that only help them in MY reality or also in THEIR reality? Or are we in the same reality of infinite potentialities? ❤
@its_becks119
2 жыл бұрын
You are helping them from YOUR reality- as you assign them a role. There are infinite versions.
@insomnias6399
2 жыл бұрын
@@its_becks119 And does it help them in THEIR reality?
@dm1759
2 жыл бұрын
But this is what I don't get. Did Selena then manifest her own shooting? I feel that's where I get confused with LoA.
@Izz740
2 жыл бұрын
What if it’s something like he’s texting and I’d prefer a call?? Do I just not respond and affirm or is it better to say what I want
@leannegerth4844
2 жыл бұрын
Love love LOVE that movie!!
@amberheffner8942
2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful video ❤️
@llgrazes
2 жыл бұрын
I swear my beautiful handsome darling you must be psychic I took my SP on an amazing birthday adventure I did what I wanted to do as well but he just showed up angry and pissy that day and I became angry and pissy too I didn’t do it to get something from him I just wanted him to have a great birthday because of his attitude I don’t really think he did so I showed up the way I showed up and enjoy the day. But I was a little angry for about a week after I felt he was being really ungrateful I didn’t get angry or argumentative but it definitely resonated why did I do this what was I trying to get from him now I have to think about this I don’t think I was trying to get anything but But to give him a wonderful birthday but now I really need to think on this thank you happy Friday
@manifestingcafe
2 жыл бұрын
Trust me sometimes we really think we're doing something out of love but our core wounds are very sneaky and we are actually doing it trying to get some sort of need met, unbeknownst to us. The answer is always in our reaction. This is why we do the work now to become conscious of our true motives and now be able to move in to that love space.
@oakland4094
2 жыл бұрын
I understand this concept, but what if you have a pattern of being used? To break this we just continue to expand our self worth? This is the balance I find challenging to navigate. Thoughts?
@IAm_DylanJames
2 жыл бұрын
Address that in your belief system and you will begin to naturally behave/materialize experiences where being used does not occur anymore.
@oakland4094
2 жыл бұрын
@@IAm_DylanJames Thank you 🤍
@susi9242
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly, why is reactivity always so bad.? I dont think it's my fault he fucks me over and are mean and horrible. It's easy this thing can turn toxic for us that always control our reactivity and supress those intense emotions of anger and sadness
@Robertiena
2 жыл бұрын
Because when you react emotionally and think about it badly over and over, those thought patterns will just recreate a similar situation again. Then you will react again, think emotional angry thoughts again, those thoughts will then set something into motion...and so the cycle remains the same until you change something within you. Whichever way he "fucked you over", first there had to be some thoughts and beliefs in you which set that event in motion, so getting angry and reactive at him is pointless, he can only act in such way in which your beliefs dictate, so change your beliefs and he will become the most wonderful boyfriend.
@susi9242
2 жыл бұрын
@@Robertiena yes, I see, but we're two in this, and I can only take responsibility for myself and my beliefs, I feel it's not healthy to keep a severe reaction to someones abuse inside and say that its my beliefs that caused this situation, bc he has to be responsible for his own actions and they have conequences with me - Im not a doormat who wont react and not put boundaries in place... And to be honest I feel sometimes it's more unhealthy to not let urself react and express your feeling than to just go around in cicles in ur head tryna figure out how u somehow caused that person to punch you in ur face. See for me it's a way of breaking an unhealthy cycle of NOT expressing my anger and telling my angry thoughts and feelings, rather than to just go and "work more on myself". One doesnt exclude the other bc I get what he's saying and mostly agree, but to redirect anger and sadness into thought-actions about how to change urself instead of being real with that person about how you feel after they mistreated you, Im starting to think can be just as bad and detrimental to your progress. I dont agree with it's being pointless, bc I somehow did it to myself..? For us that arent able to protect ourselves I think getting in touch with reactivity is a good thing.
@sanamsitaram7940
2 жыл бұрын
@@susi9242 this 🙌🙌
@Robertiena
2 жыл бұрын
@@susi9242 it's not what I meant. If you're getting treated badly, of course you're not just gonna sit there and take it, you do whatever is needed in that moment to respect yourself. But once the moment is over and a bit of time passed to think more clearly and calm, if you are still blaming him and taking zero accountability that your thoughts brought this into being, then nothing will change. If you spend your days thinking "I deserve better from him, he was such an ahole, this is his fault..." Now what will that do? It'll keep you angry, and most importantly it'll keep him the same version who was capable of doing this in the first place, because if you don't make a change inwardly, outside will remain the same. I never said you have to sit and go around in circles trying to figure out why the person punched you in the face, I am saying the exact opposite, is that you sit and start planting more productive thoughts, more self love, better self concept, and better concept of him, so that situation has no choice but to improve. We are the operant power, all events that happen to us were first planted in our minds, good or bad, but people never want to take accountability for bad ones, which keeps them pointing fingers and stuck in a hateful repetitive cycle. I never said don't express your anger, if you got angry in the first place this means you already reacted inwardly and accepted this treatment, therefore go ahead and express, shout at him, explode, let him know this wasn't ok. But once you let it all out, don't keep holding on to it, because you'll be the one harvesting future fruit of what good or hateful thoughts you keep repeating inside you, not him. So might as well do your best to start healthier patterns. None of this means you should stay silent and just take the treatment, this is not what me or Dylan said. The point was that you shouldn't allow it to consume you
@manifestingcafe
2 жыл бұрын
The question to ask is, why are you sticking around with someone who treats you that way just for you to keep getting mad at them again and again? Boundaries aren't about trying to control someone else's behaviour, it's up to you to uphold your boundaries by removing yourself from any situation that you don't feel respected in. He's being an asshole? Then he doesn't get access to you anymore until he shows up correct. If you want to be with him in a healthy relationship you've got to start seeing him as loving partner or else you're just choosing to stay in a miserable situation.
@spongebob3248
2 жыл бұрын
But how do you know when to leave?
@selflove96
Жыл бұрын
Very helpful 👍 👌
@francesdesmarais204
2 жыл бұрын
I love this topic.. I want to share my dream from last night bcz I specifically asked if it's true that I'm still attracted to unavailable men. Just for the hell of it I'm going to ask tonight if I'm attracted to men who are available, supportive and loving...(see what happens) Anyway so the dream i see this man and his wife was a nurse...she was in a bed.... but she was called to go to ppls houses to treat and care for them. He was not ok with it for the fact she wasn't well.. he got up and everyone started marching through the halls and everyone followed him. He was advocating for his wife to stop them from making his wife do a job she wasnt ready for.... I was impressed by his leadership , decisiveness and how he protected his wife from something that was obviously going to harm her. So I end up rowing a boat in some water He happened to be next to me... and his legs was rubbing up against mine. We both felt the chemistry but he was married.. I sat with him for some time talking about the events that just played out. How the city was making ppl sick with there demands ect.. he was a fighter and advocate for ppls rights . Ect . Then I see his buddy coming from a distant .....we watch him guzzle back some hard lquior And thats when his wife came in. .she sees how close and aquatiend we were.... laughing ect. . not impressed but he assured everyhing was fine.. ...I get up to leave Hmmmm Interesting dream can mean so many things but heres my interpretation the nurse (me) the overextending, the spreading herself too thin, the fixer, the healer, the one who does everything for everyone but herself. She's a workaholic too........ Seeing she was able to rest ... her husband (also me) caring for her.. making sure she doesn't go out of her way . Protecting her ... and the rowing boat . Progress.... Love is an extension of self mastery and seeing your love is given unconditionally but not at the cost of your own wellbeing or to as something gain I hear you dylan loud and clear ❤️ I think it will take me sometime to come to the full awareness so I can be open and vulnerable ..the fear of being hurt o jaded or rejected. Is my own . . Emptiness.....
@SunainaM27
2 жыл бұрын
Dylan what do I do if I wake up in the middle of the night from the tapes and then can’t fall back asleep. I feel like I’m not getting enough sleep, and then I have a headache the next day.
@truthheals5723
2 жыл бұрын
Take a break for a few days
@cocojoller
2 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend just split up with me… Things were quite nasty at the end, I got really desperate and needy and he said he just doesn‘t love me enough (from enough love to not enough love in around ten days). Guys, I‘m devastated. What can I do now? What do I do now? It feels like I messed up big time and there is no way back. I know Dylans teachings, but am so hurt right now, so desperate. Did I really mess it up forever? Anybody with success stories here to help me and boost my confidence?
@lisa-lx5kj
2 жыл бұрын
hun u can turn anything around. i got my sp back many times and shit was awful. Months of nC and had him begging for me. Trust me. its your SC that needs work.
@cocojoller
2 жыл бұрын
@@lisa-lx5kj Thanks for ur reply! I know… How did u turn things around inside of you? I feel like I‘ve been working on myself over and over again, listening to the nightly affirmations but still stuck…
@lisa-lx5kj
2 жыл бұрын
@@cocojoller literally dropped him from my awareness. Was like.. he will be back bc he knows he will never get better than me. I kid u not-- 7 mos later he said- u ruined my life bc u set the bar so high. Ill never get better than you.' duuuuude whattt. Ok so i reacted to some shit things he did and got myself in NC a few more times but i see how he conforms a bit more each time. The key is not needing and not being so focused on them. I did lots of inner convos with me telling him look, you need to act right if u want to keep me and id hear him say im working on myself to be the best partner u deserve.' and within weeks he would reach out. Just really relax and live your life in the meantime xo
@dailyinspiration5540
2 жыл бұрын
Why are you describing yourself as desperate and needy? You just got broken up with, are you supposed to be happy? Just give yourself time. I haven’t seen where you did anything ‘wrong’ so you didn’t mess up. You don’t have to be perfect or perform perfectly or always say or do the right thing or even ‘emotionally stabilize’ yourself to be loved. And you need to divorce yourself from this idea.
@bobohobo7652
Жыл бұрын
Stinkibär 22.01.22 we Love you
@rajpalbhatia1715
2 жыл бұрын
i love talking abt love
@anaisd3735
2 жыл бұрын
Love yaaaa from france 💜🌼✨
@shininglightllc
11 күн бұрын
🌟
@cataleyablaire
Жыл бұрын
100%.
@angiep5514
2 жыл бұрын
Hi cutie pie!!
@JM-xq1fb
2 жыл бұрын
@dylan How am I NOT to react when I pit my credit on the line to help him obtain a material item he couldn't obtain for himself due to him not having a checking acct or a card to use to put the deposit and set up direct drafting on. He promised to make payments to me during our relationship and that was one of the things we argued about. I did it along with other things from a place of love!! So no it wasn't about what I'd get out of it at all. I did it because he asked me for the help. How was I to handle this during the relationship and since. This is a continual situation bc the item hasn't been paid off by him amd sits on my credit now. Please help!!! And he wants nothing to do with me and states he is done and will never be with me again
@lisa-lx5kj
2 жыл бұрын
u take the L and do not engage w that version of him. Something in your beliefs had him show up that way. Revise it and persist in how you want him to be and work on your SC that you deserve honesty and integrity etc. Set that boundary too and be like nope. Tell him you're taking him to court. karma is real too.
@christinaweber340
2 жыл бұрын
Jerrica M Honestly this sounds more like enabling than love. Love doesn't mean being a doormat. I would also invite you to be very honest with yourself and perhaps examine if you might have done this for him in order to keep him around and/or receiving some kind of validation/recognition, which again is very different from love. If the answer to the last question is 'yes', then you can rest assured this came from your ego seeking validation and not from love and explains why the situation turned out the way it did.
@manifestingcafe
2 жыл бұрын
I wrote this on another comment but it applies here too: Trust me sometimes we really think we're doing something out of love but our core wounds are very sneaky and we are actually doing it trying to get some sort of need met, unbeknownst to us. The answer is always in our reaction. This is why we do the work now to become conscious of our true motives and now be able to move in to that love space.
@JM-xq1fb
2 жыл бұрын
@@christinaweber340 nope did this way before he and I were a couple. Did it as a friend, ANYTHING I did for him was not for a validation or had expectations other than if he promised to pay back
@JM-xq1fb
2 жыл бұрын
@@manifestingcafe no clue of what ALL that was to mean, was not finding anything helpful in that comment tbh. Was like irreverent
@tyssaanggraini8019
2 жыл бұрын
even if they are cheating??or I should just go and leave them
@cyndigooch1162
2 жыл бұрын
What's love got to do with it?! 😉
@rachaelwitchey8268
Жыл бұрын
Why is it so hard for me to not react 😂
@IAm_DylanJames
Жыл бұрын
Because we're human and it's a learning process : ) Watch your reactions, then observe the results. Correlate if the reaction was worth the result. Then purposefully don't react and observe the result. This helped me learn quicker.
@rachaelwitchey8268
Жыл бұрын
@@IAm_DylanJames thanks I really realize I have a problem 😭 I’ll do good and then regress. I get so triggered.
@msmilopes
2 жыл бұрын
❤
@vanessaclaire999
2 жыл бұрын
❤️
@jessie0078
2 жыл бұрын
🌻🌻🌻
@payalkanaskar8109
2 жыл бұрын
🥰🥰🥰😘😘😘🙂😘🙃🙃🙃
@orangecelebrity
Жыл бұрын
I manifest you be my boyfriend 🫣You are really handsome 🙈Ahahaha🤣❤️😂
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