I’m being forced into divorce because my husband cheated and decided his affair partner was worth losing the marriage over. He’s living with her 2 months into being committed to her, he wasn’t even remotely interested in fixing our marriage and demanding divorce. It’s devastating and heartbreaking but I have no choice but to finish my divorce and heal. I have a lot of anger still in my heart I need to let go of. Ladies/Gentlemen- no affair is ever worth it. Please don’t do it or end it if you’re in one. The amount of hurt the betrayed feels is unlike any pain you’ll ever experience. It rips families apart, ruins relationships and you’ll feel regret for making permanent decisions in a temporary situation.
@andrewjones3625
Жыл бұрын
My wife of two years have left me for someone else. I am just left with a empty feeling,
@cindsvj1234
Жыл бұрын
😢😢😢
@patrickkepler8187
Жыл бұрын
im 7 years in, it gets better
@CedroneTravels
11 ай бұрын
@@patrickkepler8187it does get better.
@RobertLanghorn
9 ай бұрын
My wife cheated with multiple men. We had 3 kids 2,4 6yo and I wanted to protect them so I took her back. She cheated again of course. Once a cheater always a cheater. Divorced. New guy grooming my kids. Now they're a bit older. She told the kids I was abusive (lie) and the new guy was better. Big mistake. They took my side once they understood she cheated. What a nightmare. I blame myself for picking such a woman. Now my kids are even more damaged. Please pray for us.
@jensbornagain
2 жыл бұрын
When you cheat on your spouse and you didn’t care about the consequences maybe you deserve to feel lonely and hurt. That’s what we have to deal everyday for the rest of our lives
@blueseptember2174
2 жыл бұрын
True we feel like a hole has swallowed us and yet we have to push on.
@annabanzon313
Жыл бұрын
I've been on receiving end of betrayal but tbh that person has had zero consequences. In fact he's married, had more kids and I've even caught him with another girl that wasn't his wife.
@kenosi7345
3 жыл бұрын
I'm going through a divorce we agreed to take the path last night... I feel all sorts of emotions like the world can open up and just swallow me. Thank you for this I just didn't know where to look for any advice or cancelling.. I hope I will come back one day to this video with a recovered heart and a good happy path in life.
@jesussaves6510
3 жыл бұрын
no one might ever tell you this , maybe they have but. Jesus is real and he loves you more than anyone else on this earth. He's a savior , he will hold your hand through life. Let him into your life tell him to lead you and carry you. Pray to him when you have time.
@chaleorta
3 жыл бұрын
Stay strong and I hope you come back
@kenosi7345
3 жыл бұрын
@@jesussaves6510 thank you for your message I needed to hear that more than anything right now
@kenosi7345
3 жыл бұрын
@@chaleorta thank you
@judeskanga1163
3 жыл бұрын
@@kenosi7345 how are you now?🙏🏾
@stephaniefythm
Жыл бұрын
I went through a lot of financial crisis after my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, Currently I'm living smart and frugal with my money. Bought my second house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college,just hope it encourages someone that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing is a grand choice I made. Great video! Thanks for sharing!
@eadad4371
Жыл бұрын
@ugojazzy7812
Жыл бұрын
Any clue?
@monicaquay
3 жыл бұрын
I'm 3 days out from having my 2nd child with my husband. He came home 25 days ago (to be exact) & told me he had been seeing someone else while on business trips to California. I'm honestly so heartbroken and sad. I thought my family was about to be complete. Instead I'm trying to cope with infidelity on top of pregnancy and all that comes with it. Please, people... Just leave if you're unhappy. I'd rather he had left me while pregnant than put me through this. It's emotionally destroyed me, and I don't even know how to begin to put my life back together. Prayers are appreciated.
@nithinvijaykoushik15
3 жыл бұрын
God Bless you
@codykoplin5337
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing.
@codykoplin5337
2 жыл бұрын
Respect
@marriage4life893
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so so so sorry. Y'all are in my prayers.
@keishaholley2205
2 жыл бұрын
Praying for you. Infidelity is very difficult.
@seasonalliving2881
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve never understood intentionally hiding the infidelity from the children. I believe they have a right to know, of course not all the salacious details but just like a healthy marriage affects them in a positive way, this betrayal affects them negatively. We can’t just pretend the truth isn’t the truth.
@sarahalderman3126
2 жыл бұрын
So very true! It is unfair to allow a cheating spouse to pretend to be a decent person, parent, or spouse. The children deserve to know WHO the unfaithful spouse IS! They shouldn’t get to hide behind anything. These liar’s should never get to hide behind their betrayed spouse. Seriously there is one decent person and another waste of space person and the children need to know and understand which parent is worth their respect. Obviously the cheater isn’t that.
@jimanders8812
Жыл бұрын
I agree, my soon to be ex wife the unfaithful and her enabling family are upset that I told the kids what’s really going on. Seems very strange the make believe game their trying to play with the kids like the lies and charades just keep going? Ya no
@michaelsmith1364
5 ай бұрын
They don’t think about their children when cheating and betraying their family. Regardless the kids will know eventually who the reason their family didn’t last.
@jessiesheldon-huffey1824
4 ай бұрын
I learned last week about my husband's porn issue after a 25 year marriage. I told my 23 year old daughter but am struggling to tell my 17 year old son as I don't want to say anything that will jeopardize him graduating high school in 2 months. Wondering if I should wait to tell him.
@DCrais
Ай бұрын
They have to know
@B.A.B.G.
3 жыл бұрын
Well if one chose to commit adultery, they should be okay with paying for it, if the marriage and family are broken and torn apart as a result.
@acemany1126
3 жыл бұрын
I agree 100%. My wife cheated, my kids found out when they say the text messages on her phone. I got a lawyer and gave her back to the streets. Both my girls hate her guts!! I didn't have to say anything. I refuse to reconcile because I guess what I am as a man wasn't enough. Facts!!
@jocelyndee1906
2 жыл бұрын
My husband wants a divorce so he can marry his affair partner any advices for me.
@ronallen4838
4 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately my wife knew the pain and horror beforehand as her first husband cheated on her and the pain of divorce, but chose to do it anyways which hurts even more
@staleydu1
3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry. Best to you in your healing
@ronallen4838
3 жыл бұрын
@@staleydu1 Thanks so much. God will use it for my good somehow
@terrywade3696
2 жыл бұрын
Ron Allen: I’m going through this right now with my unfaithful husband. He too was a betrayed spouse. I made the mistake of believing that he knew how it felt and would never do that to me. He also would 86 friends if they cheated on their significant others. He also had never cheated on anyone until he cheated on me after 29 years of marriage! During our recovery time I came to realize that he avoids his feelings and there’s a name for it. Intimacy Anorexic. So, one day I asked him if he ever “processed” the betrayal of his 1st wife. He just said he put one foot in front of the other and moved on. That was when I realized that he never felt the pain. Never dealt with it. Never counted the cost to his own psyche. Never grieved the losses. Never questioned why it happened. My main safety net, that he knew how painful it was and would never do that to me, was blasted out of existence! So, I’m telling you this because even if your wife was betrayed before, she may not have processed it or fully felt what it did to her. She didn’t learn from it. I hope that helps you.
@sarahalderman3126
2 жыл бұрын
She obviously didn’t love you, so as hard as it is, you need to face the fact that she isn’t worth it and find someone who is WORTH it.
@VliengWieng
3 ай бұрын
That's depressing, I was kinda hoping someone who experienced that themselves would be less likely to do that
@phaedink12
4 жыл бұрын
How are they lonely when the go to live with the other woman?
@nembree622
4 жыл бұрын
Because what they are seeking they will never find in the world. I told my ex that he will take whatever issues he has with him, he didn't believe me.... He says he wants to be able to make someone happy and to be happy. Happiness comes from within - not from someone else. He'll never be "happy" until he can find peace inside that comes from the Lord. I'm sure your husband tells you how "happy" he is, but I'm pretty sure he's not really! I know mine is not, but he has to hit bottom and have a come to Jesus moment before his eyes are really open to the truth.
@phaedink12
4 жыл бұрын
nembree622 amen! My ex has lost almost everything. He can not afford to live on his or that is why he is living with her and I’m sure taking a lot. He cannot live like he was with me free to be out because I trusted him. She knows the kind of lier he is so she is insecure. He cannot say anything because he has no home. His relationship with his sons is strained. And covid has hit his business. Events all cancelled. Well he made a choice. I will trust GOD!
@phaedink12
4 жыл бұрын
Yes the issues will not go away until he addresses them. He did not want to get help for himself or us. His way is the right way and no one can tell him anything.
@rogzettalipscomb8340
3 жыл бұрын
I know my ex husband thinks everything is ok he did nothing wrong.but maybe that's why he don't say hi or anything .maybe he feels guilty for what he done I don't know.but I would love to know why he did cheat on me.i tried to ask him but he don't want to go there.so I guess I'll never know why.
@phaedink12
3 жыл бұрын
Rogzetta Lipscomb my situation also. I cut off communication because he refused to take my voice calls. I guess she will not let him out of her sight. She is insecure because of the lies and conspiracy that she and he did to me. He did not mean to hurt me but, repeated adultery and lying is a choice. I think that he just did not feel good about himself.
@rogzettalipscomb8340
4 жыл бұрын
I don't think my ex even cares that he hurt me.because he thinks just because we are friends I have forgiven him.no I can't stop thinking about what he did it still hurts me.
@jeffdutcher3676
3 жыл бұрын
Ditto we must forgive and have peace , he was and did what he did , you deserve a new life and peace give it to yourself only you have that power , forgive and be free.
@natureshorts6657
Жыл бұрын
Know a couple who are at the beginning of the divorce process due to infidelity (really a lot of underlying things, but infidelity was the trigger). D day for them was over a year ago, and they took the "lets try to pretend this never happened" approach. Clearly did not work. I would STRONGLY recommend to anyone who has had something like this happen to seek professional help that directly addresses the issue and everything related to it. Infidelity is not something you can just sweep under the rug or pretend never happened. It will absolutely eat away at you if you don't address it. Divorce isn't really going to solve much either if all the other issues of the marriage and problems of the individuals involved are not addressed. Help is out there. Get it.
@zhangyi9496
4 жыл бұрын
When I found out my SO was cheating on me with their co-worker. All my in laws all blame me. Instead of being in the middle to support the both of us. Which is now a huge issue with me. As I don't go to the inlaws like I use to in the past. Im having my own inner battles as to leave or stay with my SO. Worst part is my SO refuse to talk or try to make amend to this issue. And only wanna sweep it under the rug.
@jblvxk
3 жыл бұрын
Found out my wife was having an affair for a year. It’s been a year since I found out and I’m still struggling to cope with it. I lost everything from it. I hope things will turn around in my life one day..
@chaleorta
3 жыл бұрын
How are you doing?
@ITF11
2 жыл бұрын
Prayers sent out your way brother
@nettiemarie2556
2 жыл бұрын
Praying for you!!!
@eveshec
2 жыл бұрын
I found out after 4 years even though he understood the pain that I went through with my first marriage
@ashley71773
2 жыл бұрын
My husband of 5 years was having an affair that I found out about last weekend. I have nothing to gain from losing him and divorce. I feel like I’m losing apart of my soul not just my heart. I hope you’re doing better now 1 ur later
@lesliemcmanus5981
4 жыл бұрын
But your videos have saved my life and made me realize I'm not crazy. Thank all of y'all at AR for what you do!!!!!!
@Starsofneon
3 жыл бұрын
Could you imagine if people actually went to jail for affairs, how much lower the affair rate would be.... I mean.... Women would get their heads cut off in certain parts of the world if they were caught cheating... Infidelity is technically illegal (in some areas) but there's nothing really that the law does about it... Maybe financially and shortening the divorce process but that's about it, there's not much of a legal punishment.
@jensbornagain
2 жыл бұрын
I know one thing, it isn’t fair. The cheater who broke a binding contract gets no punishment. They still get half. They pay no compensation and the AP knows of there marriage and nothing happens to them either. It’s just plan ruthless and soul killing pain for the betrayed. I just don’t understand it. How you can be sleeping around and lay next to your spouse at night knowing what you been doing 💔
@allisonanderson7755
2 жыл бұрын
I agree. There should be some kind of legal punishment for the dispicable crap that goes on that causes extra stress to the betrayed. Like the pictures and motels etc. Doctors visits..time off work.. Betrayed should be supported by laws and compensation should be enforced as a deterant. And to assist the betrayed to start again.
@chriscangelosi9438
Жыл бұрын
She lied to me when I confronted her about cheating, then she wanted a divorce, since October 12 2017 the papers were finalized and I am still struggling to recover 😢 she moved to Texas and moved in with guy she cheated on me with.
@marinpecheur9128
Жыл бұрын
How are you now ?
@ansieolivier8351
Жыл бұрын
My ex admitted that he had no feelings (he was only thinking of himself)whatsoever when he divorced me after 27 years of marriage - he only admitted to having an affair after 12 years of walking off in the sunset with his AP
@nellieaguilar9105
4 жыл бұрын
I’m having a very hard time understanding why my ex husband who left me for his affair partner AND married her had a baby with her is bitter at me and is mean even while we are still trying up lose ends with some property he refuses to communicate and get stuff done. It makes no sense.
@a.laquey336
4 жыл бұрын
I've been dealing with that for the past 3 yrs. Even the "other" woman whom he went to live with blamed me for their split up very recently. I just don't get it at all. I did nothing to him or her other than make sure my kids and I were going to be ok after the divorce. It doesn't make sense.
@staleydu1
3 жыл бұрын
Guessing it all revolves around his shame. It comes out as anger but in reality the anger is directed within.
@nettiemarie2556
2 жыл бұрын
He could be a narcissist. Have you learned about this?
@blueseptember2174
2 жыл бұрын
He feels guilty but is trying hard not to feel it. They avoid emotion at all costs.
@jesussaves6510
3 жыл бұрын
no one might ever tell you this , maybe they have but. Jesus is real and he loves you more than anyone else on this earth. He's a (the)savior , he will hold your hand through life. Let him into your life tell him to lead you and carry you. Pray to him when you have time.
@staylor8847
3 жыл бұрын
My husband was the one who was unfaithful. I did grow bitter, but it was towards the church. I did not want the divorce, I had a laywer who made me feel I was too that I had no choice. I ended up having a mental breakdown unfold and my husband now has has our children and I gave him so much trying to win my children my family back bc the system felt against me, the church, I lost the friends and I lived in such guilt. I wish I could wake up and see it was just a bad dream bc I hate where we are. I did see my triggered childhood wounds and am thankful for that and for God giving me a good counselor that though grace I have been healed and redeemed. But the cost of healing was so high.
@legendbodywork1313
2 жыл бұрын
And from my understanding The rich guy that she cheated but it’s nowhere in her life anymore he used and abused her for sex and destroyed our marriage I don’t blame the guy because he was just a young kid I blame her because she knew she was married for many years and was an adult but he also was not under the age of 18 he was 25 years old and knew that he destroyed a marriage from a Christian standpoint I mean I know I’m not perfect before God far from it but I will never break up families yes I said they go drinking sometimes I go clubbing in the past when I was younger but I didn’t wanna hurt anybodyOr calls children not to have their parents in her life
@ofs3216
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the video. Very insightful. I was looking for the video that you mentioned from the betrayed that prompted this one from the unfaithful side. Could you share that link or video name? Thank you.
@wesleyuber7283
4 жыл бұрын
My ex went on to divorce me and remarried 4 days after our divorce with the guy she was seeing while we were separated.
@jocelyndee1906
2 жыл бұрын
My husband wants to do the same thing
@blueseptember2174
2 жыл бұрын
That is sick
@lifeturnaround8265
2 жыл бұрын
My wife had a ex fiancé come back into her life after 30 years. She asked for a divorce 8 days after I found out. She is puzzled why the divorce won’t be final for another month. I assume that they’ll get married just a few days after divorce. It makes me sick and angry but she told me that they discussed they’re life together after when I found out the affair
@aug07broken
4 жыл бұрын
it's been over a year already since his affair and I am more hurt than ever! I am not angry, rejection is protection, so I am living my life for The Lord, we are just passing through this world after all. I am still working on forgiveness, for both him and her, although I have never met her before. I don't want my life to not get better cause of his affair and my bitterness. This video gives me another perspective that I never knew regarding my kids and reality of divorce, which I am not yet. I am terrified of what it will do to my teenagers. He wants one, but can't afford it, so we live apart. I wish I can participate in the programs you have, but it's expensive. I hope to do it someday though. I will participate by myself, I'm happy by myself, cause the alternative of reconciliation/pain/hurt with him is not something I want to go through, moving forward.
@AffairrecoveryLLC
4 жыл бұрын
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@denisships2861
Жыл бұрын
Great video thanks a lot!
@n3rdpl0w
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like my unfaithful ex doesn’t feel any of this!!! She cheated on the affair parnter with her new bf.
@rylandvance5304
3 жыл бұрын
mine did similar. left me and my daughter with the premise of divorce, got a boyfriend, and then cheated on him like a month later.. some people just have zero class and morals
@staleydu1
3 жыл бұрын
Well, that's not happiness or completeness. Guessing the shame is shoved deep down, but it will bubble up, and cause deep issues.
@randallmontbriand7626
3 жыл бұрын
What about the betrayal of the friends supporting the betrayer vs the betrayed!!!!! It was MY fault that the affairs occurred when it was obvious that nothing done on my part to cause the infidelity by my partner. Everyone always told me I was the most wonderful partner anyone could every have. Yet at break up, it was as if I were the culprit in the loss of my relationship.
@crumplycowboy
20 күн бұрын
It’s almost as if it’s not worth signing a lifetime contract with someone when there’s no real penalty for breaking it just saying maybe marriage doesn’t make sense anymore or ever Just had to edit to add in that, obviously as age appropriate, the children should know why the marriage failed if someone betrayed their spouse and broke their marriage vows that should not be a secret
@sebastianaillon5182
3 жыл бұрын
We haven't been together in a couple of months now, barely any contact. We obviously still love and miss each other, but her guilt for betraying me twice this last year keeps her away from me. I want her back, but its hurts so much, i don't know how to bring her back but to give us space since she won't try to fix things.
@saintejeannedarc9460
Жыл бұрын
I hope you've moved on by now. She cheated on you twice because she did not want to fix things. I went through the same thing last year. I forgave and was all in after what he claimed was merely an emotional affair. he wasn't all in, and it was a sexual affair after all. Our redo was based on lies and he chased her down again and lied to me for months that he wasn't cheating. This time I wasted no time when I had the proof again. I had to drive him out and it's brutally hard. Very hard to get him to move and he still has a lot of things here, which he admits are like an anchor. He apparently is hurting too, even though he's still w/ the young idiot he picked. Turns out the grass wasn't so much greener on the other side and now he has finally has the terrible regret he didn't really have the first time.
@DogGroomer-hd1oj
4 ай бұрын
My betrayer is only interested in the financial loss and looking like a victim from my reaction. Divorce is the only solution.
@nazimyuksel9706
2 жыл бұрын
mine cheated disgustingly even leavinh kids in the nites and going. w divorced after 2 years and i got the kids she lost everything and she probably did it with other guys too as she was not with the first guy she cheated with. and she says she aint sorry at all and her friends r supporting her. world s become a disgusting place to live in.
@davidbailey1718
4 жыл бұрын
My betrayed spouse has a childhood bad experience with counseling and won't seek professional help. My guilt can be overwhelming at times, and I want to help her anyway I can
@nembree622
4 жыл бұрын
PRAY for her! That is all you really can do for her. And, let God change you (we all need help in some way). Love your neighbor as yourself. Your spouse is your neighbor. Ask God what to do and He will show you. Maybe you could go to counseling first. Maybe find a Christian counselor, one who supports reconciliation.
@lisaviktoria9402
5 ай бұрын
I dont believe it is with all Cheaters the Same. And the thing you say is true- there is a heavy guilt. There is a huge prize for loosing a partner - and all that came with him that we did not value. Now i know i was missing agape. When the Relationship does not give me all that i Hope for - i can still love unconditionally- now i learned what it means that love is a choice. I wish i knew sooner. My life would be so beautiful Today.
@michaelsmith1364
5 ай бұрын
Well my wife I mean ex wife seem to be perfectly fine. She pushed for the divorce and now engaged to her affair partner. I don’t hate her, definitely disappointed commitment and family wasn’t that important to her as I thought.
@kiddytube3915
11 ай бұрын
There is no restoring a relationship under infidelity.. Lying, cheating, manipulative behaviour doesn’t beget consent.. If someone stole and robbed you, you will call them a thief and never want to speak let alone see them ever again. This is what happens when someone cheats on their partner. You are no different than a thief and should be treated as such. You stole your partners time to find someone who loves them. As they age, it gets harder and harder. Throw in children into the mix and this person now has almost no chance of finding their true love.
@morgan9745
5 ай бұрын
My kids caught him heard him on the phone and saw text messages he didn’t care he left me while pregnant my kids saw all of it he left again when my baby was 6months he doesn’t care the effects it’s having on our kids or that he left me with a new baby he left the state left me with all the pieces he filled for divorce and lives in another state he says the kids will get over it and that he will not regret what he’s doing
@lesliemcmanus5981
4 жыл бұрын
I want to be with my unfaithful husband but it has been two years and he still is not telling me the truth about the past things and is still acting out about women now. He says he wants to be with me but is still lusting after other women and I don't know what to believe anymore. I don't know how to get him to be honest with me or understand that its not the infidelity that I'm having trouble forgiving. It's the lack of empathy. It just seems like he has watched porn for so long he just wants to live in a constant fantasy. Help please!!!. I feel like I'm dying. Hr only tells me the truth when he wants to tell me. I've tried to be understanding but I can't hang on for much longer!!!
@haltersweb
3 жыл бұрын
I just heard this today (my husband is also a sex addict): Looking for emotional support from an addict Is like looking for a loaf of bread in a hardware store
@m.istrefaj5249
3 жыл бұрын
He could develop empathy down the road but also he could not. Is it worth it to stay there and just wait for him to decide? To decide to engage towards his healing but in the meantime your healing and life are just in his hands. I would suggest focusing in you and your healing. Decisions will come eventually as you heal and get stronger
@jensbornagain
2 жыл бұрын
It’s been a year since I found out and I am not getting the truth either. We probably will never. My therapist says we need to worry about ourselves. They made the conscious decision to cheat. And it’s up to us to heal with in. Empower yourself. And take self care. Find the love you have for you. 💕
@andrewphillips7758
2 жыл бұрын
What about when your unfaithful ex seems to not care at all about any of this? She seems to want to drag her children through her garbage heap of a life
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