Making friends as an adult is really hard. And loneliness is the worst - been in your shoes before. Volunteering or hobbies can help connect you with people who have similar interests. Sending you strength ❤️
@MissyRichmond
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Volunteering is an awesome idea. I have volunteered for a long time. My favorite was when I volunteered with a food bank. It was close to where I lived, and it gave me a sense of purpose and meaning.
@tobybartlett
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve met some amazing people through volunteering! It was the easiest way for me, as an adult, to make friends. Especially living in new cities.
@truth2731
3 жыл бұрын
I agree making new friends as a adult is really hard especially ones you can really connect with that have the same interests. I also found that volunteering was a great way to meet new people as well as give you life meaning and help you get there out and meet new people. I started volunteering with my local Alzheimers society as well as a long term care facility here in my town it was one of the best things I have done.
@daisybelle2336
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, making great friends CAN be difficult, as you get older. It's definitely important that you are surrounding yourself with like-minded people, whom are in a similar situation as you are. It's often easier for people who have kept their childhood friends close, rather than having to meet and befriend new people, as an adult. However, if you didn't get the chance to build close relationships as a child/teen, you are going to NEED to find your "people". This, very rarely, and is not likely to happen in clubs. Unless partying is a staple in your lifestyle. If it is not, do not choose something that revolves around the most superficial elements of one's personality to meet genuine friends. Of course, there are genuine people, however they are likely in a different situation than you are. Having established friendships, hence going out with them and enjoying that scene, together. He is right, though. Having skipped college is a huge reason he is in the position he is. His career choice doesn't help either. As most people build their longest lasting communities and newer friendships in college/work-life. He completely missed the opportunity to meet like-minded people, in a near strictly peer environment. For those who didn't have the best experience in college, usually another redeeming quality and chance in life comes in the form of your workplace. Again, an opportunity to meet like-minded people. In both college and the workplace, you usually gravitate towards people you can relate with. You have an easier time finding everything you have in common with someone and it's very fluid and natural; You are also at the same fork-in-the-road in life in a situational sense. E.g, What you want to do with your life, the big move from home, what you are studying, similar stressors over the same things, basically everything is cohesive. Thus making friends your staple to getting through it, together. You are set to meet new people that you are around everyday to laugh with, relate to and engage in conversation over the similarities within your lifestyles. The same can be said for work life, although that can be much more isolating, if you allow it. Which is what it comes down to, what you're allowing to happen. Adam has chosen a very rare path in which he is becoming successful; Garnering viewership and building his brand. It's rare in that not everyone can just do what he is doing and with such a base-regardless of how many would like to. It is safe to say he was very close with CB and that situation is where he got his start. But that is it, *that IS "his people"* .. Such is this community and the people who work in it. Like-minded, similar career choice (KZitem) and so many relatable conversations and situations would take place. As his career is an extremely popular choice, he will likely build a bigger community if his channel continues to grow. Again, he will meet his people through hires. You will see the largest friend groups on KZitem all work together and many established names befriend their employees. Editors, the soubdguys, the camera-men-and-women, the PR people etc etc. He just needs to find his people, again. As if not for the CB split, he'd likely be incorporated into her lifestyle and still working with her to this day. Although he also may not have decided to do his own thing, though, channel wise. So it's probably a win, for him. As he grows, he will find everything he is looking for. I think it is safe to say he clicks more with people a bit older than him. Not by a lot, yet maybe. It depends on his personality type, obviously. Try building a network around yourself, if you are financially stable, possibly look into an intern. I know he said he may be drained from not feeling well, at times. Someone that can assist you with your channel, I know he can do everything himself. If he plans to grow, he will eventually need some sort of assistance to keep things a well oiled machine. Even a co-host and look into maybe creating something bigger of your channel. Push yourself if you can, maybe a podcast would suit you. Even the stand alone set-up works for you, just look into a network of people who support you and your success. The community is large and there are plenty of people who would love to offer up their assistance. Take care of yourself, Adam! With peace and love, PEACE and LOOooooOooove! ~ Daisy
@PaigeChristieUK
3 жыл бұрын
I moved to Yorkshire it took me 3 years to make friends… it will happen it just takes time. I always say my KZitem channel was born out of loneliness I hear you and I’m always a phone call away. ♥️
@besssorensen5433
3 жыл бұрын
I rarely comment on YT, but I just wanted to double down on what Paige said- it takes time, for sure. I moved to a new city for a job 15 years ago, and it was the first time in my life I didn’t have even just a couple friends to hang out with. For what it’s worth, I’d suggest less clubs/bars and more hobbies, classes (not uni, but like a cooking class or whatever), or things like the tennis club. People are way less likely to reach out to you post-bar/club night, so you stack the deck in your favor when you go to daytime social clubs. Hang in there :)
@spiritualsandy
3 жыл бұрын
I hear thats how most channels are made out of and its true. i can relate but ive never moved and i still havent found new friends i wonder how you got to meeting new people.
@mariafordon121
3 жыл бұрын
@@besssorensen5433 I totally agree. I’ve made the best friends at knit night. It can be so hard to make friends as an adult but starting out with a shared interest helps a lot.
@EvadoCouto
3 жыл бұрын
😭 this is so sweet. I feel like you’re one of the few people online I’d trust with precious Adam. He’s got such a good head on his shoulders and he’s so young. This comment is so comforting. Thanks for being such a good example, Paige.
@katsabovitch8835
3 жыл бұрын
once you're outta high school and working and bother to only communicate with people worth they are far and few between and i moved to a new town about 9 years and still the same as everyone says, no need to focus on everyone else, just focus on yourself and things will be good!!
@hellohihowdy5990
3 жыл бұрын
im a 62 yr old mom and the stuff you are saying is exactly what my son said to me years later after high school and college. i think ppl that are wired to be sensitive to others are wired to feel that way and it is harder for them to incorporate into society because they are sensitive and in tune with other ppl vibes but they are a blessing to help others to be aware.
@teagannovak3120
3 жыл бұрын
I'm a 30 year old, single mom living in a new city with a whole ass career change. The one close friend I've made has moved away already and I feel like I'm back to square one. It's a lot different making friends as an adult, with children nonetheless, so I feel you. Life really IS hard, but I'm trying to tell myself that it's making me stronger and more independent and hopefully one day when I DO meet people, they will be the best fit for my life. Thanks for sharing your vulnerability with us, Adam 💝 we all got you 💪
@Vtfjy
3 жыл бұрын
I’m in the same boat. Your comment resonated with me so much, I’m actually making my first comment on KZitem. Having to stay strong for your kid makes it even tougher…stay strong during the day and cry with Adam at night🤣
@aliciazombie8699
3 жыл бұрын
Adam, I'm in my late 20's and had the same exact issue emerging into adulthood. I wish I could say it gets easier. It doesn't because university is where you meet alot of people. I just love how honest this video is because it's so very accurate
@teagannovak3120
3 жыл бұрын
The best kept secret to adulthood is that NOBODY knows what they're doing. We're all figuring it out as we go 💝
@tobybartlett
3 жыл бұрын
@@teagannovak3120 So true!
@dill_pickle_85
3 жыл бұрын
As someone who's moved multiple times between 18-21, it's difficult. Moving out at 18 was hard and I couldn't make it work. There's no shame in that. Moving is so stressful, especially as a young adult. No one knows what they're doing at 18. Sometimes it takes a while to find your group, I hope things start getting better for you
@mayav927
3 жыл бұрын
I understand this. I moved from California to Pennsylvania (across the country) for school, plus I’m 23 and all my classmates are 19. It’s so hard making friends. I get it so much.
@courtneycustodio8708
3 жыл бұрын
Dude.. I feel this on an entire other level! I've had so much fomo watching people my age thrive after covid when I'm still struggling to make any friends after moving schools twice. It's so helpful to remember that other people are probably thinking the same thoughts about you and everyone is going through their own shit
@kellyjade7957
3 жыл бұрын
Honestly baby i was in the same boat. You went out of your comfort zone and moved to another country!! You did that on your own, you are so young and youve achieved such amazing things adam. We love you dearly. ❤️
@teagannovak3120
3 жыл бұрын
Yes!!! It's so hard to recognize the wins in our own life...we need this comment section to hype Adam up! C'mon Adam! You did that! And you have all of us, although virtually, and we absolutely adore you 💝
@natashadam712
3 жыл бұрын
you're so brave and strong, i really appreciate your honesty about living alone. I'm looking into moving away at some point and you've really opened me up to what it may be like. Thank you so much, and I hope you meet amazing people
@Kattttttz
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I moved to a new city 3 years ago and still have no friends. It's really hard meeting new people as an adult
@nomi5466
3 жыл бұрын
I had such a hard time when I went to uni. I couldn't even admit it to anyone. I was struggling to enjoy the experience because I had to work part time so I couldn't go out and meet people. I felt pretty isolated and honestly uni contributed to my mental health issues. The constant worry of having a shit uni experience while everyone else is having a great time, feeling like I wasn't as smart or knowledgeable as everyone else and the possibility of struggling after to find a job in the field (which came true 😭). I am in a better place now though and I hope it will get better for you too. I truly empathise with you and wish you the best.
@stacywilliams7712
3 жыл бұрын
Im so sorry you’re experiencing such loneliness you seem like such an awesome vibe to hang out with I wish you so much happiness and positive energy. I appreciate that you are vulnerable and so genuine with us ❤️ You deserve some really good friends because you’re like our (your followers) really good friend
@2oldcrowscleaning538
3 жыл бұрын
Social media has made us the most disconnected beings ever. I moved 3000 miles away and yes it’s hard and lonely. When I finally got off line and spent time out and about I met some great friends.
@angelg8445
3 жыл бұрын
Hope u feel better, never be afraid to get help/support etc.
@CAIIT2
3 жыл бұрын
I felt this so hard watching this, although I haven't moved to a new place, I'm now out of education and job searching and I have no clue how to make friends my age because I feel so disconnected from this whole uni scene and I've never really had friends who make time for me
@kayphoenixraven
3 жыл бұрын
you’re doing your part. I stopped doing college and focused on music and work instead so I understand that aspect (university and making friends and how it could help boost that element a bit) but you can find people you’re meant to be friends with just by doing what you’re doing - putting yourself out there, and the fact that you’re even putting yourself out there to make friends, means that you are doing your part. you’ll meet good people and good friends, don’t worry.
@rebelwithacause666
3 жыл бұрын
It's so hard making friends as an adult especially after you've moved out for the first time. You meet a lot of random people and a lot of people don't stay. Do things you actually enjoy and things you want to do in sober environments or try some free uni clubs if they have them. There are so many people who feel the way you do. I'm almost 30 and feel a lot of the same things now. Just enjoy your time and find the places you enjoy and you'll find people to relate with more.
@springdints
3 жыл бұрын
Three tips for someone who moves to a new city: 1. Get flatmates. You'll become friends with them and you also meet their friends, so you might actually end up with a bunch of friends. 2. Go on tinder dates. You can actually find friends this way. You can bond with someone platonically, it doesn't have to become a romance. 3. Take a class if you can afford it. Language class, pottery class, cooking class, photography class... Preferably in the afternoon/ evening or on weekends so you might actually meet people of your age. During the day everyone's at school or work so the only ones taking classes are elderly. I know not all of these can be applied to you Adam (for example you already have a nice apartment by yourself, so I don't expect you to move in with flatmates), but maybe this is helpful for someone else. Good luck out there everyone!
@KitKat-ve2em
3 жыл бұрын
These are great tips!
@elizabthharris6741
3 жыл бұрын
My goodness. So many videos to catch up on! Baby don't cry!💞💓💗we love you so much! You are just having a moment. I know it's hard... but you are young...you will make it. Life gets better. I moved out at 15., moved cities at 19. Retrained for 2 years at 45! Life can get hard. But we all have times we need to just barely make it. As long AS WE MAKE IT! Survival. Volunteer! Habitat for humanity, the shelter, the LGBTQ GROUPS! Go to coffee shops, join groups for your interests at the college. I made friends in Seattle by joining the LGBTQ March on Washington group, thatcwent to Washington DC in like a very short time after me joining. I went anyhow I still have friends from that. Join group!
@shivawilson3250
3 жыл бұрын
You're vulnerability is truly inspiring please keep hanging in there it does get better but sadly it is always a struggle
@loumaisie8548
3 жыл бұрын
i moved out away from my parents at 17 and it was brutal and not for nice reasons. people around me didn't know what was going on and thought i was being a girlboss but no it was soooo bloody hard and took over a year to start to feel stable / at home again, and i just turned 22... I can't imagine what moving away from ur family during a pandemic is like tho thats incredibly hard, i hope things improve soon to give u some normality / community :) x edit: i also never got a big group of friends at uni (i had one year at uni before corona hit) and yeah its fuckin hard to find lasting friends bc a lot of people are either still immature or just wanna stay in a close group. All my mates now are through acting and work which sounds lame but they're far better more fulfilling friendships then uni ones.
@jordandron7907
3 жыл бұрын
Bestie get a part time job!!!! I know you are a full time youtuber and you should be SO freaking proud of that, but just get a really easy job purely for socialisation!!! I worked at Hungry Jacks when I was your age after moving cities (it’s like Burger King in Australia) and made ALL my best friends through that job! We’re all friends five years on and I met my boyfriend of 5 years there too! Just get an easy ass job and do one shift per week or something to socialise! The people you meet at work (specially hospitality and retail) will be your ride or dies!!! I’m almost 25 now and most people I know now met their friends at their retail/hospitality jobs from when they were aged 18-22!!!!! You’ve got this Adam, you’re an incredible person and you will be a natural magnet for people around you ❤️❤️ you got this
@__robochick__8165
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate so much . I’ve been feeling so lonely and everyday feels the same . We are not all alone through this feeling .
@cae8632
3 жыл бұрын
thanks u for saying this. this is where I’m at rn and it’s good to hear ppl openly talking abt how lonely it can b sometimes ❤️ we all feel it and we aren’t alone
@aspen1713
3 жыл бұрын
As someone who left their hometown and never pursued post-secondary education, so I never made those uni friendships - I feel everything you’re saying so hard. Most friends I’ve made have been through my office job, which I know doesn’t really work for you. ): What’re your hobbies/interests outside of KZitem? Maybe there’s a local group you can find online who have the same interests (ex: I know there’s a lot of FB groups like “Photography enthusiasts of Victoria”, “Horse riders club of Canmore”, or things along those lines.) I’m sorry I don’t have better advice, making friends is hard these days. Good luck, Adam 🖤 Hope you find your group.
@xkiralynn3688
3 жыл бұрын
Hey Adam , I moved out at 18 as-well , it was super hard at the beginning. You still feel like a teenager yet you are forcing yourself to grow up and be an adult and it’s not easy figuring out life , especially with your parents farther away , my parents are 4 hours away. I remember breaking down crying just about the most basic things that you don’t think about when you have your own place . Now I’m 22 and I look back at the tremendous growth it’s given me, I have friends who are my age , still live at home , and have mommy and daddy to do everything for them still . I’m thankful for moving out at the age I did , it’s given me the life experience to learn from my mistakes , and grow from the challenges I was faced , and it’s made me realize truly the love I have for my family and to take advantage of any moment I have with them because you never know the next time you see them, I see the younger version of myself in you Adam , I know you are a very intelligent person and I’m here to tell you it does it easier with time , I hope your health is recouping, and stay positive ❤️
@JP14190
3 жыл бұрын
I'm much older than you, but I've been in a new city for a year now and still haven't met a lot of people. I think people are still feeling like we need to be separated because of quarantine. We have global trauma. It won't always be like this, though. You will meet people and you will look back at this time and smile because of how happy you are with the people you're meant to be around. I know it's hard to hold onto something that's intangible, but it truly will get better. Think of this time as a reset. Whatever you build from here will be beautiful because you are taking your time. 💕
@Heather-kp4di
3 жыл бұрын
This really resonated with me Adam, your videos have helped me feel less alone and get through times like this. A way you could meet new people is going to a place regularly, whether it be a coffee shop, library, group gatherings for certain hobbies like dance or painting classes. It just helps to be in the same environment around likeminded people to make better connections. Hope this helps and sending much love your way
@caireengraham
3 жыл бұрын
Your struggles are where the real inner growth occurs.
@Kilaya02
3 жыл бұрын
I think this is an amazing video. Sharing your feelings when you know many of your subscribers are likely feeling the same is really great. Life is hard with any change we face. Even those choices that we happily make. Doing it when the freaking world is turned upside down because of an on going pandemic makes things even harder. Just keep being authentic and putting yourself out there. Eventually you will find a group of friends that you can always depend on. I know medically you are at a stand still right now but have you considered maybe enrolling in 1 or 2 classes? I don't know if that is possible in England but if so that would give you something in common with others around your age and might help you feel like you fit in better. Sending you love and prayers.
@tiffanykim2773
3 жыл бұрын
Don't apologize Adam. It's good to be real and honest because yes life is hard, making and keeping friends as an adult is hard it's the truth but give it time it will get better. Take it day by day.
@iz183390
3 жыл бұрын
I met a lot of friends through work. Even if it’s venting about work you will have that bond…
@spiritualsandy
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate. After i left high school and all my 8 best girl friends (a group of us girls) went off to university/college we all lost touch and slowly drifted apart. No one ever talks about how lonely it is to be an adult and even if you make friends at work, ive never had a coworker be my friend after i left a job. Makes you feel like no one is your friend out of genuine interest and instead friends feel circumstantial and like you were just convenient for them. I still to this day only have my childhood friends (two) and my ex as friends. My family is my real friends and they were the most loyal more than most people in my life. Sorry it's been so lonely and difficult for you Adam, i dont know how to make friends either especially since i dont enjoy big parties, drinking and doing illegal stuff either. Youre not alone in this feeling of loneliness and im sorry you are feeling alone
@caden5983
3 жыл бұрын
I feel you Adam, I moved to Oregon about 2 1/2 years ago and I haven't made any friends. I spent the first year getting to know the area and keeping it chill and spent the second half looking for a job but unfortunately that had to come to a halt due to the Pandemic. I've been struggling with self esteem issues and have been dealing with loneliness seeing people hanging out with groups of friends and seeing couples here and there really puts me down since I'm unable to do that due to COVID and has been making me feel really self conscious. Even though I'm more introverted I have been feeling lonely when it comes to making friends with similar interests as well as dating. I have been trying to make at least some bit of progress by attending some public events nearby but it's still hard to be social especially since I'm going to them alone, but I feel as though we'll be able to make it through this Adam and that we'll be able to make meaningful friendships and become happier soon! I appreciate you being more transparent with your audience lately and if you need to vent never feel discouraged about sharing it. Stay strong Adam :)
@mellzym8598
3 жыл бұрын
OMG you make me want to cry. Why can’t you make besties , actual friends. Love you so much! And I’d chill out with you. You’re an individual and it just takes time, your so young mucker, growing just takes time.you need Emma to reach out to you xx
@ellieramos2075
3 жыл бұрын
Adam your videos help me so much. I can relate to this video a lot and it helps me feel less alone with this feeling. Thank you for being open and honest. I like to think the right people will come along eventually
@Hanntaytay
3 жыл бұрын
yknow you are right in some aspects. but un is also really isolating for allot of people i mean when covid brokeout the amount of uni students topping themselves went up allot and it was already high.
@A.Persons
3 жыл бұрын
U are such a sweet person much love dude
@DNell-kd4de
3 жыл бұрын
You are wise beyond your years ! Thank for making this video … no one loves to talk about things they are going through that are a struggle. But, the integrity you show by making this video that you didn’t HAVE to make displaying your struggle ... The fact that you get the importance of being transparent is everything! Thank you !
@isadiaz1772
3 жыл бұрын
❤️Sending a huge hug!
@midgekin
3 жыл бұрын
This hurt my heart to watch but thank you for sharing how you are & how things are going - I'm 28 and a lot of these things still apply to me, but over the years you'll likely find that unless you stay in one place after a transitional period (school/uni/graduating/working/relationships) you'll have dips like this every now and then, it's also important to note that the first friendships someone makes at uni might not be the ones that stick - and with that shift it enables people who haven't instantly 'clicked' with their flatmates or coursemates etc to find friends - even though the first wee while it seemed like everyone was settled down in friend groups already. It's hard, but highlighting the disconnect between people's social media portrayal & reality is key to helping each other realise we're not alone in this. I find that friends who compartmentalise you in their social activities and outings based on your course/if you study/if you still work at the same place, those who seem to be out a lot with different people, tend to just be insecure in themselves. Obviously we have friends we like to do different things with etc, but when someone is consciously excluding you from a group thing when they know you want to meet more people - that person isn't a good friend. The UKs social scene for making friends is predominantly based on club/alcohol/drug culture, doing things you don't want to do (like clubbing etc) to try and meet people is almost necessary because of this, but it does make it hard to recognise other like-minded people. You'll get there Adam, as will I & everybody else :D
@nokayart612
3 жыл бұрын
In a lot of decisions we make there are sacrifices. Sometimes I regret not going to an Art college and sticking to a regular university. This is my second year of uni and it took me a year before I could meet a TRUELY good friend. And honestly if loneliness plagues you, please be careful when it comes to dating. Some people try to exploit those feelings unfortunately.
@pennylynch913
3 жыл бұрын
Dont apologise! Its a pleasure to hang out with u and to be able to pray for u when u struggle. Love u xo penny
@madelinetodd3409
3 жыл бұрын
Hey Adam, I've been in college for 3 years and have yet to make a single friend. I never struggled to make friends before, but in my early 20s & especially after covid, I just can't make new friends. I think it's a universal experience, most people in their early 20s are lonely. We see those sorority girls posting with all their new college besties and it makes us feel like we must be doing something wrong, but you've just gotta assume that everyone is struggling with it in their own ways. It's tough out here I hate it too
@sophietjexd
3 жыл бұрын
This is so relatable. I've been at uni for 3+ years now and I've met a few people, but we don't stay in touch at all. I know we're not *actual* friends, and that's sad. In fact, I don't think I will see them again now that we've gone our seperate ways for our master's degree. The thing is, I've learned to accept that I won't make long-time friends in uni, so I'm looking for and have friends in other places. The people who I've known for years and who are 'back home', or people who I've met through them, or people who I've met at events or places I actually WANT to go to. It's really hard to accept for me, but I'm not trying as hard anymore, unless I meet someone I click with (which is very rare lol). I guess the most important thing is that you hold on to people who do care about you, rather than to chase people and neglect the people you do have. At least, that's what worked for me.
@caylinmar3983
3 жыл бұрын
I see you, friend. I often feel very empty & isolated, especially over the pandemic & the past couple of weeks. I expect it to get better as restrictions lighten but it just feels heavier. I am still finding my direction in making friends as an adult. I was bullied pretty badly growing up so I didn’t have any school friends, I’ve had to look elsewhere mostly. I’ve found that house shows have been where I fit the best & find the most like minded, kind, easygoing people. We’re all flailing but it makes me feel comforted that we’re flailing together. 🥲
@chantelsanchez7719
3 жыл бұрын
One day at a time Adam. Everything with falll into place. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️
@Glosmusicaljourney
3 жыл бұрын
I feel you, Adam. I moved to a place where this is nothing to do. The nearest city is 40 miles away. I am real isolated. I like my independence, but sometimes it is lonely. I came here to be near my cousin who was 2 miles away, but now she has moved 10 miles away. The friendships I have are on KZitem which is fantastic and wonderful, but I have no one locally. It is hard to make friends. I work with a lot of teenagers at my part time job at Dunkin, so there is really no one to bond with. Life IS hard at times. Thank God I have Winnie. Your animals are very sweet and love you. Spend time cuddling with them. It helps a lot with loneliness.
@jacdyson
3 жыл бұрын
I’m from Melbourne and over the past 2 years (year 12 and first year Uni for me) we’ve spent over 250 days in lockdown. I live at home, and I’m lucky with an amazing long term boyfriend, but I don’t talk to anyone from Highschool and it’s been impossible to meet anyone at online university. I feel almost the opposite with the moving thing, as it feels like everything has been same same for 2 years now
@adrianagauci4894
3 жыл бұрын
I’m also from Melbourne we have had the worst time
@earlytan8363
3 жыл бұрын
I love that you talk about younger people!! Thank you!!! 🥰
@jasbiz3254
3 жыл бұрын
Welcome to adulthood. Those are valid concerns because in a way it’s true in a way it’s not. For you to be thinking of that before you are in early or late 20s Shows how much more mature you are than people your age. That’s why people say there’s only a handful of people you will meet in your life that will be true friends. It’s an air sign thing to want to go out have fun and meaningful conversations etc with friends doing many experiences with them. Geminis are fun to become friends with they have so many sides and interests and long conversations that you will never get bored, and they are always down to go out and do something. The push into adulthood isn’t fun or easy no matter what anyone says but you are still young enough to enjoy some of it. Adulthood-adulthood is way more stressful and challenging that at one point you gain a little grit. Don’t be too in a hurry to grow up is the best advice I can give. Lean on your parents and enjoy family. You don’t have to do everything alone😀 Maybe a weekend back home wouldn’t be so bad after all. You will still meet people as an older adult so don’t worry about that. It gets tougher from this point on but life IS what YOU make it. The more positive outlook, the better. ☀️🌸 ☮️&❤️
@brinoreeno
3 жыл бұрын
Oh Adam. Coming from someone who also didn't go to university immediately after high school, it IS a really lonely time period. It was for me too, when I graduated in 2014 & stayed in my hometown. It will take time to find new friends, but you are doing everything right. That stage of life is just so strange, everyone seems to be doing something different and finding themselves and it can be difficult to connect. Love to you❤
@patriciasmith1769
3 жыл бұрын
At 50 years old with only one friend I feel this so much but I also want to let you know you have 240k friends here for ya
@musicpsychfan
3 жыл бұрын
I feel this so hard... I recently moved two months ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) to Surrey and I'm finding it so difficult for exactly the same reasons. Sending love 💚
@StitchingWithTheSisterlies
3 жыл бұрын
You are a sweetheart, this will all pass ;) hugs and blessings and thank you for your genuineness.
@truestory_4
3 жыл бұрын
Adam you're such a sweet guy. What you are doing is very admiral. You are wise beyond your years! Never say you wouldn't be smart enough to get into university. That's ridiculous. It can be hard as an adult to meet new people. I went through this same thing years ago. What i did was I started doing things I enjoyed for myself by myself. Before I knew it I had so many new friends. Find what you like and do those things. I started going to concerts and joined groups on Facebook and before I knew it I had a handful of friends who enjoyed the same music I do and enjoyed going to concerts and now we always see each other and hang out there, even if we didn't go there together. These weren't and still aren't necessarily relationships built or maintained outside of the shows, maybe a few times we'd hang out, but I always have my concert friends when I go to shows now. For anyone reading, music is a universal language. Pick your favorite genre and bands, find their fan groups on social media. Seek out people in your area within these groups. Mention you're going to a show. Plan a meet up at these shows. I've literally got friends all over the world now that I know I could be like, "hey I'm gonna be here for this show. Who's going? Let's meet up!" And it will happen. I have friends that travel to see shows all across the country and when they come into my area we'll plan meet ups before the show or at the show. It's been so much fun for me!! Now I have such a huge family of music loving friends that gather together from all over the U.S., and then some, once every other year for one specific concert for one of my favorite bands in places like New Orleans or Las Vegas and then on the off year they all go on a cruise together that this band puts together. A concert cruise! Nothing but live shows on and off the ship the whole time. Personally, for me, these experiences have been some of the best of my life. I can go to a show alone and I'm never alone, and even if I were it wouldn't matter because I'm at a show with a ton of people feeling the best vibes from my favorite musicians. I'm not talking big names and big concert venues all the time either. My favorite shows are in the small venues and local bars. I love going to smaller shows the best! I've met SO many if my favorite bands over the years just by being there! They mingle with the crowds after their sets. No stupid paying for meet & greets. Just bands being happy to hang out and meet their fans. I'm telling you, if you feel alone, go to a show! Go see live music. Meet people who have a common love for the same music you do and you'll. always have a friend wherever you go!!
@Smiteymouse
3 жыл бұрын
I can't imagine what it's like being young right now. Social media gives the illusion of being close but it's not a substitute for in person interactions. The lockdowns have brought people even further apart and the illusion of social connections has slipped. You're all trying your best, following advice, doing what you can but... It's a mess out there. I don't know you and you don't know me, but I'm genuinely sorry that you aren't doing well right now. I started following you because I love your energy and you just make me smile. I'm trying so hard not to smother you with motherly advice and crap like that bc I'm old but just know that you aren't alone. There are people probably living within a block of you that feel the same way. You never know when or where a great connection can be made. Wishing peace and good health for you
@alivia__
3 жыл бұрын
I feel this with my whole heart. I spent my first year of uni with no friends (still have none) I feel like don't even know how to be myself anymore. Seeing everyone with their friends hurts. I hope the future will bring us friends, keep being you
@RandomRuffles
3 жыл бұрын
I'm currently in college for film making and making friends is definitely hard. 😅 Even though I'm only an hour away from home, it's still tricky. I feel like I struggle making friends and talking to people to where they hopefully like me. I hope you find people that are amazing soon. ❤
@R4VEFOX
3 жыл бұрын
What you are doing is very hard Adam, but do not think university is the answer for finding friends. I went to Uni and made very few true friends while there. I made the best friends of my life in the local club and bar scenes at night. Being young a young warrior of the night is rough! I found my new family in an old seedy bar everyone warned me about! Family is not always where you think it is. ❤
@alexandra.v0
3 жыл бұрын
i moved abroad when i was 20 and it was really tough. i worked in the beginning on a farm and there was nothing around, no neighbouring farms nothing! so i started to work a lot since there was nothing else to do for me and it made me feel very lonely. once i moved to the city i was already depressed and it was hard to get out of my shell and make new connection. now i live here for 8 years and i made a few very good friends but it is still different compared to my friend who never moved abroad, they still have their childhood friends very close who they grew up with.
@lexieliu2998
3 жыл бұрын
Wow this video dropped right when I decided to make the choice to move out of state here in the US to a place where I don't know anyone except my uncle an hour away. I'm grateful that you released this now and I'll definitely be taking your advice to pace myself. I've only been here for a few days but I've been unintentionally trying so hard to do everything in a rush and I think I need to slow down. I also relate so so much to having your hometown friends move away for college. Before moving I had one really close friend that stayed for community college. Next year she's moving out of state for Uni so if I hadn't moved it would only be so long before I would be alone anyway. I went to a shopping mall here yesterday for some winter clothes and it really hit me how different it is not having your friends to go shopping with - it sucks. I remember my dad giving me some advice about friendships coming and going after high school but I never really paid any attention because I thought things would always stay the same and things would just work out. Now I'm starting to understand that things don't always work out, and friends move to pursue their own paths in life. When I was driving to my new city I visited one of my best friends from high school at her Uni and it was so strange to see her after one year of not really talking much. We're still on great terms it just sucks that we're now so far apart from each other that we can't hang out regularly. I don't think it'll be impossible to make friends where I'm at now; I honestly think it's somewhat easy to form shallow friendships (acquaintances) with people. But trying to form meaningful, long-lasting friendships as an adult is HARD.
@supermojo987
3 жыл бұрын
I also recommend volunteering. There are so many things and possibilities. When i was 17/18 I wanted to start volunteering, went to get a consultation (because i had no clue where to start) and now it has been 10 years of me volunteering in a theater group with disabled people. Was one of the best decisions i made :). Felt weird at first and was not super comfortable, but now i love it. Through it i meet people and get out of my comfort zone, also got friends out of it. I think in the end it helped me more to grow as a person than it helped them :)
@Zorriel
3 жыл бұрын
I'm already feeling it. I'm in college and I've been the most alone ha. I was a loner in High School and nothing compares. I even went on dates just to not feel lonely, it's hard because in reality.. i'm only looking for friendships. *howwww* I can only trust. Trust that I'll find my tribe and can only appreciate every interation I have.
@jadynshaylee
3 жыл бұрын
i really really relate to u adam ugh its so isolating
@alli7834
3 жыл бұрын
I moved to the us when i was 17 for uni and i can relate with everything you’re saying!! Stay strong
@fueladdiction
3 жыл бұрын
I hope you’re able to find your own way that works best for you. ♥️
@mayadomingo7724
3 жыл бұрын
Bestie keep your head up! I wish I could give you a hug rn 🥺. I feel the same quite a bit as I am taking a break from uni and live in my apartment alone with my cat, I meet coworkers but they don't really ever want to hangout in a genuine way outside of work. It feels super isolating but you're such a radiant personality I know you'll find your tribe 😌💛
@ruthlessdragon3932
3 жыл бұрын
I have found when focus on the similarities between the people I meet, I find common ground to build a relationship with someone. What I nurture grows. The more I focus on differences they get bigger.
@litespeedway6538
3 жыл бұрын
I respect your honesty Adam. Know that everyone who has moved out like you have has experienced the same thing, but it would be 100 times worse if you had to work some min wage deadend job. Being alone does not mean you have to be lonely, but it can need a change in thinking / living. Some of the best advice I've heard was from a 17 yr old transitioning kid struggling but insightful, they said 'instead of going out - go in'. 🐕💗🐈
@grandmascookies9438
3 жыл бұрын
There is SO much pressure to make friends in college and no one ever talks about how hard it is because established friend groups are so cliquey!! Thanks for being so real in this
@mdelah
3 жыл бұрын
Adam you have accomplished so much! Don't be hard on yourself it's hard being an adult and making new friendships can be challenging. I remember what a transition it was and things will get better! You got this and I'm sorry you're going through this it's hard in the moment. These videos are so helpful for others going through similar life changes.
@charlieangle6926
3 жыл бұрын
sending love and smiles to all that are alone. You'll look back in 3 years realize this was a growing period.
@YourCh0c0lat3
3 жыл бұрын
It’s one of those nights and I find myself watching this. Back in Uni, I tried mingling and meet new friends but the group I was with took it personally, honestly holding me back. I’ve outgrew and rarely talk to them. I’ve missed genuine friendships because of them. But it’s also my fault for not seeing this sooner and being so self conscious. I’ve moved to a new area and I feel so alone. My bf is with me but he has his own people to spend time with. I know nobody that I genuinely connect with. Even if we don’t personally know each other, thank you for making me feel less alone in this world.
@cynthiaraaijmakers9391
3 жыл бұрын
I just moved out of my parents place for the first time and I never realized it would be so hard. I miss my family everyday. Thank you for sharing this, it helps knowing even when I feel alone I am not.
@bethanymcdonald9254
3 жыл бұрын
Hey Adam, I feel the same way .I have no friends at school and it can feel really isolating and lonely sometimes
@ksolomon5877
3 жыл бұрын
Baby boy, this day forward is all you have. Enjoy your life and your people will find you. When you stop working so hard at it , you will be amazed how things that are ment to happen , just happen! Get out of your own way! You have got this! Oh and 200 for a tree! You're nuts! Lol pet daddy!
@barbbrown9496
3 жыл бұрын
Right finding loyal friends when you are an adult is hard as f!! With quarantining,going to college, work, ect. I am a single mom with no friends. It'll get better Adam hugs
@sammi_sublime
3 жыл бұрын
ive been outta home since 14; can related. im almost 30 now complete alone apart from my daughter she all i got; it does get easier with time
@cutesoftangel555
2 жыл бұрын
i feel u. i'm in the same situation and it's a horrible feeling
@rachelburnett8639
3 жыл бұрын
This was really refreshing to hear, I’m filling out applications to transfer from community college to a four year and have been anxious about making friends once I do go, it’s really reassuring to know that it’s okay if it’s hard cuz that’s part of the change
@samarakiely2733
3 жыл бұрын
Iv lived in the same town my whole life,it’s that part of growing up where happy memories get a sadness, I have close family that I had to see move far away and that’s hard, what’s even harder is the people and family still around often seem as far away as the ones that movie, things change people get careers or have kids or get messed up in drugs or fall in love or just grow apart and change, as you age your relationships spread and feel so less compared to when your young and everyone get absorbed by fun and friendship at school, as you get to adult world nobody has the full time for that kind of friendship , trust most of those friends groups are in your perception , people are sitting together or hanging together but not like at school, it becomes a second to your own world you get caught up in, you need to maybe shift your idea of what is friendship and relationships, as you get older connections will constantly grow change shift,go away, come back, you’ll have times with lost of close friends and socialising , times when everyone seems busy and you feel very alone so you have to see friendship and relationships as more fluid as you get older, let it flow and change with the current, life is a big struggle no matter if your alone or surrounded by people, but when you go with the experience as a whole the love happiness and beauty is so worth all the stress pain and hard times in life, so my advice to anyone... 1) always remember the bad is always worth the good, 100 heartbreaks can be worth just one spectacular sunset, and 2) learn to be your own best friend, learn to enjoy your own company, because although you can still feel alone at those quite times of life, you’ll never feel lonely
@missbieber1211
3 жыл бұрын
Life has been so hard lately Adam, you’re not alone even when it may feel like it ❤️
@magoghair
3 жыл бұрын
In America after you graduate even if you don't go to college,it's hard to find your new normal. You're constantly comparing life then and now. When you're in school you have a constant amount of activities, and friends you've had since forever. When you graduate people leave and you don't have the same group of friends,and your limited on activities. Now you meet people at bars or grocery stores, or work. Even if you go to college ,and do have activities thru college , you no longer have your group of friends,you have to start all over making friends, and no one knows you the same or gets you the same. It's extremely hard to gain your footing , because you are faced with having to learn to be okay even by yourself,and if you are a social person that is the hardest thing you can do. My suggestion is to learn hobbies and skills. You meet people ,and have things you learn that can occupy your time. If you can meet your neighborhood. You might not make friends like in school,but you don't know how good it is to just have someone to say Hi to ,and how are you,its a mutual way to brighten each other's day. Find a program where you are helping others, because it gets your focus off yourself,and it can make you feel good to contribute to your community. I struggled for the longest time until I made myself learn to love myself enough that I was okay even by myself. It sounds weird,but when your lonely you make all sorts of bad decisions just to have someone in your life,but when you learn to love being a lone you stop being lonely ,and only let in the friends that are quality. Quality is key.
@paintballs2098
3 жыл бұрын
Me too Adam. I'm graduating University this April but I have no one to hang out with. I have been alone in Canada for almost six years now but I suck at making friends. Especially after the one year lockdown I am more isolated than before. I don't have good relationships with my family. I don't want to go back to the country where I was raised because I'm not the same person that I used to be anymore. Everyone I used to hang out with moved on without me and I felt so empty all the time. Now I'm still figuring what I'm going to do. Sometimes I feel like I'm too desperate for connections so I messed up my chance to make genuine friends. I'm just so fucking tired and depressed.
@singorexpire8892
3 жыл бұрын
Been there, done that about 1 million times. No need to go into any of that but I will say this: take a class. Take a class in anything. You will meet people, you will learn things and you will make some friends and find yourself having meals with them and talking and laughing and sharing and before you know what, you’ll have friends and you’ll be smarter. Just keep doing that. I learned American Sign Language and Deaf Culture and it opened up a world to me that I never knew existed: the world of Deaf Culture. Hearing people don’t know much about that at all. It’s wonderful. I was scared to do it, really scared but in the time that I would have been lonely, I could spend that time getting smarter and meeting people so I chose that. Life is very hard. Last night I was thinking of ending it because I’m so tired of the struggle and I think I better stop now.
@heidicameron2015
3 жыл бұрын
I feel you there I moved and am lonely too hugs thank you for being real❤️❤️❤️
@g0thdoll
3 жыл бұрын
I had a straight up Menty B when I went to uni for the first time at 18 and I only moved from the ‘burbs to the city lmao- I didn’t get on with anyone in my course, I didn’t make any friends with them because we didn’t click -just because we’re there for uni doesn’t mean we actually get on or have anything in common especially if you’re trying to meet people through activities you don’t like. You’ll meet people- I met my adult besties through my ex, through the internet ect. Idk I think having “uni friends” is overrated, you think you need it because media is like “college friends are gonna be your besties forever! You’ll make amazing connections!” but if you only have your course in common, you probably won’t get on.
@g0thdoll
3 жыл бұрын
Also to anyone struggling with uni- don’t feel pressure to stick with it if it’s not net positive, you can always defer for a year if you’re struggling 💚 or find something that suits you better
@lori4971
3 жыл бұрын
It doesn’t help that you are struggling with your health rn either. Hang in their Adam!!
@dorietriplett4259
3 жыл бұрын
Dont worry Adam!!!! It gets better. I’m 27 and you will find your people!!! I totally understand being home sick too 😭
@valentinvolcek6034
3 жыл бұрын
I moved to Glasgow, UK for uni year ago (now started second year) and it was such a mess during pandemic to sit in a flat of foreign country with no friends or any connections. Now pandemic kinda is over and even if you go out and put the best side of yourself on the plate - any new meeting is meaningless. Even after my attempt to make lgbtq+ friends, I felt left out because english isn’t my first language. It does suck but I hope everyone goes through it at 19-21.
@michelebrianna5597
3 жыл бұрын
When I first moved from my hometown in Pennsylvania (I live in the states btw) to Florida - I literally didn’t have any friends at all for the first year and a half 😭 all I had was my family (which wasn’t the best, unfortunately) and then work. It was lowkey miserable and I occupied myself with alcohol and stupid things like that, as a distraction and to numb myself. I know this feeling all too well. Even when I tried to get close with people at work - it was so hard because the same thing, they already had established friend groups etc. and then I became a manager at this job so then nobody wanted to be friends with me because they assumed I’d turn on them because I was their boss and all this BS. And the people who did want to be my friend, only did because I was their boss and thought that would benefit them/use me to get away with shit etc. So all around, it was an awful time. It took almost 2 full years for me to finally find my friend group, and even with that - I bounced around from friend group to friend group because of a lot of immaturity and toxicity. But eventually, you find your people and everything is wonderful. It just takes time, which sucks, but sadly - everything in life takes time. 🥺
@mistresscalytrix
3 жыл бұрын
As a 30 year old it’s still hard for me to make friends and meet people, but it’s helped me learn to love my own company and explore alone. It gets easier you’ll be ok, it’s just new
@juliejewels9483
3 жыл бұрын
Are there any good local bands in Brighton? Music is a good way to vibe with people.
@alb91878
3 жыл бұрын
It really breaks my heart to see you like this! You seem like such a sweit's like such a sweet delightful and genuine person! Or some! Hang in there! It's going to get better! Another commenter under petty page mentioned about you maybe taking up some hobbies and I'm hobbies and I think that's a good idea! I was also going to suggest maybe volunteer part time at a local animal shelter since you love animals so much! Or maybe get like a part time job and something that you're genuinely interested in and then just work at part times so you can still do KZitem but then you can also get out and about and start working alongside people that you could eventually have something in common with .
@idellekell
3 жыл бұрын
I hope it gets easier for you. I'm in my 40s, and still find myself with very little friends and extreme loneliness. I spent my childhood moving around, and I think at some point I just gave up on trying to make new friends because it felt like as soon as I got close to people, we'd up and move again. I've been in the same place though for 20+ years, but that habit still has stuck around. I even went to university! But i was awkward and lacked confidence, so literally made zero friends. Maybe some people are just meant to be alone?? I dunno. After a few bad experiences and being used by vultures in my 20s, I just sort of gave up. Now I'm not sure I even have the social skills or trust in people to maintain friendships. Don't be like me. I'm only halfway to the grave but already live like a 100 year old woman in a nursing home who never had kids and her friends have all passed. Loneliness is a killer. Good luck
@KristenCorpse
3 жыл бұрын
Always good vibes Adam
@Toby3610
3 жыл бұрын
Hey, I’m an introvert who has moved around a lot. It’s not easy. Trying to find like minded people. I moved initially when the internet was in its infancy. I had to hand in typewriter assignments for uni. Finding something you are interested in and joining groups, sporting groups, if religious go to church or a temple. On my last move I joined a photography group. I join a waterpolo group. Volunteering at a animal shelter, as a volunteer lifeguard, local acting groups, emergency groups. One thing will lead to another.
@PersianCat_Mimi
3 жыл бұрын
Always hard thing in life will become a easy and good things in the future if you just keep counting you will reach to your ambition. All of us struggling the pout is to keep continuing even if you feel weak continue so you can find you inner power .. by the way you look brave for sharing your experience I hope in the future you share your success 👍🏻😇 God bless you in your life and after life 🤲🏻🙏🏻
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