Hi Nina....I've watched so many of your videos now, and I tell you, so much of what you are saying resonates with me. I'm also from Punjabi Sikh family from Canada, that too from a small town just like you, and although I didn't experience the kinds of horrific things that happened to you, I did experience a very toxic environment growing up. Like your town we had a temple a huge Sikh community for a small town, we were just 45 minutes out from the city of Vancouver. My parents were quite emotionally, mentally abusive, and you said so many things I could still identify with. I was also bullied at school but it didn't have to do with racism rather it was because I didn't follow the rules and alot of the bullying came from other Sikh students, I had two bullies at home. My parents were also very self conscious of their social image, when my sister was around 7 or 8 an old man touched her and her friend inappropriately along with two other girls. The whole thing went to court and the story was printed about in the local town paper, and my dad never once cared or had anything to do with the trial or that a man had touched my sister inappropriately. Back then I would have been about 12 years old myself, and now at 47 when I reflect back on it, I realize how truly messed up my parents were. There was a very famous honor killing case that happened in my province when I was around 21, it was the Jassi Sidhu honor killing, and it made front page of the newspaper in my province, and when I condemned it, my parents got mad at me, and my mom who was cooking dinner that day, was waving a knife angrily at me, not to kill me but express her anger, and they were justifying the killing. There were other things you said that hit home, with me as well, like when your daughter was born, I also have a daughter and it was a chance to turn things around, because you're either part of the problem or the solution. There is not in between. Many families like mine who feel they don't go to the extent yours did, are not "like that", but the truth is, it's not an all or nothing case, it's a spectrum, and sadly most Indian families are on that spectrum. Discriminating against girls, telling them to do housework and letting boys sit around, considering girls to be a liability. Then years ago after I got married in 2000 somewhere in the late 2000's I found out, my sister who use to work late nights, came home extra late one night, and my dad thinking that she was out doing something else, almost killed her, and if my mom hadn't gotten in the way she would have been dead on the spot, because he used some sort of crow bar or rod to hit her. I knew my parents were screwed but they have become worse over the years. Of course I'm married and live thousands of miles away in the US now for the last 23 years, which is why I have peace, but they try to cause problems on the phone, and remain toxic.
@twovirginiacats3753
9 ай бұрын
Thanks for your comments. The whole thing sounds so messed up and insane I can understand why people won't believe it.
@julieproctor6039
2 ай бұрын
Don't answer the phone. Decline their money and false" family
@ve2834
Ай бұрын
Sorry to hear that! Awful. Honestly I have heard backward village mentality even witnessed it but just goes need to keep an eye out for women. Always berated muslaman for their ways yet this does shine light on how we should always be mindful of abuse. Thanks for sharing.
@maryram3412
11 ай бұрын
What a survivor. So glad that she chose to move forward and use her pain to help others. May God bless her always.
@kosipova01
11 ай бұрын
She is so strong and so wonderful ❤ I can’t believe how many people abused her 💔
@özgekiraz-s4l
3 ай бұрын
Who ruined the video by adding some stock photos?
@benitadavis659
2 ай бұрын
I love you Nina Aouilk’s I have listened to your story many times you inspire me to keep going and get through the pain and rejection of my own life ....and help others ....thank you
@kirstisamuelsen3712
11 ай бұрын
Thank you for helping others Nina Instead of just celebrating yourself and your success
@TNevin
10 ай бұрын
Where is the evil father now? Did he get arrested?
@twovirginiacats3753
9 ай бұрын
In another video she did, I understand that the father did four years in prison at a later date. It was for trafficking Nina's 6-year-old half-sister. He kidnapped the little girl, took her to India and sold her. If this is all true, the guy is one evil man.
@1funkyflyguy
8 ай бұрын
@@twovirginiacats3753 His own child he did this to???!!!!!!
@qandeeltariqshah6552
4 ай бұрын
@@1funkyflyguyyes. He had left her sister (6 yr old girl) at an organ harvesting centre... They sold her organs in the black market. And I think before that she was also SA and then sold to organ harvesters.
@oliviariv
2 ай бұрын
@@twovirginiacats3753 The sad fact is he didn't even do the full 4 years before being set free.
@jop8871
2 ай бұрын
@@qandeeltariqshah6552 i found an article saying she was returned back to the mother
@niveditasingh6796
9 ай бұрын
This is unbelievable....how can one human be abused so many times ...
@sume6103
6 ай бұрын
Dear Nina, I admire your courage. You went through hell but are giving hope to so many women who are going through this kind of abuse. You are spot on when you say that with internet the world is a much smaller place. Women need to know that it's not normal. I really hope your abusers are sitting in jail. They also need to be exposed and world needs to see the face of evil. I hope after of this horrific ordeal you have found love, peace and happiness.
@jasiperroni1421
5 ай бұрын
There’s special place in hell for her parents. I am speechless how can you treat your daughter like that.
@julieproctor6039
2 ай бұрын
They don't believe in Hell
@SHIR0GANE
2 ай бұрын
@@julieproctor6039 but hell believes in them
@gottalovetheinternet
11 ай бұрын
She is an absolute inspiration. However I am implored to point out that I regret when she said 'children of immigrants' are at a disadvantage / in more danger. I am indigenous to my country, and similar abuse was happening to me. I was ignored at school too, when the signs were there. I think its really important to raise awareness and education for ALL child abuse, no matter what race the child is. I'm also surprised she didn't mention in this podcast, as she has done in others, that the only real help and care she ever got was from white people, in the country she immigrated to.
@londonslifecoach
11 ай бұрын
Hello, it’s Nina and I understand your points. I speak from a personal place talking about my culture and my own lived experiences. I understand that it happens regardless often in most cultures but as I said it’s all a personal experience I’m bringing forward. I’m sorry you too suffered and wanted to more than anything extend love and offer to help should you need support or anything ❤
@gottalovetheinternet
11 ай бұрын
Thank you for the reply Nina. As I said you are truly an inspirational, incredible person. Thank you so much for your kind wishes. @@londonslifecoach
@judypettey3150
10 ай бұрын
Nina I'm so sorry you were treated so horrible by your own family, thank you for telling your story and drawing attention to these honor killings and helping others who have been through similar experiences. May God Bless You for the rest of your days💜🇺🇸💜
@siskatan642
9 ай бұрын
Nina , you are courageous and gentle soul who forgives. I wouldn’t forgive easily like you did against the horror your family put your through half your life. It was horrific and inhuman, I cried and felt so sorry for the young girl you were with no help and so much desperation, pain and still had the will to survive. I hope God will punish those people who have hurt you forgiven or whatnot. God bless you and your children and peace be with you.
@sharasia7690
2 ай бұрын
Just to clarify in response to this comment, Nina was born and raised in the UK and did not "immigrate" here. The cultural emphasis on her story reflects her own story and makes sense to her own experience.
@nochill5996
10 ай бұрын
I wish her good fortune and love and care to heal.❤ She is super strong , I hope she finds her sister and gets to take care of her kids 💫
@siskatan642
9 ай бұрын
Amazing we are approaching 2024 old fashion culture and ignorants and bad people live as your family and in the name of parents at that so scary! I watched her part 1 and part 2 podcast on another channel… brave woman.
@Angela-qf1jw
2 ай бұрын
It's hard to find words as I sit here crying for you and also happy that you made good choices for yourself after so much abuse. I love you sweet Nina. We all feel for you. #WeAreLove ❤❤❤ #Strong #Female #Love #FightingFemicide #FightHonorKilling #EndHumanTraffic #No2ChldBrides
@sabinasabina2010
2 ай бұрын
You are one strong person- never doubt that!
@williamodell2565
10 ай бұрын
So sad what happens to some people. A very strong woman.
@ShujiGangsta
8 ай бұрын
Nina, you're amaaaaazing. I wish I could meet you one day.
@galinalasko783
11 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your important story. You matter & you help so many
@KimHuynh-pd2jo
Күн бұрын
What not to LOVE about Nina! What a force she becomes! Nina found LOVE in every challenge she encountered, Nina is helping others in every way she could, may one day the world be free of cruelties and unjust, and everyone loves one another! Amen!
@jasonbarney4278
2 ай бұрын
Oh my goodness, I’m so curious in which areas of South America these types of things occur.
@avanteekabakshi9457
3 ай бұрын
Are these parents not ashamed. So sad that they are still free
@oliviariv
2 ай бұрын
Not only free, but literally her dad is seen as a "hero" by his community after serving a small sentence for kidnapping a 6 year old who was never seen again. What a sick community.
@AK-xj2di
17 күн бұрын
@oliviariv These people don't have no humanity, nor compassion, they don't know what shame is, they are nothing but barbarians, trust me I'm talking from experience, it took me almost 30 years to break free. I never want to see any of these twisted double standards hypocrites in my life ever again.
@JohnSmith-f1s
8 ай бұрын
i cannot beleive what i was hearing
@helloyou9533
8 күн бұрын
‘My father didn’t teach me to ride a bike, but he taught me to love unconditionally’ if you didn’t know the context this would have been a sweet thing to hear, but considering this context it incredibly sad
@patriciaquintela899
9 күн бұрын
She said once “ I forgave but I cannot forget”. Who she becomes will never allow her aggressors to forget either. There is a special place in hell to family that does this to their children.
@georgepollastri601
17 күн бұрын
Hello Nina, thank you - I Love as much as my cats... ( that is a lot of Love )❤😊❤😅❤😂😊😅❤
@raghavym4964
Ай бұрын
I think the strength of this interview is either editing ... or learning from previous interviews where they spoke a lot about their own projections....and also nina was more open too..?
@raghavym4964
Ай бұрын
by staying silent they might be victims of coercive control...
@JohnSmith-f1s
8 ай бұрын
thank you
@qandeeltariqshah6552
4 ай бұрын
There are not enough swear words and curses that could be said about her parents and overall family and even teachers and I am surprised that they didn't do anything or investigate when she had the abortion. How can all these people be sooo fking blind?! And her mother makes me angry the most. How could she let this happen to her. Even if the mum went thru the same things. Why would she ever let her daughter suffer like this?! How can someone be so fking cruel...
@Enderslayer-dv1er
5 ай бұрын
I cried so much reading your story. I am so proud of you. Sorry to ask you and it's ok if you don't want to answer. I do understand. My question is that you ever found your sister or what happened to her for sure? Or you still don't know....I am so grateful that you 😊finally escaped.....❤️
@kungfu4003
4 ай бұрын
@Enderslayer-dv1er Her step sister was reunited with the mother.
@Catb3333
3 ай бұрын
@@kungfu4003 Wheredid you get that from??
@kungfu4003
3 ай бұрын
@@Catb3333 Leicester crown court. Her father is Amarjit Singh, Gregory St , Loughborough. Polish mistress Beata Agnieszka. You can also just google it for brief info. in 2 seconds because it was in the news extensively in India.
@kungfu4003
3 ай бұрын
@@Catb3333 So you did n't want to know the answer. Why did you ask the question then?
@sashmeetaprasad
7 ай бұрын
Damn😢 This is whats happening in other parts of the world. I have seen most Punjabi and Pakistani here in New Zealand are strict but in order to protect their kids. In terms of illegal, what can they not do?
@juliabrouwer1284
15 күн бұрын
She is very strong and has done a lot of work but yet she doesnt report her father or the father of her children. She speaks about staying silent, she speaks about her father feeling untouchable but she's speaking on a podcast about not reporting them.
@lajirafa481
13 күн бұрын
I think you may have missed that. She did tell the police about her father and her ex. She and her son were helped by social services to get away from her ex. Her father served time for abducting her sister but they didn’t charge him with what he did to her. Probably because it was so long ago they couldn’t do anything about it. Also, speaking from personal experience, the police generally don’t help victims of dv, they either don’t want to be involved or don’t believe them.
@jennielamgibson
19 күн бұрын
I love this incredible young woman she is on the front line as one of God's most powerful soldiers.
@Selamalia08
3 ай бұрын
Omg heartbreaking I want to hug her and tell her come stay with me 😢😢
@emanuelpaiva4457
5 ай бұрын
17:41 It is important to refer to Africa as a continent and not as a country. African culture is not aligned with this kind of behaviour. Some African countries or even areas within African countries are. Apart from that, i would like to congratulate you on overcoming such adversities in life and being able to tell your story while trying to help others. You are trully Special.
@kimberlyjarnagin749
29 күн бұрын
Thank you Nina!!!
@TheWanderingFinnegan
2 ай бұрын
I really wanted to hear what this woman had to say. But I'm not willing to tolerate 20 commercials. This channel is going on "Do Not Recommend".
@JamesWhittaker1
2 ай бұрын
20 commercials is a lot! Sorry to hear that. You can listen to the full length episodes ad free on Spotify, Apple or anywhere else you get podcasts.
@YaoEspirito
10 ай бұрын
Thirty minutes in, and she's said "South Asian" once and "Punjabi" once, but she has mentioned only "my culture" many times. What culture, please?! Sikh? Muslim? Hindu?
@twovirginiacats3753
9 ай бұрын
Sikh
@1funkyflyguy
8 ай бұрын
I would never have believed this would happen in a Sikh community, how ignorant have I been?
@PJDJ88
8 ай бұрын
Punjab is the culture, Sikh is the religion, not specifically a culture.
@londonslifecoach
8 ай бұрын
It’s Nina, culture is a community not religion: I’m born and raised in the UK my parents are originally from Punjab India and are Sikhs
@YaoEspirito
8 ай бұрын
@@londonslifecoach Thank you. It's just that since your "culture" was such a central part of the interview, I felt at sea trying to pinpoint the culture in question. Forward with strength, dear sister.
@YaoEspirito
10 ай бұрын
Is it permissable to use up four vowels in a row like that? Greedy!
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