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@jamesgordonphiri362
3 жыл бұрын
Stop promoting a barbaric practice. Lobola is a business of selling women passed off as a culture. It comes from the fact that our forefathers viewed women as possessions of men.Possessions that they could either give to each other as gifts or sell under the guise of culture. If u want to understand what lobola is start with Damage. When a woman falls pregnant out of wedlock she is said to be damaged and a fine has to be paid. The man who impregnates her remains intact. All he has to do is pay a fine to the father because the father owns the woman.She is his property. The woman who has been damaged receives nothing. She is left all alone to deal with the stigma of having a baby out of wedlock and society calls her deregotary names like mvana. Our forefathers also practiced musengabere,barika,kugaranhaka,virginity testing .... and many more practises that were deeming to women. Musengabere was when a man kidnapped a woman of his choice and forced her into marriage (rape).The parents did not care as long as the man brought cows.In the old days fathers would give away their daughters to men just because anogona kuridza ngoma. They would also give away a second daughter to mukuwasha if the first older married daughter could not bear a son. LOBOLA reflects the attitude of Africans towards women. Women are mere commodities to be sold into marriage. That is why when education first came to Africa only boys were sent to school.Vasikana vainzi vanoroorwa.Women existed sorely for the purpose of serving men. From the day she was born she was prepared for marriage. Lobola also gives too much power to third parties over the affairs of two people. A young adult couple in the diaspora who love each other and are ready to live together can not do so just because some old man in Muzarabani wants to be paid first.In the event of the husband's death his young brothers would come and share his wealth among themselves in the old days.Hama dzemurume dzaigoverana pfuma zvese nemukadzi wacho or mukadzi ainzi pashaya anokuda pano saka dzokera hako kumusha kwako.Women couldn't inherit wealth because they were wealth themselves. How can a cow inherit another cow? Most African couples are starting their marriages with financial headaches mari yavanenge vainawo yatorwa nevanhu vakuru who are just being greedy and selfish.How do u expect a young man to take good care of your daughter when u are stripping him of the very resources he needs to start a family?? We can not continue to marry culturally but the marriage itself to be Western anyway.Marriage is no longer a master-slave kind of relationship which it was in the old days. It is now a partnership. The feeling is mutual and the benefits are equal so why should one side have to pay??
@jamesgordonphiri362
3 жыл бұрын
Our generation should do away with this roora/lobola nonsense. Marriage is between two consenting adults. Everyone else is just after money.Too many young couples are struggling financially because they started their marriage with nothing mari yavakange vainayo yatorwa nevanhu vakuru vanenge vakuteedza ndari nekukecha mahure ane man'a kumaruzevha uko nayo.
@sekaichiturumani203
3 жыл бұрын
Most of these pics are from a sister's roora day, proud of her. Very insightful
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
Ow really, which one?
@deborahshumba2101
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this my fiancé isn't shona and he really needed it ❤️.
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
You are welcome. Do share so that they can learn also. Glad it helped.
@rutendomatsaira3038
Жыл бұрын
Great work. More manuals like this are important.
@kaySIMMZpix
Жыл бұрын
expect something this month. stay subscribed
@jubilee203
Жыл бұрын
You guys original Hebrews still practicing your traditions as described in the bible. Amazaing!
@kaySIMMZpix
Жыл бұрын
Yes! Thank you!
@ianbron5154
11 ай бұрын
Thanks so much! This is a great introduction. I will have to watch it again and take notes so I don't make a complete fool of myself
@kaySIMMZpix
4 ай бұрын
you are welcome glad it helped
@jamesgordonphiri362
3 жыл бұрын
And then the couple enter into their marriage penniless and debt ridden because of the greediness and selfishness of the bride's parents.Lobola has no place in morden society. It is an unnecessary burden on young men. Young couples need money to start their marriages on a strong financial footing. I find the image image of grey haired old men gathered around like vultures to extort money from a young man less than half their age sickening and disgusting. Wealth should be moving from adults to young people.
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
Roora is a token of appreciation to the parents, Last year a bill was proposed is Zimbabwe (not sure if it has been passed) that you don't have to pay lobola if you don't want to. As long as you agree nabebi wako u can solemnize the marriage. So the tables have turned my guy. I hope I am crossing the line here but hamuidewo here mari kana maendesa mwana wenyu ku university ane degree?
@jamesgordonphiri362
3 жыл бұрын
@@kaySIMMZpix A token of appreciation is not CHARGED. It is GIVEN voluntarily. Lobola is CHARGED which makes it a sale
@tichaonachisvuure5887
3 жыл бұрын
The Shona culture of roora is long and involves lots of other people. Both bride and groom are vetted by both families before they give green light to let the marriage go ahead. Yes roora is charged as token of appreciation of the bride's value and appreciation of the bride's family. Zvinodadisa musikana kuti azvione kuti akosheswa nemukomana wake uye vemhuri vanozvinzwa kuti mukwasha arevesa kuti ada zvemwanasikana wavo. Its very difficult to see a divorce if a proper marriage with roora ceremony was done because many of the family members who were involved will intervene to stop the divorce. When a woman who had no lobola paid is divorced, generally she does not get support from both families as they say "kuti ange akaroorwa here?" Mukadzi asina kubhadharirwa roora akareruka. Mukwasha asina kubhadhara roora haana rukudzo rwakafanana neakaroora. Saka sarudzai henyu zvamunoda.
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
@@tichaonachisvuure5887 manje mukoma James thinks roora kuba mari ka manje todii?
@jamesgordonphiri362
3 жыл бұрын
@@tichaonachisvuure5887 i didn't even finish reading
@user-wy9vk2yy6x
2 ай бұрын
At least av learnt something. But what happens if the girl and man get married without the knowledge of their parents and they even continue producing children? Kindly eMail the list of what may be needed. I'll really appreciate
@nandiaheartybites
Жыл бұрын
Is it possible to make a list of the Ndebele culture I know it may be similar but I would like to know how it goes with the Ndebeles
@kaySIMMZpix
4 ай бұрын
unfortunately I am not a ndebele but will be happy to find out for you and make a follow up video
@acclipsmedia9493
3 ай бұрын
Can you do a video on the mystery Lobola and Virginity which is currently being discussed today
@janematarutse3405
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you simba . we needed this
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
You are Welcome. Glad it helped. feel free to check out other lobola videos on our channel.
@mandynatsie2308
3 жыл бұрын
I like the way you broke down everything
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Mandy. We have another video coming up soon keep an eye out.
@vimbainashe.r3271
2 жыл бұрын
Well done! This is a good video.
@kaySIMMZpix
2 жыл бұрын
thanks, Vimbai. more lobola videos on our channel
@user-qf9se4hj3w
Жыл бұрын
This video was great. Very good explanations 🎉
@kaySIMMZpix
4 ай бұрын
Thanks so much you are welcome
@tariroaudrianakabaya5266
2 жыл бұрын
Patiently waiting for mine🥰
@kaySIMMZpix
2 жыл бұрын
We will be on standby to take pictures on your lobola day.
@tariroaudrianakabaya5266
2 жыл бұрын
@@kaySIMMZpix 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@patiemada5446
3 жыл бұрын
Very insightful, thank you
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
You are welcome hope it will help you when your day finally comes.
You are welcome welcome Mhopi. Quick question. If you were given an opportunity not to pay or remove one item from the lobola process what would it be and why?
@mhopi9744
3 жыл бұрын
@@kaySIMMZpix ini pekubvisa mari dzekushanyirana mudzimba nekunakidzwa pa u two hwavo I wouldn't charge or pay. Because kuwirirana kwavo kuita kudaro kkkkkk kupisa kwe rudo n trust. So I wouldn't charge or pay.
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
@@mhopi9744 Mari iyo may or not be charged, zvinongoenderana ne ma parents but for some reason zvibinge unofanirwa kutotsvagirwa chete hapashaike kaunotobhadhara. a friend of mine akasangana na aambuya vaenda ku church obviously u have to greet her. paroora akazonzi waimhoresa aambuya unovaziva here iwe kkk. so it's just part of humor inongoitwawo paroora.
@mhopi9744
3 жыл бұрын
@@kaySIMMZpix kkkkkkkkk shuwa vanotodaro havo. Kugara uine kamari pa side incase 😅😅 unopihwa mukadzi ne moyo wese. Lasting impressions kkkkkkkk
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
@@mhopi9744 ehe kkk
@moreblessingmugwagwa9537
3 жыл бұрын
I enjoyed the video, please can I have a common list of roora day in Mutare thank you
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
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@PanasheC
Жыл бұрын
What steps/procedures need to be taken leading up to roora, like informing people etc?.
@ashtonhollic5546
Жыл бұрын
well explained can i please have the Roora list please
@kaylinmaz4857
Жыл бұрын
Insightful 😊
@kaySIMMZpix
Жыл бұрын
You are welcome
@diyzim9247
3 жыл бұрын
Great info. 👍🏾
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Makunoroora muchiziva ka.
@user-zu1ru2gn8g
6 ай бұрын
That was great. I'm giving my relatives daughter in to marriage with the shone family. I like the entertainment that is found in the room process . I want to go and charge them....makandizwa naane...😂😂❤❤❤😂❤
@kaySIMMZpix
4 ай бұрын
that will be great hey. when is the lobola happening?
@tjscorp
3 жыл бұрын
NGL, the production is top notch. I'm sharing with my gf :)
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
Glad it helped. We need more people to be aware of the lobola process. thanks and cheers👍👍
@jamesgordonphiri362
3 жыл бұрын
@@kaySIMMZpix we need the lobola practised to be abolished and criminalized. Human beings shouldn't be paying for other human beings and parents shouldn't be paid for raising their own children. It is their responsibility to raise their child. Hakuna munhu akakumbira kuzvara.Children owe nothing to their parents for raising them
@jamesgordonphiri362
3 жыл бұрын
@@kaySIMMZpix Lobola should be an exchange of gifts between the two families. Gifts that are not CHARGED CHARGED or DEMANDED. They is no family that is more special than the other and there is no family isina kurera mwana wayo.Boys are raised too
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
@@jamesgordonphiri362 Lobola can't be criminalized ka Gordon because you are not forced to pay. There are other methods like kutizisa, or going via the court as I mentioned earlier, so it is up to you to choose any method that you want. Some people actually like paying for lobola
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
@@jamesgordonphiri362 Lobola depends on where u r on the continent. Some people or religions you don't pay for anything motoenda ikoko kuti zvifambe kkkk
@tendaifushai5651
2 жыл бұрын
You forgot the part where the munyayi is adressed as the groom and must act the part.
@kaySIMMZpix
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the additional information.
@user-ug4xw3np8c
Жыл бұрын
Wow well explained but what i want to know pamasungiro apo
@kaySIMMZpix
4 ай бұрын
what do you want to know exactly?
@FelicityMukuri-fe3nh
Жыл бұрын
Well explained
@kaySIMMZpix
4 ай бұрын
you are welcome
@ellehustler9889
2 жыл бұрын
#emailme really enjoyed this video! Zimbos of the diaspora like myself really appreciate it.
@kaySIMMZpix
2 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed however it seems there is no email address on your KZitem page. kindly send your request to info@kaysimmzpix.co.zw
@thandekilempala6
3 жыл бұрын
hi, please is the money paid in ZIM DOLLARS OR UNITED STATE DOLLARS FOR NDEBELE AND WHAT IS THE FIXED AMOUNT , BECAUSE MT MAN ISNT A ZIM AT ALL
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
Hie. Lobola money is not fixed because it varies with the parents, and it can be any currency however the denomination that is widely used in Zimbabwe is US dollars
@myredeemerliveth210
3 жыл бұрын
Helpful
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
Glad it helped. Are you married yourself?
@taperadoma465
Жыл бұрын
From my standpoint I would not call the payments as a gift. And they are not done as an appreciation of the in-laws. These payments are like extortions. Hanzi kugadzira hukama - really?
@irenecsaungweme6886
3 жыл бұрын
perfect!
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
You are welcome hope madzidzawo something. mopa vakuwasha ava vazive
@dmakome
2 жыл бұрын
Why don’t the family just give the entire list? I’m planning to get married with my beautiful Zimb lady but I am so confused because in my culture(I am Congolese) the groom is not surprised by the prices on the day of the wedding. Here it seems like it will be a surprise for the rest after the groceries. Can I ask to my future family in law to actually send us all the list for us to be prepared and not to be surprised the due day?
@kaySIMMZpix
2 жыл бұрын
Yes they can give you the list prior to the marriage ceremony
@liveandlearn4762
10 ай бұрын
Engagement ring is it part of Zim culture?
@kaySIMMZpix
4 ай бұрын
it is an adopted culture
@RottweilersMob
Жыл бұрын
Im sorry wife you can miss me with that i aint paying 3000plus for anyone 🤣🤣🤣
@Directorghost
3 жыл бұрын
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@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
Approved here apo hama?
@paballorelela9431
2 жыл бұрын
#emailme... Very enlightening. Thank you.
@kaySIMMZpix
2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome. it seems there is no email address on your KZitem page. kindly send your request to info@kaysimmzpix.co.zw
I have a question Gordon, if you have a daughter uchamuendesa mahara here? Roora inosiyana nevabereki hayo not everyone anoudzwa mari refu.
@natashawilliam62
3 жыл бұрын
I really need this because my bf is not from Zimbabwe, #email
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
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@sandranyakabau5588
2 жыл бұрын
thank you for this. learnt a lot. #emailme
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2 жыл бұрын
Kindly send your request to info@kaysimmzpix.co.zw
@spiwetshuma1265
3 жыл бұрын
Well tried to explain the process...Your pronounciation of zvibinge, zvirevereve... is wrong...also some of the comments you make about musikana giving back the money to her hubby to be is not standard, mushurugwi ndiye anototi ndipoo kumukadzi wake, varoora vanobika vanosisirwa mari mundiro nevakwasha vapedza kudya, mari yekunhonga yemusikana ndeyake iye yekugadzirira her new home .you were expected to buy bed sheets etc
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the contribution. On pronunciation remember we are all shona but different dialects, you know how the people in masvingo call magumbeze machira? I will try and do follow up videos and add your contributions thanks.
@mitcheldzvikidzo3714
2 жыл бұрын
#emailme
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2 жыл бұрын
It seems there is no email address on your youtube page
@lanvongani
2 жыл бұрын
My girlfriend is Shona and I'm South African, I've been searching for this information for so long. I needed to know what is required so I can follow the proper procedure. Maita basa🙌 #emailme
@Bax06
2 жыл бұрын
Hi, great job, please email me the list
@kaySIMMZpix
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks hey. it seems there is no email address on your KZitem page. kindly send your request to info@kaysimmzpix.co.zw
@onlythetruth596
2 жыл бұрын
Gross extortion of the man and overvaluing of the female 🤦🏾♂️😂
@kaySIMMZpix
2 жыл бұрын
Really? Tell me more
@amarikopo
3 жыл бұрын
#email me
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
Mavekuda kuroora here va marikopo. It seems there is no email address on your page. kindly send your request here info@kaysimmzpix.co.zw I will send the list there.
@amarikopo
3 жыл бұрын
Hahaha tikuda kugara taziva
@kaySIMMZpix
3 жыл бұрын
@@amarikopo Pakanaka. chibva mamupaiwo munhu wacho aone azivewo futi in advance kkkk. hamungaone mega ka.
@jamesgordonphiri362
3 жыл бұрын
@@amarikopo Only fools pay lobola.These women are not virgins
@thomasdimba5075
3 жыл бұрын
@@kaySIMMZpix hi
@stevengreenstock6095
7 ай бұрын
As a Scotsman, my partner is from Zim and she has tried to explain and calm my anger at this medieval practice, im all for traditions, but this is just disgusting, extorting money from the young to pay for the old, using examples of paying to raise the female is embarrassing and we are not talking a few dollors, but thousands.....this surely causes resentment towards inlaws?
@dorothy92762
7 ай бұрын
Not at all. It’s a normal practice in Zimbabwe accepted by both local and foreigners. I know many foreigners who have paid roora for their brides to respect the culture
@dorothy92762
7 ай бұрын
Not at all. It’s a normal practice in Zimbabwe accepted by both local and foreigners. I know many foreigners who have paid roora for their brides to respect the culture
@dorothy92762
7 ай бұрын
Not at all. It’s a normal practice in Zimbabwe accepted by both local and foreigners. I know many foreigners who have paid roora for their brides to respect the culture
@Magumbo58
6 ай бұрын
Cultures are different all over the world. If you understand that you won't get angry at all. It's just a process to bring two families together. A son in-law is not expected to pay Lobola in one day no no. He can pay the little he has and still come back even many many years later to finish off.
@Magumbo58
6 ай бұрын
@@dorothy92762exactly cultures are different and one should never consider his superior and modern because even the so called modern nations have certain traditions they consoder part of their culture, their heritage
@fingerprintst6571
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this, I am Motswana living abroad and just about to start this process #emailme
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2 жыл бұрын
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@PanasheC
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the explanation #emailme
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Жыл бұрын
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@angelinemakoni7529
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for simplifying ♥️♥️♥️ #emailme
@nyashachingwere5195
2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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@octaviamua_
3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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Жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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Жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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Жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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Жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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Done as requested. Thanks.
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#emailme
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3 жыл бұрын
thanks alot it was so informative
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You are welcome. Follow up videos on the way
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