i lost someone. i've become less of myself because of their absence. i lost myself. the fact that this isn't the last time i'll lose a person i value is exhausting to think about
@houston1342
2 жыл бұрын
@Agony You have Histrionic personality disorder?
@qoobes
2 жыл бұрын
Me too, a week ago. Travelled to Macedonia to get away from it, helped a little, along with alcohol, but I feel as if nothing will fill the void that's been left behind. Can't get up for work anymore, can't get up at all.
@stupidmonkey8057
2 жыл бұрын
@@JinroTheCorpse never compare your grief like that. You come off like a douche with your "try loosing people since you were a kid" line.
@loganjenks6627
2 жыл бұрын
I love you
@flair4146
2 жыл бұрын
@@loganjenks6627 unexpected but i love you too!
@kensh1849
2 жыл бұрын
The timing could never be more perfect
@chasepayne3588
2 жыл бұрын
Fucking same Brother Sisyphus be reading our minds or maybe we're all going through the same shit right now.
@alberteinstein7893
2 жыл бұрын
ı thought ı was the only one
@TheMindIlluminated
2 жыл бұрын
For real!
@Clemaglorine
2 жыл бұрын
Yea
@skeletor2012
Жыл бұрын
How are you feeling now? And what happened?
@overdonenames
2 жыл бұрын
I broke up with my girlfriend about two weeks ago, while already at one of my lowest points in my life. The loss of her has been devastating. I shared just about everything in my life with her and just watching a recipe video on KZitem is hard to do without feeling awful. It's been hard to get myself to do anything I used to enjoy and I've been spending my of my time in a coffee shop doing almost nothing. I hope I can enjoy things like I used to again.
@thomashiggins1597
2 жыл бұрын
you got this man, just stay strong and remember that everything passes
@Billycca3
2 жыл бұрын
You will, time heals all wounds
@jgonz1325
2 жыл бұрын
Believe me I was in your shoes two years ago. In the end, you will be happy it did not work out. God has something much better for you. When one door shuts another one opens.
@willcarmichie698
2 жыл бұрын
I went through a similar situation. It's all going to work out in the end, but right now you gotta do your best to keep going, doing whatever you need to do. Don't let it slip you up. Keep working on your goals and don't abandon anything; you'll regret it later. I hope you get to feeling better soon. God bless you, dude.
@swiggityswegsauce1397
2 жыл бұрын
Give it a few months I got dumped in January, haven't been happier than the last few months in my whole life, you got it ❤️
@agheelahmed
Жыл бұрын
"you were an idiot for believing that this could continue and that you could possibly make plans when nothing is gurarnteed" thats me it hurts
@sebakazkaz3665
22 күн бұрын
@@agheelahmed nooo thats not true. plans are made because of life’s natural lack of guarantee, you are not dumb to have planned. and you are absolutely not an idiot to have thought this would continue. there is absolutely no shame in wishing a love would last. why do we put such shame saying we’re idiots or whatever. these things cannot be foreseen, no matter who we are. take it easy :)
@3mi3mi
2 жыл бұрын
It’s been almost a year now, I didn’t realize how much I loved them until they left. But everything in life is temporary.
@RabbiRabbit87
2 жыл бұрын
Wise words thanks
@Trac82
4 ай бұрын
Yes, you're right. Everything is temporary. It still doesn't take the pain away. We lose a part of us when losing a loved one, especially if they're very close.
@Waykian
2 жыл бұрын
Lost my dad a month ago, I will probably lose my scholarship and having to repay it all will not be an easy task. But I always have my back, and the support of my friends, family and these beautiful videos that show how great humans are at understanding each other through a simple, short, video
@dayntessa6725
2 жыл бұрын
I am sorry for your loss! Are you not attending school at the moment? Because of the circumstances?
@___________________________2
2 жыл бұрын
Im sure it will get better , sorry for your loss
@Waykian
2 жыл бұрын
@@dayntessa6725 I am still going, but since my dad was the only person in my family who had a job, we're now living off of a pension. Unfortunately if I don't find a way I will have to stop my studies. Thanks for caring though ❤️
@limitbreakcake
2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry for your loss. I know it feels bleak to talk about finances in that situation, but depending on what country you live in there might be something the government can give to you to help cover costs of schooling in that situation. Hope things get better for you
@EvonneLindiwe
2 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry for your loss. 💐
@9Ballr
8 ай бұрын
"Lost my love to the wind. Left me half of who I am." - I Surrender
@aristeokrahn5082
4 ай бұрын
I feel you brother
@spiritsculptor392
2 жыл бұрын
Going through a horrible mental period rn because of this stuff right now. Really appreciate the video.
@dice8051
2 жыл бұрын
Me too man. I don't know what you're going through, but I know my grief is fucking terrible but understanding that I'm not the only one feeling this way makes me feel a bit better. Just take everything step by step. Get up off the bed, get out your door, and you've already done the hardest part. I don't even know who you are, but I'm proud of you for even commenting because it means you want to improve. That is the most important step. Good luck in your journey, and if you really need someone there you could always message. Sending all my love and support your way.
@JDCIncAccount
2 жыл бұрын
*It’s always good to think about everything* that could concur w/ reality, it’s beyond difficult for us to know how healthy we are as individuals w/o the knowledge of someone you trust to inform you. Losing the one that used to tell you who you were; identify you, it truly does leave a black hole in our hearts that will never be satisfied and always filling the rest of our soul until as-well with our loved ones we lose all 21 grams of our soul throughout time. 🙏 Jah bare with us through our tears, hold us tight as our mothers; I only dream for the warm stagnant breath of someone who understands to reach us all one day, and to finally tell us we’ll be fine throughout these harsh waves on this harsh ocean. I wish for happiness, for all around me, I’ll truly know the love for Jah once these waves have finished beaconing, and with it have calmed-🙏
@Mossy_Bark
2 жыл бұрын
Went through a breakup about 7 months ago, she ended things over the phone... I just wanted to say to those here who still mourn and hurt... It gets better. you will find a way, and your world will grow bigger slowly but surely, one day at a time your mind will become clear and you'll see everything as it really is. This isn't the end.
@alessandro5770
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks mate 💖
@pedrongreen
Жыл бұрын
thank you. even the thought of moving on is scary now, just as is everything around me at the moment, but knowing this isn't the end is enough fuel to get me out of bed (even if hardly)
@thomasbard5303
Жыл бұрын
It’s been 6 Months. Why can’t I feel like this. I felt good for like a month and it’s all hitting again. I don’t know to do. I don’t know…..how to do it
@zweilnyx6072
Жыл бұрын
@@thomasbard5303 Don't lose hope, stranger on the internet. That's perfectly normal. We all slip back into that cycle sometimes. When it does happen, don't despair. Instead, feel it wholly. The less you resist feeling these emotions, the easier it becomes to forget.
@midnxghtpulse
Жыл бұрын
@@zweilnyx6072 damn that was beautiful
@brokengirlsrus
2 жыл бұрын
The timing of this couldn't be more perfect. The 2nd year anniversary of my little brother's death is coming up on Thursday. He died of an overdose after fighting addiction for 7 years. He was only 23. That line you said about mourning the potential of someone you lost made me have to pause and take a minute. Wow. I never had somebody put into words what I've been feeling. I'm not only mourning my brother but I'm mourning who he used to be before the drugs took over, and I'm mourning the potential of the person I knew he could've been if he just held on to sobriety a little longer before he relapsed. Thank you for this. Thank you for so succinctly naming what it's like to go through loss.
@TheyForgotMySalad
2 жыл бұрын
You took the words right out of my mouth -- He explained these emotion's with words so simply yet precisely. I'm sorry for the loss of your brother. I have been in recovery for 4.5 years, but before I got into treatment I lost my fiance to alcoholism, so I truly empathize with your heartache. I'll be thinking of you, Thursday will be a full moon.
@gypsylee73
2 жыл бұрын
My little brother died from a drug overdose in 2014. He was 33. He was only an occasional user and we had no idea. He was just gone overnight. It's ok to grieve.. Death is taboo in our culture and we try to hide it and hide our grief. Pay attention to your dreams ☺️❤️🌹
@brokengirlsrus
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheyForgotMySalad My heart goes out to you. It's so easy for people to judge those with addiction, but unless you've gone through it yourself you don't understand the Hell it is to go through it or watch a loved one go through it. I have a wonderful partner and I couldn't imagine losing him. I'm so glad you found help for yourself. Take care 💛
@brokengirlsrus
2 жыл бұрын
@@gypsylee73 I'm so sorry. It's bad enough that he was taken so young, but it's made that much worse when it's so sudden like that. It's so true that death is taboo, and substance abuse is so frowned upon and not talked about enough. Good vibes to you friend.
@degilz7629
Жыл бұрын
Damn this is truly heartbreaking for me as an older brother. I can’t imagine what the pain of losing a little brother would be like. Condolences to you my friend ❤
@elliequinnn
2 жыл бұрын
I have lost countless versions of myself through friendships which have since expired, but the change they gave me has left me with my present self, whom i still love despite that persons 'essence' that perpetually lingers in lost jokes and old songs
@xeixi3789
Жыл бұрын
Could you tell me how you came around integrating those peoples essence in yourself exactly?
@haunterdragon4580
Жыл бұрын
Failing makes you stronger...as much as you suffer Maybe you find someone new and you love them even more then the last somehow...but they can only hurt you the maximum the first time. If they try to do it again you will have already hardened. And what doesn't work teaches you better how to navigate what you really need and want. It gives you a clearer mind what pitfalls to avoid and what walls to overcome.
@ahardearnedincome6437
2 жыл бұрын
I'm at the point in my life were I'm very happy. I feel like I have a purpose and I have a good family relationship now and a loving gf. But I can't forget to dip into the videos that gave me the confidence to become so happy. Thx you sisyphus55 for all you do💖
@Slato
2 жыл бұрын
hope
@tomasguilherme263
2 жыл бұрын
I was in your position 2/3 mouths ago, yesterday we broke up and im in a pretty bad place now. All i can say is enjoy it, because we never know when it will be over
@thegamergod7076
Жыл бұрын
@@tomasguilherme263 damn that is true, when everything seems perfect fast forward 3 months and everything can change completely, 3 months ago i was the happiest man alive, today after a major breakup im not the same im always tired and unmotivated just want to hug someone like i did to her but i cannot... Cherish the moments, i know that i tried
@tomasguilherme263
Жыл бұрын
@@thegamergod7076 good luck with that bro. You can do it. 1 mouth after we broke up, we got back again. Im currently with her again. She apolegize and said she made a mistake. I gave her a 2 chance. But i will never give a 3. Every thing is going good for know and im quite happy actually, but if we would get back, what was even the point of breaking up in the first place? Shit makes me so sad. Anyway bro just try to be a better man, 1% better every day thats what i did and im still doing. You shouldnt depend on other to be happy bro. Also take a few days if you need its okay we are human. But after you had some time to thing about stuff you need to move on and be better bro. She will regret it, and you will find someone better
@thegamergod7076
Жыл бұрын
@@tomasguilherme263 damn i appreciate it man!
@tomwiley266
Жыл бұрын
Ever since she left, life’s been a bit quieter
@Bhuknu
5 ай бұрын
Yet her sweet silly laugh echoes in my mind following her harsh last words. The silence
@jamesmoore381
5 ай бұрын
We will see if things get better
@caseymiller8045
4 ай бұрын
It's actually horrible 😞
@aristeokrahn5082
4 ай бұрын
It’s been 5 months for me. You learn to live slowly again without hope and love, the pain is still the same.
@Monjitto
2 жыл бұрын
I lost my dad to a car accident in October 2020. My mom, dad, my 2 sisters and I were living together all day every day because of covid quarantines, and suddenly one of us wasn't present. The following year was internal hell for all of us, but somehow we managed to pull through. These last few months I've been starting to feel like my old not-so depresed self again, and the certainty that life is worth living has slowly regained its place in my most internal beliefs. He was my best friend and I'll never stop missing him. His death made me realize that the people we love are single most important thing we need to be happy. For anyone that's going through something similar right now, I just want you to know that it eventually gets better. Even if it takes almost two years. Just please take care of yourself, spend time with the people you love, try to sleep well and don't engage in self-destructive behaviour (at least not so much...). It gets better, it gets better, it gets better.
@manatsuwu
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I really needed this. Lost my beloved grandmother 9 months ago. She was my soulmate and my best friend. Life has been nothing but a nightmare ever since. The only thing that helps me keep going is the thought that it will get better one day. Sending you hugs ❤
@degilz7629
Жыл бұрын
Even though I am fortunate enough to not have experienced the pain of a very close one, I an going through a loss of the physical presence of my dad; he’s not dead, I can still contact him over the phone. He loves us, we love him. But he’s just going to be away from home for a little while due to unpleasant reasons. Me and my family has had our fair share of tragic mourning, but I’m glad that phase is over and we’re all looking more optimistically
@jakekrupicki
Жыл бұрын
In October 2020 my dad died in a motorcycle crash because the driver was drunk and they hit a tree going 180mph. I know how you feel. I was only 17 at the time
@StoicFighter
2 жыл бұрын
I would have traveled to the end of the world with her, but that’s exactly why we needed to break up, because I would have done that and she would have still left but later after so much time that could have been lost. Keep your heads up kings.
@thejacobin9406
2 жыл бұрын
It was just your turn bro stay up
@alessandro5770
2 жыл бұрын
Happy you found resolution in that mate
@melarie205
Жыл бұрын
this is so sad why do people who love the hardest get hurt the most. it’s so unfair
@sen431
8 ай бұрын
It really is 😢@@melarie205
@devonjosiah7308
2 жыл бұрын
As a monk once said: when a loved one dies, with them dies also a piece of ourselves.
@ansonb2921
4 ай бұрын
I've been living with the grief of losing someone who I cared about deeply for almost a year now. This video helped me when she first passed. It's helping me now 11 months later. And it will help me when I'll inevitably feel overwhelmed with my grief in the future. Thank you for putting my grief into a new perspective
@maryquimbo
2 жыл бұрын
The timing of this video couldn’t have been more resonating for me. Recently went through my first breakup with my first love. All my life I’ve had a great support system that I couldn’t be more grateful for. But even then, despite having such close friends and family, I still have never shared so much of myself to anyone before this person. He gave me this sense of comfort that I’ve never felt before. He was my home. Someone I’d wake up next to everyday under the blankets and someone I’d brush my teeth with every night before bed. I honestly can’t recall any moment where I got tired or bored of his company. Just knowing that he’s there, next to me, as we sit in comfortable silence was what brought me such an indescribable joy. I don’t even mind being alone or single; I just miss him. It’s incredible how they become the person whom you talk to everyday, the person who seems to understand you better than anyone, the person who means the whole world to you. And suddenly, the next day, they’re just a distant stranger. The prospect of not having him in my life anymore is frightening. I know there is probably someone else out there who may be a better fit for me, and I know I’d be happier in the long term without him as my partner because we simply weren’t compatible. But damn, this shit still hurts. Really bad.
@xeixi3789
Жыл бұрын
My own experience’s a platonic instance, but I can’t express enough how much I relate to this and how similar I find out experiences to be. You’ve just worded parts about my grieving of my lost friendship in words I couldn’t.
@nuruisake
Жыл бұрын
My wife of 6 years 9-17 served me moved out to her moms behind my back and served me divorce papers. I feel this so much right now. Quite an accurate depiction of how i am feeling at this moment. Thank you for sharing even though its been at the very least a year your words help.
@kyutaa
10 ай бұрын
Relating to this so much right now. Can I ask how you are now?
@qoobes
2 жыл бұрын
I swear man, you always pick the topic that's gonna hit me the most. A week ago, my girlfriend and I broke up, it was a long term relationship, and going through a lot of death in the past two years of my life, I'd learned to depend on her, I'd learned a lesson in my heart the She was the one thing that would always be there for me, like a lamp post, illuminating my path and at the same time stopping me from falling down all the way. Last week, she broke up with me. Some weird excuses were brought up, and I understand her, if I'm going to be honest. Maybe she still loves me, she says so, I don't think she does. I thought love was stronger than this. Anyways, I just travelled half way across Europe to get away from it all, to escape the eternal feeling of dread I get when I see her smiling, happily walking down the street. I feel as if I've lost myself, as if a part of me just got torn away, like I've just lost my leg. THANK YOU FOR THE CONTENT, I love it, and I can promise you that me and thousands of others depend on things like this, from people like you, to keep us alive and alright. That parasocial feeling of empathy and understanding, while perhaps not the healthiest, is amazing.
@essayy5293
Жыл бұрын
I feel for you man it's hard seeing those you love being happy with someone else and moving on
@degilz7629
Жыл бұрын
Idk y but the internet offers a good avenue for just venting out one’s feelings, maybe it’s just the fact that your messages are public in nature but you don’t rly have to care if anyone rly listens or what they say cus maybe that possibility of being heard and cared for by others while also getting something off your chest with few concerns for any meaningful or impactful judgements just feels liberating.
@kyvintalks
Жыл бұрын
How are you? And anything you've learned that you'd like to share with us?
@qoobes
Жыл бұрын
@@kyvintalksReally well actually, yesterday was my anniversary in a new relationship. I'm a lot happier for this channel existing, I think I've read around 20 books because of ben's recommendations. I guess I've learned that despite what I may think, I have a lot less control in my life than I'd like, and that's okay, that's good, actually. If it wasn't for that breakup more than a year ago, I never would've had the opportunity to experience all the wonderful things I have since then.
@sen431
8 ай бұрын
I hope y'all doing good guys
@ErvannDi
Жыл бұрын
The first loss hurts the most. As more and more adds on, you become numb to the pain until you reach point break where you're just tired... exhausted. Knowing it will happen again, and it comes as you've expected. Staring straight into the eyes of the abyss knowing that another one joined in. Until eventually, you feel the hold of the abyss reaching out to you knowing that you'll join them eventually. Either the feeling is fear, or fulfillment knowing that everything would go away, and that death finally comes and rescues you and life creates you whole once again. This is grief, this is pain, only snapping out of it will you truly see the colors of the world once again... that is if you want to.
@haunterdragon4580
Жыл бұрын
True...the pain is the worst the first time it happens then you grow stronger. You adapt until you literally can't put yourself through the same pain anymore
@Suhani_Arora
6 ай бұрын
It was my first time seeing someone very close to me die (my own boyfriend). He was just 17. And so am I. He passed away on 16 Feb 2024 by an accident. I loved him so much and still do. I just wish to join him soon.
@mudpika
2 жыл бұрын
I've been worrying about my dad for a while now. thanks for posting.
@Paraselene_Tao
2 жыл бұрын
I worry about my dad too. I wish for great health for your dad, my dad, and all dads out there. I feel kind of like the universe is robbing me of one of my best friends.
@rogersebastian690
2 жыл бұрын
you're completely right about enjoying the memories--painful as they are, they're addictive too. its so easy to get lost in the phantom of your lost one when you lack all motivation and know that you'll never see them outside the memories. and goddamn, the memories are beautiful.
@jimbobert
2 жыл бұрын
With a best friend passing away suddenly, this hits close to me. It's like, in a way, ill never be the same nor will the world itself. I understand logically I should just move on, but how can I when tormented by the the pain of grief. I still find joy, though I find sadness in nearly everything. Am I doomed to keep this to myself? Is therapy even worth the trouble? Is this just life? Is it all worth it? Hope achieves me nothing, but neither does pessimism. So I shall live one more day again and again, until maybe one day I find the bliss of the world once more.
@anaradutoiu3789
2 жыл бұрын
I think that yes, it will probably not be the same. And why should it be? Your time with your friend is something that you will forever cherish and that can't be replaced by someone or somebody else. But this does not mean that something new and different will not come your way. You are going to figure it out and find a version of you for the next chapter. People will need you there and you will be appreciated, it's just going to be a slightly different you. At least this is how I see it. I am sorry for your loss and hope that you will find happiness.
@SIHLoffical
2 жыл бұрын
I, as well as the rest of my family have lost a friend. This guy was married to one of my parents friends. He always went fishing with me. I had some of the best days of my life with him. He technically isn’t dead as I write this but by tomorrow, he should be. He had lung and heart problems as well as diabetes. They can’t do surgery anywhere because that would kill him right there. He just wants to go naturally. The feeling of knowing I will never see him again is getting to me.
@xeixi3789
Жыл бұрын
The discrepancy between what your logical mind says and your paralyzed sense of grief, is a truly something that makes me think
@Swagmanrx
Жыл бұрын
My 2 best friends died suddenly the first 2 years ago the other a month ago I pray u and I can find peace
@mikazvis6231
Жыл бұрын
he left me more than a month ago. as much as i bury myself in school and my hobbies, there always seems to be a moment of utter despair embedded in my day. i’m glad this video clarified this type of emotion alongside a motivating message at the end. i needed to hear it
@RozaBea
Жыл бұрын
same
@jgonz1325
2 жыл бұрын
Watching this thinking about how lucky I am to have my girlfriend at the present moment. I have no idea what will happen in the future, but I love her with all my heart in this moment and I’m thankful she is in my life.
@reagansmith5288
2 жыл бұрын
pain
@jacksonfranklinmusic
Жыл бұрын
i pray you never have to edit this comment
@jgonz1325
Жыл бұрын
@@jacksonfranklinmusic she’s gone 💔
@jacksonfranklinmusic
Жыл бұрын
@@jgonz1325 fuck man 😞
@theyescapedtheweightofdarkness
Жыл бұрын
@@jgonz1325 I feel you.
@nosramus
2 жыл бұрын
Your videos always give me a strange sense of comfort. Times have been tough recently, thank you for making this video
@tyl2322
2 жыл бұрын
Its been almost 2 years and i still love her with all of my heart
@Camroc37
9 ай бұрын
Honor her by being the best person you can. I don't know if it was a death or if she left you. If she left you she didn't see your full value. But either way, be a great person and she will regret or she will be honored in death.
@sen431
8 ай бұрын
@@Camroc37mayb he dumped her?!😅
@jeremiah3178
2 жыл бұрын
For someone who's been suffering a lot of death anxiety this is very helpful, thank you so much
@jeremiah3178
2 жыл бұрын
@Bhargavi Krishnan to keep it brief Accepting death as part of a forgiving end to the cycle of life. We'll all return to dust one day we just take turns And I try to enjoy life everyday even with the ups and mostly down Worry less Overthink less
@catherinejanet5806
2 ай бұрын
this hurts so bad. knowing that everything that happened is my fault, it only makes me feel more guilty. it just hurts.
@pedrongreen
Жыл бұрын
I lost the most important person I had in my life through a break up. This profound sense of despair, heartbreak, sorrow and loss follows me everywhere. In my sleep, when I wake up, during the day at the most unexpected moments. These sharp pains in the heart, the loss of what once was, a present and what could’ve been. Trying not to build guilt over it and taking steps towards overcoming this sentiment of loss (of another and my own identity) has been the most painful thing I’ve had to do in my life. In the airport on my way back to my country in order to heal I stumbled upon this video. It made me feel seen like nothing ever has. I forced myself not to cry there at the airport, but since then I’ve cried about 6 times watching this. Understanding that the most important person in my life is actually me has been and learning to live in the present have both been very valuable lessons I’ve learned through this. I couldn’t do it without therapy, but I recognize the strength to hold these beliefs comes from within. Things are still very new, the wound extremely fresh. To anyone reading this… use these opportunities to grow. It’s the best way to make sense of the pain and despair. Turn to books, meditation and other zen practices. All these things are better than the temporary relief of alcohol and a few puffs. We can only exist in the present. Being grounded in it is the best way to get to a better future.
@thismustbeisaac
2 жыл бұрын
Loss is one of those things that I can never really live in peace with, although I know it is the one constant in life. I lost my grandfather about 5 years ago after his very long battle with a heart disease. I was only 13. I still remember how long I felt like a zombie for months and even years after; simply trying to grasp the concept that he was gone and that I’d never see him again. I remember standing there at my parents’ side watching his coffin slowly being lowered into the ground and it hit me in that moment; that he was gone. He taught me to love music and culture and books and art and loving the world and all its beautiful sights. He was such a huge influence in my life for my entire childhood. Being only a child and having to try to understand that “grandad is very sick,” was a lot for me. I remember holding a lot of my emotions about his passing in to “be strong” for my parents, also because I didn’t quite know how to deal with them myself either. My 18th birthday looms and the 5th anniversary of his death too. To this day I still have not visited his grave. Perhaps this year, I will. I feel as though I finally know what to say to him now.
@CJ._EXE._
Жыл бұрын
"You were an idiot for believing that this could continue and that you could possibly make plans when nothing is guaranteed." Hit a little too close to home
@dustyt6226
2 жыл бұрын
This hits hard. Such a poignant explanation of how this grief truly feels. Thanks for another great video
@michaelmcauliff5987
2 жыл бұрын
I think i really get the lesson here. When it comes to relationships, the pain of loss will always be present, but you can turn the loss into gain, the failure into strategy. The loss of self esteem is a bridge to grow stronger with just a little bit of courage. I think “trust thyself” is almost always the lesson.
@amousenamedjay6638
Жыл бұрын
Rest easy, Techno. You deserve it.
@Cubedout14
Жыл бұрын
That’s who I thought of, blood for the blood god
@2Pro9000
3 ай бұрын
No one deserves it its a gift from God
@amousenamedjay6638
2 ай бұрын
@Madelenholm I mean he deserves to rest well lol
@Vy-if3zd
2 жыл бұрын
i lost so many people and constantly live with the uncertainty that anyone who i love will never stay... but new people enter my life, and the memories and lessons i earnt through the people of the past will always stay valuable no matter how much i miss them or hate them.
@Love-xh3lf
Жыл бұрын
I lost my father 3 months ago this video brought me so so much comfort when the pain became unbearable or whenever I couldn’t sleep . forever grateful for this , tomorrow is his birthday and this is such a great reminder
@hearts4seripixelbiologist
2 жыл бұрын
im so so sorry for anyone hos ever lost anyone. you all deserve better and love and support and care.
@RozaBea
Жыл бұрын
im learning to forgive myself while going thru it rn
@creativepop8196
Жыл бұрын
"And what better way to honor the loss of someone whose time has passed than to embrace the time you still have with the grace and wit you so desperately wish to give to them" Thank you Sisyphus.... Thank you
@fuckyopancakes
2 жыл бұрын
The idea of moving on without your loved one is something that I hadn't been able to put into words but makes me feel grief and guilt every single day.
@WofWca
8 ай бұрын
The one who you're grieving for probably wouldn't want you to grieve forever. They'd wish you'd move on and enjoy your life.
@Polo-715
5 ай бұрын
@@WofWca real
@jackslifechangingopinions9545
2 жыл бұрын
I quite literally just lost someone, this timing can't be more perfect
@Slato
2 жыл бұрын
damn sisyphus really going through it huh. i guess i'll just imagine you happy
@Cristian-ks3hy
8 ай бұрын
Are you happy?
@Cristian-ks3hy
8 ай бұрын
Are you happy?
@madmanmortonyt4890
2 жыл бұрын
I helped a friend out of a depressing state. Unfortunately, they turned into a toxic individual. Its been hard since I distanced myself from them. I still look back on those earlier days and how much fun we had...
@madeleinep.828
Жыл бұрын
"When my good friend died, it wasn't just him that was gone. The side of me that only he could bring out died with him as well." -unknown
@NoatheLAPTOPnerd01
Жыл бұрын
i bawled my eyes out to this. i miss her so much. thank you for making this video. it is 5 am.
@balothYT
2 жыл бұрын
This made me break down in tears, thank you for this man
@cIoudbank
2 жыл бұрын
ive lost so many loved ones that ive sealed my date to suicide sometimes in the future. ur words encapsulated it well, its just not right to go on without them. life never gets better, u just have to get stronger at living it. some dont have the strength anymore.
@hanzallah9299
2 жыл бұрын
hey, as much as i relate and agree to you, there's one thing u should know. we don't come into this world to live for others. we were alone when we came here, and we'll be alone when we leave. and the brief yet sincere human interactions we felt should be nothing but embraced and cherished. know that we were never meant to be attached to people in an unhealthy way. when we love someone, it feels like a part of us was lost when we lost them. and its true, but we have to find a way to be happy with our own selves and our own selves only. please dont deprive the world of ur beautiful soul, im here if u need to talk and pour your heart out
@dice8051
2 жыл бұрын
What an amazing, elegant, truly masterful way of helping someone cope with loss. You really don't understand what this video now means to me and my recovery process. You're a legend man.
@depug3023
Жыл бұрын
my girlfriend fell out of love with me recently, i've watched this video so many times now and it has helped me come to accept a future without someone that was so very special to me, thank you
@RozaBea
Жыл бұрын
😔
@TagetesAlkesta
2 жыл бұрын
What good timing on this video. It would have been five years today. A relationship ended by circumstance. Someone I grew up with, my best friend and companion, and the person who helped shape me into who I am today. All suddenly gone in the span of a night as we both realized it simply wasn’t going to work. I’ve come a long way in the eighteen months since it ended, but I still get the feels whenever July 12th rolls around. Thanks for the video man.
@danielbensen6248
2 жыл бұрын
Fuck, it's July 13th for me. I clung on to dear life the last three months because I didn't want to let go, or accept that it wasn't working, and then suddenly that night it just happened. I've been doing my best to move forward from it but it's still painful
@RozaBea
Жыл бұрын
hope yal okay now. im going tru it now. its hurts like hell.
@sen431
8 ай бұрын
@@RozaBeahow're you doing now??! My man hope you good!
@kattensjingo
2 жыл бұрын
Your timing was really great. I recently got broken up with as my girlfriend was forced to leave me and this was very insightful as to explain the feelings i felt
@_def_not_am4613
2 жыл бұрын
It seems that greif always knows precisely when to strike as if its always there, waiting
@Cognit1ve
Жыл бұрын
We broke up last night. I couldn't find any comfort on self-talk because it only offers me the memories that we have and all those our could've-been's in life. At such time like this, i always thought that his videos can give me clarity and comfort that i want. Thank you for this Sisyphus. You make everything on me bearable right now.
@gogsi3640
2 жыл бұрын
This hits hard. I am the youngist in my family, I know i'll outlive them all. At some point in my live I've realised I developt a safety feature where its hard to remember the times I spent with those deceased loved ones, like I'm forcing myself to forget, to not be sadden by my loss.
@Lugi45nubs
2 жыл бұрын
I lost my Dad in September. This one pretty much hits the nail on the head. Take your time to grieve, but persevere. You must continue to live your life while you still have it.
@Tsinotang
2 жыл бұрын
It only took three years, but I reclaimed the happiness I once felt before she walked out on me with someone else! During the weeks when everything felt so endless and immeasurably crushing, I would watch and rewatch videos like this one; it was the small comforting boost I needed to get through day by day, hour by hour. Sisyphus, thanks for making such a difference for so many of us here. C:
@billyzleef3230
2 жыл бұрын
I think this is a very accurate and useful study of what it means to lose someone. Personally I relate to this a lot, it manages to articulate parts of the experience of loss that seem absurd and unidentifiable
@Whathuh86
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I needed this. My mother has been living with a form of vascular dementia for over a decade. The grief is constant and on going.
@daisukye
2 жыл бұрын
I'd rather roll the boulder up the hill countless times than to experience the loss of someone I love.
@hernan7363
Жыл бұрын
One of the scariest sensations is when you know you're gonna lose someone, you may have time to prepare for it, but you are never truly ready lose someone. I can't remember every friend I had but yet they have made me.
@thejamfishh
Жыл бұрын
Im glad Im not the only one who is totally wrecked by this kind of stuff. It seems like everyone else always moves on so easily
@evangreitzer6259
Жыл бұрын
“Love can only truly be felt in loss” made my jaw drop. My goodness!
@cheesi
2 жыл бұрын
Both in and outside the context of grief, I struggle with motivating myself to do anything at all and 'this will be the hardest thing you do all day' has been one of the lines that's helped me get myself in the shower, writing that essay, doing those dishes, etc for a few months now. That and 'better to do it than live with the fear of it', I can't stand the dread of having things to do.
@owenless
Жыл бұрын
how are you doing now?
@cheesi
Жыл бұрын
@@owenless Thanks for asking! :) better and worse. I have good friends and family, lots to enjoy and appreciate, I'm getting more confident and out there but still have a lot of problems getting myself to do many of the things I want to do. I'm looking into getting assessed for adhd or similar, which I know is really in fashion right now, but I've definitely always had a very different mind from my peers for better and worse and I'd just like to know exactly what's up and what could help with it. Hope you're well!
@owenless
Жыл бұрын
@@cheesi i am thank you for the response I can’t speak for you but I myself am diagnosed with it among other things and it sucks because my relationship is in sorta a limbo in which she has a lot of her own issues and those may be the end of us but i’m just trying to feel the world more it’s been a ride great to hear your doing well
@Legendd_editz
4 ай бұрын
lost my dad about 2 months ago had to move with my grandmother and granpa it’s taken a mental toll on me more then i can imagine he was everything to me and the night he died we talked and he said i love you and i said goodnight byeeee i still hate myself for not saying love you back so i know to always say that from now on because you never know when you’ll lose someone so be thankful for the time you have with them.
@isthisagoodyoutubehandle
Жыл бұрын
You had me until "something felt slightly good about this" I loved her as much then as I do now. And the her I love will slowly fade with my memory and become less and less a part of someone that actually exists. She only left me and that hurt like hell, but the real hell is the next few decades spent feeling what's left of her fade from a reality that was but no longer is, into a faded recollection of events and feelings that no longer have any reality attached to them. I wasn't with her to make memories. I was with her to be present with her. My present had been awful for all but the 4 years I was with her. She was the only light in the tunnel, but the lamp burnt out and I know there isn't another light coming any time soon. I'll be an old man before I'm even capable of seeing another on the horizon.
@owenless
Жыл бұрын
Love more grieve more feel more.
@carnigoth
2 жыл бұрын
I lost my someone on the very day of this upload. I need a hug
@InfectedChris
2 жыл бұрын
I know my time is limited. I want people to have 30 seconds to grieve and then have a party. Thank you so much for this!
@Mrafif23
2 жыл бұрын
Looking back at how i have moved on from other losses in the past gives me the confidence and the hope that i can move on from this one too. And i will surely risk getting my heart broken all over again in the future.
@nobodyofimportance3922
2 жыл бұрын
I broke up with my girlfriend of four years late last year because of things outside my control. I've been in a self-destruction spiral ever since. When you lose someone or something that makes you feel whole, when you lose that person or thing, you lose the only thing that fills up the emptiness inside you. You lose the only thing that matters to you, and so nothing matters to you anymore. Not yourself, not the world, not the people who you're supposed to love, nothing. The feelings that remain after loss become the last things that motivate you. For me that is anger and pain, for others it will be something different. This life violates us by taking whatever it wants, whenever it wants, and frankly I don't see any point in trying to heal the wounds I have anymore. I just want to destroy myself
@dayntessa6725
2 жыл бұрын
Different story, diff reasons, diff selfdestruction path i had. But if it means anything - once you will be out of the dark, even one tiny step, and realise that you don't wanna go back to the lowest point - that will be your biggest motivation. I lost years on... lets call them bad decisions. Lost a chance of good life. Just went to the worst place. And stayed. I am one of those who truly believe that one must hit rock bottom, only then we can rise. And start to heal. But long story short. As soon as i realised that "now" is better than "1 day/month ago"... it changed everythig. It was my biggest motivation. So i hope that this maybe gives a tiny spark of hope. I know it is not much. But i wish you all the best! ❤
@owenless
Жыл бұрын
i hope your in a much better state now how are you doing?
@purplehaze2358
2 жыл бұрын
This channel sometimes feels like a depressed version of Sam O’Nella, and other times you have philosophical videos like this which honest-to-god made it difficult not to cry.
@brc648
9 ай бұрын
Lost my father 8years ago. Guess I couldn’t deal with it, started to banish my memories. This did me worse, now I only remember him as a source of all my failures. And everything that people otherwise cherishes as a nostalgic memory of a loved one is muted in my mind. This apparent comfort I have given myself. Needless to say, this has strengthen a string of difficult relationships with men in my dating life. Last night I drank, a bit more than I should be, and in the daze I was only seeing his face while having dinner. His face, exactly like mine. His shortcomings, exactly like mine. May be this burial in my heart will stay with for this lifetime. He was more of a friend and less of a responsible father. I loved him, and loosing him was about coming to terms with a reality of life that I could never face, still cannot. When I say I think of him when drunk, I do not know if I quote a cliche alcohol excuse, or its just how it is. Only then I wish to sympathise with him, touch him one last time, and accept him for all the reasons for which I do not like him in my sobriety
@remytwoshoes1769
2 жыл бұрын
I really needed this. Thanks dude
@charlieadams7141
2 жыл бұрын
Just lost my girlfriend. It might of only been 6 months, but they were 6 months of near bliss. Broke up because she was getting deployed for the army. Nothing to be done and we still love eachother, but forced to split. I’ve seen the lows and highs and it still hurts to think of what could of been, but time and effort towards growth will heal the both of us. Hope the rest of you grow from your loss
@landonrichards4434
Жыл бұрын
I feel you. The only difference is that instead of waiting until we have to go our separate ways for college, she decided to cut things off before we got too attached so as to save us from some pain later on. I don’t know which is worse tbh
@shelnut2842
Жыл бұрын
@@landonrichards4434In the same situation now, how are you doing?
@landonrichards4434
Жыл бұрын
@@shelnut2842 much better, but a lot has happened in between lol. It hurt for about two weeks but then my friend told me his girlfriend, who’s a year older than us, had a friend I would like. We ended up talking a bunch for like 3 weeks but about two weeks ago she broke things off, but it wasn’t that bad bc we never actually met in person bc her fam lived like two hours away and she was living with them while college was still out. Then over the weekend I started talking to this girl that went on the retreat I was helping lead and we are probably gonna go to prom together and we both seem to like eachother. Ik this went into too much detail and it’s long, but the moral of the story is that it gets better. There’s other people out there and you get over things. It sucks now but keep your head up king 🫡
@owenless
Жыл бұрын
@@landonrichards4434 props to you man 🙌
@Whumble
2 жыл бұрын
they just left me, perfect timing.
@elcee8276
2 жыл бұрын
the potential you see in someone is not them, it's what you would do in their shoes
@tishaw.8254
2 жыл бұрын
It’s been 5 years without my mom. They say time heals all wounds, but they didn’t say it was slow as a sloth
@syahirahnazri8589
2 жыл бұрын
I'm at a point where I'm not too sad about it but not yet completely moved on. Remembering him feels numb and I've come to accept that I will forever live with lingering memories of him. But I don't want to feel like this forever. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever feel that him leaving me was the best thing that could ever happen to me. I'm grateful to have a therapist to talk to, but from time to time I wonder if I can get through this without my self-destructive behaviors. Idk. Wish me luck
@bigmantyyt8100
Жыл бұрын
I wish you the best of lucks.
@limitbreakcake
2 жыл бұрын
Lost my dad fairly recently and this video summed up some things about the grief process I've noticed. Great video, thank you
@snoy98307
Жыл бұрын
It's been almost three months and well...I have tried everything....getting busy in work, talking to other guys, watching inspirational videos but once in a while it hits me that I am not the same person I was before I met him. It's a loss of innocence in a platonic way that I am not ready to deal with.
@wren_.
8 ай бұрын
did it get better? do you have different problems now?
@CROninja666
Жыл бұрын
I lost someone I never had cause I couldn't express myself because of my traumatic scars. I now live my days trying to convince myself that I don't need anyone cause it just feels easier at this point.
@owenless
Жыл бұрын
i can’t speak for you but if i could tell you anything love more grieve more feel more and do it over and over
@HealthyKaden
2 жыл бұрын
Good morning sissy, I just lost my dog after 12 and a half years. Thanks for creating these kind of videos, grief is hard to go through alone but this makes me feel solitude. Love the content
@xeixi3789
Жыл бұрын
I feel for you, but please don’t call him that
@meaar-uf8wh
6 ай бұрын
yeh i lost my cat today and try to forget 😢
@carlota8366
4 ай бұрын
This might be my comfort KZitem video
@Shootingkit
2 жыл бұрын
Dealing with a very recent breakup. Thank you for this.
@RozaBea
Жыл бұрын
me rn.
@salazare1813
Жыл бұрын
@@RozaBea are you feeling better now? Mine was on sunday and to sum up: breathing hurts. I was certain this was gonna be the last time I'd fall in love.
@LoveNiu
8 ай бұрын
I MISS HIM SO MUCH they actually were the best I just want someone like him again…I miss him they always made me happy and everything
@Wholesome_content1
2 жыл бұрын
This hit way too hard. Currently dealing with losing contact with someone I had a great relationship going with. Life tore us apart and just thinking about it is making me feel terrible.
@Yashhh02
Жыл бұрын
The worst thing my mind do is to bring me the awful thoughts of her being with someone else. What if that person even doesn't love her soul like me ? What if he just loves her body and will leave her hurted at the end ? I couldn't be there to protect her neither to talk to her and make her feel better. The fact that she's not mine anymore is the fact I'm afraid of most.
@Booyakasha787
2 жыл бұрын
I've lost a childhood friend to cancer not too long ago We grew up together I loved her And now I'll never see her again I try not to let others see how this still affects me but it does And it likely always will A piece of me died with her, as cliché as that sounds, the person I was when I was with her is now as gone as she is Thank you so much for your videos They help me a lot when I'm down
@theerthasarvesh
8 ай бұрын
"the despair of nothingness" Somedays you think everything is getting better, but that's when you fall apart again, the big sadness creeps in, and you find everything hard. Existing is painful, you don't feel like doing anything, you lack motivation to do things, even doing the basic shit feels like a chore. But I hope one day it gets easier. You will feel nothing when you think about them, you will eventually get over them. But before it gets better, it gets even worse. You have to go through the relentless cycle of suffering to get over it. As rumi said, the cure to pain is in the pain. Don't distract or avoid yourself from feeling things, sit with your pain :)
@_M30WM30W
Жыл бұрын
I'm probably at the lowest points of my life but, I'm with someone that supports me and loves me to bits. knowing I could potentially lose him one day is so terrifying to me, I don't think I could ever move on at that point
@DarkIronGamer
Жыл бұрын
I just keep coming back to this video. This pain I cannot bear. Family, friends. Gone in an instant. It feels as though my soul has been cleaved from my body. And I fear that my strength is fading and I will, sooner rather than later follow suit.
@maryberry0314
9 ай бұрын
i miss you dad.
@jamestyler3606
2 күн бұрын
Shes the reason i want to better myself. She said no to me and it took a long time for me to understand she said no for a good reason. Had she said yes i would've made her miserable and diffuse the spark I saw in her. When i realized this, i made a promise to her and myself to better myself everyday no matter what. No matter what happens she'll always be in my heart. Luna, I'll always love you doll
@MrStefanuzumaki
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the despair porn Sysiphus.
@elliequinnn
2 жыл бұрын
perfect description of what this is
@sjbechet1111
Жыл бұрын
Yup - its quite prosaic. The School of Life have a more reflective and helpful take on this.
@effortlesslyeccentric333
Жыл бұрын
I think the hardest thing for me to accept with my rather recent breakup is that he said “I just can’t love you as I did before.” And I will never love somebody like I loved him. That love was a first for me and a last in a way. When you love somebody it’s a one and done kinda love, a bond you can have with them and only them. You’re next love will be completely different. And though that breaks my heart it gives me hope for a love that I deserve to come around.
@ozzyeee
Жыл бұрын
I can't do it alone. It hurts. It's barely been a month and it has felt like the longest month of my life. I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried the advice people give me, and none of it works. I feel so alone. I can't get up, no matter how hard I try. I want the pain to stop, and I'm scared that I will resort to something else, but maybe that's just the way things have to be. Maybe there are no other options.
@Howei1337
5 ай бұрын
"And what better way to honor the loss of someone who's time has passed than to embrace the time you still have with the grace and wit that you so desperately wish to give to them ?" Oh my god.
@KL-zf1wu
2 жыл бұрын
This did not make me more hopeful but nor did it made me any more depressed. More importantly, it made me gather all of my thoughts and realize all that I have. And yes I will wake up and get to the shower more often. Thank you so much.
@Pulich07
2 жыл бұрын
Sisyphus55, I just got dumped in a 10 year relationship. You're helping me more than anything else could with this timing. Thank you for being here.
@owenless
Жыл бұрын
you doing better?
@callanjerel
Жыл бұрын
The slow falling out of a best friend hurts more than I can articulate. I tried my hardest for them, and they were a part of me. Things will never be like they were
@gnush3041
2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful, eloquent, deeply relatable. As always, you are the ardent documenter of the depths of the soul. How you experience so much in such a small amount of time, let alone come to understand it and present it in such a concise, yet completely holistic manner video after video after video, I have no idea. But I know that you are an asset to all of us; those who experience so much, but, unlike you, lack the capacity to fully grasp what it is that we go through. Your work is greatly appreciated by so many. It gives us some sense of direction, some map of our condition, when the universe so often fails to provide. All in a 6 minute video on the internet. Truly, you are incredible. Thank you so much
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