WOW!!! you both look so young to be together for 27 years !...Thanks for the video and talking about things that truly matter. :)
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Appreciate that. Tough to know how much to share sometimes. Thanks, Nick
@TheNickthekid123456
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the perspective. Most of all congratulations on 27 years.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Appreciate that Franklin. Best, Nick
@Eddie-Van-Hammerlane
4 жыл бұрын
As a GUY, I'm thinking being single, financially self sufficient, gives you much better options.
@stevosan3225
5 жыл бұрын
You two are great! Thank you for the insights and the honesty. We're about 2 to 3 years out from taking the plunge on our first boat and cruising lifestyle experience. All the best
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Excellent. Makin it happen! Hope we see you out there! Best, Nick
@ceeceety2320
5 жыл бұрын
Great perspective on the subject guys! Btw, this is Tammie commenting. We watched together then Tim was off to work. We've known one another since the 10th grade and dated on and off in brief spurts until we were in our early 30's and something clicked and we've been together for 19 yrs. this past May. We appreciated this video more than you might know. We have lived in tiny spaces together before and can relate to the ways to diffuse situations. Of course, if Tim would just do as I say, everything would be just great! Haha! Kidding! We still have our moments but, we've most definitely mellowed with age. We look forward to retirement on wheels. Sometimes, I wonder if Tim isn't secretly planning to buy a boat and come home one day with a full Captain's uniform and say; " Honey, guess what I did?" We have fallen in love with Catamaran's, but then we come back to earth when we watch a few episodes of "Sailing Zingaro". Have you come across their channel? OMG! They're the epitome of what not to do! They are great fun, but no thanks! Congrats on 29 yrs! That's wonderful! Sorry about the book I just wrote here! We love a good storm too, truly, but can't imagine what the stress would be like when you're literally floating in your home during one of those buggers! Take good care!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Aw thanks for the note Tammie. I have heard of that channel but I am literally a year behind on any of the channels we are subscribed to. I need more time! Or I need to hire another me who will work for what I pay myself! Wheels are fun, boats are fun...it's all fun really just different plusses and minuses. It's all about the adventure! Take care and keep us up to date!
@SteveWrightNZ
5 жыл бұрын
Our first cruising experience was five days of terrible weather - and we loved it!! Quite unexpected... Thanks for sharing.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
That’s a good sign! That’s awesome Steve. Best, Nick
@synorse4062
5 жыл бұрын
This is so good guys! This is what sailors really needs to know and discuss before they go sailing. We especially liked what Nick said about "hard but rewarding". When it is too easy it becomes boring. Congratulations on the 27 years. We'beat you with two years. Hard and rewarding for 29 years (very soon to be 30). Keep those videos coming. Looking forward to the "live one".
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you. "We do this not because it is easy, but BECAUSE it is hard..." Congratulations on 30 years. We will do our best to surf the wave as long as we can. :)
@Niagra2011
4 жыл бұрын
Really enjoy your videos. Congrats on 27 years together! My wife and I have been married almost 31 years and practice a lot of your thoughts on relationships. You both are wonderful together. Megans channel is great also!Thank you both for all you do!
@kidonaboat
5 жыл бұрын
Love your vids because you actually talk about reality. Its not all peaches and cream. Well done. Thank you.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Marc. Lot's of peaches, lot's of cream, but sometimes the fridge quits and it all spoils... LOL. Appreciate the note. Trying to keep it real in a world that is full of the unreal. Best, Nick
@NathanJoshuaDavid
5 жыл бұрын
This is why I watch you guys. Always fun and informative.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Nate. Appreciate it. It's the viewers and comments that are inspiring these topics. Best, Nick O
@GrantGrove
5 жыл бұрын
Nice rainy day rant on a often overlooked topic. The first item I think you need to realize is schedules need to be in pencil and you really need to make your boat life as free from time constraints as possible. As you stated, there will be other factors that will be a determining control over your schedule. Weather, food restocked, seasonal conditions and maybe an emergency, all these will be the priorities to conflict with YOUR plans. We were fortunate to have reasonable monthly funds, we had a freezer and refrigerator that we could stock for 2 to 3 months, out island and on the hook. Fuel wasn't an issue and time was open to any possible direction we would chose. Our driving forces we're weather with seasonal storms and length of permitted stays in various countries before having to check out. At first any breakdown of the equipment was a major stressor but after a couple of years and many fixes the drama was minimized to a little inconvenience. Relationships go through a transition on a boat. You have moments of conflict that has to be delt with as there is nowhere to go to get away, and then there are moments of adorations, extreme closeness and affection in the most spectacular of places and experiences. Boat life is much easier when you both have had the dream to sail a way and might be a little more of a challenge if it's the idea, dream of only one of you. And, you can't just hope or assume the other will come to want and enjoy this adventure as much as you. Good communication skills are a must prior to and especially after your on board. But that should be true even for land lubbers. Big thing is to keep the boat life light and try not to let emotions build beyond discussion. If your not sinking, on fire, headed to the rocks, or dying take a moment, breath and do the do to get er done. Sorry for the long rant. You inspired my reflections of the yatchy life with my wife, best friend and THE ADMIRAL.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Truth! That's awesome Grant. Well said as always.
@glynisbrown5877
5 жыл бұрын
Hi guys from the UK. I want to thank you for a really useful video. We will be making this dramatic lifestyle change in a few years and this has been so helpful. As a couple who has been together ourselves for 30 years, it is so refreshing to hear you give such well informed advice, as you have covered virtually the same time together. I watch a few cruising couples sites and I have to say I really appreciate your very natural, easy going style, you are both a tonic and so very refreshing. All your points are so well observed and I can definitely see them helping me greatly with my husband. In fact, he found this clip of you both and said I should watch it. I am so glad I did. look forward to following you and listening to your podcasts. I hope the storm settled down, it was quite dramatic. Fair winds ⛵️
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
That is really really nice to hear. Thank you so much for the note. Yes, the storm blew through as they always do and we enjoyed the calm a little extra. Hope we see you out there soon!
@dnihilist
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for a very personal, candid and insightful glimpse into a (your) cruising couple lifestyle
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for that. Trying to bring a little reality to this whole sailing channel thing! Appreciate it!
@thechaplain9906
5 жыл бұрын
Definitely Not a Puppy Love. Good for y’all. I lost my beloved bride after thirty years of marriage, she was just 49. We certainly loved our adventures on the water too. Be Blessed 🙏😇✝️
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
My sympathies Matthew. That is terrible. We do our best to be grateful for every day. Best, Nick
@thechaplain9906
5 жыл бұрын
Nick O'Kelly Thank You My Brother...
@fatimasimonbaldwin4676
3 жыл бұрын
That part about expectations applies on the whole life!!! Thanks for sharing your experience ☺️
@Mr12frod
5 жыл бұрын
Again, thank you so much for this topic, have not seen any other vlogs attack this topic like you both did, so honest, my wife and I truly appreciate your lessoned learned. Keep it up please. Love it.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Appreciate your appreciation. If we can help anyone get out here and have a good time, it will have been time well spent. Appreciate the note. Nick
@mmdesmond1
5 жыл бұрын
I love that you are so thoughtful and have perspective on life's challenges. Thanks for sharing.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Appreciate that immensely. Thank you. Nick
@NK-ib1zh
4 жыл бұрын
Very insightful. I think everyone can relate to some of these things whether on-land or off. Thanks for sharing.
@johnb1448
5 жыл бұрын
Awesome video! Brought tears to my eyes I can tell how much truth you both are, nothing fake going on. Surely I can tell how much you both appreciate each other on you ventures you've had. Life is a learning curve nothing is ever scripted like we wish it could be.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Aw thanks John. The toughest thing is to be yourself. So that is a very high compliment. Very much appreciate the note.
@thepiratedoc4247
5 жыл бұрын
Whaddaya know! We're 27 yrs this year as well ... even if we chose D-Day as our day back in '92. Details. Thanks for another great vid.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Congratulations. No small feat! D-Day? LOL. '92 was a good year. Heck all the 90s were pretty rad. Here's to another 27 years!
@wi11y1960
5 жыл бұрын
Communication is key to any relationship. Be honest with how you feel. With out honesty, it just wont last. Grats to your 27 years. Wife and I are onto our 18th anniversary this September.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Well congratulations to you as well! I think you are right. Communication is the key. Not a lot of room for silent partners on a boat! Thanks for the note.
@judyoneal7887
5 жыл бұрын
Very common sense and honest input. This will help sailors and landlubbers alike. 👍
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Judy!
@toddparsons5780
5 жыл бұрын
Hahaha! Dude, when you answered that it was "harder but more rewarding," the gods threw some thunderbolts. Spot on perfect timing. Don't know what it means, but it was divine comedy, that's for sure. Keep on!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Todd. A divine comedy indeed. It's hard to argue most days! Lol.
@patrickcoleman3
5 жыл бұрын
Im keen on watching your upcoming episode on lightning, I remember when i was doing my theory on met when i was doing my PPL,loved it all.
@mantaraymuz8738
5 жыл бұрын
Hi Nick, Hi Megan, this is golden, it really is ! One of my biggest fears is , “ stumbling when it comes to the relationship on board “ not because we have a wobbly relationship, purely because it’ll be new, and not like buy a new house and move in new , there’s just sooooo much more to this lifestyle than that, so it stands to reason I want to be as prepared for it as we can be. So your team effort on these videos is priceless, an insight into what’s real onboard, and what it’s like. The more we watch , the more prepared we will be when we set sail. Thanks so much for having the foresight to make these movies and sharing. Oh and the CGI on this movie is outstanding. The lightning seems so real , it is very well done, couldn’t be more perfectly timed and dramatic. Even the drop of water from the hatch above you at 2:29 was perfectly done. 😂 hehehe
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
CGI!!! Lol. Drop of water from the hatch!?!?!?!?!??!! What? NOooooooooO!!!!!! Can't be. I just went out and sprayed it hard!!!! Lol. You got me!!! Thank you so much for the feedback. I so wish that youtube existed when we were heading out sailing. We had a couple of books and some travelogues from a magazine and that was it. The resources available now are amazing. Yes, there is a lot of adjusting and learning and to be honest it never really ends. I think that's what we really like about this lifestyle. There is so much opportunity to learn and grow as individuals and as a couple. I feel like the overall affect is a broader appreciation for life in general, a broader appreciation for each other, respect, pride, etc. It's all very positive. I hope we see you out here soon - the one inescapable reality I feel is a sense of time going by very quickly and wanting to drink everything in as much as possible. Grateful for every moment. Best, Nick
@mantaraymuz8738
5 жыл бұрын
Haha yeah I had to play just a little prank, keep you on your toes. We hope to see you out there too. Once again great movie. 👍
@mantaraymuz8738
5 жыл бұрын
Is CGI still a thing ? Or am I way way way behind? That was my best tech talk.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Lol. I think so. Or it has gotten so good now that we can't even tell the difference!
@frankbabbage8955
4 жыл бұрын
Excellent vid guys. Just found your channel and love it. This one is extremely important about being on board and basic mental health. Excellent advice. Thank you
@TheOKellys
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Frank.
@maryteresanugent3625
5 жыл бұрын
Real people living a real life, you both totally get it 👌
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Mom was right: just be yourself. Mom is always right. Thanks for the note Mary!
@firemanmfd229
5 жыл бұрын
So happy to hear that sugar is doing well. Keep it up. Your videos are outstanding!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the note Don. She's having good days and tough days, but we are enjoying our time together. Glad you like the videos. We are having fun with this whole thing!
@h.v7461
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your perspective and tips. Congratulations on your lasting marriage which now is or approaching 28 yrs. There’s not too many couples who last that long. It takes a special bond to make it. I can relate as my wife and I celebrated 38 yrs of marriage in March 2020. Be well, Be safe. Cheers 🍻
@TheOKellys
4 жыл бұрын
Congratulations! We are incredibly lucky I think. Best to you.
@manuelstarr3602
5 жыл бұрын
You have given good insight into cruising in general. Looking forward to your Video on Lightning. Congrats on your love weathering the storms.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Yhen. Lightning video is tormenting me. So much confusing data to sort through. I will get it done. May need a couple weeks.
@manuelstarr3602
5 жыл бұрын
@@TheOKellys Yes Nick, it can be a problem if you are unlucky. I have heard of Lightning protectors placed ontop of the mast...as well as small Faraday cages (such as the microwave) for protection of hand held items...anyway goodluck.
@jhcali71
5 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your anniversary! Your honesty is what makes your channel so fantastic. Thank you for sharing your stories and experience!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks. Mom was right: just be yourself!
@24hourtravellers
5 жыл бұрын
Wow how stable is that Cat!!! No rocking at all!! Thank you BOTH for sharing the good & the bad times. I thought your mic was a credit card machine 😂
@dubuandmore7907
2 жыл бұрын
This is a really good and helpful video with lots of personal tips, thank you.
@robertcarroll2290
5 жыл бұрын
You guys are our new fav sailing videos!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Aw thanks Robert! Appreciate it!
@mikephillips9311
5 жыл бұрын
A tip on dishes while hauled out. Insist on being left in the yard within a hose length of a water bib. Hook up to the boats shoreside water connection. Or, you could just use water from the boats tanks too. That solves 1/2 of the problem. Now simply jam a short piece of hose from your fresh water galley discharge thru hull into a 5 gallon bucket. Wa-la, you can now wash dishes on board. Easy peasy. It's always worked well for us in a combination of different yards. Disposal of grey water was never a hassle, certainly not as difficult as packing off all your dirty dishes for washing at a remote location & then having to bring them all back, getting them back onboard, etc. For boats w/o a vessel shoreside water hookup, just run the hose thru a portlight to the sink with a on/off spigot at the business end, very simple. Not sure why more people don't do this. On another point, after 35 years of marriage & having observed & gotten to know scores of cruising couples I can testify that in a nutshell, the cruising lifestyle will make a good marriage better & a "bad" (read, struggling, poor, contentious, argumentative, pick your adjective, lol) marriage worse. Without a marriage grounded in a foundation of love, commitment, faith, forgiveness & true friendship, combined with good planning & communication skills, the cruising lifestyle is almost always doomed. I certainly have seen my share of busted dreams & failed marriages of couples that never planned or considered to account for many of the points you describe as well. Nothing like having to rely on each other for your very survival at times to either create an unbreakable bond or conversely destroy it. When you're riding out a hurricane together, you better have all those little annoying issues worked out in advance, lol. Enjoyed your comments, all very valid points for the uninitiated!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Oh I tried that setup almost immediately. Problem is that the galley sink drains through a thru hull above the waterline with an aft-facing wave-splash cover, so you can't get a good hose up into it without breaking the cover. Then the water in that yard was not potable. It was not a good setup.... Good tips though for anyone without our issues... Thanks Mike!
@ashleywynn4923
3 жыл бұрын
I fish a lot on saltwater and freshwater, stuff breaks and stuff happens. I have learned long ago not to stress about stuff. I have also been in some dangerous situations where I could have died. Its all about staying calm and just making best decisions at the time. Some decisions happen quickly as stuff happens quick. Time spent on the water is experience.
@justfly2525
5 жыл бұрын
I always enjoy you two and your intelligent perspectives.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Trying to keep it real. Best, Nick
@bernardwait6421
4 жыл бұрын
The O'Kelly's 9
@HopeOfJoe
5 жыл бұрын
Great vlog, guys on making it happen ..... together on board !!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Richard. Definitely a team effort!
@debbiehaynes8295
3 жыл бұрын
Love your channel for several key reasons. I really enjoy Nick's focus on the weather and the information he shares about that, and how it really impacts your travels. I also enjoy Megan's chill nature, and how she shares very meaningful information about her life and life on board. I have a question...about Megan's very unique ear rings. Is there a story? I would love to see them up close and hear about them!
@backthebadge4009
5 жыл бұрын
You guys are awesome.....My wife and I loved your video
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Ah thanks. Appreciate that immensely. Best thing about marriage on a boat or anywhere else is the team spirit.
@patrickcoleman3
5 жыл бұрын
You guys have what I think is an amazing ability to maintain your train of thought when your in a conversation, that of course and the ability to be a great listener, sorry i missed you live the other day, Cheers guys. 27 years wow you don't get that long for murder hahaha.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Patrick. Appreciate you saying that. Wish it were always the case, but we try!
@kirk9671
5 жыл бұрын
You do not need to apologize for covering stuff others have covered. You are different and think differently. As a viewer i subscribe to "there is wisdom in many counselors". (a proverb) So I like to hear what you have to say. Great job staying married. It is all too easy to cut and run.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Ah thanks Kirk. Good reminder. Appreciate that my friend.
@SteveDaviesCPT
3 жыл бұрын
Yay for young couple proving that it can lead to the bestest of relationships. Signed Mr met-at-17-married-at-21-still-very-very-happy-at-60.
@TheOKellys
3 жыл бұрын
We are so lucky. Thanks for the note Steve. And happy Valentines!
@out2launch
3 жыл бұрын
Just watched this and realized you were about 6 blocks away from me for 5 weeks. LOL! Sorry to hear you guys were stuck for so long at that boatyard. I jog down that street regularly and have gone in there to look at prospective catamarans. Hope you at least enjoyed St Augustine:-)
@CmdrMic
5 жыл бұрын
Great job, you two. Me and me First Mate, enjoy watching yah. 38 years now for us, met young also. Where are u guys? BTW, a LOT of the stress of cruising can be easily removed by switching to an RV or travel trailer. Still, a lot of the same feelings as cruising, but 85 percent less stress... No more slave to weather, fast transits, no partially submerged objects! Fair winds...
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Boat is in Wilmington. We are on the road. We have had three RV setups. I agree with you most wholeheartedly that RVing is a lot less stress and hassle. However, it is much much harder to do your own thing and get away to the far reaches. Not impossible, but much harder. But the mentality is the same. I am sure we will "retire" to the road one day. Congrats on the 38 years. No small feat!
@CmdrMic
5 жыл бұрын
@@TheOKellys Hi! Thanks for the reply. Don't get me wrong, I still love sailing... and also being part "Crazy-Irish", I seem to suffer from NOD (Nautically Obsessed Disorder). LOL. I still have a small sailboat I can overnight and even multi-day adventure in - it's a Nimble Peep Hen. For fun on the road - that won't break your bank or maybe even cause you to sell off your large aquatic home is - look at Casitas (Spirit Deluxe 17). It's essentially a fiberglass boat with an axle and two wheels - done up "rug boat style" on the inside. Ha Ha. Seriously, it's very comfy and quiet. Perfect for two (who get along) when matched with a roomy and even moderately powerful tow vehicle - you can go for weeks! The small travel trailer with tow vehicle combo is an entirely different experience than the big class A RV. A lot more freedom - and the ability to "sneak in" nearly anywhere without reservations is major. That said, I still find myself strangely drawn to an Island Trader 46 Motorsailor. One more big adventure? Ugh. But, a couple of quick vids from La Vagabonde and or others - highlighting poorly moored boats, dragging down on them in squalls, and other truly tiresome and mentally draining concerns, brings reality back home. (So far, travelling, no other RVs have dragged onto our campsites...) And yet, I DO miss the sunsets afloat and total isolation as only the sea can provide. I am torn - NOD.
@chappyd5109
5 жыл бұрын
Great Video. Informative, interesting and fun..
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Chappy! Appreciate the feedback!
@jodymooney255
5 жыл бұрын
You both are so great! My wife and I will be retiring the end of this year and I will hold on to your lessons, suggestion as we RV across the states. This was so helpful for me to hear and I thank you both!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jody. Congratulations! Have an awesome trip!
@clifflong1203
5 жыл бұрын
Very nicely done! Hope to meet you two one day!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
yeh Cliff. Someplace warm with nice sand...!
@nashvilletljc5904
3 жыл бұрын
Good answer
@Mr12frod
5 жыл бұрын
Just bought your book nick, again thanks for sharing, can't wait to read, let you know how it goes. (GET HER ON BOARD).
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Right on. Thanks Frank! A freshman effort written long ago but I stand firm by those ideas. Wish I'd have read it before we first set out. Let me know what you think! Best, Nick
@rwhunt99
5 жыл бұрын
I think your experience is unique, you were together since age twelve, you know each other inside out, you know how each other handles stress. If you have only been together for a few years and get thrown into life and death situations (potentially), you have to depend on each other to the max, neither one can throw in the towel, not everyone is suited for that lifestyle.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks. We are very lucky to have found each other so young!
@johnperry7534
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks nice video and great perspective for us it’s a nice conversation very insightful good work
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much John. Always hard to know what's good to share. Appreciate the note. Nick
@StewartGartland
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks you two, great content.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Appreciate that Stewart. Thanks
@stevel7465
5 жыл бұрын
Hey guys. Fantastic video as always. Really good insights and suggestions. I've got to get your book Nick. Cheers from Canada
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Steve. Appreciate it. It’s the book I wish I could have read before we took off the first time.
@TraneFrancks
5 жыл бұрын
Good video, as always. Bought the Kindle book and subbed on iTunes, where I consume all my podcasts. The missus has gone from disinterest in becoming a live-aboard to telling me to hurry up and find a way to make it happen. We shall see. ☺️
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Right on. That is awesome to hear. Notes like this make me feel so good! Cheers to Megan for getting the iTunes thing done. I hope we see you out here soon!
@carlstout4546
5 жыл бұрын
thank you !
@briandoolittle1513
5 жыл бұрын
27 congrats !! and safe travels !!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Brian. Went by in the blink of an eye.
@dalecampbell4520
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you guys for sharing this content!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Doing our best to be helpful. Thanks Dale.
@dgeorge852
5 жыл бұрын
Coffee. I'm a dentist and used to grab a HUGE cup of regular coffee from one of those trucks that would pull up to the curb. VERY STRONG COFFEE1 I noticed one day that my tooth preparations were not straight lines like I did when I was in dental school. So I stopped drinking coffee all together for a while. VOILA! My preparations again started being in straight lines again.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
That's interesting. It's a strong drug! I think I need to cut back or take a break. It hardly even effects me anymore!
@nickstratos1490
5 жыл бұрын
congratulations!!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Nick! Best, Nick
@vincentbarkley9121
5 жыл бұрын
Excellent; thank you both.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Appreciate it Vincent
@jackslagle2019
5 жыл бұрын
I just don't understand. How could this have 9 dislikes? You guys rock great advice, You should try commercial fishing with your wife that will keep you on your toes
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Lol...thanks. We are the worst fisherpeople ever it seems. We need help! Better with the spear. 9 dislikes...I honestly have no idea why people take the time to do that...lol...
@adamsmith-bg5wq
5 жыл бұрын
3:02 nice save!
@joahyoga1995
5 жыл бұрын
Good job guys. Congratulations!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you! wow, 27 years...
@joahyoga1995
5 жыл бұрын
@@TheOKellys it is super cool and seems pretty uncommon in this world. It's beautiful. You too should be proud. And I'm proud of you guys for sure.
@glenwickham2557
4 жыл бұрын
After the talk i no what you did lol good times 😁
@Proost1
5 жыл бұрын
Was it me or did I see a bolt of lightning AND a clap of thunder simultaneously at 3:09. Wait, that was here too! ha ha
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
A couple of those strikes were VERY close. There is construction next to the marina and I thought a crane or something got hit!
@Proost1
5 жыл бұрын
@@TheOKellys No doubt. But I was thinking that it had something to do with Megan's loaded question! :)
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Hahahahhahaaaa....she puts me on the SPOT sometimes! Keeps me on my toes.
@rockinpiano1
5 жыл бұрын
Ha, ha.............I had to laugh at the timing of the lightening and thunder in conjunction with your dialog.............................I think God was listening!!!!!(;>) Great that you guys have as many years together as you have but you're going to have to go some to catch my wife and I........................50 years in November!!!!!!!(:>) As you said life has it's good and bad times but the good time far outweigh the bad.......................And, being as you like music, here's a song by a couple of gifted musicians from Europe that I've followed for 6 or 8 years. Thank God for You Tube or we'd never get to see/hear the gifted people on this planet. (Hit "show more" to get the English translation of the song) kzitem.info/news/bejne/s2auv5p4m51napw
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
That's awesome Reg. Congratulations! 50! Wow. I like the track - good lyric. Yeh this youtube thing is pretty darn amazing to me....that we can share things, around the world, instantly...we live in amazing times.
@davidherholdt9579
5 жыл бұрын
Firstly a BIG thank you for the frank conversation on life and love on board. I've been trying to get my wife into the Cruising idea for the past 2 years. She is more afraid of the changing conditions and unknowns than the actual travelling as we travelled all around Europe, UK & America when we were just married. We've done the on land bit, now I want to show her the, across the sea bit..! I have just shown her this video and she now tells me she is afraid of the open ocean, how do I get her to overcome this fear..? PS: been together since 1996...
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Hey David. Bottom line is that the ocean is a scary place if you don't know what you are doing. So she's got to ease into it, and you can't have a cavalier attitude (not that you do, my friend). Her objections may be over a hazy, ill-defined plan. There is a difference between risk aversion and ambiguity aversion.....You really should read my book, Get Her on Board. Written a long time ago but I stand by those ideas. It's the book I wished I'd read before getting into this stuff. People seem to like the book and find it helpful. There is a link in the description, but you can also just get it off Amazon. If you want, contact me through our website and I will email you a pdf copy. That goes for anyone reading this. Patience though---I am quick on here but slow on emails sometimes. I am only about 1200 emails behind. But I will get to it, I promise. Thank you thank you for the kudos on the videos. Hoping to be of some service to this community as we really do hope to see you out there....and soon. BTW, 1996 was a very very good year, wasn't it? Best, Nick
@davidherholdt9579
5 жыл бұрын
@@TheOKellys Yes '96 was... (smiling from ear to ear mate.. 😉😍😘) on a serious note, we've been doing the trip planning as a family and my wife has been involved every step of the way. Even when we were choosing sail or motor yacht and the size requirements for our little family. We still have not made a final decision on which to choose. A 60 m Perini Navi sailing motor yacht or a Codacasa 65 meter. Ps: I downloaded your book, busy reading it... 📖😲
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
I should think she'd feel safe with either of those fine yachts. Our experience has been that the concern over rough conditions is much worse than facing those conditions. Over time we both become more an more confident in ourselves, the boat, and in knowing that even the worst of it doesn't last that long. In choosing between the Perini and the Codacasa, you'll know where I stand: she should have wings! Let me know how it goes. Best, Nick
@deemacvee1
5 жыл бұрын
You might be a good looking Dude, Nick but you have married way above your pay grade. Something we have in common.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
It's true. I am a very lucky guy and I know it. :)
@Frindleeguy
5 жыл бұрын
Hey, off topic I know, buy I just started listening to a book "Earth Unaware", and it is narrated by Stefan Rudnicki - I felt like his voice sounded a lot like yours! Am I crazy? (You can just hear the sample on Audible if you're curious- what do you think?)
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Wow, that guy has quite the voice! What a compliment! Thank you!
@tejjensen9402
5 жыл бұрын
That thunder almost reinforced this talk.
@comesatime123
5 жыл бұрын
Motion sickness... she gets it, I don't.... A great video would be strategies that you have seen folks take to prevent motion sickness...
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
That's a tough one. Neither of us are prone. Will see if I can come up with anything...but it would be anecdotal....hmmmmm
@kf1645
5 жыл бұрын
Anything on board is better than being in traffic behind somebody that is driving the speed limit.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
lol. That would be me after some time at sea.
@imbillyp
5 жыл бұрын
Nick do you still trade? Will check out your book. Anyway my wife and I retired 5 years ago We’ve been married 46 years. Neither of us work or do much of anything alone. It’s 24/7 for us. But we enjoy it. We dance,travel, play cards with friends , occasionally help with grandkids, and exercise.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Sometimes, when things are set up right, yes. Not as active as I should be though. Last stretch, the market has pretty much taken care of itself! 46 Years!!!! Wow. I admire that a lot. 24/7 and livin the life! That's awesome. Thanks William! Nick
@austinhughes6852
4 жыл бұрын
So when you visit other countries.Do you need to have your passport?
@TheOKellys
4 жыл бұрын
Yes
@dgeorge852
5 жыл бұрын
Every person eventually needs to go to a private corner just to get away. Where is your go to place when that happens?
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
This boat has four corners, so we have a choice. Thankfully we don't need that very often.
@bophoto
5 жыл бұрын
GREAT stuff NICK - color management.. that green camera already? Pull up the scopes in the editor and get the walls to match closely - skin tones will follow..
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thank Bo
@gray7863
5 жыл бұрын
Have you guys ever been in a situation with pirates or people that just wanted to steal some of your stuff or even the entire boat ? Also as a dog lover, I would like to know about how your dog does on the boat, the ins and outs of sailing with mans best friend.......
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Hey there! There's a couple vids on the channel about cruising with Sugar. Check'em out. No, no piracy issues. If we were ever threatened, we'd just give them whatever they wanted and keep cool. A scratch on my pinky finger isn't worth any of this stuff or even the boat. If they need it bad enough that they would risk their life to take it, then they can have it. I'm insured.
@gray7863
5 жыл бұрын
@@TheOKellys Thanks for the quick reply, I saw the Sugar videos right after I left my comment, and they answered some of my burning questions. Glad you guys have not ran into any of Blackbeards relatives in your travels. Nick you have great story telling skills, especially the first time you were up to your elbows in alligators out of SF. I was always thinking that someday I would sail something bigger than a Hobie Cat and a Hobie 33, but I think that train has left the station. P.S.You two are terrific parents.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Awww, thanks for saying that. And I say, it's never too late or too early!
@Hotzenplotz1
3 жыл бұрын
Would you say, that Covid has made your relationship more complicated when cruising? I mean, the decisions are harder and they might create more stress as you can't get so easily of the boat.
@TheOKellys
3 жыл бұрын
Nahhhh.
@jcl1201
5 жыл бұрын
Have you ever thought about doing the great loop” ALGCA” ?
@jcl1201
5 жыл бұрын
And glad sugar is doing well 👍
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Yeh I want to someday. I have a friend doing it now. Looks really cool. I even have the boat picked out. Shhhhhh.....it doesn't have a mast.... :) Maybe in a few years.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks. She's snoring at my feet. Belly full, relaxed and peaceful.
@jcl1201
5 жыл бұрын
👍
@chriscarreno4930
5 жыл бұрын
Amen Nick and Megan!!! Very pondering. Congratulations on your marriage!!! The Bible says, Proverbs 5:18-19 KJVS Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. [19] Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Chris. The time is certainly flying, but we still feel like kids on the inside - the most important thing I think.
@dgeorge852
5 жыл бұрын
Hunger. Look what the sailors ate 300 years ago. Lots of dried beans and rice, flavored with fish.
@TorturedPeace
5 жыл бұрын
Is life easier or harder? Answer faster, answer faster! 😮
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Lol
@MrZachalewel
5 жыл бұрын
Your relationship is my age lol
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
we are old. I don't know how it happened.... lol. All I know is that on the inside, I am stuck at about 24 years old. Fine by me
@phillipstuart3318
5 жыл бұрын
What would be great is to have a girls boat and a guys boat Sail together and just have date nights
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
Sounds like a movie!
@jakesmith9987
5 жыл бұрын
When it comes to a relationship, it sounds exhausting being around someone who needs the Imago Dialogue process. I can't imagine saying something like...I imagine that me wanting to give you some of the details to repairing the engine might make you feel tired, bored or frustrated (the empathy statement). Is that what it takes? Have you heard of Paul Bloom (Yale Professor of Psychology)? His Psychology course at Yale can be listened to on iTunes University. He is a very interesting guy and his class (Introduction to Psychology) is so worth the time (free to download). I think it is even on KZitem now. Paul Bloom recently wrote the book Against Empathy. He has many KZitem videos like one with Sam Harris (Making Sense with Sam Harris podcast) discussing empathy with regards to the show Westworld. It's a good one (on KZitem too). His ability to explain psychology is above and beyond. His book, Just Babies, The Origins of Good and Evil was really amazing (moral behavior). Long story short, I am not a big fan of empathy because it is constantly abused when put in practice. OKAY...I really enjoyed your podcast about Imago all the same. Paul Bloom joke...Have you heard of the Buddhist vacuum cleaner? It comes with no attachments. Oh, I think that in a good relationship, the most important thing is to generously give your partner the benefit of the doubt (a concession that a person or statement must be regarded as correct or justified, if the contrary has not been proven.) Once you decide not to give the other person the benefit of the doubt, communication will fall apart quickly and the fights will start. It is not always easy to give the other person the benefit of the doubt but it is KEY!
@TheOKellys
5 жыл бұрын
That’s funny! Truth be told I am not a student of many of these teachers or practices, but I do know that you gotta be really tuned in when you’re in a small space with challenges best faced as a team. I don’t know if it empathy, but understanding that counts most. Thanks for the note and feedback. I’ll google these guys! Best, Nick
@jakesmith9987
5 жыл бұрын
27 Years...hmmm...that's 999...an upside-down 666...The meaning of number 999 is completion. The number 9 is the last single digit, so when you see this number everywhere you go, something in your life is ending or will be completed soon. This can be good news or bad news when it comes to love. ... The angel number 999 represents your angels working for your benefit.
@dal8963
5 жыл бұрын
Anyone else wanting to see her hair with more blonde highlights to match her Ken doll lol. A bit superficial I know, I just keep thinking they would like barbie and ken if we talked her into adding some blonde.
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