Thank you all for your support and checking out this episode! Be sure to check out our previous episodes via any podcast streaming services, soundcloud.com/theroommatespodcast.
@Kristina_lyric16
5 жыл бұрын
The Roommates Podcast Just watched this. Hafeez you really expounded well about self-love and self-reflection. Very well versed. Mary Jo was so honest and informative! Thanks! This recreational sex topic was soooo necessary! This type of sexual activity is causing mental illness in people. They will need to purge from these activities. Sex needs to be more sacred. 🙏🏽💯💯🙏🏽🙏🏽
@jookbj
5 жыл бұрын
Why don't you guys contact Dante Nero Beige Phillip. I think his views are the most accurate on romance.
@jookbj
5 жыл бұрын
Contact email Dante Nero: beigephillip@gmail.com KZitem channel: ManSchool 202 I'll tell him to contact you guys.
@kungfujoe2136
5 жыл бұрын
god damn she's stupid get an introdction to evolutionary psychology pls
@ShalaynaLynise777
4 жыл бұрын
This was deep💯 Thank you
@apope06
5 жыл бұрын
Instead of dealing with conflict or compromise...the next person is just one swipe away. Then you become 39 and single.
@momofwolfpack2561
5 жыл бұрын
Wow! Are you in my head?! We definitely lost the arc of actually dating!
@sethzweig2550
4 жыл бұрын
Last night I went to a party where I met quite a few awesome girls. It was a great experience. I got two of their numbers and im so excited to see what's to come.
@sidlove5798
4 жыл бұрын
Amen
@frostedflakes2069
4 жыл бұрын
Quan MGTOW ong
@frostedflakes2069
4 жыл бұрын
High Frequency I gotta give it to you man you really got me good there, Holy cow!!
@berzerkfury1459
4 жыл бұрын
Casual sex and social media will feed your depression untill you have no self esteem left.
@EmpireRamzes
4 жыл бұрын
lol facts
@ovodavi
4 жыл бұрын
only if, your not getting any pussy, then yes
@sage_comics
4 жыл бұрын
Fr, its more messed up cus you know the people that promote it are mostly in same shoes, they just doing it for ego sake or as a way to heal, but go about it the wrong way.
@noeaeon
4 жыл бұрын
Unless you have zero problem getting casual sex even if you don't have a job and your guy has to pay all the bills, and your social media does nothing but feed and coddle your ego with relentless support for your toxic world views. Which actually makes succeeding in things like college a lot easier, because again, everyone coddles you. So then you still get the perks and privileges that come with that as you get older.
@EmpireRamzes
4 жыл бұрын
@@noeaeon well put
@veemon9280
5 жыл бұрын
I'm glad a woman is saying that "how you dress" is important !!!! It's not an idealistic world
@sethzweig2550
4 жыл бұрын
100% agree. Men get shit for how they dress too. It matters how you dress regardless of sex.
@hv3115
4 жыл бұрын
Feminists in Toronto got outraged and started the whole 'Slut Walk' nonsense when a cop had the temerity to suggest to women that for the sake of safety it would be advisable to not dress like a slut.
@nepps6766
4 жыл бұрын
Facts!
@bellad.1274
4 жыл бұрын
@@hv3115 yes & spanx if great safety gear! 🙂 I am especially disgusted by women wearing thongs in front of children! Indecent!!
@9xixix9
4 жыл бұрын
Agreed. And sorry to say this but I find it really annoying how the host keeps saying over and over again “we’re NOT saying it’s right to rape someone based on how they dress, we’re NOT SAYING THAT.” Sure, it’s important to mention that, but he literally repeated it 4-5 times as if he’s scared someone will sue him. Rape is criminal. We know that! And anyone accusing the woman for dressing a certain way is a coward and scum bag. We also know that! But the issue we’re discussing isn’t rape, it’s how when women dress a certain way, it has a certain affect on the opposite sex whether they admit it or not. And I think that’s really important to discuss in this world of political correctness.
@Elcapitaan5
4 жыл бұрын
I see many girls on social media saying they don't want to "catch feelings". Some are over 30.
@QuidamByMoonlight
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah, wow. That’s so messed up. Even in some relatively conservative circles, I’ve heard women in their 20’s say they don’t even want to *think* about having kids until they’re 30. It’s like-I’m not sure you know what you’re saying...
@Mmoselle1983
4 жыл бұрын
I agree. Lots of oversimplification and puss boys. Dude in the video is somewhat of a beta simp and he’s underplaying a lot of shit that women do. Definitely blue pilled
@sscott504
5 жыл бұрын
"Good sex is emotional"...so true
@Ferien7
5 жыл бұрын
Aki Scott for women
@chuck1052
5 жыл бұрын
Only when it's a guy that is above her sexual market value.
@Yay-hovah
5 жыл бұрын
Especially for women
@makegainz4218
5 жыл бұрын
@@chuck1052 So true.
@itskena
4 жыл бұрын
Im 2 min and reading comments while I listen. May I ask you men, what makes sex good for you?
@Shashankmk
4 жыл бұрын
Guys, nowadays having an old thinking woman or a loyal woman is a luxury. One who has such a woman is richer than the richest, please do not lose her.
@uncledrew7633
4 жыл бұрын
I love this man. As a 20 yr old young man it's really hard out to be yourself when you're brought up with a traditional mindset. I cant tell you how many times I hated myself because of the bullying and pressure I received from guys and girls on sex. You kind of feel hopeless. And I think that's a reason you have good guys who just give up and just sleep around with a lot of females because they dont know a solution. They dont want to wait until they're 30 or 40yrs old. But everybody is getting ran through now so you feel a pressure to being active in the sex market.
@thegenzcompass2526
4 жыл бұрын
I'm a 22 y/o female, so I think its a bit easier for me because I dont have as much testosterone. But I'm a virgin. I do have times when I slip into lustful thoughts , but I just have tried to limit myself to people that share the same values as myself, that way I do not feel that pressure. And exercise, geez exercise keeps me distracted. Also prayer, prayer us key. It's a cross I have to carry as a Christian.
@TheCinderellaPrincess
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I feel the same. I grew up with the mindset of waiting till marriage, and my goal solidified through high school when I saw people use sex and relationships as a meter for their own self worth. Now I'm 19 and in college. I've heard guys stay away from virgins and that kinda scares me. Is it that we don't have more experience or they don't want to bear the "burden"? Either way I've realized that whomever God has for me, he'll be willing to accept my standards that I've set for myself.
@TheGamingg33k
4 жыл бұрын
I had sex for the first time at 22. I shut off everyone who was peer pressuring me to have sex. Mind you, I had several girlfriends before 22. I decided to have sex specifically with one girl cause I truly cared about her. I had many many opportunities to have sex with hot girls, some of them literally would message me saying "I want to take your virginity"". I am a handsome man and I get tons of attention from both sexes. So they were shocked to hear that I was a virgin at 22. Dont worry about it honestly. Take your time, have sex when you want with whoever you want. Theres a huge difference between having sex with a girl you love and a girl you hooking up with.
@EireneAl
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheCinderellaPrincess That's true. As a 23 year old I can say sex is scared, spiritual and emotional connection. Sex can create soul ties unhealthy ones outside marriage and open yourself to another whole of mess with demons. Sex in ancient times was literally marriage. Now it's a causal thing. I think traditional view is the healthy one and it's for a reason. But media and culture doesn't necessarily have the best interest of us they just want to push narrative.
@redpilllense7125
5 жыл бұрын
My now ex-wife of 15 years cheated and proceeded to destroy our family. She never gave me a chance to try fix whatever she was unhappy with. Just woke up one morning and said she didn't love me anymore. I was devastated. She didn't want to talk about it, just wanted out. She destroyed everything in her path. Seeing my children suffer because of this was the worse. And you're right, women do have more to lose. It's now been four years and we're officially divorced. I blame social media and her lack of maturity in understanding and appreciating what we built together, instead of falling for what she saw on social media. The pain has subsided and I'm in a better place. I wouldn't take her back, even if you pulled a gun on me.
@grit7733
5 жыл бұрын
I could see my father writing this comment. I was present to watch my parents' marriage implode. A few years after the divorce I was having a conversation with him, and he made a comment like yours. I told him that I knew he was going to get divorced 6 years before it happened (I was 15 when I figured this out). His response: "Really?! How did you know?". It was like good grief dude, your 15 year old, borderline autistic son could figure it out, yet you couldn't? You couldn't see the signs that your wife was shutting down and pulling away, and you said and did things to make it worse? He also would make dramatic, violent, but ultimately nonsensical comments like your last sentence. He also wouldn't take accountability for his role in the divorce, and attributed the divorce to other factors, much like you're doing here. He has Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
@jefferyboat7428
5 жыл бұрын
Red Pill Rage Dude it’s not your job to fix a woman’s problem you seem insecure and should be a lot stronger then that because you can be. Everyone makes their own choice, every adult is responsible for themselves at the end of the day regardless of how you feel towards them this is life. God gave everyone the power and freedom of choice, she just didn’t choose you.
@alexg2k2
4 жыл бұрын
@@grit7733 You were brainwashed well by your single mother.
@Jo-jackson
4 жыл бұрын
You were a beta male provider that's all..dont be butthurt..get on your purpose and you'll find someone 10x way better.. Dont be so simpish next time
@JT-km6th
4 жыл бұрын
@@grit7733 looool so the guy who got cheated on is like a guy with narcissistic personality disorder? I think you don't understand your dad enough to draw any comparisons.
@soystef
5 жыл бұрын
Glad I''m not the only antiquated romantic here. Keep up these conversations. Bless
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
You are not alone.
@WISHBONEL7
4 жыл бұрын
Plus , child support and STD'S are no joke .
@17yogabbagabba
5 жыл бұрын
See I'm glad I watched this. I'm a 25 yr old virgin (woman) and this discussion made me question how much sexual experience I want my future husband to have. I don't have a preference of whether he's a virgin or not. However, you all brought up the fact that many people who have recreational sex have an emotional disconnect to how they view sex. They have casual sex with people, trying not to catch feelings and/or just for an ego boost or using each other as just sex objects (without human connection). I don't want to marry that type of person because I would like to have emotionally filling sex, with a deep spiritual/emotional connection. I view it as a way to physically express our love and emotions for each other. If they're not able to connect like that or even interested, then that's selling myself short to lock myself in with someone like that.
@Who_can_save_you_from_hell
4 жыл бұрын
Hook-Ups/fornication messing pair bonding ability for women even more than men. Good, that you keep yourself virgin.
@thrilla72
4 жыл бұрын
With men, when we fall in love it is serious and deep.
@rob2258
4 жыл бұрын
Men and women are different. The more sexual partners women have the more likely they wont be able to pair bond as well. Stats show this. Men however can distance themselves from sex.
@tshaolin971
4 жыл бұрын
Your consciousness is high 👏
@windward2818
4 жыл бұрын
Disclosure I am a man. Even if you find partners that are loving and you have an emotional connection with it takes time to be comfortable with yourself in intimate relationships. You will find no matter at what age you explore your needs most of the initial encounters are painful because it is new to you. Everyone goes through this process. If you get married before you find yourself sexually, it won't last. Obviously, this is my opinion. But comes from experience. In a marriage the best way for a man to give you sexual pleasure is that you verbally communicate your needs to him. You tell him how to touch you, what to do and at what pace and in what manner. It is about giving each other pleasure which are physical acts. The emotional connection is what I would describe as feelings of love. There is also a sense of closeness and trust, that no matter what happens the both of you will be comfortable with each other. Both partners have to be emotionally mature and know how to communicate to put their partner at ease and have a sense of patience and warmth. Have you ever had an emotional connection with a man during a conversation? Being a self-aware male I can describe what it is like from my standpoint. Both man and woman have to be emotionally mature (Recognition of Self, Recognition of Others(empathy)) in order to understand their personal feelings and the feelings of their partner. Emotional connection is unspoken, it is a mutual feeling of attraction between man and woman that they understand is within themselves and their partner. It is like each is projecting their wants and desires on the other, and both understand and reciprocate the feeling. One example would be if you look deeply into your partner's eyes and you can feel their attraction, and say to yourself about them, I like you, I need you, I want to be with you, and they receive and understand your message without words. This is an emotional connection. Some describe it as having "chemistry" but I think the word falls way short of what is really happening. I would like to conclude with something that many people will not tell you because they simply do not have experience with relationships or are choosing the wrong partners. The process that leads to sex, has distinct phases. The first is initial mutual attraction between man and woman. Next is forming an emotional connection. Then comes trust and a feelings of desire. Then sex. I have never had sex without an emotional connection with a woman. Sex without a feeling of closeness and trust is so superficial that I don't even consider it.
@tr2713
4 жыл бұрын
I’ve been abstinent almost 2 years and this basically reaffirms all the things I felt when I decided to make that decision
@khy5387
3 жыл бұрын
Looooooool
@angelicaduarte2599
3 жыл бұрын
wow, thats great!
@ScaryToRemarry
5 жыл бұрын
When SOME people look at sex as an isolated act, they are usually coming from a hurt place. Sex is deeper than we think and takes a toll on us mentally and spiritually. Soul ties are REAL
@ScaryToRemarry
4 жыл бұрын
MALA2243 thank you sir
@angienichols1248
4 жыл бұрын
So true..
@juliannesharpe3066
4 жыл бұрын
It's Scary To Remarry I am Glad to hear a man say that!
@malekkushimuzik3580
3 жыл бұрын
Take the ego out and it will be just another vagina.
@wrealmusic
5 жыл бұрын
Sex is better with emotion
@asianicolexo
6 жыл бұрын
I love your channel. Don’t think we’re not watching! Keep up the great videos!!
@wshelby83
6 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with you!!
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Appreciate you a ton!
@ScaryToRemarry
5 жыл бұрын
asianicolexo one of my favorite KZitem channels
@ranbirrandhawa9736
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheRoommatesPodcast I just came across your channel I love it even as a gay man!
@christineawuor1835
6 жыл бұрын
You guys have a great show. Trying to bring the meaning out of life
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Christine!
@jakhyiajohnson7812
5 жыл бұрын
I’ve been celibate for almost an year but I’ve been battling w/ lustful thoughts lately. This discussion just reassured my waiting till marriage is the BEST decision I could’ve ever made! So grateful for this podcast💙
@soystef
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your comment- it's inspiring and motivating me. I, too, have decided to be celibate until I meet "the one". Not easy, but it'll be worth it. Bless :)
@na_ansah9373
5 жыл бұрын
SoMoS how do you meet the one?? You go on multiple dates to see who you connect with or??
@soystef
5 жыл бұрын
@@na_ansah9373 Hey- haven't met him yet, he's on the way (somewhere, somehow). But in the meantime, I am working on myself and focusing on my calling (whatever my intuition or voice of God desires), healing past hurts and wounds, and bettering myself as I wait for him. I have consciously chosen to not date after my last break-up, which was a few months ago, but I am open to it once I feel that the guy is worth the wait (as they say, know your worth so that the man knows which price he must pay). No longer do I waste my time on men I don't feel are right or fit for the job, so that philosophy automatically eliminates many candidates. I used to "serial date", but found it uncomfortable to constantly break-up or have to cut things off when I could have avoided the whole situation from the beginning. Intuitively I'll know when the right one has arrived. As I wait, I just pray for strength to keep me on the right path and keep me celibate. For me, creating more soul ties is not a viable option in my healing process, so I am going through a season of soul detox. This is just my journey, I encourage you to do what feels intuitively right for you. If casual dating is your thing, that's cool. I did that, too. I would say, however, if you do casually date, make sure the candidates are willing to pay the price of your worth. Don't settle and/or devalue yourself. It causes too much hurt and pain for both parties in the long run (learned from my experiences). Wishing the best for you on your journey. Blessings
@JASHTONR
5 жыл бұрын
Holla' at me when this phase passes. Because it will.
@chuck1052
5 жыл бұрын
So you gave it up for the bad boys, but you won't have sex with the guy you're going to marry. That makes no sense.
@Wellspring.speaking
5 жыл бұрын
Never put your safety in someone else's hands. Situational awareness is key to keeping yourself safe. No one is "guilty" if someone hurts them but we all have the personal responsibility to understand the risks that exist in the world. "Prepare the child for the road because you cannot prepare the road for the child"
@nicoleschwabenbauer6062
6 жыл бұрын
Such an amazing podcast and I wish more people in their 20’s went out of their way to research about this especially on the recreation sex, trying to explain it too some people they just cannot seem to grasp it, or think you’re on some woo woo topic. On another note though Hafeez skin is glowinnggggg 😂
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Hahah thanks so much for all the kind words. Gotta work on that skin care.
@toomuchinformation
5 жыл бұрын
@@TheRoommatesPodcast Yep. The melanin is popping!
@StevenSanchez_95
4 жыл бұрын
Yash Yadav 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@brain0nfire
4 жыл бұрын
Studies suggest these new generations are abstaining more and more from sex and relationships, so there is that.
@brain0nfire
4 жыл бұрын
@Yash Yadav look the world is too big to generalize but I am correct in saying that new generations have less sex. Japan is the most obvious, but it is a phenomenon all over the western world at least. Those STDs numbers seem convoluted and perhaps circumscribed to the US, but it says more about lack of use condoms and serial sex addicts that are causing most off the mess.
@Lawrence_Femi_Ikenna_Odedina
4 жыл бұрын
I'm not even in a relationship, but this is interesting af lol
@Flamemog
3 жыл бұрын
I’m a married woman and your videos have really helped me understand and get along better with my husband. Thank you for your videos!
@kennethgrover8524
3 жыл бұрын
Glad that some weman are waking up
@tee415y510
3 жыл бұрын
Good for you, Emily. I'm glad for you and your husband 😊
@YouNoob573
Жыл бұрын
who's the lucky guy
@chriss729
5 жыл бұрын
If you choose to walk through the hood decked out in jewelry, and you get mugged, it's not your fault? Technically not, but it makes you an idiot.
@mrpj1390
4 жыл бұрын
A-M-E-N!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't do stupid stuff to invite a problem or place yourself in a situation where the chances of a problem happening are tremendously increased.
@jordanrichards2432
4 жыл бұрын
C. I
@redbrown7355
4 жыл бұрын
@Chris S That's one of the most real analogies I've heard on this subject. Bravo Chris S.!! I will incorporate this into my analogies when dealing with this topic going forward.
@Macheako
4 жыл бұрын
correction. The first time it ain't your fault...... the FIRST TIME ONLY THO 🤣
@A2Zondeck
3 жыл бұрын
This comment assumes that most rape occurs when women dress promiscuously. That's actually untrue.
@bimgottalent
5 жыл бұрын
Very underrated podcast. Glad I'm here before it blows up.
@DaughterofEve87
4 жыл бұрын
we were here when it was cool before it was cool 😎
@keenastonewilliams7673
4 жыл бұрын
This podcast was Awesome, I have 14 year old son and I really loved the idea of asking her if you can hold her hand or not
@Jason_wears_stuff
5 жыл бұрын
Man, I'm hooked on your channel gents, something I've come to realize as of late is the best sex is def with someone you have an emotional connection with, and women equating having a lot of sexual partners with equality with men, is def something that needs to be talked about , been saying that for the past couple of years now. also thank you for asking her about hypergamy!!
@tiffanyselah5844
4 жыл бұрын
Well I've been raped once and almost raped several times. When I deal with men I tell them upfront my sexual expectations. It can cause arguements but usually I can avoid problems. However when i was actually raped it was by my x husband in a non sexual situation. So I know women get snatched up but from my perspective having been on both sides if I am up front, regardless of what I'm wearing I can avoid sexual situations if I'm up front in the beginning. But sometimes it's the men u trust and let inside ur circle are the ones u have to be more careful with.
@sexyblackcharlery
4 жыл бұрын
God bless u and I hope u heal.thanks for sharing xxxxxx
@MrR40388
4 жыл бұрын
Over 95% of the time its someone a woman knows who attacks her,
@Aesir262
3 жыл бұрын
Now let me tell you something ain't man close to you that just wants to be friends. The thing is you probably already know this.
@paulelago9453
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry that happened to you 😔
@trendafile6356
5 жыл бұрын
I made the choice to wait. But still the pressure is so high. I remember turning 21 then every year after that=thinking I'm not like these other people n thinking how could they have so many partners! Do I have 2 high standards maybe I should just get rid of it? The world is really shaming people 4 waiting for the right time or abstaining
@AJ-ox8xy
5 жыл бұрын
Don't give up it will be worth it. I am 22 and have been saving myself. Honestly think it is one reason I can reliably say I find the vast majority of woman attractive and happy to date woman as I am able to more easily focus on the person over just the body.
@trendafile6356
5 жыл бұрын
Thnx 4 answering. I'm a woman by the way
@AJ-ox8xy
5 жыл бұрын
@@trendafile6356 hahaha well I think the overall message can still apply to woman. Just be happy and content you are chaste. Embrace it as a symbol of concurring you appetites or maybe an act of love for yourself or future spouse. IDK how woman think about chastity so this is coming from a very male perspective haha.
@thegenzcompass2526
4 жыл бұрын
I'm a 22 y/o female, so I think its a bit easier for women in general because we dont have as much testosterone. But I'm a virgin. I do have times when I slip into lustful thoughts , but I just have tried to limit myself to people that share the same values as myself, that way I do not feel that pressure. And exercise, geez exercise keeps me distracted. And prayer, deep prayer as well. Its a cross I have to carry as a Christian. I wish there was an organisation for vrigins and celibates. I bet you there are way more than people let on or the fake media portrays
@sage_comics
4 жыл бұрын
@@thegenzcompass2526 Yh its quite hard for we mandem, im 22 as well buh over time and experience i realised, that emotional sex is on a different level so i kept it dah way before i turned 22. So even if i can get as much i dont, because the emotional connection aint there, so you just turn away and do some other thing like buy a tracksuit 😂😂
@roolyfe
4 жыл бұрын
I am 41 single, never been married, no kids this was very helpful in getting healing.
@Lile4l
6 жыл бұрын
This talk with Mary Jo Rapini is powerful. Going in debt on the many unspoken truths about sex, parenting, cheating, pornography, etc is really a true testament to how much change and awareness your podcast is trying to bring to this generation and generations to come. The thing that mostly resonated with me is that when it comes to sex it's a lot more emotional then people look at it. The bible says that when you have sex with someone you become emotionally attached to that person because you're giving away your soul to someone you weren't mean't to be with. Main take away, be careful with the choices you make in this world because when you lean on your own understanding and not look at the big picture threw gods eyes you end up going down a path in life you'll never be able to take back.
@masterofdisaster492
5 жыл бұрын
A guy can either love women OR understand them
@halljaso
5 жыл бұрын
Hey roommates. Please listen to Tim Golden’s Tedtalks on the emotional abuse of males. Maybe you can interview him on your podcast. Hopefully!!
@kimberlyjane8786
5 жыл бұрын
This is soooooo good! one of the most insightful and honest talks on sex and the different experiences of sex from each gender!
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you :)
@chuck1052
5 жыл бұрын
Hypergamy is real. Women always trade up.
@NyakzOTSD
5 жыл бұрын
Facts
@NYCBJP
5 жыл бұрын
Men do it too except with looks. They trade the fat ugly woman for the pretty slim woman 🤷🏽♀️
@chuck1052
5 жыл бұрын
@@NYCBJP Why would a man want to be with a fat ugly woman.....
@dogsandyoga1743
5 жыл бұрын
@@chuck1052 I need something to hold on to 😂 Skinny Minnie doesn't do it for me...
@realestaterelief
5 жыл бұрын
Chuck people pursue land whales for lack of money or interest in high maintenance high value gorgeous right sized women
@gingersaremad
3 жыл бұрын
Myself and my frat brother roommate got raped on the same night by two girls. We both had passed out in our beds drunk alone and I woke up foggy and saw my brother still passed out with girls riding both of us. I was so blacked out drunk that I couldn't even lift my arms. So If we define rape the same as women do I think maybe she'd realize men get raped by women more often than she thinks. If it's so "rare" I don't think it would've happened twice in the same room on the same night. Ever since then never gotten that drunk again and always locked my door but I can't believe that doesn't happen more to others.
@uanip1341
5 жыл бұрын
This was such an amazing podcast. I'm just glad that someone acknowledges the culture of recreational sex and see that it can be destructive to our community.
@rexwooddell3725
3 жыл бұрын
Women, wives especially, abuse their husbands emotionally by withholding sex from their husbands. I hate what feminism has come to stand for today, women say they want equality, but what they really want is freedom of choice, and the choices many women make and say to a man is.... "I'm free to choose however I want, and I don't need you!" Men in my opinion do not say or chose to say I don't need you to their women.. Men are always labelled in a negative light, they're always too needy or too clingy or too distant and uncaring, why can't a man get the credit he deserves that what he really wants is to be connected and make love to that one woman who matters to him ONLY?!
@TomikaKelly
Жыл бұрын
Not having sex with you isn't abuse. No one is required to have sex with you.
@TheCinderellaPrincess
4 жыл бұрын
After hearing Ciara's and Megan Good's experiences, I've become even more convinced waiting is the best choice. Additionally, with sex I put myself at risk for STI's and pregnancy. I want to build a relationship and be sure I trust the person before I share myself with them. Overtime, I heard stories of people who used sex as a vehicle to keep a relationship, and feel hopeless or lose self esteem when it doesn't work. Also, when women have sex there's a bonding chemical (the same she has with child) that is released. Therefore I see sex as a spiritual connection, and a process of honor for myself, my husband God.
@farhiyaa4880
5 жыл бұрын
People need to date with purpose of marriage in mind. Ask alot of questions, observe friends and family and make clear there is no sex until marriage. Sex needs to be with marriage because children will comes with it. Dont live with a man your not married too. Women get attached after sex, its messing with decision making ability. Women dress conservatively, avoid unsafe environments, never be alone with a man (not family/husband). No invite to home unless your introduce to your family (father, mother, relatives) for marriage. Let family interview the man early in the relationship. Your father/uncle/brother can tell if the man is quality husband or trash. Your mother/sister/aunt can tell if the female is wife material.
@silentlamont
4 жыл бұрын
That will not work because women today want to have sex in they want to have variety.
@juliannesharpe3066
4 жыл бұрын
@Farhiya A I love your argument - I am all for that. It is just too Sad that some of our fathers, brothers, cousins etc. are Not up to the task. Some are irresponsible, indisciplined and lacking in many ways so they too Need help to be who God created them to be.
@ElGallo978
4 жыл бұрын
We are no longer in the 50s
@silentlamont
4 жыл бұрын
@@juliannesharpe3066 Do not put this on men. It is women who are not committed it is women who end the mass majority of relationships. It's women who in divorce and over 80% of the case so don't put this on men it's women who don't want commitment
@darksavior1187
5 жыл бұрын
The reason I think recreational sex is becoming prevalent, is because relationships are becoming more difficult. Sex is a biological need, relationships are a social arrangement. So people need sex, but relationships have become unappealing. Marriage failure rates, and the penalties associated with that contract, have it on a decline. So people have arrived at only getting their need met, and then fleeing from the problematic relationships. The problem is with relationships and how men and women relate to one another. Sex will happen, its a drive, but relationships have become too unappealing and unfulfilling. So I think you are looking at the problem on the wrong end, sex still works, but relationships don't.
@tomemery7890
4 жыл бұрын
You're conflating need with urges, and part of both a happy individual life and a stable society involves regulating urges. Regarding promiscuity, studies suggest that the more sex partners a person has, the less likely they are to be happy, to have long-lasting relationships, to have happy marriages, to not be unfaithful etc. In the area of philosophy and religion, which, putting the supernatural claims aside, combines the wisdom of thousands of life observations over millenia, we can see that almost none recommend promiscuity and the overwhelming majority see it as a negative practice.
@brain0nfire
4 жыл бұрын
@@tomemery7890 He doesn't seem to be prescribing it, he is just justifying why it's prevalent. And I think you underestimate urges. You can't regulate urges. Ultimately you have to attend to them one way or another because your tension will build up invevitably and your thoughts will orient towards sex uncontrollably. Only absense of hormones can make you less susceptible to be pulled by that influence. Humans are obsessed with sex, everything we do is to guarantee with have food so we can have sex. Everything else is noise compared to that background basis that's setting up your way of life.
@tomemery7890
4 жыл бұрын
@@brain0nfire I think he is prescribing it because he says 'sex still works, but relationships don't'. Mary's point is that recreational sex doesn't work. Regarding urges, you can most definitely regulate your response to them. For example, this is a normal part of growing up. Children learn not to hit, not to say whatever comes into their head, not to steal what they want. Also, therapy has been shown to successfully help people control their responses to urges. And you can not only control your responses to urges but actually reduce their intensity by adopting certain mindsets or lifestyle habits. For example, if someone masturbates and watches porn everyday their mind will get used to it and the person will feel horny regularly, whereas if they reduce their masturbation and porn viewing significantly or cut it out altogether they will find their horniness reducing over time. The book 'Willpower' by Baumeister and Tierney presents a great deal of evidence that shows that not only is it possible to control our responses to urges, but that this ability is possibly the most significant determiner of a person's health, wealth and happiness.
@xDDufiosy
4 жыл бұрын
Sem Nome the arguement is the same as being over weight. You can argue that eatting is a necessary action, but the level of moderation is simply defined by ones own control of the impulse. For some, it just doesn’t exist so you start to see the rampant onslaught of casual sex, just like casual snacking. Sex, like eating, historically was a burden to obtain but now has become convenient and streamlined for some and for those with regular access, ruin themselves on it.
@haleykubala5578
4 жыл бұрын
Relationships are a human need too not just a social thing. Children who don’t have connection with their mothers suffer immense emotional and mental consequences. In order to be a happy complete person you have good healthy relationships with family friends and your partner.
@lelamaciolek1166
3 жыл бұрын
The bottom line that she says women are looking for is right on. My own ideas about some of the confusion: I think a lot of the allure with wealth and status is that if a guy is at the top and he chooses a woman, it is taken that she is his first choice and won't trade out. But their is a fear with the lower status guys that they will trade out when they make more or become popular or just that they will feel bad for having the woman they have and covet the women they think they could have gotten if they were someone higher up. The lower guys can also take every chance to cheat because they are trying to make up for opportunities they think they missed. But a guy can be pretty unattractive in body and wallet, but if he's got the character to take one for the team and to be faithful whether his status changes or not, that's gold to lots of women. Women really don't want to be resented and a burden to a man if a baby shows up from all the sex he's after.
@zsr2009
4 жыл бұрын
The real problem with modern day romance, marriage, and/or relationships is the modern feminist movement. This movement for equality isn't really about equality, but rather women trying to be superior. Anyone that finds this statement offensive should take a little time and do some research on how screwed up things are getting due to the feminist movement.
@olivenejames146
4 жыл бұрын
I’m a parent of teenagers, so I appreciate this topic which highlights some of the discussions I need to have with my teenagers.
@TrentJulien
4 жыл бұрын
23:00 men are being told to emote like women If a man expresses his emotions in a masculine way he is told it is wrong and he needs to get in touch with his feelings He is told to think and feel like a woman This is prevalent in the schooling system where teachers who are not male telling boys to behave in the only way a non male teacher knows, like a good little girl. Boys are told to sit down and be quiet, if they express their boyish frame we medicate them.
@hotice8885
4 жыл бұрын
Yes SIR!!!! I have seen in for many years, as a teacher, myself. You are right on point. I fought against it with all I had, and it was NOT popular with the other teachers, and some of the parents. But the kids-even many who fought me at first-were grateful in the end!
@The_Mend
5 жыл бұрын
First time here, thoroughly enjoying this conversation. So insightful, so natural. Keep it up guys.
@andreaarchambeau9499
4 жыл бұрын
I loved listening to two emotionally enlightened people have the conversations that are valuable and that build character, kindness, and connection. Thank you.
@MikeBNumba6
5 жыл бұрын
48:00 you guys contradicted yourself. The reason guys tend to mistake kindness from a woman as her being interested is because women NEVER are up front about what they want. They give clues and hints, but they will never say that they are interested. Those hints that women give can simply mean them trying to be nice to you, such as hugging you, laughing at Jokes, acting like they are interested in what you are saying, sitting next to you, ect... Basically anything with them trying to get a guy to notice them.
@AJ-ox8xy
5 жыл бұрын
Yes so true. I can't trust a woman's smile or acts of kindness anymore. It honestly makes me more uncomfortable when a woman acts friendly with me then just direct and curt as I have no idea if she is doing it because she is interested in me personally or just friendly.
@feladodd5953
5 жыл бұрын
I think in that case you just have to go for it and learn by trial and error. Just see how she responds. If you get constantly rejected, go back to the drawing board, gain new skills go for the next opportunity.
@AJ-ox8xy
5 жыл бұрын
@@feladodd5953 That is what men have had to do for literally centuries.
@toomuchinformation
5 жыл бұрын
@@AJ-ox8xy Depends on context surely?
@michaeljackson7361
4 жыл бұрын
The mothers have pushed the father's away from their children
@r4uedb
6 жыл бұрын
Wow! This is an amazing podcast! Glad I came across this. Much appreciated!
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for checking out the episode Eric!
@MegaPainMaster
4 жыл бұрын
When I started having recreational sex I think it was good for me at first because I learned that sex wasn't honestly a big deal and I realized how toxic most men are especially those who are always talking about getting laid which was something that would make me very jealous. But I also learned how to talk with women better and of course I gained more self respect and confidence in myself knowing that I didn't have to throw myself at women all the time and basically being a simp (yes I used that word). But the longer it went on the more empty and meaningless things got to the point where I didn't really want anything to do with women honestly. The whole point of me being single was because I wanted to wait until I found a woman that met all the qualities that I liked because I wanted my next relationship to actually last but now that I've plowed through probably 11 women since my last relationship I wonder if maybe doing that negatively affected the way I think and maybe what I was looking for was in one of those women who I had meaningless sex with but at the time I couldn't see because all I wanted was "some pussy"
@caroljane8378
4 жыл бұрын
This is very interesting, one would wonder how you could mess up something that’s meant to be. I don’t think you could’ve missed out on right person wrong time but the ego regretting not settling and being in control of what you think would have made you happy when really if you can go through that many people this disconnect is usually within and it isn’t worthwhile with anyone until your full and whole of yourself 🖤
@toomuchinformation
5 жыл бұрын
There's research on rapists that showed that their motivation to rape was opportunistic. If a woman seemed to lack confidence, she was more likely to be raped; dress had nothing to do with it. Better to help those women strengthen their boundaries and confidence. And what is the basis for saying that women are raped because of their clothing? Some research would be nice.
@JT-km6th
4 жыл бұрын
Maybe there is a link to a woman who shows off her body often with a lack of confidence. A lot of people would agree that when woman overdo make-up and dress as sexually as possible, its to cover-up some kind of fault she has. Maybe that's it, maybe not.
@andyleaf5747
4 жыл бұрын
from interviews with rapists, how a woman dresses is a part of the opportunistic side. Its far easier to strip a woman in a dress than one in jeans.
@toomuchinformation
4 жыл бұрын
@@andyleaf5747 So, never wear a dress, just trousers and flat shoes, even on a night out. Well yes, it'd certainly make it easier to run away. Perhaps all women should just wear burkhas. Even if an unconfident woman covers up, her vulnerable vibe will still make her more attractive to rapists.
@msjreneful
4 жыл бұрын
I don’t agree at all with her remarks. I live in South Florida and one night, I was out dancing, wearing black jeans, heels, a long sleeve button down shirt. A guy grabbed my breasts. Just straight groped me! Another time, I’m walking down the street, I was wearing a dress, but it wasn’t revealing at all, a guy grabbed my butt. People who make comments like hers have obviously never been sexually assaulted. I’m also curvy, so no matter what I wear, my shape is apparent. I can’t agree with this part of the podcast.
@andyleaf5747
4 жыл бұрын
@@msjreneful first off, I have been (thanks for assuming). If you are talking about groping, you could wear a mechanised armored suit and creeps would still find a way. We were talking about rape though, which is forced penetration, and again, it's easier to rip off a dress than jeans.
@damnedattendant2536
3 жыл бұрын
seems like in 50 years .. marriage won't be a thing ... at least among the people poisoned with enough knowledge ... going out of hand ... don't think it can be fixed ... very glad to hear the enlightening words from both of you ... Sad thing is .. most of the rest of the internet is full of darkness ...
@terrellbeast7369
4 жыл бұрын
Have women ever done anything wrong, are women ever at fault? Admittedly I don't know the her credentials but her recommendations sound like advice suited to a female psyche.
@Macheako
4 жыл бұрын
bro this chick is the perfect partner in crime for these hos
@bobjones3623
5 жыл бұрын
you can't work 9to 5 and give women all this attention, impossible you got be unemployed to have that kind time,unrealistic
@TheEnigmaticBM39
5 жыл бұрын
Someone said that men with no jobs do this ...I would agree.
@AJ-ox8xy
5 жыл бұрын
It could work if woman returned to the home and more men were motivated to get out and work more. One reason why wages are down and buying power lower is because the work force doubled over a 60 years time period.
@feladodd5953
5 жыл бұрын
@@AJ-ox8xy wow. I've never thought of that.
@JT-km6th
4 жыл бұрын
@@feladodd5953 more people competing for the same job, the lower the employer can have the wage and still have someone work.
@mrpj1390
4 жыл бұрын
@@AJ-ox8xy Thats not the employee's fault. Blame Wall Street's greed for that one.
@demarcusshipman6537
5 жыл бұрын
I think guys misconstruing kindness is bc of how we as men are! I don’t pay attention to women I am not attracted to, I don’t talk to them or anything. So, when a woman gives a man any form of attention he thinks that she is like him!
@toomuchinformation
5 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately.
@StrongMightyandFree
4 жыл бұрын
This woman speaks true lies. The bottom line is, you can’t make anyone want or love you; but why would you live by that philosophy anyway? Just because a woman doesn’t want you, doesn’t take away from the awesome man you are. Women don’t have the final word; God does though. Blue Pill content here.
@AdventureAwaits972
4 жыл бұрын
None of the dating rules that you are discussing existed years ago. All of the NEW "WOKE" ways of approaching a relationship totally miss the point. We are living in a new century where women are empowered. Women make their own money. They don't need men. That is a significant shift in our culture. The dynamics in relationships have changed. We keep trying to dance around the change by talking about men needing to be in their feelings and emotions. The fact is that most men would love to be in a committed relationship and not sleep around; however, 75% to 90% of divorces are initiated by women. My grandparents were married for decades. They were a rock...there was no need for all of this NEW age thinking...how to kiss, etc. As a man, you expressed interest, if she did not reciprocate, you moved on... There are tons of men drinking the Koolaid that are in there feelings and emotions....trying to figure it out. Those emotional feminine men repel women. That is just a fact. The data clearly shows that it is not working. It is not about blame, but the shift is real....and it is what's driving the cultural dating/marriage changes and reductions in births. Women are phenomenal beings. That said, we keep trying to rationalize how to date in this NEW age. There are primitive ingredients that we are missing with our rational minds. Massive amounts of men are going back to the old way.....because on a primal level it works better in the world in general
@captainhook4690
4 жыл бұрын
This!
@totallychillgirl8072
3 жыл бұрын
Women DO need men!! And men need women.
@morganferguson857
6 жыл бұрын
I appreciate your desire to keep reintegrating what you and I think is common sense but as we’ve grown to learn it isn’t so common lol. Great conversation!! She inspires me bc I am working towards being a therapist specializing in relationships, bc honey! I was trash at relationships and interactions with others lol
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Morgan!
@morganferguson857
5 жыл бұрын
The Roommates Podcast thank you!!
@sheysounds9398
5 жыл бұрын
This podcast episode was very refreshing. I find it difficult to be celibate in a society that pushes sex down your throat excessively. I knew recreational sex is unhealthy and does not bring peace to your soul. However, I felt encouraged and validated by this conversation because it reminded me that I made the right choice.
@bradandmiekesadventures3924
4 жыл бұрын
I appreciate that they refer to what most people would call "casual" sex as "recreational." I've recently thought to myself that even once you're in an exclusive relationship, why does that have to mean the sex can't be casual? And by casual, I mean fun, easy going, enjoyable, satisfying, gratifying, as deeply emotional and intimate as you want it to be with the proper boundaries, expectations and respect met by both partners. Why does having a partner mean it's somehow gonna be, or has to be, less "casual" or fun? I definitely prefer referring to sleeping around or simultaneous sexual relationships as "recreational." I just think it's a more accurate description.
@lupitasmith9944
5 жыл бұрын
"Take the filters off".... Wish people would. The majority are victim to this social media world and just won't.
@Maya47745
4 жыл бұрын
I would like to say that whats the most important for a lot of women is character. If some guys feel inferior to their richer/more powerful counterparts when getting a woman, they should learn this. If your character is on point, women will often not care about how much money you've got or what's your position. Notice, I've said character and not having a good heart. Because this is often where the miscommunication happens. There are so many "nice guys" who claim they have a good heart but honestly they are of a poor character and gets no girls.
@Sok612
5 жыл бұрын
I have biopolar disorder and hypersexuality is part of the disorder. I'm not using casual hookup/relationship is an excuse but most of my partner broke up with me because they think all I want is sex. It is not I want to grow as a whole person but it is hard when sex is the thing I can't live without. I'm trying my best to learn and grow. And your podcast have helped me a ton with it. Thank you 😊
@saturncrush
5 жыл бұрын
There are always exceptions to the rule. Kudos to you in your strength.
@fashone6574
4 жыл бұрын
Pornography =Only Fans website-you can’t blame men, most problems are caused by the rise of feminism 🤔
@baronklaif6973
5 жыл бұрын
@Hafeez dropping Gems . Love these convos . We need more talk on false Sexpectations
@adrianrice6396
5 жыл бұрын
Damn this talk is on point whole lot of truth in this here talk
@saghaarii1136
5 жыл бұрын
I liked that she spoke on education. Amongst those women that seek to wealth, status, or fame in their significant others, I agree that depending on her level of being educated herself she wouldn’t prioritize those things as much.
@mikekimveteran
4 жыл бұрын
I disagree. Rapini is wrong. I want her evidence on her broad-stroked claims. I am a psychoanalyst of over 20 years. Men cheat for many reasons and most of it involves not being in love. She knows what Gottman wrote about failures in marriages. Men without a purpose use sex improperly. Men with a purpose are not tied to sex as she paints the scene. I see lots of flaws in her positions that are biased and are just Sex in the City rhetoric. Both men and women can be obstructed in sex. Guys and Gals need to plan. Rapini puts it all on men. This is problematic.
@mikekimveteran
4 жыл бұрын
Indirectly, She assumes that women carry most of income or workload. This is not the case in all houses. The reality, it is hard for both men and women to figure out their challenges in marriages. The accelerated lifestyle in this postmodern era. Time defines all... Thus, we are all watching the clock. Only our jobs give us clarity: start time, lunch time, punching out time. Our lives revolve around this transhuman reality. So, it is impossible for most couples to figure out intimacy on all levels.
@Krismira1
5 жыл бұрын
So many good nuggets! thank you so much for well articulated points on navigating sexuality and relationships in our hypersexualized culture.
@QuidamByMoonlight
4 жыл бұрын
“If you’ve got more than a thousand followers on social media, there’s a high chance that you’re like that [people pleaser, playing a role].” I said nearly this exact same thing on FB. Usually when I see that, I know this person is unlikely to have a lot of deep and close relationships.
@torrinsanders2380
4 жыл бұрын
I think this is valid unless your social media is being used as a platform for something greater than yourself like what TheRooomates provides.
@hurlentropy6866
3 жыл бұрын
Add dating apps into the equation and validation seeking diverges to infinity
@SAYSChelly
5 жыл бұрын
There are so many points I was to touch on ! AH first of all, this was a awesome discussion. Thank you for bringing Mary Jo on the show. She is a wealth of knowledge and perspective, wow. I would say as a young black women in America is it hard to related to the opposite sex. Each person is different and when I was actively dating, I tried my best to learn how to understand the men I was dating. I will say clarity is so important for those dating or in relationships. What I realize is men need objectives and boundaries established clearly, especially when they are interested/friendly. This involves great accountability and self-control on both ends. Regardless if you are the man or the woman in the situation, knowing who you are and making moves strategically is so important.
@king1ut275
3 жыл бұрын
46:30 - remember brother most black boys were raised in single mother homes & we systematically know why. Let's never ignore how the black family was setup to fail by stripping it of the father. I know you probably wanted to avoid the racial aspect but if we are being 100% raw & honest that is completely a factor In addition the relationship between the black mother & son is usually toxic stemming from the mother associating the son width the father. Shock a rat when it goes for food & it will go it's whole life not eating 1t's called epigenetics black men have a huge responsibility to unprogram what has been programmed in our genetics for hundreds of years.
@b.nicole7588
6 жыл бұрын
I Really enjoyed this podcast!
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your support!
@Abundance26
5 жыл бұрын
I've learned so much with this one podcast. It helps with making better choices in the future. Thanks as always Hafeez.
@izu874
6 жыл бұрын
Great topic. Truly, I've been there because I loved her so much. Nobody could fill the hole left in me but now I just see the uniqueness in others. That was the way out even though connecting with a woman intellectually first is a bigger bond than sex. Many women I've had to let go where more about thinking I owe them my pockets because that's the society standards but I'm rebel with it because every dollar must earned. Great spectrum of topics covered and I definitely learned more about women.
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother.
@izu874
5 жыл бұрын
You're welcome.
@soystef
5 жыл бұрын
as I've learned more about men from this.
@kdori787
6 жыл бұрын
Really great and insightful podcast! I'm officially a 'Roommates podcast' fan all the way from London!!!!
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Shout out from London!!! Thanks Karen.
@afrikandeity1642
5 жыл бұрын
Fellow Londoner 🎉
@harrycojones4273
4 жыл бұрын
Men don’t want an used jalopy
@hellstromcarbunkle8857
2 жыл бұрын
WTF is wrong with pleasure FOR FUN? i.e. recreation? Prude city here.
@alonzobarnes302
5 жыл бұрын
You’re clothing and appearance is your uniform. Point blank period. The same man is viewed differently in a tailored suit than when he’s wearing his street clothes.
@timothybaze1834
3 жыл бұрын
Not to mention when men feel like they aren't getting sex or she's not wanting to have sex with him we feel like we are being used for financial security,
@joanniepeguero9138
5 жыл бұрын
I have been listening for few mths and u guys are having real talk with full conversation. U hit the topic completely
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!
@BigDiscussions76
5 жыл бұрын
This is a great conversation. Around 52:38, I would say that many of the woman I know have told me that they want me to assert myself without asking. Not saying the guest is wrong, just that this is a gray area. Keep up the good work guys. I'm new to being a content creator but it would be cool to work with you guys one day👊
@MikeBNumba6
5 жыл бұрын
No she is wrong. Women are never up front with what they want and they want guys to take their nice actions as "hints". Women will never say up front that they like you. They display hints and it's up to the guy to act one them
@JT-km6th
4 жыл бұрын
@Shadi older woman do that
@BigDiscussions76
4 жыл бұрын
I agree @sour airhead . We'd all be a lot better off if everyone was a little more honest.
@hurlentropy6866
3 жыл бұрын
They want their prince in shining armor to save them. Thanks hallmark.
@user-yx7qx7hu4g
4 жыл бұрын
everything comes from the home, the seeds implanted in our brains when we were babies are the most strong ones because thats not only when we had nothing in our brains just like a computer to be wired and programed but also because those seeds are the ones that have lived and grown inside our brains for 20/30 /40 /50 years
@tommydawson7147
3 жыл бұрын
When dating dont just walk away from women bc she is immature, That way she doesnt even know what she did wrong. Thats silent treatment and you could end up in your 40s single. -->Deal with conflict and educate women with love and then she will date you. We all have childish flaws. If you tell her she did wrong in a loving way, she will see that,and will love you. Bum.
@enverkudic8504
4 жыл бұрын
Wow... She even said:"we' re teasers"... I rest my case... 😂
@DRAG0Nl
4 жыл бұрын
So there is nothing wrong with me... wanting to be monogamous, to be romantic... to be a nice guy... to be the man my mother raised me to be. This podcast helped the void, guaranteed 🙏🏾
@Eserr7856
4 жыл бұрын
I'm like you, old school traditional mindset. The thing I've recently learned is that I have to be careful about not making romance and falling in love the center and goal of a happy long lasting relationship, marriage. Good Feelings are what get the relationship started, but the hard work of sacrifice from both partners are what keep it going to the end. Allain de Botton's videos on romance has really helped me on this. He explains how romanticism was started a few centuries ago and how it has fed books, movies, holidays on what "love" is supposed to be, when it's all just a fantasy not based on reality, socioeconomics, biology, culture.
@DRAG0Nl
4 жыл бұрын
Erik Serrano I hear what you are sayin, I will most def. keep that in mind. You learn some new each day... appreciate the wisdom and guidance 😇🙏🏾
@ScaryToRemarry
5 жыл бұрын
One of THE BEST Roommates interviews ever! I’m a big fan of Mary Jo. Had her as a guest on my podcast a couple of years ago. My listening streams went through the roof after we recorded. One of the most genuine people I’ve ever met
@Stormcloakvictory
4 жыл бұрын
Casual sex is glorified mastrubation. But worse than mastrubation too, atleast for me, I miss the days where I had emotional sex, it seems I'm not even able to connect anymore. Then again that might also be trauma from some shit that happened in relationships.
@alonzobarnes302
5 жыл бұрын
This is a really good discussion. Keep it up. New sub
@corym.johnson7241
3 жыл бұрын
Old movies used to show the guy asking for a kiss on a date or to hold hands. Society saw this as good, healthy and, commonplace. When, where, how, and why did this change in society?
@gordongekko2781
4 жыл бұрын
The moment you ask a woman if you can kiss her, the answer becomes 'no'.
@hv3115
4 жыл бұрын
Indeed. Nothing turns a woman's vagina drier than a simp man who has to ask if he can touch her or kiss her.
@wowerman
4 жыл бұрын
I found article written in Marie Claire.Woman wrote words"we are not gold diggers, we are resourceful".Then she wrote "whenever I am looking for work I would use my sex appeal to get it". Also same person claimed that is up to her when she use sex drive to get certain attention from men and when she would take it as offence.So gents,you can see that really what is harrasement and what not is up to the mood of woman deciding. I have stopped chasing women and their sex appeal long time ago. Not an argument anymore. There you have reasons why women do what they do by reading some trash artickes in colour women's magazines.
@shottachawn6182
4 жыл бұрын
If Men and Women are biologically made to spread their seed why or how does it bring the two together? You said it's made to bond and not be recreational, explain.
@opeoluwaadeyanju
3 жыл бұрын
I think a lot of ladies secretly want to find out their sexual compatibility with the man they are in relationship with. initially, the sex was good, and they didn't build the foundation of the relationship on same purpose and values... After marriage, boom! Reality dawns on them and the sex isn't what it used to be, then she hops on swiping apps. And later files for divorce.
@juny1982
3 жыл бұрын
Amén!!! To that bro.
@Mike_M.
4 жыл бұрын
"Good sex is emotional...", not always true, especially for men. People have had great sex with partners they can't stand.
@hv3115
4 жыл бұрын
Yes. This whole podcast is full of problematic assertions like you pointed out that just aren't true. It is mostly a female perspective that disregards the male peespective and experience
@blaxpoitation8528
4 жыл бұрын
That’s a valid point bro, but I think she was speaking [more] from the female perspective. Also, I believe she was trying to highlight how “good sex” is more about the emotional connection, more than the physical connection. You’re referring simply to the act itself, she’s referring to the meaning of the act. And she was trying to emphasize that for/to the men. Consider the meaning of the act, more than just the act itself.
@solmyr42
4 жыл бұрын
The better the connection in my opinion, the better the sex can be. Doesn't mean you have to be married or even know eachother very well, a connection is as chemical as it is emotional and mental.
@hv3115
4 жыл бұрын
@@solmyr42 not necessarily. There are different types of sex. Having that connection can make for good love-making type of sex with a partner.. but most men, and some women, can tell you they enjoy mindblowing, lustful type sex with a partner they just met just because of lustful feelings for a new person and their body.
@solmyr42
4 жыл бұрын
@@hv3115 perhaps, I have not really confirmed that. However for that to work, there sure has to be a strong (non-verbal) chemestry between the partners.
4 жыл бұрын
Remember gentlemen, the only woman capable of loving you, is your mother; and even them, might be a stretch nowadays.
@gabrieltello3905
5 жыл бұрын
I like all of the advice so far, got approx to the 50 minute mark and noticed they were talking about men thinking that just because a woman is nice to them it’s a come on, then how you should always ask permission to even hold a woman’s hand...ok, no lol. The key component they are not addressing is CALIBRATION. The only way to go out and gain social calibration (in all situations but especially with women) is to go out and approach women and interact with them. Learn how to “pick up” women, for lack of a better term. The only thing creepier than learning pick-up is not learning pick up haha. When you’ve gone out and cold approached dozens of women (not relying on booze either) you learn how to interact with people, and if someone isn’t into you it’s no big deal because you can talk to another woman 5 seconds later. You don’t become fixated on some person you barely know. I agree with everything said up to this point but think that men need to learn better socialization skills because it will help them learn how to discern with greater accuracy the women who are into them. They also won’t be creeps because they don’t come from a place of scarcity. To The Roommates! Please have Owen Cook (aka RSD Tyler) on your show! While you may not agree with a lot of his philosophies regarding sexual relationships I think he has TONS of knowledge regarding social dynamics that your audience would benefit from.
@MikeBNumba6
5 жыл бұрын
Bingo. You're the only other person here that pointed that out. I made a comment earlier on the same topic. Women never say what they want up front. They never tell a guy that they are interested. Instead women give hints, such as hugging you, sitting next to you, laughing at your jokes, saying they love hanging out with you, constantly touching you, constantly, smiling at you, ect... That can be them just being nice or them being interested. You can't blame a man mistaking those actions from women as them believing the women were interested. I was with them until they got to this point. The girl I'm dating now? The only reason I asked her out is because she smiled at me once and added me on Facebook. That's it. She could have added me on Facebook because we had mutual friends and we play in the same flag football league. Or she added me hoping I try and talk to her.
@saturncrush
5 жыл бұрын
Very comprehensively and eloquently stated. "The only thing creepier than learning to pick up is not learning to pick up" is so very true...yet is always stated in a very damning way. I want to make sure that my future sons have all the tools they need,
@AJ-ox8xy
5 жыл бұрын
So true, all men must go through a solid year of just learning how to approach woman properly and socialize properly. Unfortunately there is no hand book and normally we guys just have to live and learn. I have learned that being direct with woman you have earned somewhat of a friendship with is okay at least most woman. Many times I become friends with woman and they are physically comfortable around me, which is great; but also insanely confusing to me as I don't know if they are interested in me or not. This is why I have just learned to guide situations where that woman and I have a moment of privacy (without actually being alone necessarily, maybe in front of a house or something) where I can directly ask a woman if she is romantically interested in me. 8/10 everything goes smoothly and I am just imagining that their is some kind of attraction there when it is just them being friendly. Which I am fine with as it allows me to mentally shut off a part of my more sensual person so I can just be friendly with someone.
@gabrieltello3905
5 жыл бұрын
Anthony Garcia read Becoming A 3% Man by Corey Wayne, will help explain why women communicate differently than men and why they communicate this way. Also, read Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. Great insight into male-to-female dynamics
@dudewat212
4 жыл бұрын
Gabriel Tello .... They just had Todd V on the show (formerly from RSD): kzitem.info/news/bejne/yKF9n2Gvi6uFn6g
@regulardude7961
4 жыл бұрын
BS to the idea that there are all these guys who are getting their fill of sex, but feel empty emotionally. I don't buy it. Most guys aren't nearly getting the quantity and quality of sex that they want. I have found that when I am getting enough sex that I have a reduced psychological neediness (I am less emotional and way more laid back). This seems like PC nonsense in this vid.
@ngpdreamteam2k4
4 жыл бұрын
Agreed. It’s a really small amount of guys actually having casual sex outside of a relationship. Their story doesn’t jive either cuz it’s a known fact that Americans are having less sex than ever. Nothing they say seems to be based in reality
@soystef
5 жыл бұрын
Giving thanks for this powerful conversation this week of "Thanksgiving". Dead on.
@TheRoommatesPodcast
5 жыл бұрын
Glad that it can help
@DarkSim712
4 жыл бұрын
A society exhausted of strong moral character lays the foundation for an overly sexualized society. Dealing with the after effects that arise is certainly creating a lot more issues and damaged people and families.
@MahdiFilms
4 жыл бұрын
Bro I can't emphasis how much I appreciate this show. I really believe in what you guys are pushing.
@colmpullen4702
4 жыл бұрын
When I meet a woman I naturally begin looking at whether she will be "friend only' or 'possible mate'. If I have sex with a woman before I move her into 'possible mate' she permanently becomes 'friend only'. I finally saw an article where this had been researched and they found what I experience for myself. The article said that typically the 'possible mate' switch for a man took around 10 to 20 hours spent communicating with a woman to get switched on. The article said that for women having sex with a man often nudges her to move him deeper into 'desired mate' category.
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