If a man thinks he can test me to see what he can get away with. That is not love. I will never respect a man who plays.
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
Exactly. I hate dudes who are like that
@katiepop3442
Жыл бұрын
They make relationships so hard for no reason😢😢😢😢
@itstime14
Жыл бұрын
These Men are delusional and will be judged by The Most High for the games they consistently play with their lives and other people lives
@thewordsmith5440
Жыл бұрын
Sadly that's most men.
@thewordsmith5440
Жыл бұрын
@@katiepop3442 Then they complain that women don't trust them. There is literally a guy on social media who teaches people how to play mind games in dating but complains that women don't trust men lol
@mizzmolly7649
Жыл бұрын
If a man treats you poorly because he thinks you won't walk away, then he's a man of low character.
@Confessions089
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. 😊
@annabanzon313
Жыл бұрын
💯 but tbh all men are same, only good at beginning.
@pureiceeee
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@Michelle....B
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@mzjamaicamee9998
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! So now you need to test someone who already been thru enough? He is not a man of good moral standing i he needs to put you in that position anyway!
@eveline001
Жыл бұрын
Pushing a woman’s boundaries just to test her is low-life behavior. Women, if this is you, do not hesitate, just walk away.
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
Exactly 💯
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
EXACTLY
@destamcghie632
9 ай бұрын
That's what majority of them do. And then they blame you for "failing" the test. They're hateful, manipulative and abusive for no reason. Just for sport and most of them support the culture of misogyny.
@John-nd8bw
7 ай бұрын
Women do this to men every single day to every man
@kevinkurgansky4479
21 күн бұрын
Is this a man or a woman speaking? either way, this is behavior that women do ALL the time. It’s called testing. Women do it to test the strength of a man’s character (apparently) and it often involves exactly what you just described - pushing boundaries. If he fails to uphold them - or doesn’t respond properly - she loses respect for him more and more and then progressively treats him worse and worse, often to the point where it becomes (borderline) abusive too. The “justification” for it (which I do agree with you is unhealthy and/or “low”) is often made to be a necessity for “survival” in order to REALLY know and trust that a man has the strength and fortitude to uphold his boundaries and honor himself and his truth and his values and protect what’s important to him The theory is: if he can’t do that WITH YOU (ie: stand up TO his partner) then how the FVCK are you supposed to be able to trust him to do it FOR YOU (to stand up FOR his partner in the outside world). Or even for himself, in life, in work, in challenging situations, for his kids and family, etc. I’ve personally always thought that this is ridiculous behavior that’s borderline toxic as it starts unnecessary drama but relationships experts like David Deida and others who write about this say that it’s natural and inescapable behavior that you must just come to expect They say that a woman will ALWAYS test you, and that it will NEVER stop and for you to never expect it to stop (nor for you to ever expect it to get ‘easier’) cuz it ain’t going to. And, apparently, the more they love you, the more they test you… I’ve had people tell me that this is justifiable as this is the only way to be able to tell who someone is from their actions and what they actually do in practice when they are challenged and confronted (and not just their words or what they say they are / would do) I’ve even had women say they do this with me (and other guys) in the early dating phase too Ie: when they pull away and stop replying to see if the guy will “chase” them and double and triple text and get needy, desperate cling or demanding for attention or all hurt and bent out of shape. So much so that this is apparently a common practice when a woman “pulled away” in dating that lots of men like this talk about and even women themselves on KZitem talk about it And, again, this is all somehow natural and normal and expected when women do it? Crossing a man’s boundaries, being rude or disrespectful or confrontational or unnecessarily difficult or challenging or distant.. just to see how he will react…. Is this somehow considered very “HIGH” behavior when women do it? If not, then please help me understand how this is “low” for men to do TO women but not the other way around? Should women just get a pass for having a V@gina? Is it expected to be forgiven just cuz they apparently relied on men in order to survive for thousands of years and needed to “test” a man to verify his reliability and trust in protecting her and his family? If so, why can’t we do the same thing? What if we invent an excuse for us to engage in this psychologically ridiculous and “low” toxic behavior too and say that its ultimately part of our required “survival mechanism” too How? Or why? Because we rely on the woman to raise our child and we often leave that woman alone with our child for long periods of time while we’re out working or hunting or fighting etc So we need to be able to trust that our woman can uphold HER own boundaries; and has the strength and the discipline to do that… both for her own sake as well as the sake of the child… *Especially* if she ever runs into shit when the man’s not around and she has to handle things alone and its mission critical. Or we can say that we need to be able to trust a woman to do it if the man dies and she’s gotta raise the kids alone which would happen often in older times due to battles and various risks that men exposed themselves to that women didn’t. We can also say that we need to be able to trust a woman to do that just out in the world against other men who are always trying to cross their boundaries or approach them or steal them from us and this is a way we need to know that she can say NO and stand up for herself and not be manipulated and then impregnated by another man’s seed that we end up raising and thinking is our own (happens more often than you think btw stastically) Yet, we as men don’t really play that kinda shit, do we? (Despite having multiple reasons and excuses and justifications Nor do these types of games. Although I do test women in other more subtle ways to see if it’s really ME that they want when they’re trying to get me to commit to them or whether they’re just in search of a male lead main character to star in the life of their rom-com so she can feel like a cherished princess who’s loved valued and needed and is worthy of a ring, house, and kids. A lot of women will start trying to latch onto you after X amount of time dating you and sleeping with you and it’s hard to know if it really YOU that she’s after or if it’s just a “relationship” and “family” So I’ll do subtle stuff to not give her that “carrot” easily to see if she sticks around or whether she’s just trying to lock down a man and is quick to leave when she’s not getting what she wants Of course a lot of women will still stick around and “hope they can change him” and so her sticking around is not proof that she’s really sticking around for YOU, specifically. Under these circumstances, I feel good about my testing behavior All that other shit though.. seems toxic as hell Like women starting fights and drama to see if a man is strong enough to “put her in her place” Saying shit like “if he can’t handle me at my worst, he doesn’t deserve me at my best” Nah, if someone can’t handle you at your worst it means your worst is intolerable (and likely toxic and destructive, or at the very least unhealthy) and you should probably work on healing that and having your worst be functionally tolerable so that you don’t keep losing good men and then blaming it on dumb shit like this. And yes, I do think men purposely overriding a woman’s boundaries and hurt her in order to “test her” IS indeed low Yet, it’s nothing that women don’t do on the regular (by an order of magnitude of 10x) It’s problematic behavior on both parts and I guess women don’t like getting a taste of their own medicine If it does indeed happen by men, just know it’s 1 out of 100,000 men who does this (if not 1 in a million ie: narcissists or something) However, virtually EVERY woman I’ve ever met and talked to has done this so 99/100 or 999,990 out of 100,000 just to compare it for sport Oh and it NEVER stops When when you’re already settled in and in love and committed and you’re just trying to sit down and enjoy some silence Everything is some sort of subconscious test to see if she’s truly important enough to you or not (ie: for you to stop and prioritize her and her needs) Yet; at the same time, she’s looking for you to be strong and solid in yourself and your priorities and convictions and to NOT be a passive people-please and donate also expected to NOT prioritize her or please her or put her needs first and to decline and respect yourself and put her in her place if she’s acting up or acting rude / disrespectful Do you not see the problem with that? And the inherent paradox & dichotomy there? This shit is MAD (and relentless) and never-ending How are we supposed to actually win or “pass” this test? We’re just supposed to know right? And if it’s not that; that they’re mad about, it’s something else that’s important to her that you’re not doing or living up to and thus failing her tests or rather: you are failing living up to her super skewed & distorted expectations that are not only unrealistic but also are often not even communicated How in the world are you expected to meet uncommunicated expectations? Please help it make sense How in the right mind can you hold another party at fault for not upholding the terms and conditions of an “invisible contract” they never actually signed or agreed to?’ THATS what a lot of “testing” is Indirect and uncommunicated expectations that are often inverted & are purposely misleading (and sometimes even toxic and unhealthy altogether) And even if the thing itself is NOT… the whole conversation / confrontation and conflict you have around it after IS Food for thought.. I want awareness AND accountability for all. Although some genders seem to be allergic to even just the IDEA of that… and thus find ways to offload that onto the other continuously leading them to believe that it’s always them and what they do that’s the problem Absolute Absurdity.. 😮
@alaysiavenable9993
Жыл бұрын
If he disrespects you, he doesn’t respect hisself. Walk away from a man of games and into a man of truth and intentions.
@ruel.e.i.
Жыл бұрын
YEPPPPPP AND HAVE A NICE HIGH VALUE LIFE...HIGH BOUNDARIES ALWAYS WINS......ALLOWING FOOLISHNESS IS FOOLISH AND WILL ONLY PRODUCE A FOOLISH LIFE...
@Abbie-ef5mp
Жыл бұрын
My daddy used to say, if someone will lie to you they will also steal from you and I found out daddy was right!!! 😂
@Milli7771
Жыл бұрын
I will never tell my new man what my old men did to me and that’s the best decision I ever made
@enjolique367
11 ай бұрын
🎯🎯🎯
@destamcghie632
9 ай бұрын
Yes, I agree. Never tell them. They will use that as a measure of which boundaries to push. They'll see you as the doormat they can step over instead of seeing you as a person who's grown from past experiences.
@Queen-ConsciousYa
9 ай бұрын
This goes for anybody.
@courtney2410
Жыл бұрын
So… after he violates her boundaries, he loses respect for her. This is abuse and it’s sickening.
@PositiveDeviantPerson
Жыл бұрын
Exactly and it’s approved by society as OK
@bellamb7313
Жыл бұрын
😂 right
@Buggu3
Жыл бұрын
Yup! makes zero sense. He’s only respect women he can’t have 😂😂
@LalalandLizzy
Жыл бұрын
I was thinking the same thing and came to search the comments hoping somebody else spotted that. It sounds super suss what he’s saying when placing all that burden upon the woman if a man can not self regulate. Yikes. The deception is compromising self awareness and accountability😬😬
@tammbianc685
Жыл бұрын
Disgusting seriously
@karenrobinson8611
Жыл бұрын
It’s atrocious that women have to constantly ask for the respect from a man that merely being human should demand.
@carmen6693
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely agree
@Daizyonceagain
Жыл бұрын
@T Smith shut up..male issues
@alisha55555
Жыл бұрын
It’s because of their egos And women pursuing men
@cherecehicks6828
Жыл бұрын
THIS!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@jcymngo
Жыл бұрын
@T Smith because these low lives you speak of were these women's fathers and have never seen any real good from any man.
@LoveAlways1002
Жыл бұрын
He be describing hurt men 💯 Not a healed man who is ready to love 🙄🙏🏾💯
@AskYaMommyBoutMeBoi
3 ай бұрын
Get a good wage
@janetcarter8967
11 ай бұрын
I walked away because I know my worth!!!!! NEVER WILL I BE DISRESPECTED AGAIN MY ANY MAN
@pokejay8324
3 ай бұрын
Periodt.
@mslewis4919
Жыл бұрын
Dam shame to lose a good women because he can’t self regulate…
@earthzone85
Жыл бұрын
No it’s not they don’t deserve it! Let a man that does receive ir
@jacquienewell9557
Жыл бұрын
Truth WELL SPOKEN
@Indigenous_DNA
Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately there's a great number of men in our community that are emotionally dysregulated....and they don't even know it.
@SimonKnight1023
Жыл бұрын
What’s a good woman from a man’s perspective?
@superiorvessel8496
Жыл бұрын
@@SimonKnight1023 Someone who you are compatible with and serves your highest good💜🙌🏾
@Taisha12001
Жыл бұрын
This is why it's important for a woman love herself more than she likes a man.
@Evettecord
Жыл бұрын
I don’t love men. They don’t love. I just love me
@encouragingthesaints
Жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
Exactly. Self love
@CarolNash-f9v
11 ай бұрын
I DO, I DID AND NOW HE'S DEAD. FOR REAL HE'S DEAD. S.B.
@hunters6940
11 ай бұрын
@@Evettecord they’re not inhuman. They experience love just like anyone. I don’t know where you got that.
@8figureNiki
Жыл бұрын
Exactly. A man who loves AND respects you won’t put himself in a position to lose you.
@spoileddiva313
10 ай бұрын
Big facts 💯
@destamcghie632
9 ай бұрын
That's how you know they don't give a damn about you
@herbertolijslager1395
9 ай бұрын
Depends how she is acting
@tamirajohnellestyle
7 ай бұрын
RC Blakes did it to his now wife before they were married
@movingforward789
4 ай бұрын
Yeah because this is crazy! A man will only respect you once he does you dirty and you leave him alone??? So a man can only respect you once they are NOT in a relationship with you??? 🤷🏾♀️
@mousebr549
Жыл бұрын
I walked away. It was hard. Lots of tears. But if I didn't go thru with it....there wouldn't be room in my life for the good man I have now.
@Myshelleallen
8 ай бұрын
Love this ❤
@mousebr549
8 ай бұрын
@@Myshelleallen ❤️
@antoinettemulenga
7 ай бұрын
Wow thank you for this💓 gave me hope. After how long it took till u met your good man ? And how could you tell the difference? Are you not afraid ?
@mousebr549
7 ай бұрын
@@antoinettemulenga gosh, it's a long story. I was married to a man who was not suited to me for 31 years. We had 3 children together. I fell out of love with him, he was very jealous and accusing and controlling. But I stayed, I honored my wedding vows and I didn't want our children to come from a broken home. He passed away when he was 56. I mourned his loss. It wasn't until much later (when I started dating again) that I started to understand the things that happened in my life, that I allowed to happen in my life, how they affected me negatively. I didn't put myself first, everyone else was a priority. So I was miserable. I told myself I should be happy. Now my children are grown adults, and 2 out of the 3 don't include me in their lives. It turns out that by keeping bad energy in my life resulted in my kids soaking up that bad energy. My kids have anger issues, they don't respect me, they have drained me financially, and yet they are not appreciative of any sacrifice I made. So I would say that when you know in your heart that you are in a relationship with a person, and deep down your soul keeps telling you that you shouldn't be there, you should listen to that inner wisdom. I was afraid after my husband passed away, I was all alone, and I was so dependent on him. After all, he was part of my life for 37 years (31 married). So when I decided to date again, I was older, and the majority of the men I met were not for me, for many reasons. But I did begin to see a man and he was very narcissistic, he went out of his way to show me I was not important to him, and there was a long list of people and activities that came before me. But I had feelings for him. I was with him for 2 years. Even tho I knew he would never change, or want me the way I wanted him. It was painful. But we put ourselves thru this pain-for what reason? Women get angry because men can have sex with us and not have feelings for us. But in reality, it's our own fault that we don't make our feelings a priority. We can't be angry because men put themselves first. Women should do that as well. After many tears, and watching videos like this one, I decided to pray and ask the Creator for a good man. I'm more spiritual in my beliefs than religious. But I just left it up to the Creator that if there was a good man out there, that I am open to that. And 3 days later, there was a beautiful letter on my dating site from the man that I have been married to for the past 4 years. He is unlike any other man I have ever known. And one I would not choose for myself. I would say that the moral of the story is that love happens naturally and cannot, should not be forced. When you find that person that you are meant to be with, you will know it. I don't believe that we should be tied to one person all of our lives. I think we have many loves in this lifetime. We grow and we change. All of our experiences educate and improve us as a human beings. Just be open to it, but don't force it. Anytime it is forced, it is not a situation that is good for your spiritual well being.
@Hostensia1
7 ай бұрын
Same here
@akziq
7 ай бұрын
He is absolutely 💯 right!! They only respect swift & immediate consequences. Leave as soon as you are disrespected / violated. Don't stay & try to negotiate with them
@MadamProsperity_Asé
2 ай бұрын
Indeed! It will become fun after a while.
@mara8334
Жыл бұрын
Immature men test boundaries instead of respecting her without the drama. Knowing you could take advantage or hurt them and choosing not to is a man with a good character who actually respects you.
@LakeishaLifestyle
Жыл бұрын
❤👑👏🏿 this the one
@moonlit9608
Жыл бұрын
Exactly. Respect for another is not fear based….
@ruel.e.i.
Жыл бұрын
ALL MEN TEST BOUNDARIES...IT IS NATURAL...WHAT IS "NOT" NATURAL FOR THE PROCESS IS WOMEN WHO ACCEPT ANYTHING🤦🏾♀️NO BOUNDARIES, NO CHALLENGE👀HE GON HIT AND LEAVE🤷🏼NEW CHALLENGE WITH STRONGER BOUNDARIES HERE HE COMES
@mara8334
Жыл бұрын
@@ruel.e.i. Healthy & mature woman have boundaries and respecting themselves. You speak of a specific type of man. It’s not natural. Aren’t you exhausted always having your guard up and never knowing for sure if he truly loves you or “hitting” something else behind your back. The challenge is another name for the game. It’s a game to him. And when he settles for one he’s still looking at anything & everything.
@anotherworldddd
2 ай бұрын
Shut up @@ruel.e.i.
@demesmith8741
Жыл бұрын
Ladies this is the main reason y u Never tell of ur prior mistakes n relationships/friendships, etc. They wait 2 hear of the nonsense u put up w/ so they kno wh@ they can get away w/. Or so they think, depends on ur strength if u let them.
@shayemoore
Жыл бұрын
Exactly💥💥💥
@roselynthomas6285
Жыл бұрын
Yep I keep my month shut and it's been two years. I just say people change and that's it. I remember one time he tired to say I know you been through in you past, I said no, no one should accept disrespect. He was allow himself to be use and try to reflect it on me. That's when I knew he was lying and playing the victim.
@appleofelohimseyes7774
Жыл бұрын
Which is so stupid because if I walked away then after awhile I'll walk away on you too 😂
@keishamc5228
Жыл бұрын
@@appleofelohimseyes7774xactly 💯💯💯🎯🎯 Speaking Facts 🗣️ which is dumb on their part, cause if you walked away from them doing it common sense will say they will walk away from you doing it to them and it's just dumb to mess up and destroy a relationship just to see if a person will walk away and never come back , I have a ex now 10yrs later mad cause I won't talk to him or come back ! Well didn't you get your answer, Smh just stupid
@shahenn6724
Жыл бұрын
Exactly 💯
@NikiNacole
Жыл бұрын
If he's doing anything that causes me to walk away, then he already didn't respect me. It's stupid.
@SimonKnight1023
Жыл бұрын
He just said that we don’t believe it. Women say whatever makes them look good. You rarely back it up though.
@iambrandin_
Жыл бұрын
@@SimonKnight1023and so do men say whatever makes them look good but you don’t see women testing it
@SimonKnight1023
Жыл бұрын
@@iambrandin_ Like what? What bs do men say for the sole purpose of looking better?
@iambrandin_
Жыл бұрын
@@SimonKnight1023 think about it .. they may lie about how much they make to look more financially stable, they may lie about where/who they live with … etc
@SimonKnight1023
Жыл бұрын
@@iambrandin_ Those are manipulation tactics because women care about those things. Men don’t actually believe that shit. Women genuinely believe whatever their feelings tell them to believe.
@fitdiva737
Жыл бұрын
He is speaking the truth. When I was dating, I had non-negotiables and I stood by those non-negotiables and yes, sometime the man would walk away, but I was OK with that because I was willing to walk away too. However, when I met my husband, and I shared those same non-negotiables and trust and believe he knew if he violated them…I would walk away. It was not hard for me to walk away from a man. A man compliments me he doesn’t complete me. And I understood that and I avoided a lot of the pitfalls and heartache that so many women deal with. A husband and I are going on 32 years!!! I love my husband!❤❤
@mistyjordan7147
Жыл бұрын
When he walked away, I changed the locks, went down town, and got the divorce. That was three years ago. No one deserves Narcissistic Abuse which is Domestic Violence. This time, the love I have left is for my Heavenly Father, the little girl within me, and for my sons and daughters.💯📖💪🙏💜
@TheBlackWomanosphere
Жыл бұрын
This is true. Last guy I walked away from was gagging 😮he couldn’t believe it and I told him. Men and women, don’t let folks play in yah face.
@jordanallen7354
Жыл бұрын
🎯🎯🎯🎯 walked away from a 4&1/2 yr relationship never looked back and he still sick. Couldn’t believe it, he actually told ppl that no female has ever dumped,walked away,quit him that I was the only one to ever do it and to this day he regrets it bcuz I was truly the best thing that ever happened to him…. ✌🏽
@KM-oy5yh
Жыл бұрын
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN 💯 🙏 🙌 👏 ❤️
@shalanathomas7751
Жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@OriginalGoddess111
Жыл бұрын
I walked away from my 1st marriage because he broke our commitment and promise knowing I was loyal and deeply in love with him. I forgave him and he did it again. So yes when it was finally all said and done he couldn’t believe it. But He knew once I completely walked away it was OVER! It really hurt me more because I was forced to walk away with our 3 boys separating a family that we all thought was forever. Now I’m with someone who truly respects our commitment and our loyalty. He puts his ego aside to show me the love and respect I truly deserve. 💜
@encouragingthesaints
Жыл бұрын
@@OriginalGoddess111 Amen that you are happy. So TRUE. Also many Christians take advantage of their spouse simply based off of the misinterpreted "God hates divorce" dogma. It causes them to barely try because they ASSUME you will not leave because of your commitment to God to not divorce. It is pride! Pride cometh before a fall/divorce.
@kamauruddock9684
Жыл бұрын
People are often too afraid to be alone so they tolerate their boundaries being violated.
@KM-oy5yh
Жыл бұрын
AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER, BUT #NOT Me 💛🙏
@superiorvessel8496
Жыл бұрын
Exactly Self love is the best love No love lost❤️💯🤞🏾🙌🏾
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
sad truth!!!
@orahs_world
9 ай бұрын
I think this is me. Accountability. I should have walked a long time ago but because I was afraid I didn’t and now I’m paying for it with the most disrespectful man I have ever been with. Honestly I feel that I am good to him. No matter how he treats me I still show up for him while he constantly sabatoges the relationship and belittles any of my efforts. He always says “I’m a good man and you will realize that when I leave you” but the time is near to where I am tired and I’m going to walk. My kids and I don’t deserve this treatment from anyone.
@user-sp4vq6et7w
8 ай бұрын
This is so true. It got to the point I was begging him to want me, and it got so bad he trying his hardest to disrespect to force me to leave. I finally snapped today. He wasn't man enough to walk away he wanted to push me a way
@chariseallen9214
Жыл бұрын
I walk away and stay away with no communication or contact and walk by you like I never knew you. You're now a stranger. I stick to my word on God. I never look back .
@Christine-d7r
Жыл бұрын
Dating is extremely TOXIC today! False advertising looks & No Intentions! What happened to treating each other with Respect & Courtesy from the start??? Nobody has Any Integrity today. So DONE with Superficial ppl! 🙄
@Nikki...
Жыл бұрын
Some of these abusers will take notes on your past trauma and weaponize it against you! They listen to you and gauge your tolerance of abuse...it really is disgusting!
@destamcghie632
9 ай бұрын
They're predatory. Most of them are like that towards women they don't care about.
@BluDrop5
Жыл бұрын
This is why men respect women AFTER she leaves him.
@maunamars968
Жыл бұрын
Nonsense right that means they didn't want no woman in the first place
@Love2Love927
Жыл бұрын
After being dumped, a man’s pride/ego will carry him for awhile. But when reality “kicks in” a few months later, he realizes he messed up … then that’s when he’ll come running back begging for the woman to take him back! It’s crazy how a man will TRY to play all women the same. We. Are. Not. All. The. Same. GROW UP!
@elainejohnson4742
Жыл бұрын
TRUE
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
@@Love2Love927 exactly 💯
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
That shit makes no sense 🙄
@MissSpiritual.Soldier
Жыл бұрын
So why push you to walk away. Then he’s lost you, for testing you. When he could of just appreciated you and acted right….
@SimonKnight1023
Жыл бұрын
Women test men all of time. It’s a natural selection process.
@MissSpiritual.Soldier
Жыл бұрын
@@SimonKnight1023 I will only be tested so far then see ya ✌️ even when that hurts to do so. So annoying with men that don’t have some intelligence with this tactic they use. Don’t take it too far on a good woman dumb ass.
@SimonKnight1023
Жыл бұрын
@@MissSpiritual.Soldier I’m the dumbass but you all fall for the same shit and still fail miserably? Lol 👌🏾
@MissSpiritual.Soldier
Жыл бұрын
@@SimonKnight1023 nahh not me I’m the one my exes still pine over years later and never loved again since! Life is about growing and we are all guilty of things before we knew better. But most men, not all, not one in my life, but you all don’t grow up!! (Women too) And I wasn’t calling you personally a dumbass either. Pain should change people not keep you chained to old toxic behaviours. 🙏
@SimonKnight1023
Жыл бұрын
@@MissSpiritual.Soldier Sweetheart, I’m always skeptical about statements like the one you just made. Do you have any idea how many of my exes I’ve given fake apologies? A man will say anything to get a woman to drop her guard. But I hope you find what you’re looking for.
@franchesskafranchesska2208
Жыл бұрын
If a man disrespects you, it is better to leave. If he silences you every time you try to bring up a concern, he doesn't respect your voice. If he gets physical with you for voicing your opinion and you did not speak in a disrespectful manner..he does not care about you
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
Exactly 💯
@angelafayesims1563
10 ай бұрын
Facts!!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@ruthcook8599
8 ай бұрын
WE ALL GROWN HERE AND SHOULD KNOW HOW TO ACT IN THE FIRST PLACE 🎯💯🔥🖤
@amazinggrace313
Жыл бұрын
What is it with people literally wanting to disrespect others??? It’s like they must find out if they can lack respect for you
@Cate953
Жыл бұрын
I believe we teach people how to treat us... Healthy boundaries & zero BS.
@superiorvessel8496
Жыл бұрын
Exactly💯
@1973blessed
Жыл бұрын
💯
@kyrianjoseph1403
Жыл бұрын
I learnt that I my last relationship,stayed even when I knew he cheated.He kept on cheating and didn’t care how it made me feel .Last time he cheated he left me for the person hw was cheating on me with.
@fredajohnson506
Жыл бұрын
Amen we do because when woman knows her worth she doesn't settle
@KM-oy5yh
Жыл бұрын
#ABSOLUTELY, SISTER 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
@ladybird761
Жыл бұрын
Most men behave like a 3 yo child and the majority doesn't understand why are they dumped when their behaviour pushed their partner into leaving them. Some grow up but it's a long process and they break a few hearts by the time they reach emotional and mental maturity. Sad.
@SimonKnight1023
Жыл бұрын
Ironic coming from a gender full of unaccountable, cry babies. We often don’t know because women are too cowardly to explain themselves. They just ghost us.
@shanbraz6011
Жыл бұрын
And the thing is that maturity is a choice. We blame biology too much and even women push that narrative enabling men and we as women sometimes wonder why men treat us the way they do (not you necessarily) but maturity is most certainly a choice
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
WELL SAID. Some sadly don't grow up and turn into little whiny manosphere man children who blame women
@jisi8462
Жыл бұрын
I am not in the business of changing anyone. That's God's job. If I am giving you my time and you show me you don't value me or my time, I will walk away. I have done it and been called cold for it, but women need to understand that someone who wants to be in your life and wants to ADD to your life, will behave accordingly. It's not only about the things you say, it's also the things you do. Your actions tell me more about you than anything else, and when you show me who you are the first time, I will believe you.
@dorthealove4117
Жыл бұрын
If he's willing to cross a boundary, then he never loved or respected you from the beginning.
@ruel.e.i.
Жыл бұрын
IF A WOMAN "ALLLOWS" A MAN TO CROSS HER BOUNDARIES, SHE NEVER LOVED HERSELF......WEAK BOUNDARIES R FOR WEAK WOMEN
@dorthealove4117
Жыл бұрын
@@ruel.e.i. O
@btfields323
9 ай бұрын
🎯🎯🎯🎯my therapist just told me this 3 days ago. It works on male family members as well. Stand your ground
@tracydorsey1675
Жыл бұрын
He violated and I had to walk. Broke my entire being but I had to stick to it and now he knows I will never come back and it's over. Its finale.
@theehardpill
Жыл бұрын
Same. 🎯🎯🎯 Still miss him but never looking back.
@ctgal9698
Жыл бұрын
Don't ever go back to what broke you
@osolvholts
Жыл бұрын
🔥
@LMA7706
Жыл бұрын
"Once a woman's fed up"
@tovenrvik6336
Жыл бұрын
Narcissists are predators, who abuse others to regulate their false narrative and self, by putting others below themselvs so they can be abowe ‼️🎯JazzyT.
@teruashikusuo560
Жыл бұрын
Basically they respect women that respect themselves. Self love ladies ❤
@ruel.e.i.
Жыл бұрын
SOME WOMEN HAVE ZERO MAN ISSUES DUE 2 HGH BOUNDARIES WHICH INCLUDES LEAVING ASAP IF HER BOUNDARIES R CROSSED
@chakakhan982
Жыл бұрын
But once she's done, she's DONE!!
@LightLivingEst80
Жыл бұрын
That's not true , stop playing tuff it's not pretty
@justeb6612
Жыл бұрын
@@LightLivingEst80 from somebody who had a dad in their life I stand on that I'm leaving and I'm not coming back. You want to play a game? Pick up a controller 💅🏾
@TODOMATIO
11 ай бұрын
Hahahaha if I walked away, you've lost me. It means there's 0 hope
@user-sp4vq6et7w
8 ай бұрын
Done ! Done !
@Queen-ConsciousYa
8 ай бұрын
DONE! Like a bad business deal.
@tashadavis4936
5 ай бұрын
That’s why I don’t tell them nothing, nothing I’ve gone through because they men will use it against you to see how far they can go with it. ! I know if they violate my boundaries I’m out! There’s just somethings you shouldn’t have to tell a MAN!
@Arkeviaross
11 ай бұрын
You have to stand your ground with men you choose to be in a relationship with and that’s facts I would recommend being friends first 💯💪🏾💯💪🏾💯💪🏾
@marybowers6090
Жыл бұрын
But that’s the problem, as a woman if you have invested time in someone and you love them you want to try to make it work, but instead of men recognizing, this is someone who loves me and wants to work through tough times, guys mistake that for weakness and then take advantage. I told my ex, don’t mistake my kindness for weakness or that will ur last mistake in this relation but of course he did. I left no more chances. We are done. He was calling texting emailing stalking. Nope it’s over. The reality is I can never go back
@embel20
Жыл бұрын
I'm living this right now!!! And I feel so proud of myself... I'm standing up for myself. I love me!!!
@KM-oy5yh
Жыл бұрын
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER, ME 2💯💯💯💯💯
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
I'm so proud of you. Please don't go back!!
@indabackyardwithzoemachunga
Жыл бұрын
Whoooo 😂Me too. Been tough but I'm holding up fine. Blocked 🚫
@43cassy
11 ай бұрын
❤❤
@abigailgoodwin4759
11 ай бұрын
Mee too Amen we got this 🧵
@jaifyre702
Жыл бұрын
Ladies don't tell these men NOTHING, go get a therapist and get healed because of your not your just attracting the same person in a different version. You are what you attract so if your broken you'll attract a broken person who only knows what being broke feels like. This is why they don't trust it. The minute a man disrespect you in any way make certain you cut him off. It shows off top that he won't respect you later and typically it's a deep seeded reason why they choose to disrespect you in the first place. And it's usually an issue in them. So run fast and far cause a real man don't go around just disrespecting women for nothing.
@Kyakawaaii
Жыл бұрын
True. Many men have mommy issue without paying attention to their own mental health never get therapy to understand themselves. They don't know how to treat women right but they just want someone who reminds them of his loving and nurturing mother taking good care of him. He thought she won't leave but definitely ive seen too many women leave and never going back to repeat the same abusive cycle. It's okay to rest and be single. We are whole as one individual we can control ourselves and be happy on our own. Those insecure men will judge and disrespect you anyways so take time and choose the one who is good for our mental health and soul. A lot of healed independent women are good at spotting deceptive energy and red flag that's why they are not going to settle for less.
@jamaalhorton2343
Жыл бұрын
I’m not broken but I attract broken women! I have a nurturing spirit! So attract broken women! But I agree they need therapy !
@BluDrop5
Жыл бұрын
This should be pinned.
@BluDrop5
Жыл бұрын
@Jamaal Horton Hmmm...a man's primary role is not to be nurturing. Perhaps you're operating in your feminine more than your masculine side. But, yes, therapy can help uncover why you attract who you do.
@amab1853
Жыл бұрын
So true!
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
This is why I never accepted physical abuse because if you allow them to hit you once. He will hit you for anything
@adrena93
5 ай бұрын
The moment we realize the grass might just be greener on the other side. But most of us try and try hoping the man will wake up before it’s too late. But he doesn’t until it’s too late
@gloriablackmore18
Жыл бұрын
Yes, Sir. MY mother taught me to say what you mean and mean what you say! And I do. I get better results when I do. My mother was very wise. She taught me a lot.
@Kelsiejordan
Жыл бұрын
❤❤
@liv4u109
Жыл бұрын
💯 I experienced this firsthand. Women, understand that you are that powerful and can make a man come correct. Just make sure your ways are upright first. Set those boundaries and stick to them and know that some men learn best from consequences. You know, like children.
@am7884
Жыл бұрын
Insecure, useless men play games like this. A real man knows that he is supposed to guard his woman’s heart and if he isn’t ready to be a man of integrity, he walks away. If a man wants to behave in this childish manner, let him go. You’re simply dodging a bullet. 🙄
@KM-oy5yh
Жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
@ryleysell4028
Жыл бұрын
I agree
@kybeastmode
Жыл бұрын
most of the time they come in half put together
@BobbyAnnisha
5 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 For sure no one tolarate bullshits
@robinsaunders4729
Жыл бұрын
I love walking alone and I won't have it no other way. I am so done with messy relationships. I'm good now !!! Me and GOD is doing the thing. HE provides for me better than anyone else can and I am comfortable with that. Been on my own for years..❤
@darciefrench8353
Жыл бұрын
I don't even share bad stories about past relationships. I just told him things did not work out we were not on the same page. I will even lie if I have to. When I do meet new guys all I tell them is he treated me like a queen. Just to set the standards. That I will not accept nothing less. So there is no confusion on how I expect to be treated. And when I say queen that does not mean he paid all my bills or bought me nice stuff. It means respect trust understanding and communication.
@ALLeyesonEb
Жыл бұрын
He violated it. I stayed solid. When I said what I said and finally walked away, I stood on it. Blocked, page turned private, cold no-contact, I keep getting messages he’s coming back. It ain’t shit over here with me to come back to. Made it crystal clear I’m not an option. He chose and now he gotta “stand on it.”
@R_S747
Жыл бұрын
I don't really want to date someone who will only respect me once he tries to violate my boundaries tbh
@shamikajackson829
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! Tells you a lot about his character and lack of morals as well I’m sure.
@lalaspap9986
Жыл бұрын
Literally a respect is either in somebody or not in somebody. Once you allow them to violate them, you’ll see what they’re made of. Watch, observe & leave if you dont like what you see. Simple
@ananichi
Жыл бұрын
Right? Like the entitlement on this- it’s weird
@nickieC616
Жыл бұрын
100%!! This was my thought exactly. Where are his standards?
@roscojayco5527
11 ай бұрын
@@nickieC616where are hers if she's putting up with bad behavior. What if the woman has kids will she also condone there bad behavior. Her children will lose respect for her also. Sometimes you have too take a stand and mean what you say.
@luckie6682
Жыл бұрын
I walk away silently and gracefully forever, I definitely do stand my ground and I can stand alone with God, 🙏 no man is worth my peace of mind , my joy and love in my heart, especially devaluing, disrespecting, or disregarded me period, I'm true too my word ask any of my exes I've left 3 of them one I got a divorce, and the other 2 I left without a word , I even moved too different states too make sure I won't see their faces again, now I live on an island being a boss lady of my own empire and family legacy, living my best life, loving God and myself, no time for excess baggage that doesn't belong too me, Amen
@SoukaynahNdiaye-e8i
8 ай бұрын
So True!! I Walked Away from a Wonderful life style!! My Dignity Said "Move!!" I've been in shelters, yet I Have My Dignity!!🎉
@katiepop3442
Жыл бұрын
Welp I experienced Verbal Abuse at 19...I said never again...45 and stood by it.. I walk away and stay away❤❤❤❤❤❤
@sharonc3119
Жыл бұрын
So a man will walk all over your boundaries, basically take the piss, then when you kick it to the kerb first strike, he realizes you're the type of woman that takes no shit, now he respects you? 😑😂 And he said that nonsense with a straight face. Boys play games. Real men, decent men will treat a woman with respect from the start and will continue to be respectful because it's an integral part of who he is.
@Orangeray737
Жыл бұрын
U so on point...I walked away and they actually think it was because I'm talking to another man...I walked away because we weren't committed to our relationship just casually kicking..my husband won't find me if he see u so no I'm still single working on me and I believe energy will find me I'm wife material and I believe it
@Ela_v8
Жыл бұрын
"My husband won't find me if he sees you" = FACTS! Kick that dead weight to the curb lol
@EmpressMina
Жыл бұрын
💯💯💯
@KM-oy5yh
Жыл бұрын
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER, I just went through the #Same thing 🙏 🙌
@landrat3481
Жыл бұрын
💞💪👑💎
@liveinthenow3571
Жыл бұрын
I'm with you!
@nicol3H713
Жыл бұрын
Facts, The ability to say kick rocks and (really mean it) when boundaries, standards, & non negotiables aren’t respected comes with not being afraid of walking away, being alone, and knowing your worth, who you are as a woman, and a person. I tell my friends all the time a man is going to test a woman, but it’s up to the woman to stand firm and not bend on her boundaries.
@liveinthenow3571
Жыл бұрын
Just elegant! Confirmed my leaving today!
@Evettecord
Жыл бұрын
I just throw the whole man away if I don’t like the way I’m tested. I’m not turned on by abuse
@tovenrvik6336
Жыл бұрын
@@Evettecord That's good you are aware of that, so the predatory Narcissists cant prey on you ‼️An Psychologist told that Narcissists are only 8 - 11 years old, emotionally ‼️🎯JazzyT.
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
that's just sick predatory games. Men can stay the fuck away with this bs
@jesscurrie
Жыл бұрын
You guys it’s true. I learned this many years ago from Steve Harvey and tony gaskin, and it stays at the top of my head to stand firm in your boundaries. They both said their wives were strong on their boundaries and when their men crossed them they both walked away, years later they tried it again and what both those women do, walk away, like I told you I don’t play that.
@erikasmith7865
Жыл бұрын
SMH! True tho as sickening as it sounds some men will see how much you will allow them to do to you and turn around and say love is forgiving , get mad and say you abandon them and etc. in the end is not worth losing yourself for anyone.
@vivianabalbuena
Жыл бұрын
The summary from everything he says is men are like children. I’m disappointed.
@vernita0216
Жыл бұрын
HIGHLY.
@chantal9384
Жыл бұрын
Right lmao and this is the second video I’ve seen of him talking bs like this. I remember him saying if a women is nice men will take advantage of her and etc. it’s just sickening to Know men think and act like this lol a comment even said “lord please give me protection and keep men like this away from me” and now I addd that to my prayer everyday. 😂😂 please keep these type of men away from me
@meenamoon7930
Жыл бұрын
Yessss
@tovenrvik6336
Жыл бұрын
@@chantal9384 Demonic Black eyes talking BS‼️◾🔺JazzyT
@Catherine-mh8sw
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@kayp9318
Жыл бұрын
These men are so low vibrational including the dude speaking. There are so many good men out there that truly care about a women’s well being and won’t further damage her heart after she confided in him how another man hurt her. That type of man is for the trash 🗑
@kscott7657
Жыл бұрын
Say it sis!
@louisaziyambi3364
Жыл бұрын
Yea these relationship gurus are toxic!
@luna84_
Жыл бұрын
You said it
@meenamoon7930
Жыл бұрын
True
@anonamous6320
Жыл бұрын
Ladies don’t be telling no man how badly your exes treated you it makes them loose respect for you. Just say all my exes treated me well and leave it at that. Your new man is not your therapist or diary.
@JessicaA777
Жыл бұрын
Sad. Punishing loyalty, because of immaturity and selfishness. Sad.
@aprildiamonds3581
Жыл бұрын
Not loyalty, it’s low self worth. When you love yourself you have a standards, boundaries, and expectations.
@art2388
Жыл бұрын
You know what I hate when you tell somebody body about how your ex treated you, and they start treating you like your x. Then they tell you you let them do it why can't I. Then you leave and they wonder why.
@KatThePRPrac78
Жыл бұрын
I don't understand why it takes a woman's willingness to walk away for them to respect us. Why can't we put down our guards, trusting in that man to be there, BECAUSE he sees us loving them. Where is the appreciation?
@SH-vj2ce
Жыл бұрын
Because these men don't think like us. That's our mistake. We keep projecting what they should be like and frankly it's not working. I feel you though.
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
@@SH-vj2ceour mistake?? Wow. Gaslighting much!
@SH-vj2ce
11 ай бұрын
@@GabrielleTollerson Gaslighting? No. More like accountability. Every person is in charge of their life. If a woman is being disrespected, walk away. Its not rocket science. #boundaries
@sheilalamar2819
Жыл бұрын
It’s so true ! I left my narcissist abusive husband this pass September, I left came back and left and came back , no more , God delivered me from the evil and trauma, no respect , they don’t love you .
@therealsandraweise
Жыл бұрын
It all started with your good boundaries or poor boundaries.
@ary4532
Жыл бұрын
I'm so proud of you!🙌🏾🤗 I know how terribly hard it is to leave the cycle of narc abuse. So glad to hear that you've broken free.
@empressofenlighten5302
Жыл бұрын
Im trying to in the same boat with my husband of 23 together and 16 married ⛵ cuz my mom didn't Walk away i enabled him but didn't learn until covid Hit 🎯 and the elders telling me to stick it pray for him guide him etc damn God give me the strength and 💰 to get out of this fukk Up marriage license
@osolvholts
Жыл бұрын
They def don’t
@cmw1riternboro
Жыл бұрын
I had a friend that is leaving her narcissistic husband.
@PragmaticMoves
Жыл бұрын
I guess he won't believe her until she walks away....lol....it makes no sense. If she forgives him and stays or returns to him, then he's not going to respect her. So toxic!
@carolinetrent3292
4 ай бұрын
This is so true....I often say "DON'T TEST ME YOU BETTER GET TO KNOW ME"....with that being said I LOVE ME and Love you enough to walk away ❤❤❤❤💯💯💯💯
@seyhe
Жыл бұрын
So you have to leave a man for good everytime he does something you don't like or else he will keep on doing it. That's crazy and that is no healthy relationship.
@taviacoleman3979
Жыл бұрын
I appreciate your honesty. But, real talk, it shouldn't have to take all that in the first place, like grow up, I'm glad I literally walked away and blocked and deleted him.
@cindys2995
Жыл бұрын
I dated a guy like that. He used to say that because I was a single parent, I had to accept his nonsense (stand me up, not ans the phone). I dropped him FAST. He saw me in the street with another man and was SHOCKED. He actually called me and told me that I was supposed to be home waiting for him to call me back. LOL. Chile BYE!
@joannasmith5261
Жыл бұрын
Huh the audacity I cannot with the mentality of some men
@cindys2995
Жыл бұрын
@@joannasmith5261 "Men" lol
@joannasmith5261
Жыл бұрын
@@cindys2995 why you say "men" sis?
@cindys2995
Жыл бұрын
@@joannasmith5261 Because they don't act the part. More like boys to me.
@kekaaa_neeke6687
Жыл бұрын
@Cindy S As a mom who’s single, I applaud you. Standing ovation. You’re my She-ro! 🥲😆
@marionanderson8807
Жыл бұрын
Had teach my ex a lesson for being disrespectful for the first time. I walked and didn't look back. Shock that A$$..
@ruel.e.i.
Жыл бұрын
PERIOD
@KrispyKrunchee
Жыл бұрын
By the time I walk away, it’s far too late and there’s no way I’m taking him back. No way. I tried with my dude and it literally took everything outta me to walk away but I’m never going back. I wish him the best.
@-_-_-_-_-...
4 ай бұрын
I'm not interested in the power struggle, I'm interested in growing together. 🌱
@donnajeffreys8252
Жыл бұрын
💯 🎯 don't keep drawing lines saying don't cross them. Men react to consequences PERIOD. It's about respecting YOURSELF. Don't play like you mean it , REALLY MEAN IT even if you walk away for GOOD , he just wasn't the right man for you.
@chellwell6477
Жыл бұрын
🎙️I think it's ashame that a MAN will STAND with a challenged HAND, instead of choosing a good WOMAN that has his back & UNDERSTANDS!!! 🤔💬🤨🙄💯
@Evettecord
Жыл бұрын
Men need to sow their wild oats. They’re just destroyers. They’re not looking for love or a good woman
@larosenoirek2197
Жыл бұрын
I am as confused! Why make a great woman suffer??? Don’t they want happiness too?
@chellwell6477
Жыл бұрын
@@larosenoirek2197 Of course women want happiness TOO!!! That is the absolute TRUTH!!! 🤔💬🤨💯
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
@@larosenoirek2197"men" just want to play little games,sadly.
@angeeshields9228
Жыл бұрын
That's sad. A lot of men will lose out, cause a lot of women mean it.
@KM-oy5yh
Жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
Yes . Very sad
@larosenoirek2197
Жыл бұрын
Yup 👍
@MarlenaMorse-j9k
10 ай бұрын
Amen and amen it took me a long time to realize that and when I finally did even then it took a long time for it to sink in but yes I did walk away because I love me
@NicoleGarcia-cu7xf
9 ай бұрын
You have to truly value yourself enough to walk .sometimes u need to walk away if he's not prioritizing you or respecting you .
@roses4me451
Жыл бұрын
"Ladies, you have to be able to walk away from a man to get a man." (Steve Harvey) This man is telling the truth. What you allow is what will continue.
@lilacsilverwing
Жыл бұрын
Reminds me of a clip awhile back from him… “Life is too short to wait for someone to act right”
@ginadiodati1965
Жыл бұрын
That's exactly how he got his wife! she saw his phone go off talking to a girl....when he was asleep she pack her bags and walked....he chased after her. She warned him and laid down the law and he knew right then she was not playing lol
@kdphotos4691
Жыл бұрын
@@ginadiodati1965- Give it time. We'll find out he was running around behind her back. If he was doing that in the first place, then that's where his energy was at. It doesn't change overnight because a woman laid down an ultimatum.
@ginadiodati1965
Жыл бұрын
@T Smith I'm not condoning cheating.....where on earth, did you gather that idea from my comment regarding Steve Harvey? When men don't act right, then you walk away. That was my point. However, some men do realize that some women are worth ending the game for. My impression is that Steve ended the game
@ruel.e.i.
Жыл бұрын
GOLDEN ADVICE
@liveinthenow3571
Жыл бұрын
Thanks! I left today. Hurts, but, I wasn't having him trying to gaslight or play me. Straight up just left, in silence!
@osolvholts
Жыл бұрын
🙏🏿
@deekydan
Жыл бұрын
Same. I left this weekend and I am sad but I know I'll get past it. Hurts tho. I left and he is blocked. No returning.
@JESUSLOVESYOU219
Жыл бұрын
True but so sad. A serious guy should know how to treat a woman and COME to her honouring her. Men shouldn’t need this “push” by women to be solid guys 🤦🏾♀️. Yes certain things here and there is fine and motivation, encouragement if needed is great but to need to push him to treat her right is just so wrong 🤦🏾♀️.
@shayemoore
Жыл бұрын
Right. And this is why women shouldn't tolerate those types of me. They are time wasters and do not deserve good women. They deserve women who will treat them like trash.
@ebonyqueen_
Жыл бұрын
Agreed.
@DecEmpress
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! 🎯💯
@Ela_v8
Жыл бұрын
Its sad but so common
@beyoutifuljones3786
Жыл бұрын
That’s because men only use one side of the brain to think while women use both…
@cleeodell8928
8 ай бұрын
I'm a good woman who won't put up with BS !
@Renee-mb4wq
11 ай бұрын
I shared my experience with bad relationships he did the same thing🤔 yea I walked away 💃🏽 now he act like he doesn’t understand how I left so quickly but bruh I gave you the blueprint to a great relationship between us 💁🏽♀️👋🏽 and he still calls asking do you miss me 😂😂
@labelmeposh
Жыл бұрын
That's why you don't disclose your dating history unless it's ABSOLUTELY necessary
@deborasampy2762
Жыл бұрын
Yep I know that's right because then they use all that against you smh........
@labelmeposh
Жыл бұрын
@@deborasampy2762 Exactly!
@charmariah4766
Жыл бұрын
I had to learn this lesson the hard way. If my past relationships are not going to affect my future relationships; then there’s nothing to speak about.
@Yna-u3g
Жыл бұрын
It's never necessary because it isn't their business
@McFrappin
Жыл бұрын
Just dishonest women talkin shit.
@EspressoBeatsCafe
Жыл бұрын
He loses respect for her after intentionally violating her boundaries!? That is beyond demonic... Ladies never tell a man what happened in your past because he will do the exact same thing to you!
@sheberry8597
10 ай бұрын
Yep
@destamcghie632
9 ай бұрын
Every damn time. Then they blame us for having "trust issues." Yea right. Blame us for the problems you created for us. Why wonder we want to be single. Better than dealing with their bs
@LalalandLizzy
Жыл бұрын
If a partner tells you their non negotiables and and you go on ahead and violate them they’re not the problem, you are. Have some self awareness and accountability. They laid out the guidelines and YOU violated. That wasn’t a challenge. This is mental and emotional abuse. Notice how this man said “you have to be concrete on what you’re willing to tolerate.” If you’re going into a relationship with that mindset you have no business in a relationship, don’t even approach a woman and get some mental and emotional healing and let her go on ahead and find her husband. Stop wasting people’s time when you know you need healing as if purposely looking to violate boundaries to prove some point that everybody is the same and going to let you down. You’re letting yourself down. Knock it off. ✂️
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
PREACH!!! Yet they want to blame us for this shit! The audacity!
@finallyhealing1101
Жыл бұрын
Men need to learn to love and respect themselves first instead of trying to internalize a woman's confidence as his own worth. How a person feels about themselves is usually how they outwardly treat others.
@thea1-876
7 ай бұрын
100% Facts! One thing though I NEVER threatened to leave, I voiced my concerns & needs, gave time to course correct, then did what had to be done when he failed. The pleasure I got out of him being confused & discombobulated when he returned from “vacation” to see not 1 single trace of me. Pulled every manipulative tactic to try and get back.
@1angryferretable
Жыл бұрын
A woman doesn't enable a "real man" to do anything that promotes violating or hurting them! Have some self respect and take ownership of the choices you make in ANY relationship! Aren't we ALL sick of the bs and games!🤔
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
yes!!
@carmencarbonell1205
Жыл бұрын
That’s is not being a man, A man who has values and respects you does not make you walk away it’s the other way around he treats you as he respects and treat himself
@TheRealBrownShuga
Жыл бұрын
100%
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
real talk!! This is just normalized childish behavior!! Damn sad!!
@lolaglenn4925
Жыл бұрын
A woman going back on her word is not an excuse for a man to disrespect. This is so toxic. Sure, most of the time, I am skeptical in believing absolutes in dating, but just like I believe in possibilities for exceptions, I believe in having grace and holding space for them to change and grow. Just like I would like them to have for me. We all deserve the freedom to be ourselves in every moment.
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
These types of dudes are very toxic and abusive. This is why I always hated abusive dudes
@ellesaa8290
5 ай бұрын
Some “men” don’t believe because they have seen us stepping our boundaries for the bare minimum of “love” and “ respect” they offer at times we need the most. But taking advantage of a sista weakness is not how you call yourself a MAN. I think both parts should take accountability.
@Divinelydestiny
Жыл бұрын
My ex thought he could disrespect me and he played himself, I’m sure he thought he wouldn’t lose me but I’ll never go back to him.
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
Yep . Same here my ex still calls me. But I will never be with him again 💯💯💯💯
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
I stay away from men now,seeing that this shit is how they think!!
@user-sp4vq6et7w
8 ай бұрын
I just walked away from a 4 year relationship just 5 minutes ago. This man disrespected because he wanted me to leave him because he wasn't man enough to just walk away I remember the last thing I said to him was May God bless you and you don't have to worry about me no more
@cami7961
6 ай бұрын
@@user-sp4vq6et7w how are you doing ? I broke up with him and 2 months later we got bck tgthr and did therapy..did you all resolve ?
@judyperri9496
Жыл бұрын
I will have no problem walking away from a man that violates my deal breakers I’m not that young and weak person anymore
@KM-oy5yh
Жыл бұрын
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER, ME 2🙏💛🤍🤍💛🙏
@Love2Love927
Жыл бұрын
@Judy Perri 💯💯💯
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
AMEN
@bossiflossi5069
Жыл бұрын
That’s a lil boy a man not gonna play with your boundaries to begin with bc of his morality and out of respect …
@kennettabradford6566
Жыл бұрын
Facts 💯
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
yes!!
@queenofmanifestation2526
Жыл бұрын
Am so proud of myself now that I feel securely attached. This power/energy feels awesomely good.
@cierraword6056
Жыл бұрын
It's a shame when a man doesn't learn how to respect people in general. Games are for children.
@GabrielleTollerson
11 ай бұрын
Ikr,if they wanna play games they can take their asses to the damn playground.
@tyrannyisabuseofpower
Жыл бұрын
It's hard because too many people have never been taught about limits and boundaries facts
@FleurRebelle
Жыл бұрын
But I thought they wanted “peace” instead they seek to wreak havoc to test u and see if u leave
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