THANK YOU!!! Please say it louder! And they need to stop blaming it on “the younger generation”. Like, stop!🤨😒
@Blessedwoman67
3 жыл бұрын
Yes lord you just drop the mic!! Amen sister.
@MaryLou913
3 жыл бұрын
She didn’t say anything wrong and wore kids gloves when delivering her message. She insisted that we instill pride back into our appearances. You know you ain’t supposed to be out in PJs, house shoes and no bonnet.
@locksalot7152
3 жыл бұрын
🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
@mssugamoma
3 жыл бұрын
Ghetto
@patlui7542
3 жыл бұрын
High FIVE ! 💯🎉🎉🎉🎉💕
@Dionne3116
3 жыл бұрын
I agree but do you see the irony of her saying this in a bath robe with no bra & a million followers. 😕
@christopherbrown5409
3 жыл бұрын
@@Dionne3116 in her home, not on the street.
@aprilella5027
3 жыл бұрын
It's messy bun life for me. I'm not stepping out in no bonnet, PJ's, or slippers nowhere period.
@rodnape
3 жыл бұрын
Or a hat!
@traciescott1871
3 жыл бұрын
Gen x......
@LadyLoveMsSunshine
3 жыл бұрын
Right! Neverrrrrr
@traciescott1871
3 жыл бұрын
@@LadyLoveMsSunshine I can see you've been released from the hospital..that has happened but when straight to pharmacy then HOME! Other than that...um, yea.. it's going to be a not happening. You never know "who" you might run into.
@LadyLoveMsSunshine
3 жыл бұрын
@@traciescott1871 if I'm being released from the hospital or any place like that my mom or one of my sister's will definitely make sure I'm not wearing a bonnet...they know better. If anything they'll slap a wig on my head first LOL
@caseys9641
3 жыл бұрын
I don’t care how many ads KZitem puts on these videos, I’m still not buying premium 😂
@luckiecarms
3 жыл бұрын
Not never!
@DarkNatasha23
3 жыл бұрын
PERIOD!!!
@bwell6941
3 жыл бұрын
😂…
@jessicab331
3 жыл бұрын
After the 3mo teaser I did!!! I cannot go back!!!😩
@ihave2ques902
3 жыл бұрын
@@jessicab331 Same here🙋🏾♀️ I love it
@RP.123
3 жыл бұрын
Its crazy how EVERYONE was laughing at Derrick Jaxn’s wife for wearing a bonnet but as soon as someone addresses not wearing it out in public we got all kinda bonnet advocates. Folks be so wishy washy
@latriceadams2327
3 жыл бұрын
Excellent point!
@SmithandWessonismyprotection
3 жыл бұрын
But she was at home making a pointless video with her Narcissistic husband
@Nappy2theRoot
3 жыл бұрын
@@SmithandWessonismyprotection exactly
@Nappy2theRoot
3 жыл бұрын
That was a totally different situation, stop it
@user-bk8of8mo1n
3 жыл бұрын
Good point and she was at home
@crystalanderson6345
3 жыл бұрын
Personally, I would never ever wear a bonnet in public. They are meant to be slept in. Not worn out in public. Have some pride about yourself.
@miacarter8097
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! That's exactly how I feel.
@Amanda-th6pi
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!!
@chillcharm7822
3 жыл бұрын
it says on the pack ONLY WEAR THEM INSIDE ? no
@ktee1424
3 жыл бұрын
@@chillcharm7822 My sentiments, exactly. I don’t wear bonnets out, but I also don’t wear sombreros out and don’t understand what classifies one as sleep headwear and lacking pride vs. any other. We can all choose what we like to wear or don’t like to wear when we go out, but it seems silly to pass judgment about who wears what to a place we simply choose not to. Where does the bonnet package or tag say only for sleeping? If it doesn’t, why are we stereotyping, assuming, judging, and criticizing women for where they choose to wear which head or hair coverings?🙄
@chillcharm7822
3 жыл бұрын
@@ktee1424 exactly some women just like hearing themselves talk tbh and they want to feel like their better just cause they won’t wear it but it doesn’t make anybody better I would say one is insecure if she feels she needs to wear make up everyday
@shantahughes3568
3 жыл бұрын
People killing me focusing on half of her statement. She talked about the idea of trifling broads wearing pjs and house shoes as well. It isn’t sanitary to wear outside something you have sweated in laid up in the house in not washed your behind in and decided to go to the airport. You can’t be that busy. How you show up in the world says a lot about you. I see broads in pjs, house shoes and bonnets I think that person did not wash her ass period. It’s the lazy trifling behavior that bothers me.
@rubysbaby822
3 жыл бұрын
If you think people just get put of bed and not wash to go to the airport because they are in pjs you’re dumb.
@Conversations_with_Jazz
3 жыл бұрын
Some people are really triggered 😤, but I agree sis. I see this shit everyday and it’s trifling, somewhere down the line women have dropped the ball, why is it acceptable to walk around in house clothes in the street, and for some women to think it’s ok to just show up any kind of way anywhere, let’s me know what the mindset is..... “Ghetto.” It’s not that hard to throw on a pair of jeans and a T-shirt.
@BlackAdonis73
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!!
@caramel-cutie065
3 жыл бұрын
Yes ma’am!!!! I agree ☝️.
@teebee4000
3 жыл бұрын
@@Conversations_with_Jazz Simple and well said!
@blueseah1
3 жыл бұрын
It's not just the bonnet. It's the dusty ass looking pajamas, gray unlotioned hands, & face, loud phone conversation, and house slippers!
@itsjustme_neyab
3 жыл бұрын
The see through biker shorts and dingy t-shirts as well
@simonemitchell1397
3 жыл бұрын
Facts
@mssha1980
3 жыл бұрын
@@itsjustme_neyab I’m not understanding why biker shorts are a trend
@Evelyn-pl3we
3 жыл бұрын
Dusty pajamas 😭😂😭
@Phoenixishot
3 жыл бұрын
Lawd…them damn slippers
@Jeanie7933
3 жыл бұрын
She talked about other behaviors as well. Not just the bonnet. She told the absolute truth. Have pride when ya step out in these streets.
@natinapowell7990
3 жыл бұрын
So true!
@MyHoney2222
3 жыл бұрын
@Jeanie7933… You are absolutely correct - Monique addressed a number of things as they related to how someone should carry oneself in public. Funky Dineva is also CORRECT … there is a difference between Ghetto and poor. “Ghetto “behavior is disgusting whereas being “poor “ is a financial state or condition a person is in - nothing to do with BEHAVIOR. It certainly is ironic that generally speaking - these Loud, Aggressive, slipper & pajama wearing women are the same ones with hair not combed - and wearing a bonnet . Therefore this conversation is NOT about stereotyping Black women wearing bonnets - it’s about leaving your home looking messy, unkept and sloppy and not having any pride about how you present yourself in public. The way you DRESS 👗 is the way you will be ADDRESSED !!! No One knows who you are - but they certainly can see the way you look. We may not want to admit it - but most human beings use the VISUAL to make a snap decision or judgement call - this is just the way our brains are wired. Hindsight is 20/20 .,.. but first impressions are typically LASTING impressions.
@KWoo10DesignsLLC
3 жыл бұрын
You are right. It’s not about the bonnet. It’s about the image of Black people because we know that we represent each other. We see ourselves in each other. That’s why we get emotionally triggered every time something happens to one of US. When you wear a bonnet in public you are look at in a certain way. It’s the same as the half dressed Whypipo you see at Walmart. Take a few seconds to throw on some sweats, jeans or a hat. Stop wearing your sleepwear in public cause nasty behind is just bringing the outside into your bed.
@tylx3000
3 жыл бұрын
That PART!!!!! I see no lies lol A satin bonnet is for bed lol but if you wanna wear it in public go awf I guess lol but don’t be surprised if ppl stop n stare.
@nikajay9893
3 жыл бұрын
Pride in this racist ass system people don’t care anymore
@BeautifullyMade-ur6yc
3 жыл бұрын
It's sad because people are attacking Monique but she's just trying to help us. As black women, we need to learn how to take criticism a little better. If the black man/women can't tell us anything, who can?! It's just ridiculous.
@lisasimpson8607
3 жыл бұрын
Amen sis. We don’t have to cuss out everybody about everything.
@rogers5622
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly . The offended are the offenders🤔
@JaneOrShine
3 жыл бұрын
Help us? Her whole platform was built on body shaming other women.
@maryjanesbaby9392
3 жыл бұрын
Monique came off as passive aggressive. So how was she helping us when she was the same woman that stood on stage and disrespected Oprah, Tyler Perry, and Lee Daniels publicly.
@BeautifullyMade-ur6yc
3 жыл бұрын
@@maryjanesbaby9392 Just because she had a disagreement with those people, doesn't mean she isn't for us. And FYI: she opened up to Oprah and told her about her brother molesting her. Oprah went behind her back and had her estranged brother and mom on the show to exploit her. I'd have beef with her too. Smdh
@YvetteB04
3 жыл бұрын
I was taught: "Dress for the life you want NOT the life you have." "First impressions are EVERYTHING!" What Monique said, is stated by many more times than not in conversations. She has a large platform and she utilized it to convey the sentiments of many. It's not just about a hair bonnet and slippers. It's about decorum. Having an energy of worthiness. You can't walk around looking like and behaving like the stereotype, then mad when you're treated like the stereotype. I'm a professional woman with a teenage daughter and I'm empowering her with the sense of worthiness. Any and all that are offended are the intended targets of Monique's message. Get it together so that it doesn't offend you.
@kairilyn
3 жыл бұрын
Period!
@brokgrl85
3 жыл бұрын
🗣️DÉCORUM
@ktee1424
3 жыл бұрын
More focus should be given to why we’re developing and fueling the stereotypes to begin with... I’m not offended because this doesn’t apply to me, but I also wouldn’t venture to associate a woman’s worth or decorum with where or when she chose to wear which cap or head covering. It’s silly to assume anything about anyone based on a single article of clothing that hasn’t been mass / universally produced to only be worn to bed / in home🙄
@jasminehill6312
3 жыл бұрын
Say That!!!!!
@Moonewitch
3 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌🙌
@ckjbabiesstringer629
3 жыл бұрын
Toya’s bonnet line is “BEFORE “BED” HEADS”! Bonnets are to be worn to BED or inside your HOME!
@advancedmaternalmae7671
3 жыл бұрын
idc what she calls it it after I paid for it I wear it when and how I want
@ckjbabiesstringer629
3 жыл бұрын
@@advancedmaternalmae7671 That’s your prerogative! Do as you please!
@genuineheart7070
3 жыл бұрын
@@advancedmaternalmae7671 😊😁👏🏽👏🏽
@ktee1424
3 жыл бұрын
Furthermore, is every bonnet Toya’s brand? Do all or even most bonnets’ packaging or tags say anything about wearing to bed or inside your home? If not, who cares where, when, or why anyone wears a bonnet vs. any other cap?
@Moonewitch
3 жыл бұрын
@@advancedmaternalmae7671 You should create your own damn race them. Pathetic.
@PRTEEGRL
3 жыл бұрын
It’s a shame that someone had to publicly address this. My grandmother and my mother taught me to never leave the house without wearing clean clothes, having my hair combed, and wearing my lipstick. Smelling good was a must too!! We’ve got to bring back the pride ladies!!
@evitathediva371
3 жыл бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@rogers5622
3 жыл бұрын
Right . Some people are not taught that u don't get back in your bed with those same PJs you wore on the airplane 👀
@bricbrac28
3 жыл бұрын
Period. Nothing else to discuss!
@candidbutsweet9613
3 жыл бұрын
I agree with Monique and I applaud her for falling on the sword for the betterment of our people.. We can do better. THE TIME IS NOW! WE HAVE TO WALK IN OUR GREATNESS 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
@CallMeBossLady
3 жыл бұрын
@@candidbutsweet9613 I stand with aunti Monique also. She told no lies tho.
@shubbrown
3 жыл бұрын
I always say, “we have lost our self respect. This generation has no self respect therefore don’t respect others.”
@Red1Green2Blue3
3 жыл бұрын
middle aged to old people been saying this every generation since the victorian era. Moral panic isnt new
@welawe5804
3 жыл бұрын
Thank u! Us older folks have forgotten what we was doing in our 20’s. Let the young generation do their thang!
@princesspassiveincome
3 жыл бұрын
AMEN!!!!
@cjjones6264
3 жыл бұрын
I'm a product of the 60's. I got several years on Monique. My parents sang that same song back in the 60's, and you know they did! Their parents sang the same song back in the 40's, and on and on and on! We keep singing this same tune to younger generations. I don't know if it's our last ditch effort to assert superiority and dominance before death or what. Cut it out people! Make your own impression on the world. DO YOU! and stop expecting every other Black Person to DO YOU Too! We can reprimand these nieces and nephews in our own biological families, but we can go around the world being Bonnets Police and Saggy Pants Patrols to the entire Community of Black Folks. One more thing.... can you imagine if all this energy was put into how they are still trying to take away our vote; have introduced more than 400 Jim Crow bills in almost every state; trying to remove even more black history from school curriculum; over-policing our communities; police cover-ups; and trying to re-install a White Supremacist to the White House by August???? smh. Those are the things that will affect the Black Community. Yet, and still - here we are, talking about a damn Bonnet.
@shelley-anneharris6817
3 жыл бұрын
For me...it's the incessant calling of each other.....hoes and bitches. When and how have we as black women come to settle for this? Not just settle but accept that doing so is cool?
@justdc3517
3 жыл бұрын
Monique didn’t just mention the bonnet. She also said the pajamas, blankets, and slippers. People zoomed in on the bonnet but she was talking about the full package.
@klmshadybay12
3 жыл бұрын
We’re living in a “i’ll do what i wanna do and nobody better not say anything to me or i’ll beat you up/politically correct dont police me, dispute any logical thoughts, forget the elders” society
@Thundercattt
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed, and it’s truly sad.
@nikkiw3734
3 жыл бұрын
🎯
@tackytoya
3 жыл бұрын
They don't respect their elders because their own parents don't respect themselves. The longer we keep our head in the sand, the worse it will get.
@EmauniSimone
3 жыл бұрын
@@tackytoya the black community doesn’t have real elders just older people who have created toxic cycles and generational curses they pass down and refuse to acknowledge or heal from if we being honest. We ain’t had big mamas/ real elders since the 80s and 90s lmao grandma keisha and jasmine have taken over
@valthomas9786
3 жыл бұрын
Could NOT have said it better Kay!
@MsFrageria
3 жыл бұрын
How you dress or represent yourself can also boost how you feel…looking presentable can make you ready for any occasion.
@franettesparks9949
3 жыл бұрын
Well said!
@angelmiller9254
3 жыл бұрын
I Agreed
@mrs.germain4911
3 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@reinamacaren-a4132
3 жыл бұрын
How people feel is their business. As long as they aren't harming anyone, who cares?
@antoinerobeson4434
3 жыл бұрын
What is sad is that this is actually a conversation. You mean to tell me with everything going on in the world that this is the best we could come up with is Women wearing freaking bonnets bro??? C'mon, it's not that serious! People just need to mind their business and stop trying to change the world with how a person should present themselves in public. There's far to much going on in this world to be focusing on head gear!!! Tf!!!!
@floridagirl5207
3 жыл бұрын
We was offended by the character Auntie Jemima being a representation of black women. It’s important for us to present ourselves in the best way in public.
@VanessaElizabeta
3 жыл бұрын
Valid point.
@letakeokuk5446
3 жыл бұрын
Ooh @Florida Girl. I’m so glad you said it....these bonnets are no where near attractive...giving off Aunt Jemima vibes. No one is saying dress up but the bedroom look ...... no not what I would do, EVER. Maybe it’s my age group that thinks a different way from the millennials🥺
@KinkyXristian
3 жыл бұрын
Sheeeed---the woman with the box braids in a Mr. Clean commercials used to irk me too lol
@Red1Green2Blue3
3 жыл бұрын
@@VanessaElizabeta Not valid at all. The problem with aunt jemima is about how white people (and corporations) portray us - black people not having agency over our own bodies. We need to stop policing each other, white people don't feel responsible for the actions of the trashy members of their ethnicity
@jb3702
3 жыл бұрын
@@Red1Green2Blue3 I hear you but I don't know if we can/ should compare ourselves to them.
@ItsJustmeEB
3 жыл бұрын
“It’s the loud and obnoxious.....cussing in front of old folks....” Yes! That exactly it. The people associated with the bonnet give the bonnet a bad name.
@Evelyn-pl3we
3 жыл бұрын
This! Idk about the bonnets but the obnoxiously loud folks, cursing infront of elders/strangers will NEVER be okay.
@tackytoya
3 жыл бұрын
YES!! Everything he said is on point. And people that dismiss everything under the guise of respectability politics are actually the one's obsessed with the gaze of others. Like how about you just respect yourself?!!
@tiffanyjones5469
3 жыл бұрын
And I just saw her pitiful azz in Dunkin’ Donuts with her phone on speaker 🤦🏾♀️
@moniquewest3277
3 жыл бұрын
No class, no decorum.
@moniquewest3277
3 жыл бұрын
@@Evelyn-pl3we Self absorbed and no concern for anyone outside of their 3-ft bubble.
@cookiebiscoe3170
3 жыл бұрын
My Southern Belle Momma raised me to NEVER go outside the home with rollers, scarves, slippers, etc. She said a “lady” is always done outside the house.
@tuwannashaw6589
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly, look good when you step out the door.
@authenticityonly3
3 жыл бұрын
Same!!
@hellkitty1206
3 жыл бұрын
Amen . I was taught the same
@ksmith7528
3 жыл бұрын
I was taught the same thing
@earthynomad7160
3 жыл бұрын
What's wrong with scarfs? They're whole cultures wearing scarfs
@alizeshelby3028
3 жыл бұрын
I’m 23 years old and I completely agree with Monique .... bonnets ARE FOR BED TIME !
@Berth407
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@kevincarter2638
3 жыл бұрын
So gym shorts only for the gym 🤔
@alizeshelby3028
3 жыл бұрын
I don’t go to the gym 🤷🏾♀️
@kevincarter2638
3 жыл бұрын
@@alizeshelby3028 so u just missed my whole point🤦🏾♂️ I can tell you are 23 😂
@makishacox6100
3 жыл бұрын
I wear bonnets during surgeries at the hospital. They are cute and fancy now
@Night88owl
3 жыл бұрын
If you’re upset about what Monique said, she was clearly talking about you. Hit dogs always holler.
@traceytracey3756
3 жыл бұрын
😂😂Exactly!
@FrauMase
3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣 facts!
@kristijjones1087
3 жыл бұрын
#BoomBamPow....Enough said
@teachertan1
3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@DaFinestDuchess
3 жыл бұрын
I’m upset with the standards and judgement placed on black people by black people. White people do not do that to other white peoples.
@tikaavery
3 жыл бұрын
I remember when I was younger about to leave to go to the mall with my friends, my mama checked the shit out of me because I was wearing a bonnet… She said I was not about to leave the house looking like I just rolled out of bed… I carried that lesson with me till this day!! Thank you Mommy!!
@mariaddubkg531
3 жыл бұрын
Yes indeed! I get what you said. I tried to go over my mommas house with a scarf on and when I got there she read me down and told me to go in the bathroom and comb my hair out. She was not having it and I never forgot it. I respected and obeyed my momma no matter how old I was😂
@ewilliams9981
3 жыл бұрын
My mother raised me to be a lady always and I'm raising my daughter the same. She tries it...but I don't allow it. You never know what type of opportunities you get passed up for because of your presentation. She already has two strikes against her in this world as a black woman. No way in hell imma let her set herself up for failure by wearing a bonnet in public.
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
@NotSoTypikal lazy about doing what. No one has to have an excuse for you to wear whatever they pay for. Its not a crime to wear a bonnet in public nor is it a action that will get them fired at work or hired in the first place. If im taking care of my business and not dependent then what extra work is needed.
@Fans-am-i-inferto
3 жыл бұрын
@Crystal Barker While I understand where you’re coming from, and agree that people can wear what they want and don’t have to explain sh*t to anybody, but I disagree with the job part... If you come in to do a shift at your job, let alone the interview to GET the job, wearing a fkn bonnet? Then yeah you look lazy as’f and it can most DEFINITELY play a part in your hiring or dismissal. A lace front or a shake n go takes less than 2 mins to get together. The reality of it is some of these people are really just that lazy and are just mad that someone said something about it. Sorry not sorry ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
@@Fans-am-i-inferto i never said to wear a bonnet work job or and interview. Im talking about running errands.
@Breeeee03
3 жыл бұрын
I have always loved how my mom carries herself. She wouldn't even walk to the mailbox without looking put together. So I followed suit. Being put together doesn't mean a full face of makeup, a Gucci fit and red bottoms. You can look presentable in sweat pants. I am not one to police what women should or shouldn't wear , but I will always take pride in my appearance. There was a point in time when our ancestors were not even allowed to look presentable!!
@MrsButtersworth82
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!
@pgdarling301
3 жыл бұрын
Yes ma'am!!
@geocyo8835
3 жыл бұрын
That's it! Our ancestors were not _allowed_ to look presentable. For (Black) women in Louisiana, once upon a time, there was an ordinance that they must cover their hair because White wives of men in charge of legislature were jealous of the attention the Black women would get because of their hair.
@stacylala2816
3 жыл бұрын
Facts!!!
@ms.juhntialit7664
3 жыл бұрын
@@MrsButtersworth82llo
@marishajames3581
3 жыл бұрын
We wanna twerk in restaurants and wear bonnets while running our errands. We have some serious shadow work to do. I will say this. If you’re gonna wear a bonnet, make sure it’s clean and not old, oily and stretched out. Do you boo! I however will never be caught out in public with a bonnet. It’s not a head wrap.
@melaniesaunders8950
3 жыл бұрын
Preach and dropping your kids off like that to school is unacceptable as well wearing bonnets and slippers I agree we as a collective got a long way to go I was raised not to go out in public looking a mess period
@jaiblessed6337
3 жыл бұрын
I've worn a bonnet a few times to the neighborhood store for a quick run but the tweaking I can not. And I agree make sure they're clean.
@melaniesaunders8950
3 жыл бұрын
@@jaiblessed6337 see that’s fine it’s not everyday wear for you
@faiththomas1749
3 жыл бұрын
@@melaniesaunders8950 I am a certified tomboy ( the ONLY time I wore a dress was my senior prom ( and it wasn’t even a dress it was a pantsuit, I have long sleeve shirts and the only time I ever wear something “cute “ is if I am forced too ( I usually wear sneakers, pants and a long sleeve shirt
@shadyzbabii420
3 жыл бұрын
Who is we? You see whites calling out other whites? The richest white people wear the dustiest, crustiest clothing and sneakers...yell at black people in restaurants, on the streets, at traffic lights ..but dancing and wearing bonnets is an issue?
@robynviney1228
3 жыл бұрын
I noticed with this generation that a lot of the young ladies are wearing the bonnets more than u see their hairstyles
@la_southernbellebroughton7513
3 жыл бұрын
Preach! A lot of people don’t want correction, it’s a time and a place for everything.
@ericathetaurus3913
3 жыл бұрын
They lazy and nasty. Period.
@wanda01141
3 жыл бұрын
And more weaves instead of seeing real hair too
@MrsAriEllow
3 жыл бұрын
Everyone in this section is speaking nothing but facts. 🙌🏾
@sunshineleslie1460
3 жыл бұрын
🤔 don't forget the earlier generation wore hair rollers outdoors as well (dropping and picking up kids from school)
@keshastanford8413
3 жыл бұрын
I'm Sorry. I like to be comfortable on my day off or running errands or when I fly as well. However, It is NOTHING CUTE about wearing your pajama bottoms, a Bonnet, DU Rag or house shoes out in public. If you want to be comfortable or if your just running to the store/ errands out put on a baseball hat, scarf ( there are Many different styles), turban, headband, wig, leggings, jogging pants hammer pants, lounge/ palates pants jeggings/ jeans, skirt etc.... Too many options besides looking like you rolled out the damn bed and went outside. Come on now. This is exactly why " THEY" talk about 'US" calling us Ghetto and thinking we aren't unemployable. Have some decorum about yourself. Look at our history. In the 50's, 60's, 70's they wore suits and dress Everyday. WHAT HAPPENDEN to THAT????
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
They were talking about us un the 50's, 60's, and 70's. They are going to for ever not except us.
@KP82457
3 жыл бұрын
@@vivelavidalivelife3617 Y'all got it twisted.Being dignified and self respecting people has nothing to do with trying to impress white people.
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
@@KP82457 it does when the arguement is that we have to act a certain way to combat stereotypes or when u tell a grown woman/ man how to show that they respect themselves. What standards are we using. Who said that a bonnet is only for the bed. Y dont u feel that ur hair doesn't need protection outside with that same practical purposes that a bonnet can provide. Farther more y are we fighting to act shallow. Certain for Clothing is shallow. Are u aware of the many ways to show that a person is worthy of respect. The way u dress is not one of them. Which is my point i have no other point in this debate.
@asiaz248
3 жыл бұрын
A hit dog will Holla lol. I 100% stand with Mo'nique. She's simply correcting us with love. Too many people hate correction. *Update Yall really mad about my opinion? Well stay mad! 🤣💜
@blakely1976
3 жыл бұрын
💯! Too many hate correction and accountability!
@pimpindymepiece
3 жыл бұрын
this the one. I didnt feel offended or affected at all- i took it as sound advice and kept it pushing. The hit dogs are in comments HOWLINNNNN lol
@shadyzbabii420
3 жыл бұрын
She delivered the message to MILLIONS in a bathrobe with no bra.
@deaflistener
3 жыл бұрын
@@shadyzbabii420 She was at home....
@alyciacooper2
3 жыл бұрын
@@shadyzbabii420 she was indoors tho
@pinkpetals601
3 жыл бұрын
I personally like wearing hats, turbans, or those pretty head wraps. You will never ever catch me anywhere with a bonnet or pajamas. I take too much pride in myself and I was not raised that way. Thank God for my upbringing.
@melanatedhoneyforever137
3 жыл бұрын
AMEN!!
@kayfeathers7209
3 жыл бұрын
The fact dusties are debating THIS!! My gawd it’s so ghetto and tacky to wear a rag and pjs in the street. I could NEVER. I was called rude and classist 😂
@mrlustud3d
3 жыл бұрын
"Monique in my opinion," didn't drop the ball. However, the parents have dropped the ball. They haven't holistically, put nun in their offspring(s), to exemplify class of any sort.
@Deon-sd2jr
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly... I think she did a good job presenting her case and it needed to be said , she should speak on the adult ms wearing their PJ’s to the store and every where else
@InMyCruisingEra
3 жыл бұрын
It does start in the home indeed
@DaFinestDuchess
3 жыл бұрын
Class is made up by white people.
@mrlustud3d
3 жыл бұрын
@@DaFinestDuchess The word "class," was translated by caucasian, at in Oxford English Dictionary. That time period was around 1891. However the word of "classy," came from the Hebrew word, "ˈklasē!" That derived from the ancient cultures of Africa, when it was was called Hu-Ka-Ptah(kemet). Do yourself a favor and learn more about your history. We are mostly powerless, cuz many of our ppl don't know anything about the great "Great" African kings and Queens, who ran it all. Caucasian came on the scene long after the earth started, and they genetics are considered as a "genetic mutation!"
@gloriagrace2555
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@McLovin0788
3 жыл бұрын
I remember my Na Na (great grandmother) would get dressed even if we didn’t have anywhere to go..
@ItsMeMsAlpha
3 жыл бұрын
This!! Makeup and all. And I do this myself
@ivyleagueAW
3 жыл бұрын
I know Thas right!
@missmyasia
3 жыл бұрын
For me, I prefer wearing a beautiful print and stylish scarf with a hot pair of glasses when I'm pumping thru the airport. Giving the girls Diahanne Carroll or Teresa Graves ( from the 70's) teazzz....I don’t even wear bonnets at home. It’s hard to sleep in them without them slipping off. I purchased the satin pillow cases to help keep the moisture in my hair and skin.
@charlenemckinney7858
3 жыл бұрын
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿YESSS 😎
@letakeokuk5446
3 жыл бұрын
Yessssssss🥂🥂🥂🥂
@whoisk4050
3 жыл бұрын
Yes Queen
@peacebrooks1818
3 жыл бұрын
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@teflonbutterfly536
3 жыл бұрын
Yes ma’am! Real classy based, lol
@Evelyn-pl3we
3 жыл бұрын
I'm 26 and I COMPLETELY agree. A lot of people in my generation are obnoxiously loud and have no respect for anyone else. This isn't about respectability politics, this is about common decency that transcends all cultures and people's.
@robinmajor6798
3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate your commentary on this issue. Honestly I’m saddened to see young women not presenting themselves in a classy manner. I often wonder how this happened?? I have a 30 year old daughter in raising her, I stressed the importance of being a lady and having class.
@livefree1111
3 жыл бұрын
You have a 30 year old? You look great sis.
@maurice1263
3 жыл бұрын
Look sometimes people just want to have lazy days and not do much. Each to their own I suppose
@kenya9549
3 жыл бұрын
@@livefree1111 Same thing I said. Beautiful indeed.
@Tiger44140
3 жыл бұрын
The irony of this is I actually heard Monique say in an interview, “never leave the house looking like shit” and I actually wrote that on a cute flash card and posted it by the door, cause hell, it’s true!!!
@welawe5804
3 жыл бұрын
But she did a whole live with a robe on...hypocrisy at its finest. What happened to looking presentable? I’m never taking Monique’s advice cuz she loud and ghetto her damn self minus the bonnet.
@nikajay9893
3 жыл бұрын
But she looked crazy while saying it in A robe with no bra 😏
@RHOgu4
3 жыл бұрын
@@welawe5804 Her hypocrisy doesn’t invalidate her point. It would only do that if you were more intent on focusing on the messenger than the message itself. It would be true whether she said it a robe or ball gown.
@RHOgu4
3 жыл бұрын
@@nikajay9893 So then you agree with her - that there are standards to looks and how one presents themselves to the public. You recognize that she didn’t meet her own bar by how she presented herself in that moment. Your acknowledgment of this supports and adds to her point. Edited to add: I️ agree with you and Mo, btw. Coming in public in sleep clothing without the proper undergarments does look “crazy”. Non verbal communication is just as loud as blasting your music through Walgreens.
@candylove49
3 жыл бұрын
@@RHOgu4 Exactly, anything to take away from the POINT. They don’t want to take accountability for themselves at all. She was also wearing a robe in the comfort of her home.
@lakeishasolomon315
3 жыл бұрын
Monique only said what my grandmother instilled in all of her grand daughters the same with the boys and wave caps ijs
@sweetgreentea50
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!! I agree ☝️
@neenee12201
3 жыл бұрын
I wish I could like this 1000 times! You said a word! No one can tell this young people anything. Just wild and reckless with no respect. It’s sad!
@ladiescorpion5029
3 жыл бұрын
Me personally, I wouldn’t wear a bonnet in public BUT when I see other people wearing them; I just mind my business because it’s not me
@Cocktailsandnails
3 жыл бұрын
What's the purpose of doing our hair to have a bonnet on all day....or you can't even do a ponytail...like come on
@nataliet.3023
3 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with you. While I would never go out in one myself. I dont judge or pay mind to people that do. Because I understand that life happens and idk what one has going on in their personal life. I'm going to extend kindness and grace regardless.
@dollface9639
3 жыл бұрын
The world would be a better place if people would mind their damn business and keep it moving.
@moniquewest3277
3 жыл бұрын
@@dollface9639 And I'm fine with that, if it's not rooted in self-centeredness. If you are minding your own damn business because it has no impact on you, then you have other problems for sure.
@dollface9639
3 жыл бұрын
@@moniquewest3277 if a person wearing a bonnet has a personal impact on you then you have other problems for sure.
@Andrea51108
3 жыл бұрын
I spend a $100 every 2 weeks getting my hair silk pressed. I’m guilty of wrapping it up, putting on a ball cap, and running a quick errand or two (a la how you described early in the video). For all the public knows, I have either a fade or a short cut under my cap, because there is no evidence of the wrap underneath. Bonnets were made for sleeping. There is no way, in my opinion, to make a bonnet look presentable - bedazzled or not. Add the PJs, slides, and poor public decorum… no ma’am. I 100% agree with Monique on this one 🤷🏽♀️
@nikkyluv2244
3 жыл бұрын
Same... Before I locked my hair, I would put a hat on over a scarf in a minute, ( what’s the difference they ask)? Everyone recognizes a hat to be for outside... scarfs are associated with sleeping
@dougedoug2105
3 жыл бұрын
One of the best things to ever happen to me years ago was a falling out with my barber. I easily gave him $100/ month getting my haircut, but our issues forced me to take some initiative & cut my own hair. The wake up call was that my barber was a homeowner and I was not. $2400/ yr on a stylist is a tad bit excessive when I personally learned how to cut my hair right here on the KZitem; even learned how to do do hair watching Tyler Perry’s on set stylist Deeper Than Hair. She even plays trap music while teaching people how to silk their own 😉
@sassygreen5024
3 жыл бұрын
Girl store runs dont count...
@gonewin
3 жыл бұрын
@@sassygreen5024 do you have a store in your house? Because if not, it does count because you're outside in the public.
@nikkyluv2244
3 жыл бұрын
@@sassygreen5024 outside is outside babes lol
@StarringShameka
3 жыл бұрын
I’m apart of the younger generation. I’m only 26 but a lot of things that these women do and how they carry themselves is just tacky. Like you said, loud on the phone, drawing attention to themselves, with the slides, usually pajamas. Loud music playing. Just a mess. It seems like my generation lacks class and common sense. It truly irks me when I see people in public blasting their music. Like where are your headphones?? I can’t defend my generation, we’ve dropped the ball on a lot of basic common sense & courtesy for others
@CeCeMe1
3 жыл бұрын
I saw a young girl in Nordstroms with a full ass pajama set!!!!!! My second hand embarrassment ran me up outta there. Mind you, it was 3pm in the afternoon.
@nessajenean8705
3 жыл бұрын
Right literally earphones are $1 if you just need a temporary pair.
@StarringShameka
3 жыл бұрын
@@CeCeMe1 how about I saw one at 6pm in a family dollar parking lot with pajama pants & the furry house slippers!!!!!!!!
@CeCeMe1
3 жыл бұрын
@@StarringShameka oh Lord...so she been sitting up, stanking all day in them PJ's. Eating hot Cheetos and scratching...🙄.
@Berth407
3 жыл бұрын
Yes Young Queen!
@teebee4000
3 жыл бұрын
When Ghetto culture goes 'mainstream', this is what we get. But as soooon as Leslie Jones plays a 'broad with a bonnet' on Saturday Night Live, the same black women will be ready to cancel her...such hypocrisy.
@TN-hg7jc
3 жыл бұрын
Well said 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿, and during the 50s and 60s we had more pride as a people.
@thedarkestdawn1
3 жыл бұрын
She said what she said! Don't sugar coat shit if it ain't supposed to be sweet.
@Berth407
3 жыл бұрын
Tell it!
@LeeLee-cp3rv
3 жыл бұрын
But she was really sweet about it though....👀
@giovannalbradley
3 жыл бұрын
Monique's right. Wearing bonnets in public and online is classless and tasteless
@glowpopupcommentary9183
3 жыл бұрын
👍Totally Agree...KEEP YOUR BONNET IN THE HOUSE👀 There are to many 👁JAZZY HATS THAT YOU COULD WEAR..."OUTSIDE"😊
@Deresco1
3 жыл бұрын
“Bald headed to the damn root” I can’t take much more of these Blossom openings 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@portraitofalady1598
3 жыл бұрын
Not Blossom! 👒👒👒👒
@theycallmestoosh
3 жыл бұрын
Dress how you want to be addressed. I strive for respect, dignity & class therefore bonnets/slippers etc is a hard NO.
@chrystlaw1
3 жыл бұрын
I saw a woman at my son’s school show up for parent teacher conferences with a bonnet, house slippers, cut of jeans and a tank top with no bra. She may have been comfortable as hell but her kid looked embarrassed as hell. 🤦🏻♀️
@celly9719
3 жыл бұрын
Awww nawww
@DoubleAA82
3 жыл бұрын
yes, cause he know that's house wear ...smh
@KeeKeeSoto
3 жыл бұрын
Oh poor baby 😱🤦🏿♀️
@bluquartz2
3 жыл бұрын
You don’t know why she had on a bonnet? Leave people alone and stop projecting- by child could have been embarrassed for any other reason
@cherellepeterson3079
3 жыл бұрын
@Mzz Moe YES!
@laterramiller4507
3 жыл бұрын
My mom told me always look a little presentable when you go out in public, because you never know who you gonna run into that you know.
@ShayMac311
3 жыл бұрын
Yeesss same.
@brownbeauty8578
3 жыл бұрын
THIS 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
@donnac.3273
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly, I was in the mall picking up some items speaking to the cashier asking how her day was going, you know just making small talk. A week later, I had an interview for a job. I got the job and the interviewer told me she remember from the mall in how much I went out my way to ask how the cashier day was going etc. So you never know.
@daughterofthemosthighgod1889
3 жыл бұрын
@@donnac.3273 🎯🎯
@laterramiller4507
3 жыл бұрын
@@donnac.3273 yesssss. Congratulations 🎉🎈
@lisabennettbolekaja8556
3 жыл бұрын
Does this go for durags and wave caps for men? If we're gathering up folks, then BM need to be scooped up too.
@rubysbaby822
3 жыл бұрын
Lets not forget sagging pants. That’s long overdue. I don’t want to hear about bonnets until they can get that together.
@latricetaylor7427
3 жыл бұрын
They always gotta say something about a black women.. my husband is in the service my son has autism I'm running around left and right droping him off at therapy plus holding down a job.. my bonnet is on especially when I'm going right back home from to sleep
@tierraweatherspoon3419
3 жыл бұрын
Yes mam! and im tired of seeing both young men and old as men wearing gym shorts AND socks and flip flops in public 🤬. That is unattractive and looks nasty. A man should go no further than the mailbox looking like that! Men need to to do better as well!
@codenamekhai2656
3 жыл бұрын
Right since we just getting on what black women shouldn’t do .....AS ALWAYS... AGAIN....
@nanadoctrove5590
3 жыл бұрын
yes ma'am...that part. and those saggy pants, with those nasty ass draws showing..
@janicesanders9981
3 жыл бұрын
Not just the bonnets but also the clothes, the loud respectful language and music, the profanity. I'm praying for our young people so hard. Monique said it as best she could and she was not lying by a longshot.
@blane6592
3 жыл бұрын
My granddad always said “I bet not catch you outside with your head scarf” IVE NEVER EVER DONE IT!!! It’s TACKY AF!!!
@TheeCourageousQueen
3 жыл бұрын
A head scarf is not a bonnet so granddad needed correction.
@iceprincess825
3 жыл бұрын
I agree 100%
@Cream_of_wheat
3 жыл бұрын
My grandparents too
@Cream_of_wheat
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheeCourageousQueen welp my grandparents regarded them as the same. It’s a garment meant to be worn about the house, not outdoors.
@blane6592
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheeCourageousQueen no…if you THINK they’re Different…YOU NEED A CORRECTION AND THEM 7 other simpletons that thumped up this foolish ass comment!
@mrsgigi8862
3 жыл бұрын
I was on a flight from Baltimore to Ft Lauderdale years ago and there was a group of sistas on the flight wearing sweats, bonnets, flip flops and being all kinds of loud. I was so annoyed and embarrassed. Doesn't mean I'm tapping anybody on the shoulder. I just tried to ignore them and mind my business. It's just not something I would wear. I really don't think Monique was wrong in what she said. Like someone else said in the comments, we have to be able to take criticism.
@sylviabell5871
3 жыл бұрын
So it’s actually not the bonnets sweat pants or flip flops. They could’ve been wearing anything and still be loud.
@ROYAL12366
3 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you minded your business!
@blackcat_on_norwooddrive6407
3 жыл бұрын
The bonnet, pajamas, house shoes, loudness, disrespect, inconsiderate and rudeness all in one.
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
Not true
@deborahcannon2077
3 жыл бұрын
When I was young, I didn’t understand the older folk saying “babies having babies “ this is what we are dealing with now, many young moms don’t have the wherewithal to teach there children morals, ethics, self love, the value of life, it’s so sad💔
@cthnc53
3 жыл бұрын
YES! This is when it started
@Morenitasracing_co
3 жыл бұрын
They were young having kids too. Some ppl just don’t know how to teach others morals and that’s fine but being an elder that’s where they were supposed to teach them.
@Chibbykins
3 жыл бұрын
And where are the fathers in this equation.
@Chibbykins
3 жыл бұрын
@M Tol not so obvious to most people. Mothers constantly get dragged over 'bad' parenting like the kid came from an immaculate conception.
@dr.dermixgirlmd7479
3 жыл бұрын
We don’t have to be in couture walking through the airport but can we just at least not be wearing something that belongs in a bathroom or bedroom? Where is the home training?!? DECORUM. Lawd! 🤔🙄
@dallasgirl3470
3 жыл бұрын
Its lost
@MsLissy98
3 жыл бұрын
This! This right here!
@BlaydeAlabama
3 жыл бұрын
What u said
@kaystar3434
3 жыл бұрын
That's what it is, lack of home training!
@remoniaj
3 жыл бұрын
There was not any to begin with!! So sad!!
@Indiegirl007
3 жыл бұрын
There's headscarves and then there's a bonnet. A headscarf can be tied in to a myriad of beautiful ways, and has always been seen as a symbol of style and class. When women of color were not allowed to show their hair, due to our gravity defying hair irritating the jealousy of our oppressors, they tied on Tignons. These Tignons would be absolutely stunning, and these black women would be KNOWN for the gorgeous unique style of their Tignon. A bonnet......is not a Tignon.
@cynthia9908
3 жыл бұрын
Preach! I loved this comment.
@blackcommunion3820
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@Everyoneisanartist776
3 жыл бұрын
FACTS!
@brandygee9954
3 жыл бұрын
🎯
@TheeCourageousQueen
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@mesha051983
3 жыл бұрын
You said it! This NEW GENERATION! Lord help us.
@73musicmatch
3 жыл бұрын
I throw my Nikes or some gym shoes on and a comfy fit on the plane. I know I don't LOOK raggedy.
@cpear015
3 жыл бұрын
My dad always said “dress how you wanna be addressed.” I hear that playback every day before I leave the house haha! I’m probably the only one in my friend group who still irons their clothes! Nothing wrong with taking pride in yourself, but for some odd reason…some people choose not to 🤷🏽♂️
@jadiraboutisma7704
3 жыл бұрын
Agree
@redbuddha8373
3 жыл бұрын
Respect ✊ to pops
@KittyGothXO
3 жыл бұрын
I still iron and plan to continue.
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
I dont want to be addressed while running errands. But ppl still treat me very nice. All my problem where at my jobs where i never had a bonnet or pjs on. Now i work for myself. And i dont iron , hang my clothes up right out the dryer. No wrinkles.
@nanadoctrove5590
3 жыл бұрын
thats RIGHT
@deaonrowlette8509
3 жыл бұрын
Your ability to firmly, insightfully and articulately critique and expound on various topics while dropping pearls of wisdom is a breath of fresh air ❤️
@daynaram381
3 жыл бұрын
Facts! 🎯💯
@latashacousar4207
3 жыл бұрын
Yes I love it
@SashaBoo429
3 жыл бұрын
A woman with any kind of polish about her wouldn't be caught dead with a bonnet or sleep attire on outside. Period.
@eleganceentinc
3 жыл бұрын
No bonnets outside, I was taught this over 20 years ago. Boundaries are healthy that's what's wrong with society we accept anything. Standards promote quality. And when I see folks walking around or driving around with one on their head I automatically cringe.
@JM-ip1es
3 жыл бұрын
It’s scary how many women think wearing a bonnet in public is okay... Damn we are doomed
@bluquartz2
3 жыл бұрын
If that’s what’s dooming us, I’d hate to see your measuring stick
@SmithandWessonismyprotection
3 жыл бұрын
It's these young and some old ratchet females
@rosegoldbanks4842
3 жыл бұрын
@@bluquartz2 you don’t get it smh that’s the problem yes there are deeper issues but the point of it is have dignity if we build that back up then it will take a step in to solving deeper issues, to solve anything you need dignity, pride and class
@tyriexs5
3 жыл бұрын
@@SmithandWessonismyprotection Y'ALL RAISED EM
@sjlewis271
3 жыл бұрын
We're doomed from bonnets and not poverty, high rates of illiteracy, dangerous neighborhoods, and unclean water?! Naw baby. That surface thinking is what will have YOU AND YOURS DOOMED. 🙄
@mylikamorton5858
3 жыл бұрын
Sir, you just preached a WHOLE word tonight! It’s not so much about the bonnet, it’s the mentality and the mindset behind it. And it’s not just the younger ladies either. I’m grateful that back in the day at my predominantly black high school, we had certain dress code standards when we had ROTC and track field trips. Even while traveling, we couldn’t just look any kind of way. That mindset has stayed with me. If that’s considered respectability politics, oh well. I’m grateful for it!
@pamp7104
3 жыл бұрын
YES.
@lisathompson153
3 жыл бұрын
It’s not just the bonnet for MoNique. It’s the disrespect for old people, the loud talking, the crazy fingernails, cussing and lack of manners that’s associated with the bonnets.
@MyLife-yv1fi
3 жыл бұрын
Facts.
@ShesGonnaWriteIt
3 жыл бұрын
Agree 100%. It's the behaviors that come along with the bonnets. The lack of self awareness and lack of common courtesy to those around them.
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
I know ppl that donthat with out housewear.
@ashalb7857
3 жыл бұрын
I might run into rich man in these streets!! I heard if you stay ready you ain’t gotta get ready 🤣
@ladycapricornia
3 жыл бұрын
Amen😂😂
@moonlite1752
3 жыл бұрын
And what if she pulls a rich man in a bonnet while only dusties approach you. I know you’re joking, so No attack on you, sis. Lol No I don’t support the public bonnet wearing. Just saying, it may help to check your mindset.❤️
@jadeehm
3 жыл бұрын
@@moonlite1752 😳 It’s her mindset that needs checking??? Okay🙄
@sydneyjackson9037
3 жыл бұрын
Say that shit! You are so right lol
@daughterofthemosthighgod1889
3 жыл бұрын
That part 😂😂
@sampa2nyc
3 жыл бұрын
Ms. Shirleen said, "If you got a bonnet on you ain't wash your tail, I believe that." "You got on house shoes and a bonnet? You ain't wash your tail." LOL
@anitabrown9344
3 жыл бұрын
That’s exactly what Ms. Shirleen said 😂
@lindsayblair5181
3 жыл бұрын
I'm with that thought 🤣
@nayakiabates8814
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly, I don’t think anyone takes a good bath groom themselves all up and then put a bonnet and pjs on 😂😂 just don’t believe it!!!
@Bee-pg1fv
3 жыл бұрын
Who is Ms Shirleen?
@areyoublind2502
3 жыл бұрын
😆😆😆
@LvlyLJ
3 жыл бұрын
I’m showing my age, but I remember a time when it was required to dress up in order to fly on planes. But to the topic: dress in the manner that commands respect.
@annabriggs301
3 жыл бұрын
I don’t know my mom always said don’t wear rollers are house shoes outside, people are watching and stereo typing and talking so that being said if you dress good, if you look good, than you do good. Blessings to all from a 65 year old.
@MrsButtersworth82
3 жыл бұрын
Monique saying something I’ve said years ago. I don’t lose sleep over this but I hate seeing folks with bonnets on in public.
@kaystar3434
3 жыл бұрын
I cannot stand it!
@syllocs
3 жыл бұрын
It’s a bonnet you sleep in to protect your hair call it what it is......A Damn Sleep Cap To Protect Your Hair!
@natinapowell7990
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@jllsdoe
3 жыл бұрын
I actually agree with Monique to an extent. I don't think that covering our hair is the issue. I think there are ways to cover our hair that appear less 'lazy' than the bonnet. There are so many ways to tie up hair scarves in various prints that are super creative and look more neat. The bonnet really does look more homely primarily because of the scrunched up edge. I don't view a bonnet as a hat. It's house wear to me.
@ladybugblack
3 жыл бұрын
THANK YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU DAMN🙄
@angelb1120
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!!! You can hook up a nice scarf/headwrap and look presentable. Check out the too many to count tutorials on KZitem if you don't know how. Dress how you want to be addressed.
@NaturallyKandiilicious
3 жыл бұрын
I just don’t want to carry what I wear in my bed to the outside world with general population and their general germs. Then to bring that same bonnet and carry it back inside my home and lay it on my pillow....nah can’t do it lol.
@gloriagrace2555
3 жыл бұрын
This! When I was pregnant I would go to the doctor at 2 in the evening.. I would see woman wearing pajamas and bonnet. It literally look like they roll out of bed and went to the doctor. Just to leave the doctor office to get back in the bed. Grems grems.. Just nasty..
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
I dont wear pjs to bed.
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
@@gloriagrace2555 i would never wear pjs to the dr.
@atherbest
3 жыл бұрын
That's how I feel when I see people out with bedroom shoes on. People literally spit, urinate, number 2 and throw up on the ground. Not to mention animals too and you being that back into your home. I have a no shoes rule in my home
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
@@atherbest some ppl dont wear house shoes in there house.
@Cocoamama03
3 жыл бұрын
I agree with what she said. For me the issue is we have gotten away from being able to be corrected by our elders and can't take constructive criticism. The village can't hold us accountable any longer without ppl getting in their feelings. We see how the village not being able to talk to us has caused our village to be in shambles right now. So it is bigger than the bonnet.
@DoubleAA82
3 жыл бұрын
yes, all of this!!
@lroberts6481
3 жыл бұрын
This is the comment, right here!
@kimmiet1980
3 жыл бұрын
I completely agree!
@BeautifulQueona
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@ShayMac311
3 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@cous516
3 жыл бұрын
When Big Mama was living certain things just were NOT allowed! You were to be clean, neat and respectable in every way outside of your home.
@angelicjames
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@tyriexs5
3 жыл бұрын
Bc slavery taught big mama her looks MATTERED more than her bank account
@craigharris4792
3 жыл бұрын
That 👏 Part 👏!!!!!! My grandma always told me you need to look like where you going!
@PositiveRaina
3 жыл бұрын
@@tyriexs5 You trying it!
@sjlewis271
3 жыл бұрын
Big Mama allowed cheating, domestic violence, ignoring mental illness, gambling in her home, teen pregnancy, and dropping out of school to "raise a family" as well. Let me know when y'all will be bringing that back. I'll gladly become a Kardashian that day. A lil blque sometimes. 😒
@trishonya
3 жыл бұрын
The people that was raised strict I guess decided they didn’t want to be strict with their kids because they wished their parents weren’t strict…so there you have it! I’m an older parent and I’m teaching my girls at 3 and one year old that we don’t leave the house lookin crazy and your hair will be combed no matter what! They are a representation of me and my husband so don’t leave here lookin crazy!
@rockelliajohnson2607
3 жыл бұрын
I'm still trying to fathom the thought of people CHOOSING to wear pajamas and bonnets outside like it's okay.
@sljcsu
3 жыл бұрын
Coming out the house with a bonnet, pajamas and house shoes on, tells me you didn't wash up!
@barbara60626
3 жыл бұрын
That part
@latececo09
3 жыл бұрын
This happened during the “ No fuck given era” when everyone was becoming so comfortable, we forgot to “give fucks” about how we represent ourselves rather than what people think of us in general. Love your videos Q. Wish you even more success than you have. 🥰
@lakitawashington3161
3 жыл бұрын
Ohhh... yes sis. We forgot to be queens!!!
@tbrowwnn
3 жыл бұрын
A much needed conversation that needs to continue to be had. We have to get I the habit of speaking up and not just staying quiet. Our community will continue to suffer from our silence and complicity when we know it's wrong 🤷🏾♀️
@salishahaynes
3 жыл бұрын
Hood is as hood does. It tacky it’s a protective hair garment. It’s not the same as a bloody hat
@vivelavidalivelife3617
3 жыл бұрын
U would have to be from the hood to be hood.
@lemonlover9164
3 жыл бұрын
This whole bonnet situation is no different from the sagging pants situation. We as BF need to do better. Peridot!
@kawaiipotatolewis9507
3 жыл бұрын
Nah I can’t think of no good reason for saggy pants, that’s just disgusting (to me). However, I could understand if someone had to wear their bonnet outside.
@lemonlover9164
3 жыл бұрын
@@kawaiipotatolewis9507 - Oh I agree with you. What I’m saying is this.... people who sag swear by they style and sagging is still popular. Regardless if we agree or not, the conversation was needed. Hopefully some women will be more conscious about wearing them in public as much. It was just crazy to me how people attacked Monique because she was coming from a loving place. Ijs
@kawaiipotatolewis9507
3 жыл бұрын
@@lemonlover9164 gotcha!
@neknek4121
3 жыл бұрын
I think the bonnet is fine depending on where you are example the airport should be fine because you will probably be sleep at some point but I see ppl at doctor appointments and court houses I don’t agree with those type of places but to each its on
@lemonlover9164
3 жыл бұрын
@@kawaiipotatolewis9507 - we may not find a good reason to wear sagging pants but the ones wearing them feel strongly about their style and can care less what we think or say, Ijs Im just glad Monique addressed the situation and hopefully it will touch some women nerves and they’ll do better when it comes to certain places
@bellzzzzz
3 жыл бұрын
I agree with her. There’s a time & place for everything.
@dbajanredhead
3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. It's not a hat and it's ghetto af.
@mzlo2057
3 жыл бұрын
She is so right.Pajamas.bonnets and slippers out in the street.Sistas get your self together.
@mzlo2057
3 жыл бұрын
And the same slippers you wear in the house your out in the street with them on.Pjs you wear to bed your strolling around in the supermarket with them on.its so low life .
@brandygee9954
3 жыл бұрын
@@mzlo2057 That's so nasty.
@wave_Dee
3 жыл бұрын
I agree with her also. It's not appealing, I don't care how tired I am or how hard life get, I would never be caught outside with a bonnet. I don't wear them period, but I do own a couple
@RVX1989
3 жыл бұрын
18:17 Is the truth no one wants to talk about. Thank you for seeing both sides of this situation and going against the grain. Every second of this video needed to be said! 👏🏾
@Spring_Flowerrrrs
3 жыл бұрын
In 2021, Black Women just about TIRED of people policing our freakin hair! The issue with your point #2 is an opinion based off a few, they do not represent the majority. Idk when y’all gonna learn to stop playing into this social system of acceptable politics to make your Colonizers more comfortable.
@honeybee8929
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly Monique didn’t say anything wrong We don’t just represent ourselves We represent our families and our race
@truthseekerForever
3 жыл бұрын
She was on point! Take off those damn bonnets!
@MadamMo2u
3 жыл бұрын
Ok 🤣🤣🤣
@naturallydee8112
3 жыл бұрын
She is definitely on to something. It's getting out of control! If yo mama won't teach you, somebody has to. The village is in full effect!✍🏽🙏🏽🔥🖤
@GuyAye
3 жыл бұрын
The gag is about 17 years ago, I walked into footlocker in Dallas and saw Monique sitting on the bench in foot locker with a head wrap and a struggle ponytail 😂😂😂😂😂
@wanda01141
3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣
@moniquewest3277
3 жыл бұрын
And a head wrap is equivalent to a bonnet how? And you said 17 years ago, not 17 days ago. If you have no growth in 17 years then you are a lost cause.
@harmoneypeters
3 жыл бұрын
Examine what is said not who is saying it African proverb
@adelaidet4218
3 жыл бұрын
I’m part of the younger generation however I have always associated bonnets as something only used for sleep and if worn outside the house it was ghetto to me also bc girls who did that always had the additional attributes that Dineva touched on, it wasn’t just about the bonnet. Me personally I was raised to step out into the world looking presentable and first impressions matter. Now have I stepped out my house in sweats and just looking a mess yes but it’s always still looked presentable one way or another. Another thing with this generation that annoys me is that they’ve completely let go of guidance and have this whole “I do what I want” attitude even when they’re completely in the wrong. This all about me attitude lacks common decency and common sense. Let me not go on a rant bc there I go sounding like an old head and complaining about my generation 😂 but I completely agree that bonnets, house slippers, etc. Should only be worn at your yard, period.
@SimplyaLady92
3 жыл бұрын
My generation was like this too hun, we just grew up 😘 good luck
@besmithj167
3 жыл бұрын
I see no lies here🤷🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️
@zanobiizanobia
3 жыл бұрын
Very well said 👏🏼👏🏼 representation is everything especially for our culture. Lord knows they already have their stereotypes about us
@Jazzde
3 жыл бұрын
It's not like the past generations had guidance either and once you are an adult you get to make your own decisions. That is the very same concept that led to change. Today's generation isn't doing anything different than the past generations.
@SimplyaLady92
3 жыл бұрын
@@Jazzde 👏
@msnikinell5818
3 жыл бұрын
We had structure and decorum in the 70's, 80's and early 90's. Decorum: "behavior in keeping with good taste and propriety."
@rubysbaby822
3 жыл бұрын
That’s a lie. It was head scarves or rollers before. They talked about that too. There was always something. Meanwhile our men been sagging pants for decades and we just act like that’s ok.
@veemiller8525
3 жыл бұрын
There was definitely structure and boundaries back then. We live in a world where anything goes....no rules, no pride, no expectations, no standards. It's sad. This is not a generalization. This statement does not represent all black folks of course. But far too many of us have fallen victim to trends, no matter how dumb.
@cjjones6264
3 жыл бұрын
@@rubysbaby822 yup. agreed. thanks for saying that. I come from way back in the 60's, and unless I slept through those 30 year's, the 70's, 80's, 90's. I aine see all that! Ya know.... there's some people out there who will even go so far back as to tell you that Black People were better, and at our best when we were Slaves! #RealTalk! Like... wth! That #CounterfeitNostalgia. I aint gone lie: some of this idea is true, that we become more morally bankrupt as a people, with each new generation - BUT IT AINT A BLACK THING! It's a social thing! it's an **Evolution of the Human Race** thing! So our people need to stop telling ourselves that we are The Immoral Beasts of Society! geeze! Except, maybe for a few minor subtleties, we are no worse than any other group of people!
@Thundercattt
3 жыл бұрын
My high school best friend still does this.. she literally wore the bonnet EVERYWHERE. To the movies, out to eat, mall, work.. EVERYWHERE. It’s sad to say that after 18 years of friendship (we’re 30+) she still wears a bonnet to those places 🤦🏾♀️..no amount of talking to and being around me for so long I thought she would have gave it up
@misswest2285
3 жыл бұрын
I get protecting your hair. But it's the whole look of I just got out the bed and didn't wash my ass look for me 🤷🏾♀️. You gave a good word. Everything you said was true! Thank you
@shelceyhampton5253
3 жыл бұрын
One of my best friends recently made a FB post about hearing her late mother's voice say "dont leave this house lookin like who shot john" and we had a good laugh about how our moms had a standard for how they presented themselves and I'm thankful for it
@Theenrichmentlab
3 жыл бұрын
Honestly, we should encourage our daughters to look and be their best at all times. It's how you present yourself to the world. There could be a fated meeting that could change your life that day. 🙏🏽
@Jay_490
3 жыл бұрын
it affects how you feel about yourself as well! Its a mental health boost and overall confidence boost
@bladeowens
3 жыл бұрын
Totally agree! I always have my face beat and dressed to the 9 when I travel!!! But I’m also in my 50’s. I do wear very fashionable African head wraps when running errands.However, I do dress it up with a nice shirt.
@JohnSmith-xg9wx
3 жыл бұрын
Daughters AND sons.
@PHOENIX980567
3 жыл бұрын
@@bladeowens Yes. A fashionable head wrap is not the same as a bonnet. They wear that on runways
@Theenrichmentlab
3 жыл бұрын
@@bladeowens 💃🏽😊
@kedeeky
3 жыл бұрын
I’ll put my scarf on to lay my edges and drive to work, and I’ll wear a bonnet to sleep, but I’m not one to wear either out and about in the streets. I also grew up seeing women with a scarf or wrap paper while making a quick run. I can’t dictate what people do, I just know what I will and won’t do as a person. I agree, usually when I see a bonnet I see a whole bunch of other tomfoolery with the entire presentation. The bonnet ain’t even the issue in those cases, some of these women need an overall overhaul on how they present themselves. People wanna fight the stereotype instead of fighting the things that continue to give the credence. Your point about the association was spot on.
@atboptimistic-6853
3 жыл бұрын
Some of these young girls do not care how they present themselves. They simply lack standards and decorum. Unfortunately, you are judged by your appearance and how you carry yourself. An ounce of prevention equals a pound of cure baby.
@aliyah7148
3 жыл бұрын
My grandmother didn’t play about wearing bonnets or scarves (unless the scarf looked nice); and no wearing pajamas and robes etc
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