It breaks my heart hearing Ariel talk about being confident in the moment then seeing the pictures and not feeling good about them. I feel ya, girl.
@LightningSquad
3 жыл бұрын
I uploaded my Face Reveal.....
@Trixiewin
3 жыл бұрын
Honestly, same :(
@sasaazn
3 жыл бұрын
Saaaame, I never take pictures of myself because I hate the way I look on pictures lol And they looked way more stunning than me and I don't even have kids ahaha
@DC-wx6qy
3 жыл бұрын
Especially since they all killed it!
@Pinkcatlullaby
3 жыл бұрын
Same. I know that feel
@inaynaycoleman
2 жыл бұрын
That “feeling hot while taking the pictures and wanting to cry when you see them” process is SO real, no matter how hot you are everyone has a bad angle and finding it hurts on a new level😭
@raissasantosa
2 жыл бұрын
FR and wondering to myself “i really look like this?” BUT we have to remember to always love our body for what it do for us not just for how it looks
@littleleah310
Жыл бұрын
Fr
@alba5158
3 жыл бұрын
I think more mom's should hear Rachel talking about being a whole person as a mom. Her speech about her kids that stop being a part of her and more a part of the world... So inspiring
@hannahcollins1816
3 жыл бұрын
That really led me to think about so many people I know who have been moms for so long that when their kids leave they panic. Maybe that's why; they let their individual self fade and were just "mom" and then didn't know what to do with that once they didn't have to fully be "mom" anymore
@sofiaoutandabout
3 жыл бұрын
That's what terrifies me the most about having kids. I don't want to become Mom™️, I am so scared of losing my self identity. Finding myself, who I am, was such an important struggle in my life, and such a joy when I finally became fully confident in my identity! It terrifies me to lose all of that and just be... Mom.
@mitchislostagain
3 жыл бұрын
Right!? I out loud said "wow, yeah!" When she said that
@emeraldbuilder8830
3 жыл бұрын
Rachel is a f*cking icon and I love her
@TheShauNanigans
3 жыл бұрын
This is how I felt every time I watched a fellow teammate quit roller derby because their kid was at the age where they were joining sports teams or just becoming more active. So them as a mom had to quit the league to accommodate their children's hobbies. I wish not a single one of them ever had to quit for that reason. Of course your kids should have their hobbies too, but parents should not have to stop what they enjoy just because they have kids. Maybe they can't go to as many practices or whatever their hobby is, but there should be a way for a kid to be on a dance team or whatever and a mom to still do what she enjoys. This is especially true if there are 2 active parents in the equation.
@averyeml
2 жыл бұрын
Okay but Rachel talking about how it’s important to keep yourself a whole person when you have kids because eventually they’ll be their own people and you have to be a person without them again? I love that because all you usually hear is how you should be your child’s everything by having everything of you be about them. You can adore your children and give them everything you want and still be an actual person.
@wgraham2410
2 жыл бұрын
I LOVED that quote when she was saying it in the video. I think it was SO spot on.
@anniekallen4472
2 жыл бұрын
So true. My mom never really had her own identity. She always identified herself through her children. She even used my sister's name to create her first email address back in the day. Then when all her kids grew up, she completely imploded. Her alcoholism got worse and everything fell apart for her. We're trying to help her build her own identity (and get help for her addiction) but it isn't easy.
@bunny.0311
2 жыл бұрын
As new mom, this was the most helpful comment about motherhood. In the past months I have forgotten how to take care of myself because I have been so focused on my new baby. In order for me to be the best mom I have to be the best me. 💕💕
@breetoldyouso
2 жыл бұрын
It's also super important for their relationship when the kids get older!! A lot of that "rebellion" stage comes from trying to find your own identity apart from your parents. Being encouraged to be an individual and not an extension of someone else is imperative for healthy development. Rachel is awesome!
@unionunicorn6776
2 жыл бұрын
She is so right too. I had a mom that did that and it’s actually extremely toxic. I wanted my mom to have friends, have hobbies, be her own person! But she was solely focused on raising us and that was the only thing “keeping her alive.” Don’t do this to your kids! Don’t pressure them to be your everything.
@sarahcoleman5269
3 жыл бұрын
Respect to the fact that not once did they have Ned, or any other SO, come in to say "I like this" or "I think you look hot". Because this isn't about what other people think, or whether the SO loves them for them, it's about them loving themselves and the bodies they have.
@andrewentwistle867
3 жыл бұрын
I was thinking the exact same thing! It made me beyond happy to see women supporting women and women supporting themselves in this
@owen9510
3 жыл бұрын
Definitely. Although, I’m waiting for the next Try Wives baby announcement when the SOs see these photos. 😂
@reloreo2899
3 жыл бұрын
This. So much this
@itscarriebomb
3 жыл бұрын
And you KNOW Ned would have absolutely done that! Probably even WANTED to, LOL! But did you see Eugene's like on Ariel's photo? I know it's a small thing, but I found it so heartwarming!
@RiveroftheWither
3 жыл бұрын
Besides, we already know Ned "My Wife" Fulmer thinks she's a hot momma.
@lizzyking4042
3 жыл бұрын
Not gonna lie, the one where they’re leaning over the balcony is *chefs kiss. Like, if I look like that ever. Not even after kids, I would be so pleased. I love how supportive everyone at the shoot was. How many women are supporting women and it’s amazing to see everyone coming together. Also how open they are about how they actually felt about the photos. You ladies are amazing. We love you all xx
@schraeder22
3 жыл бұрын
@oeufdufromage What's your problem?
@thebarefoothobbit
3 жыл бұрын
@oeufdufromage they have perfect bodies wtf are you "puking" about?
@peppermintbee
2 жыл бұрын
Don't think about wanting to look like them, thinking about wanting to embrace what you look like! We are all gorgeous in our bodies and their is nothing so empowering in this world as loving your body for what it is and what it does in every stage!
@aliciamarie6309
3 жыл бұрын
“Oh because you’re a human with skin?” Hit so hard. I wish I could see my body that way. Rachel is such an inspiration to moms.
@chepan83
2 жыл бұрын
Even to those of us who aren't moms, her words were really powerful in this.
@erinrichard3545
2 жыл бұрын
I'm not even a mom, but I LOVE what Rachel said about making sure she is still her own person, so when her daughters grow up and become their own people, she isn't left with just a shell and like she's lost herself.
@anaruiz6036
2 жыл бұрын
I think that’s one of the hardest things to come to terms with. Society makes us think we are JUST moms, and being anything else makes us a “bad” mom. And then you have to make the time to find yourselves again because our aren’t the same person anymore. 😩 the stress thinking about it is enough lol
@TattoedKiss
Жыл бұрын
Yes. Before I had my baby spend time with lots of moms and most of them didn't had a persona anymore. They were reduced for society to be a "mom" and everything outside that was selfishness. You want to go and learn a new language? Shame on you, how dare you to have interests that go beyond milking your tits?
@lexichanel1
Жыл бұрын
That’s what happened to my mom. She put every piece of herself into raising us and her entire identity was being a mom. She was so lost when we all moved out and went into a depression. We’re all in our 30’s now and she’s still not the same. It scares me to become a mom because I don’t want to lose myself like that.
@jenngranados825
Жыл бұрын
That happened to my mom 😢 and now that all of her kids we now have family and jobs she feels super lonely especially after she divorced my dad I try to encourage her to find things she enjoys doing on her own but at her age I feel like she is completely lost and alone 😢
@chichibbamon8881
Жыл бұрын
Lets start a go fund me to put a hit on Alex
@trishads6670
3 жыл бұрын
Ariel: "I'm leaving the house thinking... are my children alive?" 😆
I feel like moms do a lot of beauty shoots before/during pregnancy, but this is the first one I've seen celebrating the beauty of women after pregnancy. This should be thing that happens more often
@alexisfuller1503
3 жыл бұрын
I actually never thought about that before, you're so right!
@cloudy711
2 жыл бұрын
@@alexisfuller1503 1q1QqW2
@SAmaryllis
3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciated the candid talk about not wanting to disappear, about wanting to be a whole self after your kids are grown - that's so important
@nicolek1974
3 жыл бұрын
I came here to exactly say this! While the women look beautiful and the pictures look great, I took more from that one sentence than anything else.
@YoMama9021
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah my mother in law is kind of a shell of herself and it’s really sad to see.
@sonias9846
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah I know alot of ppl who forget about themselves. N only identify as a mom
@Dino_NeverBow
2 жыл бұрын
Ned doesn't deserve Ariel. This woman is too precious. Poor Ariel. Suffering through an affair but also knowing that everyone knows.
@mekennahthorsnes6288
2 жыл бұрын
not even to mention it was like to a younger girl who hadn't birthed kids and that just creates a whole new level of insecurity. so sad, hope her and the kids are doing well
@kathleenloranger8402
2 жыл бұрын
And did you listen to Alex was cheering them on in the shoot…. Awkward
@shaynevalderrama-roberto6178
2 жыл бұрын
And there she is with that girl in one frame. How does Alex feel about this video now? so sad for Ariel
@heatherpolley8501
2 жыл бұрын
@@shaynevalderrama-roberto6178 cheaters lack any sense of empathy or compassion or they wouldn't be able to do what they so. The sad truth is she is either unbothered while looking back, or it even makes her feel good. And its the same for Ned. They don't care about others, only themselves.
@rachiegoodman
Жыл бұрын
@@mekennahthorsnes6288 Alex is only a few years younger than Ariel, so i'm not so sure age has anything to do with this
@TiaunaT
3 жыл бұрын
I’m hearing them criticize their bodies and I’m just so shocked. I can’t even tell they had children, they look GOOD.
@cjt9834
3 жыл бұрын
I said the exact same thing - and I stopped myself and said "parents' have all kinds of bodies" - but it's true! What they're saying is so important, I just wish at least 1 of them was bigger than like a size 12 (adjusting for stupid sizing at some brands)...
@katrinamarie3316
3 жыл бұрын
And there’s nothing wrong with looking like you’ve had children. Actually, there’s so much right and beautiful about that. How amazing 🤩
@KaishiAxon
3 жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly. They are all gorgeous. Also this highlights that a good photographer doesn't need a lot of editing to make a good image. (ALSO, I have to highlight that Photo Editing / Photo Collage / Composite Photography / Photo Mosaics are all WILDLY different artforms from Photography. It's so sad to me that people treat them as all one artform.)
@GornStream
2 жыл бұрын
you live in LA? lol place is filled with judgemental plastic humans and after a while it DOES affect your self worth inception style.
@TiaunaT
2 жыл бұрын
@@GornStream from the south so absolutely cannot relate lol. We all aspire to have more weight not less lol
@MonicaDG
3 жыл бұрын
I think Ariel’s cellulite in the photo that had the “unflattering” light is absolutely beautiful and that photo was stunning
@cassieacres1337
3 жыл бұрын
I thought the same about Rachel’s photo that she hated- so beautiful...it also says something about love of her own body...and love is beautiful. ❤️❤️
@treehugger9070
3 жыл бұрын
Right she looked SOO good , like a goddess!
@meghan_shew3360
3 жыл бұрын
Same! I Love the photo! I don't think it looked bad at all! Also Rachel's photos on the board were great! I'm bigger than all of those women and it broke my heart to hear them talk about their bodies that way. They are all soooo gorgeous! 💕💕💕
@mandad8442
3 жыл бұрын
I love the lighting and her legs looked amazing!!! I loved the pool girl concept
@keilahdraper8780
3 жыл бұрын
Me too!
@_terreessaa
3 жыл бұрын
When Rachel talked about not wanting to end up an empty vessel when her children grow up and live their lives I cried. So relatable!
@cindyvaughn6211
3 жыл бұрын
I cried too
@beatrizpena899
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@lisaslusher790
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah I already know that’s going to be me 😭
@treina8341
3 жыл бұрын
My daughter is turning 16 and I'm so scared for her to be 18. Who will I be? I'm a mom that's my identité. I don't like who I was before her
@samanthalong1517
3 жыл бұрын
Saaaaaaame! Came here to say this.
@adhira_nair
2 жыл бұрын
9:17 Alex helped filming this video where Ariel is literally talking about her insecurities and struggles that come up with pregnancy/ motherhood. Damn it feels so fucking strange to watch this given all the history now. She knew damn well what she was doing and did it anyways. Disgusting. Ned don't deserve Ariel.
@mariem8705
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, they knew each other before working together and Alex made a comment about post Malone. They were at a club and she kept pushing him to hang out when he didn’t want to and wanted to respect his baby’s mother.
@DaiizR
2 жыл бұрын
Alex is a disgusting person for this. She knew damn well what she was doing . Ned and Alex deserve the worst.
@joecarom391
2 жыл бұрын
Did Alex and Ned already hook up with each other when this was filmed?
@agm631
2 жыл бұрын
@@joecarom391 - It's been going on for over a year so yes, most likely.
@radiant9010
2 жыл бұрын
She was right behind hee at 00:16. Sad to know someone close to you did this …
@cielxo
3 жыл бұрын
i cried the moment they started talking about the “flaws” in the photos, but it was also extremely comforting in a way, because it hit a little too close. as women, all these expectations are so heavy on us to the point it messes with your mind and ruins any kindness you try to have for yourself. knowing i’m not the only one is amazing and hearing them talk themselves out of those thoughts was so beautiful and inspiring. what a wonderful video💗
@linda_jac
3 жыл бұрын
I was going to write a comment just like this but you’ve nailed it. I feel the exact same way.
@geetikadas8012
3 жыл бұрын
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@stargazer4293
3 жыл бұрын
Saaaaaame!
@melissamcguire4855
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed ❤️
@RedoNation
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve done photo shoots too to try to get over body insecurities. But then there’s also moments seeing the photos of “I’m not as hot as I felt. I thought I was attractive. I’m seeing the flaws and realizing it’s all true. All those negative thoughts about myself are true.” But it’s so worth it and fun. Show yourself grace!
@thevioletgirl4506
3 жыл бұрын
I am HERE FOR THIS. Positive Mom content that isn’t just focused on childbirth or the baby is just so inspiring. Learning how to take thirst trap photos is just a bonus.
@LightningSquad
3 жыл бұрын
I uploaded my Face Reveal.....
@tryguys
3 жыл бұрын
'PROOF OF MOM'
@Trixiewin
3 жыл бұрын
@@tryguys Mhm :)
@pumarox95
3 жыл бұрын
I swearrr. I'm not even a mom but I felt the power in this video. Go Mommies!! ❤️🙌
@lunesatnine
3 жыл бұрын
YES!!! ❤
@YBChangOfficial
3 жыл бұрын
You ladies killed it!! So beautiful 🥺❤️ Loved working on this project. Hope everyone can find the confidence and beauty in themselves 🥰
@teeheehello9019
3 жыл бұрын
This video was so lovely, and your editing was perfect ❤
@jyu6977
3 жыл бұрын
Aww YB
@waywardmind
3 жыл бұрын
YB, you did an unbelievably extraordinary job editing this video. I hope people appreciate that.
@ariana_.x._cutie2467
2 жыл бұрын
@johnnytsunami420
2 жыл бұрын
We support Ariel in this household
@paolabonnabel1005
2 жыл бұрын
To me Ariel is and always will be in the Try Family, f**k Ned and Alex, they're out.
@tuckingfypo15319
Жыл бұрын
Yesss we LOVE ariel❤️❤️❤️
@chichibbamon8881
Жыл бұрын
Lets start a go fund me to put a hit on Alex Like if you agreeeee
@hedwig109
Жыл бұрын
are they dropping Ariel..? or is she just (understandably) taking a break? it's so sad, she's the OG try wife. she's the momma bear of the trywives. and she didn't do anything to warrant her losing any of the opportunities from SecondTry..
@tuckingfypo15319
Жыл бұрын
@@hedwig109 they offered to come back on the try pod but I'm not sure about the channel. I'd say she's just taking a break and figuring things out
@christinealcorin3918
3 жыл бұрын
The way Rachel talks about how her wish for her kids is to see these photos back and get inspired with how she lived this moment made me tear up. I grew up with an overly critical mother who always had something to say about everything that I did or looked, and this entire video felt so comforting for me and encouraging to love myself more. Thank you ladies for putting yourself out there, you are so inspiring for all women and girls. 💙
@elissaaldrich5762
3 жыл бұрын
YES! She said that and I went back and listened again so I could commit it to memory! It's going to be a mantra for me now.
@ballboy20021
3 жыл бұрын
Who asked
@Pocketsand99
3 жыл бұрын
@@ballboy20021 your mom
@koyktty
3 жыл бұрын
@@Pocketsand99 *OOOOOOOOOOOH*
@itscarriebomb
3 жыл бұрын
"I grew up with an overly critical mother who always had something to say about everything that I did or looked" Girl, SAME. Even now, my mother will not think twice about calling my cousin a "chubbette" behind her back and it drives me insane wondering what she says about ME behind MINE. Hugs, hugs, and more hugs to you.
@ttolmie1
3 жыл бұрын
What’s so wild about this is when they are picking out the pictures each woman is hyping up the others but tearing themselves down. All the other two are seeing is positives “omg look at your face! Look at how perfect your boobs are!” And then it’s them saying how insecure those things make them. And it’s like…if we all started treating ourselves like we would our friends there would be far less damage done to ourselves.
@simsamsammie
3 жыл бұрын
+
@rekaberegi2511
3 жыл бұрын
such an underrated comment
@the.muffin
3 жыл бұрын
thiss
@kelseymackellar3881
3 жыл бұрын
Sadly most women get taught to tear themselves down through life and media. I agree we need to start treating ourselves as we treat others
@fantasylover87
3 жыл бұрын
There was a phrase that my therapist told me that really helped: you have to be your own friend. If someone spoke to your friends the way you talk to yourself, would you rush to defend them?
@BibbidiBobbidiByyyye
3 жыл бұрын
Rachel talking about remaining a whole person as her kids grow up and become their own people is honestly the message I think every mom needs to hear. You are still your own person, and you have the right to take care of yourself as one.
@eclare1195
3 жыл бұрын
I'm not yet a mom but I think that is the most precious advice I will always remember when I happen to be one.
@krissyleinen
3 жыл бұрын
Right!? I was like “geez Rachel is so wise!”
@maxventunosei5017
Жыл бұрын
Agree, my mom did not and I don't wish it to anyone :(
@foragingsonny
2 жыл бұрын
Ariel talking about her insecurities to the world, just to have her husband cheat on her is so cruel. He should’ve been the one to make her feel beautiful every day, especially after giving birth to two kids. She was vulnerable and didn’t have a partner to back her up. He can say “my wife” all he wants, but words don’t cover up betrayal. We love you, Ariel 🤍
@allisonhunter1063
Жыл бұрын
I have a few friends who are very sweet, and anytime I say something negative about my body they always ask me what I'm high on lol. I know I don't have the body of a supermodel and that's okay, most of us don't. So I'd say that today, I love my body more than I ever did when I was skinny. I'm taking better care of my body for me, and want to make some changes, but bc of them, I don't feel like I need to. Get some friends like that.
@abigailmaturana741
Жыл бұрын
its probably just me, but i felt like he hasnt said “my wife” in a long while before this came up, not like before
@chichibbamon8881
Жыл бұрын
Lets start a go fund me to put a hit on Alex
@geministargazer9830
3 жыл бұрын
They’re all so gorgeous, it’s so sad that they don’t see it.
@carolvazquez3756
3 жыл бұрын
A,en
@jaytatoe1296
3 жыл бұрын
Ariel is such a natural model! She just gets it - the angles and poses. She exudes confidence and light and I just want to keep looking - magnetic. 😍
@Katalytic_reactr
3 жыл бұрын
Ned, is that you? 😉
@amandadeemer7084
3 жыл бұрын
And the fact that she exudes the confidence so well, even when she isn't feeling that confident, is truly a natural talent. Or she is a leo lol
@salvetre3966
3 жыл бұрын
They all are 😍💓💓
@TheCraftofPetra
3 жыл бұрын
Indeed
@sienjansen6354
3 жыл бұрын
I remember just looking at Instagram like: FUCKING FIERCENESS ALL AROUND
@LightningSquad
3 жыл бұрын
I uploaded my Face Reveal.....
@emmaj4376
3 жыл бұрын
the fact that woman said ‘my sister hasn’t shaved for a month’ shows the fact women feel obliged to do that. if she doesn’t shave for a month who cares? it’s hair it grows and shouldn’t be embarrassing to have.
@ZairaBandy
2 жыл бұрын
well, society has been telling this for yeaaaaaaaaaars so yes. we have this standards engrained in our minds. Is hard to let go of them.
@emmaj4376
2 жыл бұрын
absolutely it’s completely due to society but it’s sad and shouldn’t be frowned upon. sometimes i get it’s a choice but mostly it’s forced and it’s so sad!
@breadsrights6824
2 жыл бұрын
@ordinaryandhuman yeah a friend of mine who is Japanese said a lot of woman (including herself) don’t shave their underarms and private area due to womanhood/other things
@honeyflann
2 жыл бұрын
tbh i didn't see it like that. i saw it as that being something that she just likes and wants to do for herself so not being able to do it would kinda suck
@jazlynmichelleraby7744
2 жыл бұрын
lowkey was thinking the same thing. Because I RARELY shave. and when she made that comment , it made me realize, "oh people really read into whether a person shaves or not.."
@nicholasallee3218
3 жыл бұрын
I love that there are no partner’s opinions, no men’s opinions, just how they felt and what they liked. And I love that the try guys hand off their channel for this kind of thing and don’t need to be the focus or overbearing.
@educatorally3875
3 жыл бұрын
I was kinda on the other end of that spectrum wondering about the opinions of their partners. After all, marriage is a unit. I do understand what you're saying though. I fully support women posting what they want without men commenting on it. I thought they were all so bad ass and absolutely stunning. It's a very real and relatable video that will connect with mom's and women all over the world.
@skylarsa
3 жыл бұрын
@@educatorally3875 marriage is a unit yes, but this isn't about their partners. It's about inner self confidence.
@sophiebell4758
3 жыл бұрын
@@skylarsa yeah but what affects that inner confidence? Right outside people. If u have a lot of people shaming u for how u look it will have a big impact on hoe u feel about yourself. I for example would have loved them showing the pictures they like the most to their partners. And for example both them and the partners say what they liked most, for example. When i look in the mirror, i feel good about my body. Sometimes more/ sometimes less. (I Lost 15kg and i am still on the way loosing more) But i would lie if i'd tell u, that my partner looking at the places of my body that i feel insecure about and telling me how he loves them, doesnt do something. The same way women can help each other overcome their insecurities, men can help us too.
@laurv6925
3 жыл бұрын
I can’t agree more!
@susanab7
3 жыл бұрын
There are plenty of male opinions (all good!) on their instagram but as we know with Ned and Ariel he thinks she's fantastic in every way!!
@sarahfullick9331
3 жыл бұрын
Just saying, we are gonna need merch that reads "I'm just a human person...who really likes pizza"
@katebutler6436
3 жыл бұрын
Yessss! Now that's something I would purchase! Love it.
@jdof1819
3 жыл бұрын
!!!!
@beth24421
3 жыл бұрын
Yes. We stand for pizza.
@natalkabanasova5983
3 жыл бұрын
Tell me you're a millenial without telling me you're a millenial xddd
@Gehslol
3 жыл бұрын
I never felt more emotional than when she said this line :')
@ashleyrodriguez5956
3 жыл бұрын
As a plus size woman, listening to them talk about feeling really good about their bodies during the photo shoot, but then having second thoughts after hit really close to home. I’ve always had really bad insecurities when it comes to my stretch marks and huge boobs, stomach, and thighs. When someone tells me they think I’m pretty, I can’t even muster up a thank you, because I just can’t believe their words. I know they think that, but it’s so hard to see myself as someone worthy of being called “beautiful”. This video really made me emotional and I’m sure it’s going to help so many women out there feel more powerful in our bodies. Ariel saying that it’s not wishing we could go back, but loving ourselves as we are will always stick with me. Knowing such beautiful women also have trouble with this is awful, but in a way it makes me feel way less alone. Thanking you guys so much for putting yourselves out there and I hope you know you’re sharing an amazing message.
@ally7711
2 жыл бұрын
Agreed! I used to (back in my wild days) seek out validation from any man I could find because I had never had that throughout the majority of my life, and I hated my body, so hearing someone else compliment me/feeling wanted was all I prioritized... definitely would not recommend that route; try to learn to love and embrace and be gentle with yourself before jumping into anything romantic, because if you don't it leaves you vulnerable to/probably also not a stellar partner :( I endured many boundary over-steppings (some SAs) and many heartbreaks from getting too invested into people who gave me attention but treated me incredibly poorly. It really wasn't until I started to realize I deserved someone who treated me better and loved me rather than used and dumped me that I found the guy I consider my soulmate. Even then, it was rocky to say the least until I started in therapy and addressed my traumas, my insecurities, and my anxieties, but I also have mental health struggles that used to really exacerbate that. Hope you find a sense of self love
@fieroboi6759
2 жыл бұрын
Shut up
@chepan83
2 жыл бұрын
I agree! It was hard at first to watch it but once I stepped back and checked myself, it was sooo good and on point.
@vangoto8326
2 жыл бұрын
What you said really hits home for me. My one friend is a photographer and I've done some photoshoots with her for fun. Each time, during the photoshoot I feel pretty and beautiful and happy. But every time I get the pictures back, I usually only see 1 or 2 that I actually think that I look ok in. And it means so much to me to know I'm not the only person that feels that way and is disappointed when they see the pictures of themselves where they thought they looked good
@alexrayne7930
2 жыл бұрын
I’m infuriated, truly, I’m tired of comparing myself to other women and hating my body.
@ivypatty
2 жыл бұрын
This really made my heart break :( I saw Ariel's effortless posing, Rachel's beautiful smile and Krisanne's ability to just rock everything she wears in every picture; I hope the good, confident days outnumber the bad in a wide margin, they all deserve to look at themselves and be beautiful
@justagalwhocomments
Жыл бұрын
Ariel is amaZing and for ned to cheat on her- like why
@sigmundtarrayo6088
3 жыл бұрын
Other than destroying toxic masculinity, one of the most commendable things that the Try Guys do is providing a platform for women, especially moms, showing that women are great or *even greater* than people usually assume.
@tamhuy10
3 жыл бұрын
@@al-Bismillah 😃you're such a great person
@kanakbakhru188
3 жыл бұрын
I 100 percent agree with you!!!!
@curlygurly2112
3 жыл бұрын
@@al-Bismillah that's exactly what a toxically masculine person would say 😌 congrats
@ruthaddictedtopjsk
3 жыл бұрын
@@al-Bismillah it's when people hate when men don't look "manly"
@teas3998
3 жыл бұрын
@@al-Bismillah Its the idea that men are greater because they are men, that there is a certain way men should act (tends to be homophobic, misogynistic, emotionless, muscular, etc). Its bad for both men and women honestly.
@hunniroid
3 жыл бұрын
normally not this early but seeing how this new vid discusses about moms’ still feeling insecure after giving birth breaks my heart. they’re all so beautiful & gorgeous!
@LightningSquad
3 жыл бұрын
I uploaded my Face Reveal.....
@allwingspoo
3 жыл бұрын
Oh man seriously. I'm a mother of two, and I am proud of my body for making babies, but I am so insecure of how I look. It's an awful feeling, but I am happy to have a video like this.
@nctzen_dazzler3716
3 жыл бұрын
@@LightningSquad No one asked
@katy8605
3 жыл бұрын
Also helped little ole me who is not a mom but has a "momlike" body type
@Li-um4zc
3 жыл бұрын
@@LightningSquad bro stop spamming the comment section, please no one cares.
@randimitzel-bines2869
3 жыл бұрын
Ok when Ariel said "I'm just disappearing." it made me cry because that's how I feel as a mom. Like who am I anymore? I loved this video and loved the thirst trap photos, so gorgeous ladies! Thank you for being so open and vulnerable with us all!
@aleandra3945
2 жыл бұрын
honestly i can see why ned talks about ariel all the time, she’s absolutely fabulous. all of them are beautiful, it’s sad that they don’t feel 100% confident in their bodies. thanks to all the ladies in the video for being open and vulnerable! moms need to be able to feel confident and sexy too!
@WhatUpTKHere
2 жыл бұрын
this comment didn't age well :(
@aleandra3945
2 жыл бұрын
@@WhatUpTKHere ariel and the boys deserve SO MUCH BETTER
@sophia_lilacheavenbby
Жыл бұрын
Ned really screwed up. Ariel is so beautiful how could he do that to her.
@littleleah310
Жыл бұрын
@@WhatUpTKHere fr
@KNGKNG7
Жыл бұрын
Ned wins Oscar Awards 2022 🥇
@MissFlurry.
3 жыл бұрын
I now understand why Ned talks about his wife so much
@techywill
3 жыл бұрын
Ned in nine months after seeing Ariel's posts: "I'd like to introduce you to little Candice and Cameron Fulmer"
@PScarin
3 жыл бұрын
She's stunningly beautiful
@No_aestheticly_pleasing_drinks
3 жыл бұрын
Omg yes
@selT02
3 жыл бұрын
@@techywill I cant 💀
@TheCraftofPetra
3 жыл бұрын
Yaas
@jessicaw9011
3 жыл бұрын
Ariel, dayum, girl, Ned isn't the only Fulmer who should be bragging about their booty!
@blackwolfharris3920
3 жыл бұрын
It seems to me that both Ned and Ariel have the best booties in the whole group.
@nkathryn93
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, Ned and Ariel are smokin. But so are the others, who don’t look like them. You don’t have to fit into that body type (or any body type) to be smokin, or feel good or brag about your body 🤗
@PersonTP
3 жыл бұрын
@@nkathryn93 they didn't say the others don't look good...
@UltimateKyuubiFox
3 жыл бұрын
@oeufdufromage Everything’s relative.
@xubs5919
3 жыл бұрын
@oeufdufromage someone had to bring race into this huh
@googoogaga4015
3 жыл бұрын
I’m not a mom or anything but just seeing their insecurities about their bodies and most woman’s insecurities being brought into a positive light is just so touching. When Ariel was talking about how she felt so gorgeous in the photos but then she looks back and sees herself and gets upset and embarrassed hits so close to home. I’ve felt like an idiot in past events because looking back on myself from outside my body is just so upsetting in cases where Ive tried to look pretty and felt that way too but then be absolutely buried alive with insecurities and shame. Recently I’ve found a new confidence in myself that i’ve never recognized before and though it doesn’t totally scrub away the cringing I get when looking at some photos of myself, I have a newfound love for being me. I’ve cried for hours and done so many impulse workouts because I felt horrible in my own skin enough where I wanted to tear it off. I’m so over normal bodies being bashed either by my own self or societies expectations of woman (or men.) I hate to sound cheesy but once you except yourself for the body you were given, love will start pouring in
@carolchavez5213
3 жыл бұрын
I grew up hating my body, my family would always make comments like "you look so skinny, are you sick?" "why don't you eat?" "don't ever use a bikini, your ribs look nasty"... Truth is I do eat more than anyone in my family, I've been to the doctor countless times cause I get really paranoid whenever I lose even half a kg, the doctors even derived me to therapist because they say my body is well balanced and I should try to love it, to this day I hate to see my legs, I think they look like tooth picks, I hate to see my torso and belly, because I swear I can see my ribs poking out (even if I'm the only one that sees them) and it's really hard to even see my face in the mirror sometimes... So everyone has big insecurities and I do understand how incredibly hard it is to learn to love who you are and recognize your reflexion and go "this is me, and I love this person" for me right now it's "this is me, I'm trying really hard, and that's something..."
@exs8241
3 жыл бұрын
@@carolchavez5213 Sending big love to both of you 💕💕💕
@aim.t
Жыл бұрын
Ned does not deserve Ariel at all and Alex listening to her talk about her insecurities makes it even more sad
@littleleah310
Жыл бұрын
I'll in my head 😅 Ii 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@littleleah310
Жыл бұрын
I'll change my password Ii 🤣🤣 I'll
@owen9510
3 жыл бұрын
Ariel: “This is so unnatural!” Also Ariel: *totally nailing it* All of these moms are total smoke shows.
@AxxLAfriku
3 жыл бұрын
SUPRISE! I am the funniest YTer evah!!!! Just kidding, it was no surprise. Everybody knew already. HAHAHHAHA!!!! That was an amazing joke (it was real talk though). WAWAWAWAWA!!!! Good afternoon, dear oqen
The channel may be "Try Guys" but over the years, the actual try guys have expanded and given their platform for other stories and narratives that are important. Outstandingly generous. I'd love to see more. I'd recommend a video about Maggie as a nurse and healthcare worker in the pandemic.
@makennayork6047
3 жыл бұрын
Wonderful input
@FTD0ES
3 жыл бұрын
I thought I was the only one thinkin bout that. Yes, Maggie and tribute to all the front liners workin their asses to keep everyone safe and healthy.
@nicolemh
3 жыл бұрын
I love the way Rachel talked about being a whole person as her kids grown up. That was so motivating for me to do the same thing. I have a 3 year old and a 4 month old.
@luxurypetscz
3 жыл бұрын
It reminded me of so many of my friends whose mums blame them for the fact that they stopped being their own women. They're not always bad people or bad parents, they just focused all of their energy in these other people and now they refuse to understand it's not the adult child's fault. I think it's incredibly important for mums to keep being other things than mums. I think ironically, it makes them better mums. If you have the opportunity to do things without the kids, to have someone babysit, go to that date, go have a spa day, go out and party for one night. Your children will have way easier transition to independance if you're not dependante on them to be happy ❤️ And that's one more advice on parenting from a stranger who has zero kids. I bet you don't get any of these as a mum lol (sarcasm)
@melt4435
3 жыл бұрын
I wish someone would've told me to take care of myself too. My son is now 26 and married and I am just now starting to find myself as a human being. I still have the sweat pant and baggy shirt days with a scrungy in my hair, but I am finding what kinds of clothes I like, what hairdos work for my hair, the makeup that looks good on my skin. so yes, keep yourself girl, so important for your self esteem.
@rileigh5642
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! I feel like no one talks about this bc it might seem like “oh you’re not giving all to your kid” when in reality it’s just like if you were in a relationship, you have to be a whole person in your own self.
@vanessawalker6666
3 жыл бұрын
I've seen many mom's who make their kids their entire lives. Then when they grow up, the mom's have nothing and end up either miserable or try to force their way into their kids lives in unhealthy ways. It's so important to never lose yourself
@liathicore
2 жыл бұрын
how did ned ever pull ariel i dont understand
@zvra5802
2 жыл бұрын
He never deserved someone as precious and beautiful as her and someone with an actual personality..
@syndira3692
Жыл бұрын
Asking the real questions
@dollienan
Жыл бұрын
because she excuses his behaviour because shes insecure and he takes advantage of that
@littleleah310
Жыл бұрын
Fr
@Game-td7wh
3 жыл бұрын
So glad that being out of BuzzFeed, we get to see content like this where we can hear what THEY THINK about the results of their content's production. It all feels so natural and positive to me.
@xmen4ever8290
3 жыл бұрын
When Ariel and Rachel were talking about how bad they felt about the pictures at the beginning of the video I literally gasped. They looked AMAZING!
@jasmingovers4403
3 жыл бұрын
Same! It's so sad that we women do this to ourselves too..
@lristau117
3 жыл бұрын
I would kill for a body as nice as theirs.
@zoinomiko
3 жыл бұрын
It's true! I definitely had to remind myself that being in LA and being in show business they get a quadruple whammy of "beauty standards BS" shoveled on them every day. It's hard not to judge someone for these kind of insecurities when they're all thinner than I've ever been, but everyone has their own journey and their own insecurities to overcome.
@kevinor8811
3 жыл бұрын
My wife gave birth to our first child in January. She has never been more beautiful to me. Every inch of her. You’re all amazing
@inchw0rm
3 жыл бұрын
@@lristau117 your body is great too and you can learn to love it also❤️❤️❤️ (a good first step imo is body neutrality!)
@Enoxix.
3 жыл бұрын
I think most comments here are from women, but I also can relate a bit. Having an eating disorder for the last 9 years, a weightnumber is still a thing for me. I’ve had so many ups and downs and now I’m at a part that I can luckily eat whatever I want, but downside is I eat everything at night in 1 go. Still how much I weigh in the morning really decides if I have a good or bad day. I’m happy I saw you girls talk about this and maybe this will change my way of looking at that number or even better just ignore the number completely! I always try to think: “Every little step is another step in getting out of this!”. 🙂
@owent2408
3 жыл бұрын
It's not my place to give advice that may be unsolicited to a complete stranger but I've gone through basically the same thing you have and I honestly think the best think one can do when they're in this position is to not constantly check the scale. Put it somewhere out of sight, and eat when it feels right for you. Trying to adjust your daily intake to what you see on the scale will absolutely drain you, and I think you'll really surprise yourself with how well you'll do when you just listen to your body. Regardless, I wish you all the best in overcoming your struggle.
@witchskee
3 жыл бұрын
Just posting this comment is a great step in, what I think is, the right direction. I don't know if I should say "I'm sorry" about your eating disorder, but I'm glad to hear you've made progress on getting out :) You said it yourself: baby steps! Rooting for you~
@Rose-xe7oj
3 жыл бұрын
I wish you the best! 💗
@justadibruh
3 жыл бұрын
hey! proud of you for taking inspiration and stepping into a positive mindset amd trying to make a change for yourself :) you are doing great, even if it is little step by little. 🥰
@beet6470
3 жыл бұрын
I hope I’m not out of line in saying this, but there’s a youtuber, Ro Mitchell if you want to look her up, who is documenting her recovery with her own ED. She’s very open about her struggles with it and how hard it is to get out of that mentality. But she is so inspirational and helping so many people who may be going through something similar. I have so much respect for anyone going through recovery of any kind; they are so strong and my heart, thoughts and prayers will always be with them. I wish you health and happiness.
@ganchos2849
Жыл бұрын
Rachel is STUNNING. It always makes me tear up when she talks herself down.
@littleleah310
Жыл бұрын
Right, her eyes😭
@rachaelreis6530
3 жыл бұрын
Ariel and Rachel talking about their tummys was so sad. They need to realize this is how MOST women look. I'm almost 30 with no kids and my stomach looks like that! And I'm a slim person. It's natural to have a little pooch lol. Personally I think it's cute.
@beepatpen
3 жыл бұрын
Everyone has a little belly but afab people in specifically have a little tummy because that's where your uterus is, it's up realistic to not have *any* stomach because you have stuff in there
@swennihan41188
3 жыл бұрын
My husband is SO skinny (still sexy as hell to me) and even has rolls on his stomach when he bends over. I try to remind myself of this but it's hard. Struggle with eating disorders and body dysmorphic disorder. I saw their beauty first, then they saw their flaws and it hit home. We all need to see ourselves how we see others. I would never pick apart another person's body the way I do mine. Weird thing.
@catherinealderson3464
3 жыл бұрын
It IS cute! I'm a generally slender person but I have that little rounded lower tummy. My husband loves it, and every time I complain about it, he tells me I have no idea how elegant and beautiful that gentle curve is to him. Humans have curves, so humans like curves!
@ally_roro1482
3 жыл бұрын
Well said! I also have no kids and my body has changed a lot in my 30s. We just have to learn to grow and love our bodies as they are!
@HinaMitsuki24
3 жыл бұрын
I think something to remember about your body is that you get those lines, rolls and etc because that's how your body naturally moves and it's doing that to allow you to live the life that you do ☺️
@lindseyhoffman9293
3 жыл бұрын
Rachel, your body has been through so much from breast cancer to having children. I am forever in awe of that, and also you look amazing!
@danielleking262
3 жыл бұрын
I don't want to make it sound like I'm not supporting the others, but honestly Rachel is absolutely the most gorgeous in these shots!!
@rachelcox1747
3 жыл бұрын
This literally is how so many people feel. They look immediately at all the things they hate when in reality, most people would never notice! Im so glad they were candid and honest about those feelings because I've had the same exact experience taking cute pics of myself
@angelbaby3895
3 жыл бұрын
You wrote everything I’d have wrote if I was gonna leave a comment 🤦🏽♀️
@Anima_Kesil
3 жыл бұрын
I think this basically perfectly summarizes it. Almost everyone feels that self-critical spotlight effect, regardless of gender, just with different expectations based on what you're "supposed" to look like. But in reality I was looking at these photos and thought they all had GREAT composition and looked super confident, and I'm sure people look at our photos the same way sometimes !
@cesarpadilla3456
2 жыл бұрын
Now looking at this video…man do I feel so much love and respect for Ariel. She deserves better.
@felicitafenati1591
3 жыл бұрын
Me: almost crying over Rachel's speech in the car. Rachel: "i'm a human person...Who likes pizza Me: INSTANTLY DIES.
@ericaevans3800
3 жыл бұрын
“I’m a human person…who really likes pizza” this mom FELT that statement love you all for this video
@theseanandrew
3 жыл бұрын
As someone who is SO uncomfortable with his body sometimes, hearing all three women talk about how they felt during the session vs looking at the photos is really comforting. Everything they brought up are things I'm uncomfortable with too, and it makes me feel so much better knowing that I'm not alone.
@pheart2381
3 жыл бұрын
The trouble is most images online these days,even photos of regular people have been altered in some way. We lose sight of what normal is. Ive always been self-concious about my stomach,which has never been flat despite being fairly slim. It stuck out when I was 15, as a thirty year old skinny middle distance runner, as a fifty year old! We all have bits we dont like,but where are the photos of them on other people? Theyve all been photoshopped off!!! Even ballet dancers get photos altered to show a more ideal line!
@cheesecakelasagna
3 жыл бұрын
@@pheart2381 This is why I love that the expert they brought in this video posts the best photos and the worst photos in her shoots. I wish more and more people do that.
@MDiL22
2 жыл бұрын
Alex was here smiling and cheering on Ariel and she was probably already sleeping with her husband
@ChristineChang20
2 жыл бұрын
so sad to think about
@heatherpolley8501
2 жыл бұрын
And even if she hadn't started yet, she did it AFTER this, which is somehow worse. She knew exactly what she was doing.
@debphelan-devon7928
Жыл бұрын
Do you think so? That’s beyond awful
@littleleah310
Жыл бұрын
@@heatherpolley8501 fr
@chrisa.4292
Жыл бұрын
This is a testament to how the people we think of as friends can go and do the worst things to you behind your back. We must be extra careful of who we consider as friends.
@Grace-lq5cr
3 жыл бұрын
“I’m a human person who really likes pizza.” Honestly. Preach. Please.
@TwinsBigLikeTia
3 жыл бұрын
After finding out last week that Jonathon is randomly that person that’s just good at everything (aka, a Eugene), we’ve also discovered that Ariel is also secretly, a Eugene
@ExtraEevee
2 жыл бұрын
Ned is dating the female version of Eugene - Ariel is also very competitive (as seen in earlier videos :D)
@melaniemoul
3 жыл бұрын
Not me crying in Starbucks listening to Rachel talk about not wanting to be “a shell of a human” when her daughters grow up. Wow. Thanks for this video, ladies. Also, looks like these photos were taken on an all-woman set, which is 💯
@ez8314
3 жыл бұрын
I noticed that!! The energy during the photoshoot was so incredibly fun and empowered
@goosebump801
3 жыл бұрын
🙋♀️ Me too! Crying as I type this. We just became empty-nesters a few weeks ago, when our only child moved into his college dorm. It’s disorienting, *not* taking his schedule or preferences into account in our daily lives anymore. I’m trying to focus on treating myself well, taking myself for walks in the crisp fall air, learning something new every day, etc. It’s so weird to know I’m a mom, but have essentially no day-to-day responsibilities related to my child. (Not that I really have for the past couple of years - he’s quite independent. But it feels different.) Rachel, I *so* relate to your desire for your kids to think you’re at least a little bit cool, someday. I’m thinking that this may happen for me in a couple of decades…or maybe it won’t. But I’ve certainly been thinking a lot about how cool and strong and smart and kind my mom was. She died almost a year ago, and I still miss her every single day. All the moms look amazing in the photos! I love Rachel’s sassiness, especially ❤️💐
@drama_king_august7974
2 жыл бұрын
I know it's weird considering I'm a queer guy teenager and they're all middle aged straight women with kids, but this video just feels so relatable. Feeling good in the moment but bad after the fact is so painfully accurate to how I feel whenever I take photos of myself, and seeing these gorgeous women feel uncomfortable about they're beautiful bodies makes me wonder if someone like me, who isn't even conventionally, wonder if I can ever feel happy about how I look.
@lynneatrujillo5743
2 жыл бұрын
You can! this is more about how regardless what gender, sex, race, orientation, pronouns, social status... we all feel this way about ourselves. and alot of it is social conditioning in many different forms. be your unique self. in the end we all leave this earth so it is better to try to focus on the love we can have for ourselves... and no one else's opinion truly matters.
@miss_daniele_83
2 жыл бұрын
are these women all middle aged? ouch... i'm 38 and apparently in denial, that one stung.
@deedee8772
Жыл бұрын
Jesus loves you, God bless you
@GrayShadowOfNight
3 жыл бұрын
I really like that their partners dont chime in here. It's just about those women as their own people and how they feel about themselves. Not about how others approve
@evefurey149
3 жыл бұрын
i feel horrible that they don’t see how amazing they look in all of these
@@thomasblackcraft you clearly don’t, and will never understand, what it feels like to be a woman, and especially a mom.
@Kayla-xd8qg
3 жыл бұрын
@@thomasblackcraft not necessarily. After I had my son, I could only focus on the things I didn’t love about my body anymore. The stretch marks, the cellulite, etc. It’s really common for women, especially moms to focus on the changes in their bodies that they don’t like. I have this still and my son is 18 months.
@Gaymer96
3 жыл бұрын
It’s so sad that these women aren’t confident in their bodies. They’re all thin, and conventionally attractive, but they still aren’t happy. That’s genuinely devastating to me. I’m over 300lbs, and I love my body. I wish I could give them my confidence. It breaks my heart when ppl can’t see their own beauty 💜
@roseashleydeocampo8925
3 жыл бұрын
I am overweight for my age. But as long as i have a functioning brain and heart, i am happy. But of course, i will still take care of myself.
@jennisherwood7455
3 жыл бұрын
As someone who weighs 200+, this video breaks my heart too. Especually, since they are all conventionally gorgeous. I would have loved to see someone my size too.
@RonHeartsMe
3 жыл бұрын
After a life-altering accident years ago I gained almost 150lbs. I’m nearing 300 now. I wish I could look like them, but then even they can’t see their bodies for what they are. It’s just sad how we as people hate our bodies so much and can’t appreciate them.
@sillylittlerainbowchild9504
3 жыл бұрын
I know! I’m over 200lbs, but my weight has never affected my confidence or the way I see myself. I find other people with curvy bodies so attractive as well!!! It’s so sad that they can’t see themselves in that light :(
@mollyallen2400
3 жыл бұрын
I'm kind of the opposite position. I've gained a lot of weight due to ankle and back injuries. About minute 13 I was feeling sort of angry and disappointed because they were showing themselves so much disappointment and "hate," and meanwhile I am working so hard to overcome hurdles just to get back to a size where I could take pictures like that and love them so much! In the meantime, I'll borrow some of your confidence :D :D
@GrainneH984
2 жыл бұрын
Seeing these gorgeous women worry about their insecurities really shows that everyone feels this way. It's comforting to know that I'm not alone
@Mobile_Dom
3 жыл бұрын
I love how Ariel is just as extra as Ned is, but in a slightly different way
@tanvideshpande8389
3 жыл бұрын
YES!
@mellohomie1237
3 жыл бұрын
Just as extra, but keeping it classy
@pxrgatorysqxeen
3 жыл бұрын
No wonder why Ned never shuts up about Ariel ‼️🤩
@zerocraic3966
3 жыл бұрын
Seriously if she was my wife I would also make being her partner my entire personality trait she is an amazing lady inside and out.
@marim0y
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, she is a fox as well as smart and humble.
@NYang-io7jz
3 жыл бұрын
Literally cried when the girls were talking about their insecurities. So completely relatable. "I am a human.... that loves pizza." Yasss girllll!
@cassynedelisky796
2 жыл бұрын
Ariel had two kids and still looks like that?! What the actual F?! She’s stunning
@Constantin9va
Жыл бұрын
I get the feeling that Ned is a lil neg-er. I bet he negged her into that marriage.
@KG-st5fb
3 жыл бұрын
I wish they had Mik and Kaylin with them in the room when they chose their photos. The focus quickly turned to pointing out flaws, when Mik’s whole thing is celebrating seeing confidence, fun, and joy in the person in the photo, not just what their body looks like. I thought they all looked incredible, but the best part was seeing everyone come out of their shell on the photo shoot day and women supporting women.
@aafyr3
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, obviously they were trying to lift each other up during the photo picking, but it's harder to encourage someone when you don't believe the same words aimed at you. Not saying Mik and Kaylin dont have their down times, but having someone who truly, truly believes in the words they are saying would have so much effect.
@angietoonz6605
3 жыл бұрын
i like that they didnt go cause it was more raw and real. And maybe they wouldn't open up as much about their insecurities if someone was just there preaching positivity. As nice as that is, it can feel nice to let out how you truly feel and its not like Mik just saying you look great will make them feel great.
@nussmixmussnix
3 жыл бұрын
Rachel‘s monologue about not becoming an empty shell over the care for a child is so important. I always wonder which role the fathers take, because it seems like the most care work is still done by the moms.. no one should become less of a person just because they gave birth and have to care for their kids all the time
@jcam5064
3 жыл бұрын
That part is so important. But I cried. I became chronically ill when I became a mom, and with the birth of my second child my condition worsened. It really hit home, because I am a shell now. I can’t even read or help loved ones the way I loved to before dealing with many chronic issues. So I really hope this Vick’s for others who are more able, and don’t have to completely lose themselves. ❤️🙏🏻🤞🏻
@breadgenie4021
3 жыл бұрын
Hmmm my mom was addicted to work and making money. My dad did all the care work. You don’t have to bring dads down to show the sacrifices most mothers make for their kids.
@kotarodesu_23
3 жыл бұрын
@@breadgenie4021 True. In a perfect world I'm sure both parents carry the workload in taking care of the kids. But that's a far cry to the world we're living. Also, let's not bring "roles" into this. All genders should not have roles to fulfill because we're all different people.
@kendragramley6243
3 жыл бұрын
So, my mom is pretty conservative and just wouldn’t feel comfortable doing something like this, but as she’s going back and scrapbooking our lives, she really does regret always being behind the camera and not in front of it with us. She doesn’t like pictures of herself, but still wishes she would’ve been more physically present in our photos. Moms and/or dads should remember to be in the picture sometimes,
@omoid1749
3 жыл бұрын
sent this to my mom. I wish she loved herself more. She's on the big side and God I'd love nothing more than to just throw a surprise birthday photoshoot and see herself how I saw her
@qwitchyy
2 жыл бұрын
Maybe you could try to treat her to her own special photo shoot catered to her comfort level sometime, or a shoot with the whole family. 🖤
@ZairaBandy
2 жыл бұрын
you can always have a boudoir session for your mom. there are reat photographers that will do boudoir conservative session and it will lift your mom auto stem.
@GadereneLegion
2 жыл бұрын
@Omo Id My mother died when I was pretty young. She didn’t like the way she looked, and we have almost no pictures of her the way I or my siblings remember her. We have a picture of her accidentally in the background of a birthday party, and it’s The Picture of Mom. Her mouth is open, and it’s a weird angle. Ironically, it’s a terrible picture of her.
@maja194
2 жыл бұрын
I think this will be my future. I was on a trip with some girls lately, and one uf them had brought a film camera. She sent us the pictures after she had them developed. I always duck out of frame whenever someone is taking a picture, I always hate how I look, but right then I saw my friends in all these careless, happy photos and I wasn’t in any of them. There are barely any pictures of me as a teenager and i feel like I will deeply regret that someday
@arcie3716
Жыл бұрын
Rachel's quite about how she wants her kids to become their own person while she holds onto her identity so that she doesn't feel like a shell of herself when the kids grow up is such an amazing quote. I hope all parents feel like that 🤍
@paigeholmes5442
3 жыл бұрын
I love that their partners weren’t featured in this. Rachel’s outfits were amazing.
@emilya9947
3 жыл бұрын
Yes!! Especially with these being “sexier” photos. Instead of being for the male gaze of their partners, this was ENTIRELY for them!
@RLplusabunchofdumbnumbers
3 жыл бұрын
Definitely. At the same time, I would love to see Ned's reactions at some point - I think we might actually get to watch his brain melt in real time.
@lynnzamora4722
3 жыл бұрын
Wow. When Rachel talked about being her whole person so when her children becomes their own selves. . I started to recall so many moms I know who felt lost after their children marry. And figured out. . Maybe that was the reason they felt left out. Because they stopped living for themselves and put their children first all the time. I hope everybody does this consciously. It would do wonders.
@sahruhhh
3 жыл бұрын
my mom quit her career for me and now I'm in college and I'm spending less time at home. i can see her heart breaking because she made my siblings and i her life's purpose. it just really sucks.
@lynnzamora4722
3 жыл бұрын
@@sahruhhh I hope she finds her own woman and what she really wants to do soon. 💕
@GielenKatie
3 жыл бұрын
I LOVE Rachel's insights on caring for herself so as not to lose herself to motherhood as her children become independent adults.
@64imma
3 жыл бұрын
I think my parents have definitely been struggling with that a lot throughout my adult life. When my parents got divorced in 2006, they got split custody, so they always went out of their way to really cherish the time my sister and I had spent with them, since they each only had half the week to see us growing up. I feel like when parents are married, they see their children all the time, and so it can become easier and almost refreshing to have that time apart from your children while they are growing up. Also, my parents lived fairly far away from our relatives and didn't have really any friends in my hometown. They were very dependent on me and my sister for a sort of social network of people and for meaning in life. It felt like, especially when my sister and I were both out of the house (I moved out of my parents house in 2017, and my sister in 2018 I think), they had a tough time with us transitioning into adulthood, with us having our own jobs, responsibilities, and networks of friends to attend to. I definitely have felt my social network become very strained when I was in college, because my parents were fairly demanding of my free time. I can't count how many times I've sacrificed spending time with friends just to spend time with my parents, because I knew it would make them happy. That unfortunately came at the expense of some of my friends quit asking me to hang out. Having both of their children living their own lives was very tough, because with us not living with them and being dependent on them, that very much changed their identity and role as people. Even with married couples, I definitely don't think it's discussed enough, just how difficult it can be for parents to watch their children leaving the nest and living their own lives apart from them.
@veryverte
Жыл бұрын
Ariel's work has added so much beauty, realism, and positivity to the world. I miss seeing her, I will watch any content she chooses to create anytime.
@funnibunni500
3 жыл бұрын
The way Ariel was analyzing her photos is exactly how I analyze my body and pictures I'm tagged in. There are parts of my body that I don't mind but there are parts of my body that I absolutely hate no matter what angle I'm in. You really are your own worst critic; and the fact that these ladies not only brought beautiful little lives into this world but are strong in their own ways speaks volumes and should be praised ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
@carlaviz6605
3 жыл бұрын
I know everyone feels extra critical about their own bodies, but I can't help but feel amazed whenever I see Rachel, like, damn, she made two whole people in there at once??? She looks incredible!!
@chloeb7617
3 жыл бұрын
And is a breast cancer survivor
@licia_bobishka
3 жыл бұрын
@@chloeb7617 she survived it twice, if I’m not mistaken. She’s a bad ass
@karmieu
3 жыл бұрын
@@licia_bobishka WHAT THATS SO COOL WHAT A QUEEN
@jiggilyrob9481
3 жыл бұрын
I remember seeing ariel’s instagram and thinking: DAMN GIRL. Everyone, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FEEL ASHAMED ABOUT YOUR BODY. “Everyone is unique and special in their own way,” - This phrase is literally EVERYWHERE but it’s everywhere because it’s true, and i stand by it btw------- > you look beautiful :D
@evabailey3860
3 жыл бұрын
I saw them on her Instagram too and bi panicked over every single one 😩
@PhilP5924
2 жыл бұрын
I don't think this is necessarily about conventional beauty standards, I think it's about the psychological struggle to get to know and love your body again after pregnancy. Obviously these women are stunning and quite thin, but I think it's about more than their size. They have just watched their bodies completely transform inside and out. Pregnancy and childbirth are the most incredible feats the human body can go through, and it's NOT pretty. When the redhead was talking about having to hold her stomach so her organs wouldn't shift!? Imagine how hard it is to see yourself and your body the same way after experiencing something like that. How hard must it be to see your body as your own after spending 9 months giving it away completely to the process of growing your child? I think that's part of the reason it was so hard for these stunning women to see how beautiful their bodies were and why they were so harsh on themselves. It was heartbreaking to see, but I'm glad they opened themselves up to be so vulnerable.
@brandileeann7310
3 жыл бұрын
i love how natural rachel is when she’s modeling, i feel like it brung her back to her pageant days💕
@AshleyNebs
3 жыл бұрын
This is so hard to watch such confident, smart, successful women talk down to themselves because of their bodies. At the same time it made me feel confident in knowing I’m not alone in feeling this way about myself. Our bodies do not define who we are as people. Not a mom, just not 17 anymore…
@padawanofconfusion5954
2 жыл бұрын
and when Rachel said "my kids will probably think I'm lame" She's a producer! And does important things like this! They'll think she's so cool!
@chepan83
2 жыл бұрын
Yes!!
@deaniewink
3 жыл бұрын
“I’m a human person… who really likes pizza” FUCK YES QUEEN GET THAT 🍕 YOURE STILL GORGEOUS
@evabailey3860
3 жыл бұрын
11:09 I love what Rachel said here
@jarastar6499
2 жыл бұрын
What Ariel said about seeing the photos is really true for me. I remember one time trying on a super beautiful yellow dress and then going for a hike with it on. I felt so beautiful out in the sun and thought it was my new favorite outfit. Until I saw photos my mom took of me from that day and all I could think was how big my calves looked. I haven't worn that dress since.
@lynneatrujillo5743
2 жыл бұрын
bust out that dress! put on some cute shoes and accessories. enjoy it with your beautiful calves girl! you deserve to feel beautiful, and the only opinion that matters is your own
@franchescaareno
2 жыл бұрын
sameee! but we’re all beautiful 💗
@PamelaJLamon
2 жыл бұрын
Remember how you felt wearing that dress and nothing else matters!
@Helica123
Жыл бұрын
i always blame the photographer! xD maybe your mom just doesnt know how to take good photos! i honestly think there's truth in blaming the photographer though because if you've ever had a REALLY good one who knows their stuff you definitely do not come out looking bad
@jarastar6499
Жыл бұрын
@@Helica123 definitely true. But my mom is a professional photographer lol. She has one of those expensive cameras and everything. She doesn’t specialize in photographing people though, so maybe that’s it
@posiepie6613
3 жыл бұрын
So many moments of “I hate this” responded with “why?” No one else finds those things that weird but your brain will always tell you it’s not good
@pvic6959
3 жыл бұрын
this makes me so sad. Im a guy though. i think these women are very pretty and seeing them support each other but be like "i look so bad" about themselves is tearing me apart. the worst thing is I do this too. I hate parts of myself while other people think its fine. for instance I HATE my smile (or lack of smile) but some friends say its cute or whatever... I dont believe them. why are we like this? why cant we just like our selves?! why can we be so faithfully supportive of our friends but just around and trash ourselves :'( im straight up tearing up right now
@hailey7368
3 жыл бұрын
@@pvic6959 I'm the exact same way with my smile!! I hear that it's pretty from but I feel like I look creepy, so my smile in pictures are so unenthusiastic lol we are our own worst critics.
@pvic6959
3 жыл бұрын
@@hailey7368 this is the reason I hate pictures and i have stayed way from making a dating profile. I just cant smile. i dont like any picture of myself :( but i liked the ending of this video. at first they did not like the pictures but took the time to reflect and change the message to "this is who I am; I will accept it and so will you"
@summerdais325
3 жыл бұрын
THIS IS WHY we need more diversity in models! We need to celebrate women (and men's!!) bodies that aren't the 2%. So sad that such beautiful women were interpreting their beauty through the lens of what we have been told is beautiful since we first started consuming media as children. It's sad because most women I know do this. This video was so relatable. I'm a 47 y/o recovered/recovering anorexic who struggles with BDD. I needed to lose some weight recently after having gained a substantial amount of weight due to an undetected thyroid issue. Two days ago I realized that for the FIRST time in my life I lost a reasonable amount of weight AND then STOPPED before having a major relapse! As an adult I've weighed anywhere from under 100# to 255#, and I had gone back up to 222#! Now, I weigh just under 140#. My BMI is ideal, and my body fat is in the "fitness category". I have loose skin, cellulite, vein issues, etc. I could go on and on with this list. The most difficult one is not having any teeth. Health issues, living on disability with no dental, the ED, taking meds that I later learned are known for destroying teeth, as well as a genetic issue (family history of several individuals losing their teeth at a young age due to their teeth dying from the inside out) means I haven't had teeth for the past 4-5 years. I can't afford the bone grafting I need, and I may not be a good candidate for bone/gum grafting, even if I had all the money in the world. Y'all have beautiful teeth/smiles, and you look amazing! I choose to smile, and for today I choose to celebrate my body. It birthed a baby (now 25), survived two serious head injuries, and being hit by a car that blew a stop sign when I was on a training run, a hit-and-run pedestrian vs. MVA when I was 25. It survived DV, and I got my daughter and I out of that situation 13 years ago. It survived CSA, SA, and more than one suicide attempt. As many times as I have felt my body failed me, I am alive today and so are you. YOU are worth celebrating. Thanks, ladies! 💜 P.S. To the lovely lady who bemoaned her side profile, I was doing the same thing this morning. Seeing you, I realized Ariel was right. THAT IS NORMAL!
@staceytates5778
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed. It's sad that they think they don't look good and the media is to blame. I have more rolls and cellulite than the 3 of them combined. In my adult life I've been anywhere from a size 12 -20 and at a size 18 and 5'3 I'm the happiness with my body I've been.
@nandinithiagarajan5709
3 жыл бұрын
I'm so proud of you being so strong ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@sofiaoutandabout
3 жыл бұрын
Amen. When Ariel was sad about the blue swimsuit shoot, Rachel about her rolls and her waist, and Krisanne about her boobs, I legit started crying. Because these are all things I've hated about myself over the years and I knew exactly the feeling Ariel was describing, of feeling sexy in the moment, then looking at a picture and feeling "ew, was this what everyone else saw? An ugly lumpy bog hag thinking she's hot?". It's so painful. These ladies are gorgeous! We all are. We need to break free from the "only thin and young are beautiful and worthy" trap for our own sake.
@qwitchyy
2 жыл бұрын
BDD sucks so much, and I can’t imagine handling everything else life has dealt you. Sending you so much love and support!
@ambermacmurtry7884
3 жыл бұрын
Rachel's statement and it needing to be a whole person when her kids grow up broke me a little bit, to be honest. I am mother and primary caregiver to my beautiful, wonderful & profoundly disabled 7 year old son. He is the light of my life, but he will very likely be developmentally an infant/toddler for the rest of his. It is exhausting and demanding and it feels impossible not to lose myself entirely in his care. I haven't done well with putting myself first or even making sure I'm managing my own basic care for most of the last 7 years. It has always been about making sure he is okay. Recently I've been trying to carve out room for myself in my own story again & it's hard. It's hard to break the pattern of putting our children first, always--but it's not healthy & doesn't allow me to be as effective a mother & caregiver, either. Ultimately I just keep fading away & it makes me less equipped to do my job as a mom, anyway. This video was inspiring for me. I don't know that I'll be posting any thirst traps any time soon, but I don't tend to make a point of taking and being on more pictures. Of creating room in my day for me & giving myself permission to take that time, without guilt. Of taking care of my body, not to fit any societal ideas of beauty, but so I can be healthy enough to be here for my family for a long time. Thank you for this. You all looked empowered & beautiful.
@robynschwebe4768
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story. I just really want to encourage you to find things that bring you joy. I am sure you are an amazing mom, I can just sense it. Keep seeking joy, you will find it.
@briannacorrigan1256
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. Spending you all the love.
@mazellmitasky
2 жыл бұрын
I work as a home health nurse for a pediatric agency, and I love taking care of the kiddos but it can be hard work! Hopefully you have someone to help you out every now and then because parents and caregivers definitely benefit from having those small (and well deserving) breaks!
@donna3907
2 жыл бұрын
you’re doing absolutely amazing. you will go up from here
@saschaknight8693
2 жыл бұрын
Cheering whenever Ariel comes on and skipping if I see Ned
@jaydescorner8401
2 жыл бұрын
saaame tbh i love her personality so much more and shes glowing in this video, i hope she doesnt feel even more insecure now :(
@sarahbentley9500
2 жыл бұрын
What’s adding to making me feel sick is that the other woman was on set producing this video and can be seen in a few clips.
@DustyStarrs
Жыл бұрын
rewatching old mostly Nedless videos and whenever he comes on screen I just go "Wait? Who is that? Weird" 😂
@lilflores9889
Жыл бұрын
when I rewatching try guys old video i just look away whenever i see ned
@alyssanme
3 жыл бұрын
the fact that we all thought they looked amazing and they didn't just proves that we are our own worst critic. everything ariel explained about how it felt good shooting it at the moment and not so good seeing the turnout is something i, and maybe even some of us, deeply relate to
@thebutterfly8262
3 жыл бұрын
Ariel is honestly such a bug inspiration to me. Feeling self-conscious and still daring to point out and acknowledge specifically what you feel unhappy with takes guts, and our blonde mama just takes the bull by the horns and says “fuck it”. She leads with example, putting herself out there and does so beautifully
@LLCCB
3 жыл бұрын
This is proof that a person can look at a truly stunning picture of themselves and only see flaws. I'm glad you built each other up as you looked through the photos. You're all lovely.
@ZairaBandy
2 жыл бұрын
because we are looking for the flaws. We are taught all the things a body shouldn't have so we look for those things like a hawk. Yet we don't look for them in the pictures of others. Is hard to let go of that habit.
@CaraTheStrange
2 жыл бұрын
This might seem strange but the way I see it is that your logic brain knows you’re fabulous but then the emotional brain cant see that.
@justclara3595
Жыл бұрын
8:16 Alex in the back looking at pictures of Ariel in such a vulnerable moment is just so bad. I don’t understand how you can do this to another human (that you know so well)!
@nadyrafauzia467
3 жыл бұрын
“As my kids age, they’re going to get further and further away from me. Less a part of me and more a part of the world so I need to make sure I’m staying a whole person unto myself. So that when they’re their own people unnatached to me I’m not left with like a shell of a human being. I wanna take care of myself because I want them to do the same thing for them!” this made me cry rachel thank you
@cordelianoir6490
3 жыл бұрын
This is such a strange video to watch as a heavier woman. To me, all these ladies look skinny and gorgeous in the photoshoot and out of it. It's a good reminder that we all see the flaws in ourselves, no matter how we look to the outside world
@Krissyisawake
2 жыл бұрын
But sometimes seeing the flaws more also takes away the happiness of a person
@ruiqi22
3 жыл бұрын
It’s really sad that everyone can see how beautiful their friends are regardless of what human “imperfections” their bodies may show but have trouble seeing themselves in the same light :( You could tell that Ariel and Krisanne were genuinely shocked when Rachel didn’t like her photos because of the size of her stomach, but the same things made Ariel really unhappy in her own photos. It’s sad to realize how harsh you are on yourself compared to everyone else.
@lopsie7479
Жыл бұрын
God she's so beautiful. Way too good for him. On another note, it's a good thing that Ned showed his true colors while she's young, she has a beautiful life ahead of her that doesn't have to include someone who didn't treat her properly.
@pebbellz
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like as women, we stare at our bodies in the mirror so much. We scrutinise every single part of our body and highlight all the things we don't like. Then when we go out - or in this case, post photos online - we expect that everyone else is staring at every stretch mark, every blemish, every bit of wobbly skin. But in reality, no one else notices, or cares! We are the only ones who care, and we need to accept our own bodies. Way easier said than done, though 😅
@AmkiFma
3 жыл бұрын
I think the only ones who notice them may be the ones who struggle with them too. But also some of us are just so distracted with our own imperfections that when we see photos like these we can only notice how good others look and how we don't look that good. And probably there's someone out there thinking the same about us!
@auroraaurora8750
3 жыл бұрын
to see that rachel, a former model whos won a wholeass contest also feels down really shows that the person you think is perfect and wished u looked like and want to be also have days where they dont feel good despite the world praising them for their looks
@captainnemolostintheocean1652
3 жыл бұрын
Was she a model? :0
@heatherwaddell7549
3 жыл бұрын
@@captainnemolostintheocean1652 she was Miss Vermont in the 2008 Miss America competition, so....sort of? Not a professional, but there's crossover between modeling and pageants.
@KyraPro
3 жыл бұрын
RESPECTFULLY.... Wow, you ladies look absolutely hot! 🔥This video was one of my favourites so far! Thank you ladies for being strong and sharing your stories!
@skp7736
2 жыл бұрын
I love your workouts, and am delighted to see you commenting here!!! And YES to all of them looking absolutely hot!
@CthulhuOracle23
2 жыл бұрын
The fact that these women are literally the weight and beauty standards in our society thinking they aren’t really pretty makes my heart cry. They are literally stunning. Here I am weighing in at 215.6 and feeling like a whale
@GingerLadies
2 жыл бұрын
Because it's not about the weight. It's about your own mental health and self worth and confidence. I have always been overweight, but I actually hated myself the most when I was at my smallest. I've gained weight during the pandemic for several reasons, but I'm finding it easier to be kind to myself. I really started projecting my confidence after an incident at school. I'm a teacher, and during my first year I put back some of my lunch and told another teacher I was on a diet. A 6th grade girl heard me and she said "but you're already beautiful" with the sweetest puppy-dog eyes. From then on, I never mentioned anything related to dieting or said anything negative about my body. Partly for myself but mostly because I don't want to be a bad role model to these young kids. My mom complained about her body so much and it affected me greatly. I actually started saying "I know" with a smirk when my students give me compliments. It kinda started as a joke, but they love it and I make them say it back when I compliment them. We should be lifting each other up, you know? So again, it's not about the weight. It's easier said than done, but try to be kind to yourself
@mollymt
2 жыл бұрын
@@GingerLadies this is so inspiring
@ace-of-bats
2 жыл бұрын
@@GingerLadies Thank you for taking such good care of your students. 💛
@Karishma_Unspecified
2 жыл бұрын
@@GingerLadies This made me smile - I love the dynamic you and your students have! i personally couldn't stand this video, because these women are gorgeous and able-bodied, and I am neither of those things... which made me feel all kinds of envy, and remember the unkind things i've been told about my body my whole life. I like that your students aren't like the other students in my classes were - that the next generation is hopefully kinder to each other than ours is, and the previous one was... hopefully they can extend that kindness to themselves too.
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