My great aunt developed early on set Alzheimer's some years ago. My great uncle refused to put her into a care facility. He did constant research, sacrificed time and money he couldn't afford to take her to the best doctors he could find. When she declined, he fed her, bathed her, changed her diapers, put up with her slaps and verbal abuse with a patience and a love I could never begin to describe in words. When she passed away, and he was grieving and asking the doctors if he had overlooked anything, if he somehow could've done anything differently to give her an even better life, they told him that he caught physical symptoms and addressed them quicker than their best cared for patients, and she lived 12 years longer than the average patient because of his care and attention. Make that love story into a movie.
@arielruby13
Жыл бұрын
It would be a beautiful movie tho, and one that would make you cry multiple times
@badadodgen
Жыл бұрын
I am so in awe. Your grandfather deserves just the same. The heavy mass of love and affection he implanted in his wife literally saved her for more than a decade. It is a beautiful and strong love story that your grandparents have. With all the hardships they have stuck like glue. I only wish your grandparents happiness. Rest in peace to Grandma, I'm sure she was a beautiful soul that Pa could love even more than words.
@katherinep708
Жыл бұрын
😭
@dove8623
Жыл бұрын
@@arielruby13 ABSOLUTELY!!
@dove8623
Жыл бұрын
@@badadodgen Thank you so much!! She was a beautiful soul, and so full of joy.
@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343
Жыл бұрын
I love how more people are starting to rise up and recognize this is not okay behavior for a romance and to start advocating for healthier and more wholesome relationships in media like Morticia and Gomez.
@ALM-je2gv
Жыл бұрын
Morticia and Gomez are Couple Goals
@Author.Noelle.Alexandria
Жыл бұрын
I think it says a lot that a family meant to be satire and comedy is actually a very, very good example of an actual healthy family. Not gonna lie-we pattern ourselves after the Addamses.
@bodyfarmbrat
Жыл бұрын
100% why is it always the normies that get all the positive reactions when they are so full of toxic bull crap.
@weronika9135
Жыл бұрын
Sorry, but you expect the movie to be credible when you show 17 year olds love as mature? This is a MOVIE, not a lecture about a mature relationship. It's great that we have the maturity to see that it's not mature. Not every movie has to show "right" behavior. After all, a good movie provokes discussion.
@poppymoon777
Жыл бұрын
💯
@SunshineNinja94
Жыл бұрын
I have technically seen the Notebook 4 times in one sitting because a girl at a sleepover really wanted to watch it but kept falling asleep and rewinding to the last scene she remembered. It was a strange type of torture
@hmmhuh1222
Жыл бұрын
hahaha wow that is hilarious
@kyon813
Жыл бұрын
That might be my personal relationship hell. I am so, _so_ sorry for you.
@anjelica948
Жыл бұрын
Omg, I’d of lost my damn mind. My mom’s extremely ADD (and won’t admit it), and one thing she does is she gets focused on doing something for a few minutes, realizes she’s missed part of what she was watching, and rewinds to whatever the last part she remembers. When she’s having a really bad ADD day, she will legit rewind to the same scene 10 times in a row. Most of the time it doesn’t bother me, but every once in a while I just have to get up and leave bc otherwise I’ll pitch the remote off the balcony and watch it smash on the pavement below.
@BruceHurley
Жыл бұрын
That's one of the few things I've ever read that made me laugh out loud. I feel your pain.
@ncburton1713
Жыл бұрын
And I thought babysitting a 3 year old girl who only wanted to watch The Little Mermaid over and over was Hell. 😅
@Lucien234-i2z
4 ай бұрын
Her relationship with her Fiancee vs Noah shows that some people prefer a toxic relationship for the "excitement" over a healthy, stable, "boring" relationship.
@softiebutterfly5678
3 ай бұрын
THANK YOU!!! Like literally what’s so exciting about a toxic relationship?!?? I don’t get it! You can get yourself an amazing, sweet, loving green flag relationship but you chose a messy toxic relationship!?
@sarahpalazzo1504
2 ай бұрын
Happy he dodged a bullet!
@geoffgraves2780
Ай бұрын
💀💀💀
@victoriagillerlain
Жыл бұрын
The doggie at the end is more emotionally supportive and caring than Noah ever was in this movie.
@Joonivy
Жыл бұрын
I was about to say that lmao
@trinaq
Жыл бұрын
Preach, get yourself an emotionally supportive doggie instead of a toxic leading man!
@maribroughtonwynn8794
Жыл бұрын
Love to the dog !
@Ehh0.0
Жыл бұрын
Go Gandalf!!
@mark.daniel
Жыл бұрын
you win the comments section.🔥🔥🔥
@michelleriggs2450
Жыл бұрын
25:35 "When you're fighting with somebody you don't want to tear each other's clothes off... you're disgusted with each other!" Such a relief to hear literally anyone say this! I've been made to feel over and over like there's something wrong with me because I don't want to have make-up sex. 🤢
@Durka-Durka
Жыл бұрын
But you have make up sex AFTER you make up. You must still be pissed or something to not want it.
@nicoleowens2318
Жыл бұрын
Agree 100%
@ElenaFer1995
Жыл бұрын
Lol right.. f**k off is more the answer at that point. There's a place and a time for everything and it is not when you just pissed me off..
@roboboro
Жыл бұрын
yeah, I don't understand make-up sex... After a fight, even if both make peace, you're just sad, and you get emotionally exhausted. You just want to cuddle
@tiph3802
Жыл бұрын
Make-up sex after you've patched things up and have calmed down can be a healthy way to reaffirm your love and affection. Do others think make-up sex happens right after a fight?!
@Sarah_H
Жыл бұрын
Funny story: I had an internet friend who I had only known for a few months threaten suicide if I didn't agree to be his girlfriend. This wasn't even as bad as the carnival scene in the movie, where this was the first time they'd met each other and Noah basically goes "if I can't date you I will literally kill myself and it'll be your fault"; we had known each other for a few months, gotten reasonably close, then he drops the L-word on me and says "if I can't have you as a girlfriend then I'm going to kill myself". I spent the next MONTH worried that he'd go through with it or show up at my door and do something, with the nagging thought that if he did kill himself then it would be my fault. This shit is NOT ROMANTIC
@RedRoseSeptember22
Жыл бұрын
Yeah that's one of the most toxic things a person can do, I remember being with my ex and being afraid to leave because I was worried he'd harm himself. It was awful.
@StrawberryCakeStudiosYT
Жыл бұрын
Oh my god, I’m so sorry for you that happened!😮 I had a similar situation happen
@rachelbishop9827
Жыл бұрын
OMG I had the same thing when I was back in high school. I was at a religious weekend (toxic as hell). Met a guy and that same weekend he threatened to kill himself if I didn't date him. We knew each other less than 72 hours. I stopped replying
@DragonFae16
Жыл бұрын
I had a similar situation, but it was with my father. My parents divorced when I was a tween and my father said to me during one of my and my siblings' visitation with him that if we ever decided not to see him anymore (once a child turns 12 they are able to decide if they see the parent) he wouldn't have anything more to live for and would kill himself. Not a great thing for a kid whose parents are in the middle of a divorce to hear.
@AuntLoopy123
Жыл бұрын
I have seen this sort of thing before, and I find it SO DISGUSTING, that I made the decision, decades ago, that if someone pulled that on me, I'd say, "OK. Do that, then." And I wouldn't feel at all guilty, even if they DID go through with it, because THAT is how disgusting I find it. Am I a horrible person? I should probably just call 911, instead. I should probably do that. I hope I never get faced with that. The guy in the chair below them, calling out to just date him, already, really TICKS ME OFF.
@disneyprincessintraining2725
11 ай бұрын
I remember my mom and I starting this movie. I was pretty young, but she turned it off pretty early on. I asked her why and her response really stuck with me. “Because I don’t want you thinking that this an acceptable way to act or be treated in a relationship.” Stuff like that was important to my mom. She wasn’t ridiculously strict with media, but if she saw something that was teaching a bad lesson she had us turn it off and would calmly explain to us why what we saw was wrong, especially if what was happening was framed in a way to make look like a good thing. Those words made sure I never accepted being mistreated by romantic partners, and that I in turn treated those partners with love and respect.
@JessicaRobles
10 ай бұрын
Amazing
@Trysaratop
10 ай бұрын
I wish she was my mom too 😂
@daisymichele9783
10 ай бұрын
Your mom is so awesome and I agree with her analysis of this movie too!
@singingofsilver
10 ай бұрын
My mother did that too, minus the explanation I probably turned out better for it, but I was so confused why she hated certain movies so much lol
@eldenlion5850
9 ай бұрын
Massive respect to your mom for giving you a reason why, instead of saying it's a bad movie because she says so.
@hayfield1644
Жыл бұрын
Alan's increasing rage at the number of geese had me CRYING 🤣
@leighmartin9187
Жыл бұрын
Even CinemaSins called out the film for having too many birds
@bettrhalf8006
Жыл бұрын
It definitely is an irresponsible number of murder birds.
@mistermarkeys
Жыл бұрын
Nobody’s going to talk about how a baby goose is a gosling? Okay…. 😅
@hayfield1644
Жыл бұрын
@@mistermarkeys OMG I DIDN'T EVEN NOTICE LMAOOO
@Kuh8024
Жыл бұрын
I am freaking cackling at this
@spnsman1
Жыл бұрын
I never thought I’d see these two get so angry at another toxic romance film, and Alan getting angry at geese. I’m all for it
@jackielinde7568
Жыл бұрын
The geese were just the ornamentals on top of this hellcake of romantic doom.
@AmaraJordanMusic
Жыл бұрын
@@jackielinde7568 Mood. 😂
@ladyi9178
Жыл бұрын
Me too. Watched the film last week and hated it. I love Jonathan and Alan but I've never felt so connected to them until this day 😂
@AmyEugene
Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad they did an episode on this awful movie! I was gifted this movie on DVD by my cousin who told me it was "the BEST MOVIE EVER!" I hated it. Absolutely hated it. He manipulates her into going out with him and after she falls in love, he breaks up with her because he decided he's not good enough for her. WTH? He knew at the beginning that she was from a wealthy family, so where did he think their relationship would go after the first date? I guess he wasn't thinking about that when ruined her date with Ferris wheel guy to get her to go out with him once and then... what? What was the point of that whole outrageous stunt? Then it made me so angry that they both tossed aside people they were seeing (she had her fiancé and I remember he had some woman he was sleeping with, but they didn't show her in this video), but it's romantic because they had this dramatic, passionate kiss in the pouring down rain and that makes it ok! I'm yelling at the screen: "Fiancé and f@$&-buddy have feelings too! Have the decency to end it with them first!" But, we know they were destined to be together because he wrote their "love story" down in a book and it miraculously makes her Alzheimer's disappear for 2 minutes. Plus, they die at the same time! So romantic! 🤮 I have never, and will never, watch another Nicolas Sparks movie!
@Overseer2579
Жыл бұрын
I cannot WAIT for their inevitably angry analysis of The Kissing Booth, which they said in a recent livestream is one that’s in their ever-growing queue of movies they’re making videos on
@ryanhamstra49
Жыл бұрын
The fact that movies like this are held up as a great relationship is a huge reason as to why so many people can’t have healthy relationships.
@Jade-ge2qw
Жыл бұрын
NO KIDDING!!!
@rhondaallen5196
Жыл бұрын
Urban cowboy 😂
@5hanu
Жыл бұрын
A healthy relationship simply does not exist.
@killofilms4162
Жыл бұрын
@@5hanuspeak for yourself 😊
@MireVale
Жыл бұрын
No one wants to watch a movie about a boring healthy relationship
@GinaMaher_
Жыл бұрын
The amount of times James Marsden is the guy that doesn’t get chosen blows my mind! Choose him every time! He is gorgeous and sweet and fun and smiley. Like WTH?!! And even in the context of this movie like they go horseback riding and dancing vs geese and poetry and fighting. He was way too good for her.
@starshake8998
9 ай бұрын
That's why I like 27 Dresses.
@GinaMaher_
9 ай бұрын
@@starshake8998 i'm happy he finally got the girl but i'm like her? ha
@ogolthorp
8 ай бұрын
I liked him in Sonic the most. I bought it on dvd, even
@janusn9
7 ай бұрын
For real James Marsden is the man.
@lillianluzinsky3912
7 ай бұрын
James Marsden is the real victim in the Notebook
@jessicazimmer1644
Жыл бұрын
Allie and Noah: *surrounded by geese* Awww how pretty. Me: *sees a goose 10 feet away* Please don't kill me please don't kill me please don't kill me
@Du-Masses
Жыл бұрын
Are you Canadian? Apparently their geese are violent.
@knitpiks587
Жыл бұрын
Chicken cobras.
@electronblue8334
Жыл бұрын
@@Du-Masses all geese are aggressive!
@Let_Toons
Жыл бұрын
Geese are like the hot psychopath in movies: Cute through a sreen _TERRYFING IN REAL LIFE_
@emtims1670
Жыл бұрын
Geese are assholes. I agree with your sentiment.
@shadowgirl11
Жыл бұрын
As a recent psychology graduate this is so refreshing! I am also so sick of toxic relationships being glorified
@pianorelaxingmusics
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like you spend all those years of learning psychology only to repeat "toxic this toxic that" over and over again.
@zenatimadiha7030
Жыл бұрын
Talking about toxic relationships glorified Just yesterday I was attacked on the comments for criticizing an old soap about a psychiatrist who fell in love with his patient who had a mental age of eight I was just saying he was a monster he should be in prison but because a lot of people had nostalgia for the old show they kept attacking me for criticizing the nice doctor who kept fighting to treat his patient not because it's his job but because he loved her And if I wasn't clear she was in a coma since she was eight so she was at little girl in a woman's body
@thekatprincess
Жыл бұрын
@@pianorelaxingmusics why are you triggered someone is recognizing toxicity?
@pianorelaxingmusics
Жыл бұрын
@@thekatprincess simply pointing out that men who do the bare minimum always get triggered by romance of any kind. Guess when they were teenagers they were only fucking on their girlfriends and straight up telling them they will move on quickly or did not date anyone until they were in their 30s. Imagine being a grown man and bitching on YT with another man, about how you are annoyed by a romance based on a true love story.
@carina-nonbinary
Жыл бұрын
@@pianorelaxingmusics you missed the point so hard
@stephaniegraziano6563
Жыл бұрын
My ex threatened suicide as a manipulation technique so instead of cowering down I took him home and told his mom and friends to look out for him. I had to leave that situation because he was getting very aggressive and abusive with me but I made his family aware. Never threaten suicide its not something to threaten.
@Elisa-006
Жыл бұрын
That’s so smart and brave of you 👍🏻👍🏻
@stephaniegraziano6563
Жыл бұрын
@@Elisa-006 thank you 😊
@mkuti-childress3625
Жыл бұрын
A friend’s ex does that to her as a manipulation technique from time to time. I told her that she should be calling 911 every single time. You never know when someone is serious, but it should be always be taken seriously-even if it’s an inconvenience for the person.
@stephaniegraziano6563
Жыл бұрын
@M Kuti-Childress as a suicide survivor I never take suicide threats lightly, turns out he did that to his previous ex but at the time I didn't know that. Getting people help and leaving if necessary is better then staying and getting abused.
@le_th_
Жыл бұрын
If this happens again, after you drop that person off, call law enforcement and have them do a welfare check saying that the person threatened suicide to get their way. Seriously. That needs to be documented and it STOPS the toxic behavior.
@brbqqueen8302
Жыл бұрын
The geese scene of this video got me cracking uppp. “Girl you are in a horror movie” “swamp full of murder birds”. 🤣
@Simz199x
7 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@sarahyoungberg2084
5 ай бұрын
My husband loves geese & I knew immediately I needed to show him the geese tirade. 'They have stolen God's light' 😂 I agree that many geese around my boat in a swamp would feel like a horror movie.
@astawolfe
4 ай бұрын
I lost my shit during that part, it was freaking hilarious 😂
@maryhales4595
3 ай бұрын
SO MANY F***ING GEESE 😂😂
@vVRukiadVv
Жыл бұрын
I think people tend to romanticize anger and confrontation turning into love/lust because it's a transition from a strong emotion to another strong emotion, while happiness and content turning into love or lust is much more subtle of a transition. We love to see the drama played out because it gives our brains a strong kick and makes us excited to see the twists and turns. Fun to watch in a movie, much less fun in real life...
@cbpd89
Жыл бұрын
Spot on! The high emotion, the tension is fun to watch. Much like a bad boy, they are a lot of fun to watch on screen and not a lot of fun to interact with in real life.
@erisunflower
Жыл бұрын
It’s always a good thing when one can tell the difference between fiction and reality. Reality may not always be what we want, but it’s real and one can have the power to change their life however they wish; so long as they work hard for it.
@Piecesoftheshadow
Жыл бұрын
Or it’s just more relatable. Humans fight and things can be messy but that doesn’t take away from the fact that there is also love and happiness.
@ettaetta439
Жыл бұрын
But there's ways this trope can be done well, tho. Not in the case of this movie unfortunately 😭
@5050TM
Жыл бұрын
@@Piecesoftheshadow I don't find domestic violence and threatening suicide relatable.
@DarkusZarvix
Жыл бұрын
Alan's passion about how bad this relationship is is utterly hilarious. The "There's poverty in New York" line also made me lose composure and felt so out of left field but perfect of a reply befitting the moment. XD
@scatteredstraw
Жыл бұрын
“They’ve got poverty in New York.” I laughed so hard I literally had a coughing fit
@belleux_
Жыл бұрын
i had to pause the entire video and just take a moment to laugh at that lmao
@TYFTM718
Жыл бұрын
same
@JH-no8sy
Жыл бұрын
Yes! I choked.
@pitipoka6945
Жыл бұрын
My God yes please give this the appreciation it needs it made my day 😂
@arwalrkz8242
Жыл бұрын
I cracked myself up too🤣
@VocalFox
7 ай бұрын
Animal handler: How many geese do you want? Director: Yes.
@theparadoxicaltouristtrave9320
Жыл бұрын
The line: "sometimes love is restraint" is something that needs to be started more often in American culture.
@HouseMDaddict
Жыл бұрын
Are you familiar with American religious people where they don't allow their kids to live with a significant other or have intimate relationships before marriage? I had three couples as friends who got married right after college in order to be together. Their parents even said "they're too young to get married" and it's like, well if you didn't restrict them so much they probably would've waited a couple more years.
@HouseMDaddict
Жыл бұрын
There are trashy and/or hypersexual people in every culture. America just happens to have a larger population this technically more people, but if you look percentage wise it's not that big of a difference.
@DarthRayj
Жыл бұрын
@@HouseMDaddict I knew couples who got married right out of HIGH SCHOOL for the same reasons. Some of them it was very clearly just "oh, you want to have sex" and not anything to do with actually loving the other person. The saddest part is the people who take no-sex-until-marriage seriously are also the most likely to take no-divorcing-ever seriously.
@JP2GiannaT
Жыл бұрын
@DarthRayJ, wouldn't that mean they also have the most reason to make the relationship work though? I don't see a taboo around divorce as a bad thing, especially when children are involved.
@k49821
Жыл бұрын
@@DarthRayj I am one of those people who take no s*x until marriage seriously and if the "saddest" part about that is I take commitment and responsibility seriously and even when it's tough I will fight to not take an easy road out so that I and my spouse grow as individuals and as a couple and can have someone to utterly trust, respect and love until the day one of us dies... I'm okay with that. Also never have to worry about STDs or pregnancy before I can afford or have time for a child so that's cool. I'm not worried about increased cancer risks or other fun side effects from birth control either. Now I do think divorce is okay in situations like abuse. But our culture uses it far too often as a scapegoat. And choosing marriage just to have s*x is a very unwise decision. I'm sure some people do it and I'm sad they thought that's what marriage is all about. Also sad for the people who feel trapped in abusive relationships. Not okay.
@nicj5354
Жыл бұрын
3 stages of a narcissistic relationship 1. Love bombing - they're everything you ever wanted (but faking it) 2. Devaluation stage - suddenly they're not into you causing you to possibly doubt or blame yourself 3. Discard - they've used you all the way up and leave you like an empty container Don't walk, run
@Amantducafe
Жыл бұрын
3 red flags
@mackenziegivens6061
Жыл бұрын
Soooo, just about everything they talked about when they did "Coraline"
@ghouling1111
Жыл бұрын
That's not the notebook though..
@HexIsme
Жыл бұрын
Also holds true for like 99.9% of teen "relationships", let's be real
@AnEnemySpy456
Жыл бұрын
The D.E.N.N.I.S. system.
@dogguarts
10 ай бұрын
I don’t know if you guys read year-old comments but I want to share these thoughts regardless. I faced the reality of infidelity in my romantic relationship under a week ago. I was heartbroken and haven’t felt this much pain in a long time. While watching along, I realized I was smiling for one of the first times since before the betrayal. This is one of my comfort channels, you guys are amazing, and I hope this encourages you to keep making videos. To Alan, my heart goes out to you and your loss. I hope you are doing better.
@CinemaTherapyShow
10 ай бұрын
We see new comments regardless of the video they are from. We're honored to be a comfort during tough times. Sending you a big hug over the internet! 🫂
@chiachimariachi4682
Жыл бұрын
I strongly believe the geese scene actually a hidden metaphor for how deceiving Noah is. Just like geese, he’s adorable and romantic and majestic on the outside, but a literal spawn from hell of a character on the inside! :)
@lemurlover7975
Жыл бұрын
Hey, don't be so mean to geese. They can be very good parents that take good care of their young and unlike Noah, who tries to run around stealing people away from the ones they are dating, swans are monogamous and mate for life. Let's just say Noah is Satanic and leave geese out of it. God made geese and they are good and a gift from Heaven as all animals are. :)
@chaoticdetectivepeach
Жыл бұрын
Geese are cool though, Noah is just bleh
@SignificantNumberOfBeavers
Жыл бұрын
@@chaoticdetectivepeach Geese are the spawn of Satan.
@stephaniejenkins7822
Жыл бұрын
Having worked with and handled geese before, I can definitely second the notion of them being hellspawn 😂
@Karin-fj3eu
Жыл бұрын
Made me chuckle; need to tell my mum about this since she's had bad experiences with geese
@aiieeee5166
Жыл бұрын
Lon never got enough credit for how understanding he was with Allie. He’s so ahead of his time in giving her the room to make her own decisions, accepting her choices even when she cheats on him deep into their engagement. He was always a good man, wooing her in a charming way and even mending the bridge between Allie and her parents
@dreamsinmonochrome
Жыл бұрын
Agh! I remember watching this and I honestly felt they had better chemistry than Noah and Allie. I hated how easily she threw it away - and now that I'm older and have a little more experience, I want to shake the crap out of her.
@starsun6363
Жыл бұрын
@@dreamsinmonochrome He didn't deserve her. I'm sure he found another woman who appreciated the healthy relationship he brought to the table.
@Loaves_of_Cat
Жыл бұрын
@@starsun6363 u mean she doesn’t deserve him
@starsun6363
Жыл бұрын
@CatD *slaps head* yeah. Whoopies Typo.
@TheShanicpower
Жыл бұрын
@@starsun6363 In a way you’re right though. He didn’t deserve her, he deserved better
@DJKBELL
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for doing this! I never understood why people think it’s such a great love story. It was mostly super toxic
@infinitecouture13
Жыл бұрын
I thought I was the ONLY one!!! I’ve seen it once and I was like…hmmm okay, nice movie prob won’t watch it again.
@Cha-Llin
Жыл бұрын
Exactly. I didn't get it either.
@rahbeeuh
Жыл бұрын
In my defense, I didn't know any better.
@marryamakbaar3014
Жыл бұрын
Yes ! Agreed 🙌🏼
@yellowRose806
Жыл бұрын
I was 12-13 at the time and I didn't get why people love it so much.
@Bexp3
Жыл бұрын
As a teenager I loved her and noah together. As an adult I see her choose him and I’m like girl what are you doing 😅
@littlesongbird1
9 ай бұрын
I have a similar view with the Phantom of the opera..when I was younger (middle school) I wanted Christine to go with the Phantom. When I was in my late 20s/early 30's, I felt like she was right to go with Raoul..now that I am in my 40's I think, "Girl dump them both and follow your career."
@mariannesigley9086
9 ай бұрын
You know what? I’ve watched this a few times and I thought Noah got her by default. She wanted lan and he turned her down, so she went to Noah.
@harleylinnX
6 ай бұрын
She physically hit him though, which could be called abusive behavior.
@flaatheaad7544
Ай бұрын
young girls are ruthlessly heartless
@AliAngelpie
Жыл бұрын
Used to be my favorite romance movie until I realized how incredibly toxic it is. I do think it’s so sweet how an elderly Noah is reading to an elderly Allie who has dementia and can’t remember their love story but how the love story begins is not healthy. I had an opposite side of the tracks relationship, I was rich and he was dirt poor, but I chose to end it because I realized that I would be the main breadwinner as well as cook, housekeeper, errand doer, and I believed that was unfair. He also lacked the maturity and respectability for a happy, healthy relationship, he wasn’t abusive, just not living in reality
@MerelvandenHurk
Жыл бұрын
You sound like an incredibly emotionally mature and wise person. I thoroughly respect that! I just wanted to compliment you, there are so many people who would've dragged an ex like that through the dirt but you have the empathy and nuance to understand and also say out loud that he wasn't abusive, and enough self-love and respect for yourself to choose to end a relationship like that. So here, take my compliments! ^^
@AliAngelpie
Жыл бұрын
@@MerelvandenHurk Thank you!! It definitely was frustrating at times, especially when I saw his lifestyle in his home, but I knew he was a good guy and he came from a good, loving family. He did have rage issues which made it hard for him to keep a job but he never released them on me and when I ended things he was very understanding and respectful and we both went our separate ways without hurt feelings
@GetOfflineGetGood
Жыл бұрын
I know so many women who get caught in that trap of doing all the domestic labor as well as working outside the home, and it sucks so bad. Good for you for side stepping that
@cute1141
Жыл бұрын
I get that. I literally stayed in mine because socially I was told that if you love someone, you should love them regardless of money. Unfortunately, some man, especially immature man will take that as a opportunity to relax and not do anything. My partner turned literally into a child I had to take care of and no one wants to date a child.
@AliAngelpie
Жыл бұрын
@@GetOfflineGetGood I wouldn’t have minded doing my share of the housekeeping and earning an income, especially in this day and age with rent and food and gas prices going up, but the fact that I would come from my third or fourth job to find the house a complete mess with him watching tv and eating snacks without having done a lick of work would have been upsetting. He had trouble focusing and understanding responsibility, he also didn’t have a degree of any kind, but he was still a good guy. I just didn’t want to take care of him and only get grey hair and wrinkles at age 23 as a result
@choryllis6646
Жыл бұрын
Alan saying, "I am the straightest guy you've met," followed immediately by the editors showing pictures of Johnathan and Oscar Isaac, and playing the John Cena "Are you sure about that?" voice clip had me screaming. Also Alan's later rant about James Marsden did not help his case.
@mockingjay478
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, that's not a straight man's reaction to that. I'm also sure it's not the first crush Alan's had on a man 😂
@PS-dm1dq
Жыл бұрын
He is ALWAYS the one in these vids to point out how hawt a male character in any given movie is 😂
@leaczinkota1979
Жыл бұрын
I mean James Marsden IS hot.
@vikki8699
Жыл бұрын
Omg!! Thank you for this! When I watched this with my friends,I was the only one who hated this so called romance movie. I said that this "romance" was nothing more then toxic attachment. People called me bitchy and jealous because no man would do this for me. I am glad that a man wouldn't do this for me, because I'd ran a million miles!
@LadyLuckyLu
10 ай бұрын
100% agreed! She should've stayed with the other guy! 😭
@Schylove12
Жыл бұрын
Fun fact! I showed a sort of sheltered male friend from college a fake trailer that set the romance up as a psychological thriller and he agreed to watch it. During the canoe>kissing in the rain> love making sequence he finally paused it and said something to the effect of "wait so is he going to stalk and murder her, or not?"
@Spritzkrieg
Жыл бұрын
Oh that idea is too good
@16poetisa
Жыл бұрын
This is 100% what "Passengers" should have been, a dark sci-fi psychodrama. I'm sure someone's done a short film version edited as such.
@groovy42
10 ай бұрын
@@NeggieKnightI also feel remorse when I literally kill, murder, destroy the rest of someone’s life cause I am lonely. I thought about this and if I was in that horrible man’s situation, I would have lived as long as I could until I could not stand the loneliness and then killed myself. There is no Honor or love or joy or romance or anything but selfish, selfish hate in dooming someone to a life of suffering and ever-present, ever-looming death. What can he do to make his horrible purposeful murder better? Nothing.
@atimidbirb
9 ай бұрын
Good assumption tbh
@rum_coke_17
8 ай бұрын
that’s a damn good idea
@mpet483
Жыл бұрын
Yes, Bluey is SO GOOD! It’s rare to find a show with such good relationships, parents engaging with their kids, and not treating the dad like a buffoon.
@naturallyamused
Жыл бұрын
Bluey is a GIFT. My kids are 7 and 5 and watch it non stop and I don't mind. I love watching it along with them it's so Damn good.
@Ventus98
Жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh yes, it’s one of the only shows my nephews watch that I don’t mind watching with them
@datheamore6395
Жыл бұрын
Yes to this comment and the replies made before me. Bluey is my jam... I mean, my son's jam.😉
@pokaay3163
Жыл бұрын
I saw an ad that was just a clip of Bluey and thought “huh, this is actually nice.” And it was one of the few times i havent skipped a skippable ad
@SassyWinterFox
Жыл бұрын
Bluey is amazing. Some people say that Bandit is treated a bit like a doofus. But it's a good portrayal of the laid back Aussie father figure. We all joke around and most families have 1 joker and 1 traditional parent figure. But both Bandit and Chili swap those roles as needed for their girls.
@Monicamcs
Жыл бұрын
When I was a teenager, I thought this movie was so romantic. When I become and adult, I realized how toxic it is. What’s scary is that I saw a lot of teenage toxic relationships around me and they thought it was normal and all that drama made it “fun”.
@brittanyhoward1741
Жыл бұрын
allen screaming "THE NOTEBOOK KILLED MY GRANDPARENTS" has the same energy as "SINGING KILLED MY GRANDMA" from trolls
@footh1013
Жыл бұрын
I thought the same thing! 😂
@fanatomic24
Жыл бұрын
Or that grandma yelling "NO SINGING" from coco
@yoursdilan
Жыл бұрын
Or the “ i ate my grandma” from Moana
@Honeystodolist
Жыл бұрын
@@fanatomic24 N n I
@Strawberrymatcha555
Жыл бұрын
My mom and I both watched this movie for the first and only time when I was a teenager. We had heard how fantastic of a romance story it was. When the movie ended we just slowly looked at each other with equally dumbfounded expressions. We agreed that it was actually terrible and we did not understand the hype around it 😂
@starlingswallow
Жыл бұрын
Same!!!!
@k.stacey7389
Жыл бұрын
I enjoyed the hell out of it. But probably not for the reasons I was suppose to. The sets and costumes were outstanding, and it was funny as hell in some parts. Plus James Garner was great, as always, and it was pretty easy to ignore the more horrible “romantic” story lines. Same with Titanic. I mean, it was worth watching even though Rose killing Jack wasn’t really all that fun.
@Katniss123
Жыл бұрын
I had de EXSACT reaction you described with my mom! 😵💫😆
@spaghetto9836
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry, I'm just imagining you two turning to look at each other like dog owners share glances with their dogs 💀 "Wtf was that?"
@natashamerline
Жыл бұрын
I watched it, I thought I watched the wrong movie 💀 based on what I've heard, I can't believe it's actually the movie
@dri8402
Жыл бұрын
it's true, when you feel loved and safe, you feel passion. people think it's "boring" but it's so much better. we're just used to toxicity.
@Newfiecat
Жыл бұрын
And it doesn't have to be "boring"! Like, Gomez and Morticia are loving and wholesome, but both of those characters are certainly far from boring! And their passion rings true. If you write interesting characters, then their relationship is going to be interesting. Anyone can make a couple of cardboard cutouts scream and threaten each other and call that "passionate" or "interesting".
@casy6203
Жыл бұрын
And what seems boring to others isn't to you, like going grocery shopping or sitting in DMV waiting line because you have each others company
@judeannethecandorchannel2153
Жыл бұрын
True 🥺😢🥺 I ended up feeling loved (sometimes) but *physically unsafe. That's why 10 days ago, covered in bruises, I finally left. It'll take I don't know how long to fully Extricate, dissolve business partnership, etc. McDonald's right that I'm clearly some people will recover from toxic relationships even domestic abuse. you can look it up right here on KZitem and hear a couple of talk about their recovery. I thought my fiance and I could do that. but he's too mentally ill, to borderline, to narcissistic, two immature, to focused on making money over everything else, to paranoid two secretive to comfortable lying... toxic toxic toxic I saw all the red flags and I forgive them and rationalized them away. I saw all the red flags and I rationalized them away. let me repeat that I saw all the red flags and irrational way. this is what happens when you rationalize the way the red flags. you end up walking away covered in bruises, and even your money is too entangled with the other persons to fully get away without their help.. at least that's what happened to me. it's still happening.
@carteo7008
Жыл бұрын
yes, but there's also the point of excitement and variation which often isn't included in the package of the traditional "the good guy" in romantic movies. (I don't watch a lot of romantic movies but ik that this also applies to West Side Story)
@katie7748
Жыл бұрын
@@casy6203 My husband and I were just talking about this!
@kat4923
Жыл бұрын
Thank God I'm too sick of my parents arguing to find drama in a relationship "romantic". I want calm and stability thank you.
@sabinamcdaniel7412
Жыл бұрын
Stick with this feeling. I've been married 5 years. I find my husband attractive and he is absolutely the best person I know, but those infatuation feelings aren't there even most of the time. But I love him all the time, and I'm so happy with him, especially compared to living in my parents' home. I don't have to worry about being attacked over my mistakes, and every single day I see how he gives everything he has for me and our kids. Don't fall for the Hollywood hype. I feel happy and safe, and I hope the same for you someday soon!
@whysosrs5534
Жыл бұрын
I doubt there is a married couple who never fought. After 10+ years of marriage, you will argue for the sake of arguing. lol
@sabinamcdaniel7412
Жыл бұрын
@@whysosrs5534 lol I never said that there are couples who never argue. And that's not the case for us; we do disagree. Even when he is upset with me, he deals with it calmly and doesn't attack me. And thanks for the prediction, but I've dealt with those before, and in my experience it says more about the person making the prediction than about my relationship. 😄
@jadelinny
Жыл бұрын
@@enviritas9498 Unless they're talking about something that's more like a debate. My brother will play devil's advocate just because he's bored.
@k.stacey7389
Жыл бұрын
@@whysosrs5534 my husband and I will not argue something for the sake of not arguing.
@blairjones1351
Жыл бұрын
It always bothered me that Noah extorted a date out of Allie and we were supposed to find that romantic. All of my friends thought it was sweet, I thought it was sick.
@Ladililn
Жыл бұрын
yeah, it's kind of funny how much they keep nodding to the other side--the chemistry! the acting! the charisma! of course people are going to fall for it!--when some of us watching never liked this movie to begin with. (tbf, I don't know whether the reason I hated it as a preteen girl was that I picked up on the toxicity of the relationship or just that I thought it was schmaltzy and stupid)
@leighmartin9187
Жыл бұрын
exactly. At least wait until the date is over. Interrupting someone's date is a really rude and low blow. He then basically uses emotional abuse to get a date. I mean, putting yourself in danger to get someone to stay or say yes is not romantic. it is not a healthy way to start a relationship.
@godzillasimpson8357
Жыл бұрын
The relationship in this movie makes twilight look healthy. And that’s not an easy task to accomplish
@mackaylacook148
Жыл бұрын
@@godzillasimpson8357 agreed
@Author.Noelle.Alexandria
Жыл бұрын
That scene turned me instantly against the rest of this movie the first time I saw it.
@jennifergwyneth9546
Жыл бұрын
I loved James Marsden's comment when he read the script for "27 dresses". "Wait a minute, I'm in a love triangle and I get the girl? I don't think I can do that!" 🤣🤣
@MizMima
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@LivelyLinnea
Жыл бұрын
we stan james marsden
@dontburstmybubble686
Жыл бұрын
James Marsden is one of my favorite underrated actors. Sonic guy *and* Prince Charming in Enchanted??? THE RANGE!
@Keznen
Жыл бұрын
@Don’t burst my bubble -Hey, don't forget Kovu and Max Goof!- EDIT: Wrong J. Marsden. Oops! They're both underrated, though.
@Keznen
Жыл бұрын
@Don’t burst my bubble Enchanted is a seriously underrated movie, though.
@KatieTheAngelfish
10 ай бұрын
Reminds me of my best friend from when I was a kid. We had a shared male friend and one day he told her that he liked her and asked her to be his girlfriend. She actually said no at first, but when he guilt-tripped her with "nobody wants me" and "nobody likes me", she ended up saying yes. I remember feeling so bad on her behalf when she told me later. We were just young teenagers so I had no idea how to properly react or try to make her see the problem with it. They aren't together anymore, which I think is a good thing.
@mandolina6280
Ай бұрын
I had something similar. I had a break-up from previous relationship. There was less than a year after break-up. I lived in a city with no friends. So I had nobody to speak or go out. I started to go out for a city walks, started to spend more time for myself, do things what I love and then I met my next BF. At the beginning I told him that I don't want to rush into relationship, let's be friends. He totally refused such an idea. I knew him less than a week and he told either we'll be in a relationship or I will not see him again. I ended up too to saying yes. I was afraid to be friendless and alone again. To this day, I regret that I made that choice. He wasn't a good person. In that relationship I felt unlucky and miserable. Rather to be alone and happy than in a miserable relationship.
@daniellesiler4394
Жыл бұрын
I love watching you guys “tear apart” unhealthy movies. It’s not mean spirited but soooooo truthful.
@g.d.graham2446
Жыл бұрын
Definitely
@tiffanypersaud3518
Жыл бұрын
Exactly.
@n4musica
Жыл бұрын
Watching it like this I’m realizing that TRULY it’s just the fact that Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams are just amazing actors with insane chemistry that know how to react to make the audience feel like this is romantic. Lesser actors would have exposed the toxicity right away.
@galaxyocicat5660
Жыл бұрын
That's what happened with After. It was more obvious how toxic and gross it is.
@patnor7354
7 ай бұрын
pretty
@Patsanford220
7 ай бұрын
So true! When they finally “did it” I was like YESSSS GET IT GUYS 😂 Their chemistry blinded us to the toxic parts
@MinSunYe
Жыл бұрын
The sad thing is in the book, Noah and Allie were overall a good relationship and didn't fight like they did in the film. Hollywood decided that would be too boring and made them toxic, screaming at each other all the time, because apparently that's passion. Unfortunately, Mr. Sparks always allows Hollywood to make changes as they please to his stuff because he understands that certain things don't transfer well from book to film adaption, or something like that. Also, Noah and Allie are loose inspirations of Sparks's own grandparents, saying this was their story during the 40's (the book version, of course, not the movie)
@MinSunYe
Жыл бұрын
Another tidbit: in the book, Noah wrote the notebook that he reads to Allie, in the film, she writes it herself to have him read back to her, don’t know why they changed that
@CreamIceMs
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for clearing that up. My sister read the book and loved it. Then she saw the movie and came back super angry (they changed everything!!). It's good to hear this wasn't the original story.
@MinSunYe
Жыл бұрын
@@CreamIceMs yeah, I recommend listening to Nicholas Spark’s audio commentary to the movie. You can tell he wasn’t thrilled about changing the relationship dynamic to being toxic af but just kinda accepted it? Like “oh well, I understand why they make changes, I’ll let them do their own thing, even if I don’t like it”. He explains that Lon AND Noah are both genuine GOOD guys, Allie has two good men to choose from, which is what makes her decision so difficult to make. One was not necessarily “better” than the other
@Book_Dragon2562
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! I've been saying this for YEARS
@EG-cm5th
Жыл бұрын
y'know, I honestly want to have somebody make a movie that *is* legitimately completely true to whatever book it's based on...and then make one that's *not* completely true to the book but is "adapted to film" and then see which one actually turns out better. Because like, it would probably depend on the book, for sure (imagine trying to make a film that 100% follows everything that happens in The Silmarillion, for instance...) but books like Percy Jackson? I distinctly remember thinking when I was reading PJATO that the book practically read like a movie script in and of itself.
@MareMarMarie
Жыл бұрын
That’s the issue I’ve had with Nicholas Sparks movies. The relationships always develop on the girl being mildly interested and the guys making these over the top gestures based on the girls looks. A Walk to Remember basically started with a Shes All That moment.
@user-pi3hd2bt3f
11 ай бұрын
I mean, i think Dear John was a pretty okay and realistic love story. Not all of them are toxic
@lancethefilmguy9392
7 ай бұрын
I really enjoyed The Choice, The Last Song and A Walk To Remember. Most of his stories are actually okay. The Notebook, however, is not.
@lanabanana538
Жыл бұрын
A close high school friend of mine dated a girl in his freshman year who threatened self harm and suicide to get him to stay in the relationship. There's nothing funny or cute about threatening someone like that, it's scary. That relationship was very toxic and he never liked talking about it after.
@christiannachel2710
Жыл бұрын
He must felt so guilty/ scared and that's not love that's feeling responsible for someone. 🤨☹️
@Loaves_of_Cat
Жыл бұрын
Best way to deal with that is to just call for a wellness check on said person. That usually shuts them down cause u know, feeling humiliation cause they know what they’re doing.
@DoctorBright
Жыл бұрын
Ive had multiple friends who have stayed in abusive relationships because the abuser threatened suicide. It's abuse. Plain and simple
@siggilinde5623
Жыл бұрын
Ex from my ma in her youth actually killed himself. She was 16 and it took lots of therapy to really understand that it wasn't her fault...
@lizzyrank5405
Жыл бұрын
As someone who went through the same thing with my ex I understand why he wouldn't and also understand the initial fear and guilt that if you did leave then would they really go through it. I talk about mine so that others know the signs and that no matter what it's ok to leave or else it could turn nasty quick with people like that and to cut ties immediately. Luckily for me i read domestic teen aritcles before even having a relationship just because i didnt want to be in those situations but was still naive. I like to tell people that it's never their fault because at the end of the day the people threating themselves don't love nor care about your well-being and its best to get help quick for both parties sakes. I never told my parents until years later.
@ninav3454
Жыл бұрын
Me and my then Boyfriend watched The Notebook as it’s always recommended as a must-see romantic movie for a couple and we both hated the guts out of and agreed that it’s just abuse and manipulation labeled as romantic. And that’s why he is not my boyfriend anymore but my husband ❤
@TheShanicpower
Жыл бұрын
Queen shit, wish the best for both of you ❤ Tearing apart bad romances with your partner is peak couple bonding.
@Unitato152
Жыл бұрын
Reading the last sentence had me at the first half not gonna lie. I'm happy for you two though! 😄
@Hiddenplace414
Жыл бұрын
Yay happy ending
@itzakpoelzig330
Жыл бұрын
They've found that, statistically, one of the most effective forms of couples counseling is actually watching movies together and discussing the relationships in the movie with your partner.
@PanthereaLeonis
Жыл бұрын
This sounds like a version of the IKEA test! Maybe if you can watch this movie, and both of you hate it for the right reasons, you are at least well equipped for a respectful relationship!
@shannoncurry2037
Жыл бұрын
I learned 2 things watching this video. Alan's hatred for geese and his absolute love for James Marsden 💙 ❤️
@bewusstsein3527
2 ай бұрын
He is a victim like james?
@crissyjayfae
Жыл бұрын
I sometimes get so annoyed at how I used to think this was such a romantic movie, but now that I’ve been through toxic relationships I understand how bad this all is. Thank you for this break down. More people need to realize this.
@Zubstep1315
Жыл бұрын
The slapping scene is kind of triggering 😅
@blueseptember2174
Жыл бұрын
Yes I can't watch this anymore after I married my "Noah". It's trauma 😭
@amys.9175
Жыл бұрын
My ex-boyfriend who was extremely abusive MADE ME watch this movie. I think just that fact says it all about it lol
@Fingerscrossedout
Жыл бұрын
Omg he outed himself so hard 😂😬🤦♀️
@rebeccaconlon9743
Жыл бұрын
@@Fingerscrossedout those that think it's normal will not see it as red flags
@spinfoilhat3087
Жыл бұрын
never been so happy to hear someone say "ex" holy shit you dodged a bullet there
@jessicazimmer1644
Жыл бұрын
Actually same! It was his favorite movie 🤮 I can't believe I didn't realize how awful it was at the time, but "we accept the love we think we deserve" and are blind to its faults. I'm so sorry that happened to you, and I'm glad you're out of that situation now!! 💜
@amys.9175
Жыл бұрын
@@jessicazimmer1644 omg that’s hilarious that it was his favorite 😅 Thank you, I assume you must know how happy I am not to be involved in this anymore!
@prettygirlsaywhat
Жыл бұрын
I love that the dog comes over at the end like “no hitting! Be nice humans!” 🤣
@mirrormarch7374
Жыл бұрын
Yes, finally! I remember watching this movie with my friend for the first time a couple years ago because it was apparently the greatest romance ever, but the entire time I was like "Am I supposed to be rooting for these two?" I remember yelling at the screen for Allie to marry the other guy because he was so much better. Glad to know I'm not the only one who thought their relationship was awful.
@zenkim6709
Жыл бұрын
Same! A former friend insisted that I accompany her to watch (then) newly-released movies when they came out in the theaters, this being 1 of them. Sry I'm not sry, but "The Notebook" did *not* impress me as a compelling love story ... but that was nothing compared 2 the last movie we watched together, which caused me to relive emotional trauma so deep (from watching my own father die in the hospital) that I walked out of the theater in a state of devastation. Needless to say, we no longer watch movies ... or *anything* ... together.
@kay-jay1581
Жыл бұрын
No Titanic It’s the superior romance story compared to the Notebook.
@empath9814
Жыл бұрын
Yeah I don't understand why my generation likes this and Titanic. Princess Bride is where it's at.
@kitieriwhite7758
Жыл бұрын
@@empath9814 do you want a peanut?
@amypond1867
Жыл бұрын
@@kitieriwhite7758 No more rhymes now, I mean it!!
@alcyonae
Жыл бұрын
I watched The Notebook at 18 for the first time with burning despise, until they got to the Alzheimer’s part. My grandparents were like that, truly living the “till death do us apart” oath. He developed dementia and she never showed an inkling of frustration. She took care of him lovingly, replied to his incessant repetitive questions with the same respect of their younger years.
@heidihuff8695
Жыл бұрын
The doggie at the end being like, "Are you guys okay?" Imagine if Noah had a dog and every time and he and Allie fought he stepped in like, "Hey guys?"
@CinemaTherapyShow
Жыл бұрын
Would've made the movie 100x better!
@katharinewiley8850
Жыл бұрын
Or maybe have a goose attack them each time. ;)
@RenaRain
Жыл бұрын
That dog would have needed therapy
@marink94
Жыл бұрын
I love Gandalf at the end checking that everything is ok, just made my day!
@kataevellei415
8 ай бұрын
One of my therapists (!!!) said during a session that this was one of her favorite romantic stories, and she'd always cry at the rain scene. I was so taken aback, I couldn't even say anything in protest.
@oliviadawes3345
6 ай бұрын
Ummm WHAT?! 😭 time to find a smarter therapist
@Badblondeone
6 күн бұрын
Umm it’s just a movie so who tf actually cares… you a petty little cry baby who needs a therapist 😂😂😂
@Jvstm
Жыл бұрын
The most frustrating thing about this movie is that I literally lived this movie through my twenties and it caused so much fucking trauma that I'm still feeling the kickback in my thirties.
@pysq8
Жыл бұрын
I feel ya. I listened to music I lived out, and... Yeah. Hearing some gems from these 2 channels has helped lately: Sam Vaknin and R.E.Dossett Let's be as patient and kind with yourselves as we were to the crazies ☺️🤗
@AnastasiaTalen
Жыл бұрын
I watched the first 10 minutes and was horrified - he asks her out, gets rejected, shows up when she's on a date with someone else and asks again, gets rejected, and proceeds to threaten to kill himself in front of her on her date if she doesn't agree. Absolutely terrifying behaviour, The Notebook is a horror movie.
@voidwalker7774
Жыл бұрын
Only if you are a woman. But if you are a deranged sociopath and love the twiligh movies ... thats love.
@luv2charlie
Жыл бұрын
I've never understood why women liked this garbage movie!!
@story3877
Жыл бұрын
@@luv2charlie Many of us do not.
@story3877
Жыл бұрын
I would like to see this get re-cut AS a horror movie lol. That would be fantastic.
@madapigi1
Жыл бұрын
i always hated their relationshop but i always felt like i was alone since everyone seemed to love this couple. Glad i'm not alone
@agatahighstein
Жыл бұрын
I am so sick of healthy relationships not being portrayed in movies because they’re “boring“. They are not boring. Have you watched Heartstopper? That is a wonderful, incredibly healthy relationship, which is really amazing considering their age. And it had massive success. Give us more stories like that, where both partners are kind, super caring about each other, very self-aware, and constantly working to make sure that their relationship is better and that they are communicating well. And I know that cinematherapy almost only does movies, but if they ever did a Heartstopper episode I would be absolutely dying happy. Please consider it!!!
@chlorineii
Жыл бұрын
Yes! I’d love to see them look at Heartstopper for a more positive example. I just finished it a bit ago and I wish I could watch it for the first time again.
@agatahighstein
Жыл бұрын
@@erenyeagerist7681 I do watch K-dramas and a lot of them aren’t very healthy either, some of them are but a lot of them aren’t, similar to American. But I’ll check out Marry Me, thanks for the rec!
@Xehanort10
Жыл бұрын
The idea that good people are boring but horrible people are interesting and exciting is really unhealthy. There's plenty of good interesting people out there. Good people who happen to be boring are boring because they're boring not because they're good.
@alalalala57
Жыл бұрын
@@erenyeagerist7681 Ugh, most Asian dramas are melodramas that are not only toxic, they sometimes portray things that would be criminal as romantic.
@kellydepaz525
Жыл бұрын
Our Flag Means Death also has beautiful and adorable couples. It’s a great pick if you’re a fan of Heartstopper, it has excellent queer representation.
@1and253
3 ай бұрын
My mom has both alzheimers and dementia. She doesnt remember me at all. The last time we talked, it was like we were friends, two young single ladies 😅. To help with this tragic disease, I tend to think that this is a mercy for someone to be wiped clean of all the bad things that have happened to them, and all the bad things they have done to others, so that their soul is clean and new when they pass on. Yeah, its an ugly disease from our view, but in the end, the load on their hearts and energy will be free. Its like a grand process. I am glad she doesnt remember the bad times, and I hope in her next life, she is extremely happy and abundantly loved. Thats what I believe.
@deewampus
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU. I never understood why people felt this was the ultimate love story. I felt creeped out the whole time.
@brianawhittaker8152
Жыл бұрын
I think why ppl are saying that is bc they always chased each other. In a way they never gave up on each other. But looking back I can see why everyone said it was toxic. They were young and didn't communicate properly, they were both hot heads didn't handle emotion very well, and the hitting isn't okay no matter how upset you are.
@joey4222
Жыл бұрын
Same 😂 finally watched it after all the hype and was weirded out for the rest of the movie after that Ferris wheel scene
@tattycakes2k2
Жыл бұрын
The old couple is sweet, that’s the part that I think gets everyone
@Godloveszaza
Жыл бұрын
You're just sensitive which isnt suprising. The book was creepy though.
@jwrightgardening
Жыл бұрын
My husband and I watched this when we were newlyweds and both agreed that we wanted those 2 hours of our life back. 😜 I love how you bring everyone's attention to how unhealthy and unrealistic so many relationships in media are. And in a fun way!
@CinemaTherapyShow
Жыл бұрын
Thanks, we're glad it's fun and educational for y'all!
@nephicus339
Жыл бұрын
Movie ends, "Well. Now we know what signs to look out for."
@Lucky781_
Жыл бұрын
@@nephicus339 chal p
@helenf.7221
Жыл бұрын
Ty! I was dragged to the theater when this came out and grown women were sobbing talking about how romantic it was at the end. I wanted to puke
@lauraschoenborn3544
Жыл бұрын
Honestly, I always felt like a Walk to Remember was a better love story than this one, because it showed how much he loved and respected her, and there relationship was built on mutual love and respect. It was not love at first sight, it actually took time for the relationship to develop.
@makylaandel6969
Жыл бұрын
I feel like thats the movie they should review for nicholas sparkes.
@RedRoseSeptember22
Жыл бұрын
Love that movie ♥
@timschommer8548
Жыл бұрын
A personal favorite of mine.
@drazil99
Жыл бұрын
💯
@emmaschroer3235
Жыл бұрын
Yup
@tehreemraza123
Жыл бұрын
As the only teenage girl in my class who did not like this movie (Or any of the Sparks novels) I realize my ability to see green flags has been great since then. It's like one of those "If you liked Zach or Cody more...?"
@xpinkpyr0x
Жыл бұрын
Please do couple's therapy on A Walk to Remember! It'd be fascinating to hear the commentary about a father and son-in-law relationship as a bonus!
@The_Nightsong
Жыл бұрын
Yeeees!!!
@KristiAnn7594
Жыл бұрын
Ohhh that’s a great suggestion! I second it!
@elliamaris
Жыл бұрын
YES
@HeyTash
Жыл бұрын
OH MY GOSH I LOVE THIS MOVIE SO MUCH
@elysse4929
Жыл бұрын
I love that movie 😇❤ Sure is the polar opposite of this one as to what's romantic AND healthy.
@paulatobler8354
Жыл бұрын
Ryan Gosling said in an interview that he didn’t get this movie because he thought it was problematic, more like stalking than love.
@sarahisatitagain
2 ай бұрын
The man was perfect from day 01 ❤
@vVRukiadVv
Жыл бұрын
I've learned that most "romance" movies that are extremely popular usually have really toxic relationships... and yet people still romanticize them.
@gothicMCRgirl
Жыл бұрын
I mean on the one hand it’s an escape. People fantasize about these sorts of scenarios precisely because they are absurd. Most people know that in real life, stalker behavior is an absolute no-no. It’s fine to critique movies and all, but let’s not pretend that the people who enjoy them are somehow intellectually or emotionally moronic. That’s like saying people that like slasher films want to be serial killers, it’s not true and it’s a very unfair assumption. Just like slayers films, romance movies and books are just an escape.
@athavavalisio9585
Жыл бұрын
@@gothicMCRgirl Not many people can imagine themselves going around murdering people so I'd say that's a poor comparison. Whereas anyone can imagine themselves falling in love and sadly to many this is what it looks like. There are a lot of people out there with bad or no examples of what a healthy relationship looks like but they have to get an idea somewhere. Most get these ideas from their parents/parent, movies, music, social media ect. and their environment in general. This makes perfect sense when you look at peoples relationships these days and many of the red flags presented in them. Mostly it's selfishness and fantastical delusion but a lot of that stems from media especially the (my abusive relationship will work out because we love each other -everyone fights) from movies and media. The one I notice that seems to sabotage a lot of long term relationships or marriages, particularly for women is "There wasn't any passion anymore" and "I fell out of love with him". They confuse comfort and peace for boredom and assume that there is no longer any love because there isn't that "thrill" they had before and start to yearn for the days of excitement and movies like this don't help. They are reminded of what "passion" is like and seek that like an addict honestly. If you throw out a concept long enough people will start to apply it on some level especially if its glorified like this is. It would be remise to assume that the type of influences we are surrounded by don't play are part in how we think and operate. Watching serial killer movies won't necessarily turn you into a killer but it certainly can make people more paranoid about them.
@ЛюдмилаЗайкова-о2ф
Жыл бұрын
honestly watched this episode of CT to avoid watching the Notebook. I was told it's a beautiful love story by so many people including my husband😂 thank you for this episode! and to recover from this movie may I suggest Superman and Lois❤ their love story is so full of support and trust it'll heal you.
@CinemaTherapyShow
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome! Thanks for watching!
@johnchacko1425
7 ай бұрын
tv program my adventure with superman
@sariahhayford3331
Жыл бұрын
I love the mini rant about James Marsden. He's always the good guy in romantic movies, I always love his characters. It's nice when he occasionally gets the girl, I want it to happen more often
@nurainiarsad7395
Жыл бұрын
ikr? i’m always like, wth was wrong with [james marsden’s character]? especially compared to the lead who usually has some kind of dysfunction he clearly hasn’t worked through and seems to expect the female protagonist to magically cure him of because of how special she is?
@juliabraganca8554
Жыл бұрын
@@nurainiarsad7395 oh mt gosh you said It all
@deanwinchester3356
Жыл бұрын
My mom, sister and I all agreed James Marsden is much better looking. As you can see by my profile pic (Dean Winchester), I have a certain type. Lol
@dhivyasivanesan9149
Жыл бұрын
He plays an asshole in the series, dead to me.
@eowynsisterdaughter
Жыл бұрын
He almost always gets cast as the dude who has his girlfriend/wife/fiance stolen. Typecasting? Why does this keep happening? It's low key hilarious though.
@nathenewendzel7806
Жыл бұрын
I never really liked the romance in the Notebook when they were teenagers and young adults, but the idea of an elderly man ready their love story to his wife to help her remember and him not wanting to leave her side and just wanting to be with her despite her being unable to remember who he is just warms my heart and it just breaks my heart for her to remember just to forget again a few minutes later and get scared. They could have picked a better love story and I'd still get that effect, maybe cry over it even more.
@LB-gz3ke
Жыл бұрын
The old couple was the only bearable part of the movie. Divorce them from the rest of the story and it is good. Also, Ryan Gosling as a young James Garner? Yeah...nope.
@annabees
Жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly. I didn't really recall the love story but the one when they are old. I erase bad/uninteresting memories 😂
@beckahmastroni5472
Жыл бұрын
Everyone : We want to see Alan cry more! Alan : My grandma passed away from Alzheimer's 2 weeks ago. Everyone : ................
@craigmiller4199
Жыл бұрын
I know it was a random nearly throw away line, but as a parent I have to say that Bluey is an incredible kids show with some of the most wholesome family dynamics. I wish I had the time and energy to be the dad from that show.
@skelemanbrie
Жыл бұрын
I love how you guys don’t knock anyone for liking the movies you comment on, but do always remind people not to shape their relationships after them. You guys are so respectful
@morgand.3809
Жыл бұрын
Oh gosh, THANK YOU. I was introduced to this movie with the promise that this was "the most touching and romantic film ever made" and I felt honestly gaslighted when everyone told me I was crazy for being downright horrified by this relationship. Lon (Marsden) was the only character I liked in that mess, but let's face it, he dodged a bullet there. Hopefully, he found someone who truly appreciated him. I'm feeling somewhat vindicated now.
@Wawagirl17
Жыл бұрын
Lon was literally SO wonderful, you just know he's bouncin' back.
@StormEyes1991
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, I was like, marry him! Marry him! He' a great guy! Marry h- Oh never mind. He got away. What is wrong with you girl?
@spacecavy
Жыл бұрын
I have the weirdest positive association with this movie. I watched this movie on an airplane when I was a teenager. My family was trying to save money on the flight, so we were all in middle seats spread around the plane. When the plane landed and we found each other, my father immediately exploded with, "I saw the WORST movie on that flight!" I gasped, "Me too! Was it The Notebook?" "YES!!!" My father and I don't have the best relationship, but I cherish our joint unadulterated rage at this film.
@AC-by9wv
Жыл бұрын
Nice
@dove8623
Жыл бұрын
🤣😂 AMAZING!!!
@Hessed3712
Жыл бұрын
Well, that is the only sweet thing to come from this movie.
@kibi3072
11 ай бұрын
I saw an Instagram reel of that scene of them at the truck in the notebook and it reminded me of a situationship I had with this guy that I walked away from. The fact that people saw that as a “romantic-they-are-meant-to-be” scene made me think I should’ve dated him and made me doubt myself, the point is thank you for reassuring me that it isn’t a healthy dynamic and I am not crazy for thinking that
@rei6249
Жыл бұрын
accidently had the youtube captions on and realized they are not auto generated and choked on my drink when some of alan's expressions were simply captioned as [such pain] 😂 Nice touch cinema therapy, props to whoever wrote the caption script 😂👍
@bookishbutterfly
Жыл бұрын
Watch the twilight movie reviews from them, the captions are hilarious
@yarn7130
Жыл бұрын
Hard concur 🙌🏻
@liamisaac1152
Жыл бұрын
Damm I didn’t know this. Serious props to them!! Now I gotta watch their vids with captions on 😂
@katec7386
Жыл бұрын
I can verify this is accurate and it cracked me up🤣
@CinemaTherapyShow
Жыл бұрын
Our transcriber always does the best job!
@keithwoodcrest
Жыл бұрын
As a man whose wife is battling end stage Cystic Fibrosis and is currently in the hospital awaiting a double lung transplant, this episode hit particularly hard today - but it also provided me with some much needed humor and advice. Thank you. I love this channel and what you do here so much.
@sameaston9587
Жыл бұрын
God bless and the best of luck to ya, mate.
@Crybaby-Media
Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry , I hope your wife has a speedy, comfortable recovery. ❤
@Cora.T
Жыл бұрын
That is terrible, I hope you and your wife fare well and have many happy years together 🍀
@tamt.6909
Жыл бұрын
Wishing you and your wife good luck and many many happy years together 🌻🍀
@estherpettigrew3042
Жыл бұрын
Hugs. I know a similar pain. Take care of yourself too.
@tobyandahalf
Жыл бұрын
this channel has genuinely taught me more about dealing with trauma and abuse and relationships and all that jazz than my parents ever did
@May-qb3vx
Жыл бұрын
I lost my grandfather to Alzheimer’s a few years ago. He was in the Korean War and even until the day he died, he could talk about Korea and all the horrors he saw there. Even when he forgot our faces and our names and would accidentally hurt us (it really was accidental), he could tell you all about Korea. I am convinced some form of ptsd carried those memories further than the other memories. I don’t even want to imagine the horrors that were going on in his mind as he declined.
@classicambo9781
Жыл бұрын
There is more and more evidence that memories associated with PTSD are not stored in the same parts of the brain as typical memories. Part of the reason why music too lives on in memories much longer than language.
I'm truly sorry that happened to him. I know this wasn't exactly what your comment was about but that is just another example of how Nicolas Sparks got this wrong. In the movie ally can apparently remember the story being read to her day after day but her past is totally blank. ???? Isn't usually the other way around, remembering the past more so then the now?
@Katfancy40
Жыл бұрын
I really believe that dementia and Alzheimer's can look differently in every individual. I lost my paternal Grandmother to it finally in 2019 and my maternal grandfather in 2018. My grandma's decline was close to 10 years and couldn't recognize her children and husband even in the beginning but she did remember things no one knew about but we had no way to know if it even happened. She didn't know my grandpa had died and didn't understand even when we were having his services. She thought at times she had to go to school or go pluck a chicken for dinner as a child. Same with my Mom's dad. His wasn't as long but he could remember things throughout his life and then no one. It's awful to see your grandpa literally recoil in anger and fear when he doesn't recognize you and yells at you for lying to him. I have severe PTSD from a work accident that literally almost ground my arm off by a conveyor belt and I still have nightmares every single night and some are so awful I wake myself up screaming and sobbing just like I did that fateful Saturday morning. Also, I lost all of my grandparents and an uncle during my recovery and surgery years, almost 7 years now, but my paternal grandfather was like the old Noah and did his best to try to help his wife of 63 years remember him and all of us who loved her so deeply. I genuinely believe a love story is attainable and I am thankful I could see one in real life.
@lindseyrae4990
Жыл бұрын
Alan: "I'm the straightest dude ever!" Also Alan: *gushes and swoons over James Marsden for 20 minutes"
@andreponniah9900
Жыл бұрын
Everyone has a same-sex celebrity crush. They don’t count.
@hihowareyatoday573
Жыл бұрын
@@andreponniah9900 uhhh dude… who’s gonna tell ya
@Lysteneromelody
Жыл бұрын
@@andreponniah9900 oh boy do we have news for you
@Kieru88
Жыл бұрын
so?
@lindseyrae4990
Жыл бұрын
@@Kieru88 so it's funny? lol
@mirandamarshall7079
Жыл бұрын
I'm glad I'm not the only person who never understood how this relationship is romantic and aspirational. I honestly felt like a pod person when I watched this with others and didn't immediately think they were endgame perfection.
@voidwalker7774
Жыл бұрын
You clearly never watched Twihlight often enough.
@peachesandcream8753
Жыл бұрын
I had the same reaction, so you're not alone. I still don't understand why people think of this as romantic and aspirational. Even the Alzheimers bit doesn't save it for me.
@brianneruiz-mccarty9890
Жыл бұрын
You're not alone. I thought this premise was dumb as a teen. Definitely think it's dumb as a 30 year-old.
@effytraveler6155
Жыл бұрын
Same. I watched it once and never again. It was a horrible relationship that started with him forcing himself on her to get a date.
@saymusiclover
Жыл бұрын
Same. I’ve always thought that this was one of the worst movies EVER. And most of my friends at the time, female and male, thought it to be the most “romantic” movie of all time. 🤮😵💫
@stacyblackadar7138
Жыл бұрын
I watched this as a teen… my dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s when I was 11, passed when I was 20 (super early onset) anyways it’s so nice to see the similar level of “wtf” to the complete disregard for how the disease actually works. Like what in the 50 first dates is this. As a teen girl it was expected for me to love this movie and that part completely broke the spell for me. Also I Stan Bluey forever. It is peak comfort. Love this commentary thanks for making me feel so seen.
@cookingwithtabitha
10 ай бұрын
This movie was terrible on many levels and I remember thinking the way they portrayed her illness was so stupid.
@abnormalAL
Жыл бұрын
Please, please, PLEASE do a full episode on Bluey. Its portrayal of familial relationships is unlike any TV show that I have ever seen. It has more depth and subtext than any "children's" show has any right to have. And it's just so damn charming, moving, and funny.
@whiskeykel
Жыл бұрын
Bluey is bomb
@OdinsSage
Жыл бұрын
As a 32 year old with 0 children, I agree whole heartedly
@candidwings5609
Жыл бұрын
Yes! But Bluey also sometimes makes me feel like a bad parent
@pamelabell2216
Жыл бұрын
Even if you don't make an episode about it cause it's TV seriously watch Bluey.
@karissamoses2442
Жыл бұрын
Bluey is the absolute best!
@vulcanhumor
Жыл бұрын
Way way back when I had my first heartbreak, a friend of mine tried to cheer me up by having us watch The Notebook, because that's apparently the movie you watch after breakups. We ended up not watching it because we were trying to stream it and the WiFi quit working. Watching this video now, years later and after learning a thing or two about relationships...I think it's a good thing I never saw it.
@badadodgen
Жыл бұрын
things really don't just happen for no reason
@kate2create738
Жыл бұрын
Never understood why people would want to watch a movie that gives them a false sense of hope like that.
@Gisechan
Жыл бұрын
It's a good thing if you can't separate fiction from reality. I mean, it's not a documentary about how good relationships are supposed to work. You can watch it, like it or hate it and go on with your life.
@ConvenientlyShapedUsername
Жыл бұрын
@@Gisechan CAN* lol
@devrigoodspeed6810
5 ай бұрын
The big fat Greek wedding is the most wholesome romcom.
@meganhuffmanwrites
Жыл бұрын
Haven't even watched the full video yet, but I just wanted to say THANK YOU! I have never understood the appeal of this deeply dysfunctional, codependent relationship. It's not something to be romanticized!
@positivelysimful1283
Жыл бұрын
Their relationship was healthier in the book; with a way better ending (spoiler alert-- they don't die lol). And the sequel (The Wedding) is a great relationship story-- it's about Noah & Allie's daughter & her husband. After 30 yrs of marriage, the husband realizes the spark has gone out of their marriage because he's been neglectful & taking his wife for granted, and he realizes she's a great woman and doesn't wanna lose her. So the whole book is about how he works to change his life & ways to become a better husband and make her fall in love with him all over again.
@sharlebrooks7406
Жыл бұрын
I am going to have to read them.
@weefiah1
Жыл бұрын
Books are always better!!!😊
@latronqui
Жыл бұрын
Sounds interesting, maybe I'll read them.
@graysonbr
Жыл бұрын
Just wondering does she get dementia like in the movie.
@iAteTheRamen
Жыл бұрын
Bless you for sharing how the book is different! 🙏
@Most0riginalUsername
11 ай бұрын
"Do you wanna dance with me?" "No" *end credits* That wouldn't have sold
@flabbergasted6231
Жыл бұрын
I feel so validated for hating this movie now. :D Yay! I was absolutely disgusted by the cheating. Her fiance was such a sweet guy! :(
@mkuti-childress3625
Жыл бұрын
Oh! I was so bummed when she dumped that man!! That character _and_ actor deserve their own movie-and happy ending!
@stevenyun8296
Жыл бұрын
It is wonderful to come on this page and find that I am not the only one that found this movie disturbing. I get teased for not liking this movie. Yes, I understand that passion makes people do stupid things, but this is insane.
@UnhingedMom
Жыл бұрын
@@mkuti-childress3625 Oh geez no, I wasn't bummed at all! He certainly deserved MUCH better than her.
@sandpiperr
Жыл бұрын
Honestly, the cheating wasn't what bothered me the most. Not that cheating is okay, but sometimes humans do cheat. It happens. It's just something that always has and always will happen in human society because we aren't naturally completely monogamous, nor are we completely promiscuous, we're some where in between. What really disgusted me was the threatened suicide and just how much Allie couldn't make a damned decision! That's why she ended up cheating, because she spent so long not deciding to just go after what she actually wanted.
@kellicoffman8440
Жыл бұрын
I knew I didn’t like this story already but now that I hear that I like it even less suicidal and murderous not what I call a romantic man
@mcedwards
Жыл бұрын
My grandmother is in the beginning stages of Alzheimers and it's already very hard on my family and grandfather. Old Noah's face in that scene is also the only thing that ever made me cry watching this movie, but even more so now. I'm so sorry for your loss, Alan. On another note, I'd listen to you curse at Nicholas Sparks any day
@MaryKat2
Жыл бұрын
I am very sorry to hear that . 😢
@kirstedock77
Жыл бұрын
I’ve always thought it would have been a better story if the man who is reading to her when they are older was the James Marsden character. As if they were married later in life after losing their first spouses. He has to read that far back in her life to maintain her connection to who she is as her memory fades due to Alzheimer’s disease. That would have been a real love story.
@CannonRaw
Жыл бұрын
Psst Write the book. That's a superb idea honestly. With people getting married or being in common law much later in life these days. It's a truth for the future we are heading towards.
@lauranoble9578
Жыл бұрын
My heart! I'd love it!
@51Dutchman
Жыл бұрын
Awww, that’s a really nice idea!
@samriddhigupta5514
3 ай бұрын
I thought it was James Marsden' character all along reading to her, Noah and Allie didn't reunite at all and she marries him and now that he's losing her he's reminding her of who she is. But your idea is good too. It might be more complex as they might have to explain what happened to Noah.
@elmirasmiscellaneous1129
Жыл бұрын
The thing about the passion between Ally and Noah is that: 1- Movies for so long have conditioned us to beleive that the dangerous, bad boy is the true love of the female character and being with a rather unstable person is sexier and more fun than being with a healthy stable person. 2- Another thing is that narcissistic personalities usually know how to sweep you off your feet and force magic and passion on you in the love bombing phase. So the other reason why the relationship with Noah might seem more passionate is the unhealthy pattern of abusive relationships (such as narcissistic relationships). The good news is people are becoming more and more aware of these toxic and unhealthy patterns that have been adverstised for so long in movies.
@elirien4264
9 ай бұрын
PREACH
@patnor7354
7 ай бұрын
Biology, not conditioning
@freshbrewedasmr3378
7 ай бұрын
That’s the whole plot of ACOTAR and Hulu is making a series on it because it’s so popular…
@alyssaperez6647
Жыл бұрын
I would love to see these guys react to Morticia and Gomez's relationship!
@androidlloydwebber4644
Жыл бұрын
They have done a video on Morticia and Gomez! kzitem.info/news/bejne/mal8z6h5hoOiiW0
@lCoolPartner
Жыл бұрын
Nice pfp hahahaha oh Dwight
@opa8928
Жыл бұрын
Yes, very healthy ans validating ones
@yaelthieme6527
Жыл бұрын
Yes!! 😄
@NoxAtlas
Жыл бұрын
They're the best couple in fiction. Not only loving each other with undying passion but they're great parents too. What I love the most about Morticia and Gomez is the swapped dynamics. Usually it's always the wife who's emotional and the husband is always portrayed as the more quiet, serious and reserved one. I got so tired of this trope, seeing Morticia and Gomez flipping it is so refreshing every time I see them
@KarrieDreammind5
Жыл бұрын
I LOVE the end when your dog comes to you all worried because you've just been slapping the hell out of each other! So touching on the dog's part! ❤
@atroskie5101
Жыл бұрын
'Sometimes love is restraint..' So so true and while it's definitely not an easy thing, it will be worth it.
@spinthepickle1244
Жыл бұрын
I just celebrated 23 years of being in a drama-free, passionate marriage. I can't imagine being any happier than I am. I always tell people your best bet for a good spouse is a best friend you want to have s*x with.
@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343
Жыл бұрын
That’s so beautiful.
@FullyAlive33
Жыл бұрын
OMG the dog coming up to make sure everything was ok at the end was so sweet 😭
@lucidfangirl1030
Жыл бұрын
What dog
@FullyAlive33
Жыл бұрын
@Lucid Fangirl After they were pretending to fight the dog came up to make sure they were ok.
@annec8127
Жыл бұрын
So sweet!
@clairemcauliffe9056
Жыл бұрын
Favorite part
@sehaamnaqvi
Жыл бұрын
Clearly he sense conflick
@erikbjelke4411
11 ай бұрын
20:46: "What do you want? What do you want? What do you want?" No. First, you need to ask "Who are you?" Then you should probably add "Where are you going?" and "Why are you here?" Anyone who gets this, take ten extra awesome points. You earned them.
@Vivian2043
9 ай бұрын
I don't know if it's a reference to anything, but what I understood was... Who are you?: It's important to know each other in a relationship. Also, the question assumes that the person developed their own sense of identity, which is vital in general. Where are you going?: It is also important to look at the goals and dreams of the other person, as well as the context of their current life and what do they plan to do according to that. Why are you here?: If someone is with you, that means you have something to offer to them. Is that something stable enough for them to stay? Is it worth it to keep trying? I'm not good at expressing myself and I tend to live inside my own head, so I'm sorry if I actually missed the point 😅
@erikbjelke4411
9 ай бұрын
@@Vivian2043 Great sci-fi show, Babylon 5, four questions reverberate through all 5 seasons. The first, and most obvious, is "What do you want," asked of a rather shady character to some prominent players, over and over, until he figures out what they *truly* want and if his "associates" can help them with that. . . and if what they want is helpful to his "associates." The second, slightly less obvious, is "Who are you?" asked by an Inquisitor to one of the major players. Two others are more subtle, but even more important in their own ways: "Where are you going?" and "Why are you here?"
@daulahiftitah6461
Жыл бұрын
Just the other day, I remember seeing a post about this on insta, saying "kissing partner to shut them up" isn't romantic, and the example being used was this exact movie. The post also said, "had the role switched and it was the bf who slapped the girl, it would've, instead, became a thriller movie about a girl who tried to run away from an abusive partner." The post made me glad since, apparently, I didn't miss anything not watching The Notebook (also, I'm the "platonic over romantic" kind of person soooo....) 😅
@greensea2803
Жыл бұрын
Good points! And wow, I finally found someone who never watched it either! Platonic relationships are way more wholesome in media (usually), so I get it.
@lop1652
Жыл бұрын
@@greensea2803 Is it really difficult to find someone that didn't watch this movie? I don't personally know anyone who did watch it, myself included, lol.
@oreonighthawk
Жыл бұрын
I'm also in the "haven't watched The Notebook" club, and the "haven't watched the Twilight Series" club, and watching Cinema Therapy has made me much happier about those choices. Previously I was ambivalent, but watching them "hate-watch" stuff is way more entertaining than me hate watching, and only costs a fraction of my time. So thanks, Jon and Alan, for your service!
@tyrant-den884
Жыл бұрын
If Christian Grey was ten years older, 50 Shades would be a psychological horror, and a better movie for it.
@kaybadberg534
Жыл бұрын
My favorite version of the “kissing partner to shut them up” is when the person receiving the kiss is anxiously rambling about their feelings for the other and they get kissed into silence.
@myname203
Жыл бұрын
I watched The Notebook with my mom and dad, who were teens in the 1940s. One thing about the portrayal of romance back then is everything was greatly rushed by how teens were expected to get married right away. Then the war years, where so much uncertainly fueled rush marriages and behavior that is so bizarre nowadays when we all have vast options. All the same a lot of scenes are cringe and not "cute" when you think about it. Domestic violence, threats of self harm etc. Part of it is cinema but part is (in my parents' opinion anyway) a geniuine reflection on how screwed up things were back then.
@ananse77
Жыл бұрын
Interesting perspective.
@SuperMelrose1
Жыл бұрын
I came to say this. I take care of an elderly gentleman who was married to his wife for 65 years (she passed a couple years ago). He also says this is pretty accurate of how relationships worked.
@cb9299
Жыл бұрын
i remember being a kid and asking my mom why her parents got divorced and her answer was they got married young and "the war". i never understood that as a kid, i pictured people running around getting married with bombs going off, you know clueless kid kind of thoughts. i understood better as i became older but your comment just made it make so much more sense.
@--enyo--
Жыл бұрын
The past was the worst.
@Dani62190
Жыл бұрын
The worst part of the notebook has always been how toxic their relationship is. like in the book at the end Noah poisons their dinner so they can died together because he can't deal with her not remembering him and can't live without her.
@51Dutchman
Жыл бұрын
Wait, THAT’S how they die together? Oh my goodness, that’s horrifying!
@sarahmacdougal2117
Жыл бұрын
That's terrible!
@gabrielaburcea5734
Жыл бұрын
Wow. I don't remember that. Sparks is sick...
@tabathaogost4982
Жыл бұрын
I think that's an act of love. I do. I think as we get older, a lot of time is waiting to die and it's not like we don't think about opting out. It's nice if someone sees that and handles it. I think it's an act of love because it's so unthinkable. It's quite the sacrifice.
@gabrielaburcea5734
Жыл бұрын
@@tabathaogost4982 my God, you need serious therapy...
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