I understand why some people are saying for adopted children to not contact their bio parents but not every person gives up their children willingly. Some are forced by their family, some forced for being low income or in a toxic household. There are even instances where a hospital has refused care unless the child is given up for adoption. There are other times where the child was stolen and the adoptive parents didn't know. Now if the bio parents tell the kids not to contact them, understood. But there are plenty of cases where bio parents gave up a kid unwillingly.
@patrickp1256
3 ай бұрын
Why do people keep these toxic people in their lives?
@bookwyrmofthenorth
3 ай бұрын
Since there are foolish comments judging people for wanting to meet their bio family, I wanted to put out there that every adoption senario is unique. Bio families are sometimes very glad to be contacted, and plenty of people give up babies under duress, or need to know thibgs for genetic or medicial reasons. Im not discounting that it can go south, but I am saying to trust your gut and take it slow if you're looking for your bio family. Allow for refusal, certainly, there is no gaurentee of sucess, but dont shut it out of your mind just because someone on youtube said it was a bad idea. Just remember that your bio family is made of people too, and hopefully things will go well.
@princessmarlena1359
3 ай бұрын
(F* off, KZitem! My post doesn’t violate your dumb rules!) Story 2: That biological mom’s awful message and terrible deeds need to be put up in public and brought to light. She needs to be shamed. I’d also suggest a lawsuit or counter suit if she files a lawsuit.
@johnnyhall9154
3 ай бұрын
W Father in story 2
@lucyw6397
3 ай бұрын
You didn’t add sections to the video today :(((
@radicallyWIRED
Ай бұрын
Recheck! They’ve been added ☺️
@LunaP1
2 ай бұрын
SiL is mentally disurbed and doesn't need a child if she acts like this. Of course she's the golden child and has never been put in her place whenever she goes off the rails.
@TheyCallMeJay
2 ай бұрын
Calling your son 'little man' is not a pet name, near enough everyone with a son calls him little man😂 including me, why she talking like they the only people that do it lmao, most baby boy clothes even say 'little man' on them
@emperorconstantinexipalaio4121
Ай бұрын
You’re going to ignore all the other red flags that showed the SIL clearly viewed the child as hers??? Lmao
@TheyCallMeJay
Ай бұрын
@emperorconstantinexipalaio4121 what on earth are you on about, just because I nit picked at something you think I'm gonna ignore the rest? I'm not retarded sir
@greatprofessorbias414
2 ай бұрын
I may get hate for this but did the OP in the 2nd story ever consider that they may be a product of S.A. or forced to have due to other reasons, like religion etc. Think about it, Mom went to extreme measures to not only forget about OP but lied to keep anyone else to trying to find her.
@KuroiandNoukon
2 ай бұрын
That may be true but that doesn't excuse the bio-mom for her subhuman treatment of OP. Like basic human decency is just a normal thing to ask for in any interaction. If the bio-Mom went through the effort of telling CPS that the bio-dad was dead, she could've also told them that she didn't want to be contacted when OP was grown but as I'm typing that out I realized it would've given up her whole game of giving OP up for adoption. Like she could've told CPS that OP was a product of rape and asked to not be contacted.
@emperorconstantinexipalaio4121
Ай бұрын
Doesn’t justify her lies and awful treatment of OP. OP wouldn’t be responsible and, furthermore, this is unlikely to be the case since the overwhelming majority of people in those situations still choose to raise their children.
@greatprofessorbias414
Ай бұрын
@@emperorconstantinexipalaio4121 That is true. It doesn't justify OP mom's behavior thats for sure. I just had a thought about it.
@greatprofessorbias414
Ай бұрын
@@KuroiandNoukon You're right, no matter what the reasoning. OP mother's behavior was atrocious.
@maxwhite8616
Ай бұрын
also why did she go through the trouble of putting all the blockades on OP finding the truth when it wouldn't be a problem to her?
@ThufferingThucutash
3 ай бұрын
The best thing an adopted out child can do is never contact their birth parents. It won't work out well for anyone.
@smallpseudonym2844
3 ай бұрын
Disagree wholeheartedly. My parents kept the contact information for my brother if he wanted to contact his biological mother. He was able to meet his half-brother as well. He was able to get closure as to why he had been given up for adoption, and his bio mom was able to witness how he had flourished. Hi bio mom died a few years ago, (chain smoking oncology nurse where the regrettably predictable happened). We all attended the funeral. I can't imagine having been in her place and always torturing yourself that little bit, wondering if you did the right thing. Contact provided healing for the two of them, as well as a newfound respect for my parents on my brother's part. There are pitfalls, but you don't tend to hear the successful cases because they don't become reddit horror stories.
@SquishedFaeries
3 ай бұрын
That's entirely not true, at all. My Husband and his sister were adopted and both ended up having happy reunions with their bio families. My Husband's mother was a teenage girl who'd been forced into giving her baby up for adoption, but was able to get her parents to agree that she could go back for the baby if nobody took him within a 2 week period. He was adopted the day before she was supposed to reclaim him. He was able to get in touch with her later on in life, and it was a very beautiful and touching moment for the both of them. He's been in steady contact with her since, and the two of them have been making up for lost time. As someone who has seen the joys these reunions can cause, I fully support contacting bio parents. Just so long as there isn't a specific note in the adoption folder stating that the bio parents don't ever want to be contacted, which is something people can request when putting a child up for adoption. Only then, would I advise against someone seeking out their bio parents.
@bookwyrmofthenorth
3 ай бұрын
You really dont know what you're on about. My half sisters contacting my family was great for us and our family.
@emperorconstantinexipalaio4121
Ай бұрын
Not true. Closed adoptions where children are unable to contact any of their biological family tend to result in the most stress and psychological issues.
@Obsidian_Iris_
3 ай бұрын
Sorry, but an adopted child should not contact birth parents, just as parents who gave a child up for adoption should not go looking for them. I’ve heard of adoption agencies that ask and record whether birth parents are okay with adopted child contacting them later, but I don’t know how common this is. The adoption happened for a reason and the happy ending this OP experienced isn’t the norm. If there are relevant medical issues, an adoption agency usually lets the adoption parents know about them.
@smallpseudonym2844
3 ай бұрын
Saying this from a position of personal experience are you?
@southernflight5078
3 ай бұрын
If it's not a closed adoption, then all we can do is hope the bio parents can be civil and share their medical history willingly.
@pugsabi
3 ай бұрын
Damn, I must have missed the coronation. When were you made the King of the world? I'll send my gift in the mail.
@DanaTheInsane
3 ай бұрын
@@pugsabi^ this
@unkownbeing5420
3 ай бұрын
I sort of think it’s at least important to get medical history, because it could be possible that any children that the adoptive person have could potentially be born or developed something life threatening.
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