I recently left my husband due to this situation. His family has been disrespectful since our dating stage and and it’s still happening 2 years into our marriage. He still doesn’t seem to understand that it is his job the stand up for me in these situations. He’s more worried about “keeping the piece”
@minaagata3293
2 жыл бұрын
Kudos to you for standing up for yourself! I think it's CRAZY disrespectful when a husband or boyfriend doesn't see that this type of behavior is completely unacceptable. One of the main job a husband has is the PROTECT and keep his family safe. If he can't do that, he shouldn't be married or dating anyone.
@janeil3294
2 жыл бұрын
I’m actually going through this right now not sure what to do 😪
@minaagata3293
2 жыл бұрын
@@janeil3294 I'm so sorry hun 😔 Did you talk to him about how you feel?
@janeil3294
2 жыл бұрын
@@minaagata3293 I did but then he told me later on that same day that he’s been cheating on me since my birthday with my enemy (which is his friend and his sister’s best friend) and her friend and there is a possibility that my enemy is pregnant. Like she is literally my enemy because she messaged me cursing me and things and then his sis used his phone to message me cursing me because of her while he was there and he didn’t do or say anything about it
@minaagata3293
2 жыл бұрын
@@janeil3294 I'm so sorry you're going through this hun. He's ABSOLUTELY not deserving of you time and space. Don't walk away, put on those track shoes and RUN. There is someone out there that wouldn't even dare to think of putting you through what he's been putting your through 😔 You deserve the world and so much better ♥️
@bmorgan8382
Жыл бұрын
My husband's mother gifted him a burial plot, casket and headstone for Christmas and all he said was "thank you momma that's such a great gift." I was appalled! One, she didn't buy for a married couple. Two, she didn't consult me in any way. We have been together for 28 years have 3 children and 2 grandchildren. I was livid. My husband said I was out of line and ungrateful! These boys trying to act like men need to realize that when you take a wife your life is about you and your spouse period. You must show your wife respect, protect her from the family you came from and defend your wife at all cost. No one should ever be allowed to come between a married couple in any way. My husband acts like he's in a marriage with his mother and brother not me. His brother comes between us seriously bad. It has gotten so bad that now the police are involved. I'm about tapped out in this ridiculous marriage. He literally tells his mother and brother everything about our marriage. I told him that our life is none of their business. He said to me "they have every right to know everything about my life." I said "it's not your life it is OUR life and it's none of their business." He actually said "I can't keep you, my mom, my brother happy." LOL! I said " it's not your place to concern yourself with your mom and brother's happiness you're a husband, father and grandfather not a little boy living at home with your mommy." He tells me I am full of crap, crazy, selfish. Blows my mind how completely ignorant he is.
@minaagata3293
Жыл бұрын
My goodness! I don't believe him! 🤦♀️ I'm so sorry you're going through this 😔 As soon as a man gets married, it's about him and his WIFE, not mama, brother, sister, grandma or uncle's cousin's sister...PERIOD. The fact that we STILL need to explain this to men is ridiculous! And his mom not running anything by you first is disrespectful 😠 Way too involved and crossing SO many boundaries. I would have been on the news 🤦♀️🤷♀️ We already have enough stress in life, this mess they are causing is uncalled for and TOTALLY unnecessary...sending you strength and hugs! ❤️ You got this!
@chrisrose2243
Жыл бұрын
I am experiencing this heartache right at this very moment. I am so ready to be free of this stress & it’s not helping my mental health. I am looking forward to the days when I look back on this & feel relief & I will be so happy because I will never let this happen to me ever again!! This I can feel in my soul. I feel the happiness I will have each night as I go to sleep & wake up cannot wait for my life to get to this point!! I know it will happen
@minaagata3293
Жыл бұрын
Hunny, I'm so sorry that you're going through this 💔 But I'm happy to hear that you have a strong and positive outlook ❤️💪 Please do what you can to keep your head above the surface and remember that life doesn't stop here, for anyone. Especially for someone who's husband is mistreating them. There is someone out there for everyone ❤️ It's not worth wasting your time with someone that can't see that 💕 Sending hugs!
@ammu_994
9 ай бұрын
I had to call off my wedding due to this same reason. And it's not just his family, he abused me and literally tortured me and would laugh at my crying face all the time 😖. He got another chance even after that and his family kept hurting me and insulting me; the last time was infront of the outsiders. And they insulted my family too. And without any empathy, he supported them and abused me for them 😞😞..
@minaagata3293
9 ай бұрын
Hun, I'm SO SORRY this happened to you 😢 💔 Honestly, it was a blessing in disguise. There is NO reason ANYONE should be treated like that. No ifs, ands, or buts. What one man can't appreciate, another one will. I promise you that...Sending love your way! ❤️
@Kimbyj78
Жыл бұрын
It happens all the time in my relationship that I'm ending soon.
@minaagata3293
Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear this is happening to you hun 😞 BUT I'm so happy that you decided to leave ❤️ No one deserves this type of treatment, you deserve the absolute BEST 🥰
@LocalMeathead
3 ай бұрын
Ok my wife accuses me of this all the time. She pokes and treats me like trash and my friends and family stick up for me and she tells me I should say something to them. How can I defend her when she started it or she's in the wrong?
@minaagata3293
3 ай бұрын
Hi hun, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this 😔 Have a one-on-one conversation with her, away from family and on your guy's own time. That way it can be more personal where you both can just talk. Tell her EXACTLY how you feel and WHY you find it hard to defend her when things are said to her. At times people see things through their lense and their lense ONLY. This will get her to see things the way YOU do. And so the next time she tries to make a negative comment to you, she will think twice. This way she will need to take accountability for what she says and think about other people's feelings, which obviously also matter...A marriage is a two way street, you should also be respected...I hope this helps! 🥰
@minaagata3293
2 жыл бұрын
Hi ladies, have you ever dealt with you boyfriend, fiancé or husband allowing this? How did you respond?
@yahuahyahsharaldaughteroft5999
2 жыл бұрын
Yes iam dealing with this right now
@minaagata3293
2 жыл бұрын
@@yahuahyahsharaldaughteroft5999 I'm so sorry to hear that 😞 Hopefully you can just have that "one" conversation with him and he does a 180 after you do 🤞♥️
@miaperez8122
2 жыл бұрын
Yes 😔 I couldn't stay engaged to him because of this.
@minaagata3293
2 жыл бұрын
@@miaperez8122 You made the right choice hun! No one deserves to be treated like that 👎
@ashleyshredder
2 жыл бұрын
Dealing with this engaged. He let her scream at me like a 10 year old child over the phone. I think this video gave me the answers I need to turn the page.
@cassandramuggeo1810
Жыл бұрын
My boyfriend of 5 years didn’t stood up for me for at least 3 years I tried talking to him about it and he didn’t do anything. His brother’s wife is disrespecting me for years and he never said anything. His entire family and hers are mad at me for a situation that happen a year ago in a chalet that I was being left apart the entire stay during that stay nobody talked to me at all and since that moment everybody in his family didn’t say hello to for or anything for a year. Recently we got in a huge fight because his sister in law is treating him differently than me for example ( she’s hugging my bf, sending him hearts on texto, always saying cutie pie your so cute ) but she never did anything like that to me and I felt uncomfortable I tried talking to him about it that we don’t get the same treatment and he got mad saying that it’s family and it’s the culture but if it really was all that never she would have treated me differently. My solution was to give him a month to think about everything apart. Now I am stuck! We just broke up and the day after he wanted to talk so bad cause he did a mistake and now agree with me on all the points.. but he want us to stay together.. but he’s going to live 6h drives from me for a month or so ~ « to find a home for his parents and for him and me to grow on our own » but he’s going where his sister in law and brother lives and he want me to go there with him in like 2-3 months if everything goes well.. but the sister in law blocked me on all social media since a year ago and disrespect me in front of all his family and now his family doesn’t look at me the day way « he said I have to impress them if I wanna come back in his life and he will be the men I asked for that he wasn’t » what do you think I should do ? Give him the month for him to go there and fix stuff with his sister in law and find a home and all or I leave that situation? I need help please it’s complicated :(
@cassandramuggeo1810
Жыл бұрын
Do you offer private sessions?
@minaagata3293
Жыл бұрын
@@cassandramuggeo1810 I actually do hun! Feel free to book a session using the link in the description box under this video.
@minaagata3293
Жыл бұрын
Babe, you've been through a LOT. My short answer to your question is you're doing TOO much for this guy. I can say a lot to respond to what you wrote but maybe we can chat more offline? (Let me know) At the end of the day, I would recommend investing your precious time in someone that is worthy of it. Sending you lots of LOVE! 🥰
@travelwithme2525
9 ай бұрын
When is the right time to say its over?
@minaagata3293
9 ай бұрын
Hi love, I would say this...if something is said to you in a disrespectful matter, address is right away. Let him or his family know you will NOT tolerate that behavior AT ALL. Let them firmly know, that's the first and last time. If it happens again, leave. And obviously you giving them a warning is only when the situation is not severe. If it is, it's done. I hope that helps hun ❤️
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