It's not about the lying, it's about the chaos and confusion it causes, so he can remain in power. Very dangerous man. 20 years from now, his memory will be totally different than yours, you will wake up to find that you actually have no past b/c he will remember the past based on his fake reality of lies, no shared memories.
@smoresmew
6 ай бұрын
I needed to read this, thank you
@tammyohlsson7966
3 ай бұрын
So true!
@americabustos261
10 күн бұрын
@amyteurlife9408 wow, I just read what you wrote, and it really is eye opening. My husband who I'm divorcing always says I just hold onto what's important.
@AnusiaLA
Жыл бұрын
My ex husband was a pathological liar. I found out he was having sex with his ex for half of our relationship. He’d look me into eyes with tears in his eyes and swear on ANYTHING that he’s telling the truth… and he was lying. Now I get calls from his current girlfriend and she’s crying to me cause he’s doing this to her now. He manipulates her to stay by manipulating her kids and threatening to ruin her career. Run run run.
@animaluva098
Жыл бұрын
and you r accepting and just casually talking & listening to her? :0
@AnusiaLA
Жыл бұрын
@@animaluva098 yeah, she is actually really cool… I know what she is going through. I did stop the contact though because I didn’t want all the drama in my life. It was getting to me and I need to find my peace again.
@SomeBody-ce3gq
Жыл бұрын
Good for you, you're not anyone's free therapist 👍
@Tiese553
5 ай бұрын
Trust me, he will never change. I gave up 20 years of my life to a person that cheated and lied to me every single weekend Manipulation is a motherfucker, especially when you love someone Once I put my foot down and ended the relationship My spirit, my happiness my self-esteem, mental health has improved 95% All that time I thought if I lost him, everything would go downhill, but that was far from the truth. I’m so much happier without all that stress and chaos.
@SherryEllesson
Жыл бұрын
What he's done here is literally the true meaning of the term "gaslighting."
@SherryEllesson
Жыл бұрын
I had a CLOSE family member like that. He couldn't tell the unvarnished truth for five minutes.
@erismana2105
Жыл бұрын
He is the typical pos abuser
@vidhyasri5658
5 ай бұрын
I have been drowning in my husband's lies for the last 6 years and have been questioning my sanity all along. Thank you sir. You just saved my life.
@dpborn2721
Жыл бұрын
There’s a saying I heard once; if they lie about little things they’ll lie about everything.
@katemiller7874
5 ай бұрын
Oh bologna. If someone looks fat in the dress I’m not telling them
@mrzmorphine
Ай бұрын
@@dpborn2721 that's truth
@mrzmorphine
Ай бұрын
@@katemiller7874.......if someone ASKED if they looked fat in the dress and you were not honest Abt it and did so in a kind way then....🤷🏻♀️ A lie is a lie no matter the size and the more someone is dishonest Abt...yes the little things, the easier it is to continue being dishonest and that gives way to....yes, bigger things. So that saying is absolutely holding truth. I've heard it ..I've even said it..and experienced it.....if it's that hard for someone to be honest over something so small and pointless then you know the bigger more important things will be easy to. It's not hard to be honest. You jus need to do it kindly per situation and person taking into consideration how u say it. ...bk to that dress tho....if it wasn't ASKED then you Dnt have any business saying a thing if they doin their thing, confident and rockin it....w.e let them be and feel how they do in the dress....do you like my dress? It's so pretty! And I love the print...material..cut xyz 👌🏻👍🏻
@user-zh5fh2li9u
Ай бұрын
Because they have gotten away with it for so long, probably since childhood !!
@amyhull754
27 күн бұрын
@@mrzmorphine, well said. If someone is showing it to you for an opinion and saying, "Is this flattering for my body since I'm heavy?" ...I know when I ask that, I appreciate the truth. Maybe, "I think something cut like X or draped like Y might flatter your form more."
@loveubye2288
Жыл бұрын
I can tolerate almost any personality flaw except habitual liars. This man has no honor, no respect or dignity. If he's been this way his whole life, he won't change unless he intentionally works on himself on his own, not pushed by his wife. I don't see how this marriage can be saved.
@aliciaohara8794
Жыл бұрын
This is actually really scary to me. Some notorious serial killers did stuff like this. You have no idea what this guy is capable of since he's living in a false reality and doesn't seem to care how it affects others. I mean, he's so evil he can't even care for a cat? 😳 Girl, RUN. You deserve honesty and respect.
@kw2075
Жыл бұрын
Totally! It’s hard to imagine how she ever fell in love with the guy. I wonder how long they dated before marrying.
@erismana2105
Жыл бұрын
@@kw2075 most likely he love bombed her like most abusers do
@queenwhatever5217
6 ай бұрын
@@kw2075 I would guess the full extent of the lies only came out after marriage or after he had her emotionally invested.
@kw2075
6 ай бұрын
@@queenwhatever5217 This ain’t nothing but the truth. They’ll wear a mask as long as they can and as long as you go along with the stuff they say that’s not adding up. By the time victims have them all figured out they feel trapped and don’t want to face the truth or divorce. They’d rather save face and just deal with the loser. I applaud those who can get out of the situation. Other victims just choose to ignore the signs because they wanna be chosen and married so bad.
@desertdweller9255
5 ай бұрын
My ex was a murderer. He lied about lots of little things and hid his infidelity. I had a gut feeling that something was seriously wrong but i couldn't put my finger on it. He was so sweet and outgoing. Everyone called him Smiles because of his kind demeanor but then one day i walked in on him murdering my dog. Turns out she was the third dog of mine that he had viciously killed. If they lie about little things God knows what else they're hiding. RUN!
@ivonned32
4 ай бұрын
scary af
@Mel-tw6qv
4 ай бұрын
My god
@somewhereinthemidwest9827
Ай бұрын
Oh my! Horrific. I hope you can heal 🙏🏼
@purpurina5663
Ай бұрын
Oh my god that's awful, I feel for you. I hope you're doing ok now
@Ben-zr4ho
24 күн бұрын
How the hell did he manage to "viciously kill" 3 dogs before you noticed? I don't understand.
@mustangthings
Жыл бұрын
One of my friends was like this. It was part of his personality and to some level I expected a lot of “half truths” but the clincher for me breaking contact with him is that he lied about his marital status. You cannot fix people like this. Lying is part of their identity.
@sunshine3914
Жыл бұрын
You’re right - it’s their identity - not something they can separate themselves from like alcohol/drugs. Actually found a video of a young man that demonstrated how he was gaining control of his lying. But I can’t imagine a 40-yr-old making the effort or realizing that they need to.
@bunnybubs757
Жыл бұрын
The Martial status thing could be personal, embarrassing, guilty , sadness, denial … I can see that being protected until dealing with it
@mustangthings
Жыл бұрын
@@bunnybubs757 Maybe in a vacuum. In the grand scheme of things, he was just full of crap and the illusion he was building was collapsing on itself. I broke ties with him because I can’t be friends with someone who is dishonest with me at such a fundamental level and he broke ties with me (and the rest of our collective friend group) because we knew too much and posed a threat to the facade he was trying to maintain.
@bunnybubs757
Жыл бұрын
@@mustangthings makes sense , Thats too bad
@annbaker2950
5 ай бұрын
I have a relative like that. Told everybody that he was supposed to be on one of the flights on 911 but had to cancel.
@nursejen6273
Жыл бұрын
I had a relationship just like this for almost 10 years. Never been better than when I got out.
@truthseeker6370
Жыл бұрын
Leopards don't change their spots. Leave now. Girl he's not just lying to others- he's been lying to you All along.
@fran3iii519
Жыл бұрын
Leopards are not people.
@truthseeker6370
Жыл бұрын
@@fran3iii519 Captain Obvious
@fran3iii519
Жыл бұрын
@@truthseeker6370 lol. You’re the one who called him a leopard.
@truthseeker6370
Жыл бұрын
@@fran3iii519 🤣 Not taking the bait. And don't mess up my words. I didn't call anyone a leopard 😂
@fran3iii519
Жыл бұрын
Aye aye captain
@helgaherbstreit5102
4 ай бұрын
Same with my husband. And he is a pastor. Admired by people from his church, at home: lies, lies and lies. I regret that I did not leave when I was young. Now we are living in the same household, leading separate lives. I was financially depenedent and would have been alone with three little kids. If you can: Start a new life.
@annettewebster4113
Ай бұрын
Get the book “Hidden Bruises in Spiritual Places” by Michele Armstrong. She was married to a minister for 30 years before she finally escaped…..true story!
@jacosisaba
Жыл бұрын
I used to struggle with lying for a lot of years. I never was trying to be malicious or hurt anyone, I just thought what I was actually doing wasn’t good enough and would let everyone down. I told my parents I was still in college even though I took the semester off because I lost my passion. I would over sell my accomplishments, tell stories about cool things I’ve done, oversell a few medical issues I was actually going through. It got to the point where i wasn’t even thinking about it, lies would just keep coming out automatically. The stress I had trying to keep tract of all the lies and worrying about the truth coming out would make me physically ill at times. My parents found out about the college and everything blew up. Hurt our relationship and the trust we had, it’s taken a look time to build it back, but they’ll always have doubts. I realized that I just really hated myself, I thought I was boring, not good enough, not smart enough. I despised my real self and created a character that I played that I thought was better. I’ve gotten a lot better since my realization but at times I still struggle, but I have loved ones that walked with me and was understanding. I’m glad that awful time of my life is gone.
@jackcoleman5955
Жыл бұрын
☝️I was looking for this context. I, too, lied about tiny things to hide how ashamed I was about myself. It was NOT because I was some grand arrogant narcissist. I just believed people wouldn’t like/respect me if they knew how sad and confused I was. Nevertheless, this guy is dangerous and John is spot on.
@mosparr
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this, I am in a relationship with someone that I believe lies for the same reasons. I want this to work because this is the only issue I have with him he has a heart of gold but the lies make me question whether his kindness is coming from a real place of just the need for validation. I insisted that he started therapy but he is lying to the therapist so I feel like I have no option but to walk away it is all starting to take a physical toll on me.
@schokococoa575
Жыл бұрын
@@mosparrI’m kind of confused but how can one have a heart of gold but also lie about everything😅 I think you’re just making excuses for him, especially since you don’t know why he lies.
@mosparr
Жыл бұрын
@schokococoa575 maybe my verbage doesn't describe him well, but he treats me very well, like a queen. He takes care of the people around him. He is extremely 'acts of service' and very kind. I would have never known that he was lying and had other issues if I hadn't followed my gut and started investigating.
@schokococoa575
Жыл бұрын
@@mosparr thanks for the clarification! are you still with him? Ig to me it’s kind of an oxymoron to still say he has a heart of gold after you’ve already found out he lies about the things that seem to make his heart gold. Either way, I hope things work out well for you regardless of whether you stay or not!
@youtubelady6118
Жыл бұрын
This person she is describing reminds me of my mom. The unnecessary lies, probably a grandiose perception of their self. I don’t know whether it’s harder to have a narcissist parent or a spouse, but I feel for her. You don’t want to feel like you just threw 10 years of your life down the drain, but life can get so much better if you cut that person out. And then you’ll need some therapy to learn how to love, value, and trust yourself better.
@jomontanee
Жыл бұрын
Parents are worse. Because you are raised to believe parents are our saviors, heroes who love you UNCONDITIONALLY.
@kensmith2796
Жыл бұрын
True. My sister is married to a guy like this as well and i've always thought he was a narcissist. Unfortunately, my sister chooses to keep her head buried in the sand and she's been married to him for 30 years. They have no intimacy (how can you with a narc), he doesn't work and he's an alcoholic. Yet, somehow, he thinks he's smarter and saner than everyone else in the world.
@ivonned32
4 ай бұрын
them selves*
@Bluesnakes333
Жыл бұрын
Cannot stand a liar.
@freedomfan4272
Жыл бұрын
Or a theif
@lorrainem8234
Жыл бұрын
People like her husband usually don't change. I wish her the best🙏🏻💔🙏🏻
@detert08
Жыл бұрын
This was my EX husband. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this Leann
@lav7161
Жыл бұрын
Probably was the same guy LOL
@CincyO1974
Жыл бұрын
EX!!!
@blkimble
Жыл бұрын
I dated a man for about 3 weeks. We went on a date to the planetarium. After the show he was having a conversation with a few of the other guests. I heard him tell them, he had a Ph.d.. I knew full well he didn't. I was done. We finished the date and I blocked him.
@libertyna933
8 ай бұрын
Yep I agree these people are messed up.
@tigernotwoods914
5 ай бұрын
Why would you care? What does that have to do with you? He told a little fib to a bunch of strangers to fit in during that situation. It’s not good but I don’t think that’s the end of the world either.
@jasminegriggs4153
5 ай бұрын
@@tigernotwoods914lying pretty much means you're crazy or an asshole...to most of it anyway.
@lilithowl
5 ай бұрын
@@tigernotwoods914obviously she didn't want to date a liar and a pathetic insecure person, which is fair enough.
@arcee0585
4 ай бұрын
Good for you. My SO does the same thing and I wish I would have known this from the start because I would have broken up with him.
@NEWLILLYHOT
Жыл бұрын
This is just like my husband. Can't wait to divorce him
@ominous450
Жыл бұрын
I told you I'm sorry baby
@heatherchandler1184
3 ай бұрын
@@ominous450lol
@lifeaccordingtotheo9643
Жыл бұрын
Did he miss the part where she quickly commented that there is money she doesn't see? She needs to lawyer up. Also - John didn't ask if they had kids. Married 10 years. I hope they don't.
@mollynash2597
Жыл бұрын
I wondered that too. Since she only mentioned a cat, hopefully they don't have children.
@jackcoleman5955
Жыл бұрын
Poor woman. So many questions, her answers were: Yes! Well yeah.. .. no, not at all. Money one was the worst. She immediately knew that was the truth, but he has probably lied and convinced her it doesn’t matter and she shouldn’t ask. 🙄
@terriesmith2616
Жыл бұрын
Girl... you'll get what you're willing to tolerate. You've been tolerating his lies for ten years but if you're willing to keep tolerating it some more, than that's what you'll get.
@DJRiyzen
Жыл бұрын
I had a friend, that I quickly found out was a perpetual liar. I still remained friends, with him until his lies started hurting people. Then I stopped being friends with him. Made my life allot better.
@txspacemom765
7 ай бұрын
I found out 14 years in, the real truth of my soon to be ex. I didn't even know what way was up with him anymore. He would say something and I could not trust anything out of his mouth, even if they sky really is blue! I felt the same. I felt like I was living in an alternative reality and I was truly going mad. The final straw for me was when he put our family at risk to losing everything- home, money, stability, friendships, everything. I chose myself and our son over all that.
@mollynash2597
Жыл бұрын
I had 2 male friends that were like this, one was worse than the other though. One lied about silly stuff that an adult should not lie about (he claimed he had 1000 music CDs, when I asked to see his collection he said they were at a friend's house, haha). Unfortunately I don't think those people are capable of not lying.
@ingrid5944
9 ай бұрын
Wow, my boyfriend is just like this, it's ridiculous! I feel sad cause we could really be happy together, but he lies all the time and I won't have peace living with him cause I doubt every little thing he says
@queenwhatever5217
6 ай бұрын
@@ingrid5944 You could be really happy with someone else, not with him. The version of him you see yourself being happy with does not exist because his lying is an inherent character flaw. It causes a lack of trust. When there’s no trust, there’s no point in the relationship.
@DotFalcon
Жыл бұрын
It shows he has a lack of empathy- it can be scary- you deserve better and he will not change- it requires a level of self awareness, maturity and honesty that people with these issues just don’t possess. Leaving my ex who was exactly like this was the best decision I’ve ever made. The peace that came after that relationship ended was incredible. I stayed way too long because I believed in his potential and felt compassion, but I was just enabling him and betraying myself. And now I’ve been with an honest man for 6 years- it’s night and day to not always need to be questioning reality and to be with a man you can actually respect!!! Be free!
@erismana2105
Жыл бұрын
The pos wouldn't even take care of a cat
@SkinChicaSam
Жыл бұрын
My dad is like this. Not only has he been this way to me, but also my mother and sister. Thank god I implemented boundaries in our relationship as father/daughter because he has serious issues he will never admit or recognize. It’s tragic and it has caused a lot of chaos in my life and my mother’s/sister. Prayers to anyone who is going through this. And god bless the lady in the video. ❤️
@sunshine3914
Жыл бұрын
I dated a guy like her husband for about 8 months. He was a high ranking official (due to his dad’s position), lied about every. thing. The lies could be easily verifiable, yet, everyone just went along with him. It was really whack. Thankfully a higher ranking official had an alcoholic wife who he was divorcing, & the liar swooped her off of her feet.
@juliehernandez80
Жыл бұрын
Lol wow.
@lav7161
Жыл бұрын
Hi Leanne, I am currently a male friend of exactly what you described your husband like. I feel bad for his current and past girlfriends because I've seen him self destruct in every relationship. Patterns that I've noticed from him. Always Broke Always promising to be at a parties or events and canceling for the weirdest reasons Always blaming others Drinks and does drugs Cheating Sometimes he will even lie about things he shouldn't even be lying about Example: He will go out with the boys but will lie to his girlfriend that he is visiting his mom instead. There's good news here. His ex girlfriend finally had enough and left him. She now looks to be in a great relationship with someone else. You know it's time to go.
@realkatiewilliams
8 ай бұрын
This was exactly my ex-husband and we almost lost our house because none of the bills got paid for 6 months
@TheGeekMonster
4 ай бұрын
I went through the same thing with my ex husband. The lying was just one of many factors that slowly killed any hope for our marriage. He would lie about small things, big things, random things. When someone lies "randomly" like that, you literally never know when they're telling the truth, and you literally cannot trust anything they say, because you have no certainty to stand on about when they're being truthful. It's a horrible feeling to have towards the one man in the world you should be able to fully rely on for security and safety.
@cheifhughw9349
Жыл бұрын
She needs to run right now. He will not change.
@theshunnedBandersnatch
Жыл бұрын
I dated a guy like this for a few weeks and he left my head spinning. I cannot imagine what being married to someone like that for a decade has done to her inner world. John is right - he's constructed his own reality and is lying about big things too. My heart goes out to her.
@kensmith2796
Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, my sister has been married to a guy like this for 30 years. They definitely live in an alternate universe. I always feel a bit discombobulated after I visit with them. My sister's mental and physical health has really taken a toll. She doesn't trust her own judgment or friends/family judgment. She looks to her husband for his version of reality. It's super uncomfortable being there and, quite honestly, feels rather evil and dark.
@jaqueitch
Жыл бұрын
This guy is hiding everything. He is hiding money. He's probably cheating (with another dude?). He is no good. RUUUUUUUUUUUN
@mrzmorphine
Жыл бұрын
Ugh! This call is sooooo familiar!! I'm in this callers shoes to a T..😳😬😮💨😞💀
@tishataray
Жыл бұрын
Was there too. They are duplicitous
@mrzmorphine
Жыл бұрын
@@tishataray oooo gurl you ain't lyin'
@kimmey11
Жыл бұрын
Me too
@somewhereinthemidwest9827
Ай бұрын
Same
@MrJimmy3459
Жыл бұрын
Lying destroys relationships with everyone, I've cut people out of my life that were pathological liars. I can't even trust them with a cup of coffee.......
@jemmajames6719
Жыл бұрын
He’s right I chose and actually said the words many times it is what it is, financially stuck, depressed morbidly obese knowing his aim in life is to destroy me and I see it in his face and hear it in his voice
@jeanlaubenthal698
Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry you are dealing with this and Your LIFE depends on getting away from him. He will continue till you have no energy left to stand up for yourself. This guy will never respect you and even claim you are asking for it by staying. He’s passively breaking up with you and wants you to leave maybe to remain in your home and have control of that asset.
@AL-qd6lb
Жыл бұрын
A great book for this person to read is "no more Mr. Nice guy" it sounds like her partner could be a people pleaser and they can be liars to try manage people's opinions of them or they are not direct trying to get their needs met. It's very confusing but great to read and learn more.
@jellyrcw12
Жыл бұрын
Great book. I'm a woman but that book really helped me get more insight into some men and relationships.
@jacosisaba
Жыл бұрын
That was what I struggled with. I hated myself and created a character that I hid behind who I made sound so interesting, successful, smart and happy while the real me was miserable. The stress from the lies almost killed me. Luckily I accepted the real me and my loved ones showed me that the real me was better then any crap I came up with.
@ineedhoez
Жыл бұрын
That is true too. It can be very complicated.
@erismana2105
Жыл бұрын
No he wouldn't even take care of a innocent pet
@murderofcrows7738
Жыл бұрын
@@erismana2105 We don’t know that. Maybe he was taking care of it, but wasn’t doing it the caller’s way so she retaliated by getting rid of it. He could lie because he’s afraid of her anger. I’m betting he’s buying those “passes” he’s supposedly faking and just not telling her the truth because of how she’ll react. It is entirely possible that they both suck and are toxic to one another.
@elettramia6380
4 ай бұрын
So he’s a compulsive liar and he went 3 years without sleeping with you and you already said you can’t trust him. RUN
@user-gg2lg7pl8k
5 күн бұрын
This was me for 30 years. Through counseling, I found myself and my worth as a child of God. Finding out the truth about my husband led to this. Financial cheating and internet relationship cheating led to the end of our marriage. A year and a half later, I am thriving. I have the love and support of my 6 children, and I have a God who loves me, come what may. You will get through this, dear Leeann.
@fightingpaindaily2265
2 ай бұрын
I hit the ‘it is what it is’ point 2 years ago and then in the last 6 months have decided that’s not okay. Trying to pull myself back up is way more difficult than anything I’ve ever done, as during that time I lost more of myself and complete access to any way out. But I won’t quit
@kensmith2796
Жыл бұрын
My sister is a lot like this woman. She's married to a guy who is probably a narcissist and chooses to keep her head in the sand. Unfortunately, she's been married to him for 30 years, so she's never getting out. Pretty sure she doesn't even remember what normal is like anymore. Her husband will also say the meanest, creepiest things I've ever heard anyone say and he will say them deadpan and just out of the blue like it's normal.
@b.1162
Жыл бұрын
Get rid of him. Seriously. Get rid of him. He's not worth it, period, full stop. He will never change and yes, he most likely has cheated on you. Get rid of him and see how much better life can be.
@andymessman8726
Ай бұрын
Yep!!! There is definitely a bigger lie under the surface! If all the little lies are picking at you, literally chipping you and your self worth apart, gaslighting at its finest! He most likely has a second life, a sexual addiction, or a huge ass secret. It’s makes you feel crazy! I’m sorry! ❤ Hugs and understanding girl! I hope you found your footing. I hope I can too!!
@shimmeringchimps3842
Жыл бұрын
Ugh, my current boss is like this. Fortunately my coworkers all know it too. We fact-check his statements with each other and laugh about him behind his back, so that's a comfort. It's good to know you're not crazy or misremembering things.
@Catseye189
6 ай бұрын
He is doing everything to make her leave!! And she is clinging to this relationship. How unhappy does he have to make you?
@pumpkinhead8593
3 ай бұрын
My ex was a habitual liar. He was a narcissist and lying to people made him feel superior, making them believe his lies made him feel like he was smarter than them. He admitted as much to me, he told me once that any time he has a conversation with someone, all he cares about is finding a way to outwit them. Which in his case meant telling a lie, since he certainly wasn't particularly smart so he turned to lies to feel "smarter" than the person he was talking to. He would lie about anything, big things and small. Lied about going to doctor's appointments, didn't tell me he had a daughter for years, hid his depression and suicidal thoughts from me all the while his mental illness was destroying our relationship, lied about what time it was when I asked, lied about going to work, lied about quitting his job, lied about filing our taxes and paying bills.
@Whatorwellsaid21
Жыл бұрын
He is either gay or he really doesn’t like his wife. For a man to refuse sex for that long…just doesn’t add up.
@sunshine3914
Жыл бұрын
There are some people who are asexual. I know that’s hard to believe, especially if you’re a pervert. Also, at some point in their life, every man will experience erectile dysfunction.
@texan903
Жыл бұрын
Either that or he could have a longstanding opposite sex partner.
@loveubye2288
Жыл бұрын
Or he was getting it somewhere else just never got caught and the affair ended. What a coincidence that after the 3yrs he's suddenly not asexual anymore.
@somewhereinthemidwest9827
Ай бұрын
Six years of no sex. Come to find out he was hooking up with other men. Looking for my courage to leave.
@DB-jd1qh
6 ай бұрын
Oh girl, I wish I could hug you right now. I’ve been in the same situation for 14 years!
@cheeseburger5555
Жыл бұрын
$5 bucks he’s a narcissist
@katemiller7874
5 ай бұрын
Your generation throws this word around so much it never in context lol
@michellerichardson3090
Жыл бұрын
My ex was like that and people started noticing. But then he tried to call me a liar and would make up stuff I said or did. Even his friends told him those things never happen. I mean he would talk about places they went but he and I hadn't even met yet when he went there. He got mad when I started keeping records of the stuff he was saying it and tell him he was crazy
@starrjohnson1327
Жыл бұрын
I recorded an ex who kept lying. I got tired of the constant "stories" and better than everyone else behavior. He said he was tired when I recorded him so the recording wasn't accurate. Ha! Lies again.
@tishataray
Жыл бұрын
@@starrjohnson1327 lmaooooo
@texan903
Жыл бұрын
Someone I knew was like this. They said they were 41 but was really 57.
@cosimavonliebenau8317
Ай бұрын
What you’re describing hits me between the eyes. Pathological liars are crazy making. It’s affecting my health and wellbeing. I left 2 days ago, and he still doesn’t accept that I’m gone, but the crocodile tears now leave me cold. Self preservation wins.
@vesselfit2use
9 ай бұрын
Of they dont truly love us enough to be honest and faithful then they need to just leave us alone.
@ashleyb1091
Жыл бұрын
Please leave. I was in this type of relationship for 6 years and it drowns you, the manipulation. I packed up my life in my car and left.
@Pamelasue414
2 ай бұрын
I have been in a long distance relationship on and off for 14 years and have recently found out the mother he told me died 14 years ago died for real last month. Now I’ve been questioning everything he has told me. We have spent quality time together numerous times, I thought. When something starts out with a lie it never was real at all I guess 😢
@om617yota8
Жыл бұрын
Nah, hubby made his choice, with every lie he told. If he'll lie about so many other things, he'll lie about "yeah baby I'll change" too. Value yourself enough to not accept being lied to by the person who's supposed to stand beside you on your journey through the universe.
@erismana2105
Жыл бұрын
Every lie is debt he will pay sooner or later
@swim610
Жыл бұрын
Wow, John got right to the core. Bravo
@amydoran9987
Жыл бұрын
If she felt the need to call in about why her husband lies. Her marriage may be in trouble. He sounds like a pathological liar.I would end the relationship.
@cherymead2407
9 ай бұрын
First time hearing your segments. Totally love this. So true in my marriage with my husband. Thank you. I'm doing this!
@elainenilsson5472
Жыл бұрын
She can't be married to him because I was.
@marissa7459
2 ай бұрын
My ex did this. He loved to embellish to make a story seem more grand or to make him seem more the victim in whatever situation. He’d also pull me into stories I was never a part of. Example told our realtor that I laughed at him (the realtor) cause of his political views. The entire story was fabricated but he was trying to shame the realtor using ME. Annnd he said the lie in front of me!
@cheddarcheese964
Жыл бұрын
This was soo timely. I am living with this as well but only one year in. Thank you.
@TM-dj8dr
10 ай бұрын
Get out now while you can.
@cheddarcheese964
10 ай бұрын
@@TM-dj8dr wow this was 11 months ago. I am happy to say we are separated and only six months and a day left to go.
@TM-dj8dr
10 ай бұрын
@@cheddarcheese964 I may be on the same road 12 year anniversary soon. It's unfortunate.
@rebeccaoprea9917
Жыл бұрын
It’s called lying by omission which is still lying .
@TheEquiss
Жыл бұрын
I would love to be married to someone who never wanted sex. Wouldn’t hurt my feelings at all. But lying--nope. Wouldn’t put up with that.
@marciabernard3820
Жыл бұрын
Lol
@seosam652
Жыл бұрын
same lol
@1981lashlarue
Жыл бұрын
@Equisis Why would you want to be married and not have sex?
@soniatatro1727
7 ай бұрын
He won't change. I promise you that!
@presidentialsuite6406
2 ай бұрын
She's speaking my Life and marriage. It hurts but it is NOT us who can make them change. GOD makes things happen for you
@AB-mg5sx
Жыл бұрын
I met a guy like this at CDL school, we nicked named him Long Nose, he was such a liar!
@janwells2199
Жыл бұрын
Are there children? They are learning all this. Both to lie and to accept being lied to.
@soni05131
Жыл бұрын
I knew someone like that...we divorced!
@CC12398
Жыл бұрын
This is so perplexing. Many of these callers want to know what to do , but she didn't say he changed . Exactly who she married. Even a six-year-old can feed a cat
@kensmith2796
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, but a 35 year old narcissist can't feed a cat. They are the laziest, least empathetic creatures on the planet. You'd probably get more use and personality out of a shark.
@chelsiewomack7141
2 ай бұрын
Dr. John needs to start doing follow up calls.
@MiamiChica
4 ай бұрын
It sounds like he is sociopathic. He wants people to feel bad for him to get ahead in life. Had a friend exactly like him.
@keywoniaspencer
9 ай бұрын
Unfortunately, I'm currently going through the same thing. My boyfriend of 4 years lies about everything!! From the content on his phone (ig girls and porn) to conversation with his friends. He is the king of gaslighting. I have set boundaries with him , however, he continues to do it. We live together, and I can't afford to live alone at this moment. What should I do??
@elettramia6380
4 ай бұрын
Well babe I’m 32 and have been in your exact situation more than once. One do you have kids together? If No then you’re way out is going to be a lot easier, 2, do you have a stable income at least such as having a job? What I’m about to say next is going to be hard but it’s necessary! Find your local homeless shelter specifically try to find one that caters to women such as yourself as their missions is to specifically help women in need. This is what I did when I was 8 months pregnant and had a toddler on my hip. There is nothing left for you to do if you can’t afford to live on your own. The shelter will help you with getting into income based housing so you can live on your own and afford the rent. HOWEVER please call the womens shelter to figure out what the process is like before deciding to go to that specific shelter. You definitely need to work while being in a homeless shelter because that moved you further up the list in regards to receiving housing quicker. It also gives you a place to go away from the shelter as well as they typically make you leave during the day. This may sound like a shitty option but let me tell you it is a very helpful option! When I finally did this is wished I would have done it FAR sooner. Now if you’re working I asked because you need to get a small little storage and put all your stuff there besides some of your clothes because you can’t take those type of things to the shelter with you and honestly you don’t want any of your nice things potentially being stolen. No a Shelter for women is Not glamorous, and you’re going to have to get over that Dear as it’s what’s best, and trust me it’s definitely for the best. I don’t recommend tying to find a roommate to split rent with because that’s just getting yourself into the completely same situation just with some one else, been there done that too. Now I asked if you have kids because the housing process will as well be quicker if you have children and work on top of that. If you have kids you’ll need to find a shelter for families. The shelter I went to was for women and families. The shelter I went to gave me a locker to put my child’s and my stuff in together, so you’re working with a very small space in a shelter. If you’re Not working you really, really need to find a job, and if you don’t have a job then make some calls and find the shelter you want to go to and once you’re in the shelter start putting in job applications to places close to the shelter as it will be closer and less time traveling back and forth. No one wants to be in your situation and No one wants to temporarily live in a shelter, BUT you need to woman up and get your life together and get away from the demon you are living with. HE WILL NEVER CHANGE! Please take my advice, it’s truly coming from a loving place and from a place of personal experience and success! When you speak to the workers from the shelter if they ask why you need help just be honest, and the honest truth is you are with someone who is mentally, emotionally and psychologically abusive and you need help to escape the relationship and get on your feet. Trust me staying in the relationship you are in is NOT a better option than what I’m telling you, trust me I know! The obstacle of living in a shelter will be TEMPORARY! You can do this 🙏
@kristenivory628
Жыл бұрын
I know one of these guys, he keeps very big life changing lies from his partner, Sad
@semosancus5506
Жыл бұрын
The alternative is a guy like me who expedites truth. It hurts too but it's the compassionate thing to do.
@kensmith2796
Жыл бұрын
Honesty without empathy is brutality.
@lestercaldera3776
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like narcissistic behavior caused by unhappy childhood
@msakeeba
15 күн бұрын
My mama always said: “If they lie, they’ll steal. If they steal, they’ll kill.” Don’t mess with liars. Run, girl. RUN.
@jcclfruitofthespirit
5 ай бұрын
I love my dad...he passed a long time ago but he couldn't tell the truth to save his life. I'm leaning on it being a sickness rather than a very bad habit. Nobody could believe anything he said.
@wascallywabbit7102
Жыл бұрын
Don't walk away. Run far, far away, very quickly.
@imonit1177
7 ай бұрын
I struggled with this for awhile. I still do it from time to time. The behavior stems from child abuse.
@michelleluxmore7525
Ай бұрын
I have said it is what it is because i know i cant control his actions and choices. I dont know how its dangerous.
@kw2075
Жыл бұрын
He started saying he is A-sexual ..oh boy
@Dwights_trash_can
Жыл бұрын
Nothing pisses me off more than when ppl get animals and abandon them because they are lazy... 😑😑😑
@Michael-jo9jb
2 ай бұрын
Poor girl needs to run!!
@themusiccorner9939
Жыл бұрын
This is the typical garden variety Psychopath. Textbook in fact.
@msarilyn7677
8 ай бұрын
Maybe there is nothing you can do; there is this thing known as a compulsive liar.
@Hustlelife3
11 ай бұрын
Loved this episode. Related to my story
@mrs.natashaellwood8634
4 ай бұрын
Going on 10 years with a pathological lier and I don't know how to get out.... We have 2 children and I am a homemaker at the age of 25.... I feel stuck we have a 7 month old "vasectomy" baby so I can't even go back to work.
@gtileo
4 ай бұрын
he sounds like a Gemini, it'll never stop, this is what they do lol, they bend the truth to make the situation sound more appealing to the people listening. thats one of the thing that make them as charismatic and social as they are but it also stems from a root need to feels accepted and appreciated by the world
@swannyriver75
Жыл бұрын
Girllllllll don't do it he's lying about this type of stuff he'll lie about other stuff, money, cheating, all the above nobody has time for that
@joshuamorrison8332
4 ай бұрын
I was listening for the types of lies he told and didn't get anything that hit me hard. "He doesn't take care of the cat" and "we couldn't take care of the cat" are nearly the same thing. He said that his libido was not what it should be. Is it possible that he isn't really a liar and cheater at all? The reason I ask is that my ex divorced me over lying and cheating but I wasn't. The problem for us was her trust issues not my imagined dishonesty. I apologize if I am off base regarding your relationship but I think it would be helpful to viewers to take a beat a really think about this before taking action that they might regret.
@user-zh5fh2li9u
Ай бұрын
First, when did she realize that he was a compulsuve/impulsive liar ? Second, she needs to realize that if there is no trust, there is no relationship. Third, if he refuses to attend counseling, she should attend to gain her life back, create an effective exit strategy, and begin to realize that she cannot change him. Fourth, DO NOT under any circumstances procreate /have a child with him ! Fifth, I agree that it is time to go....
@shrutimathur9378
23 күн бұрын
I could hear her sigh. Oh god! The crushing feeling. Its like loud bang. Its simply the worst feeling
@KelliDimmick
5 ай бұрын
My mom does this. Makes excuses for not doing something or little white lies. Drives me bonkers. She is the most anxiety ridden person I know. Sometimes I find myself reverting to that type of behavior, but then more often then not, I stop myself and be honest! Ends up not being a big deal.
@kaylacombs6254
Жыл бұрын
Girl RUN!!! End of story
@Maria-jo6nn
Жыл бұрын
He is lying and problem does not know he doing that . He is sick man he is like alcoholic that drinks all the time and when you ask him ,he says he doesn’t drink .He is in denial. Denial means does even know he is lying 🤥
@marciabernard3820
Жыл бұрын
Self love is important
@joyariffic4217
11 ай бұрын
I had a friend like this. Would lie about her job and guys she was dating. Its pathetic
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